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Expatshockatcominghome
ByAngelaHenshall
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Peanutbutter,marmite,fishandchips,teabags,broerwurstthesearejustsomeofofthemanytinythingsthathomesickexpatsyearnforaftertheyreposted
overseas.
Thisnostalgiaistobeexpectedwhenpeoplemoveabroad.Muchlessexpected,however,istheshockmanyexpatsexperiencewhentheyreturnhomeand
realisingitisntastheyrememberedit.Surprisingly,manyfindthemselvesstrugglingtofitinandmakesenseofsurroundingsthathavechangedsincetheywent
away.
Sohowdotheyadjust?WewenttoquestionandanswersiteQuoraforsomepracticalsuggestionsforlongtermexpatsmovingbacktotheirhomecountry
(http://www.quora.com/Whatadvicewouldyougivetoalongtermexpataboutthestruggletoreestablishthemselveswithintheirowncountry) .
GwenSawchuk(http://qr.ae/0N8Gp) recommendedbuyingaplacebackhomewhileyourestilllivingabroadandgoingthereforvacationsandholidayperiods.This
way,youdevelopyourrelationshipswithinthecommunity,shewrote.Andwhenyougotheretolivepermanently,itwillfeelmorelikehome,whereyoubelong.
Sawchukalsosuggestedintegratingbysigningupforcoursesorgetaparttimejob,volunteerdowhatittakestomeetasmanypeopleaspossible.
Don'timmediatelytalkaboutalltheplacesyou'vebeen,whatyou'vedone,etc.ItoverwhelmspeopleThiswillalienatepeople,shewrote.Keepitlowkey,make
itlikedating,doleoutinformationvery,veryslowly.
Shewarnedexpatsmayfinditdifficulttofitbackinatthebeginning.Itwillbeuptoyoutodotheworkofadapting,Sawchukwrote.Insteadofgoingbacktoyour
hometown,itmaybewisetoconsiderlivingsomewherethathasamuchmoretransientpopulation,wherepeoplearemoreaccustomedtonewbies,she
suggested.
LauraHale(http://qr.ae/0Npzz) ,whohaslivedinfivedifferentcountries,offeredthissimpleadviceforthosewhoarerepatriating.Havethesamemindsetasifyou
weremovingtoadifferentcountry,andplanaccordingly,Halewrote.Expatsshouldexpectcultureshock,shortperiodsoffeelingisolatedanddifficulty
understandinghowthesystemworks,shewrote.
Don'tcomebackwithanyexpectationsthatyourhomewillbeasyouleftit,warnedengineer,DonMerritt(http://qr.ae/0tqqD) .Thingshavechanged,friendshave
movedonyourmovebackcouldbeasdifficultasyourmoveabroad,hewrote.Thisisamplifiedbythenotionthatyouwilllikelyhavethatthingswillbethe
same.
ForthosereturningtotheWestfromChina(http://www.quora.com/WhatsitlikeforlongtermexpatstoleaveChinaandmovebacktotheirhomecountry) thetransitioncanbe
particularlytough.
ElliottChen(http://qr.ae/0GRIV) wrotethat,forhim,returningtotheUSwasaverydifficultadjustment.WhenIwaslivinginChina,ifIencounteredanuncomfortable
orirritatingsituation,Icouldatleastframeittomyselfasaculturaloddity,andfinditinterestingandquaint,hewrote.BackinAmerica,Idon'thavethatillusion
anymore.Helistshandsanitiser,conversationsaboutnewworkoutfads,fantasysports,SuperBowlsandrealestateinvestingamonghistopconversationalbug
bears.ThesedaysChenfindshishomecountrystiflingandoverregulatedwheretheheckcanapersonsmokeacigarette?!
Sometimesbasiccommunicationcanbeastruggle,asMattSchiavenza(http://qr.ae/0G17T) found.Alotofcommonslangwordsandphrasesthatenteredthelexicon
whileIwasgonesailedstraightovermyhead,hewrote.Ididn'tknowthatyouhadtopaycashwhenbuyingthingsonCraigslist.Ireactedwithchildlike
amazementatcommonapplianceslikeconvectionovensandclothesdryers.
DuringhisfirstyearhomeinNewYork,SchiavenzabegantomissChinabadly.IsoughtoutChinesefriendsandparticipatedinChineseactivitiesatColumbia
(University)andevenhadaChinesegirlfriend.IgrumbledathowexpensivethingswereinNewYorkandhowitwasdifficultandtimeconsumingtoeathealthy
meals,hewrote.
Intheendwhat"brokethespell",wasgoingbacktoBeijingforasummer.AlotofwhatIhadfoundcharmingaboutChinaseemedtodisappear,hewrote.AndI
discoveredIwasfrustratedwiththingsslowinternet,dodgytaxidrivers,foodpoisoningthatusedtorolloffmyback.
JimBroiles(http://qr.ae/0teXO) whoworksinthetechindustry,returnedtoCaliforniaafterjustfourmonthsinChina.Atfirsthelovedseeingtheblueskyanddrivingin
theorderlytraffic.Yet,itwaslikelivinginaghosttown.Wefeltisolatedandbored.Thefoodwasboring.Theshoppingwasboring.Therewerenopeople.Nofaces
toexamineandnohumanitytoexperienceineverysquareinchoflivingspace,hewrote.
Broilessaidatwork,thepaceofprogressfeltlikepeopleweremovingthroughapoolofmolasses.Hefeltlikehewascoasting,butrelativelyspeakingIwas
extremelyproductiveandhadoneofmybestyears.ThisisinaSiliconValleytechcompany,sonotexactlyknownforbeingslowpaced.Perhapsthatcangiveyoua
perspectiveonthedifferencerelativetoChina.
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