SORINA IGERU CRONIC DE SUFLET SORINA IGERU CHRONICLES OF THE SOUL

SORINA IGERU

CRONIC DE SUFLET

CHRONICLES OF THE SOUL

Editura LUMINA TIPO

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Agglomeratio
Do you remember how it was in school, when the teacher put a question and two mighty fingers rose up in the air ! really hope you will ha"e the same feeling now, when i am in"iting you to tal# about $he agglomeration in our li"es% &e all thin# in the morning or in the e"ening while laying in bed, about what we are going to do the following day% 'nd as we proceed in our thoughts, we reali(e that the list of priorities lengthens with e"ery passing second% ! aspire to thin# that we should ta#e care of them one at a time% &e all face the problem of not being able to concentrate in four different directions at the same time, but still, we try to run into fi"e% )od made us humans and not robots% &e don*t #now how to organi(e our schedules so that we can satisfy e"erybody and accomplish all the ob+ecti"es in the list% &e all want e"erything to turn out o#% ! once found myself thin#ing if ! should be en"ious of those who stay at home and don*t ha"e multiple acti"ities% !t is something that is related to one*s beha"iour, and we all choose the way we want to be% ,ut what would a wee#, in which we would not ha"e the dri"e to do the chores and the things we ha"e to do, loo# li#e $he important thing is to #eep the status quo in our fa"our and not forget about oursel"es and about the things that gi"e us pleasure% &ith all this in mind, we still answer the phone -%%no, sorry, ! can*t, !*m busy-, e"en at . p%m% ! #now, ! #now%%%you all want a 4. hour day%

Aglomera!ie
0ai tineti minte cum era la scoala !n"atatoarea punea intrebarea si automat doua degetele semete se ridicau in aer% 1per sa a"eti acum acelasi feeling% 2aideti deci sa po"estim despre 'glo3 meratia din "ietile noastre% $oti ne gandim dimineata, sau seara inainte de a pune geana pe geana ce "om face a doua (i% 1i cum inaintam in ganduri, ne dam seama ca lista prioritatilor creste de la secunda la secunda% 4a(uiesc sa cred ca trebuie sa le luam pe rand% $oti ne punem problema ca nu ne putem imparti in patru parti, desi incercam sa fugim in cinci% Dar 5el de sus ne3 a facut oameni, nu roboti pe baterii% 4u stim cum sa ne facem programul astfel incat sa multumim pe toata lumea si sa indeplinim toate punctele din program% 1i toti ne dorim sa fie bine% 1tateam si ma gandeam daca ar trebui sa fiu in"idioasa pe cei ce stau acasa si nu au acti"itati multiple% $ine de comportamentul fiecaruia si toti ne alegem optiunile% Dar cum ar fi o saptamana in care nu ne3 am tre(i moti"ati de treburile ce le a"em de facut, multitudinea de probleme de re(ol"at !mportant este sa pastram balanta in fa"oarea noastra, fara a uita de noi, de propriile noastre persoane si despre ce ne face placere sa facem% Dar cu toate astea, am a+uns sa raspundem la telefon -%%%nu pot, am treaba-, chiar si la ora . seara% 1tiu, stiu%%%"a doriti 4. de ore, intr3o (i%

Di""ere t
4o, on the beach in the -7ama 7eche- resort ! didn*t find a -medusa couple- 8li#e the one in 7ama 7eche*s song9, but ! did find ' :;$ of ideas< =rom my point of "iew, e"erything was different% 2a"ing been there only a few times before, it didn*t ta#e me long to accept it all% !f ! were to choose a single one out of all the styles and tastes people ha"e, ! +ust couldn*t% &hy ,ecause they all appeal to me% 'nd because ! li#e to get to #now as many types of personalities as ! can and ! try to ad+ust to them> ! can*t say ! prefer a particular one% 'll of them are different and maybe some are not that pleasant, but ! thin# that e"ery single one should be experienced% $he sweet or bitter taste you feel afterwords is exactly the one thing that ma#es it different and special% $he decision is entirely ours and the opportunities are "ery di"erse e"en though not e"erybody agrees with them% $he -different- feature is exactly what ma#es us who we are and there is nothing more beautiful than being able to disco"er the -magic- in the people around you%

Alt "el
4u, pe pla+a in 7ama nu am gasit un medu( si o medu(a bu(a in bu(a, dar am gasit acolo atatea idei si pur si simplu, din punctul meu de "edere totul era alt fel% 1i nu mi3a luat mult pana cand am acceptat, fiind printre primele dati acolo% Daca dintre toate gusturile oamenilor ar trebui sa aleg unul deosebit, nu as putea% De ce ?entru ca as fi tentata sa le aleg pe toate% 1i pentru ca imi place sa cunosc cat mai multe tipuri de personalitati si sa incerc sa ma adapte(, nu as putea sa spun ca am unul preferat% $oate sunt diferite si poate nu toate sunt chiar placute in sinea lor, dar fiecare in parte merita sa fie experimentat,cunoscut, adulmecat si inteles% 1i gustul placut sau amar pe care ti3l lasa fiecare in parte, repre(inta exact caracteristica - alt fel3ului- fiecaruia dintre el% Deci(ia este doar a noastra si oportunitatile sunt di"erse, chiar daca nu toti oamenii sunt de acord cu ele% -'lt fel3ul- este exact schepsis3ul fiecaruia dintre noi% 1i nimic nu este mai frumos decat sa ai puterea de a descoperi portiunile magice din fiecare om de langa%

E tertai me t
:ately !*"e started obser"ing people around me% !*"e analysed the way they ha"e fun, how they li"e, how they communicate and actually the way they exist% $he most fun ! had was when ! began to ta#e notice of how people entertain themsel"es% Axamples #ept on flowing before my eyes% !*"e tried to define some prototypes of people and of the way they #eep themsel"es entertained% ! ha"e reached the conclusion that each one finds a way that perfectly fits their personality% &omen are going strong with the gossip and endless tal#s, while men%%%well, men still play footbal, but now, because of the season has +ust started they are mostly watching t"% :et us now switch from sex differentiation to that of personality% $here are those people who, by accumulating some life experience, entertain themsel"es by manipulating the ones around them% ! really don*t thin# manipulation has any good parts because the purpose is most of the time hidden% Boung people still lo"e clubs, barbeques and pools% $he important thing is to ha"e good quality, constructi"e and relaxing entertainment, so that it lea"es us with good memories%

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Amu#ame t
!n ultima perioada am stat si am obser"at oamenii% 'm studiat modul cum ei se distrea(a, modul cum con"ietuiesc, felul in care comunica si felul in care exista% 5el mai mult m3a distrat felul in care oamenii se amu(a% 1i exemplele se desfasurau pe sub pri"irea mea, ca o apa curgatoare% 'm incercat sa definesc cate"a prototipuri ale oamenilor si a modului in care ei se amu(a% 'm a+uns la conclu(ia ca fiecare isi gaseste cate un mod care sa le fie caracteristic personalitatii lor% =etele in general au ramas la "esnicul obicei -despicat firu*3n pais*pe-, iar barbatii, eh, barbatii inca mai +oaca fotbal, dar acum pentru ca suntem in se(on, mai mult se uita la tele"i(or% 'cum trecem de la calificarea pe sexe, la aceea pe personalitati% 1unt acei oameni care, acumuland sau nu o minima experienta de "iata, se distrea(a prin manipularea celorlalti, cred ei intr3un sens bun% 'cum, eu (ic ca manipularea nu are o parte buna, pentru ca scopul este ascuns mai mereu% De +udecat sau nu, "oi decideti% $ineretul iubeste in continuare discoteca, clubul, gratarul si piscina% !mportant este ca distractia sa fie de calitate, iar ca ea sa ne lase amintiri frumoase, sa fie poate si un pic constructi"a si relaxanta%

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A$$eara %e&
;h< yes% &e see them at e"ery street corner% 1ometimes we recogni(e them, other times we don*t, we confuse them with arrogance and concedness% &hat are appearances $hat decepti"e exterior of a thing or of a person% !t is a loo# that co"ers an unpleasant reality% 'ppearances also represent the first impression we get after experiencing something new% &e all #now that things are not what they appear to be% &e basically don*t +udge things according to appearances because we #now they can be misleading% 1ome people ha"e come to be "ery inured to appearances% ;thers try to run away from them so that they don*t fall into their confusing games% Bes, to me appearances are li#e games% $hat is how ! see them% ! can display one or not% !t is li#e a button that we can push in order to co"er up our personalities or to display a loo# that hides our inner flaws% &e care so much about appearances that we cannot afford to be truly free% ;utside the weather is bad and it*s raining% $his is not an appearance because my hair got wet% &ith or without curtains, with all sorts of mas#s, people go on li"ing day after day, all of them #nowing that they can use appearances anytime time they feel li#e it%

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A$are te
;< da% 4e lo"im de ele la fiecare colt de strada% 1tim sau nu sa le recunoastem, le confundam cu fite si cu talente% 5e repre(inta o aparenta Dnfatisarea exterioara si Enselatoare a unui lucru, sau a unei persoane% Aste o infatisare care ascunde o realitate neplacuta% 'parenta mai repre(inta si prima impresie pe care ne3o cream, dupa ce am intrat in contact cu ce"a nou% 1tim cu totii ca aparentele inseala% Din principiu, nu ne luam dupa aparente, pentru ca stim ca sunt inselatoare% Fnii dintre oameni sunt in asa fel in"atati incat sunt foarte familiari(ati cu aparentele% 'ltii dintre noi fugim de aparenta ca de drac, pentru a nu cadea in +ocul ei amagitor% Da, aparenta pentru mine este ca un +oc% 'sa pri"esc% ; pot afisa sau nu% Aste ca un buton pe care apasam pentru a ne acoperi personalitatea sau pentru a afisa o Enfatisare care sa ascunda defectiunile noastre interne% $inem atit de mult la aparente, incat nu ne mai permitem de a fi cu ade"arat liberi% 'fara este urat, si ploua% 1i nu e o aparenta, pentru ca mi s3a udat parul% 5u sau fara perdea, masti de tot soiul, oamenii isi continua "iata, (i de (i, constienti fiind ca au optiunea de a apela la aparente%

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E'$e%tatio &
=inally< 1unny days ha"e arri"ed in ,ucharest< !t is exactly what we needed since many of us ha"e been eagerly waiting for it% $oday we are thin#ing what else we are expecting% 1ome of us can*t wait to finish wor#, with that defiant schedule that is always toying with us% 1ome are waiting to end a certain chapter of their li"es in order to begin a new one% ;thers are waiting for the holidays so they can flee from this crowded, suffocating city of ours, ,ucharest% Axpectations are quite interesting% 0any of us ha"e great wishes% &e expect a lot from oursel"es% ! ha"e learnt not to demand that much from others% Aach of us has secret desires, goals, dreams of ha"ing succesful careers or maybe +ust plain expectations from a simple day that could be great% $he waiting itself is something which we create in our minds, under the influence of external factors% !t can be quite beautiful, heart3 warming but it can also be relati"e% &aiting for a certain something can ruin a good mood or can let someone down% $here are some people who can be defined as -fore"er waiting-, always thin#ing of the things that are about to happen% !t is important to #now what we want so that we can build up our expectations more confidently% A"en more important is not to feel disapointed if something does not end the way we wanted it to and to #eep our heads up and moti"ate oursel"es to go on%

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A&te$tare
!n sfarsit soare constant in ,ucuresti< Aste ceea ce a"eam ne"oie si multi dintre noi l3am asteptat% '(i ne gandim la ce asteptari mai a"em% Fnii dintre noi asteptam cu ardoare sfarsitul programului care se +oaca cu noi, sfidator% Fnii asteapta sa se termine o perioada a "ietii pentru a intra in alta% 'ltii asteapta "acanta pentru a o (bughi din acest ,ucuresti aglomerat si sufocant% Dar asteptarile pot fi mai interesante% 'le noastre, ale tuturor% De la noi, cel mai important% 5at de la altii, m3am in"atat minte sa nu mai am asteptari% '"em dorinte ascunse, fiecare, de reusita, de i(banda in cariera sau poate o simpla asteptare de la o (i pe care am crede3o minunata% !n sinea ei, asteptarea este un lucru pe care il creeam in mintea noastra, hraniti fiind de factorii externi% 'cest lucru poate fi frumos, poate sa iti umple sufletul, dar este si relati"a% ; asteptare iti poate strica buna dispo(itie sau poate de(amagi un suflet% Axista oameni pe care ii poti defini ca -fore"er waiting-, cu gandul mereu la ce se "a intampla% !mportant este sa stim ceea ce "rem pentru a ne construi asteptarile cu multa siguranta de finalitate% 0ai important este sa nu fim de(amagiti daca cum"a nu iese asa cum ne3am dorit si sa ridicam capul pentru a ne moti"a sa continuam%

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Attitude
$hin#ing of the situations we find oursel"es in e"ery day and of the different opinions that ha"e been laid upon the sub+ect of today*s article, ! will present you my opinion on '$$!$FDA% 5learly, there are people who are defined by their attitude% !t can be either positi"e or negati"e% !t all depends on our choices, on how we beha"e in certain situations, on how we handle the "arious chances life gi"es us% $o me, attitude means ha"ing remarcable presence and always ha"ing an opinion> equally important is the way one ma#es himself heard and remar#ed% 'ttitude is a quality which we can mould> it can be time consuming or not depending on a series of factors% ;pportunities today are numerous and "ery accessible% $he difficult thing to do is to learn to be pacient and not to ma#e mo"es that would irreparably hurt our personalities% 'ttitude is not necesarily image related> it comes from within, from the desire to be a little unusual, to stand out, to ma#e a difference% ?erhaps attitude is all about perse"erence or maybe it is all about originality, and the people which are blessed with this -talentare the ones with strong personalities%

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Atitudi e
)andindu3ma la intamplarile de care ne lo"im (i de (i si la parerile impartite asupra subiectului pe care as dori sa il aborde( a(i, m3am -montat- si "a "oi descrie parerea mea despe '$!$FD!4A% 5lar, exista persoane pe care atitudinea le repre(inta% !ar ea poate fi o atitudine po(iti"a sau negati"a% $otul depinde de alegerea noastra, de cum ne comportam in anumite situatii, in feluritele iposta(e prin care "iata ne poarta% ?entru mine, a a"ea atitudine inseamna a a"ea o pre(enta remarcabila, a a"ea o parere, dar mai important este modul in care ne impunem sau ne facem remarcati% 'titudinea este o calitate, pe care putem sa o modelam lucru care necesita mai mult sau mai putin timp, depin(and de di"ersi factori% ;portunitatile in (ilele actuale sunt multiple si la indemana oricui% 0ai greu este sa in"atam sa a"em rabdare si sa nu facem miscari care sa ne afecte(e iremediabil personalitatea% 'titudinea nu tine neaparat de imagine, ci "ine din interior, "ine din dorinta de a fi un pic diferit de ceilalti, din dorinta de a fi remarcat, de a face o diferenta in aceasta "iata% ?oate ca atitudinea tine de perse"erenta sau de originalitate, iar persoanele care benefiecia(a de acest talent, sunt acei oameni cu personalitati puternice%

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T(e A""air
! ha"e promised a friend of mine that ! would approach this sub+ect% $he affair% ,y some, -affairs- are considered to be a taboo sub+ect% ;thers are quite tal#ati"e when it comes to their affairs and they end up gi"ing too much information that maybe not e"erybody would want to hear% 2ow does an affair start &ith a flirt probably and good con"ersation% ! ha"e #nown people who li"e for this, who define their personal li"es as perpetual affairs, always playing relationship games% A"en though the word -affairGad"enture- is found in dictionaries as -exciting and ris#y underta#ing or exploit-, ! see it as something well thought out and planned% $he succes of an affair lies in communication% ?erhaps nowadays the concept of -ha"ing an affair- is considered to be a taboo sub+ect because of old mentalities% 'n affair can happen because of the need of comfort 3 it is much easier to be superficial, or because of satiety as our dear )od also lo"es beauty% !t can complete certain gaps, but it is not blamable for anything% !t would be good to loo# at e"ery affair as life experience% &hen does an affair end $he moment e"erything is done and interest fades away% ! as# myself in the end, the following questionH if interest doesn*t disappear and the affair goes on, does it become a habit

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A)e tura
De aceasta data am promis unui amic ca "oi aborda acest subiect% '"entura% ?entru unii -a"entura- repre(inta un subiect tabu% 'lti oameni sunt foarte dispusi sa po"esteasca despre a"enturile lor, a+ungand pana la detalii picante, pe care nu toata lumea ar dori sa le auda% De unde incepe o a"entura De la flirt probabil, de la +ocul de cu"inte% 'm cunoscut oameni care traiesc pentru asa ce"a, oameni care isi definesc "iata personala ca fiind o a"entura continua, un +oc de3a -relatia-% 1i desi in DAI cu"antul -a"entura- este definit ca o actiune Endra(neata si riscanta, eu o "ad ca pe un lucru gandit bine si pregatit% 1uccesul unei a"enturi este comunicarea% ?oate conceptul de -a a"ea o a"entura- este in (iua de a(i un subiect tabu din cau(a mentalitatilor in"echite si u(ate% '"entura poate aparea din dorinta de comoditate pentru ca este mult mai usor sa fi superficial, sau din saturatie pentru ca ce3i frumos si lui Dumne(eu ii place% Aa poate completa lipsurile din alte locuri dar nu este condamnabila% =rumos ar fi ca fiecare a"entura pe care o traim sa fie considerata o experienta, placuta dupa ca(% Fnde se termina a"entura !n momentul in care totul este infaptuit si dispare interesul% !mi pun in final, urmatoarea intrebareH daca interesul totusi nu dispare, iar ea se continua, putem considera a"entura un obicei

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*a%(elor li"e
&hy a bachelor life today ! don*t #now, and ! almost see the surprised loo# on my sister*s face as if as#ing meH -&hat are you thin#ing <- ! still find it funny to see a young man +ust before wal#ing the aisle and that last, "ery meaningful loo# he gi"es his friends% 's all women are either good at something or good for nothing, each man thin#s that, in a marriage, something has got to gi"e e"entually> e"en though on the left shoulder there*s the little de"il sub"ersi"ely telling him that he shouldn*t ma#e this choice and that he could ha"e much more fun in many other ways% ' bachelor life is something that both men and women can en+oy, the only difference is that of not ha"ing a specific name for it when it comes to women% 'nd yes, women too ha"e the right to a bachelor life as the men are bachelors in order to ha"e access to more women% $his is the way ! see things% !f ! thin# about it, bachelors li"e under the impression that they are a little more experienced than married men, otherwise they would be married too< )od created sex, priests came up with the concept of marriage and men will ne"er change%%%! thin# that some of them should ne"er marry% -0arriage is the only ad"enture accesible to cowards%- 3 7oltaire

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*urla%ie
De ce a(i burlacie 4u stiu si parca "ad pri"irea mirata a surorii mele, intreband din ochiH -5e ai in cap< -% !nca mi se mai pare amu(ant sa "ad un tanar inainte de a pasi pragul bisericii si gasesc la fel de haios sa ii "ad ultima pri"ire aruncata camara(ilor lui de3o "iata, o pri"ire plina si sugesti"a% 1i cum toate femeile sunt bune la ce"a, sau bune de nimic, fiecare barbat gandeste ca totusi ce"a bun dintr3o casnicie tot "a iesi% 5hiar daca pe umarul stang sta dracusorul mic care ii dictea(a sub"ersi" ca poate nu ar fi bine sa faca aceasta alegere, ca s3ar distra mult altfel si diferit% ,urlacia este ce"a de care nu numai barbatul se bucura, pentru ca si femeia face parte din aceeasi categorie, numai ca pentru noi femeile nu s3a gasit un cu"ant care sa defineasca aceasta libertate% 1i da, si femeile au dreptul la burlacia barbatilor, ca doar barbatii sunt burlaci, pentru a a"ea dreptul la mai multe femei% Au asa "ad% 1tau si ma gandesc asa ipotetic, burlacii cred ca sunt un pic mai experimentati, stiu mai multe despre femei decat cei casatoriti> in ca( contrar, ar fi si ei casatoriti% 1i la o adica Dumne(eu a creat sexul, iar preotii au facut casatoria, iar barbatii nu se schimba niciodata%%% ?arerea mea este ca ar trebui multi dintre ei sa ramana burlaci% -5asatoria este singura a"entura accesibila lasilor%-3 7oltaire

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+ualit, )& +ua tit,

,ecause generally, what has to be done is worth being well done, today ! thought of writing about quality and quantity% ' brief +uxtaposition of these two notions, that ! find quite interesting% ! as# myself now, -can you find anywhere something abundant and good- or maybe in the world today a much appropriate and common expression would be -little but good- 's ! don*t want to de"elop this sub+ect philosophically, ! will +ust state that for me, quality is much more important than quantity% &hy 1imply because ! ha"e always searched for the essence in all the things and people ! ha"e seen% ! ha"e see#ed authenticity so that ! wouldn*t ma#e wrong +udgements about things% Juantitati"ely spea#ing, ! prefer the -little-% $he little 2'1 to be good% =or the "ery reason that it is little% $here is quality differentiation in e"ery domainH from mobile phones to football and from clothes to music% $his is why people ha"e learned not to be easily satisfied% &e ha"e come to test the moral "alues of the people around us, to see if they are trustworthy or not% $his is a good criterion to choose people by% $he -quantity- of feelings is not as important as the base on which they are built% $herefore today, -little but good- is what appeals to me%

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Calitate )&- Ca titate

?entru ca in general, ceea ce trebuie facut, merita sa fie bine facut, m3am gandit ca a(i sa scriu despre calitate si cantitate% ; mica paralela intre aceste doua notiuni, care pe mine personal ma interesea(a% 1i acum stau si ma intreb, oare exista pe aceasta lume - mult si bun- sau oare s3ar potri"i realitatii noastre mai mult expresia -putin dar bun- ?entru ca nu "reau sa de("olt acest subiect dupa niste coordonate filo(ofice, am sa spun ca pentru mine calitatea este mult mai importanta decat cantitatea% De ce 1implu, pentru ca intotdeauna am cautat esenta in orice lucru sau persoana intalnita% 'm urmarit sa gasesc "eritabilitatea in sinea ei, pentru a nu3mi face impresii gresite despre un anumit subiect% 5antitati" "orbind, prefer putinul% ?utinul trebuie sa fie bun% $ocmai pentru ca este putin% 5alitatea o gasim in orice domeniuH de la telefoane mobile pana la fotbal, de la haine pana la mu(ica% 1i de aceea omul s3a obisnuit trebuie sa nu se multumesca cu orice% ?ana si pe persoanele din +urul nostru am a+uns cateodata sa le testam calitatea morala, tocmai pentru a "edea daca sunt sau nu de incredere% 1i bine este sa le alegem tot dupa acest criteriu% 1i nici cantitatea sentimentelor de care benefieciem nu contea(a, ci mai mult din ce sunt construite si daca primea(a% 'sa ca, pentru a(i, -putin da* bun- este ceea ce imi place%

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.(e t(e (eart--!t is early so ! still ha"e some time to write you% $oday, doc, we are handling $2A 2A'K$% ! ha"e reached the conclusion that many of us ha"e come to neglect the truly important aspects of our li"es, because of ordinary things that we tend to multiply and o"erdo% &e neglect $2A 2A'K$% &e don*t offer it enough attention% ! am sure, that in the life of e"ery indi"idual, there are times in which decisions are made after ardent battles between the head and the heart% 2ow many of you ha"e listened to your hearts, to your feelings without thin#ing of the concequences ! ha"e% ! ha"en*t lost anything% ;n the contrary, ! ha"e won wonderful moments that ha"e remained imprinted upon my soul% 're a bit of rec#lessness or courage necessary in order to do what your heart tells you to $hose two are not that important% Bou ha"e to do what you feel% !t must be something that comes from within, for it to -blow- and become real% ' heart is born, a heart grows, a heart lo"es, a heart suffers, a heart is re"i"ed, a heart li"es, a heart moti"ates us and #eeps us ali"e% &e exist because of it%

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Ca d I ima--A inca de"reme si mai am timp sa "a scriu% '(i, doctore, ne ocupam de !4!0'% ?ersonal am tras conclu(ia ca multi dintre noi am a+uns sa negli+am aspectele importante ale "ietilor noastre din cau(a unor lucruri banale, pe care noi le multiplicam% 5aci ne pierdem in ci"ilie si negli+am !4!0'% 4u ii oferim destula atentie% 1unt sigura ca in "iata fiecarui om exista momente in care deci(iile luate sunt re(ultatul unei batalii acerbe intre cap si inima% 5ati dintre "oi ati urmat caile alese de inima, cati ati facut ceea ce ati simtit, pe moment, fara a "a gandi la consecinte Au am facut% 4u am pierdut nimic% ,a mai mult, am castigat niste momente minunate ce3mi raman intiparite in suflet% Aste oare necesar de un dram de inconsienta sau de mai mult cura+, pentru a face ceea ce iti dictea(a inima 'ceste doua coordonate 3 5ura+ul si inconstienta 3 nu cantaresc prea mult in ceea ce pri"este aceasta problema% $rebuie sa simti sa faci ceea ce simti% $rebuie sa "ina din interior, pentru a exploda la exterior, pentru a se materiali(a% !nima se naste, inima creste, inima iubeste, inima sufera, inima renaste, inima traieste, inima ne moti"ea(a si ne tine in "iata% Datorita ei traim%

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.(at/& Se',0
's ! was thin#ing of the meaning of things and notions around me, and since it*s summertime and it*s quite -trendy-, ! stopped at -sexy-% ! #now that some of you will as# me -Didn*t you need a special state of mind in order to write about this concept G sensation -, and ! can answer you right nowH 4o< ,eacuse, paradoxically, !*"e started seeing *sexy* in all the wrong places, such as offices, companies 8and now all the men would sayH -&2B 4;$ < -9, etc% &ell, ! tried to analyse what could be *sexy* these days in the century of speed, communication, internet and duality% -1exy, sexy, ! #now you want me-, this would be my first thought, then an unco"ered na"el, oriental music, a tall and well3built man, a short s#irt, suntan, dancing 8one of the most important things9, and also last but not least a stare, a waggish smile and attitude% 'nd whoe"er has all these fore mentioned things and features can consider himselfGherself sexy &ell, no< *1exy* clearly comes from within% !t is li#e a beam that captures you and attracts your attention to a certain person or to a certain ambiance in which you let yourself carried away% &e can be -sexy-, only with the condition of being oursel"es%

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Ce mai e Se',0
)andindu3ma la semnificatiile lucrurilor din +urul meu si pentru ca acum cand scriu este "ara si e -in trend-, m3am oprit la cu"antul -sexy-% 1tiu ca unii dintre "oi ma "eti intreba -Dar nu ai a"ut ne"oie de o stare speciala pentru a scrie despre aceasta notiuneGsen(atie -, iar eu raspund de pe acumH 4u< ?entru ca, paradoxal, am inceput sa "ad -sexy- in multe locuri in care poate nu isi a"ea rostul, gen birouri, companii 8 si acum toti barbatii in cor H -5F0 4F < < <-9, etc% Ai bine, am stat si am anali(at cam ce ar mai putea sa insemne -sexy-, in secolul "ite(ei, al comunicarii, al internetului, al "ietii dualiste% -1exy, sexy, stiu ca ma "rei-, ar fi prima idee din capul meu, apoi un buric de(golit, o mu(ica cu un ritm oriental, un barbat inalt si bine construit, o fusta scurta, pielea la "edere, bron(, un dans 8 aici tin sa mentione( ca dansul primea(a<9, dar nu printre ultimele, o pri"ire aruncata tinta, un (ambet sugubat si poate o atitudine pe masura% 1i cine le detine toate caracteristici insiruite aici, se poate considera sexy Ai bine, nu< 1exy "ine din interior, clar% Aste ca o unda care te cuprinde si iti atrage atentia asupra unei persoane , asupra unei atmosferi, in care te lasi dus de "al si plutesti% ?utem fi -sexy-, numai cu conditia de a fi noi insine%

