The sh*t

guys
do
On guy rituals: disgusting and devine.
–from Tom Matlack’s Good Is Good Column
in The Good Men Project Magazine.

www.GoodMenProject.com
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Men  reveal WŝŶƐŬLJ͕ŶĚƌĞǁ^ƵůůŝǀĂŶ͕ĂŶĚ:ĂŵĞƐ&ƌĂŶĐŽͶƚŽŶĂŵĞƚŚĞŝƌĨĂǀŽƌŝƚĞ͞ŐƵLJ

ritual.”

their &ƌĂŶĐŽŵĂLJŚĂǀĞŚŝƚƵƉŽŶƚŚĞŵŽƐƚĐŽŶƐƵŵŵĂƚĞŵĂůĞƌŝƚƵĂůͶƌĞĂĚŝŶŐĂ
ŶĞǁƐƉĂƉĞƌŽŶƚŚĞƚŽŝůĞƚ͘tŚĞŶ/ĚĂƌĞĚďƌŝŶŐƚŚŝƐƵƉƚŽĨƌŝĞŶĚƐĂƚĂƌĞĐĞŶƚ

favorite ƐŽĐŝĂůŐĂƚŚĞƌŝŶŐ͕/ŚĂĚŶŽŝĚĞĂŝƚǁŽƵůĚĐĂƵƐĞƐƵĐŚĂŶƵƉƌŽĂƌ͘

ǁŽŵĂŶǁŚŽǁŽƌŬƐŝŶƚŚĞƉĞƌƐŽŶĂůǁĞĂůƚŚĚŝǀŝƐŝŽŶŽĨĂŵƵůƟŶĂƟŽŶĂůďĂŶŬ
“guy  rituals,” ŚĂĚƐŽŵĞĐŚŽŝĐĞǁŽƌĚƐĂďŽƵƚŵĂůĞĐŽǁŽƌŬĞƌƐǁŚŽĚŝƐĂƉƉĞĂƌĞĚǁŝƚŚƚŚĞ
ŽĸĐĞ͛ƐĐŽŵŵƵŶĂůtĂůů^ƚƌĞĞƚ:ŽƵƌŶĂů͘͞dŚĞŐƵLJƐŐƌĂďŝƚ͕ĚŝƐĂƉƉĞĂƌ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞŶ

not  all  of   ďƌŝŶŐƚŚĞĚĂŵŶƚŚŝŶŐďĂĐŬƚǁĞŶƚLJŵŝŶƵƚĞƐůĂƚĞƌ͊͟ƐŚĞƐĂŝĚ͘͞/ƚ͛ƐƐƵƉƉŽƐĞĚƚŽ

ďĞĨŽƌĐůŝĞŶƚƐ͘tŚLJĚŽŶ͛ƚLJŽƵũƵƐƚƐĐƌĞĂŵĂƚƚŚĞƚŽƉŽĨLJŽƵƌůƵŶŐƐ͕͚,ĞLJĞǀĞƌLJ-­‐
ďŽĚLJ͕/͛ŵŐŽŝŶŐƚŽƚĂŬĞĂĐƌĂƉŶŽǁ͊͛͟
which   dŚĞǁŽŵĞŶǁĞƌĞŽĨŽŶĞŵŝŶĚ͗ƚŚŝƐďĞŚĂǀŝŽƌŝƐĚŝƐŐƵƐƟŶŐĂŶĚŚŝŐŚůLJƵŶĞƚŚŝ-­‐

(reading  a   ĐĂů͕ŵĂĚĞǁŽƌƐĞďLJŽĐĐĂƐŝŽŶĂůůLJůĞĂǀŝŶŐƚŚĞƚŽŝůĞƚƐĞĂƚƵƉ͘dŚĞŐƵLJƐĂƚƚŚĞ
ƉĂƌƚLJƐƚŽŽĚďĞŚŝŶĚŽƵƌŵĂŶ:ĂŵĞƐ&ƌĂŶĐŽĂŶĚƚŚĞďĂŶŬĞƌƐůŽŽŬŝŶŐĨŽƌĂĨĞǁ
ŵŽŵĞŶƚƐŽĨƉĞĂĐĞĂŶĚƋƵŝĞƚ͘
newspaper   &ŽƌƚƵŶĂƚĞůLJ͕ŵŽƐƚŽĨƚŚĞ͞ŐƵLJƌŝƚƵĂůƐ͟ďĞůŽǁĂƌĞŶŽƚƉŽŽƉͲƌĞůĂƚĞĚ͘

on  the  can,   tŚĂƚŝƐLJŽƵƌŵŽƐƚĐŚĞƌŝƐŚĞĚŐƵLJƌŝƚƵĂů͍/ŚŽƉĞLJŽƵ͛ůůůĞƚƵƐŬŶŽǁŝŶƚŚĞĐŽŵ-­‐

