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Dear Therapist: My Adult Daughter Thinks I Was an Awful Parent

She’s 32, and she blames me for her unhappiness.
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Dear Therapist,

My 32-year-old daughter has developed the idea that I am responsible for all her failures—not having the job she wanted, not being a sociable person, not being capable to love and to be loved.

She also feels that I should not have continued a relationship with her father, even after a divorce. She believes that he is the one who turned our lives into a mess and that I agreed to it—being too weak to fight this. Her father died a few years ago, but she

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