It Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion
Written by Beverly Engel
Narrated by Kate Rudd
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About this audiobook
Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault.
In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you’ll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.
Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.
This audiobook is based on the author’s powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You’ll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you’ll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion—pride.
Beverly Engel
Beverly Engel has been a practicing psychologist for thirty-five years and is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of twenty-two self-help books, including the best-selling Healing Your Emotional Self and The Right to Innocence. In addition to her professional work, Engel frequently lends her expertise to national television talk shows. She has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over, and many other TV programs. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website, regularly contributes to Psychology Today magazine, and has been featured in a number of newspapers and magazines, including O, the Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer, and The Denver Post.
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Reviews for It Wasn't Your Fault
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Changed my life perspective. Lots of applicational content, very useful in the daily battle of shame.
5 people found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5An amazing book of healing and compassion for self. My second time reading this book. This time, I felt stronger. I didn’t cry as much as I did the first time. Thank you for writing this book. I experienced lots of emotions during my reading.
3 people found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This was an amazing book! It brought light, tons of light to my life...I now understand myself more, I now want to really start a journey of self healing...
1 person found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The book changed my life ,silencing my inner critic to offering compassion to myself
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A book that comforts your soul. It's a must! :)
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5It was great to listen. I will heart it again Taking notes this time
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5Like most of the reviewers here, I strongly connected with the book and author, from going chapter by chapter, crying , working on the exercises, talking to my therapist about it - but somehow I was being more mean and hateful to others than usual and made me more stressed and depressed. I didn’t understand what it was…
I am based in Asia - I decided to connect with the author through her website to book a session with her.
Since there were no calendars/schedules/ nothing close to a BetterHelp experience, email was the only way. I am used to dealing with therapists and counsellors who are kind with words and the email communication from the author herself was just too mean for me to digest.
So moral of the story - if you are looking for a solution to the shame and how to heal from it and come out of it with a silver lining, this is not a great book!
But if you would like to purge, go through repressed emotions, do some inner child work or understand the depth of your sexual, emotional and physical abuse - this is definitely a great book!1 person found this helpful