ments.
for  one) ͞ƌŝŶŬŝŶŐďĞĞƌƐŝŶƚŚĞŐĂƌĂŐĞǁŝƚŚŵLJďƵĚĚŝĞƐ͘͟

are  fully 'ůĞŶŶ>LJŵĂŶ͕ƉĞƌƐŽŶĂůĐŚĞĨƚŽ>ĞƌŽŶ:ĂŵĞƐ͘;^ĂĚůLJ͕>LJŵĂŶǁŝůůŚĂǀĞƚŽĮŶĚ

ŚŝŵƐĞůĨĂŶĞǁŐĂƌĂŐĞĂŶĚƐŽŵĞŶĞǁďƵĚĚŝĞƐ͕ďĞĐĂƵƐĞŚĞ͛ƐŚĞĂĚĞĚƚŽDŝ-­‐
ami.)
appreciated   ͞ĞŝŶŐƐƵŵŵŽŶĞĚƚŽĚĞĂůǁŝƚŚĂƐƉŝĚĞƌ͕ĂŵŽƵƐĞ͕ŽƌƐŽŵĞŽƚŚĞƌĐƌŝƩĞƌƚŚĂƚ

by  the ĨƌŝŐŚƚĞŶƐŵLJǁŝĨĞŽƌŐƌŽǁŶĚĂƵŐŚƚĞƌ͘ƌŝƩĞƌƐůŝŬĞƚŚĞƐĞĚŽŶ͛ƚƌĞĂůůLJƐĐĂƌĞŵĞ
ĂƚĂůů͕ĂŶĚ/͛ŵŶŽƚƐƵƌĞ/ƵŶĚĞƌƐƚĂŶĚǁŚLJƚŚĞLJƐĐĂƌĞƐŽŵĂŶLJǁŽŵĞŶ͘/ƚŚŝŶŬ
ŵŝĐĞŝŶƉĂƌƟĐƵůĂƌĂƌĞĐƵƚĞ͕ĂĐƚƵĂůůLJ͘/ƚƌĂƉƚŚĞŵůŝǀĞƚŽƐĞƚƚŚĞŵĨƌĞĞŽƵƚƐŝĚĞ͘͟
women  in   ƌƚŚƵƌ'ŽůĚĞŶ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

our  lives. ͞dĂŬŝŶŐĂƉŝƐƐƐƚĂŶĚŝŶŐƵƉǁŝƚŚŵLJĂƌŵůĞĂŶŝŶŐĂŐĂŝŶƐƚƚŚĞǁĂůů͘^ŵŽŬŝŶŐĂ

ĐŝŐĂƌ͘'ƌŽǁŝŶŐŵLJďĞĂƌĚ͘^ĐƌĂƚĐŚŝŶŐŵLJĂƐƐ͘͟
ŶĚƌĞǁ^ƵůůŝǀĂŶ͕ďůŽŐŐĞƌĂŶĚĂƵƚŚŽƌ

͞^ŝŶĐĞ/ǁĂƐŽŶƚŚĞǁƌĞƐƚůŝŶŐƚĞĂŵŝŶŚŝŐŚƐĐŚŽŽů͕/ŚĂǀĞŚĂĚƚŚĞƐĂŵĞƐĞƚŽĨ
ƉƵƐŚͲƵƉďĂƌƐ͘ǀĞƌLJŵŽƌŶŝŶŐƐŝŶĐĞ/ǁĂƐ͕ƐĂLJ͕ϭϱŽƌϭϲ͕/ŚĂǀĞĚŽŶĞĮŌLJƉƵƐŚ-­‐
ƵƉƐƵƐŝŶŐƚŚŽƐĞƉƵƐŚͲƵƉďĂƌƐ͕ǁŚŝĐŚ/ŚĂǀĞĐĂƌƌŝĞĚǁŝƚŚŵĞŽŶŵLJƚƌĂǀĞůƐ
ĂƌŽƵŶĚƚŚĞǁŽƌůĚ͘͟
ĂǀŝĚďĞů͕ũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ

͞ŵĂŶŝĐƵƌĞŽƌƉĞĚŝĐƵƌĞ͕ůŝŬĞƚŚĞŐŝƌůƐĚŽ͘ŽŶ͛ƚůĞƚƚŚĞŵŚĂǀĞĂůůƚŚĞĨƵŶ͊͟
ĂǀĞtŝŶĮĞůĚ͕,ĂůůŽĨ&ĂŵĞďĂƐĞďĂůůƉůĂLJĞƌ
͞ZĞĂĚŝŶŐŽŶƚŚĞƚŽŝůĞƚ͘͟
:ĂŵĞƐ&ƌĂŶĐŽ͕ĂĐƚŽƌ

͞^ƚĂŶĚŝŶŐŝŶĂĐŝƌĐůĞĂŵŽŶŐŵĞŶĂŶĚĐŚĞĐŬŝŶŐŝŶ͕ĨƌŽŵƚŚĞďĂƐĞŽĨŵLJďĂůůƐƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ
ƚŚĞĐŚĂŶŶĞůƐŽĨŵLJŚĞĂƌƚ͊͟
DŝĐŚĂĞůWŝĞƌĐĞ͕ĂĐƚŽƌ

͞WůĂLJŝŶŐƉŝĐŬͲƵƉďĂƐŬĞƚďĂůů͘/ŚĂǀĞƚǁŽƐŽŶƐ͘/͛ůůƉůĂLJǁŝƚŚďŽƚŚŽĨƚŚĞŵŽƌŽŶĞŽĨ
ƚŚĞŵĂƚĂƟŵĞ͘/ƵƐĞĚƚŽƉůĂLJǁŝƚŚŵLJĚĂĚ͕ƐŽŝƚŵĞĂŶƐĂůŽƚƚŽŵĞ͘/͛ŵƚŚĞƚLJƉĞŽĨ
ĚĂĚǁŚŽǁŝůůŶŽƚůĞƚŵLJŬŝĚƐďĞĂƚŵĞĂƚĂŶLJƚŚŝŶŐ͘/ƚƌĂƐŚƚĂůŬƚŽƚŚĞŬŝĚƐ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞLJ
ĚŽŶ͛ƚůŝŬĞŝƚ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĂƚŐĞƚƐƚŚĞŵĨƌƵƐƚƌĂƚĞĚ͘Ƶƚŝƚ͛ƐƐŽƌƚŽĨŵLJǁĂLJŽĨƚƌLJŝŶŐƚŽŐĞƚ
ƚŚĞŵƵƐĞĚƚŽƚŚĞƌĞĂůǁŽƌůĚ͘͟
ƌĂĚLJhĚĂůů͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

