Premarital sex

Outline

I. Introduction
A. Definition of pre-marital sex
B. Facts about pre-marital sex

II. Body
A. Factors affecting pre-marital sex
1. Alcohol and drug use
2. A steady boyfriend or girlfriend
3. Little parental monitoring
4. A parental belief that adolescent sex is inevitable
5. Low grade-point average/low attachment to school
6. A history of physical or sexual abuse
7. Frequent family relocations
8. Only one parent in the household
B. Effects of pre-marital sex
a) Physical
1. Change in appearance
2. Teen Pregnancy
3. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)

b) Spiritual
1. Self-destructive behaviour
2. You develop soul ties

c) Social
1. Bad reputation
2. Insecurity / Loss of trust
3. Object of Rumours/Gossip
d) Emotional
1. Broken hearts
2. Emotionally Unstable (a.k.a. Fatal Attraction)3. Other relationships suffer

C.Prevention of pre-marital sex

III. Conclusion
IV.Reccomendation
V.Refernces

I. Introduction
A. Definition of pre-marital sex
Premarital sex is sexual activity practiced by persons who are
unmarried. The prevalence of premarital sex has increased in both
developed countries. In some cultures, the significance of premarital
sex has traditionally been related to the concept of virginity. However,

unlike virginity, premarital sex can refer to more than one occasion of
sexual activity or more than one sex partner. There are cultural
differences as to whether and in which circumstances premarital sex is
socially acceptable or tolerated.Premarital sex, or fornication, is having
sex with someone before marrying them. Many religions believe it is
wrong, but many people do it anyway. People would rather have sex
before marriage because they feel that they would like to get to know
someone on an intimate setting before they make a commitment to
them. Many people wait until marriage because they don't want to
increase the risk of AIDS or other STDs (people who think premarital
sex is ok have/will probably have a handful of partners before finding
one that they enjoy being with on all different levels), they don't want
to complicate things with their partner (sex can be highly emotional
and may even make or break a relationship, a lot of people don't want
to base a relationship solely on sex) and in many religions it is wrong.
B. Facts about premarital sex
FACT 1: Premarital sex tends to break up couples.
FACT 2: Many men and women do not want to marry a person
who has had intercourse with someone else.
FACT 3: Those who have premarital sex tend to have less happy
marriages.
FACT 4: Those who have premarital sex are more likely to have
their marriage end in divorce.
FACT 5: Persons and couples who have had premarital sex are more
likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
FACT 6: Having premarital sex may fool you into marrying a person
who is not right for you.

FACT 7: Persons and couples with premarital sex experience tend to

achieve sexual satisfaction sooner after they are married. However
FACT 8: They are likely to be less satisfied overall with their sex life
during marriage.
FACT 9: Poor premarital sexual habits can be carried over to spoil sex
in marriage.
FACT 10: Guilt may push a couple into a bad marriage.
FACT 11: Premarital sex robs a couple of "sexual cement."

II.Body
A. Factors affecting pre-marital sex
1. Alcohol and drug use. Aside from reflecting problem
attitudes (rebellion, poorself-concept, invulnerability) that make sex more
likely, intoxication also clouds judgment and weakens resistance to sexual
overtures.
2. A steady boyfriend or girlfriend. Strong attachments and
feelings of exclusivity invite nature to take its course, especially when
physical expressions of affection begin early in the relationship. This is a
particular risk in a situation where the boy is more than two or three years
older than the girl is. If a teen romance appears to be getting hot and
heavy and a lot of physical contact is already displayed, you will need to
speak with both boy and girl diplomatically but candidly about the
physical process they are setting in motion.
3.Little parental monitoring. Leaving adolescents alone for
hours at a time or not requiring accountability is a setup for sex.

A parental belief that adolescent sex is appropriate. If you think premarital

sex is okay, your adolescent will too and will act on that belief.
4. A parental belief that adolescent sex is inevitable. Many
parents who disapprove of teen sex have also concluded that it is as certain
as death and taxes. Their approach to the subject will thus be double-edged:
"Don't do it, but in case you do, use this condom." Adolescents will get the
message loud and clear and are likely to act accordingly.
5.Low grade-point average/low attachment to school. While
school performance is affected by a variety of factors, a basic desire to do
well in school reflects a more hopeful outlook on the future and a willingness
to put off immediate gratification for long-term goals. Teen sex, on the
contrary, usually reflects ignorance of or little regard for consequences. This
doesn't mean, of course, that every scholar is a bulwark of morality or that
all who are not academically oriented are destined to be promiscuous. What
ultimately matters is a person's commitment to basic values such as
responsibility, respect for self and others and concern about the effect of
today's decisions on the future.
6.A history of physical or sexual abuse. These acts against
children and adolescents violate their bodies, minds and hearts. Sexual
abuse creates a grossly distorted view of sexual behavior, destroys
boundaries, and drives a deep sense of worthlessness into the emotions.
Whether the abuse occurred in the distant or recent past, adolescents with
this history need ongoing support, counseling and prayer to help them
develop healthy attitudes about sex and about themselves.
7.Frequent family relocations. Moving generally stresses both
parents and adolescents (especially if the kids resent the decision). This can
erode parental authority and distract parents from involvement with their
children. Bonds to social supports such as church groups that help prevent