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.(at i& more di""i%ult

$his morning ! thought of something and ! want to share it with you% ! as#ed myselfH &hat is more difficult $o be alone, to not ha"e anyone by your side and wish for it to happen or to ha"e a relationship ;r to ha"e somebody, who is *there* with you each moment, and wish you didn*t ha"e anyone $his is what ! want to write about todayH the power of decision in the sensiti"e -relationships- issue% ! feel that recently, relationships ha"e become a bit automatic% !t*s li#e *things* don*t happen naturally anymore% &omen now thin#H -!f ! get en"ol"ed, what will happen to my career - or at a smaller scaleH -!f ! start a relationship, will ! still be able to go out with the girls -, stupid questions, considering that e"ery woman*s dream is to ha"e a white horse ridden by the ideal man, coming to her% =or men it*s much more simple ! thin#, because they don*t ma#e things so complicated, they don*t thin# about repercussions or about the future% ,ut when they are caught red3handed, they regret not thin#ing things throughH -!f ! #new you would be so upset about it, ! wouldn*t ha"e gone through all this trouble%%%- perhaps they #now how to sei(e the moment better than women do% ?erhaps women ha"e more things on their minds, since somebody must be responsible% 'nyway, *things* are not the way they used to be% A"erything is now planned perhaps because of the wide range of options% ,ut ! ha"e noticed that the new -trendy- thing is duality% 'nd we lo"e it so%%%
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Ce1i mai greu--'(i de dimineata am a"ut un gand si "reau sa il impartasesc cu "oi% 03am gandit, intrebandu3ma in sinea mea asaH ce3i mai greu 1a fi singur ca persoana, sa nu ai pe nimeni si sa iti doresti sa fie cine"a langa tine, o relatie 1au sa ai pe cine"a, sa fie -acolo-, clipa de clipa, sa stii ca exista, dar sa iti doresti sa nu fie si sa nu insemne nimic 'sta "reau sa expun a(iH puterea de deci(ie in ceea ce pri"este subiectul -relatie-% 1tateam si ma gandeam ca de o perioada incoace, chestia asta cu relatiile a de"enit cam roboti(ata% ?arca nu mai "ine de la sine toata *treaba*, toata "ra+a, sa ii (ic asa% 'cum femeile stau si se gandescH - Daca ma cuple(, ce se intampla cu cariera mea - sau la un ni"el mai mic H - Daca pornesc o relatie, oare o sa mai ma pot "edea cu fetele -, intrebari stupide, a"and in "edere ca "isul oricarei femei este sa "ina acel cal alb si poate pe el sa aibe, optional si acel barbat mirific% :a barbati cred ca e mai simplu, pentru ca ei nu complica asa de mult lucrurile si cand iau o deci(ie, nu se gandesc la consecinte sau la "iitor% Dar si cand sunt prinsi cu mata3n sac, regreta ca nu au gandit3o bine inca de la inceputH -?ai daca stiam ca te superi, nu mai ma strofocam atat%%%<- ?oate ei stiu sa traisca momentul mult mai bine decat femeile% ?oate femeia are o constiinta mult mai incarcata decat barbatul, ca doar trebuie sa fie si cine"a mai responsabil% ;ricum nu mai este ca acum ce"a "reme% *$reaba* s3a modificat% 'cum totul e planificat, cred ca din cau(a gamei largi de optiuni% Dar am "a(ut eu ca acum la moda este -in trend- si se poarta dualismul% 1i ce ne mai place%%%

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Cli%(e&
's a result of a discussion ! had late last night when the cloc# on the wall was -win#ing- at me to wrap up the day, ! decided to write about -clichesand what ma#es us label certain things we encounter as -cliches-% ! thin# that the notion of cliche comes from the association of a deed or a thing to a word that exhausti"ely characteri(es the gi"en sub+ect% !t becomes a cliche when it grows too popular and it is seen to oftenly% ;ut of the few mo"ies ! ha"e had the the time to watch lately, ! ha"e found not one but many picturi(ations based upon cliches and stereotypes% ! won*t e"en go into the e"erlasting -blonde- +o#eGstereotype or the image Komania has e"erywhere 3 gipsies% 'lthough today, the old -!t*s nice to meet youhello has turned into -'sl, pls-, ! still belie"e that there are some people out there who base their +udgements on something else than preconcei"ed ideas% 1ince today it is indeed "ery difficult to appear as original and new, a widely spread solution has become the bantering of cliches> it has actually been turned into a habit, into a cliche%

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Cli2ee
!n urma unei discutii purtate aseara tar(iu, cand ceasul de pe perete de+a imi facea cu ochiul subtil sa inchei (iua, mi3am propus ca a(i sa scriu despre -5lisee-, si ceea ce ne face sa acordam unor lucruri de care ne lo"im, statutul de -cliseu-% !deea de cliseu cred ca "ine de la asocierea unei fapte sau a unui lucru cu un cu"ant care sa caracteri(e(e per total subiectul in cau(a% 1i de"ine cliseu in momentul in care este intalnit des, si de"ine cunoscut% ?rintre putinele filme pe care am a"ut timp sa le "ad in ultima "reme, am constatat ca am gasit nu unul, ci mult mai multe ecrani(ari ba(ate pe clisee, pe stereotipuri, si toate incercau sa a+unga cel putin la limita inferioara a originalitatii% 4u mai (ic despre "esnciul bancGstereotip cu blondele, sau despre imaginea atribuita tarii noastre 3 tiganii% 1i desi a(i, mioriticul -!mi pare bine de cunoastinta- s3a transformat subit in -asl, pls-, tind sa cred ca poate inca mai exista oameni care nu se ba(ea(a pe idei preconcepute% ?entru ca in (iua de a(i este realmente greu sa fi original, inedit sau nou, consider ca o solutie pe care multi au adoptat3o este ca pana si din "anareaGironi(area clisee3lor, s3a facut chiar un obicei, un cliseu%

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Com$romi&e
!*"e #ept thin#ing these past few days whether e"erything we do is based on small compromises or not% !*m not tal#ing about those small misunder3 standings we ha"e with people around us, but about something far more seriousH the compro3 mises we reach with oursel"es% &hat ma#es us do that ?erhaps the outcome, our expectations or satisfaction &ell, what we consider *compromise* others see as *sacrifice*, or something li#e *Didn*t see, Didn*t hear it*% 5ompromise can be present in lo"e as well as in wor#, but no matter the circum3 stances, we still feel it the same way% )enerally, when it comes to relationships, people do all #inds of compromises% $hey either brea# their promises or gi"e up things they li#e or #eep their eyes on the goal without any care of what*s around them% 0en are made for this% ! feel we are li"ing in a time of compromise% &e always ha"e strong explanations for e"ery compromise we do% 5ompromising is not spontaneous, it is not done in a moment of tem3 porary insanity% &e first prepare the LambianceM% &e ha"e to con"ince oursel"es that there is no other way and this is the only possible answer to the problem% $hen, once we get used to the idea, it starts to seem far less as a "iolation of the rules and "alues we hold so close to our hearts% ' com3 promise can only be followed by another one% ;nce one principle is abandoned, all the others start sha#ing% $his happens if the sum of our moral "alues is +ust a pile of ideas pic#ed up from e"erywhere% ,ut if ! thin# of the world we li"e in, !*d simply sayH -?rinciples don*t ease our li"es-%

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Com$romi&ul
03am tot gandit (ilele acestea daca tot ceea ce facem, se ba(ea(a pe cate un mic compromis% 1i nu "orbesc despre acele mici intelegeri pe care le facem cu cei din +urul nostru, ci despre ce"a mai gra"H compromisul pe care il facem cu noi insine% 5e ne determina sa facem asta ?oate re(ultatul, poate asteptarile sau poate satisfactia Ai bine, ceea ce noi considearam un compromis, altii il clasifica drept un sacrificiu sau un mic -nu am "a(ut, nu am au(it-% 5ompromisul poate fi si din dragoste, poate fi si pe plan prfofesional, dar la orice ni"el ar exista el, tot aceeasi stare ne3o ofera% !n general, oamenii fac compromisuri de toate genurile prin prisma relatiilor interumane% 5hit ca isi incalca promisiunile, ca renunta la lucrurile fa"orite, ca nu se uita in stanga si in dreapta inainte de a obtine ce"a% ;mul este sortit compromisului% 5onsider ca traim intr3o epoca caracteristica compromisului% !ntotdeauna a"em +ustificari solide pentru orice ghidusie de gen facuta% 5ompromisul nu e un act spontan, facut intr3o clipa de pierdere temporara a capacitatilor mentale% !ntai ne pregatim terenul% $rebuie mai intai sa ne con"ingem singuri ca nu se poate altfel% 5a este singura solutie "iabila la pro3 blema aparuta% 'poi, pe masura ce ne con"ingem de necesitatea compromisului, a+ungem sa ne obisnuim cu ideea si sa nu ni se mai para nici macar o abdicare de la "alorile pana mai ieri sfinte% !ar un compromis la randul lui atrage dupa sine altele% ;data abandonat un principiu, toate celelalte se clatina% 'sta in ca(ul in care scara noastra de "alori nu era o adunatura de idei culese de la altii% Dar daca raporte( la lumea in care traim, automat o sa (ic asaH -?rincipiile nu iti dau de mancare%33

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Commu i%atio
,ecause ! am "ery fond of this sub+ect and because ! thin# it characteri(es me, today ! will be writing about communication% 0any of us sometimes find it hard to say what we thin#% ?erhaps because of emotions or maybe because of an spea#ing dissability, e"erything comes out wrong% )enerally people rely on what they thin# and not on actual facts, thus lea"ing room for misinterpretations which ine"itably lead to misunderstandings% &ith ambiguity the essence of words fades away% 'ttentionH it*s about real reasons, real intentions, the real things that trigger actions, the thought expressed in words, the actual ideas and opinions, the actual being, when *being* refers to the capacity to reflect and not to the physical presence% $o me this is what communication is all about% $o materiali(e it, all we need is a listener, friends to interact with, maybe e"en a phone and why not e"en an e3mail address< &ords are +ust means to an end 3 the expression of our thoughts%

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Comu i%are
'(i, pentru ca imi este drag acest subiect si cred eu ca ma caracteri(ea(a, "a "oi po"esti despre comunicare% 0ultora dintre noi ne este greu cateodata sa rostim exact ceea ce gandim% ?oate din emotie sau poate dintr3un simplu defect de exprimare, totul iese complet gresit% !n general oamenii se ba(ea(a pe ceea ce cred si nu pe ceea ce este, pentru ca nu prea stiu ei ce este de fapt, lasand loc de interpretari care ine"itabil conduc la neintelegeri% !ar cand ambiguitatea inter"ine, esenta cu"intelor se pierde% 'tentieH este "orba de substratul in sine, de intentii, de imboldul care sta la ba(a actiunilor, de gandul care sta la ba(a faptei, de ceea ce este exprimat prin cu"inte, prin cugetari si pareri personale, de fiinta in sine, iar cand (ic fiinta in sine ma refer la capacitatea de +udecata si nu la trup, ori ganduri aplicate% ?entru mine asta inseamna comunicare% !ar pentru asta, nu a"em ne"oie decat de un ascultator, de prieteni cu care sa interactionam, poate chiar de un telefon, si de ce nu, de e3mail< 5u"antul este doar un mi+locitor, ce ne a+uta sa ne exprimam ade"aratele simtiri%

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Co tro)er&,
! wanted to entitle the article -gossip-, but ! thought it would be more elegant this way, so today we will tal# about -contro"ersy-% &here do we find it &here there are people, regardless if we are tal#ing about persons of high social positions or +ust four girls chatting o"er some morning coffee% A"en boo#s are sub+ect to contro"ersy% Fsually, e"erything that is shoc#ing is disputed, but sub+ects appear and disappear e"ery day +ust li#e news on t"% !n our country, for women, the new trend is that of li"ing a "ery out in the open life, to stand out in e"ery possible way, to come up with new shoc#ing achie"ements in order to ama(e the public% A"en in the outlying districts, in the streets we see groups of young people tal#ing about new cars that ha"e appeared in their neighbourhood and about the owners and then maybe about a small scratch that signifies their mar#% )ossip is a habit of the times we li"e in, but definitely not exclusi"ely, which has appeared in e"ery layer of the society% $here is gossip in the supermar#etH -&hat Bou ga"e her this perfume as a gift and she threw it out the window -, there is gossip in the officeH -Did you #now that 1tefanescu is getting a pregnancy lea"e %%%li#e it*s not enough she*s so far behind with the pro+ects%%%-, there is gossip in tal#showsH -Bes%%%! don*t want to critici(e I, but his artistic s#ills lea"e a lot to be desired%%%-% Fsually, contro"ersy comes from en"y, spite, from the desire to ha"e what others ha"e, but it only lea"es the one F1!4) it with a bitter taste%
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! don*t #now yet if gossiping is something purely Komanian, but we do ha"e a special gift for it, as it is #nown that -Komanians are born poets-, we can transform a simple tal# into a dispute% 4ow ! sit and wonder, if between friends there wouldn*t be any sort of tal#s and we wouldn*t tal# about other people, we would ha"e to tal# about oursel"es and display our own personalities, and such a situation would not appeal to e"eryone% -)ossip is the result of not ha"ing a personal life-, ?eter )luc#%

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Co tro)er&a
5ontro"ersat, si ce este mai frumos sta in faptul ca unele subiecte pier de pe o (i la alta, la fel ca stirile de la tele"i(or% :a noi se poarta moda femeilor contor"ersate care ies pe -piatarecurgand la diferite modalitati, care mai de care mai socante, si fiecare in parte cu cate o reali(are pentru a uimi ochiul public% ?ana si in cartier la colt de strada intalnim gastile care stau si comentea(a masinile noi ce apar, apoi propietarii lor, si de ce nu si o -mica- (garietura pe o aripa, pentru a3si lasa -semnatura-% ,arfa este un obicei al "remurilor noastre, si cu siguranta, nu doar al "remurilor noastre, care s3a infiltrat in toate mediile sociale% 1e barfeste cu pofta in supermar#etH -5um, draga, i3a facut cadou parfumul asta, si ea l3a aruncat pe fereastra de ner"i - , se barfeste uneori si la birouH -'i au(it ca 1tefaneasca isi ia prenatal, %%% nu a+unge ca e in urma cu proiectele%%%-, se barfeste si in tal#show3 uriH -Da%%% nu ca as "rea sa barfesc pe I, insa talentele sale artistice cam lasa de dorit%%%-% Deobicei, contro"ersa se trage din in"idie, din ciuda, din dorinta de a a"ea ce are si celalalt, si asta nu face decat sa lase un gust amar in urma celui ce o foloseste% 4u stiu inca daca barfa este ce"a caracteristic romanilor, dar a"em un talent deosebit, poate prin prisma faptului ca -romanul s3 a nascut poet-, si are un dar de a face dintr3o discutie o ade"arata polemica% 1i acum stau si ma gandesc ca daca intre prieteni nu ar mai exista discutiile de orice fel sau tip, si nu am mai "orbi
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despre altii, am fi obligati sa "orbim despre noi, si sa ne etalam personalitatile, lucru care nu con"ine tuturor% -,arfa este re(ultatul lipsei propriei "ieti-, ?eter )luc#%

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A3out iro ,
! would li#e to tell you why ! am going to write about irony today but ! don*t really find an explanation% ?erhaps because it is something quite common or maybe bacause it characteri(es me ! won*t split ends tal#ing about -the irony of fatebecause ! thin# we all #now what it means% $o be ironical is a state, it is a way of expressing certain opinions in a refined manner, or the most elegant way of approaching delicate sub+ects% !n the old days, theologues used to loo# upon irony as a sort of moc#ery that would not treat anything seriously% )enerally, irony can be obser"ed at sceptical, down to Aarth people with a good sense of humour% 'nother feature of irony is dissimulation, another thing of refinement% &e mainly use irony in order to express the delicate and inappropriate thoughts we ha"e% !rony sometimes creates a wall when it comes to communication, but ! thin# this is a good thing and as it ta#es inteligence to surpass it, a selection is made% 1urely, irony is the pinch of salt that ma#es the food taste good% !f you as# for my opinion on irony, ! would tell you that not e"erybody can ma#e use of it 3 not e"erybody understands or accepts it% ,ut it is li#e the cherry on top of a ca#e and it sometimes brea#s the ice much more efficiently than a +o#e%

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Cu &i de&$re Iro ie

's "rea sa "a spun de ce a(i "a "oi scrie despre ironie, dar nu am o explicatie% ?oate pentru ca este o carateristica des intalnita sau poate pentru ca ma caracteri(ea(a 4u "oi despica firul in patru despre -ironia sortii-, pentru ca stim cu totii, cred, ce inseamna acest lucru% ' fi ironic este o stare, este o modalitate de a exprima anumite pareri sub o textura rafinata, sau modalitatea cea mai eleganta de a pune pe tapet lucrurile delicate% ?e "remuri, teologii considerau ca ironia este un fenomen de bat+ocura, de meschinarie, care nu ia absolut nimic in serios% !n general ironia este repre(entata de persoanele sceptice, ancorate in realitate, si cu un simt al umorului bine de("oltat% ; alta caracteristica a -ironicului- este disimularea, iar o chestie de finete% Daca esti capabil de acest lucru, inseamna ca esti fericitul posesor al unui suflet cu spirit% ?rin ironie exprimam deobicei ceea ce este necurat in mintea noastra% 5ateodata ironia creea(a un perete in ceea ce pri"este comunicarea, dar a+uta la a face selectie pentru ca este un semn de inteligenta, (ic eu% 1igur, ironia repre(inta grauntele de sare din cau(a caruia -mancareacapata gust% Daca m3ati intreba pe mine parerea despre ironie, "3as raspunde ca nu toata lumea este capabila sa fie ironica 3 intr3un sens bun, ca nu toata lumea intelege ironia, sau ca o accepta% Dar este ca o cireasa de pe tort, si cateodata destinde spiritele, mult mai bine decat un banc sec%

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Curio&it,
!f someone would as# me what my number 1 flaw is, ! would quic#ly answerH curiosity% !t differs from indi"idual to indi"idual% 1till, being able to assimilate information is a sign of enhanced attention, especially when the people around you don*t #now it% $he decision of using it or not is also proof of power, especially if you #now how to do it% Deep and complex aspects can be reached, such as, ! don*t #now%%%influencing people, changing their opinions, e"en manipulation, but in a good way% &hat ma#es people curious is the thirst for information or the thirst for #nowledge% $han#s to curiosity, each day we encounter new people who can greatly widen our hori(ons% $he great disco"eries in our li"es are closely connected to our -le"el- of curiosity% 1he dri"es us to turn our attention to certain ob+ecti"es, persons or situations% 5uriosity implies freedom of mind and spirit, ta#ing chances in experiencing new things that life throws our way% ;n the other hand, curiosity has its bad features, such as annoying people with too many questions, path that many choose to wal# on, hoping to get what they want% -,usybodies die sooner-,or do they

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Curio#itate
Daca m3ar intreba cine"a care cred eu ca ar fi defectul meu moral cel mai e"ident, as raspunde foarte repedeH curio(itatea% Depinde de la om la om% $otusi, a detine informatia este un semn de atentie, mai ales cand cei din +ur nu stiu acest lucru% Deci(ia de a o folosi sau nu este de altfel un semn de putere, mai ales daca sti cum sa o faci% !n sensul bun al cu"antului% 1e poate a+unge pana la lucruri adanci, cum ar fi, stiu eu, influentarea celor din +ur, schimbarea opiniilor, ba chiar manipularea% Dar repet, intr3un sens bun% 5eea ce ii face pe oameni curiosi, este setea de informatie sau setea de cunoastere% Dar prin curio(itate luam contact (i de (i cu persoane noi care pot deschide ori(onturi nesperate in ceea ce ne pri"este% 0arile descoperiri pe care le facem in "iata au o stransa legatura cu gradul nostru de curio(itate% Aa ne face sa ne indreptam spre anumite obiecti"e, spre anumiti oameni si spre anumite situatii% ' fi curios presupune a ne lasa mintea si spiritul libere, a incerca noi experiente si a hotari ca merita sa experimentam ceea ce "iata ne propune% Dar curio(itatea are si partile ai rele, cum ar fi poate agasarea celor din +ur cu intrebari, deci asa numita -bagare in seama-, pe care multi o adopta, sperand sa obtina ceea ce urmaresc% -5uriosii mor repede-, oare

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Da %i g
Bes< Dancing< !*"e been waiting for some days now to write about it, so ! chose 0onday, to begin the wee# with the "arious dancing steps that fill our souls with happiness% Dancing offers me the chance to shelter myself and also relax, and ! bet ! am not the only one who can say this% Dancing ma#es us really express oursel"es, releasing all our hidden feelings% $he moment you feel the music and your right #nee starts mo"ing to the beat and you slowly begin to mo"e, a happy and relaxing state falls o"er you% Dancing creates beautiful memories and there is nothing more delightful than a pair dance that can ma#e you forget about e"erything and e"eryone% ,ecause dancing s#illfuly uses the body language, it sustains the connection between people% $he feeling of intimacy you get from dancing is unique> it is far more powerful than a common con"ersation, as it leads people into getting to #now themsel"es in a pleasant, comfortable rythm% ! also thin# that dancing gi"es you that slight sense of madness that can be so useful to some% Dancing should be done for the soul and with soul, as it represents life and power, emotion and passion> it is a way of expression and liberation% !*"e heard the following quote, and it really got me thin#ingH -Dancing is a "ertical expression of a hori(ontal desire-% !s it

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Da &ul
incepi sa te misti, te cuprinde un sentiment de fericire si de relaxare% Dansul crea(a amintiri frumoase si nimic nu e mai frumos decat un dans in doi, petrecut de3a lungul unor nenumarate ore, care te face sa uiti pur si simplu de tine si restul lumii% 1i pentru ca dansul este cel ce se foloseste cu maiestrie de acel -body language-, el sustine foarte mult apropierea dintre oameni% 1entimentul de apropiere prin dans este unul unic, repre(entand mult mai mult decat o con"ersatie cateodata banala, conducand omul pe calea cunoasterii intr3 un ritm placut si confortant% 1i mai cred ca dansul contine acea nebunie care unora ne poate prii, si care poate face mult bine% Dansul ar trebui sa fie un lucru pe care sa il facem pentru suflet si cu suflet, pentru ca dansul repre(inta "iata si putere, repre(inta emotie si trairi de di"erse intensitati, repre(inta pasiune, repre(inta modalitati de exprimare si eliberare% 'm au(it urmatorul citat, care chiar m3a pus pe ganduriH -Dansul este o exprimare "erticala a unei dorinte ori(ontale%-% 1a fie oare asa

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De%i&io &
$he sub+ect today will get you thin#ing% &ell, it made me thin# twice starting with the moment ! realised what ma#ing a decision means% 'lthough it was difficult, ! ha"e come to the conclusion that a decision has to be made and not forgotten or postponed% 0y first question wasH -2ow should ! approach it 1hould ! listen to my heart %%%or try to split ends - ! ha"e reached the conclusion that, depending on the situation, people ha"e to adapt and try to find the right way to sol"e things, and not the easiest way% &hether they are simple or complicated, the decisions we ma#e influence our future% &hether we get the idea of running to the seaside or we decide to change +obs, we are tal#ing of things that are about to happen% =or me, it is quite easy, because ! am a bit rec#less and ! ha"en*t always felt the consequences of my actions% ,ut they are so "ery important% 'nd then, the -ris#issue appears% $his is when rec#lessness and fear interfere% &hen we ma#e a decision, we always ha"e to be positi"e% ! always tell myself that there is no turning bac#% ! am more determined li#e this% &e ha"e all faced this problem and we all #now that we will find out the result only after we ta#e action% ;ne thing is for sureH whate"er we say, do and decide, we shouldn*t ha"e any regrets because it would mean that we ha"e only wasted pretious time% &e learn from bad decisions and we en+oy good ones<

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De%i#ii
Fn subiect a(i care poate "a "a pune pe ganduri% ?e mine m3a pus in garda inca din momentul in care am reali(at ce inseamna a lua o deci(ie% Desi a fost greu, am reali(at ca o deci(ie trebuie luata, si nu uitata sau amanata% ?rima mea intrebare a fost asaH -5um sa gandesc, sa imi urme( inima %%%sau sa despic firul in 14 - 'm a+uns la conclu(ia ca in functie de situatie, omul trebuie sa se adapte(e si sa incerce sa gaseasca nu cea mai simpla cale, ci cea mai potri"ita% =ie ea simple sau complicate, deci(iile pe care le luam, ne influentea(a "iitorul% =ie ca ne punem in cap sa fugim la mare sau sa ne schimbam locul de munca, este "orba despre ceea ce urmea(a sa se intample% ?ersonal mi3a fost mai usor, a"and un dram de inconstienta, mult timp nu am simtit consecintele% Dar ele sunt cele mai importante% 1i da, se pune problema riscului% ?robabil ca aici inter"in inconstienta si cu -sora ei- buna, frica% 5and luam o deci(ie, intotdeauna trebuie sa fim hotarati% Au mereu imi spun ca nu mai exista cale de intoarcere% 'tunci sunt mai decisa% 5u totii ne3am lo"it de aceasta problema% 1i cu totii stim ca niciodata nu "om putea sti cum "a fi, dupa% 5ert este un lucruH orice am (ice, face, orice am decide, sa nu regretam, ca ar fi apoi doar o pierdere din timpul pretios ce ni3l acordam% Din deci(iile proaste in"atam, de cele bune ne bucuram<

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De$e de %,
=ollowing the suggestion of a dear friend and a small tal# we*"e had, today ! decided to write about dependency% !n its "arious forms, dependence is present in our li"es, without us e"en #nowing it% $here are different #inds of dependencies, starting with dependency on chocolate, computers, sex, cigarettes 8"ice9, alcohol, drugs and ending with the dependency on another person% ! won*t lecture you about the fact that drug dependency is the worst type, because that would mean transforming this article into an informati"e one ilustrated with studies and examples% ! will aproach dependency on a person% $here are poeple who simply cannot cope with being alone% !n order to find a temporary solution to their problem, they connect, up to a "ery high le"el, to somebody who suddently becomes "ery special% !t starts with setting up their schedules according the other persons*, listening to their opinions, as#ing and following their ad"ice% !dentity can be easily lost, all the other influential factors are forgotten and when the person on which dependency is established dissapoints, the consequences are terrible% 's far as dependency goes, there will ne"er be limits% A"erything will always be "ery accessible, easily manipulati"e, according to our preferences% &e will always be able to go to the supermar#et at two in the morning to buy chocolate and we will always say we would quit smo#ing, but we will rarely succeed% &e ha"e always tried to include in our busy schedules
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people we en+oy spending time with, to satisfy certain desires% Dependence on sex doesn*t mean obsessing o"er it% !*"e thought of a solution to get rid of this dependency issue and !*"e reached the conclusion that, if we were to be "ery strict and boring, we would ha"e to pretty much gi"e up all the things which gi"e us any pleasure at all% Dependency is any desire that ma#es you upset or unhappy if left unsatisfied%

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De$e de ta
:a sugestia unei prietene dragi si in urma unei mici discutii a"ute, m3am decis ca a(i sa "a "orbesc despre dependenta% !n toate modurile si feluritele ei forme, dependenta este pre(enta in "iata noastra, chiar si fara a ne da seama% Axista diferite forme de dependenta, incepand de la dependenta de ciocolata, calculator, sex, tigari 8"iciu9, alcool, droguri, si pana la a termina cu dependenta de a fi cu cine"a% 4u am sa "a tin predici despre faptul ca dependenta de droguri este cea mai nasoala, ca atunci ar trebui ca acest articol sa fie unul informati", cu studii si ca(uri exemplu% 'm sa accese( dependenta de a fi cu cine"a% Axista persoane care pur si simplu nu suporta singuratatea% 1i pentru a gasi o solutie de moment pentru aceasta problema, se atasea(a, pana la un ni"el ridicat de o persoana anume, care de"ine subit foarte speciala% $otul incepe de la a3si programa timpul in functie de acea persoana, de a3i asculta parerile, si cel mai important de a3i cere si a3i urma sfaturile cu sarguincio(itate% Fsor se pierde identitatea si se uita complet de ceilalti factori care ar putea sa ii influente(e "iata, in bine, iar in momentul in care subiectul pentru care s3a creat dependenta de(amageste, "ai si amar de consecinte% !n ceea ce pri"este dependentele , nu "or exista nicodata masuri% $otul "a fi foarte accesibil, si usor de manipulat, dupa preferintele noastre% 7om fi mereu capabili sa mergem pana la super3mar#et3ul de la scara, la doua noaptea pentru a cumpara ciocolata, sau mereu "om (ice ca ne
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"om lasa de fumat, dar rar "om reusi% 1i mereu "om incerca sa facem loc in programul nostru usor incarcat, unei companii placute, pentru a ne satisface dorintele% Dar a fi dependent de sex nu inseamna a fi obsedat de el% 03am gandit la o solutie de a scapa de aceasta -pata- a dependentei, si am a+uns la conclu(ia ca, daca am "rea neaparat sa fim rigi(i, fara farmec, si un pic plictisitori cu noi insine, ar trebui sa renuntam la aproape toate lucrurile cat de cat frumoase din "iata noastra% ; dependenta este orice dorinta care te face suparat sau nefericit daca nu este satisfacuta%