͞^ůŝĐĞĂŶĚĚŝĐĞ͘͟
^ƚĞƉŚĞŶ^ŝĞŐĂů͕ƵƌŽůŽŐŝƐƚ

͞ǀĞƌLJĚĂLJ͕DŽŶĚĂLJƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ&ƌŝĚĂLJ͕ĂƚƐŽŵĞƉŽŝŶƚŝŶƚŚĞĚĂLJ͕/ĐĂůůŵLJĨƌŝĞŶĚ͕ĚĚLJ͕
ŽƌŚĞĐĂůůƐŵĞ͘^ŽŵĞƟŵĞƐǁĞƚĂůŬĨŽƌĮǀĞŵŝŶƵƚĞƐ͕ƐŽŵĞƟŵĞƐĂŶŚŽƵƌ͘tĞ͛ǀĞĚŽŶĞ
ƚŚŝƐĨŽƌĮǀĞŽƌƐŝdžLJĞĂƌƐ͘tĞ͛ǀĞŬĞƉƚŝƚƵƉƚŚƌŽƵŐŚŚĞĂůƚŚĂŶĚƐŝĐŬŶĞƐƐ͕ĐƌŝƐŝƐĂŶĚ
ĐĂůŵ͕ďŝƌƚŚƐĂŶĚĚĞĂƚŚƐ͘dŚĞƌĞ͛ƐƐŽŵĞƚŚŝŶŐƌĞĂůůLJŵĂŐŝĐĂůĂďŽƵƚŬĞĞƉŝŶŐƵƉǁŝƚŚƚŚŝƐ
ůŝƩůĞĐŽŵŵŝƚŵĞŶƚ͘tĞƚĂůŬĂďŽƵƚǁŚĂƚ͛ƐŐŽŝŶŐŽŶ͕ŽƵƌƉůĂŶƐĨŽƌƚŚĞĚĂLJ͕ƚĞůůƐƚŽƌŝĞƐ͕
ĚŝƐĐƵƐƐŵƵƐŝĐĂŶĚĐƵůƚƵƌĞĂŶĚƐƚƵīƚŚĂƚǁĞƚŚŝŶŬŝƐƐƚƵƉŝĚŽƌƉŝƐƐĞƐƵƐŽī͘dŚŝƐƌŝƚƵĂů
ŬĞĞƉƐƵƐƐƚƌŽŶŐĂŶĚŬĞĞƉƐƵƐĐŽŶŶĞĐƚĞĚ͘/ƚƌĞŵŝŶĚƐŵĞƚŚĂƚ/͛ŵƐƚƌŽŶŐĞƌǁĂůŬŝŶŐ
ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚůŝĨĞǁŝƚŚĂŐŽŽĚŵĂŶĂƐĂĨƌŝĞŶĚƚŚĂŶ/ǁŽƵůĚďĞŝĨ/ƚƌŝĞĚƚŽďĞĂŐŽŽĚŵĂŶ
ǁŝƚŚŽƵƚŽŶĞ͘/ŚŝŐŚůLJƌĞĐŽŵŵĞŶĚŝƚ͘͟
dŽĚĚDĂƵůĚŝŶ͕ďůƵĞƐŵĂŶ

͞tĂƚĐŚŝŶŐǀĞƌLJƚŽƵŐŚƐŽůĚŝĞƌƐƐĂLJ͚/ůŽǀĞLJŽƵ͛ƚŽŽŶĞĂŶŽƚŚĞƌďĞĨŽƌĞƌŽůůŝŶŐŽƵƚƐŝĚĞ
ƚŚĞǁŝƌĞŝŶ/ƌĂƋ͘͟
DŝĐŚĂĞů<ĂŵďĞƌ͕ƉŚŽƚŽũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ

͞DĂŬŝŶŐĨƵŶŽĨŵLJĚĂĚĨŽƌďĞŝŶŐƐŽŽůĚ͘͟
:ĂƐŽŶƌĂŝŐ͕ŚŝŐŚƐĐŚŽŽůƐƚƵĚĞŶƚ

͞WĞĞŝŶŐŝŶƚŚĞƚŽŝůĞƚǁŝƚŚŵLJƐŽŶ͕ĂƌŝƵƐ͘ĞĞŶĚŽŝŶŐŝƚĨŽƌLJĞĂƌƐ͘,ĞǁĂƐŝŶƚŽƉŝƌĂƚĞƐ
ůĂƐƚLJĞĂƌ͕ƐŽǁĞǁŽƵůĚƐĂLJ͕͚yŵĂƌŬƐƚŚĞƉĞĞƐƉŽƚ͛ĂƐǁĞĐƌŽƐƐĞĚƐƚƌĞĂŵƐ͘/ĐĂŶ͛ƚǁĂŝƚ
ƵŶƟůŚĞƐĞĞ'ŚŽƐƚďƵƐƚĞƌƐ͘dŚĞŶǁĞĐĂŶǁĂƌŶĞĂĐŚŽƚŚĞƌ͕͞ŽŶ͛ƚĐƌŽƐƐƚŚĞƐƚƌĞĂŵƐ͊͟
ĞŶŶĂŐŶŽƐ͕ƚƵƚŽƌ

