GENES

GENDER
GENERATIONS
BULLYING

In the video, Dr. Berger explains what a bully is. She defines bullying as
a hurtful and repeated act where one person tries to impose their will on
someone else. Also she characterized bullying in four categories: physical,
verbal, relational, and cyberbullying. She asked who did not remember a
scenario of someone bullying in elementary school. Everyone knows of
someone who has been bullied because it has been allowed in our society.
She said bullying can occur anywhere such as school, home, college, and
work place.

I really like when Dr. Berger describes how genes, gender, and
generation are correlated with bullying. She said sometimes we dont notice
how we can be a bully. She told a true story about a little girl in fifth grade
who wants to be part of a group of girls. The popular girl told her that people
like her should have a party with everyone invited, then everyone will like
her. The victims mother prepared a party but nobody shows up. The popular
girl told the others to say they will go but then not show up to the party. This
is an example of relational bullying which involves social relationships
without physical or verbal aggression but a lot of suffering can hurt people
forever. This social pain really hurts, and does not go away like physical pain.
Indeed, the professor gave a brief explanation about the different types
of bullying such as physical (hitting, pushing), verbal (cursing, teasing,
making jokes), and cyberbullying (any kind of technology such internet,
phone).

She continued explaining that much of the time physical bullying is by

boys and relational bullying is by girls. Gender affects the type of bullying
that is being used.
I know bullying is a very serious and delicate problem to deal with. But
it is necessary for everyone to work on this and prevent severe
consequences. I believe it is impossible to stop. Bullying happened in the
past and will continue. We need to educate our kids in society and school
about how to deal with it. In my opinion, it is important to have self-esteem
and believe in yourself. I always tell my daughter to be positive, tolerant, and
understand the meaning of communication in relationships. I was terrified in
kindergarten because she is half black and stutters. I try to explain to her
everyone has weaknesses and their own problems. Nobody is perfect. For
example, I said you have beautiful curls and other girls have straight hair.

Sometimes it is not the stutter but the difficultly to say something and
it is ok. I told her if she hears bad things to just ignore it dont listen to them.
It is hard to understand why people can be so mean especially kids with each
other. I believe bullying has a strong relation in the domestic environment.
The little ones watch the big ones. If you are arrogant in act, speak and

demonstrating superiority. The little one will grow, learn, and do what he
thinks is right.
There are many dysfunctional families. Many people have suffered of
abuse at home. Nobody was born racist and prejudiced. I believe we become
prejudice according to life experiences, lessons, and examples that we are
exposed to.
The victims can have several problems such as psychological distress,
problems learning, and respond to social demands throughout life and even
suicide. Extreme early trauma seems to leave footprints on the brain. If
repeatedly threatened and attacked while young, normally placid golden
hamsters grow up to be cowards when caged with same-sized hamsters, or
bullies when caged with weaker ones. (pg. 153).

To help decrease bullying we need to stand up for those being bullied.

We need to find out what causes people, especially children that. We need to
listen to our kids, because many times they want to wear some clothes
because it is important for them. For us it will not make a difference, but for
them it can help avoid bullying. Educated parents can be the start of a long
journal of bullying.
Parents do matter. The power of parenting to shape our differences is
clearest at the extremes. The abused who become abusive, the neglected

who become neglectful, the loved but firmly handled children who becomes
self-confident and socially competent. (pg. 119).
References
Caplan, D, (1992). How Much Credit or Blame Do Parents Deserve? Exploring
Psychology (Eighth ed., p129).
Ferris, (1996). Attachment Differences. Exploring Psychology (Eighth ed.,
153).
Berger, k, Dr. Bullies. SLCC, Salt Lake City. (2008). Lecture.