Hard Knock Love: The Cold Truth about Men, Women and Relationships

By aris Trun!o
"Love hurts#$ %t&s a phrase used every sin'le day by millions o( love in(licted individuals that
have been done )ron'# But, )e&re not here on the behal( o( millions, )e are here to investi'ate the
human mind, and to possibly shed some li'ht on a (e) common in*uiries (or us romantics# +ust to be
clear, this is not some (eminist approach to e,asperate our (ello) ladies and 'entlemen, but rather an
insi'ht(ul read on ho) )e should treat one another as human bein's#
% have a very stron' opinion that opposes modern love, and craves chivalry# Could it really be so
dead- %&m almost positive that )hen )e (ou'ht to)ard 'ender e*uality back in the ./01&s that )e didn&t
include the e,tinction o( manners# That&s a 'iven2 When )as the last time you heard a man describe a
)oman )ith an ad3ective that isn4t drippin' in se,ual innuendos and de(amin' premises- %t&s been
a)hile, ri'ht- But )e can&t blame them# %t&s a t)o )ay street ladies#
5s o(ten as )omen complain about bein' described in dero'atory terms and bein' ob3ecti(ied to
the brim, )hat do any o( us ever do about it- Women o( this century don&t even bother (i'htin' the
system# 6ne day )e may be indul'in' ourselves )ith class and values in the spirit that )e (ound "the
one$ 7a'ain8, and the ne,t day )e (ind ourselves (eedin' the male population )ith the moderni!ed
stereotypes that they desire# We can&t e,pect to be treated )ith the upmost respect, )hen )e too (all
into the social sti'ma o( hair e,tensions, stilettos, and mini skirts# 5nd )e can&t e,pect to be )ined and
dined )hen many o( us have abused our o)n ri'hts in order to ac*uire )hat )e labeled "eye candy$, at
the club last ni'ht# +ust sayin'#
6n that note, it&s al)ays been a little harder (or the male population# 9o, not in the )ays that )e
normally think# %t&s al)ays been more di((icult (or men to appreciate and treat )omen in e*ual char'e#
They have been raised to believe in dominance, con(idence, and )hatever other manly *ualities one
mi'ht attach to their kind# 5s lon' as )e can blame )omen, )e can also blame men# Men are victims
o( illusion, but they have a stron' choice# Many o( them have (allen (or the trick o( the eye that )omen
pull by hikin' up their dresses, applyin' vasts amount o( makeup, and s)eet talkin' their )ay to a
man&s heart###or somethin' like that# 5 lot o( men today have lost the ability to appreciate a )omen (or
her )orth and individuality, and in return the (emale population be'ins to believe in a loss o( virtue
themselves#
The truth o( the matter is, % could 'o on and on about e*uality and stereotypes, and the evolution
o( men and )omen over the course o( hundreds and thousands o( years# The main point o( this short
post is to in(orm both 'enders about )hat is ri'ht and )ron'# :es, % )as indeed *uite blunt about my
ideas on the modern relationships bet)een men and )omen# These ideas do not re(lect my vie)s as a
)hole, but rather my vie)s on particular types o( men and )omen# % think )e all kno) )hat %&m aimin'
(or# To sum it up, )e all need to appreciate one another (or our souls# Beauty isn&t skin deep, it is (ar
beyond that in every individual# 5s )e continue to evolve and become kno)led'eable human bein's,
)e should do it )ith only the hi'hest sense o( morals, and try to carry on at least some o( our ancestor&s
'race )ith us# Chivalry doesn&t have to be dead#
Kiss ; Tell: Lon' <istance Relationships
By aris Trun!o
The relationship bet)een my si'ni(icant other and % is de(initely somethin' that % take pride in#
5lthou'h % con(ronted the "u'ly truth$ about relationships and love in my previous post, % am (ortunate
enou'h to be able to say that % am )ith a man that cherishes me a 'reat deal# %&d like to talk about a
special kind o( bond in this post# Lon' distance relationships###=i'h# % pause (or e((ect because those
three )ords alone have a certain bitter tone to them to most people# ersonally, % think this type o(
relationship is one o( the 'reatest, i( not the best# When t)o people are constantly around each other,
they may become attached in )ays that lead to controversy# When % say controversy %&m re(errin' to
3ealously, clin'iness, poor sel(>esteem, and o(ten poor li(e decisions# %&m not here to say that %&m
opposed to relationships o( the sort# % )ould kill to be able to see my boy(riend all the time2 But lon'
distance relationships de(initely have stron' bene(its o( their o)n:
They are strictly based on emotion:
5t this a'e, many people 'et lost in the physical aspect o( a relationship# Lon' distance relationships
provide one )ith the opportunity to reach a )hole ne) level o( emotions that you never thou'ht you
could (eel other)ise#
5ttachment:
<ue to the distance, there is a lack o( attachment# The bad kind o( attachment# The kind )here you
al)ays have to kno) )hat they&re doin' and )ho )ith# Lon' distance relationships are very trust
based, and most o( the time this issue is minor#
Time:
While some people in lon' distance relationships may (eel that time is never on their side, % believe it is
the most important aspect o( all# Time to'ether and apart becomes the sin'le most important thin' to
both individual&s in this type o( relationship# %t&s e((ects include personal 'ro)th, re(lection, and your
)illin'ness to commit to somethin' 'reat#
uppy Love
By aris Trun!o
5 blo' post about the relationship bet)een my do' and %- 6( course2 %&d like to start o(( by
sayin' that % do have the cutest do' in the entire )orld# When % )as youn'er, all % ever )anted )as a
pu'# % made sure that my parents kne) this and remembered this vital (act# 7?nlike the times they
(or'ot my birthday or my (avorite cake, etc###+ust Kiddin'###=ort o(8# 5ny)ays, )hen % )as (ourteen %
distinctly remember that % )as sittin' in the dinin' room chattin' a)ay )ith my mom about )ho
kno)s )hat# When my dad came home (rom )ork, he )as holdin' a small puppy in his hand# 5 pu'
puppy# % )as so e,cited that % couldn&t speak# % took him (rom my dad&s hands and held him in my o)n#
%&d had a name picked out (or years so ri'ht a)ay his name became "6llie$ and no one *uestioned it#
% appreciate him no) more than ever# Throu'hout the past (e) years, % truly reali!ed ho)
(ortunate % am# That may sound silly, but 6llie is the (irst "(amily do'$# We )ent throu'h so many
animals in my youn'er days that % )as be'innin' to )onder )hen one )ould (inally stick and 'et alon'
)ith us in every sin'le )ay# 5s a do', he&s very intuitive to)ard human emotions, he loves everyone,
and he&d never harm a (ly# @veryone says that but %&m serious# % think i( a bur'lar broke into our house
that 6llie )ould 'reet them, )a''in' his curly tale a thousand miles per hour#
He&s simply a bundle o( 3oy and snorts# % look (or)ard to seein' him every day )hen % 'et home
(rom my classes# % also believe that he is the (irst pet that has made an everlastin' impression on me#
%&ve created a bond )ith him throu'h the years, the e,periences, the hours spent on trainin' and tricks#
%t&s honestly hard to ima'ine li(e )ithout him because he contributes a lar'e part to my happiness# %t&s
an ama!in' (eelin' )hen you reali!e that an animal has the ability to have that e((ect on you#