͞ǀĞƌLJDĂƌĐŚ͕/ŐĞƚƚŽŐĞƚŚĞƌǁŝƚŚƚŚƌĞĞĐŽůůĞŐĞďƵĚĚŝĞƐĂŶĚŐŽƚŽƚŚĞŝŐĂƐƚŽŶ-­‐
ĨĞƌĞŶĐĞďĂƐŬĞƚďĂůůĮŶĂůƐ͘tĞŐŽŽƵƚƚŽĚŝŶŶĞƌďĞĨŽƌĞŚĂŶĚ͕ƚŚĞŶƌĞůĂdžĂŶĚƚƵƌŶŝŶƚŽ
ƐƉŽƌƚƐĨĂŶƐǁŝƚŚŶŽĂŐĞŶĚĂĂŶĚŶŽƚŚŝŶŐƚŽƉƌŽǀĞƚŽĞĂĐŚŽƚŚĞƌ͘dŚĞƌĞ͛ƐŶŽƚŚŝŶŐůŝŬĞ
ĚƌŝŶŬŝŶŐĂĐŽƵƉůĞŽĨďĞĞƌƐĂŶĚLJĞůůŝŶŐǁŝƚŚĨƌŝĞŶĚƐ͘͟
dŽŵ:ŽůůLJ͕ũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ
 ͞KŶĞŽĨŵLJĨĂǀŽƌŝƚĞŵĂŶƌŝƚƵĂůƐŝƐǁŚĞŶƚŚĞƉƌŝĞƐƚŽƌZĂďďŝƐĂLJƐƚŚĞ
ǁŽƌĚƐ͞zŽƵDĂLJ<ŝƐƐdŚĞƌŝĚĞ͕͟ĂŶĚƚŚĞŐŽŽĚŐƵLJƐƉĂƵƐĞĂŶĚĂďƵďďůĞ

“Rolling   ĂƉƉĞĂƌƐŽǀĞƌƚŚĞŝƌŚĞĂĚůŝŬĞŝŶĂĐĂƌƚŽŽŶĂŶĚŝƚƐĂLJƐ͕͞,ŽůůLJDŽůůLJ͊^ŚĞ͛Ɛ
ŵŝŶĞĂŶĚƚŚĞƌĞĂƌĞϯϬϬƉĞŽƉůĞƐƚĂƌŝŶŐĂƚŵĞƌŝŐŚƚŶŽǁƐŽ/ďĞƩĞƌŶŽƚ
ďůŽǁƚŚŝƐŬŝƐƐ͊͟tŚĞƌĞ͛Ɛů'ŽƌĞǁŚĞŶLJŽƵŶĞĞĚŚŝŵ͍

around ŶŽƚŚĞƌĨĂǀŽƌŝƚĞĂŶĚǀĞƌLJƚĞůůŝŶŐŵŽŵĞŶƚŝƐǁŚĞŶƚŚĞŐƌŽŽŵŐĞƚƐĮdž-­‐
ĂƚĞĚŽŶŚŝƐƟĞ͘/ƚ͛ƐĂĨƵŶŶLJŵŽŵĞŶƚďĞĐĂƵƐĞŝƚ͛ƐĂƐŝŐŶŚĞŚĂƐĚĞĮŶŝƚĞůLJ

in  the   ŐŽƩĞŶƚŚĞtĞĚĚŝŶŐƵŐĂŶĚŝƐĚĞƐƉĞƌĂƚĞƚŽďĞĂďůĞƚŽĐŽŶƚƌŽůĂƚůĞĂƐƚ
ŽŶĞƚŚŝŶŐĂďŽƵƚŚŝƐǁĞĚĚŝŶŐ͘͟
ƌLJĂŶZĂĨĂŶĞůůŝ͕ůƵdžƵƌLJĞǀĞŶƚƉůĂŶŶĞƌ͘;,Ğ͛ƐƉůĂŶŶŝŶŐŚĞůƐĞĂůŝŶƚŽŶ͛Ɛ

grass  like   ǁĞĚĚŝŶŐ͘Ϳ

͞ZŽůůŝŶŐĂƌŽƵŶĚŝŶƚŚĞŐƌĂƐƐůŝŬĞĂĚŽŐǁŝƚŚŵLJĚŽŐ͘͟

a  dog   dŽŵ:ŽŶĞƐ͕ǁĂŝƚĞƌ

͞^ƵŶĚĂLJŶŝŐŚƚ͕/ƐŝƚĚŽǁŶĂŶĚǁƌŝƚĞĚŽǁŶĞǀĞƌLJƚŚŝŶŐ/ŚĂǀĞƚŽĚŽĚƵƌ-­‐

with  my   ŝŶŐƚŚĞƵƉĐŽŵŝŶŐǁĞĞŬŽŶĂƐƚĞŶŽƉĂĚ͕ǁŝƚŚůŝƩůĞĐŚĞĐŬͲŵĂƌŬďŽdžĞƐĨŽƌ

ĞĂĐŚ͘/ƚŬĞĞƉƐůŝĨĞŽƌĚĞƌůLJĂŶĚĨĞŶĚƐŽīƚŚĞĐŚĂŽƐ͘ŚĞĐŬŝŶŐƚŚŽƐĞďŽdžĞƐ
ŝƐƚŚĞŵŽƐƚƐĂƟƐĨLJŝŶŐƚŚŝŶŐ/ĚŽĞǀĞƌLJĚĂLJ͘/ŶĨĂĐƚ͕ǁŚĞŶ/ĮŶŝƐŚƚŚŝƐƐĞŶ-­‐