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De&ti ,
!t is a beautiful, sunny day% ' song, which probably comforted many of us, ends withH N-%%%as ! touched her cold temples, destiny has defeated us<-O $oday, ! as# myself the followingH does destiny influence our day to day acti"ity !s there a destiny for each of us A"en for dogs $here*s an old sayingH -&hat it is written for you cannot be undone-%Pust imagine a butterfly% 5learly its fate is sealed, a butterfly only li"es one day% $o the butterfly that may be an eternity% &hat does a day mean to us, humans Destiny can defeat us or we can defeat our destiny% $here are those people who simply refu(e to o"ercome their condition, and set themsel"es up to brea# destiny*s powerful arms% Destiny is different from coincidence% 5oincidence means occurrence by chance% 1ome wisemen say that destiny is beyond the human condition% !n my opinion, destiny cannot be controlled% Bes, we are born with a destiny and we die by it% !t*s a little sad, because we all want to be as good and go as far in life as we can% !n life nothing happens by chance% &e don*t encounter problems in "ain% )od is the one who offers us our destiny, at birth, and 2e also gi"es us the chance to ma#e choices%

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De&ti
Qi frumoasa, insorita% ; melodie ce poate ne3a linistit sufletul tuturor, spunea in finalul ei asaH- %%%5um tamplele reci le3am cuprins, destinul pe noi ne3a in"ins<- !mi pun problema a(i asaH oare destinul ne influentea(a actiunile (ilnice ;are exista un destin pentru fiecare dintre noi, chiar si pentru un caine -5e iti e scris in frunte asa "a fi-, (ic "orbele batranilor nostri care inca mai se roaga pentru (ile mai bune% )anditi3"a la un fluture% Aste clar, destinul lui este scris caci un fluture traieste o singura (i% ?oate lui i se pare o eternitate% 5at inseamna o (i pentru noi, oamenii Destinul ne poate in"inge, sau ne putem in"inge destinul% 1unt acei oameni care refu(a sa nu isi depaseasca conditia de "iata, si se montea(a in a frange barierele destinului% !si schimba "iata la propriu% Destinul nu este acelasi lucru cu coincidenta% Aa este o intamplare% !nteleptii spun ca destinul este mai presus de conditia umana% ?arerea mea este ca destinul nu se poate controla% Da, ne nastem cu un destin si murim cu el% Aste un pic trist, pentru ca toti ne dorim sa fim cat mai buni, cat mai tari si cat mai reali(ati% !n "iata nimic nu este intamplator% 4u ne lo"im de probleme degeaba% Dumne(eu este cel ce ne da destinul atunci cand ne nastem% Dar tot Al ne ofera si sansa de a face o alegere, sau poate mai multe de3a lungul "ietii%

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Dilemma
's ! began my day early in the morning, ! as#ed myselfH do we ha"e problems with analysing different situations and how can we find the solution to a dilemma Bes, the sub+ect today is the dilemma% 5learly, we all ha"e dilemmas% &e handle them differently and sometimes we don*t handle them at all% $he tendency to split ends until the bottom of the issue is reached is the most common approach% ! thin# that dilemmas fall in the range of misteries, they are not that ob"ious, always surprising us, sol"ing the problems we ha"e through time% ! ha"e learned from past experiences that this #ind of problems, dilemmas, ussually sol"e themsel"es, and they show up right when we ha"e forgotten them or when enough time has passed and we ha"e switched focus from the initial issue% &e ha"e faced dilemmas since at school, we were gi"en our first math excercise% A"en today we are the proud owners of great dilemmasH family dilemmas, physical dilemmas, etc% !n our personal li"es we are also facing situations of not #nowing what is going on, or what had happened> because we care, we try to sol"e them, in the safest ways posible% Dilemmas or not, a lot of matters are beyond us and it would be better to +ust lea"e things ta#e their course%

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Dileme
!ncepandu3mi (iua dis de dimineata, mi3am pus urmatoarea intrebareH este oare o problema pentru ma+oritatea dintre noi sa anali(am diferite optiuni, si cum am putea iesi dintr3o dilema Da, a(i expunem dilema% 5u totii a"em dileme, asta este cert% Dar nu toti pri"im la fel, si nu toti incercam sa le re(ol"am% $endinta de a despica firul pana cand se a+unge la ba(a problemei este cea mai des intalnita% $ind sa cred ca dilema repre(inta un soi al misterului, ce"a ce nu iese la i"eala atat de repede, ci mereu ne suprinde in timp, re(ol"and problemele pe care noi incercam sa le elucidam% 'm luat aminte inca din trecut, ca acest gen de probleme, cum sunt dilemele se re(ol"a singure, si ies la i"eala exact atunci cand poate uitam de ele sau cand a trecut suficient timp pentru a ne lua gandul de la ideea initiala% 4e3am lo"it cu dilema inca din momentul in care la scoala ne3a fost data sa re(ol"am prima problema de matematica si chiar, si in (iua de a(i, suntem mandrii posesori ale unor dileme, cotidiene, familiale, de natura fi(ica, etc% ?ana si in "iata personala suntem pusi in astfel de situatii, de a nu sti ce se intampla sau ce s3a intamplat, si pentru ca ne interesea(a, mereu incercam sa re(ol"am problemele care s3au i"it, pe cai cat mai sigure% Dilema sau nu, multe lucruri nu tin de noi, si poate mai bine ar fi sa le lasam sa se desfasoare in modul lor natural%

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Di&ta %e
!t is said that the greater the distance between people, the stronger their relationships are% 'pparently, because of the distance, the number of fights is greatly diminished% &hen two people are separated li#e this, they both ha"e time to meditate upon their relationship, any problems that may cause quarrels become insignificant and the wish to see each other again grows% $he maturity of those in"ol"ed determines the depth and durability of relationships, that spread more and more li#e a spider*s web all o"er the world% &e all #now how difficult it is to maintain a long term relationship when you are separated of your lo"ed one by e"en 3CC #m% ! thin# that the basic elements of a long distance relationship areH 2 people, a considerable amount of positi"e feelings 8lo"e, lust, fondness9, a fair area between the two that would not allow an immediate meeting% 1uch a relationship 8that against the odds, sur"i"es9 ma#es us all step bac# and analyse our "ery own relationship options% 'nd let*s not forget%%%-Fnseen eyes are easily forgotten-%

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Di&ta ta
1e spune uneori ca relatiile dintre oameni sunt cu atat mai puternice si mai trainice cu cat distanta dintre ei este mai mare% 1e pare ca departarea dintre acestia face ca prile+urile de disputa sa fie foarte rare, practic inexistente% =aptul ca cele doua persoane implicate se afla la distanta mare una de alta crea(a prile+uri de meditatie asupra relatiilor dintre ele, moti"ele de disputa de"enind nesemnificati"e, totul +udecandu3se la rece si disputele se aplanea(a, crescand dorinta de a se reintalni% 0aturitatea celor implicati determina profun(imea si durabilitatea relatiilor intinse din ce in ce mai mult ca o pan(a de paian+en, acoperind din ce in ce mai multa lume% 1tim cu totii ca este foarte greu sa pastre(i o relatie de lunga durata, atunci cand de persoana iubita te despart chiar si 3CC de #ilometrii% 5onsider ca elementele de ba(a ale unei relatii la distanta, suntH doi oameni, o cantitate considerabila de sentimente po(iti"e8 amor, dragoste, dor, tan+eala9, o departare fi(ica suficient de mare care sa nu permita un contact imediat% ; astfel de legatura 8care, culmea, re(ista9 ne pune pe oricare dintre noi in situatia de a ne anali(a propriile optiuni relationale% 1i sa nu uitam%%%- ;chii care nu se "ad, se uita%%%-%

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Lo)e at "ir&t &ig(t

-%%%&ho would ha"e thought, my lo"e would be so strong, as it was at the beginning%%%- &ell this is what !lie 0icolo" used to sing in a time when we were not as cynical as today when we cannot belie"e anymore in lo"e at first sight% 'nd although opinions "ary, it does exist% $he ones who belie"e in it, can gi"e reasons for their belief% $he ones who don*t belie"e in it, refer to it as -lust at first sight-% !t wires you up, excites you, it gi"es you the hope you may ha"e lost up to that point% &hen it happens, it*s exactly the way we wanted it> the right person is li#e a lightning hitting us right in the head, wa#ing us up% A"erything is ordered by fate, for it plays a "ital role here% ?erhaps some need two or more glances to fall in lo"e% 'nd some of us #now exactly when it happens, we really feel it% &e are all waiting, e"en if we don*t admit it, for the one person we can be with for a lifetime or at least until the end of a party% ;ld people say that whoe"er has experienced this at least once should consider himself luc#y 3 for ha"ing #nown the intensity of this feeling, of this game and magic called -lo"e at first sight-%

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Drago&te la $rima )edere

-%%%5ine3ar fi cre(ut, sa iubesc cu atata putere, ca la inceput%%- Ai bine asa canta !lie 0icolo" intr3 un timp in care poate ca nu eram chiar atat de cinici incat sa nu credem cu ade"arat in dragoste la prima "edere% Desi parerile sunt impartite, ea exista% 5ei ce cred in ea, o pot argumenta% 5ei ce nu cred in ea o considera mai mult -dorinta la prima "edere-% $e electri(ea(a, iti da "iata si iti creea(a un nou soi de sperante care poate, pe un alt drum al "iatii le pierdusesi% 1i cand se intampla este exact asa cum ne3am dorit, persoana potri"ita, apare ca un fulger care ne lo"este in crestetul capului, desteptandu3ne% $otul este pus la punct de soarta, pentru ca si ea are un rol important de +ucat aici%?oate unii dintre noi a"em ne"oie de chiar doua aruncatrui de pri"iri sau chiar de mai multe pentru a ne indragosti% 1i poate ca unii stim exact cand acest lucru se intampla, poate chiar simtitm cu ade"arat% ?entru ca toti asteptam, chiar daca nu "rem sa recunoastem, acea persoana cu care putem fi, poate chiar si pentru o "iata intreaga sau macar pana la sfarsitul unei petreceri% ,atranii spun ca acel om caruia i s3a intamplat asta cel mult o data, ar trebui sa se considere norocos, pentru ca a a"ut oca(ia de a cunoaste intensitatea acestor sentimente, a acestui +oc, a acestei magii care se cheama -Dragoste la prima "edere-%

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S4eet
$he song went li#e this, right -1weets for my sweet, sugar for my honey-% 'm ! writing about this because !*m +ust cra"ing for some sweets ! #now we all ha"e cra"ings% 'nd there is nothing better than that sweet mixture that comes to the rescue% ' ca#e, a lollipop, maybe e"en an ice3 cream can help sweeten the bitterness of certain situations% 1weets often represent the ace up one*s slee"e, -the cherry on top of the ca#e-, the surprise element of a well thought3out meal% 1ome housewi"es cannot imagine not preparing something for desert at least once a wee#% ,ut still, this habit has begun to disappear, perhaps because of the multitude of fast3food, restaurants or of the fro(en foods we use or the little time we gi"e oursel"es each day for eating% &e deser"e to spoil oursel"es and get away from the monotony of fries and stea#, don*t we Do you remember the fudge candy or 5ip $he 1erbet and the 5remsnit $o some, these things used to represent moments of total relaxation, perhaps quality time spent with friends or lo"ers, at a confectionary in the corner of a street or in the li"ing room% ;ne thing is for sureH mother*s ca#e will always taste the best<

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Dul%e
?arca asa era nu -1weets for my sweet, sugar for my honey-% ?oate ca este un semn de pofta daca "a scriu despre dulce 1tiu ca toti a"em pofte% 1i nimic nu este mai indicat decat acea solutie sal"atoare care ne imbata gusturile, dulcele% ; pra+itura, o acadea, poate chiar si o inghetata, ar fi modul in care putem cateodata sa indulcim amarul unei situatii sau al unui moment% Dulcele reper(inta de foarte multe ori asul din maneca, -cireasa de pe tort- sau elementul supri(a al unei mese bine pregatite% Fnele gospodine nici nu concep sa nu pregateasca o pra+itura sau o atentie macar o data pe saptamana% Dar acest obicei a cam disparut, poate din cau(a aglomeratiei de fast food3 uri, din cau(a semipreparatelor sau a putinului timp pe care il acordam mesei (ilnice% ?apilele noastre gustati"e merita sa fie si ele rasfatate, merita sa iasa din monotonia cartofului pra+it cu friptura, nu 0ai tineti minte bomboanele fondante sau bombonelele 5ip 1erbetul si 5remshnit3ul ?entru unii aceste lucruri repre(entau odata momente de relaxare, poate chiar momente de calitate petrecute cu partenerul de "iata sau cu familia, la o cofetarie in coltul stra(ii sau in sufragerie% 5ert este un lucru, pentru fiecare dintre noiH $ortul mamei "a fie cel mai bun intotdeauna<

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T(e 4oma
!t*s funny%%%it would ha"e been best for a man to write about this sub+ect, the woman% ,ut ! thought that now, since women e"erywhere ha"e become emancipated, sharing "arious acti"ities with men 3 from changing tires to plumming 3 ! can gi"e you my opinion on 2AK% 0any years ago, beacuse of how things were bac# then, the woman*s image was undoubtedly associated with wea"ing or ba#ing ca#es on 1unday or teaching lessons for children% &omen ha"e been obedient, appearing as wea# in from of men% ,ut this so called -inferiority- only led to a sudden emancipation, gaining a long waited right% &omen became smarter, more acti"e, and from wea"ers they ended up being presidents of transnational companies, important pawns in politics, RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRR% 4ow a woman can be chic , she can be both a wife and a mother, she can be -la femme fatale- and a housewife at the same time% Bes, the -fight- G competition between men and women goes as far bac# as anyone can remember, but through it, the two parties G groups ha"e been able to praise themsel"es% ! don*t thin# that one is better than the other> there will ne"er be a winner because )od made men and women to complete each other, to li"e together and to help each other% &omen ha"e to be lo"ed, and not understood% $hat is the man*s +ob, to lo"e the woman% ,ecause a woman is a mixture of beauty, intelligence, feeling and action, she can easily ama(e or madden or
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transform e"erything around her to loo# one thousand times better than before% Bou #now what they sayH -!t was the man who disco"ered fire, but it was the woman who disco"ered how to play with it%-% ?erhaps some men reading my article won*t totally agree with my opinions, but don*t worry my dears, your turn will come soon<

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Ea5 Femeia
5iudat, poate ca mai indicat ar fi fost ca un barbat sa scrie despre acest subiect, femeia% Dar m3 am gandit ca, a"and in "edere faptul ca acum, femeia s3a emancipat si face chiar si lucruri pe care le fac si barbatii3 de la schimbat o roata la masina pana la a schimba o tea"a3 pot linistita sa "a scriu parerea mea depre A'% 'cum multi ani, pentru ca asa erau timpurile, imaginea femeii era formata din "esnica tesatoare sau cea care face pra+ituri duminica, sau mai bine acea imagine langa un grup de scolari 3 in"atatoarea% 1i de3a lungul "remii, femeia a fost supusa, a trebuit sa se expuna ca fiind slaba in fata barbatului% Dar inferioritatea femeii nu a dus decat la o emancipare subita, adica accesarea unui drept la care de multa "reme femeile ra"neau% Ale au de"enit mai destepte, au de"enit mai acti"e, si de la imaginea de tesatoare au a+uns presedinti de companii transnationale, pioni importanti in politica, ba chiar au a+uns sa aibe gri+a de tot ceea ce inseamna barbatul% 'cum femeia poate fi cocheta, poate fi si sotie si mama, poate fi femeie fatala, si gospodina in acelasi timp% Da, lupta aceasta dataintre barbat si femeie este "eche de cand lumea, dar numai asa cele doua parti au reusit sa se e"identie(e% ?arerea mea este ca nu exista cine"a mai bun in aceasta lupta, si ca nicodata nu "a fi un in"ingator in ceea ce pri"este femeia si barbatul ?entru ca Dumne(eu i3a facut pentru a se completa, pentru a trai impreuna, si pentru a se a+uta% =emeile sunt facute pentru a fi iubite, nu intelese% 'sta3i +ob3ul barbatului, sa
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iubeasca femeia% ?entru ca ea repre(inta un amalgam de frumusete, inteligenta, sentiment si actiune% =emeia poate foarte usor uimi, poate foarte usor sa innebuneasca si sa faca ca tot ceea ce este pe langa ea sa para de o mie de ori mai frumos% 1titi cum se (iceH barbatul a descoperit focul, dar femeia a descoperit cum sa se +oace cu el% ?oate ca barbatii care "or citi nu "or fi de acord pe deplin cu ceea ce am scris, dar fiti fara gri+a dragii mei, urmati si "oi, si atunci sa "edeti<

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6ealou&,
-$o me !t has ne"er happened to me<-, this would be the standard answer ! would get if ! started as#ing around about +ealousy% Pealousy is one of the generous sub+ects> about it, boo#s ha"e been written and songs ha"e been composed and furthermore, it is the top leading sub+ect for tal#s o"er coffee between girls% 1ome say it comes from the lac# of confidence, others that the cause of it is usually found in past failed relationships, and actually it*s quite difficult to define such a state% !f we were to follow dictionary definitions, +ealousy is -fear of losing a partner or possession to a ri"al, en"y-% $he theme of +ealousy is a problem of which e"erybody ma#es a big deal, one way or another% A"ery couple experiences +ealousy at a certain point% Pealousy comes from the lac# of confidence in someone else*s lo"e% !f someone suffers of +ealousy, that usually means that he or she is not capable to corectly assess hisGher emotions% ;ne can lose ob+ecti"ity and cannot tell anymore wheather the reasons are real or not% Bou all #now, since we were all +ealous, how it is to only see the cause of +ealousy and nothing else% $he intensity of the feeling shows +ust how -addicted- a person is to another% ,ut what woman doesn*t li#e her man to be a little more considerate when it comes to her at least !n conclusion, ! say that women are far more +ealous than men, but only from what ! ha"e seen so far% 'nd yes, +ealousy is a bad thing that may sometimes be good%
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Gelo#ie
- 0ie 4u mi s3a intamplat niciodata<-, acesta ar fi raspunsul ce3i drept standard, pe care l3as primi daca as intreba in +urul meu despre gelo(ie% Aa repre(inta unul dintre subiectele generoase, despre care s3au scris carti, s3au compus cantece si mai mult, este printre preferintele tuturor fetelor atunci cand se intalnesc sa "orbeasca la o cafea% Fnii spun ca se naste din neincredere, altii ca pro"ine din cau(a unor foste relatii esuate, dar de fapt este foarte greu sa definim o astfel de stare% Daca ar fi sa ne luam dupa DAI, gelo(ia este un -sentiment chinuitor si obsedant pe care il pro"oaca in sufletul cui"a banuiala sau certitudinea ca fiinta iubita ii este necredincioasa-%$ema gelo(iei este o problema pe care, intr3un fel sau altul, toata lumea o problemati(ea(a% =iecare cuplu este marcat intr3un fel sau altul de gelo(ie% )elo(ia "ine din lipsa de incredere in dragostea sau iubirea cui"a% Daca un om sufera de gelo(ie de obicei el nu este capabil sa3si aprecie(e trairile si framantarile sale sufletesti% Al pierde din obiecti"itatea aprecierilor si nu3si poate da seama nici de faptul ca moti"ele sunt ireale% 1titi si "oi, ca doar toti am fost gelosi, cum in fata ochilor nu "edeam decat obiectul gelo(iei, iar furia batea pulsul in gat% =orta sentimentului de gelo(ie arata si ni"elul de dependenta fata de cine"a sau ce"a% Dar carei femei nu3i place sa simta ca barbatul este un pic mai mult decat atent, in ceea ce o pri"este $rag conclu(ia ca femeile sunt mult mai geloase decat barbatii, dar asta din ce am "a(ut cu ochii
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mei pana acum% 1i da, gelo(ia este un lucru rau, dar care cateodata face si bine%

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Ho33,
1ubsequent to a tal# !*"e had with two friends about the term -hobby-, ! came up with the idea of writing about it in today*s article% !*"e heard about all sorts of acti"ities and optionsH watching mo"ies, listening to music, ta#ing wal#s, cars, hunting, playing cards, dancing, hi#ing and e"en +ust -chillin*- that is wasting time and not doing anything% 2obbies are actually the things which interest us and are not wor#3related% $hey*re what we en+oy doing in our spare time, in order to relax or ha"e fun% $here are people who ta#e their hobbies to the extreme and there are people who transform theirs into acti"ities that are practical, useful and efficient% 2obbies enhance the wellbeing of the people who ha"e them, for they stimulate the imagination and the free expression of personalities G y% ?eople see hobbies differently% 1ome consider them to be a waste of time and totally uninteresting 3 -2e*s a grown man and he spends all this time building cars out of matches<-, others, on the contrary, belie"e that through hobbies, they can explore parts of their personalities that are otherwise left untouched 3 -! sit in my office all day long, therefore ! find dancing liberating-% ?eople are actually defined by their hobbies% !f you really want to get to #now someone, +ust as# what his passions are> they will tell you more than you can imagine about that person% !t must be ta#en into account that hobbies represent free3chosen and fulfilling acti"ities, mainly dri"en by the wish for self3satisfaction%
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Ho33,
Flterior unei discutii purtate cu doi prieteni despre termenul de hobby, mi3a "enit ideea de a scrie despre aceasta tema% 'm au(it tot felul de optiuniH filme, mu(ica, plimbari, masini, "anatoare, carti de +oc, dansul, mersul pe munte, ba chiar si lene"itul a iesit in calea urechii mele% 2obby3urile sunt de fapt acele lucruri care ne interesea(a, in afara profilului de munca% Aste ceea ce ne pasionea(a sa facem in timpul liber, pentru a ne relaxa si a ne umple timpul intr3un mod frumos% Axista persoane care isi duc hobby3urile pana la extrem, dar si persoane care pot transforma acest lucru in ce"a material, practic, folositor si eficient% 2obby3urile sporesc buna dispo(itie si randamentul, deoarece stimulea(a imaginatia si manifestarea libera a personalitatii% ;amenii pri"esc diferit indeletnicirile din timpul liber% Fnii le considera o pierdere de "reme si lipsite total de interes 3 -;m in toata firea si sta cu orele sa faca masinute din bete de chibrit-, altii, dimpotri"a, cred ca in acest fel isi pot manifesta si alte laturi ale personalitatii, care altfel nu sunt exploatate deloc 3 -1tau toata (iua la birou, asa incat dansul este pentru mine o eliberare-% Dar hobby3urile a+ung sa defineasca o persoana, in aspecte pana atunci ascunse in intimitatea fiintei% Daca "reti sa cunosteti pe cine"a in profun(ime, intreabati3l ce pasiuni are, iar ele iti "or de("alui mai multe decat ti3ai imaginat despre acel om% $rebuie tinut cont ca hobby3urile repre(inta o alegere libera, moti"ata in

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primul rand de satisfactia interioara, a unei acti"itati care echilibrea(a si implineste%

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Ig ora %e
!gnorance 3 tough sub+ect> we all sense it sometimes% 1ince it is something so tipically human, ignorance is bound to appear in e"erybody*s life at a certain time G e"entually% Deliberate or not, it is the most disturbing thing and it creates some of the most unpleasant psychological states% ! don*t thin# there is man on this Aarth who hasn*t, at least once, been ignored or who hasn*t himself, in turn, ignored somebody else% &e are sometimes forced to ignore, as we try to a"oid certain stressful and aw#ward situations% 's ignorance is not innocent, but a sin ne"ertheless, someone always gets hurt from it% !f one*s defiance is too RRRgreatlyRRRRR displayed, the man sub+ects himself to the ris#s of losing a lot in life and passing by important chances that he may be gi"en> ignorance is not the absence of #nowledge, but the refusal to gain it% 'nd now ! will turn my attention to the full half of the glass% yes, it was good when ! reali(ed there were some things worth ignoring, as later on ! benefited from doing it> ! a"oided uncomfortable situations out of which )od only #nows how ! could ha"e escaped% !gnorance hits you on the head, and as they say, the road to hell is pa"ed with good intentions RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR % $oday, it is "ery easy to be ignorant% !t is "ery accessible%%%%

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Ig ora ta
!gnoranta 3 dur subiect% 5F totii o simtim cateodata% ?entru ca sta in legea firii, ignoranta poate fi pre(enta in "iata tuturor la un moment dat% 7oita sau nu, este lucrul care deran+ea(a cel mai mult si care creea(a aproape cele mai urate stari psihologice% 4u cred ca exista om pe acest pamant care, macar o data pe parcursul "ietii, sa nu se fi simtit ignorat sau sa nu fi ignorat el insusi pe cine"a% 5ateodata suntem ne"oiti sa ignoram, gasind in aceasta cale solutia perfecta de a scapa de un stres, catusi de mic% 1i pentru ca ignoranta nu este inocenta ci pacat, mereu trebuie sa sufere cine"a din cau(a ei% Daca dramul de sfidare la un om este mare el risca sa piarda foarte multe din drumul lui, risca sa treaca pe langa niste aspecte ale "ietii esentiale si pline de lucruri capti"ante si frumoase, pentru ca ade"arata ignoranta nu este absenta cunoasterii, ci refu(ul de a o dobandi% 1i acum sa pri"esc si partea plina a paharului% Da, a fost bine cand mi3am dat seama ca este ca(ul sa ignor anumite lucruri, pentru ca ulterior nu am a"ut decat de castigat, e"itand situatii penibile din care numai eu stiu cum as fi iesit% ?ana la urma ignoranta te lo"este in cap si cum se spune, ca drumul spre iad e pa"at cu bune intentii,in sensul ca drumul cel mai simplu te duce aiurea, si ignoranta este una dintre ele% ?entru ca e foarte usor a(i, sa fi ignorant%

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I li7e t(i&
&hat do we li#e G en+oy doing ' lot of things, that is when we remember them% 'nd when that happens, whoe"er is between us and what ma#es us happy should run for co"er% 's far as the things we want are concerned, we always find a way to get them% $here is nothing we wouldn*t do so that e"erything turns out the way we want them to% ,ut you #now how it is, the more you wish for something, the smaller chances are it will happen% $hat +ust the way things are% &e en+oy spoiling oursel"es and li"ing it up, with the people around us, with the boyfriend or with the girlfriend% &e en+oy playing games, we li#e intrigue, we en+oy telling stories, sociali(ing, complicating our li"es, sol"ing mysteries and snooping around% 'nd we also li#e hearing the person next to us simply sayingH -! li#e this-% &e feel content when we hear that% ?erhaps -! li#e this- offers that feeling of security e"erybody is searching for% 'nd when we find that comfortable sensation, that*s when we are happy% &hen was the last time you said to somebodyH -! li#e this<-