sexual activity are severed by multiple moves. Loneliness and loss of

friendships may lead some teenagers to use sexual activity to gain social
acceptance. These issues should be considered by parents who are thinking
about a possible relocation.
8. Only one parent in the household. Parenting was meant to be
a team effort, and some risks will naturally increase when one parent is left
to do all the protecting and monitoring alone. Some studies do indicate that
adolescents living with a single parent are more likely to become sexually
active than those living with both parents. Work and household demands can
prevent single parents from being as involved and attentive as they need
and want to be. And the divorce and desertion that sometimes lead to a oneparent home can make teens uncertain about the value of marriage as the
setting for sexual activity and about the role of sexuality in parental
relationships
B. The Effects of PremaritAL sex
a. physical
1. Change in appearance- Have you ever noticed how people who
have had sex outside of marriage begin to look different? They begin to look
old and worn. Like a toy that has been used over and over again begins to
lose its physical appeal, so does a person who continually has sex outside of
marriage. Many try to mask this used up look by adding more make-up or
wearing more revealing clothes to take the attention off their face and put it
on their body.
2. Teen Pregnancy- Premarital sex often leads to unplanned
pregnancies. Teenagers however have more odds stacked against them than
older women do. Statistics suggest teens are two times more likely to die in
childbirth or pregnancy than older women are. They have difficult deliveries,

scarring, stretchmarks, low birth weight babies, along with the standard
sagging breast and tummy, weight gain, nausea, tears, and dark circles
under their eyes.
3.Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)- The spread of diseases
through sexual contact is not a pretty picture. STDs reveal themselves
through burning, itching, oozing, and pus filled sores on your genitals. Now
thats gross! Even if you dont visibly see a sore on your genitals it does not
mean that you have not been infected
b. spritual
1.Self-destructive behavior- As a Christian, when you engage in
premarital sex, you are consciously sinning against God. This can lead to a
perpetual cycle of self-destruction. You develop low self-esteem, low selfworth, and diminished expectations of yourself. In many cases, the
devastation that comes from giving a holy thing (your body, the temple of
the Holy Spirit) to an unholy cause, (physical gratification outside of
marriage) will lead to feelings of emptiness, embarrassment, and confusion.
2.You develop soul ties - Your soul joins with the soul or souls of
those you have had sex. We will call these soul ties, because your soul is
actually being tied or entangled together with the soul of the person you had
sex.
c. Social
1.You get involved with the wrong crowd. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, bad
company corrupts good morals. Dont fool yourself into thinking that you
can hang around sexually active people who drink and not be influenced by
their actions. When you begin making bad decisions, you often find yourself
surrounded by others who are making the same bad decisions. Dont fool
yourself into believing that you can hang out with people that are living wild

and unrestrained and not be affected. Galatians 6:7 says, be not deceived
God is not mocked, for whatsoever a man soweth (plants), that shall he also
reap(produce).
2.Bad reputation- The word is out. You have had sex. You quickly get
labeled easy, loose, or a sure bet.
3.Insecurity / Loss of trust- You become jealous and begin comparing
your body to other girls bodies. You are always worried some other girl will
steal your boyfriend from you. Life becomes very stressful. You dont even
trust yourself to do right and control your own body, how can you trust
someone else? After having sex I was a wreck. Whenever I would go out
with my boyfriend I would accuse him of starring at other girls. Though at
times he was looking, many times I was just overreacting out of insecurity.
4.Object of Rumors/Gossip- Many times pre-marital sex causes you
to become the subject of rumors. Did you hear about so and so? I heard
they did this and that on the corner of here and there
d. emotional
1.Broken hearts- Sex outside of marriage almost always ends with a
broken heart. Once your heart has been broken your whole outlook on life
and love are different.
2.Emotionally Unstable (a.k.a. Fatal Attraction)- You develop
irrational responses to ordinary situations. Crying, fear, stress, depression,
apathy, isolation, and hopelessness crowd your mind and cause your
emotional growth to be stifled. You have no clue what you want anymore.
3. Other relationships suffer- Your relationships with your girlfriends
may suffer because you are so consumed with being around your boyfriend
that you dont spend anytime with them. Whenever my best friend would

start dating a guy she would kick me to the curb until things settle down in
the relationship. Your relationship with God suffers because you hide
yourself from him out of embarrassment in a time when you should be
running to him for help. While, your parents are trying to figure out why you
are acting so unlike yourself. Be careful not to cut off everyone else in your
life because

C. Prevention of pre-marital sex

Teenagers and youths should carefully think through how they intend to
behave with members of the opposite sex. They anticipate what situations
might becoming challenging for them and practice strategies for resisting
temptations. Here are some practical ideas to help teens and young adults
remain chaste:

Determine your standards for behaviour with the opposite sex and

write them down.

Avoid dangerous situations.

Avoid being alone with the member of opposite gender in any private

or quiet place.

Avoid people who pressure you to have sex.