dog.” ƚĞŶĐĞ͕/ǁŝůůĐŚĞĐŬĂŶŽƚŚĞƌŽŶĞ͘ŚŚŚŚ͘͟
tŝůů>ĞŝƚĐŚ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌĂŶĚũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ͘
Tom  Jones, ͞DLJŝWŚŽŶĞ;ƚŚĞŝWŚŽŶĞϰ͕ŽĨĐŽƵƌƐĞ͕ǁŚŝĐŚ/ƐƚŽŽĚŽŶůŝŶĞĂƚϱĂ͘ŵ͘ƚŽ
waiter ďƵLJŽŶůĂƵŶĐŚĚĂLJͿŶĞǀĞƌůĞĂǀĞƐŵLJŚĂŶĚ͕ƉŽĐŬĞƚ͕ŽƌƌĞĂĐŚ͘/ŚĂǀĞĂϮϰ͟
ŝDĂĐǁŝƚŚĚƵĂůŵŽŶŝƚŽƌƐ͕DĂĐŬWƌŽ͕W^ϯ͕'W^͕ϲϬ͟,ds͕^ŬLJƉĞ͕
ĂŶĚƐŽŵĞǁŚĞƌĞĚŽǁŶƚŚĞůŝŶĞĂϯdsŵĂLJŵĂŬĞŝƚŝŶƚŽŵLJůŝĨĞͶŶŽƚ
ƚŽŵĞŶƟŽŶĨĂĐĞŬ͕LJŽƵƚƵďĞ͕ƚǁŝƩĞƌ͕ŵLJďůŽŐ͕ǀŝŵĞŽ͕ĞƚĐ͘/͛ŵƉƌĞƩLJ
͚ĐŽŶŶĞĐƚĞĚ͛ŽƌŶĞǀĞƌ͚ĚŝƐĐŽŶŶĞĐƚĞĚ͛ĨƌŽŵƚĞĐŚŶŽůŽŐLJĂƐŵLJǁŝĨĞĨƌĞĞůLJ
ƉŽŝŶƚƐŽƵƚ͘tŝƚŚĂůůŽĨƚŚĞƌĂĚŝĂƟŽŶƐĞĞƉŝŶŐŝŶƚŽŵLJďƌĂŝŶƚŚĞƌĞŝƐŽŶĞ
ƌŝƚƵĂů/ƌĞĨƵƐĞƚŽƵƉĚĂƚĞ͘/ƌĞĂĚƚŚĞĂĐƚƵĂůƉĂƉĞƌǀĞƌƐŝŽŶŽĨƚŚĞtĂůů
^ƚƌĞĞƚ:ŽƵƌŶĂůƌĞůŝŐŝŽƵƐůLJĞǀĞƌLJŵŽƌŶŝŶŐĐŽǀĞƌƚŽĐŽǀĞƌǁŚŝůĞ/ĚƌŝŶŬŵLJ
ĐŽīĞĞ͘/ĂůǁĂLJƐƐƚĂƌƚǁŝƚŚƚŚĞ͚ƋƵŝƌŬLJ͛ƐƚŽƌLJŽŶƚŚĞďŽƩŽŵŽĨƉĂŐĞϭ͕
ƚŚĞŶŽŶƚŽƚŚĞŵĂƌŬĞƚƉůĂĐĞƐĞĐƟŽŶƐĞĂƌĐŚŝŶŐĨŽƌƚŚĞŝŶĞǀŝƚĂďůĞĚĂŝůLJ
ůŽǀĞĨĞƐƚŽǀĞƌƉƉůĞ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞŶŵĂŬĞŵLJǁĂLJďĂĐŬƚŚƌŽƵŐŚƚŚĞŽƚŚĞƌƐĞĐ-­‐
ƟŽŶƐĂŶĚƵƐƵĂůůLJĮŶŝƐŚƵƉŽŶƚŚĞƚŽŝůĞƚ͕ƐŝŶĐĞƚŚĂƚĐƵƉŽĨĐŽīĞĞŵĂŬĞƐ
ŵĞƉŽŽƉŝŶƚĞŶŵŝŶƵƚĞƐŇĂƚ͘