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Imi $la%e8
5e ne place sa facem 0ulte lucruri, atunci cand ne aducem aminte de ele% Dar si cand ne aducem aminte, "ai si amar de cei care stau in calea fericirii noastre% 5red ca in ceea ce pri"este lucrurile pe care ni le dorim, suntem de neintrecut in a le reali(a% 1i suntem capabili sa mutam si muntii din loc, ca totul sa iasa asa cum ne "rem% Dar stiti si "oi cum e, cu cat iti doresti mai mult ce"a sa se intample, cu atat nu se "a intampla% ?entru ca aceasta este legea firii% 1i ne place sa ne alintam, sa ne bucuram, sa ne traim "iata, cu oamenii de langa noi, cu iubitul sau iubita si cu tot ceea ce ne incon+oara% 4e place sa ne +ucam, ne place sa intrigam, ne mai place sa po"estim, sa sociali(am, sa ne intortochiem "iata, sa de(legam mistere si sa ne bagam coada in tot felul de situatii% 1i ne mai place sa au(im cum cel de langa noi ne (ice simpluH -!mi place-% 'tunci ne simtitm oarecum multumiti, poate si satisfacuti% ?oate ca acest -imi place- ofera si sentimentul de siguranta pe care ma+oritatea oamenilor il tot cauta% 1i atunci cand gasim sen(atia de confort, acolo suntem cei mai fericiti% De cand nu ati mai spus unei persoaneH - !mi place<-

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I t(e u 7 o4
!t*s good that e"erything is bac# to normal, with our daily routines +ust waiting around the corner% 'lthough it is an ambiguous sub+ect, the un#nown, in my opinion, is a gateway to disco"ery% =ull of mistery, the un#nown pushes you to -dig around-, and sometimes you get caught in its whirl% Bou can end up in a place where you do not #now the people and you don*t #now their life style, their habits or the surroundings% ,ut you sit and ponder and the un#nown can turn into a mystical game, in which you get caught, ama(ed by the wonderful things you disco"er% $he same thing can happen when meeting someone new% Bou feel a dri"e to disco"er that person, you are o"erwhelmed by the thirst for #nowledge% $he ability to adapt plays a "ital role in such a situation% !f you cannot adapt, your mood will change and you will become a bit stiff and your bad mood will be affecting the people around you% Bou may feel exiled% $o me, the un#nown, whether it is material or spiritual, always represents an intriguing3moment gi"ing game, in which ! get caught% !t is a challenge% 'lthough it is e"erywhere around us 3 at a street light or around the corner 3 we unconsciously li"e with it, gi"ing oursel"es reference points and opinions%

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e%u o&%ut

,ine am re"enit in lumea normala si in rutina (ilnica care ne astepta cu bratele deschise% Desi un subiect ambiguu, necunoscutul este dupa parerea mea, o portita catre descoperire% ?lin de mister, necunoscutul te indeamna sa faci -sapaturi- si cateodata esti prins in "altoarea lui% ?oti a+unge intr3un loc unde nu cunosti oamenii, nici stilul lor de "iata, mai mult nici impre+urimile sau obiceiurile% Dar stai sa te gandesti ca acest necunoscut poate de"eni un +oc mistic, in care esti prins si ramai uimit cate lucruri frumoase poti descoperi% 'celasi lucru se poate intampla si cand cunosti o persoana noua% 'i sen(atia ca ce"a te impinge sa descoperi, fiind capturat de "alul cunoasterii% ?uterea de adaptare repre(inta aici un factor existential% Daca nu te adapte(i, risti sa iti pier(i starea de bine, sa de"ii un pic rigid, poate chiar prost dispus sau sa imparti si altora starea ta% $e poti simti exilat% ?entru mine, necunoscutul, fie el material sau spiritual, intotdeauna repre(inta un +oc in care ma prind, traind momente intrigante% Kepre(inta o pro"ocare% Desi se afla peste tot, pe langa noi3 la un semafor, sau la un colt de strada3 traim cu el inconstient, construindu3ne repere si pareri%

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Still
'nother one of the "ery hot days ! used to wait for when it was hea"ily raining, has passed% A"entually, we are all affected by their wilting heat% $oday ! would li#e to tell you what the word -still- means to me% 1ometimes ! feel that -stillrepresents the hope ! always #eep in my soul% 's it is not good to wish for something in "ain since it is a waste of time, some of us push oursel"es to hold on to this -still-% 1urprises are usually what trigger this sort of opinion about certain things we thought lost or to which we ne"er paid enough attention% &e are ama(ed and -still- comes as a than# you, as a great satisfaction% ?erhaps people that are still waiting for wars not to be started anymore, or for e"erybody to turn good, are a bit nai"e or innocent% ,ut under no circumstances blameworthy% ?erhaps -still- is not displayed by e"erybody, but ! am quite sure that it*s there, in each and e"eryone of us% ! wish you a peaceful e"ening%

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I %a
' mai trecut inca o (i din acest calup de (ile calduroase pe care eu le asteptam cu bratele deschise, si care in momentul cand ploua nesperat de mult, eu inca speram sa apara% 1i, intr3un final, ele ne toropesc pe fiecare cu (apuseala si caldura lor apasatoare% '(i as "rea sa "a spun ce inseamna cu"antul -!nca- pentru mine% 5ateodatata stau si ma gandesc ca acest -inca- repre(inta speranta pe care o port mereu in suflet% 1i stiind ca nu este bine sa speri la un lucru in (adar, pentru ca ar repre(enta o pierdere totala de timp si o in"estitie proasta, unii dintre noi ne fortam sa nu pierdem acest -inca- ce ne urmareste (i de (i% 1urpri(ele sunt cele care declansea(a in general aceasta parere despre anumite lucruri pe care noi le credeam pierdute, sau carora nu le acordam atentia necesara% Fmirea ne cuprinde si -inca- "ine ca o multumire, ca o satisfactie, ca un raspuns po(iti" la ceea ce noi credeam pierdut% ?oate ca oamenii care inca asteapta ca ra(boaiele sa nu se mai declanse(e, sau ca oamenii din +urul lor sa fie toti buni, sunt un pic nai"i sau inocenti in gandire% Dar in nici un ca( de blamat% ?oate ca acest -inca- nu este afisat de toata lumea si nici expus la scena deschisa, dar con"ingerea mea este ca in noi, in toti el exista% 1eara senina%

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I tima%,
!ntimacy is something we all want at least at a certain point in our li"es% ! find this sub+ect difficult to treat because practically nobody expresses their opinions on it openly% =rom the anti"irus software we install on our computers, to our mobile phones, the right to intimacy has become a problem equally current as it is serious% ?erhaps the cause of it is the thirst for information we see in all the people around us% ,ut ! thin# that the mistery and thrill you find in waiting are much better than #nowing e"erything the second something happens% !ntimacy must be something "ery special, well #ept and shared only with the people we are truly comfortable with and which we trust 3 although trust is so "ariable% $he quality of life for a couple is also dependant on intimacy issues% $he truth is that anyone would miss it if they were to lose their right to intimacy%

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I timitate
!ntimitatea este un lucru pe care toti il a"em, sau ni3l dorim la un moment dat in "ietile noastre% 5onsider ca acest subiect este greu de discutat pentru ca nimeni 3 sau poate ma+oritatea3 nu isi exprima parerile la scena deschisa despre acest lucru% !ncepand de la anti"irusii pe care ii instalam in calculator, pana la telefonul mobil, dreptul la intimitate a de"enit o problema pe cat de actuala pe atat de serioasa% ?oate ca setea de informatie despre persoanele din +urul nostru o cau(ea(a% Dar eu cred ca acel dram de suspans sau de mister este intotdeauna mult mai incitant decat sa aflii totul din secunda 2 sau decat sa ai acces continuu la ideile, stilul de "iata si modelul de caracter al celor din +urul tau% !ntimitatea trebuie sa fie un lucru special, pastrat bine si impartit doar cu persoanele cu care ne simtim intr3ade"ar bine si in care a"em cat de cat incredere3 desi increderea este un lucru "ariabil% 1i calitatea "ietii de cuplu tine de intimitate% 'de"arul este ca nu cred ca exista cine"a care, daca ar pierde dreptul la intimitate, nu ar regreta%

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Pla,
's time has passed and ! ha"e grown, ! reali(ed that adults play too% ! found it hilarious% 'lthough their games are not as simple as the ones children play, they are +ust as capti"ating% $hey require a different le"el of intelligence as they are a bit more complicated% 1ometimes, a playful dialogue or a playful glance can be fun% 2owe"er, games can be also ta#en seriously% 1ome people lo"e to -play-, others don*t% =or playing, talent is required> and more specificallyH a colourful personality, communication s#ills and that feeling when you #now the right moment for a +o#e% !*"e often as#ed myselfH &hat is life ' playground or a battle field 's ! am an ad"ocate of tragicomedy, !*"e always tried to see the glass as half full and to send that funny, comfortable, care free "ibe to loosen up the ambiance% $he important thing is to ha"e decent, constructi"e games that will hopefully end up the way we want them to% 'fter all, we all play, some, more seriously than the others% 'nd who #nows ;ut of innocent playing, serious things may come that may last for a lifetime%

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I 9oa%a
$recand "remea si crescand, mi3am dat seama ca si oamenii mari se +oaca% 1i acest lucru nu a facut decat sa ma amu(e copios% 1i desi +ocurile lor sunt la fel de simple ca si cele ale unor copii la inceput de drum, ele sunt la fel de capti"ante% 1unt poate doar la un alt ni"el de inteligent, si cu un pic mai mult substrat% 5ateodata este placut un schimb de replici, o pri"ire aruncata in +oaca% Dar exista si re"ersul medaliei, pentru ca adesea +ocurile pot fi luate si in serios% Fnii oameni adora -+oaca-, si pun ghilimelele pentru a ma face inteleasa, altii nu o aprecia(a% ?entru a te +uca este catodata ne"oie de un pic mai mult talent, de o personalitate cu spirit, de un dar al "orbirii de("oltat si de -feeling- ca sa iti poti da seama cand este momentul unei mici glumite sau nu% De multe ori mi3am pus intrebarea urmatoareH 5e este "iata Fn teren de +oaca sau un ra(boi continuu =iind adepta tragi3comicului, mereu am incercat sa pri"esc partea plina a paharului si sa infirip acel spirit de gluma care sa destinda atmosfera% Dar important este ca -+oacasa fie constructi"a, cu bun simt, si e"entual cu niste re(ultate pe masura asteptarilor% :a urma urmei, toti ne +ucam, unii in gluma altii mai in serios% 1i cine stie ?oate ca dintr3o +oaca ne"ino"ata se nasc lucruri serioase, pentru o "iata intreaga%

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Hal" Mea&ure&
0y friends, this is a sub+ect asRRrealistical as it can get RRRRRR% 2alf measures% !*"e surprisingly noticed that e"en the "inaigrette and the salt we use for salads ha"e been hal"ed% &hat about the fact that our necessary daily rest time has turned into 33hour3naps 2as this become our life style Do these hal"ings reflect onto our personal li"es 'ffirmati"e< ?erhaps some of you will be against this% ! remember hearing in a con"ersation, not long ago, the term -mini3friend-% 'lthough it sounds so funny, for some of us this represents the "ery contrary of a life principle, that of being a full and complete human being, as far as both actions and feelings go G are concerned% )oing along with such a *1G2* relationship means holding bac# in certain aspects of it% 'lthough it sounds easy when reading about it, holding bac# means not getting in"ol"ed% !f we follow the lead and dig around, we*ll get to the conclusion that it*s not worth it and the half measures behind which we hide, out of the desire to ha"e more time and less stress, only ruin ideas or life principles which we once considered perfectly good% Fnconsciously, we sometimes fall into such relationships, pushed by the insecurity that totally brea#ing up with the person would bring% ! call that a sacrifice% ' sacrifice which, later on, can pro"e to ha"e been done for nothing%

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6umatati de ma&ura
?rieteni, un subiect pe cat se poate de realist a(i% Pumatati de masura% 'm constatat cu stupoare ca pana si la otetul sau sarea pe care o punem la salate, am in+umatatit cantitatea% 5a sa nu mai (ic de odihna atat de necesara noua, care si ea la randul ei s3a transformat in acele 3 ore de pus capul pe perna rapid% 1a fi de"enit un stil de "iata al nostru ;are sa se reflecte aceste in+umatatiri si in "iata noastra personala 'firmati"< ?oate unii dintre "oi "eti fi impotri"a% !mi aduc aminte, nu demult am au(it o con"ersatie in care se pomenea termenul -mini prieten-% Desi suna atat de haios, pentru unii dintre noi repre(inta exact opusul unui principiu de "iata, de a fi un om intreg% 'tat prin actiuni cat si prin sentimente% ' fi adeptul unei astfel de relatie, 1G2, inseamna a fi re(er"at din niste puncte de "edere% 1i desi pare simplu cand citesti, a fi re(er"at inseamna a nu te implica, intr3 un final% Daca mergem pe fir si facem sapaturi, a+ungem la conclu(ia ca nu merita, si aceasta -+umatate de masura- dupa care ne ascundem, poate din dorinta de a a"ea mai mult timp si mai putin stress, nu face decat sa strice niste idei sau principii de "iata, pe care odinioara le pri"eam ca fiind perfect sanatoase% !nconstient, cateodata ne angrenam intr3o astfel de relatie, impulsionati fiind de ideea sumbra a renuntarii la cealalta persoana% Fn sacrificiu, il numesc eu% Fn sacrificiu care, ulterior se poate do"edi a fi %%%degeaba%

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La Mi&to i e gle#a :;;

$he wonderful situations that ! see immediately ma#e me laugh% 's e"eryone displays their humoristic talent the best way they #now how, ! can only interpret things with an ob+ecti"ity that 0'I!0'::B tic#les my sense of humor% 5learly, in trend is -Pust playin*% ! came in contact with "arious types of people, one abo"e the other, with a humoristic sense 3 i call them -talented-3 maybe o"er the edge, but with a high rate of success, at girls% Bou see, maybe that*s why it is so attracti"e this ironic or rough sense of humor% $o be honest, i thin# that for ma#ing these types of +o#es, there is no need for 3rd degree equations, but the ones that are li#e that do ha"e a certain charm% 1erious or not, -+ust playing*- wor#s, with a little salt and pepper, because it*s fun% 'nd yes, nothing is funnier than seeing your belo"ed friend falling in a hole which you made especially for him, or e"en better mo"ing his bed in the middle of the hay% 1ometimes, we ta#e it seriously% &e must probably, as indi"iduals, ha"e a certain sense in order to choose the right moment to do the -+ust playing*- to a friend% 'nd maybe, that ma#es us a bit more special than the rest% Aither way, whoe"er has in"ented -+ust playing*-, was a remar#able person% ,y -remar#able-, feel free to understand and adapt as you wish%%%

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La mi&to
0inunatele iposta(e pe care le "ad ma fac sa ma amu( copios% 1i cum fiecare indi"id isi etalea(a dupa cum stie mai bine talentul umoristic, eu nu pot decat sa interprete( cu un obiecti"ism care imi gadila simtul umorului la maxim% 5lar, a(i se poarta misto*3ul% 'm cunoscut fel si fel de persoane care mai de care, cu un feeling umoristic3 talentati, le (ic eu3 poate usor exagerat, dar cu o cota ridicata de impresionism la fete% 7edeti, simtul umorului un pic neslefuit sau ironic poate si atrage% 1incera sa fiu, nu cred ca pentru a face un pic de misto iti trebuie cine stie ce fel de ecuatie de gradul 3, dar oricum cei ce sunt asa au un pic de farmec% 0ai in gluma mai in serios, se poarta misto3ul, cu sare si piper, ca e mai amu(ant% 1i da, primea(a sotiile facute pe seama celorlalti% ?entru ca nimic nu este mai frumos decat sa iti "e(i prietenul calcand intr3o groapa de tine pregatita, sau mai bine de atat, mutat cu patul pe camp% 5ateodata, multi le luam in serios% ?robabil trebui ca indi"iduali, sa a"em un simt deosebit pentru a ne alege momentele pentru a face o mica ghidusie unui prieten% 1i probabil acest simt ne face un pic mai deosebiti decat restul% ;ricum, cine a in"entat -misto3ul-, a fost un om deosebit% ?rin -deosebit-, intelegeti si adaptati dupa plac%%%

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Huma Nature
&hene"er we are "ery sure of oursel"es, or when there is something that must be done perfectly, or when e"erything is going according to plan, a small problem will surely appear and it will mess up the natural course of e"ents% &hen we feel li#e we are on cloud no%@ or when we find that harmony that seems to be answer to all our problems, there will always be that element which brings our feet bac# on the ground% 's --------when there is a law there*s no bargaining--------, we ha"e to obey the rules, e"en though they are only made to be bro#en% $hese necessities that ha"e been imposed by the laws of 8the9 human nature ha"e e"ol"ed alongside humanity, determining changes of the moral basis of human relationships% $oday, if you do a good deed, or stand out with something, people around you will surely +udge you thin#ing that you ha"e a hidden ob+ecti"e% ,ut as day follows night and with each passing year we change our beliefs, e"erything goes on naturally and nothing should be a surprise anymore% $he laws of human nature also say that each of us has a soul mate and we are supposed to e"entually find him or her% $his isn*t about ?rince 5harming riding a flying white horse, but about the inner peace many of us wish for% 2uman nature laws represent continuity, with both good and bad% &hether we understand it or not, it*s up to us% 2a"e a great day<

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Legea "irii
!ntotdeauna cand suntem siguri pe noi sau pe un lucru care ne dorim sa iasa perfect, sau cand tot ceea ce ne3am propus se desfasoara conform planului, trebuie sa se i"easca o mica chichita care sa impiedice cursul firesc al intamplarilor% 5and simtim ca pasim de pe un nor pe altul, cand suntem incon+urati de o armonie ce ni se pare solutia perfecta pentru toate problemele cotidiene, "a exista mereu acel element ce ne "a aduce din nou cu picioarele pe pamant% 1i cum unde3i leg nu e tocmeala, mereu trebuie sa ne conformam reguluilor, chiar daca ele sunt facute pentru a fi incalcate% 'ceste necesitati impuse de legea firii s3 au modificat odata cu e"olutia oamenilor, antrenand schimbari si la ni"elul ba(elor morale ale relatiilor umane% !n (iua de a(i, daca faci ce"a bun, sau iesi cu ce"a in e"identa, clar "ei fi +udecat de restul ca a"and un scop ascuns% Dar asa cum dupa noapte "ine (i si cum de la an la an ne schimbam conceptiile, pe masura experientei acumulate totul in "iata este normal si nimic nu ar trebui sa ne mai suprinda% $ot legea firii spune ca pentru fiecare exista un suflet pereche si ca normal este ca fiecare dintre noi sa il gasim% 4u e "orba despre printul pe calul alb innaripat, ce3l asteptam sa e"ade(e din po"estile bunicii, ci despre linistea sufelteasca pe care multi ne3o dorim% :egea firii repre(inta continuitatea, cu bune si rele% Daca o "om intelege, depinde numai de noi% ; (i frumoasa<

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Limit&
$he warm morning, with the sun rays that were unintentionally ma#ing my eyes shed tears, got me thin#ing about human limits% ! didn*t do some stupid test li#e standing in the sun until it hurt, but it occured to me that ! could be gi"ing the impression ! was crying and that wasn*t the case% !*"e thought of limits% 1omeone told me that whoe"er #nows his own limits, is a powerful man% $hat is true indeed, but how does one get to #now their limits $he answer came immediatlyH by trying G testing< ;ur passions ha"e no limits, perhaps the amount of chocolate we would sometimes eat in stressful situations doesn*t really ha"e a limit, e"en speed isn*t really limited anymore% ,ut what is, ! wonder% $here*s the limit of common sense, there*s an age limit, there are limited people> all these limits exist because we create them% $here are also those people who li"e their li"es without any limits% &ithout pre+udice, in total freedom, not depending on anybody or anything% !n my opinion, not e"erything is appealing from the beginning, and the best way to go is to disco"er things bit by bit in order to build up expectations and surprises% ?erhaps each day we disco"er something new in our own personalities, a limit or a endurance quota that surprises us% 2a"e a wonderful day<

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Limite
Dimineata cald cu ra(ele ei de soare care fara a a"ea intentie rea imi faceau ochii sa lacrime(e, m3a dus cu gandul spre limitele omenesti% 4u am facut unul dintre acele teste stupide, de genul -stau in soare pana nu mai pot- dar m3am gandit ca s3ar putea sa imi lacrime(e ochii si sa las impresia ca as plange, ceea ce nu era ade"arat% 03am gandit la limite% 5ine"a mi3a (is ca cine isi cunoaste limitele, este un om puternic% !ntr3ade"ar dar cum putem sa a+ungem sa ne cunoastem limitele 1i raspunsul a "enit necontenitH doar daca incercam< ?asiunile noastre nu au limite, poate ca nici cantitatea ciocolatii pe care ne3o dorim sa o mancam in momente de stress nu ar a"ea limita, si nici macar "ite(a nu prea mai are limita% Dar ce are , ma intreb eu% Axista limita bunului simt 8<9, exista o limita de "arsta, exista oameni limitati, exista toate acestea pentru ca noi oamenii le cream% Dar mai este si categoria aceea a lumii, care traiesc "iata fara limite% =ara pre+udecati, intr3o libertate totala, nedepin(ind de nimeni si nimic% Dupa parerea mea, nu toate lucrurile au farmec asa dintr3 o data, si mai bine este sa mai punem cate un stop de fiecare data cand credem de cu"iinta, asta pentru a mari asteptarile si supri(ele% ?oate ca (i de (i descoperim cate ce"a nou la personalitatile noastre, o limita, un barem de re(istenta care sa ne suprinda% ; (i minunata<

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Magi%
$oday is about magic, ! don*t #now why but this is what ! want% ' lot of you wish they had magical powers% ! wonder what would the price be for ha"ing such powers ! thin# that such gifted people actually pay with their own personalities% $hey would always be aware of their powers and they would always #now that they could change something% $here are poeple who don*t belie"e in magic% ! do% ! belie"e in the magic of the moment, in the beauty of the things we can do in order to gladden our souls% =rom wac#y gifts to certain states, either of +oy or ecstasy% &hen we were children, we were fascinated by the circus, by +uggling, and when the rabbit would pop out of the hat we would be delighted% 'nd we would always as# oursel"es how can a man le"itate% $he tric#s used to get our attention and ma#e us both happy and intrigued% $heir secrets were un#nown to us and made us eager to find out what was going on behind the act of illusion% ?erhaps we consider some moments in our li"es magical% 0oments in which we were excited and thrilled because certain wishes of ours ha"e miraculously come true% RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% 0agic must be loo#ed upon as something good% &hat ma#es it so intriguing is the un#nown and its power to influence%

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Magie
'(i magie, nu stiu de ce, dar asa "reau% 0ulti dinte "oi cred ca si3ar dori sa aibe puteri magice% 1tau sa ma gandesc daca pentru a a"ea un astfel de dar, nu ar trebui sa platim 5onsider ca cei ce sunt astfel in(estrati, platesc chiar cu propria lor personalitate% 'r fi mereu la dispo(itia acestor puteri si mereu ar sti, ca pot schimba ce"a% 1unt unele persoane care nu cred in magie% Au personal, cred in magie% Dar cred in magia momentului% !n frumusetea lucrurilor pe care putem sa le facem, cu mana noastra, pentru a face suflete fericite% De la cadouri tra(nite, pana la a facilita anumite stari, fie de bucurie, fie de exta(% 5and eram mici, eram fascinati de circ, de +onglerii, iar in momentul in care aparea iepurasul din palarie, eram foarte incantati% 1i mereu ne intrebam cum putea le"ita o persoana, intr3un moment de ilu(ionism% $rucurile ne captau atentia si ne faceau fericiti, si intrigati% 1ecretul lor ne era necunoscut si ne facea dornici de a afla ce se ascunde in spatele ilu(ionismului% ?oate unele momente din "iata noastra ni s3au parut magice% 0omente in care ne3am emotionat, deoarece, ca prin minune, s3au indeplinit anumite dorinte, care nu pareau a fi reali(abile% :ucruri care pentru noi contau datorita magiei sau nu, s3au ade"erit% 0agia trebuie pri"ita ca pe un lucru bun si luata ca atare% 1i ce o fac atat de intriganta, sunt necunoscutul si puterea de influenta%

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T(e Sea Fore)er

! was loo#ing forward to going to the sea side since last year% $he feeling grows stronger and stronger all the time and with each passing year ! miss my sea more and more% *1he* is always there waiting for us% $he sea absorbs the thoughtsRRRRRRR of the lonely which imagine themsel"es as tiny signs on the sea shore, washed by the wa"es of feeling and thought% $he "ibe ! get when going to the seaside is always the same% $he feeling of freedom is e"erywhere% !t recharges people, gi"ing them the strength to go on% 't night, while sitting on the shore, ! reali(ed how small we are in this world% $he sea strengthens% 'lthough a bit restless, seagulls were flying o"er it and the shells were the same as ! #new them sice ! was a #id% ! wished ! could stay there fore"er% Aach wa"e, created in the offing, would end up brea#ing on the shore, bringing before me more shells which ! gladly admired% Aach time ! lea"e the seaside ! also lea"e behind a part of my soul, so that !*ll come bac# for it% $o me, the sea means continuity% $he rest remains co"ered in dar#ness and at night, my sea deser"es her nameH -,lac#-%

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Marea5 i totdeau a
'steptam inca de anul trecut sa a+ung la mare% De fiecare data sentimentul este din ce in ce mai puternic, si parca de la an la an imi este mai mare drag si dor de ea, de marea mea% Aa este mereu acolo, asteptandu3ne% 0area absoarbe gandurile singuraticilor ce se imaginea(a a fi un punct mic pe malul ei, "arsand sentimente si ratiuni in "alurile ei puternice% 'tmosfera este aceeasi de fiecare data cand a+ung la mare% 1entimentul de libertate este omnipre(ent si moti"ea(a% !ncarca omul pentru a merge mai departe% 1eara, stand pe malul marii am reali(at cat de mici suntem in aceasta lume% 0area ofera putere% Desi un pic agitata, pescarusii o sur"olau, iar scoicile erau tot acelea care le stiam inca de mica copila% 0i3as fi dorit sa raman acolo, tot restul "ietii% =iecare "al ce se forma in larg, a+ungea la mal pentru a3si sfarsi existenta, aducand in fata mea multe scoici pe care le admiram cu placere% De fiecare data cand las in urma marea, las in urma si cate o particica a sufletului meu, pentru a ma intoarce cu prima oca(ie sa o recupere(% 0area repre(inta pentru mine continuitate% Kestul rSmTne En Entunerec, si noaptea marea mea Esi meritS numele ei de neagrS%

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Mela %(ol,
!t*s so good that it*s sunny<< A"en though it*s 0onday, e"erything seems to be all right% 1ummer is coming% 0y dear summer% ! ha"e some pleasant memories from last summer% $oday ! will tell you about melancholy% Aach of us is sometimes melancholic% ! thin# melancholy is not always about lo"ing or missing someone% 0elancholy is a beautiful state in which we re3experience feelings and states from the past% 1ometimes we see before our "ery eyes great moments and other times moments that shouldn*t be in our minds anymore% !t*s up to us% !*"e #nown people that would become melancholic when hearing certain songs% 'nd for a few minutes they would +ust loo# through me% ! #now people that don*t agree with melancholy, calling it a waste of time, since there is no point in thin#ing about things from the past% ,ut is the harm in that Kemembering something good A"en if indeed it belongs to the past% 0elancholy is the engine of memories, which form an entire system that we sometimes access% 's#ing around about melancholy, ! recei"ed the following answerH -0elancholy, 1ori, is a beautiful but sad state of mind%%%- !s that possible &hy is it sad ,ecause it*s about memories, and what we are thin#ing about cannot happen anymore ?robably% Fp to this point, ! ha"en*t been able to find another -process- that could gi"e me the same state of mind8 9, the same%%%melancholy%

