Actionable

Lowerintonationatendofsentences.
Reducenodding
Pause2secondsbeforespeaking.
FindPresence:ListentoEnvironment,focusonBreath,focusontoes.
ResponsibilityTransfer:CloseEyes,imagineliftingresponsibilityoffshouldersontofate.
Holdeyecontact2secondsmore.
Visualisesuccesscloseeyes,imaginepastfeeling/experienceoftriumph
LovetheConfusion
PanelofCounsellors,9successful/famouspeople.
FeelWarmth:Imagineitistheirlastdayalive/haveangelwings.
Noticeitem.Whatisthestorybehindit?
InterruptingisALWAYSresented.Allowpeopletointerruptyoubypausingmidsentence.
Pause2secondsbeforeanswering.
Imaginepersonspeakingtoismainstarinthemoviegetsyouinterestedinthem.
SpeakSlowly,pauseduring/betwixtsentences.
Logicmakespeoplethink,Emotionmakesthemact
Mirror,thentrytolead.
Trytobreakopponentsbadbodylanguage,handthemapenifarmsarecrossed.
Sitnextto(or90degrees)topeople,workstoreducearguments.
Gooutside,trytowalkdownstreetwithoutmovingoutofpeoplesway.
Highstatus/confidencebodylanguage=veryfewmovementsmade/fewextrawords.
Makethemrationaliseinyourfavour=askopponentforfavourandinfuturetheywillthink
Ihelpedtheminthepast,soIwouldbecontradictingmyselfifIdonthelpnow.Easyway
istoasktheiropinionandthankthemforit.
Peoplecravehonestappreciation
DepersonalisebadbehaviourdonttellsomeoneCouldyoudoitfasternexttimesayId
appreciateitifitcouldbedonefewdaysinadvance
Denyyourselfthepleasureofunnecessarilycontradictingothers.
Dontthinkaboutresponsetoargument,focusonlisteningcompletely.
Answerphonecurtly,thenswitchtowarmthnomatterwhoitis.
Expresshighperformanceexpectationswhilstcommunicatinghighdegreeofconfidence.
Preventsomeonebecomingenviousbyallowingthemtothinkyoursuccessisduetothem.
Powerfulbodylanguageinprivate,militaryofficerhandsbehindback.
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Makethemrationaliseinyourfavour=askopponentforfavourandinfuturetheywillthink
Ihelpedtheminthepast,soIwouldbecontradictingmyselfifIdonthelpnow.Easyway
istoasktheiropinionandthankthemforit.
Peoplecravehonestappreciation
DepersonalisebadbehaviourdonttellsomeoneCouldyoudoitfasternexttimesayId
appreciateitifitcouldbedonefewdaysinadvance
Denyyourselfthepleasureofunnecessarilycontradictingothers.
Dontthinkaboutresponsetoargument,focusonlisteningcompletely.
Answerphonecurtly,thenswitchtowarmthnomatterwhoitis.
Expresshighperformanceexpectationswhilstcommunicatinghighdegreeofconfidence.

Preventsomeonebecomingenviousbyallowingthemtothinkyoursuccessisduetothem.
Powerfulbodylanguageinprivate,militaryofficerhandsbehindback.
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Makethemrationaliseinyourfavour=askopponentforfavourandinfuturetheywillthink
Ihelpedtheminthepast,soIwouldbecontradictingmyselfifIdonthelpnow.Easyway
istoasktheiropinionandthankthemforit.
Peoplecravehonestappreciation
DepersonalisebadbehaviourdonttellsomeoneCouldyoudoitfasternexttimesayId
appreciateitifitcouldbedonefewdaysinadvance
Denyyourselfthepleasureofunnecessarilycontradictingothers.
Dontthinkaboutresponsetoargument,focusonlisteningcompletely.
Answerphonecurtly,thenswitchtowarmthnomatterwhoitis.
Expresshighperformanceexpectationswhilstcommunicatinghighdegreeofconfidence.
Preventsomeonebecomingenviousbyallowingthemtothinkyoursuccessisduetothem.
Powerfulbodylanguageinprivate,militaryofficerhandsbehindback.
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