DLJĨƌŝĞŶĚƐǁĂŶƚƚŽŬŶŽǁǁŚLJ/ĚŽŶ͛ƚũƵƐƚƌĞĂĚŝƚŽŶĂŶŝWĂĚŽƌŽŶŵLJ
ƉŚŽŶĞŽƌĐŽŵƉƵƚĞƌ͘/ĚŽŶ͛ƚŬŶŽǁ͕ƌĞĂůůLJ͘/ǁĂƐŶĞǀĞƌĂŶĞǁƐƉĂƉĞƌƌĞĂĚĞƌ
ŐƌŽǁŝŶŐƵƉ͕ŵLJƉĂƌĞŶƚƐǁĞƌĞĚŝǀŽƌĐĞĚ͕ĂŶĚŽƚŚĞƌƚŚĂŶƚŚĞ^ƵŶĚĂLJ
dŝŵĞƐŵLJĚĂĚŶĞǀĞƌƌĞĂůůLJƌĞĂĚƚŚĞƉĂƉĞƌ͘KŶƚŚĞǁĞĞŬĞŶĚƐ͕ǁŚĞŶŵLJ
ŶĞǁƐƉƌŝŶƚĮdžĚŽĞƐŶ͛ƚƉƌĞƐĞŶƚŝƚƐĞůĨĂďŝƚƚŽŽĨĂƌĨƌŽŵŵLJĚŽŽƌƐƚĞƉ͕/
ŵŝƐƐƚŚĂƚƌŝƚƵĂůĂŶĚƚƌLJƚŽƐƵďƐƟƚƵƚĞŝƚǁŝƚŚƚŚĞůĂďĞůŽĨĂŬĞƚĐŚƵƉďŽƩůĞ
ůĂďĞůŽƌĂŶLJƌĂŶĚŽŵƉƌŝŶƚĞĚĂƌƟĐůĞǁŝƚŚŝŶƌĞĂĐŚĂƚƚŚĞďƌĞĂŬĨĂƐƚƚĂďůĞ͕
LJĞƚ/͛ŵŶĞǀĞƌƋƵŝƚĞƐĂƟƐĮĞĚ͘͟
ĂƌŝŶ,ĂŐĞƌ͕ĚĞƐŝŐŶĞƌĂŶĚĞŶƚƌĞƉƌĞŶĞƵƌ

͞tĂƐŚŝŶŐŵLJƉŝĞĐĞŽĨƐŚŝƚĐĂƌ͘͟
DŝĐŚĂĞůĂƌƚĞƌ͕ůĂŶĚƐĐĂƉĞƌ
͞/ƌĞĂĚĂĐŚĂƉƚĞƌŽĨƚŚĞŝďůĞĞĂƌůLJĞǀĞƌLJŵŽƌŶŝŶŐ͘͟
DĂƌŬ^ƚĞǀĞŶƐ͕ĐƌŝŵŝŶĂůĚĞĨĞŶƐĞĂƩŽƌŶĞLJ

͞/ƐŝnjĞƵƉƚŚĞƐŝƚƵĂƟŽŶ͕ĚĞǀŝƐĞĂƐƚƌĂƚĞŐLJƚŽĂĚĚƌĞƐƐƚŚŝƐƐĞĞŵŝŶŐůLJŝŶƐƵƌŵŽƵŶƚĂďůĞ
ĐŚĂůůĞŶŐĞ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞŶĞdžĞĐƵƚĞƚŚĂƚƉůĂŶƚŽƉĞƌĨĞĐƟŽŶ͘dŚƵƐĚŽ/ƉĞƌĨŽƌŵŵLJĚĂŝůLJƌŝƚ-­‐
ƵĂůŽĨůŽĂĚŝŶŐƚŚĞĚŝƐŚǁĂƐŚĞƌǁŝƚŚĞǀĞƌLJĚĂŵŶĚŝƌƚLJŐůĂƐƐ͕ƉůĂƚĞ͕ŬŶŝĨĞ͕ĨŽƌŬ͕ƐƉŽŽŶ͕
ƉŽƚ͕ĂŶĚƉĂŶ͘/ƐƵƐƉĞĐƚƚŚŝƐĨĞĂƚĚŽĞƐŶ͛ƚŝŵƉƌĞƐƐŵLJǁŝĨĞƋƵŝƚĞĂƐŵƵĐŚĂƐƐŚĞůĞĂĚƐ
ŵĞƚŽďĞůŝĞǀĞŝƚĚŽĞƐ͘͟
>ĂƌƌLJĞĂŶ͕ũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ

͞/ƚ͛ƐƌĞĂůůLJĂďŽƵƚƚŚĞďĂďLJƌŝŐŚƚŶŽǁ͘/ŶƚŚĞůĂƐƚƚǁŽLJĞĂƌƐ͕/͛ǀĞƐĞĞŶďĂƐŝĐĂůůLJĞǀĞƌLJ
ƐƵŶƌŝƐĞ͕ǁŚŝĐŚŚĂƐďĞĞŶƐŽƌƚŽĨĂŵĂnjŝŶŐ͘ƚĂĐĞƌƚĂŝŶƉŽŝŶƚLJŽƵ͛ƌĞŶŽƚƐƵƌĞŚŽǁ
ŵĂŶLJŵŽƌĞƐƵŶƌŝƐĞƐLJŽƵ͛ƌĞŐŽŝŶŐƚŽƐĞĞ͘ŶĚƚŚĞŶ/͛ǀĞƐĞĞŶĞǀĞƌLJŽŶĞƐŝŶĐĞƐŚĞ͛Ɛ
ďĞĞŶďŽƌŶ͘tĞŐĞƚƵƉƚŽŐĞƚŚĞƌ͕ĂŶĚǁĞŚĂǀĞƚŚŝƐƐŽƌƚŽĨŵĞĚŝƚĂƟŽŶƚŚŝŶŐŝŶƚŚĞ
ŵŽƌŶŝŶŐĨŽƌƚǁŽŽƌƚŚƌĞĞŚŽƵƌƐͶƵŶƟůŚĞƌŵŽŵŐĞƚƐƵƉͶǁŚĞƌĞǁĞ͛ƌĞũƵƐƚƚŽŐĞƚŚĞƌ͕
ũƵƐƚŝŶƚŚŝƐƌĞĂůůLJƋƵŝĞƚƟŵĞƚŚĂƚ/ƌĞĂůůLJĐŚĞƌŝƐŚ͘͟
EŝĐŬ&ůLJŶŶ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