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Mela %olie
5e bine ca este soare< 5hiar daca e luni, totul pare in regula% 1i cu pasi repe(i ne apropiem de "ara% Draga mea "ara% 'm amintiri placute de asta "ara% '(i "a "oi "orbi despre melancolie% =iecare dintre noi a"em astfel de momente% 1i cred ca melancolia nu se refera doar la iubire, sau dor de cine"a% Aa este o stare frumoasa atunci cand rememoram sentimente si stari ale trecutului% Fnii dintre noi derulam prin fata ochilor aceste momente dragi, altii derulam momente care nu ar trebui sa mai existe in memoria noastra% Depinde de noi% 'm cunoscut persoane care erau predispuse la o stare de melancolie doar cand au(eau o melodie% 1i pri"irea lor trecea prin mine, pentru cate"a minute% 1tiu oameni care nu sunt de acord cu melancolia, +ustificand o pierdere de timp pentru niste lucruri incheiate% Dar unde este raul 5and iti aduci aminte de ce"a bun 5hiar daca apartine trecutului% 0elancolia este motorul amintirilor, care formea(a un intreg sistem pe care noi il mai accesam din cand in cand% !ntreband in +urul meu, despre melancolie, am primit urmatorul raspunsH -0elancolia, 1ori, este o stare frumoasa, dar trista%%- 1e poate asa $rista de ce ?entru ca este totul despre amintire, si ca ceea ce rememoram nu mai se poate intampla in pre(ent, sau in "iitor ?robabil% 5ert este ca pana acum, eu nu am putut gasi un alt -proces- care sa imi ofere aceeasi stare de spirit,aceeasi%%%melancolie%

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Mi' Remi'
1ince ! li#e to analy(e and obser"e the people around me and their li"es, ! will write today about things !*"e noticed o"er the years% 'bout life, from bar to bar G terrace to terrace% $he exterior is made for people to explore% 1o we all go out into the world to see, examine, mar"el and learn% 1ome cannot adapt to the exterior, but the rest feel "ery comfortable when being the center of attention% !*"e always tried to see things from the outside, without sub+ecti"ity, in order to see the big picture as clearly as possible and to let myself guided by it> !*"e started classifying people, but !*"e had some surprises% $hen !*"e tried communicating with them and !*"e found out that ! can gain much more this way as opposed to +ust sitting out all the excitement of life% !*"e learned that, depending on the stages of our li"es, the answers "ary enormously, displaying the le"el of maturity and experience each of us has% )enerally, people are different and unique in their own way% Aach of us has their own identity and we use that to become as original and different as we can, not to be +ust another face in the crowd%

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Mi' Remi'
?entru ca imi place sa anali(e( dar nu sa exagere( cu despicatul firului, si pentru ca mai imi place sa stau sa pri"esc la cei din +urul meu si la "ietile lor, o sa "a scriu despre mai multe chestii pe care le3am obser"at de3a lungul "remii% Despre "iata, -din terasa in terasa-% Axteriorul este facut ca oamenii sa il explore(e% Deci noi toti iesim afara in lume, sa "edem, sa cercetam, sa ne minunam si sa in"atatm% 0ulti nu reusim sa ne adaptam la exterior, dar restul ne simtim ca in propriile persoane cand suntem in mi+locul atentiei% 'm incercat mereu sa pri"esc lucrurile -din afara- si nu cu subiecti"itate, pentru a3mi creea o imagine de ansamblu dupa care sa ma ghide(, apoi am inceput sa clasific oamenii dar mi s3a demonstrat ca exista supri(e si aici% 'poi am incercat sa comunic cu ei si am "a(ut ca am mai multe de castigat, decat sa stau ferita de tumultul "ietii% 1i am constatat ca in functie de perioadele din "ietile noastre, pentru ca exista perioade, raspunsurile "aria(a ca de la cer la pamant, exemplificand stadiul de maturitate sau poate de experienta pe care unii dintre noi o a"em sau pretindem ca o a"em% !n general oamenii sunt diferiti si unici prin felul lor de a fi% =iecare a"em cate o identitate proprie, si ne folosim de ea, pentru a reusi as fim cat mai originali si mai distincti, e"itand -gloata-%

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Mu&i%
'fter lo"e, the next best thing in this world is, undoubtedly, music% ! don*t #now if you ha"e e"er +ust thought about how much music helped you in a certain situation, or how important it is for your soul and simply for your well being G mood% ! personally, guide myself music% ! thin# it would be sad to li"e without it% !n the morning, once awa#e, how many of you, instead of washing your faces, first turn on the radio or the cd player !t is said that music sa"es souls% $here is nothing more beautiful than a song that ma#es you smile as you reminisce of days and moments gone by% &e all ha"e at least one fa"ourite song% 'nd there*s that couple thing, -our song-, on which we first #issed or danced to for the first time% ' song can express much more feeling and emotion than any man could, "erbally% 0usic unites, music eases certain situations, music is romantic and peaceful and music is also exciting and it really ma#es us express oursel"es% $here are songs that remind us of certain stages in our li"es -&hoa< $his is a song since ! used to be in high school<- or that remind us of%%%-Do you remember last year, at the seaside, that disco in 0amaia -% $herefore, music can only do good and it can only soothe our souls when we need it most> &A 4AAD 0F1!5<

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Mu#i%a
Frmatorul cel mai bun lucru de pe acest pamant, dupa dragoste si iubire, este fara indoiala mu(ica% 4u stiu daca ati stat "reodata sa "a ganditi cat de mult "3a a+utat mu(ica intr3o situatie sau cat de importanta este pentru suflet si buna dispo(itie% Au personal, ma ghide( dupa mu(ica% 1i cred ca ar fi trist sa traim fara ea% 5ati dintre "oi "a tre(iti si primul lucru pe care il faceti, in loc sa "a spalati pe ochi, este sa dati drumul la radio sau la cd player 1e spune ca mu(ica sal"ea(a sufletul% Dar nimic nu este mai frumos decat un cantec care sa te faca sa (ambesti in timp ce iti derule(i in fata ochilor momente si amintiri% 5u totii a"em o melodie preferata, daca nu mai multe% 0ai exista si acel obicei de cuplu, -melodia noastra-, pe care poate ne3am sarutat prima oara sau am dansat cel dintai dans% ; melodie poate exprima mult mai multe sentimente si emotii decat un om "erbal% 0u(ica apropie, mu(ica facilitea(a anumite momente, mu(ica este romantica si pasnica, mu(ica poate fi agitata pentru a face sa ne exteriori(am% Axista melodii care ne aduc aminte de perioade ale "ietii noastreH -,ai baiete, asta era cand eram eu in liceusau exista melodii care ne aduc aminte de%%%-mai tii minte anu trecut la 0amaia, in disco <-% !n consecinta, mu(ica nu poate face decat bine si nu poate decat sa ne aline sufletul atunci cand a"em ne"oie si sla"a Domnului, '7A0 4A7;!A DA 0FQ!5'<

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T(e eed o" <So08/

A"eryday ! thin# of what ! am going to write about the next day, to #eep my promise and to not brea# the chain% 1o, as ! don*t RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% Don*t panic, ! won*t use it after each comma% ! will +ust emphasi(e the power this word has, and the way it influences people*s thin#ing% :et*s beginH you say -therefore- when you reach a conclusion% Bou can do that at the end of a day, at the end of a wee#, of a cicle or of an undermined time% 'nytime% ,ut where does the need to say -therefore- come from &hy the need to conclude ! can assert thisH conclusions build ideas and principles% ' conclusion highlights the consequences of a thing or of an action% 's need is something tipically human, we tend to use this technique of concluding% 5onclusions are reached e"ery day% &e guide oursel"es after them, we build our preconcei"ed ideas and obsessions upon them% 're we wrong 're we hasty in saying -therefore- because it sa"es our identities in front of others ! will therefore end the article here> thin# of what ! ha"e told you% the rest%%%on 0onday<

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Ne)oia de /De%i08/
!n fiecare (i stau si ma gandesc la ce "oi scrie a doua (i, in ideea de a ma tine de promisiune, sa nu rup lantul% ?rin urmare,pentru a nu folosi cu"antul -decila inceput de articol, am extras din sertarasul de idei, pentru (iua de "ineri3 ah< cat de bine suna -"ineri-<3 subiectul DA5!% 4u, nu "a speriati, nu am sa "a agase( la fiecare "irgula cu cate un -deci-% Doar "oi sublinia puterea acestui cu"ant, e"identiandu3i influenta asupra modului omenesc de gandire% 1a o luam practicH -deci- spui cand tragi o conclu(ie, cand conchi(i% 5onclu(ii poti trage la sfarsitul unei (ile, la sfarsitul unei saptamani,al unei perioade sau al unui timp nedefinit% ;ricand% Dar de unde ne"oia de a spune -deci- De unde dorinta de a conclu(iona ?ot afirma asaH conclu(iile ne construiesc ideile si principiile% ; conclu(ie e"identia(a consecintele unui lucru sau ale unei actiuni% 5um ne"oia este un lucru omenesc, a"em tendinta de a ne folosi de tehnica conclu(ionala% 5onclu(ii (i de (i% 4e ghidam dupa ele, ne construim ideile preconcepute, fixatiile pe ele% ;are gresim ;are ne grabim sa spunem -deci- pentru ca uneori ne sal"ea(a identitatea in fata altora Deci am sa inchei, "oi ganditi deci la ce "3am expus%%restul%%deci, pe luni<

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Not(i g
Bou #now, ! was +ust sitting in front of my computer that was waggishly smiling at me, waiting for me to open a file for writing today*s piece, and ! reali(ed ! would be writing about nothing% Keally% ! wonderH what can you write that would be about 4;$2!4) &hat can you tell people about 4;$2!4) &ell, ! can write a great deal about it% 'nd if ! thin# about it, ! can ma#e this article an anni"ersary one, for we ha"e reached 5C% :et*s get bac# to today*s -nothing-% &hat does it symboli(e -4othing- is a state of mind> it can also be a material state or a feeling% -$here is nothing to eat<-, or -&hat are you doing G &usssssup <, 4othing<-, or -&ho does he thin# he is 2e*s nobody, nothing<- 3 these are but a few of the forms the e"erpresent -nothing- can ta#e% 1ometimes, -nothing- can be an alternati"e to what we ha"e to say, when we change our minds> we use it whene"er we want to exit a con"ersation or to wal# away from an argument with our heads held high% ?erhaps the -nothing- in our li"es represents all our sorrows put together or maybe +ust an indolent state of things we fail to understand% -! #now ! am absolutely 4;$2!4) in the Fni"erse, howe"er ! feel that the only true existance is my own%-%% 5ioran

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Nimi%
1titi, stateam acum in fata calculatorului, care imi -(ambea- sugubat si astepta sa deschid fisierul pentru a scrie pastila de a(i, si am reali(at ca "3as scrie despre 4!0!5% 1erios% 'cum ma intrebH ce poti scrie despre 4!0!5 , ce le poti descrie oamenilor despre 4!0!5 ?ai, despre nimic pot scrie o gramada de lucruri% 1i daca stau bine sa ma gandesc as putea chiar sa fac din acest articol, unul ani"ersar, pentru ca s3au facut 5C de pastilute% Dar sa ne intoarcem la 4imicul nostru de a(i% 5e simboli(ea(a el 4imicul este o stare de spirit, poate fi si o stare materiala, poate fi si o simtire, el pre(entandu3se sub diferite forme in "iata noastra% -4u e nimic pregatit de mancare<-, sau - 5e faci , 4imic<-, sau -5ine se crede asta ma <, A doar un nimic<-, sunt doar cate"a dintre formele nimic3 ului, atat de pre(ent in "iata noastra% 5ateodata acest 4!0!5 este ca alternati"a la ceea ce a"em de spus, atunci cand ne ra(gandim, noi folosindu3l ori de cate ori dorim sa iesim dintr3o discutie, sau sa scapam cu camasa curata dintr3un schimb de replici% ?oate ca 4!0!53ul din "ietile noastre, repre(inta toate tristetile adunate, sau poate doar o stare inerta a unor lucruri pe care noi nu reusim sa le intelegem% -1tiu ca nu sunt absolut 4!0!5 in Fni"ers dar simt ca singura existenta reala este a mea%- 5ioran

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T(e Nig(t
'lthough while !*m writing these lines, there*s still daylight outside, ! wish it was night% ,ecause at night ! feel good% $he night represents the time when we are relaxed, when we thin#, when we reco"er% !t has the power to sometimes ma#e e"erything all right and any problem disappear% 'lthough many are afraid of night time G the night, ! always gladly wait for it 8 9% ! find it easier to breathe at night, when ! don*t hear all the bu((ing of the cars and !*m not bothered by the staleness of the dusty streets% 'nd yes, the night is romantic 3 another reason for my lo"e of it% $o some, it became the chance to ta#e shelter from all the problems and to +ust relax, whereas for others, the night is the time to ta#e care of the rest of their affairs which come up in e"eryday life% $here was a song which went li#e thisH -$he night, always a good friend, a glass of wine and a dim light%%%-, and ! remember ! was charmed by it% $he night isn*t +ust a full moon surrounded by a sea of stars filling the s#y, but also it*s about charm and magic% !ndeed, something always happens during the night, a light flic#ers, something dies or is born% $hough it seems peaceful, the night is always%%%

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Noa$tea
Desi este (i inca acum cand scriu aceste randuri, mi3as dori sa fie noapte% ?entru ca noaptea ma simt bine% 4oaptea repre(inta perioada in care toti ne linistim cand ne gandim, cand ne re"enim% Aa are puterea de a face cateodata ca totul sa fie in regula si ca orice problema sa dispara% Desi multora le este frica de noapte, eu una o astept mereu cu bratele deschise% 1i parca pot respira mai bine noaptea, cand nu se aude (um(etul masinilor si cand nu te deran+ea(a imbacseala stra(ilor prafuite% 1i da, noaptea este romantica, acesta fiind un alt moti" pentru care eu o iubesc% ?entru cati"a a de"enit timp de refugiu si de relaxare, cand pentru altii, noaptea a a+uns sa fie timpul in care isi re(ol"a restul problemelor, ce apar pe langa "iata cotidiana% Ara mai demult o melodie in care "ersurile spuneauH - 4oaptea, intotdeauna un prieten bun, un pahar de "in, si niste lumini difu(e%%%-, si imi aduc aminte ca am ramas fermecata% 4oaptea nu repre(inta doar acea luna plina, incon+urata de multitudinea de stele care umplu bolta cereasca, ci farmec si magie% 1i intr3 ade"ar, mereu in noapte, ce"a se intampla, o luminita palpaie, ce"a moare sau ia nastere% Desi pare linistita, noaptea este mereu%%%%

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Num3er o" Lo)e Storie&

0onday 3 it should be the beginning of something%%%on 0onday ! meditate% ! wo#e up today with a thought equally strange as it is capti"ating and "ast% 1o let me as# youH how many lo"es does one get in a lifetime 2ow much true lo"e does one benefit from in a lifetime ! #now ! would be told that the answer for this question is "ariable% ! #now it is% A"erything "aries in life so why should lo"e be any different ?erhaps some of us would be able to answer this question% ,ut ! am sure that after they hastely answered, they would ta#e some time to reflect upon the question% :et*s sum up the answers% 0y opinion is thisH we*re human beings, we should consider oursel"es luc#y for our right to lo"e, so then, what is holding us bac# from lo"ing as much as we want !t*s not about the -quantity-, but about the intensity ! couldn*t agree more% ;thers would sayH -&e only get one single lo"e in life, or better yet, we 0'B get one lo"e in life-%%%Don*t you find this sad &hat would our purpose in life be, besides lea"ing something behind &hat could pre"ent our access to -more lo"es- ?erhaps principles or the lac# of time or maybe stubborness Bes% &hy do we always wonderH -!s sheGhe the one - ! say that because of the need to #now and the need to not waste time, and ! don*t mean that in a selfish way, but merely because most of us are conscious of the fact that life is too short% 4obody #nows from where opportunity may present itself, so%%%be open and stop counting<
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Numarul Iu3irilor
:uni3 ar trebui sa fie (i de inceput%%%eu lunea reflecte(, serios% '(i m3am tre(it cu un gand, pe cat de straniu pe atat de capti"ant si de "ast% 1a "a intreb deci si pe "oiH de cate iubiri a"em parte intr3 o "iata De cata dragoste ade"arata a"em sansa sa beneficiem intr3o "iata 1tiu ca acum cine"a mi3ar raspunde ca aceasta intrebare are un raspuns "ariabil% 1tiu si sunt ferm con"insa ca asa si este% $otul este "ariabil in "iata, de ce nu ar fi si iubirea ?oate unii dintre noi ar putea sa raspunda la aceasta intrebare% Dar sunt la fel de con"insa ca dupa ce ar da raspunsul pe fuga ar sta sa reflecte(e cu ade"arat la aceasta intrebare% 1a re(umam suma raspunsurilor% Au una (ic asaH suntem oameni, sa ne consideram norocosi ca a"em dreptul de a iubi<%%% atunci ce ne tine sa nu iubim cat de mult "rem noi 4u contea(a numarul, contea(a intensitatea ?erfect de acord% 'ltii ar (iceH -'"em parte in "iata doar de o singura iubire, sau mai bine (is, ?;'$A doar de una-%%%4u "i se pare trist 5are ar mai fi sensul "ietii atunci, in afara de cel de a lasa ce"a in urma noastra 5e ne3ar putea impiedica accesul la conceptul de- mai multe iubiri- ?oate principiile, poate lipsa de timp sau poate chiar incapatanarea Da% De ce mereu ne intrebamH -;are eaGel sa fie - Au (ic ca din ne"oia de a sti si de a nu pierde timpul, nu intr3un sens egoist, ci doar pentru ca ma+oritatea dintre noi suntem constienti ca "iata este foarte scurta% 4!ci unul dintre noi oamenii nu "om sti de unde ar

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putea sa sara iepurele, asa ca%%%fiti deschisi si nu mai numarati<

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T(e E,e&
&hat betrayeds the man firstly $he eyes% 2ow can one tell if somebody is in a good mood or not ,y their eyes 2ow does someone dear to us gi"e us strength &ith a loo#% &hat is the first contact between two people $he eye contact%%%Axamples could go on and on% =or eyes are the gate to the soul> we can always loo# into them and really see the person before us% 'nd e"en though not e"eryone can see what*s going on behind a quic# glance,8 9 a lot of us guide oursel"es after such -signs-% ?eople often use the loo# as a way to manipulate tal#s or situations% 1ome can*t loo# you in the eye because of shyness% ,ut as ! prefer direct eye contact, a lot ha"e surpassed their emotions and o"ercome their shyness% ! find the people who don*t ma#e eye contact while tal#ing, fa#e, untruthful, always loo#ing for a way out or not really con"inced of what they are saying% 1pecial loo#s we get can remain in our minds for a lifetime, and not only because they came from blue or green eyes that we lo"e, but for what they express% $he wide range of feelings that may hide behind the eyes ma#es the loo# that more interesting% 8 9 ! #now we all wish to find that person with whom we can tal# only by loo#s% 1ometimes it*s quite fun% !n the end ! can only say one thing about the eyesH sad eyes ne"er lie%

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O%(ii
5e tradea(a prima si prima oara un om ;chii% Dupa ce iti dai seama daca un om este bine dispus sau nu Dupa ochi% De unde ne luam puterea de la cel drag Din pri"ire% 5are este primul contact dintre doi oameni 5el al ochilor%%%1i exemplele ar mai putea continua pana la nesfarsit% ?entru ca ochii sunt poarta sufletului, in ei putem sa ne uitam mereu si sa ne dam seama despre cel de langa noi% Desi nu toata lumea poate "edea cu ade"arat ce se ascunde in spatele unei pri"iri fugare sau in spatele unei pri"iri dulci, multi dintre noi ne ghidam dupa ei% ;amenii adeseori folosesc pri"irea ca mi+loc de manipulare intr3o discutie sau in diferite situatii% Fnii nici nu te pot pri"i drept in ochi din cau(a timiditatii% Dar cum si eu prefer contactul direct, multi au depasit pragul emotiilor si au in"ins timiditatea% 5red despre cei care nu pri"esc in ochi persoana cu care discuta ca nu sunt deloc ade"arati, nu sunt sinceri, cauta o modalitate de -scapare- sau poate nu sunt pe deplin con"insi de ceea ce (ic% ?ri"irile speciale ne raman intiparite in minte chiar si o "iata intreaga si nu neaparat pentru ca ochii albastri, "er(i sau mai stiu eu ce culoare ce te fura, apartin de ele, ci pentru ceea ce exprima% )ama larga de sentimente care se ascunde in spatele ochilor face pri"irea mult mai interesanta% 1tiu ca toti ne dorim sa gasim acea persoana cu care sa putem "orbi din pri"iri% 5ateodata e chiar amu(ant% !n final pot spune un singur ade"ar despre ochiH ;chii tristi nu mint niciodata%

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Old S%(ool
&hen ! thought of this expression G phrase, the first thing that came to my mind was what was once #nown as -chi"alry-, and today as -cheap tal#-% ,ac# then it was real, genuine> today e"erything is "ariable% Besterday, during my e"ening wal#, ! noticed that e"en young people are trying to go -old school-% $he current hot fashionH hippie% A"ery girl or boy had a chain or a badge or something else hanging from the bac#pac# most of us ha"e gi"en up a while ago% :ater on, !*"e thought of the meaning -old school- has for me% !t represents a moment in time, a style, an education, a life style on which subsequently, many other types of expression, personalities and trends, that which we are now trying to asimilate, were built% ?erhaps -old school- is also about 5ompact or Demiss Kussos, or a beautiful painting, watching )odfather with some friends, or e"en a romantic dinner, but generally things and acti"ities of high quality% &hat made these things qualitati"e $he fact that time left its mar# on them, but also preser"ed their essence and durability% 's time went by, the dust that co"ered all these things was carefully wiped off by the people who #new how to preser"e and cherish what -old school- stands for%

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Old S%(ool
5and m3am gandit la aceasta expresie, primul lucru care mi3a "enit in cap a fost ceea ce se numea pe "remuri -ca"alerism- si a(i -"ra+eala ieftina-% 'tunci era ce"a "eritabil, a(i este totul "ariabil% !eri, in timpul periplului meu de seara, am obser"at ca pana si tinerii incearca sa re"ina la -old school-% 1tilul la modaH hippie% 1i fiecare fata sau baiat a"ea cate un lant, o (or(oana, sau o insigna atarnata de ghio(danul la care multi dintre noi am renuntat inca de la o "arsta frageda% Flterior, m3am gandit ce inseamna -old shool- pentru mineH un moment al timpului, un stil, o educatie, un fel de a fi pe care ulterior s3au construit de3a lungul "remii multe si multe moduri de exprimari, genuri de personaliati si nu in ultimul rand, multe alte trenduri pe care am incercat sa le asimilam% ?oate - old school- mai inseamna si un 5ompact sau un Demiss Kussos, sau poate o pictura buna, un )odfather cu prietenii sau chiar o cina romantica, dar in general lucruri de calitate% 1i ce le3au facut pe aceste lucruri sa fie calitati"e =aptul ca patina timpului nu a facut decat sa tina in "iata esenta si durabilitatea lor% !ar de3a lungul "remii, praful ce s3a asternut peste aceste lucruri a fost cu gri+a inlaturat de oameni care au stiut sa pastre(e exact cum trebuie si sa pretuiasca ceea ce inseamna -;ld 1chool-%

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T(e %it,
Bou #now, there are some people who li"e for itH for the city, for all the cra(iness and excitement it gi"es them% 'nd indeed, the city does ha"e its charm% &hen loo#ing at it during the day, it resembles an ant hill with the little wor#ers running e"erywhere, dodging the holes and the obstacles they encounter, trying to sol"e the misteries, which lay behind the doors we always so stubbornly open% ,ut at night, the city rests% ?ath opener, it warmly welcomes people who are loo#ing for something% 'nd the magic ! told you about earlier is all about that *something*% 2appy or sad, the city will always shelter us, gi"e us a way out, solutions to our problems or a place where nobody can find us% Aither as a theatre, continuously playing a -frea# show- or as a cat wal# where beauty will always parade, the city will always be in our hearts% !t can also pro"ide us with a space where we don*t #now anybody, where we can +ust peacefully sit on a banch, or with a space where we meet half the people we #now% 'nd e"en though you sometimes feel li#e suffocating because of the crowd and the noise, the city can put them all together in a +ar% ! ha"e yet to find out what attracts me to it, but the city dares me to disco"er it e"ery single day and night%

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Ora&ul
1titi, sunt unii oameni care pentru asta traiesc, pentru oras% ?entru tumultul si agitatia pe care le3o ofera% 1i intr3ade"ar, orasul are magia lui% ?ri"indu3l (iua, nu pare decat o metropola cu mici furnicute care alearga dintr3o parte in alta, ocolind gropile si barierele ce se i"esc, pentru a de(legea misterele care se ascund in spatele usilor pe care toti ne incapatanam sa le deschidem% Dar noaptea, orasul se linisteste% Deschi(ator de drumuri, el primeste cu bratele deschise oamenii care cauta *ce"a*% 1i acel *ce"a* sta in magia de care "orbeam mai sus% $rist sau "esel, orasul "a fi mereu capabil sa ne ofere un adapost, un loc unde "om putea sa fugim, o solutie pentru problemele noastre cotidiene, sau un loc unde nimeni nu ne poate gasi% =ie el un teatru unde "a rula mereu cate un -frea# show- sau un podium unde frumusestile ce incanta pri"irile "or defila, el mereu "a fi pre(ent in inimile noastre% ?entru ca el ne poate oferi si un loc unde putem fi fara a cunoaste pe nimeni si un loc unde putem sa ne ase(am pe o banca linistiti, sau chiar un loc unde sa ne intalnim cu +umate din cunostinte% 1i chiar daca cateodata, nu poti respira din cau(a aglomeratiei sau a (gomotului, orasul le poate impaca pe toate% 1chepsisul lui inca nu l3am dibuit pe deplin dar orasul ma pro"oaca (i si noapte sa il descopar%

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Parrot&
' sub+ect equally funny as it is interesting% Dear friends, we all ine"itably see them% 1ome of us spot them in our neighbour*s balcony, in a small bird cage, others see them at parties and all our children want them as pets% :adies and gentlemen, indeed, ?arrots% ' common species% ! couldn*t help not thrown in a parallel%%%&hat can ! say !*m a woman%%and this resemblance has become such a cliche%%!s there anyone who hasn*t, at some point, heard -loo#< what a parrot<-%%%:et*s thin# about it% ! hear it e"ery time someone comes into my home, for ! am the proud owner of a parrot% !t ma#es you thin#%%%&e all #now that parrots can be trained% ! couldn*t train mine% 'nd if ! thin# about it, ! #now another 3 or 4 women, who are still hoping to succeed% ?erhaps the rule doesn*t apply anymore% ?erhaps parrots cannot be trained anymore% 'nd then there*s the expressionH -&hat a parrot you ha"e<-% ! en+oy hearing this% &hat was once #nown as *being "ersatile* and *stepping up G being remar#ed* has now become a label% 'fter these two examples, we as# oursel"esH can a parrot be harmful &ith or without training, tal#ing or not tal#ing, we en+oy them% 'lthough at a certain point during the winter, in a moment of anger, ! wanted to get rid of it%%%

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Pa$agali
Fn subiect pe cat de amu(ant, pe atat de interesant% Dragi prieteni, ne intalnim cu ei ine"itabil, fiecare dintre noi pe unde ne e scris% Fnii dintre noi ii (arim la "ecina in balcon, intr3o coli"ie amarata, altele dintre noi ii inatlnim la petreceri, sau mai ales copii nostri si3i doresc ca animale de companie% Doamnelor si Domnilor, da, ?apagalii% 1pecie deasa% !ne"itabil am strecurat o paralela% Deh< sunt femeie iar aceasta asemanare a de"enit un cliseu in (iua de a(i% 5are dintre noi nu a au(it pana acum expresia -ce papagal<-%%%1a ne gandim% Au una o aud de fiecare data cand cine"a imi calcla pragul casei, pentru ca sunt o mandra detinatoare a unui papagal% Da% $e cam pune pe ganduri%%% $oti stim, prin definitie ca papagalii se dresea(a% 1titi, eu nu am reusit cu al meu% 1i daca stau bine sa imi numar gandurile, mai stiu inca "re3 o 3 4 femei, care inca mai au sperante in obisnuirea lor3 pentru a fi mai galanta3 pentru scopuri satisfacatoare% ?oate ca nu mai e o regula% ?oate papagalii nu mai pot fi dresati% 1i apoi exista fra(aH -5e papagal ai<-% Au una ma bucur cand aud aceasta expresie% ' de"enit eticheta in (ilele noastre, pentru ce era odata -a fi descurcaret-, -a te remarca-% Dupa aceste doua exemple, ne intrebam +udecataH poate un papagal sa ne daune(e, sa fie noci" 5u dresa+ sau fara, cu "orba sau nu, ne bucuram de ei% Desi la un moment dat in iarna, intr3o clipa de furie, am "rut sa il instraine(%%%

