CHAPTER V

HELPING WITH
ACTIONS
This section will cover a variety of critical tools for encouraging change in your childs behavior and
motivation. It follows Helping with Self Care and Helping with Words because the skills in those
sections are the foundations of sustaining change and keeping things on track day-to-day. The
tools in this section will help you understand motivation and how it is different for different people,
how to reinforce new and positive behaviors as well as how to deal with negative behaviors, how
to understand and allow for ambivalence in your child (and the sometimes jagged upward course
of change), and very importantly, paying attention to collaboration with your co-parent.

THIS SECTION INCLUDES FIVE TOPICS:

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How to Solve a Problem

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Reinforcement: Your Love Matters
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Reinforcement
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Natural Consequences:
Allowing Them to Happen
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Natural Consequences
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Your Consequences:
Making Them Happen
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Your Consequences Worksheet
Parent Collaboration
Parent Collaboration Worksheet

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