͞EŽƚƐƵƌĞŝĨƚŚŝƐĮƚƐ͕ďƵƚ/ůŝŬĞƚŚĞůŝƩůĞ͕ĐŽŵŝĐĂůůLJĞdžĂŐŐĞƌĂƚĞĚ͕ůƵdžƵƌŝŽƵƐ͕ĂůŵŽƐƚ
ƐĞůĨͲƉĂƌŽĚLJŝŶŐŐĞƐƚƵƌĞƐǁŚĞŶĂƚŚůĞƚĞƐĞŵƉŚĂƐŝnjĞƚŚĞĨŽůůŽǁͲƚŚƌŽƵŐŚŽƌǁŝŶĚͲƵƉ͗ƚŚĞ
ƉůĞĂƐƵƌĞĂƐLJŽƵũŽŐƚŽLJŽƵƌƉŽƐŝƟŽŶŽĨŝŶĚƵůŐŝŶŐŝŶĂƐŵĂůů͕ĚƌŽůůŵŝŵĞŽĨũŽŐŐŝŶŐ͗/͛ŵ
ĚŽŝŶŐƚŚŝƐ͕ĂŶĚŬŝŶĚŽĨŬŝĚĚŝŶŐƚŚĞĂĐƚŽĨĚŽŝŶŐƚŚŝƐ͘

/ĂƐƐŽĐŝĂƚĞŝƚǁŝƚŚŵLJĨĂƚŚĞƌ͕ĂŶŽƚĞĚůŽĐĂůĂƚŚůĞƚĞ͕ĂŐƌĞĂƚŚŝƫŶŐĐĂƚĐŚĞƌŝŶďĂƐĞďĂůů͘
,ĞǁĂƐĂƐŚĂŵĞůĞƐƐĞdžƉĞƌƚĂƚƉĂƩĞƌĂŶĚĐŚĂƩĞƌ͗ŝŶŚŝƐĨŽƌƟĞƐ͕ŚĞĐĂŵĞƚŽƐĞĞŵĞ
ƉŝƚĐŚŝŶŐŝŶĂƐĂŶĚůŽƚŐĂŵĞ͘DLJƚĞĂŵǁĂƐůŽƐŝŶŐ͘tŚĞŶƚŚĞƉĞƚƵůĂŶƚĐĂƚĐŚĞƌĨŽƌŽƵƌ
ƚĞĂŵƋƵŝƚŽŶƵƐ͕ŵLJĨĂƚŚĞƌƉƵƚŽŶƚŚĞĞƋƵŝƉŵĞŶƚĂŶĚǁŝƚŚǀŽĐĂůĨŽƌĐĞŽĨƉĞƌƐŽŶĂůŝƚLJ
;ĂŶĚŚŝƫŶŐƉƌŽǁĞƐƐͿŚĞƚƵƌŶĞĚƚŚĞŐĂŵĞĂƌŽƵŶĚ͘

dŚĞƌĞ͛ƐĂƐĞŶƐĞŽĨƌŝĚŝĐƵůŽƵƐŝŶƚŚĞƐƉŽƌƚƐ/ůŝŬĞ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞLJŚĂǀĞĂƌŝƚƵĂůƋƵĂůŝƚLJƚŚĂƚ/
ĂƐƐŽĐŝĂƚĞǁŝƚŚŵĞŶĮŶĚŝŶŐďĞŝŶŐĂŵĂŶ͕ŝŶĐĞƌƚĂŝŶǁĂLJƐ͕ƐŽŵĞƚŚŝŶŐƚŽůĂƵŐŚĂďŽƵƚ͘͟
ZŽďĞƌƚWŝŶƐŬLJ͕ƉŽĞƚ

͞,ĂŶŐŝŶ͛ǁŝƚŚŵLJŚŽŵŝĞƐ͘͟
ƵƐƟŶ&ƌĂŶŬ͕ŵŝĚĚůĞƐĐŚŽŽůƐƚƵĚĞŶƚ

͞'ĞƫŶŐĐůŝƉƉĞĚĂƚŵLJďĂƌďĞƌƵƉŝŶĂƐƚ,ĂƌůĞŵ͘&ƌĂŶŬŝĞͶǁŚŽŝƐĂůǁĂLJƐŐŝǀŝŶŐŵĞ
ĂĚǀŝĐĞŽŶŚŽǁƚŽǀŝƐŝƚ^ĂŶƚŽŽŵŝŶŐŽǁŝƚŚŽƵƚŐŽŝŶŐďƌŽŬĞ͘͟
:ƵŶŽƚşĂnj͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