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Per"e%tio
$he wee#end has finally come% $oday ! will write about perfection% 5an we reach the concept of perfection only by comparison Do we reach perfection by setting certain standards and then surpassing them Aach of us wants to be as s#illed as possible in the +ob he or she chooses, and although ! ha"e heard people that #ept saying they were perfect, ! didn*t want to accept these assertions% 4obody is perfect% !f we thin# about the human physiognomy for instance, we will reach the conclusion that the "ery physical imperfections define a person and ma#es him or her unique% ?erfection is relati"e% $o perfect, to impro"e yourself in a certain area doesn*t mean #nowing e"erything there is to #now in that domain% 1ince the world is e"ol"ing, the concept of perfection has also e"ol"ed% Kobots ha"e been created, sheep ha"e been cloned and we are rapidly heading to the moment when we will encounter our own copiesRRRRRRR in the street% !s it the same with relationships 're they perfect up to a point when someone ruins the perfection Does a flaw ma#e things more interesting !s the relationship more "aluable as RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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'nyway, without flaws G mista#es we couldn*t e"en dream of perfection% ! will end the article with a little +o#eH -$he only way one is e"er close to perfection is in the curriculum "itae%-

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Per"e%tiu e
!n sfarsit a "enit wee#3end3ul% '(i "a "oi scrie despre perfectiune si parerea mea despre ea% 1e poate a+unge oare la ideea de perfectiune numai prin comparatie 'tingem oare perfectiunea fixandu3ne niste standarde pe care ne propunem sa le depasim =iecare dintre noi isi doreste sa fie cat mai iscusit in meseria aleasa, cat mai o# din punctul de "edere al comportamentului, si desi am au(it pana acum cati"a oameni care imi repetau constant ca ei sunt perfecti, am declinat sa accept aceste afirmatii% 4imeni nu este perfect% Daca stam sa ne gandim la fi(ionomia omului, a+ungem la conclu(ia ca el este definit chiar de imperfectiunile fi(ionomiei, care ii confera unicitate% ?erfectiunea este un lucru relati"% ' te perfectiona intr3un domeniu, nu inseamna a cunoaste intru3totul acel lucru% ?entru ca lumea e"oluea(a si ideea de perfectiune a e"oluat% 13au creat robotii, 13au clonat oi, iar noi ne indreptam cu pasi repe(i spre a ne lo"i pe strada de o copie fidela a noastra% 1a fie asa si cu relatiile 1unt relatiile un cub perfect pana la un moment dat cand unul dintre cei doi sparge acea perfectiune ;are un colt ciobit face lucrurile mai interesante ; sa fie cu atat mai "aloros cubul 8relatia9 pentru ca definitia perfectiunii este perfectiune plus ce"a adaugat ;ricum, fara greseli nu am putea "isa la perfectiune% !nchei a(i cu o mica glumaH -1ingurul

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loc unde cine"a este foarte aproape de perfectiune este in curriculum "itae%-

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De$arture
&e all lea"e somewhere sooner or later% $a#e, for instance, the desire of children growing up in "illages, to lea"e their homes and go to the big cities% 1ome of us choose to wor# abroad and try to build up a life there% 2opefully, a better life% ! don*t e"en #now how to loo# at this issue% Does it ta#e a lot of courage to +ust ta#e off and lea"e e"erything behind, for a period of time or fore"er, or is the moti"ation gi"en by the idea of a better life so great that one forgets about the life once had at home 1trength of character is "ery important here% $he main *rules* areH ne"er forget where you are coming from, always be grateful and always be aware that e"erything can disappear in an instant% Departing G :ea"ing is a mile stone% !t*s li#e a challenge% !n our country it has become quite popular, most of the young people are ta#ing this decision under the influence of the opportunities they see% 't e"ery street corner you*ll see ad"ertisment posters, or e"en better, you*ll recei"e emails from recruitment agencies% ' lot of them are loo#ing for the perfect, -clean- company% $hey are not always pleased with what they find there, but as man is made for endurance, the obstacles are surpassed% A"entually, they adapt and succeed%

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Ple%are
5u totii plecam, mai de"reme sau mai tar(iu% De exemplu dorinta copiilor ce cresc la sate, de a3 si lua (borul pentru a3si depasi conditia si a se duce la oras% Fnii dintre noi alegem calea de a munci afara, pentru a incerca sa ne construim o "iata peste granite% ; "iata mai buna, speram noi% 4ici nu stiu cum sa imi pun problema% ;are trebuie sa ai foarte mult cura+ pentru a pleca si a lasa totul in urma, pentru o perioada sau pentru totdeauna, sau dorinta este atat de mare incat uiti complet de "iata de acasa, moti"at fiind de ideea unei "ieti mai bune, de cunoastere, chiar cu acest sacrificiu, de a lasa totul in urma ta% ?uterea de caracter isi spune aici cu"antul% !mportant este dupa parerea mea, sa nu uiti nicodata de unde ai plecat, sa fi mereu recunoscator, si sa fi mereu constient ca totul poate dispare intr3o clipa% !mportant este sa fi puternic% ?lecarea este ca o piatra de incercare% 5a o pro"ocare% :a noi in tara a de"enit mai mult o moda, ma+oritatea tinerilor iau aceasta deci(ie influentati fiind de oportunitatile care li se ofera% :a fiecare colt de strada poti gasi un afis pe un stalp, sau mai simplu, un mail de reclama de la diferite firme de anga+ari% 0ulti dintre ei cauta o societate perfecta, curata% 4u intotdeauna sunt incantati de ce gasesc acolo dar, cum omul este facut sa re(iste, el ra(bate% 1e adaptea(a intr3un final si reuseste%

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Poetr,
)ood morning, 0onday% ' sunny, clear3s#ied beginning of the wee# that ma#es you thin# about the seaside% ! began the article with a rhyme 8Komanian9 because ! will write about poetry% !f whoe"er in"ented poetry was still ali"e today, ! wish ! met him, to find out what dro"e him to create poetry G it, what his muse was and what he was feeling at that point% ! am absolutely con"inced that e"en the -coldest- person on this Aarth has at least once thought of writing rhymes, e"en if only to play around% ,ut out of playing, true masterpieces can be created, "erses that ha"e really touched our souls along the years% $hrough poetry, feelings that are sometimes more difficult to externali(e, can be better expressed% =eelings ranging from sorrow to longing and melancholy, from lo"e to hatred, from happiness to sadness% !n 1ha#espeare*s wor#, Komeo and Puliet shared an unmatched lo"e and they left us the example of its powerRRRRRRRRR% ?oetry has been the nest of many other lo"e tales G stories without our #nowledge% ! remember someone who has started, not long ago, a poem and hasn*t finished it yet% ?erhaps because of lac# of inspiration or maybe lac# of interest% 5an "erses +ust go on fore"er

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Poe#ie
,una dimineata, luni% !nceput de saptamana senin, cu soare, iti duce gandul la mare% 'm inceput cu o rima, special din cau(a faptului ca a(i "a "oi "orbi despre poe(ie% Daca cel care a in"entat poe(ia, ar mai fi trait in (ilele noastre, mi3as fi dorit sa il intalnesc, ca sa aflu ce l3a moti"at sa faca poe(ia, ce i3a fost mu(a, si ce a simtit% 1unt ferm con"insa ca pana si cel mai rece om de pe acest pamant s3a gandit macar o data sa compuna doua "ersuri, macar din +oaca% Dar din +oaca se pot naste ade"arate opere, ade"arate "ersuri ce ne3au induiosat sufletele de3a lungul anilor% !n poe(ie se pot exprima mult mai bine sentimentele, care cateodata sunt foarte greu de exteriori(at% Axprima de la dor la +ale, de la iubire la ura, de la fericire la tristiete% !n poe(ia lui 1ha#espeare, s3au iubit Komeo si Pulieta, lasandu3ne un exemplu clar al puterii in dragoste% ?oe(ia a fost cuibusorul multor alte iubiri de pe acest pamant, chiar si fara a sti noi% !mi aduc aminte, cine"a a inceput o poe(ie, nu de mult, si nu a terminat3o% ?oate din lipsa de inspiratie, poate din lipsa de preocupare% ;are "ersurile pot continua la nesfarsit

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Pre
!n a world where e"erything is pre3thought, pre3 defined and prepared, we circle around, day after day, loo#ing to spend the time in our fa"or, to en+oy life% !f we li"e in a world where we already #now the outcome before the action is completed, then why do we need concepts such as *patience*, or *the +oy of disco"ery* &here does wishing somebodyH *en+oy<* before seeing a mo"ie or before eating a *twix3bar* belong &hy should we struggle, when we #now e"ery night when we go to sleep that the next morning we will get up and we*ll ha"e to wear that pre3 washed shirt, tal# on our phone using that pre3paid sim and ta#e our child to prep3school &hen e"en our "ery +udgment has transformed itself o"er night into a pre+udgment, when we need some preferential elements in order to reach a state of +oy and happiness, &2B should we pretend, in a world of fabricated machines, that we exist and function

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Pre
!ntr3o lume in care totul este pregandit, predefinit, preparat, noi ne in"artim, (i de (i, pentru a ne petrece timpul in beneficiul nostru, pentru a ne bucura de "iata% Daca intr3o lume in care de+a, inaintea momentului decisi" de desfasurare a unui lucru, sau al unei actiuni, se stie ca acel lucru sau acea actiune sunt predefinite, atunci unde isi mai au rost coneceptiile ca -rabdare-, -bucuria descoperirii-, unde isi mai are rost acel -en+oy<- la care ne gandim inainte de a "edea un film, sau de a sa"ura un -$wix-, sau mai stiu eu ce alta bunatate semipreparata% De ce sa ne mai strofocam, cand stim seara cand punem geana pe geana 3unii dintre noi3 ca adoua (i ne "om tre(i, si "om fi ne"oiti sa ne imbracam cu acea camasa pre3spalata, sa "orbim la telefonul nostru cu cartela ?re3?ay, sa ne ducem copilul prescolar la gradinita Daca si +udecata noastra, peste noapte, a de"enit o re+udecata, daca ne trebuie anumite elemente preferentiale, pentru a ne predispune unei anumite stari de feerie si bucurie, DA 5A sa ne mai prefacem, intr3o lume de masini preparate, ca existam si functionam

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Aaster is coming% &e are all being drawn to the greatness of this 2oliday% ! thought ! wouldn*t ha"e time to write today, but while e"eryone has their hands full with the preparations, ! managed to snea# to the computer% 1ome are "ery excited about this e"ent, some are not% !*m not yet sure of how ! feel about it% =or me, 2olidays such as Aaster, 5hristmas and all the rest, only signal that another year, another part of my life, has passed% A"en if !*m surrounded by friends, !*ll still miss my mom*s soup and her beouf3sallad% 4ew experiences, new challenges are always welcome in my life% A"ery Aaster we*re being ad"ised to be better people, to recei"e the light in our souls, to be generous% &hy does this happen only during holidays &hy can*t we be li#e this all year around Do we maybe forget about the human condition !*m off now% !*ll lea"e you to *clang* some eggs% 2appy Aaster, and we*ll tal# on $uesday, because, what can we do, 0onday we all ha"e the day off<

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Pregatiri
1e apropie ?astele% $oti suntem cuprinsi de maretia aceste 1arbatori% 5redeam ca a(i nu "oi mai a"ea timp sa mai scriu, dar se pare ca in toiul pregatirilor, cand toatalumea se pregateste sa plece, eu am reusit sa ma strecor pana la calculator% Fnii sunt foarte entu(iasmati, altii mai putin% Au inca nu stiu daca sunt asa de entu(iasmata% ?entru mine, sarbatorile fie ele de ?aste, 5raciun si ce mai ramane, nu fac decat sa imi sublinie(e faptul ca a mai trecut +umate de an, sau o perioada din "iata mea% Desi incon+urata de prieteni, parca imi "or lipsi ciorba mamei mele, si salata de beouf% Axperiente noi, iar pro"ocarea este intotdeauna bine "enita in "iata mea% 5u totii de ?aste, primim indemnuri, sa fim ami buni, sa primim lumina in sufelt, sa fim mai darnici% De ce numai de 1arbatori, de ce nu putem fi asa (i de (i Fitam, oare, de conditia umana Au plec acum% 7a las sa -ciocaniti- oua% ?aste fericit, si ne "edem marti, ca, deh, luni nu lucram<

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Frie d&(i$
7ery important sub+ectH =riendship% ! won*t start explaining the meaning of the term *friendship* and ! will tell you whyH for me, there is no defining this word% $his notion "aries so much> it continuously transforms itself% ;n what does friendship depend these days &ell, all around me ! see friendships based on trust, fun, time spent together, quality time> but are these the *ingredients* for a wonderful relationship and a long3lasting friendship 1omeone once told meH -&hat do you need friends for, when you ha"e acquaintances -% 2a"e friendships become based on the fact that we care so much less about others and so much more about oursel"es, and when we interact and tal#, we repeatedly and con"incingly sayH -Bes, ! #now, you*"e already told me that%- < 'nd then, there*s that notion of acquaintance "s friend% &ho exactly #nows this difference $hose who #now how to restrain themsel"es% 5learly, the ones who come into our homes, in our cars, with whom we tal# on the phone at night, those who #now a lot about us are considered our best friends% !f you were to as# me, ! would laugh at you% ! don*t thin# these are the coordinates of a long3lasting relationship% 'ctually, no friendship should e"er be long3lasting, as long as it is of high quality% 'nd ! find the notions of -true friend- and -best friend- a bit off% ,ut in the end, we*re all -friends-, until RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, isn*t that right 0y =riend

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Priete ie
1ubiect ce atarna greuH ?rietenia% 4u am sa ma apuc acum sa "a po"estesc despre ce inseamna o prietenie, si "a (ic si de ceH pentru ca dupa mine nu exista o definitie a acestui termen% Aste atat de "ariabila aceasta notiune, incat a atins o cota de schimbare foarte inalta% De ce mai depinde o prietenie in (iua de a(i Ai bine, in +urul meu "ad relatii de prietenie ba(ate pe incredere, pe distractie, pe timp petrecut impreuna, timp de calitate, dar oare acestea sa fie coordonatele unei relatii minunate si de lunga durata de prietenie 'm au(it pe cine"a care imi spunea asa H- :a ce iti trebuie prieteni, cand ai cunostinte -% ;are relatiile de prietenie dintre oameni au a+uns sa se ba(e(e pe faptul ca ne interesea(a mult mai putin de ceilalti si mai mult de noi, iar in momentul in care interactionam si "orbim, sa (icem repetat, apasat si cu o putere de con"ingereH - Da, stiu, mi3ai mai (is%- < 1i mai exista si acea notiune de cunostinta "s% prieten% 5ine stie exact acesta diferenta 5ei ce stiu sa isi impuna o limita% 5lar, poate ca cei ce ne calca pragul casei, care ne calca pragul masinii, sau cei cu care ne petrecem noptile la telefon, cei ce stiu in general multe lucruri despre noi, unii ii considera cei mai buni prieteni% Daca ma intrebati pe mine, m3ar bufni rasu% 4u cred ca acestea sunt coordonatele unei prietenii de lunga durata% De fapt, poate o prietenie nici nu trebuie sa fie de lunga durata, atata timp cat e de calitate% 1i notiunea de -prieten ade"arat-, sau -prietenaGprie3 tenul meu cel mai bun-, mi se par un pic aiurea%
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Dar la urma urmei, toti suntem -prieteni-, pana la proba contrarie, nu3i asa ?rietene <

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Stre gt(
RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% 's ! was on my way ! was thin#ingH how much strength does one need simply to get by 1trength comes from within, ! said to myself later on% !t*s possible that many don*t e"en #now they ha"e this power, moti"ating them to get through the day% 1ome people are "ery pasionate in their search for the inner strength% $he best part is when you learn how to use it% $he disco"ery of one*s own strength is part of the growing3up process% ,ut in fact, what does *being strong* mean 5learly, not being pac#ed with muscles, but ha"ing a strong character%%%!n life, it*s good to ha"e such a person beside you, if not more 8than one9% 1uch a man can empower you% 'lthough ! feel that power initially comes from )od, it is up to us to de"elop and educate it% 'nd what*s more pleasant than #nowing you*re a winner and being admired for your character*s strength !t must be searched for deep within, not in a can of energi(er% 2a"e a serene G cloudless wee#end<

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Putere
0oti"ata fiind te tre(irea mea brusca de a(i de dimineata, pentru a ma indrepta spre facultate, "a "oi scrie despre putere% !n drum stateam si ma gandeam, de cata putere au ne"oie oamenii sa supra"ietuiasca (i de (i ?uterea "ine din interior, mi3am spus ulterior% 1i se poate ca multi dintre noi nici sa nu a"em habar ca detinem o putere, o moti"atie in plus ce ne trece peste (i% Fnii oameni au facut o pasiune in a3si descoperi puterea interioara% Dar mai frumos este atunci cand in"eti sa o folosesti, si sa o exerciti% Descoperirea puterii face parte din procesul de maturi(are treptata a omului, (ic eu% Dar de fapt, ce inseamna sa fi puternic 5lar, nu o persoana care este plina de pachetele de muschi, ci o persoana cu un caracter puternic%% Aste bine, de la ca( la ca(, sa ai o astfel de persoana langa tine, de3a lungul "ietii, poate chiar mai multe% Fn astfel de om, iti poate insufla putere% Desi sunt de parere ca puterea "ine de la Dumne(eu, in stadiu primar, ne ramane noua sarcina de a o creste si educa% 1i ce nu3i mai frumos, decat sa te sti in"ingator, sau admirat pentru puterea de caracter Aa trebuie cautata in interior, nu intr3o cutie de energi(ant% &ee#3end cat mai senin<

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Regret&
?eople generally say they don*t ha"e any regrets% ,ut ! am absolutely con"inced that there isn*t a man on this planet who is not sorry about something% :ife sometimes teaches us to be tough and then to be #ind, it ma#es us face different en"ironments to which we ha"e to adapt% A"erytime !*"e tried to as# somebody whether he or she had any regrets, !*"e been gi"en "ague answers that came after a short time of thin#ing% ?erhaps the answers also depend on the ability to honestly admit that we are not perfect% ;nly a robot or a machine would be regret3free% !t*s ob"ious, we all regret something% 'nd that is because people ha"e feelings% $here was a point in e"eryone*s life when thoughts li#eH -Kight now, ! would ha"e done that differently-, -RRRRRRRcrossed their minds% Kegrets are about those things we*re sorry for% 'nd we are sorry for things we ha"e done or for things we ha"en*t done% ,ut the regrets belong to the past and that*s where they should remain% Kegrets are with us in order to ma#e us moreRRRRRRRRR, to build up character and ma#e us want to impro"e oursel"es% &hoe"er can confidently say -! now #now what to do-, must ha"e learned something from a regret they had% ' regret must not be considered a bad thing, but a lesson% ' life lesson%

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Regrete
;amenii in general spun ca nu au regrete% Dar eu sunt ferm con"insa ca nu exista om pe aceasta lume caruia sa nu ii para rau de ce"a% 7iata ne in"ata sa fim cateodata duri, apoi bla+ini, trecandu3 ne prin multe iposta(e, la care trebuie sa ne adaptam% De fiecare data cand am intrebat pe cine"a daca are regrete, intotdeauna am primit un raspuns "ag% Dar l3am primit dupa un timp de gandire% ?oate tine si de puterea de a recunoaste "erde in fata, ca nu suntem perfecti% ?oate doar un robot, sau o masinarie nu ar a"ea regrete% $oti a"em, asta e clar% 5lar, pentru ca nu exista om fara sentimente% 1i nu exista om care sa nu (icaH - Ah, acum as fi facut altfel ca atunci-, -'cum ma oftic<-% Kegretele "in din pareri de rau in general% 1i ne pare rau pentru lucruri pe care le3am facut, sau pentru lucuri pe care nu le3am facut% Dar locul regretelor este in trecut% 1i ceea ce este in trecut este menit sa ramana acolo% Kegretele exista pentru a ne face mai trai, (ic eu, pentru a ne consolida caracterul si pentru a ne perfectiona% 5ine sustine acum sus si tare -'cum stiu ce sa fac-, cu siguranta a in"atat din regret% 4u trebuie pri"it ca pe un lucru rau, ci doar ca pe o pilda% ?ilda de "iata%

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Re&$o &a3illit,
'bout responsibility it is said that it is the -mother- of precaution% 'nd that*s true, it really is% $o be responsible for something, means finishing whate"er you ha"e started and assuming the consequences of its outcome% $here are people who can be responsible and people who are simply not made for that% 'nd although responsibility can be learned, some thin# it is far more simple to +ust close your eyes and mo"e on% ?erhaps it all begins during the childhood, when our parents wouldn*t lea"e us home alone, fearing what we would do if left unsuper"ised% 'nd it goes on to ma#ing our own business, and then a family, or maybe e"en lea"ing to another country and building a life there% !n the +ob mar#et, responsible people are are "ery highly rated, since you can communicate better and trust the good handling of things with a responsible person% Kesponsibility is a principle of physics, but it is uni"ersally applicableH reaction is equal and opposite to the action%%

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Re&$o &a3ilitate
1e spune despre responsabilitate, ca este mama precautiei% 1i, intrade"ar, asa si este% ' fi responsabil pntru o actiune sau un lucru, inseamna a duce la bun sfarsit ce ai intreprins, ba chiar a3ti asuma consecintele re(ultatului% Axista in aceasta lume oameni care pot fi responsabili, si oameni care pur si simplu nu sunt facuti pentru asa ce"a% 1i, desi responsabilitatea se poate in"ata, unii cred ca este mult mai simplu sa inchi(i ochii, si sa treci mai departe% ?oate totul incepe inca din copilarie, cand parintilor nostri le era frica sa ne lase singuri in casa, temandu3se de ce "om face, singuri, necontrolati, si fara supra"eghere% 1i totul se continua pana la momentul in care ne construim o afacere, si apoi o familie, sau poate chiar ne mutam in alta tara, pentru a ne cladi "iitorul acolo% ?e piata de +ob3uri sunt foarte cautate acele persoane responsabile, si cu un om responsabil, poti comunica mult mai bine, te poti intelege, poti a"ea incredere in indeplinirea cu succes a problemelor% Kesponsabilitatea este un principiu al fi(icii, dar are o aplicabilitate uni"ersalaH Keactiunea este egala si de sens contrar cu actiunea< 5u cat esti legat mai tare de un regulament, cu atat "rei mai mult sa -te de(legi-<

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Remi i&%e %e
$he weather outside ma#es me thin# of the past, although we all #now it*s not good to reli"e past experiences% 1till, the feeling you get in those moments is unique% &hat moments $he moments when we see people from the past or when we go to certain places where we ha"e pleasant memories% $o me, what happens is that all my weight goes to my #nees and ! get butterflies in my stomach% 1ome of us do ha"e this reflex to reli"e certain situations, desires, actions which had once brought us +oy% 1ome say that it is not good to loo# bac# and you should always loo# towards the future% $hey say that whate"er is done is done and it should stay where it belongs 3 in the past% $o some, the past can be a reference point% Bou #now how women say -5 years ago, ! didn*t ha"e this wrin#le here%%%and now%%loo#< $here are 2 of them<-% 5onsequences of the past, both good and bad, always come up in the present and will surely appear in the future% ;ne thing is for sure% -$ime will pass-, the past is meant to remain in the past, and reminiscing is +ust an instrument man was gi"en to remember him that life is short and it should be li"ed to the fullest%

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Re)edere
7remea de afara este una care ma face sa imi indrept gandurile spre trecut, desi stim cu totii ca nu e un lucru bun sa iti re"e(i trecutul trecand prin fata ochilor% 1i nici indicat% 1i totusi, emotia ce caracteri(ea(a acel moment este unica% 5are moment 0omentul re"ederii% 'tunci cand "edem pe cine"a din trecut, sau ne reintoarcem la niste locuri unde a"em amintiri placute sau nu, simtim cum emotia ne in"adea(a pieptul% 0ie personal mi se inmoaie genunchii, si simt un fior in burtica% '"em, unii dintre noi, acest reflex, de a rememora situatii, dorinte, actiuni, ce ne3au adus bucurie% Fnii oameni (ic ca nu este bine sa pri"esti in trecut% 5i doar spre "iitor% Ai (ic ca ceea ce este infaptuit, consumat, trebuie lasat acolo unde ii este locul% !n trecut% ?oate pentru unii, trecutul este un punct de reper% 1titi cum (ic femeile -'cu* 5 ani , nu a"eam ridul asta aici%%%si acum, uite< 1unt 2<-% 5onsecintele trecutului apar mereu in pre(ent, si chiar in "iitor, fie ele rele sau bune% 5ert este un singur lucru% -7reme trece, "reme "ine-, trecutul este menit sa ramana in trecut, iar re"ederea este doar un instrument ce mai aduce aminte omului, ca "iata este scurta,si trebuie traita%

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Ri&7 )& Pre%autio

A"en the moment when ! started sending these -stories- of mine on your e3mail addresses, !*"e thought to myself that what ! was doing would represent a ris#% $he reason for that 3 its consequences% $oday*s article will consist of a sort of comparison between the two issues% ;n one hand, there*s the ris#> ris# is a feature of us all, of "ariable proportions, depending on the indi"idual% !t is found in our way of li"ing% &e encounter ris#s in those #ey3moments, when we are as#edH -&ill you ta#e the chance -, and that is when we ha"e to choose, either ta#ing the ris# or sitting it out% $hat*s also a matter of courage or of personality% ;n the other hand, we ha"e precaution% !t is said that precaution is the fruit of wisdom, thus implying that wise and considerate people are more responsible% $here ha"e many moments in our li"es when we*"e done some serious thin#ing before ma#ing a decision> afterwards we*"e felt "ery content for not +udging rec#lessly% ,ut precaution may become an obstacle in the way of free expression% =or me personally, precaution has always been a point of reference, but ! ha"en*t always followed its path% $he ris#, howe"er, shows itself at e"ery difficult decision we ha"e to ta#e and is sometimes "ery tempting% 1ome go around it, others embrace it% ;ne thing is for sure, we ha"e to ha"e that common sense to detect those moments when we ha"e to be cautious, but also we must not miss those when we simply ha"e to set our minds free and ta#e the chance%
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Ri&% )&- Pre%autie

?ana si la momentul la care am inceput sa trimit aceste -po"estioare- spre posta "oastra electronica, am stat si m3am gandit daca ceea ce incerc eu sa fac, repre(inta un risc% 0oti"ul3 consecintele% 'rticolul de a(i "a fi o paralela in miniatura, in care "oi expune, opinia mea despre aceste doua probleme% Kiscul este o caracteristica pe care o detinem fiecare in parte, intr3o masura mai mare sau mai mica% Aa se reflecta in modul nostru de "iata, dupa cata importanta ii conferim% 4e intalnim cu riscul, in momente cheie, in care suntem intrebatiH -$e risti <-, si atunci a"em de facut alegerea, sa riscam sau sa stam deoparte% ?oate ca tine un pic si de cura+ sau de personalitate% De cealalta parte a baricadei, sta precautia% 1e spune ca precautia este fructul intelepciunii, implicand, deci, faptul ca oamenii mai chib(uiti sunt un pic mai cu capul pe umeri% 5e3i drept, au fost multe iposta(e in "iata noastra in care am ales sa gandim inainte de a lua o deci(ie, si apoi am fost foarte multumiti, pentru ca nu am actionat pe nerasuflate% Dar precautia poate de"eni o piedica impotri"a bunei dispo(itii, sau a libertatii de exprimare% Din perspecti"a mea, precautia a fost un punct de reper in "iata mea, dar nu i3am urmat intotdeauna caile% Kiscul in schimb, apare la fiecare oportunitate, la fiecare deci(ie pe care o a"em de luat, si repre(inta o tentatie cateodata% Fnii o ocolesc, altii o infrunta% 5ert este ca, trebuie sa a"em finetea sa detectam acele momente in care trebuie sa fim precauti, dar sa nu ratam acele
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momente in care trebuie, sa lasam pur si simplu frau liber gandirii, si sa riscam%

