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The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Written by Patrick Carnes, PhD
Narrated by Paul Costanzo
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About this audiobook
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds-chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.
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Reviews for The Betrayal Bond
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A forgiving gentle look at victim and abuser relationships and how they are co-dependent.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Outstanding! Brought up deep emotions fir me. Healing and compassion is what I know took place.
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- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5Wasn’t great to listen to. Lots of checklists and assessments. Much more of a therapy guide than a self development book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I learned so much about myself! This book is not for the faint of heart. It takes courage to do the homework. It also needs a sponsor or therapist to help process what comes up. It's worth the journey.