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John 16:33
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will
have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
The Christian life is an overcoming life. Even though we will definitely have
problems and personal struggles in this life, we will be able to overcome because of
Jesus. Because of Him, we have victory over the world, including sinful habits,
bitterness, loneliness, guilt, fear, and discouragement.
Dear reader, God wants you to live an overcoming life! Please read the following
lesson with faith, not in yourself, but in God.
Hebrews 13:5
God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
Introduction
Most people encounter loneliness at some point in their life. Schoolchildren
want to be accepted by their peers and have friends. Young people want a boyfriend
or girlfriend when they see their friends have those types of relationships.
Unmarried adults may lose contact with their old friends and feel lonely, especially
if many of their friends are married and busy with their own families. Married
people are lonely sometimes because their social needs cannot be met entirely by
their spouse. Even when we find fulfilling and healthy relationships, we may lose
those relationships due to family breakup, death, or other situations.
There are many reasons why we feel lonely, but the good news is that we can
overcome loneliness. In order to deal with loneliness in our lives, we need to
understand why people are lonely and how we can build meaningful relationships.
Summary: We were created to have a relationship with God, and we will never feel
entirely whole and secure until we restore that relationship. Also, sin causes
problems in human relationships and prevents us from having immediate, close
fellowship with others. When we have a relationship with God, the Holy Spirit will
change us to reflect God’s character. A good relationship with God will help us
have good relationships with others.
How to overcome loneliness
God understands why we are lonely and He has the solution. (Actually, He is the
solution!) When Jesus began His ministry, He applied the prophesy of Isaiah 61:1-3 to
Himself:
Isaiah 61:1-3
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to preach
good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom
for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the
Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide
for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the
oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of
despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display
of his splendor.
Jesus came to fulfill this prophesy. Jesus solved the problem of sin for us and
allowed us to have close, intimate fellowship with God once again. Before we met Jesus,
we were captives of sin, poor in love and the character of God, and without hope. But
Jesus sets us free from all those things that oppressed us before. The same power that
raised Jesus from the dead is working in us to give us new life. The old has gone, the new
has come!
Jesus came to set you free from loneliness. You no longer need to feel unloved,
misunderstood, alone, or without close fellowship. Jesus came to restore the most
important relationship in your life—your relationship with God—and to enable you to
have close, meaningful relationships with others.
Let’s learn how to apply this truth in our lives. There are several simple and not-
so-simple things we can do to overcome lonliness.
Philippians 2:3-7
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better
than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the
interests of others.
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
but made himself nothing,
taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
John 15:18-19
If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it
would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you
out of the world. That is why the world hates you.
John 17:23
May they [all believers] be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent
me and have loved them even as you have loved me.
Even if you feel there is no one in church who can be your friend, I urge you to
devote yourself to the church fellowship because that is where your spiritual family is. In
the end, if we believe the words of Jesus, we ought to stand with our brothers and sisters
in the church until the end.
In old times, travelers built fires when lying down at night. Lions would prowl
around in the dark outside the camp, waiting for someone to come out. 1 Peter 5:8 says
the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. If we run
away from the church fellowship, we become an easy target for the devil. Commit
yourself to the fellowship and stick close to your brothers and sisters.
Conclusion
Loneliness is a serious problem that impacts everyone at different times. We all
have a deep longing for sincere, close relationships with other people because God
created us that way. It is natural to desire meaningful relationships with others. Don’t feel
that you are the only one that deals with this issue—even Adam in the Garden of Eden
needed another person to be with him.
In order to overcome loneliness, we need to cultivate a closer relationship with
God, who will always be our best friend. Friendship with God is like a massive rock in
our social lives. When we stand on that rock, we are socially and emotionally secure.
That foundation allows us to relate to others with confidence, not with desperation. As we
become closer to God, the Holy Spirit will also develop us into better friends to others,
which will in turn allow us to build genuine, godly relationships.
Discussion Questions
1. What is the most important relationship in your life?
2. Why do negative thoughts and attitudes prevent us from having close
relationships with others?
3. What are some ways you can meet the needs of others?
4. What opportunities do you have to open up your life to others in the church?