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Roma ti%i&m
$he rain outside made me thin# about romance% !n the world today, our conceptions ha"e become so crowded that we ha"e forgotten about all the simple things we used to do% $hings that used to happen naturally% ! consider romanticism one of those natural things 3 or it least that*s how it should be 3 that ma#e us happy% 'ny man in lo"e is romantic% 1tarting with the way he loo#s at you and ending with his gestures% $rue romanticism is the one coming from the heart% ' sincere compliment, e"en if not in rhymes, can be a thousand times more beautiful than a huge bouquet of roses or than some sweet but meaningless words% !t*s li#e gi"ing somebody a "ery nicely wrapped gift% ;f course the general impression is a good one, but isn*t the content equally important 5ontrary to what RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRteaches us, romanticism is not +ust roses, candy, +ewels or trips to exotic islands% Komanticism should not empty our poc#ets and ta#e a lot of our time to prepare% !t should not be something that only happens on special ocasions nor a simple excuse to get out of the house% 1pontaneity and originality go hand in hand with romanticism, so try to a"oid cliches and +ust do what you heart tells you<

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Roma ti&m
?loaia m3a dus cu gandul la romantism% !n (iua de a(i, conceptiile noastre s3au aglomerat atat de mult, incat am uitat de lucrurile simple pe care le faceam% :ucrurile care "eneau de la sine% 5onsider ca romantismul este unul din acele lucruri, care sunt naturale 3 sau asa ar trebui sa fie 3 si de care ne bucuram, lucruri pe care le facem pentru ca sunt placute, si ne mangaie sufletul% ;rice om care se indragosteste este romantic% De la o simpla pri"ire, pana la gesturile pe care le face% Komantismul "enit din suflet este cel "eritabil% Fn compliment sincer, chiar daca nu e in "ersuri, poate fi mai frumos de o mie de ori decat un imens buchet de trandafiri sau cate"a cu"inte dulci fara "aloare reala% A ca si cum ai face un cadou cui"a, foarte frumos ambalat% 4ormal ca impresia este buna, dar nu contea(a si continutul darului 5ontrar a ceea ce ne in"ata romanele siropoase, romantismul nu inseamna numai trandafiri, bomboane, bi+uterii sau calatorii in insule exotice% Komantismul nu trebuie sa ne goleasca portofelul sau sa ne consume foarte multe ceasuri% 4u e ce"a ce trebuie sa ni se intample doar la oca(ii, sau sa fie doar un pretext pentru a mai iesi din casa% 1pontaneitatea si originalitatea merg mana in mana cu romantismul, asa ca e"itati cliseele, si faceti ceea ce simti<

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Ru&( Hour
!t*s a beautiful day, the sun is finally out, the long3expected spring is here, you can now hear the birds singing outside your window in the morning and at night the croa#ing of frogs on the la#es% ,ut still, why isn*t this perfect &hat does this RRRRRRR picture miss to be complete 1omething, in our subconscious, is always missing% 5ouold that because of man*s need for perfection and order ?ossibly% Aach of us feels this desire, although not all of us can identifyRRRRRRR it% -;rder <%%%&hat*s that - some would as#% $he others call them -dreamers- 3 people who +ust glide through life% ,ut can their world be compared to something elseRRRRRRRRRRRRR ! ha"e now clearly drawed out the two categories% $he libido for perfection, the dri"e for acuracy, the madness of e"ery day li"ing, internal chaos, lac# of mental relaxation are but a few of the features of the well3 thought out life of a perfectionist% Does that raelly help Do you feel satysfied 0aybe, maybe not% !n the end, we*re all the same% &e all breathe the same air% 1top and thin#%%%is it worth it

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Ora de )ar"
; (i frumoasa, in sfarsit soare, prima"ara mult asteptata si tan+ita de noi, dimineata cu trilul pasareleleor ce poposesc pe te+gheaua geamului,iar seara apar broscutele sfidatoare care nu contenesc in a broscai pe lac% 1i totusi ce nu3i perfect 5e ne lipseste sa conchidem acest tablou mirific 5e"a , in subconstientul noastru, mereu lipseste% 1a fie oare ne"oia omului de perfectiune, setea de ordine ?osibil% =iecare dintre noi a"em aceasta dorinta% Desi nu toti o recunoastem, nu toti reusim% -;rdine <%%%5e3i asta <- ar intreba unii dintre noi% $abara ad"ersa ii denumesc -"isatorii- ce trec prin "iata ca gasca prin apa% Dar oare lumea lor sufera comparatie, fiind ea perfecta fata de a taberei ad"erse 5lar am delimitat doua categorii% :ibidoul omului fata de perfectiune, ageritatea, pofta de exactitate, rapiditatea (ilnica, nebunia, haos3ul interior, lipsa de aerisire mentala, sunt doar cate"a dintre caracteristicile unei "ieti extrem de bine pusa la punct, intr3un stil perfectionist% 1i, ne a+uta sa fim asa Au3l nostru interior este satisfacut ?oate da , poate nu% 5ert este ca toti suntem o apa si un pamant% 1i toti a"em acelasi aer in plamani% 1top si ganditi%%oare merita

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Let/& Dri33le
$his has been #nown for hundreds of yearsH -e"erybody is loo#ing out for number 1-% ,ut can we really be so per"erted that we li"e our li"es only thin#ing of oursel"es with absolutely no regard to those who are around us $o some, such a situation is perfectly understandable and they find it "ery easy to ta#e ad"antage of other people*s #indness% !*m not saying it is not o# to be a little -streetsmart- in order to get ahead% ! feel that it*s not right to li"e your life according to such principles and especially to use them daily% =rom getting a +ob to the concept of -free-RRRRR% 'nd it is "ery clear that -there is no such thing as a free lunch-% ?erhaps in another life, but in this one, there surely isn*t% ?erhaps life itself ma#es us guide oursel"es after these conceptsRRRRR, it pushes us to dribble and dodge all the obstacles we encounter on the way, +ust to get to our goals, e"en if we choose the wrong methods to do so% ! #now, -innocent until pro"en guilty-, but the consciousness of the guilty doesn*t get to difficult for him to bear ! #now there are some people with no remorse, that would do absolutely anything for something that would be good for them% ?erhaps there, in their world, there*s only their law, but -as you sow so shall you reap-%

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Sa dri3lam
De sute de ani toata lumea stie foarte bineH interesul poarta fesul% Dar oare, putem fi, pe romaneste spus, atat de per"ersi, incat sa ne traim "iata doar cu gandul de a fi doar noi bine, necontand ceilalti de langa noi ?entru unii este foarte usor de inteles o situatie de gen, si le este atat de simplu sa profite de bunatatea altora% 4u (ic ca nu e bine sa fi un pic smecher, astfel incat sa te poti orienta% 5onsider ca nu este corect sa traiesti dupa astfel de principii, si mai ales sa te folosesti (ilnic de ele% De la accesul la un +ob mai bun, pana la conceptul de -mo#a-% 1i se stie foarte clarH nimic nu e gratis in aceasta lume% ?oate in alta "iata, dar in aceasta, sigur nu% ?oate chiar "iata ne face sa ne ghidam dupa astfel de ratiuni, ne indeamna sa ne comportam astfel incat sa driblam tot ceea ce ne sta in cale, doar pentru a ne atinge scopurile, chiar si pe o cale marsa"easca% 1tiu, -2otul neprins, negustor cinstit-, dar oare constiinta acestui hot, nu are un gabarit de+a depasit 1i stiu ca sunt oameni fara remuscari, care pentru un lucru care i3ar fa"ori(a, ar fi in stare sa taie in carne "ie% ?oate acolo, in lumea lor, legea este una, dar dupa fapta "ine si rasplata%

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$his right here is a special article% !*m writing it now at night, but you will read it during the day% !*m listening to a song which made me thin# of chances% RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% 'ctually, the greatest chance we get is when we are gi"en the gift of life, when we are born% $his wonderful abyss of disco"eries, feelings of lo"e and hatred, heart3warming and unpleasant experiences% &e then ha"e the capacity to offer the chance of lifeRRRRRRRRR% &e ne"er #now whether the person we gi"e a chance to is worth it or not% ! would be "ery happy if e"eryone understood how important it is for the soul to gi"e a chance% ! #now there ha"e been moments when we reali(ed that many opportunities ha"e #noc#ed on our door and we were didn*t answer% ,ut that*s +ust how life is, you ne"er #now what to expect% Bou can die or blindly pass by deathRRRRRRRRRR% $hat is why, in life you ha"e to do as many things as possible and you must not regret for one second if any of your choices were G had been wrong% 'nd yes, it is worth gi"ing second chances% 4ot third chances though, you may be dissapointed% ,ut seconds are o#% )et closer to the people around you and gi"e them a chance%

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Sa &a
'cesta este un articol mai special% Aste noapte, iar "oi il cititi acum, (iua% 'scult o melodie care m3a dus cu gandul la sansa% Desi melodia in cau(a, a a"ut insemnatatea sansei pana nu demult, ea a incetat sa mai fie% De fapt, sansa ni se acorda in momentul in care primim darul "ietii, in momentul in care ne nastem% 'tunci primim sansa "ietii% 'cest abis minunat de descoperiri, sentimente de iubire si ura, experiente care mai de care mai sublime sau neplacute% :a randul nostru, a"em capacitatea de a oferi sansa "ietii mai departe% 4u stim niciodata daca celuiGcelei caruiaGcareia ii oferim sansa merita% 's fi multumita daca toata lumea ar intelege ca important este pentru suflet sa oferi sansa% 1tiu ca au fost momente in care am reali(at ca multe oportunitati ne3au batut la usa, si noi nu am fost acasa, si am ignorat din start aceasta sansa% Dar asa este "iata, nu stii nicodata la ce sa te astepti% ?oti muri, sau poti trece pe langa moarte cu ochii inchisi% De aceea in "iata trebuie sa faci cat mai multe, fara a regreta nici un moment ca poate una dintre alegeri nu a fost cea mai potri"ita% 1i da, merita sa acor(i a doua sansa% 4u pe a treia, ca atunci inter"ine de(amagirea% Dar a doua merita% =iti mai aproape de cei de langa "oi, si acordati sanse%

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T(e Letter&
'nother special article% 4ighttime again% &hoe"er said RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR was right% $oday ! reflected upon the meaning of letters% ! feel that their importance has been lost% $oday, the e3mail has ta#en its place% Fnfortunately, relationships ha"e changed also up to the point when they can end with a simple post3 it or an e3mail, e"en though such a situation would require a totally different approach% ?erhaps this happens because of lac# of time, no strength of character or e"en more serious, because of lac# of interest% ,ut ! dearly remember my childhood, when ! used to wait so anxiously to recei"e letters from important people in my life then% $here was nothing that would gi"e me more pleasure that opening those letters% !*"e always felt people can better express themsel"es in writing, rather than "erbally% ,ut today, writing a letter and sending it don*t come that easy to most people% ?erhaps this is +ust a small chapter in the general technical progress issue, which helped us all hal"e our efforts% ,ut is it really easier to go to an internet cafe than writing, at home, a warm physical letter

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S%ri&orile
'lt articol special% Dar este tot noapte% 1i cine a spus ca noaptea este un sfestnic bun, a a"ut dreptate% 03am gandit indelung a(i la semnificatia scrisorilor, si nu m3am putut opri sa nu ma gandesc si la semnificatia lor% 5onsider ca insemnatatea scrisorilor s3a pierdut% !n (iua de a(i, e3mailul a inlocuit scrisoarea% Din pacate, pana si relatiile au inceput sa se sfarseasca printr3un simplu post3it, sau un e3mail, si desi este un gest care nu ar trebui atribuit unei astfel de probleme, multi dintre noi o facem% ?oate din lipsa de timp, poate din lipsa de putere de caracter, sau mai gra", din lipsa de interes% Dar imi aduc aminte cu drag de copilarie, cand asteptam cu sufletul la gura, sa primesc scrisori la cutia postala, pentru a primi de la departare o "este de drag% 1i nimic nu era mai frumos, decat sa deschid acea scrisoare% !ntotdeauna am fost de parere ca omului ii este mult mai usor sa se exprime in scris, decat "erbal% Dar a(i, a pune o scrisoare la posta, ba chiar a sta sa o scrii, a de"enit un efort, pentru multi dintre noi% ?oate ca este doar o problema a acceptarii progresului tehnic, care nu a facut decat sa in+umatateasca eforturile noastre% Dar oare mai usor ne ducem la un internet caffe, decat sa scriem, cu drag, o scrisoare

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Se%ret&
;n such a warm day, ! thought !*d write about something that always brings an ironic smile on my face% &hen ! was little, ! distinctly remember ha"ing the impresion that the whole world was up to something and there was this great secret that nobody wanted to re"eal% 's ! grew up, ! reali(ed that it*s +ust our human nature ma#ing us secreti"e% 'nd e"erybody has a s#eleton in their closet, e"erybody is hiding something% 1ome hide their personalities, their way of thin#ing, others hide their principles% $he number one secret women #eep is their age% &hen it comes to men, ! can say they don*t ha"e that many secrets, they don*t ha"e many things to hide or they are +ust not made for that% 5onfidentiality should always be sacred> nowadays howe"er, we sometimes feel li#e we cannot #eep our mouths shut and we +ust want to run to our best friends and tell them e"erything on our minds% ! feel that it*s not good to be an open boo# for e"erybody to read, but only for those you #now would appreciate it% 1ecrets ma#e people more interesting, for they gi"e that state of mystery and un#nown, which many of us loo# for% 1ecrets aren*t necessarily bad, they can also be good, +ust li#e surprises% ;ther people*s curiosity is the ultimate satisfaction for a man of mystery and secret% secreti"e and mysterious manRRRRRR

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Se%rete
!ntr3o (i atat de calduroasa, eu m3am gandit sa aborde( o notiune care pe mine, nu stiu daca si pe "oi, ma face sa (ambesc in coltul gurii, usor ironic% 5and eram mai mica, tin minte si acum, ca a"eam impresia ca toata lumea asta este creata si ba(ata pe un mare secret, pe care nimeni nu ar "rea sa il spuna% 5rescand, am reali(at ca este doar legea firii, care ne face sa a"em secrete% 1i nu exista om in aceasta lume, care sa nu aiba cate ce"a de ascuns% Fnii ne ascundem personalitatea, modul de gandire, altii ascundem diferite principii de "iata% 5a sa fac un mic spirit de gluma, stiu sigur secretul numarul 1 pe care in general femeile il ascund 3 "arsta% Despre barbati, nu pot spune decat ca secretele lor nu sunt multe, pentru ca in general barbatii nu au multe lucruri de ascuns, sau poate nu sunt facuti pentru asa ce"a% 5onfidentialitatea ar trebui sa fie un lucru sfant, dar in (iua de a(i, in unele ca(uri, parca simtim cum ne arde limba, si fugim la prietena cea mai bunaG prietenul cel mai bun si spunem tot ce a"em pe suflet, simtind o usurare sufleteasca, cateodata amu(andu3ne de reactiile interlocutorului% 1unt de parere ca nu este bine sa fi ca o carte deschisa pentru toata lumea, ci doar pentru cei care sti ca aprecia(a acest lucru% ?lus ca secretul face orice persoana mai interesanta, pentru ca ii ofera acea stare de mister si de necunoscut, pe care cateodata, multi dintre noi o cautam% !ar secretele nu sunt neaparat de factura rea, pot fi si bune, cum sunt supri(ele%

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5urio(itatea celorlalti repre(inta satisfactia superma pentru un om plin de mister si de secrete%

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Ho e&t,
!f ! RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR33, when it comes to honesty, !*d be tempted to say !*"e always been honest% ,ut as ! feel that, besides )od, ! can only be +udged by myself, ! say that is not true% 'nd now !*m as#ing you% 2a"e you been honest ! don*t expect you to answer me, but +ust to thin# about it% !t*s so difficult to admit whether you ha"e been honest or not% ?erhaps we are not honest because when we are pursuing a goal, we tend to completely forget about manners% 'nd we cannot help committing these moral frauds% ;ur consciousness tells us the right things to do, but we don*t always listen% $he correct principle we should follow is to be fair under any circumstances and gi"e equal chances to those around us% 0ore importantly, we should be fair to oursel"es% ! feel that lying to others means lying to oursel"es% ,eing honest implies both respecting yourself and others%

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Si %eritate
Daca imi pun problema intr3un mod po(iti", cand "ine "orba despre sinceritate, sunt tentata sa spun ca am fost mereu sincera% Dar cum eu consider ca, in afara de Dumne(eu, doar eu am "oie sa ma +udec, spun ca nu este ade"arat% 1i acum "a intreb si pe "oi% 'ti fost sinceri ?retentia mea nu este sa imi raspundeti po(iti", ci doar sa "a ganditi la acest aspect% ?entru ca este greu sa recunosti cand esti sincer sau nu% 1au poate nu suntem sinceri, pentru ca urmarim cate ce"a, si cum interesul poarta fesul, uitam complet de conduita% 1i pentru ca nu ne putem abtine, comitem fraude morale% 5onstiinta noastra ne dictea(a, si nu mereu o ascultam% ?rincipiul corect de "iata ar fi ca, in orice situatie si cu orice pret, sa fim corecti, si sa acordam sanse egale celor din +ur% 0ai important este sa fim sinceri cu noi, mai intai% '(i consider ca daca ii mintim pe cei de langa, ne mintim pe noi insine% ' fi sincer, implica respectul de sine, si cel pentru cei din +ur%

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Ho$e
! wa#e up e"ery morning thin#ing it*s a brand new day%! fall asleep at night with the hope for a better tomorrow% ! wo#e up today moti"ated by the last night*s hope% !*"e met people who, after ! had tal#ed a little about myself, ha"e described me as lo"ing and full of hope% &e all ha"e hopes and wishes% RRRRRRR% &hen something bad happens, hope is all we ha"e to #eep us strong% 'nd e"ery time we ha"e failed, hope made us go on% ?roof of what !*"e +ust mentiones is that the greatest things in the world were made by people who #ept trying e"en when e"erything seemed hopeless% Fn"eiling your hopes to others may be considered an act of courage% 7ery closely connected to hope is perse"erence, but we*ll tal# about that some other day% 2ope ma#es us belie"e our dreams can come true, that one day we will be away from the city*s rustling, chiefs and managers, teachers, taxes and beggars% ! won*t end the article with $2A -hope +o#e- but ! will say thisH hope is the last to die, and sometimes it is all we ha"e% Ueep it safe, ta#e good care of it%

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S$era ta
!n fiecare dimineata ma tre(esc, si ma gandesc ca e o noua (i% 1eara adorm cu speranta ca maine "a fi o (i mai buna, si mai frumoasa din toate punctele de "edere% '(i m3am tre(it moti"ata de gandurile sperantei de aseara% 'm intalnit oameni, care dupa ce le3am po"estit despre mine, m3au caracteri(at ca fiind plina de sperante si iubitoare% =iecare a"em sperante, fie ca sunt ele de natura sentimentala, fie ca speram la ce"a mai bun, sau chiar in indeplinirea "iselor noastre% 'tunci cand ce"a rau se intampla, speranta este singura care ne tine spiritul trea(% 1i de fiecare data cand am dat gres, ceea ce ne3a facut sa continuam a fost speranta% Do"ada fiind faptul ca cele mai importante lucruri in lume au fost reali(ate de oameni care au continuat sa incerce chiar si cand se parea ca nu mai este nici o speranta% ?oate este o do"ada de cura+, sa iti exprimi sperantele in fata celorlati% 1ora buna cu speranta este perse"erenta, dar despre asta "om "orbi in alta (i% Dar speranta ne face sa credeam ca "isele inca se mai pot implini, ca "reodata "om fi unde"a departe de freamatul orasului, de sefi si administratori, de profesori, de taxe si cersetori% 4u am sa inchei cu '5A' gluma despre speranta, dar am sa "a impartasesc un indemnH speranta moare ultima, asa ca ea e tot ce ne3a mai ramas% saditi3o intr3un loc retras si a"eti gri+a de ea%

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St,le&
'long the years !*"e met a lot of people, so today ! thought !*d write about personal styles and implicitly about personalities% $here*s clearly a multitude of styles, one more special than the other% 'nd fran#ly ! don*t thin# ! could analy(e each of them right now% !*ll try to define but a few of those which refer to both women and men% 1tyle is the one truly defining feature of man% 'ndRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, each of us, without e"en #nowing it, builds up his personality% $he first type that got my attention was, of course, the mysterious one% Bou #now those people with a special and distincti"e air, who arouse interest but are "ery difficult to *disco"er*% $hen, ! disco"ered the -Pac# of all traits- type, always willing to sol"e any #ind of problems that may appear% ,ut they ne"er ta#e care of their own% !*"e then met the -action man-% 2e ne"er wastes time, he*s always doing something and he is always up to date with e"erything new% $he moment ! met the intelligent type was quite impressi"e% !ntelligence that is pro"ed by action and not tal#RRRRRRRRR% !f whate"er they are doing is also right, then it is perfect G they get an ' plus% !*"e also met the -dreamer- type, to whom life is a ne"er3ending dream, and the contact with reality is #ept to a minimum% 4o matter the style, type or personality, it must be understood that each of us is unique and that nobody can impose us to be differentRR%

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Stil
5unoscand de3a lungul "ietii o gramada de oameni, m3am gandit ca a(i sa "orbim despre stil, implicit despre personalitati% 5lar, exista o multitudine de stiluri, fiecare care mai de care% 1i sincer nu cred ca as putea sa stau acum sa le anali(e( pe toate pe rand% 7oi incerca sa definesc doar cate"a, din punctul meu de "edere, stiluri care caracter(ea(a atat femeile cat si barbatii% 1tilul este acea caracteristica care defineste omul% 1i desi nu este obligatoriu, fiecare dintre noi, fara sa bagam de seama, ne formam personalitatea% ?rimul gen de oameni care mi3a atras atenia a fost, normal, genul misterios% 1titi, acei oameni cu o alura distincta, care iti tre(esc interesul si despre care iti este foarte greu sa afli, catusi de putin% 'poi am descoperit tipul omului -bun la toate-, saritor, care re(ol"a orice fel de probleme, sau cri(e% 0ai putin ale lui% !naintand in "iata, am dat peste prototipul omului de actiune% 4iciodata stand degeaba, mereu in "er"a, si la curent cu tot ce este nou% !mpresionant a fost momentul in care am intalnit genul inteligent% 5are se afirma prin fapte, si nu prin "orbe, cu tendinta de perfectionism bine Daca si ceea ce fac este bine, atunci au nota 1C% 'm intalnit de asemenea genul "isator, pentru care "iata repre(inta un "is continuu, iar tangenta cu realitatea este minima% !ndiferent de stil, gen sau personalitate, trebuie inteles faptul ca fiecare dintre noi suntem unici, prin modul de a fi, si ca nimeni nu ne poate impune sa fim altfel decat simtim sa fim%
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Tem$tatio
! really wish for this article to be a good one% !t is a sub+ect ! lo"e as !*m sure many of you do% $oday we will tal# about the game of seduction, about temptation% $emptation is e"erywhere% A"erywhere we go, at e"ery step we ta#e% !t ta#es different forms> it can be a person who intrigues you, ma#ing you want to #now more about him or her, or a thing you would li#e to ha"e such as a chocolate or a trip somewhere% ! will focus on relationships% 1ometimes, when we see temptation or opportunity, we tend to +udge things with our hearts instead of our heads% &e do this because we tend to go with the flow and get carried away by the moment% ,ut it is always up to you to whether go for it or not% !t is "ery well #nown that it*s not good to gi"e in to temptations, although we sometimes regretfully say -!t would ha"e been worth it-% &e cannot #now whether the same chance will show itself in the future% $emptation, to me, is the equi"alent of trying% Bou can either gi"e it a shot or not, it*s up to our way of thin#ing and courage% $he game is quite beautiful and intriguing% &e loo# for clues, we interpret them or, as most people do, +ust let things happen naturally% &hen feelings reach a certain high, temptation disappears% !f the outcome of this -game- is satisfactory then it was worth following your temptation% $o concludeH we must ha"e the willingness to choose, the courage to try and the strength to not be disappointed if we fail% 'nd after all, who doesn*t li#e a bit of intrigue <
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Te tatie
0i3as dori din tot sufletul ca articolul de a(i sa fie unul reusit% Aste un subiect care mie imi place foarte mult, si sunt ferm con"insa ca nu numai mie% '(i "om "orbi despre +ocul seductiei, despre tentatie% $entatii sunt peste tot% :a fiecare colt de strada, la fiecare pas pe care il facem% Axista sub diferite forme, fie o persoana care te intriga, si "rei sa sti mai multe, fie sub forma unui obiect care ti3l doresti foarte mult, o ciocolata, sau o excursie% 0a "oi axa asupra relatiilor dintre oameni% 5ateodata, cand intalnim o tentatie, un prile+, se intampla sa gandim mai mult cu inima decat cu capul% 'sta o facem, deoarece ne lasam purtati de "alul intamplarilor, de natura situatiei% Dar totul sta in a alege daca sa accese(i sau nu acea tentatie% 'cel prile+% 1e stie foarte bine, ca nu este indicat sa te lasi prada tentatiilor, desi uneori, cu un gust de regret, spunem -'r fi meritat-% 4u a"em de unde sa stim, daca "reodata in "iitor, de "a mai i"i aceasta sansa% $entatia pentru mine repre(inta echi"alentul incercarii% !ti poti incerca sansa sau nu, totul depin(and de modul de gandire si de cura+ul pe care il detinem% Pocul este unul foarte frumos si foarte intrigant% 5autam semne indicii, poate le si interpretam, sau cum fac ma+oritatea oamenilor, las lucrurile sa "ina de la sine% :a un anumit moment, la un anumit ni"el al sentimentelor tentatia dispare% Daca re(ultatul tuturor acestor intamplari, si a acestui +oc frumos este unul satisfacator, inseamna ca a meritat sa +oci -pasii- tentatiei% $rag urmatoarea conclu(ieH
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trebuie sa a"em intentia de a alege, cura+ul de a incerca, si puterea de a nu ramane de(amagiti, in ca(ul unui esec% la urma urmei, cui nu3i place intriga <

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T(eor, )&- Pra%ti%e

!t*s nighttime% 'nd it*s surprisingly late% $heoretically, now ! should be turning on the other side in bed, but in reality ! am in front of the computer writing you% 'ctually this is the introduction for today*s articleH theory "s practice% $he word *practice* refers to ideas that ha"e been or can be applied in real life% &hat ! am doing right now is practical, although it once only existed in theory% &hen we are young, e"erything is theoretical, but as we grow up, we reach the point when we can ma#e things that used to be simple ideas happen% ,ut in order to be practical, will is necessaryRRR% Pust wishing for something to happen is not enough% $here must a power that would start *the mechanism*% $heoretically )ood question% Uind of oftenly used, because there many people who use it to answer lots of e"eryday problems% ,ut that*s not a solution% 4othing should e"er +ust remain *theoretical*% !t is up to you to decide what is best% ,eing practical or stic#ing with theory