Avoid alcohol and drugs. Indulging in either one makes it much more

difficult to maintain your standards.

Exercise often (example jugging). When dating, choose activities that

are public and productive, such as walking together, biking, socializing with
other friends. As you spend time together in these ways, you will get to know
each other better and you will avoid tempting situations.

Do not participate in any activity you find sexually arousing, such as

back rubs, cuddling, and kissing.

Pursue an interest like cooking, reading, traveling, praying. This makes

you stay active and avoids idleness.

Develop friendship with people who like you as you are, who enjoy the

same things you do. Date only people who share your views about chastity.

When you have the urge, divert your mind to more useful activities.

Avoid pornographic materials

Desist from unwholesome discussions

Avoid music, TV shows, movies, videos, and magazines that include

sexual content or promote premarital sex.

Make true and pure love, not physical affection, the foundation of all

your relationships with the opposite sex.

III. Conclusion
Therefore I conclude that engaging in premarital sex is not the way to solve
our problem, because engaging in premarital sex is dangerous for us as a
young children; it might bring us disease that can be transmitted through
sex. As we all know premarital sex can lead us to early marriage and an early
responsible for being a parent. Premarital sex is not a game that we are
going to play because sex is sacred, thats why we are going to valued it. Sex
is very important to us. Other said that it has to wait, there is a right time for
doing sex but not today nor tomorrow but it must after marriage only.
IV. Recommendation

I recommend to all people especially young and teenagers like me that if

possible we were going to read some papers about premarital sex because it
will help us a lot, because with this we will be familiarize what is premarital
sex all about or what will be the result if we will try this. In addition, I
recommend that we will going to avoid premarital sex because premarital
sex was immoral, but others made sex as their past time or they made it as
the solution to their problem, but this is not proper because sex is not the
solution. So, lets help one another to protect ourselves for not to be the
victim of this said deviance behaviour. So, we must say NO TO PREMARITAL
SEX

V. References
https://www.google.com/search?
q=meaning+of+pre+marital+sex&ie=utf-

8&oe=utf-

8#q=defi+pre+marital+sex
http://www.pureintimacy.org/r/risk-factors-for-pramarital-sex
https://ph.search.yahoo.com/yhs/search;
=FACTORS+AFFECTNG+PREMARITAL+SEX
http://www.ucg.org/commentary/11-known-facts-about-premarital-sex/

http://www.answers.com/Q/What is the prevention of premarital sex

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One needn't memorize motley exotic divisibility tests. There is a universal test that is
accepted simpler and much easier recalled, viz. evaluate a radix polynomial in nested Horner
form, using modular arithmetic. For example, consider evaluating a 3 digit radix 10
number modulo 7. In Horner form d2 d1 d0 is

(d210+d1) 10+d0 (d23+d1) 3+d0 (mod 7) since 103 (mod 7). So we

compute the remainder (mod 7) as follows. Start with the leading digit then
repeatedly apply the operation: multiply by 3 then add the next digit, doing all of the
arithmetic (mod 7).

For example, let's use this algorithm to reduce 43211 (mod 7). The algorithm
consists of repeatedly replacing the first two leading digits dn dn1 by

dn3+dn1 (mod 7), namely

43211
1 2 1 1 by 43+3 1
5 1 1 by 13+2 5
2 1 by 53+1 2
0 by 23+1 0
Hence 432110 (mod 7), indeed 43211=76173. Generally the modular
arithmetic is simpler if one uses a balanced system of representatives, e.g.

{0,1,2,3} (mod 7). Notice that for modulus 11 or 9 the above method reduces to
the well-known divisibility tests by 11 or 9 (a.k.a. "casting out nines" for modulus 9).
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Bill Dubuque
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I really appreciate you using hand-picked muted colors here. mixedmath Jun
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21 '12 at 22:59
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A positive integer written as x=dkd1d0 (in base 10) is really kj=0dj10j. Suppose
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10jmjmodn. Then x is divisible by n if and only if kj=0djmj is divisible by n.
Assuming n and 10 are coprime, 10j is periodic mod n, the minimal period being a
divisor of (n).

For example, in the case n=7, we have m0=1, m1=3, m2=2, m3=1, m4=3,

m5=2, and then it repeats. So x is divisible by 7 if and only if (d0d3+d6d9+

)+3(d1d4+d7d10+)+2(d2d5+d8d11+) is.
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Robert Israel
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Rather than using said well-known test for divisibility by 7, it's simpler to use
(and easier to recall) Horner evaluation mod 7, e.g. see this post. Bill Dubuque
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Here's one example... maybe it will help you to show that something is divisible by 3
iff its digits are divisible by 3. Write your number in expanded notation[using Robert
Israel's notation]:

N=j=0ndj10j,dj{0,1,,9} (assume dn0)

up vote 4 We want to know when this number is divisible by 3; said equivalently, when this
number is congruent to 0(mod3). I claim it's when the sum of the digits is divisible
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by 3. To show this, take our number N(mod3):

j=0ndj10jj=0ndj1j=j=0ndj(mod3) and we see that

When j=0ndj0(mod3), j=0ndj10j is divisible by 3.