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Teoreti% )&- Pra%ti%

A noapte% 5hiar tar(iu, suprin(ator% $eoretic ar fi trebuit sa ma intorc pe cealalta parte chiar acum , dar practic sunt in fata calculatorului si "a scriu% De fapt, aceasta este introducerea pentru a(iH practic "s% teoretic% 5u"antul practic desemnea(a ideile puse in aplicare, poate chiar dorintele noastre ascunse% ?ractic este ceea ce fac eu acum, un lucru care intr3un timp era doar o idee, existand doar teoretic% ?oate atunci cand suntem mai mici de "arsta, totul ni se pare doar teoretic, si atunci cand crestem si ne maturi(am, a+ungem la stadiul in care a"em capabilitatea de -a pune in miscare-, de a reali(a ceea ce odinioara ni se parea doar o idee fugiti"a, o scanteie de "ointa% Da, pentru a fi practici, este necesara "ointa% 4u cred ca a+unge doar a a"ea dorinta de a reali(a ce"a% $rebuie sa existe si un pic de spirit, de o putere care sa ne poata urni planurile% $eoretic ,una intrebare% 5am des intalnita, deoarece sunt foarte multe persoane care o folosesc drept raspuns la multe din problemele cotidiene% Dar nu este o solutie% 1i nimic nu trebuie sa ramana la stadiul de -teorie-% Kamane la atitudinea "oastra, sa decideti cum este mai bine, ce "i se potri"este exact, sau care este in de(a"anta+% ' fi practic sau a ramane la teorie

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Time Out
! didn*t want it to rain% 'nd ! didn*t want to start the article with a negation% $herefore we will start again% ! hope you won*t let the rain today influence you, it will go away, hopefully< ! was tal#ing to a good friend of mine and she was telling me that she needs to -change the scenery-% &e all feel the need for some air sometimes% Aach of us thin#s of a relaxing way to ma#e this happen% 1ome go to the mountains, others to a club or e"en better +ust out for a wal#% ,ut what about -soul reliefKelaxing your so "ery stressed mind $he solution !*m gi"ing you today is to not forget to do the things that used to please and relax you% &hether it is ha"ing a beer in your armchair or following your instincts and +ust going to a certain place next to a forest where there*s fresh air and green grass% ?erhaps a good mo"ie could also help% !*m sure we could all use getting out of our routine and flee to the world of our hidden desires, to recharge our batteries and relax% ' well thought out brea# can only help% ! wish you a well deser"ed pause%

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U mome t de re&$iro
4u "roiam sa ploua% 1i nu "roiam sa incep a(i cu -nu-% 'sa ca, reluam% 1per sa nu "a influente(e ploaia de a(i, e trecatoare, sper< 1tateam de "orba cu o prietena buna, ce3mi spunea ca are ne"oie sa -schimbe tapetul-% 4e"oia de aerisire o simtim cu totii, si fiecare dintre noi ne gandim la o solutie cat mai buna si mai relaxanta pentru a duce la buna indeplinire aceasta dorinta% Fnii dintre noi, plecam la munte, altii ne refugiem intr3o discoteca, 1au ba mai bine, iesim pe strada la plimbare% Dar cum ramane cu aerisirea interioara 5u relaxarea mintii atat de mult chinuita de stress3ul (ilnic 1olutia ce "3o dau eu, a(i, este sa nu uitati sa faceti acele lucruri care cu ade"arat "a faceau placere si "a relaxau% De la bautul unei beri in fotoliu, pana la a "a urma instinctele si a fugi intr3un loc, langa o padure cu aer curat si miros de iarba% ?oate chiar si un film bun ar a+uta% 1unt sigura ca ne3ar fi de folos tuturor sa mai iesim din cotidian, sa e"adam in lumea dorintelor noastre ascunse, pentru a ne incarca puterile, si a ne relaxa% ; pau(a bine gandita, nu ar face decat sa a+ute, dupa ca( si ca(% 7a doresc un bine meritat respiro%

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S(, e&&
;n such a beautiful day8and !*m happy this is the second consecuti"e one9, ! can only thin# of soothing G calme things% 1hyness was the first thought ! had% ! #now there*s shyness in each and e"eryone of us, because we are born with it% !t is something you can *educate* or something you can let yourself guided by% 1ome ha"e the tendency to o"erreact because of the "ery fact that they are self3conscious about their shyness and they suddenly release their feelings% ,ut in a society in which communication is "ital, shyness can be a huge handicap% $imidity is one of the most common problems people ha"e 8according to certain studies, .CV of the world population suffers of had suffered because of it9 and it can ha"e a terrible influence on the li"es of those who li"e in its shadow% 1hy people are not loo#ed upon with great understanding or sympathy% $his happens because shyness leads to undesired social situations% ' man who is trying to lose his timidity and be more sociable can be considered snob, boring, unfriendly, wea# or e"en conceited because of his inability to interact% ?eople get shy when they want to start a relationship with someone they don*t #now, or when they feel re+ected for the "ery reason that they are shy% $imidity shows itself only at certain times% 1hy people do ha"e friends% &hen shy people begin to communicate with certain members on their entourage, they start acting normally and become "ery nice% ! will end the

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article with a personal thoughtH it*s a pity to be shy, for that causes the loss of many satisfactions%

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Timiditate
!ntr3o (i asa de frumoasa8 si ma bucur ca au fost doua consecuti"e9, nu ma pot gandi decat la lucruri linistitoare% $imiditatea a fost primul lucru la care m3am gandit% 1tiu ca timiditatea este in fiecare dintre noi, pentru ca ne nastem cu ea% Aste un lucru care se poate educa, sau, din contra, unii oameni o lasa asa cum este ea% !mportant este sa nu ne lasam condusi de timiditate% Fnii dintre noi a"em tendinta de a exagera, tocmai prin prisma faptului ca stim ca suntem timi(i, si de3odata dam frau liber sentimentelor% Dar intr3o societate in care comunicarea este esentiala, a fi timid poate fi un mare handicap% $imiditatea este una dintre cele mai intalnite probleme 8conform unor studii .CV dintre noi sufera sau au suferit la un moment dat din cau(a ei9 si poate a"ea o influenta foarte nefasta asupra "ietii celor care traiesc sub aura ei% 5u toate acestea, oamenii timi(i nu se bucura de prea mare intelegere si simpatie% 'cest lucru se intampla intrucat timiditatea duce la manifestari sociale neplacute% Fn om care incearca sa scape de timiditate si sa fie mai sociabil cu alti oameni poate fi perceput datorita inabilitatii de a interactiona ca si snob, plictisitor, neprietenos sau slab, ba chiar fitos% ;amenii sunt timi(i atunci cand "or sa demare(e o relatie cu o persoana necunoscuta, sau deseori se simt respinsi de ceilalti datorita faptului ca sunt tacuti si retrasi% $imiditatea nu se manifesta intotdeauna% ;amenii timi(i nu sunt total lipsiti de prieteni% !n momentul in care, cu anumite persoane din antura+ au reusit sa depaseasca bariera din calea
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comunicarii, timi(ii incep sa se comporte normal si de"in foarte placuti% !nchei prin a "a spune o parere personalaH este pacat sa fim timi(i, pierdem multe satisfactii%

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All t(e &tu$id t(i g&

1ometimes ! e"en surprise myself with the way ! manage to complicate my life with a lot of stupid little things% 'nd these daily stupid little things indeed help% :et me gi"e you a few examplesH things that change the way we loo#, fa#e things imitating the originals etc% &hate"er we do, we cannot a"oid them% 'lthough we would all prefer 8! hope9 to listen to good music, we ha"e come to accept all the remixes made with computers and programs, forgetting all about musical instruments% 'nd don*t e"en get me started on food% =ood, fast3 food, ordering pi((a at home, we call them -simple pleasures- and trifles, but they change our so3 called healthy thin#ing G orientation% $hen there*s the t"% RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR % ! could go on and on but ! thin# you got the point% -'ll this crapRRRRR- influences our existence, the authenticity of our li"es, the natural flow of a day, and the more beautiful they are wrapped, the more difficult is to get rid of their effects%

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Toate $ro&tiile
5ateodata ma suprind pana si pe mine, si ma uimesc, cum stau si ma incurc in toate prostiile lumesti% 1titi si "oi, ca omul isi complica singur existenta% 1i ce ne a+uta foarte mult sunt aceste prostioare (ilnice, pe care le asimilam% 1a "a dau cate"a exempleH lucruri care ne schimba infatisarea, chestii false, care ne confera impresia de original, etc% 1i orice am face, nu putem sa le e"itam, oricat am incerca% 1i cu toate ca am prefera cu totii, sper, o mu(ica buna, am a+uns sa ascultam toate remixurile facute pe butoane si3n calculator, uitand de instrumentele mu(icale% 'sta ca sa nu mai pomenesc de mancare% ;f, mancarea, fast3 food3ul, comanda de pi((a acasa, noi le numim -micile placeri- sau mofturi, dar ele ne biruie +udecata cea presupusa a fi sanatoasa% 'poi urmea(a t"3ul% 'ici comentariul este scurt H -poporul este mintit cu tele"i(orul-% 1i multe multe alte exemple ar urma a fi relatate, dar cred ca subiectul a fost inteles% -$oate prostiile-, caci asa le3am numit, ne influentea(a existenta, "eritabilitatea "ietii, cursul firesc al unei (i, si pe cat sunt ele de atracti"e si grandios ambalate, pe atat de greu este sa inlaturi efectul lor%

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Lo)e &tr,7e
'bout lo"e thousands of thingsRRRR ha"e been written% ! felt it was me duty too to praise this wonderful thing% ! won*t approach *lo"e* from the physical point of "iew, as some suggested, but from the angle of the feelings and emotions it brings% ?erhaps to some, tal#ing about lo"e is a taboo sub+ect% 's it is a "ery complex concept, lo"e is differently understood by 8different9 people, and the way they act towards it also "aries% $hose simple lo"e statements, which romantics #now all too well, and the butterflies we get in the stomach the moment we cannot feel our #nees anymore, only ma#e us more aware of our feelings and of the power they ha"e% :o"e completes an existence, e"en when it causes suffering and ! thin# it shouldn*t be considered RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% 'nd as a friend of mine used to say, lo"e is an art and trying to dominateRRR it is the way to maturity and inner peace% 'll this is moti"ated by man*s simple need for lo"e, for sharing his soul and feelings with a special someone that he will loo# for perhaps for a lifetime% 1ome people li"e their li"es lo"ing lo"eRRR% ! #now, those cheerful of you will sayH -%%so much tal#, let*s do something<-

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Tu de amor
Despre amor s3au tot spus si scris mii si mii de lucruri% Dar m3am simtit un pic datoare sa imi aduc si eu aportul la acest lucru minunat, amorul% 1i nu aborde( subiectul din punct de "edere fi(ic, asa cum mi3au sugerat unii, ci il scriu din prisma sentimentului si trairilor pe care amorul ni3l confera% ?oate ca a "orbi despre amor, pentru unii este un gest tabuu% =iind un lucru destul de complex, oamenii in general au opinii diferite despre amor, cu atat mai mult si abordarile difera de la caractere la caractere% Dar acele simple declaratii de amor, pe care romanticii le stiu prea bine, si acei fluturi din stomac care (burda in momentul in care genunchii ni se inmoaie subit, nu fac decat sa ne intareasca con"ingerile, ca ceea ce simtim este cu ade"arat un sentiment nobil de dragoste% 'morul intregeste un om, chiar si in momentele de suferinta, si dupa parerea mea, nu trebuie pri"it ca o parghie sau un moti" de mahnire in momente de pier(anie sufleteasca% 1i cum (icea un prieten bun de al meu, amorul este o arta in sinea lui, si a incerca sa3l stapanesti, nu repre(inta decat drumul spre maturitate si multumire sufleteasca% !ar aceast drum este mereu moti"at de simpla dorinta a omului de amor si de a iubi, de a3 si imparti sufletul si trairile cu o persoana speciala pe care poate o "iata intreaga o cauta cu indar+ire% Fnii oameni traiesc o "iata intreaga iubind iubirea% 'cum stiu, cei +o"iali "eti spuneH -%%%atata "orbaraie, la actiune<-

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Sometime& 4e "orget
Bes, we sometimes forget% !t*s only human to forget things, names, ideas or feelings% !*"e noticed that lately, people tend to forget to be happy% $hey simply forget to do things for themsel"es, for their own comfort% =or the soul must also be fed from time to time, and not +ust the stomach% &e sometimes wish to forget% &e generally a"oid remembering bad things or times when we were hurt% ,ut all these things come bac# without us pushing the *forget* button% !t*s +ust li#e in the sayingH -RRRBou cannot escape your fearsRRR-% ?erhaps some use their fears to stay focused and alert% A"eryone should #now that only through exercising it, will the mind sharpen% &e may forget important things% RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR% $he past is actually the base for the present% 'nd if we forget the past, will the present still ha"e a solid base G basis 1omeone once told meH -Don*t forget to not forget about yourself%- ?erhaps when forgetting about oursel"es, we go bac# in the past%

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U eori uitam
Da, Fneori uitam% 1i este pur omenesc sa uiti, de la amanunte la nume, de la idei la sentimente% 'm obser"at in ultima "reme ca oamenii au tendinta de a uita sa fie fericiti% Fita pur si simplu sa faca lucruri pentru ei, pentru confortul lor si bunastarea sufletului% ?entru ca si sufletul trebuie hranit din cand in cand, nu doar stomacul% 5ateodata ne dorim sa uitam% !n general e"itam sa ne aducem aminte de lucruri rele, sentimente de suferinta, perioade ale "ietii cand poate nu eram in regula% Dar toate aceste lucruri "in inapoi fara ca noi sa apasam pe butonul uitarii% Axact ca in (icala H -De ce ti3e frica, nu scapi%- ?oate ca unii folosesc uitarea ca un mod de a3si tine mintea clara si focusata% Dar orice om trebuie sa stie ca doar prin exerciutiu isi poate forma acuratetea mintii% !ar daca uitam, putem a+unge sa ne uitam si capul% 1i cand iti uiti capul, atunci urmea(a si sufletul, ine"itabil% $ot ceea ce dam uitarii, nu "a dispare niciodata% 1i poate tot ceea ce inseamna trecut, este de fapt ba(a pre(entului% !ar daca dam uitarii trecutul, oare pre(entul "a mai fi ba(at pe ce"a solid Fn calator prin "iata mi3a (is oadata H -4u uita sa nu uiti de tine-% ?oate ca atunci cand uitam de noi, ne reintoarcem in trecut%

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Star& are 3li d

Did you #now that Dustin 2offman went out with a 23 year old woman or that 'ndreea ,anica is dri"ing a Dacia 'nd e"en ,anica Pr% li#es shifting gears with both hands on his Dacia, as he says hello to 0aruta, while 0ihaela Kadulescu was calling his cell phone% &ell, ! thought !*d approach the following topicH -stars-% &hat has a -star- turned into these past 1C years for Komanians $he answerH anyone who puts on a show% Fnfortunately, that*s the situation and the reason for this is that there is a new and prosperous mar#et for Komanians, the -star mar#et-% &hen we were children, we wanted to be li#e them> some made it, some watch them and the others ma#e fun% $he quality of stars has substantially diminished lately and the same happened to the interest for anything of good quality in this domain% Bou appear twice on a t" station and you instantly become a star, and if -by accident- you let yourself photographed by a papara((i when you*re on the street with a gorgeous blonde, you will surely co"er the first page of a tabloid and e"en appear at t" again% ,ut what you lea"e behind is cheap% $here isn*t anything smart about it, there*s no flair% $here are no stars in Komania, or maybe only a few, who really contributed to arts, music or acting% &e all dearly remember 5aragiu or get that warm feeling when watching $amara ,uciuceanu% ! answered whoe"er told meH -0aaan, ! wish ! could be a star<- that he should thin# twice, for he would surely find a more pleasant and comfortable
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occupation% ! ha"e yet to see -stars- who wouldn*t complain%

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=edeta
1tiati ca Dustin 2offman a iesit cu o tanara de 23 de ani, sau ca 'ndreea 0arin conduce o Dacie ,a chiar pana si lui ,anica Pr ii place sa schimbe cu doua maini "ite(ele la Dacie, salutand3ul din mers pe 0aruta, in timp ce pe mobil il suna 0ihaela Kadulescu% Ai bine, m3am gandit sa aborde( subiectul -7edeta-% 5e a inceput sa insemne -"edeta- in ultimii 1C ani pentru romani Ai bine, raspunsul "ine necontenitH orice persoana care se da in stamba% Din pacate da, si asta numai pentru ca exista o piata care mai nou la noi la romani, prinde ca painea calda de la colt, industria "edetelor% 5and eram mici, "roiam sa fim ca ei, unii au a+uns ca ei, altii ii pri"esc, iar restul se amu(a% 5alitatea -"edetei- s3a diminuat foarte mult in ultima perioada, la fel si interesul pentru ce"a de calitate in acest domeniu% 'pari de doua ori pe sticla, si esti "edeta, si daca cum"a mai si -te lasifotografiat de un papara((i pe strada cu o blonda superba, ai marea oca(ie de a a+unge pe prima pagina a unei re"iste de scandal, ba chiar la tele"i(or% !ar imaginea si gustul lasat in urma sunt de o calitate ieftina% 4ici urma de inteligenta in actiuni, nici de fler% !n Komania nu exista "edete, sau poate cate"a, care cu ade"arat au adus un tribut artei, mu(icii, sau actoriei% 5aci toti ni3l amintim cu drag pe 5aragiu, sau pri"im cu drag la $amara ,uciuceanu cum ne incanta (ambetele% 5elui care intr3o (i mi3a spus - 5e mult mi3as dori sa fiu "edeta, frate<-, i3am spus sa se gandeasca de doua ori, caci sigur "a gasi o alta ocupatie mult mai
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placuta si mai confortabila% 5aci nu am "a(ut -"edeta-, pana acum care sa nu se planga%

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T(e =i%tim
0ost people ha"e posed as -"ictims-% ?laying -the "ictim- and acting helpless come "ery easily and don*t ta#e any special s#ill% $hey do depend a little on how -streetsmart- we are% 't any le"el of society we can find those people who, by a simple -! can*t-, #now how to ta#e ad"antage of whoe"er is around% $his beha"iour is generally found at women, but when they want to, men also can be "ery successful when it comes to -self3 "ictimi(ation-% &hen ! see such people, ! laugh and amuse myself and ! tend to thin# that it is not as bad to beha"e this way as being -tric#ed- by such indi"iduals% $hey are not that hard to spot, for they always ha"e that -cry baby- attitude, to which not many can resist% 2a"e a pleasant e"ening<

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=i%tima
!n postura de -"ictima- au po(at ma+oritatea oamenilor% ' te da drept -"ictima-, este foarte usor, si nu este neaparata ne"oie de un talent special, pentru a face o mica fita, ici colo arunctata, pentru a lasa impresia de nea+utorare sau neputinta% $ine un pic si de dramul de smecherie pe care unii dintre noi il exercitam, exact pentru a abtine anumite a"anta+e in fata altora% :a orice ni"el in societate, intalnim acele persoane care printr3un singur -nu pot- rostit pe un ton greu de refu(at, persoane care stiu sa profite cateodata de bunatatea celor din +urul lor% !n general acest comportament este adoptat de femei, dar si barbatii cand "or, pot fi la fel de iscusiti in ceea ce pri"este -auto3 "ictimi(area-% Au cand "ad astfel de oameni, rad si ma amu(, in sinea mea, si ma gandesc ca nu este chiar asa de rau sa te comporti de asa natura, pe cat este de rau sa ca(i in plasa unei astfel de perosane% 1i ei nu sunt greu de recunoscut, pentru ca mereu au acea atitudine de -cry baby-, la care nu oricine re(ista% 1eara senina<

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Dream
!t is hot, so "ery hot% ! do en+oy hot weather% :ast night, before going to sleep, ! wondered when was the last time !*"e dreamt% 'nd e"en though ! don*t drin# mil# before going to bed, as our grandparents would tell us, ! oftenly dream % 0y dreams are not always nice% 4ightmares are the ones we fear% !*"e #nown people who would try to ma#e themsel"es not dream because they had bad nightmares% ! thin# we all #now what a nightmare is% 'nd we all #now its psychological impact and the questions we inconsciously as# oursel"es% :ots of people ha"e tried to descifre dreams in order to explain the meaning of ob+ects or ma#e out the images that appear% ! won*t e"en start with the -Dragobete- day 8Komanian 7alentine*s Day9% ! ha"e yet to meet the person, e"en in the rural en"ironment, who would say they ha"e dreamt about their future man that "ery night% ;r better yet, to ha"e met him% ! #now a lot of you also daydream% ! for one, do> it relaxes me% ! do this because nobody forbids me to thin# of nice things during the day and when there is so little time for relaxing% &e dream about holiday plans, about the future or about what we are going to do in the e"ening% $he important thing is to dream about beautiful, relaxing things, whether we do it at night or during the day% &e all wonderH -&hat would it be li#e if%%% -

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=i&
5ald, foarte cald% 0a bucur de caldura, mereu% 'seara m3am intrebat inainte sa adorm, de cand nu am mai "isat% 1i raspunsul a "enit fulger3 de a(inoapte% 1i cu toate ca nu beau lapte inainte de culcare, cum ne indemnau bunicii nostri cand eram mici, "ise( des% 7isele nu sunt mereu frumoase% 5osmarurile sunt cele de care ne ferim% 'm cunoscut oameni care isi impuneau sa nu "ise(e, tocmai pentru ca "isau urat si a"eau cosmaruri% 5red ca fiecare stiti ce inseamna un cosmar% 1i cu totii ii cunoastem impactul psihologic, si intrebarile ce ni le punem inconstinent% 0ulti au cautat in arta descifrarii "iselor, pentru a isi explica sau a deslusi imagini, insemnatatea obiectelor, s%a%m%d% De sarbatoarea Dragobete, nici ca ma mai leg% Dar nu am intalnit pana acum persoana, chiar si din mediul rural, care sa imi spuna ca, in acea noapte chiar si3a "isat barbatul% ,a, mai bine de atat, sa si il cunoasca% 1tiu ca multi dintre "oi, "isati si (iua, si nu am refer la dormit% Au una "ise( si cu ochii deschisi, imi relaxe( mintea% =ac asta, pentru ca nimeni nu imi poate inter(ice sa am gandesc la lucruri frumoase, in timpul (ilei, cand din pacate exista foarte putin timp pentru relaxare% 1i "isam la planuri de "acanta, la "iitor, chiar si la ce "om face seara% Dupa mine, important este ca ceea ce "isam, (i sau noapte, sa fie frumos, sa fie ganduri frumoase, relaxante, si poate care sa contina un dram de realitate% $oti ne intrebamH -5um ar fi sa%%% - %

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=ul era3ilit,
1ince it is a fairly common feature of people in general, ! decided to write about it today% &hen it comes to people, ! li#e to search deep within their "ery essence, therefore ! thought that the one thing we all #eep hidden and we consider a sign of wea#ness, is our "ulnerability% !n those moments in which "ulnerability is shown, as people, we get a chance to really #now personalities around us> for it is the appropriate moment for confessions and also displays of sensibility% 'nd surprises +ust #eep on coming because "ulnerability is li#e a gateway of the human soul% !t must not be loo#ed upon as a bad thing, because being sensiti"e does not mean not being strong, and under no circumstances does it mean that people should ta#e ad"antage of such moments% 'nd because we are people, and not robots, nobody forbids us to display sensibility or to unmas# our true personality in front and e"erybody else% ' while ago !*"e as#ed a man if he e"er cries and he said -4o% 4e"er%- ! reali(ed that he was lying% &e cannot act indifferently to the bad things that happen around us% !n the end this is the way we are, with both good and bad, and mas#s are merely an option%

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=ul era3ilitate
=iind o caracteristica a oamenilor in general, m3 am gandit sa scriu despre acest lucru a(i% ?entru ca imi place sa caut in oameni esentele lor, m3am gandit ca lucrul pe care toti il ascundem, si il consideram un semn de slabiciune, este "ulnerabilitatea% !n momentele in care "ulnerabilitatea inter"ine, ca oameni, a"em sansa de a ne cunoaste cu ade"arat semenii% ?entru ca este momentul oportun destainuirilor si totodata a afisarii sensibilitatilor% 1i supri(ele nu incetea(a sa curga, pentru ca "ulnerabilitatea este ca un portal al sufletului omenesc% 4u trebuie considerata un lucru rau, pentru ca a fi sensibili nu inseamna ca nu suntem puternici, si in nici un ca( ca cei din +ur trebuie sa profite de aceste momente, nici macar sa incerce% 1i pentru ca nu suntem roboti, ci oameni, nu ne poate inter(ice nimeni sa nu afisam sensibilitatea, sau sa ne demascam ade"arata personalitate in fata tuturor% 0ai demult am intrebat un barbat daca plange, si mi3a raspuns ca nu, niciodata% 0i3am dat seama ca mintea% 4u putem fi indiferenti la orice lucru rau din +urul nostru% :a urma urmei asa suntem, cu bune cu rele, iar mastile sunt doar o optiune%

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Smile
$he most beautiful thing in this world, apart from lo"e, is the smile% $here are beautiful things we can do, for relaxation, for inner peace, but nothing is more rewarding than an honest smile that is coming from the heart% $he eyes represent the gate of the soul, and the smile is the #ey% 1uch a gesture can brighten up your day, relax you, it can be useful in many situations G it can sa"e "arious situations% ' smile costs nothing but it is indeed "ery "aluable% !t enriches the one who recei"es it without inpo"erishing the one who *offers* it% !t only lasts for a moment but the memory of that smile can last fore"er% ! #now that the smile strenghtens the soul and it comforts sadness% $he smile is the equi"alent of hope, and as *there is always hope*, the memory of the smile lasts on fore"er% &hen e"erything is sad and dar#, a smile can lighten up the room and the ambience% $hin# about it, when was the last time you really actually smiled &hen was the last time you were honest and offered the person next to you the wormth of an unconditional smile 4obody is in a greater need for a smile than the man who cannot offer one% -4e"er stop smiling, not e"en when you are sad, because you ne"er #now who may fall in lo"e with your smile%)abriel PosW )arcXa 0Yrque(

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>am3et
5el mai frumos lucru in aceasta lume, in afara de dragoste, este (ambetul% 1unt lucruri frumoase pe care le putem face, pentru relaxare, pentru pace interioara, dar nimic nu este mai multumitor decat un (ambet sincer, i("orat din suflet% ;chii sunt poarta sufletului, iar (ambetul, cheia% Fn astfel de gest iti poate insori (iua, te poate relaxa, poate sal"a situatii% un (ambet nu costa nimic, dar este foarte "aloros% !mbogateste pe cel care il primeste fara sa saraceasca pe cel care il da%Durea(a doar un moment,dar amintirea acelui (ambet poate dura pentru totdeauna% 1tiu ca (ambetul da forta sufletului, si consolea(a tristetea% Qambetul este echi"alentul sperantei, si cum speranta moare ultima, amintirea (ambetului dainuie pentru totdeauna% 5and totul este trist si mohorat, un (ambet poate lumina incaperea si atmosfera% )anditi3"a, cand ati (ambit ultima oara cu sinceritate si ade"arat 5and ati fost sinceri, si ati oferit persoanei de langa "oi caldura unui (ambet neconditionat 4imeni nu are mai mare ne"oie de un (ambet, decat acel om care nu il poate darui% -4u inceta niciodata sa (ambesti, nici chiar atunci cand esti trist, pentru ca nu se stie cine se poate indragosti de (ambetul tau%)abriel PosW )arcXa 0Yrque(

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Ho4 &mall t(i& 4orld i&

Aqually funny as it is scary is the moment when we reali(e how small the world is% !n the "arious places and circles we spend our spare time, or e"en during wor#, we meet all #inds of people, special or common, people with whom we communicate and establish relationships% 'nd it didn*t come to me as a great surprise when on some occasions !*"e met some people in places ! wouldn*t ha"e thought possible% ! find it "ery funny when this happens% ,ut later on ! reali(e that maybe ! shouldn*t be so amused by this% !t depends on the options each of us has, how *popular* one wants to be, how much one wants other people to #now about his life and how open one can be from this point of "iew% ! personally li#e it and ! am "ery attracted by the idea of ha"ing lots of friends, but then ! thin# about their quality%%%and as older people sayH -Bou can*t de"elop true friendships in discos-% $o try a +o#e, perhaps we should spend more time in libraries ;r in the par#, playing chess &e meet poeple we #now at traffic lights, in supermar#ets and e"en abroad, where we least expect it% &e see people we #now while loo#ing at pictures of other friends and sayH -'h< ! #now him, he*s that guy that used to%%%-, and so on% $he world is huge, but our li"ing in it and interacting ma#e it smaller and smaller%

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Cat de mi%a e lumea

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