͞tĂƚĐŚŝŶŐEŽƌƚŚǁĞƐƚĞƌŶďĞĂƚ/ŽǁĂĂƚĨŽŽƚďĂůůĨŽƵƌŽĨƚŚĞůĂƐƚĮǀĞLJĞĂƌƐ;ƚŚƌĞĞ
ƐƚƌĂŝŐŚƚƟŵĞƐŝŶ/ŽǁĂŝƚLJͿ͕ĂŶĚƚŚĞŶǁĂƚĐŚŝŶŐ/ŽǁĂĨĂŶƐůŽƐĞƚŚĞŝƌƐŚŝƚĞĂĐŚƟŵĞ
ĂŶĚĂĐƚůŝŬĞŝƚ͛ƐƐŽŵĞŬŝŶĚŽĨ,h'^hZWZ/^͚͘ŝĚǁĞũƵƐƚůŽƐĞdKEKZd,t^d-­‐
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ƵƐĞĚƚŽŝƚ͘tĞ͛ƌĞũƵƐƚďĞƩĞƌƚŚĂŶLJŽƵ͘͟
ĞŶŽŝƚĞŶŝnjĞƚͲ>ĞǁŝƐ͕ĞĚŝƚŽƌŽĨdŚĞ'ŽŽĚDĞŶWƌŽũĞĐƚDĂŐĂnjŝŶĞĂŶĚŝŶƐƵīĞƌĂďůĞ
EŽƌƚŚǁĞƐƚĞƌŶƐƉŽƌƚƐĨĂŶ
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ůĞdžĂŶĚĞƌŚĞĞ͕ŶŽǀĞůŝƐƚ

ŝŶŝƟĂƟŽŶ ͞,ĂǀŝŶŐĂŐŽŽĚĐŝŐĂƌ͘͟
ZŽďďƌĂƵŶ͕ŵŽƟǀĂƟŽŶĂůƐƉĞĂŬĞƌ

rites  in   ͞ǀĞƌLJŵŽƌŶŝŶŐ͕/ůŽŽŬĂƚƚŚĞŵĞŵĞŶƚŽŵŽƌŝŽŶŵLJĐŽŵƉƵƚĞƌĚĞƐŬƚŽƉ͘ƐLJŽƵ

ŵĂLJŬŶŽǁ͕ŵĞŵĞŶƚŽŵŽƌŝƐĂƌĞƌĞŵŝŶĚĞƌƐŽĨĚĞĂƚŚ͕ĂŶĚǁĞƌĞƉŽƉƵůĂƌŝŶƚŚĞ
DŝĚĚůĞŐĞƐǁŚĞŶƉĂŝŶƟŶŐƐŽŌĞŶŝŶĐůƵĚĞĚƐŬƵůůƐĂŶĚŽƚŚĞƌƐLJŵďŽůƐ͘^Ž/ŚĂǀĞ

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Guinea.” ŵLJůŝĨĞĂŶĚŵLJĨĂŵŝůLJǁŚŝůĞ/͛ŵŚĞƌĞ͘͟
͘:͘:ĂĐŽďƐ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

^ĞďĂƐƟĂŶ:ƵŶŐĞƌ͕ ͞dŚĞƌĞŝƐŶŽƚŚŝŶŐůŝŬĞǁŽƌŬŝŶŐŽŶƚŚĞĐƌĞǁ͕ŽƵƚĚŽŽƌƐ͕ŽŶƚŚĞĮƌƐƚǁĂƌŵĚĂLJŽĨ
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ǀĞƌLJďŽĚLJŐŝǀĞƐ͕ĞǀĞƌLJďŽĚLJŐĞƚƐ͘EŽƚŚŝŶŐƐĞƌŝŽƵƐ͕ǁĞďƵƐƚĞĂĐŚŽƚŚĞƌ͛ƐďĂůůƐ
ĂŶĚďƵƐƚŽŶƚŚĞǁŽƌůĚĂƚůĂƌŐĞ͘/ƚ͛ƐƚŚĞďůƵĞĐŽůůĂƌǁĂLJ͘tĞĂƌĞĂůůŝŶŝƚƚŽŐĞƚŚĞƌ͕
ŐĞƫŶŐƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ͕ďŝƚĐŚŝŶŐĂďŽƵƚƚŚŝŶŐƐ͘ůůǁŝŶƚĞƌǁŝƚŚƚŚĞŚĞĂǀLJĐůŽƚŚĞƐ͕LJŽƵĐĂŶ
ŶĞǀĞƌŐĞƚĨƵůůLJǁĂƌŵ͕ƚŚĞŶƐƵĚĚĞŶůLJLJŽƵĂƌĞĚŽǁŶƚŽLJŽƵƌƚͲƐŚŝƌƚďLJϭϬ͕ŵƵƐĐůĞƐ
ƐƚƌĞƚĐŚĞĚŽƵƚ͕ŇŽǁŝŶŐ͕ďƵŝůĚŝŶŐ͕ƉƵƫŶŐƵƉǁĂůůƐ͘ŽŶĞ͕ǁƌĂƉƉĞĚƵƉĂƚϯ͕ƚĂŬĞ
ĂƚůŽŽŬĂƚǁŚĂƚLJŽƵƉƵƚƵƉ͕ǁŚĂƚLJŽƵďƵŝůƚ͕ĨĞĞůƐŐŽŽĚ͘ŽůĚďĞĞƌďLJϯ͗ϰϱ͕ŽŶƚŚĞ
ĨƌŽŶƚƉŽƌĐŚĐŚŝůůŝŶ͘dŚĂƚŝƐďĞŝŶŐĂŵĂŶ͘͟
ŽŶ&ŽŽƚĞ͕ŐĞŶĞƌĂůĐŽŶƚƌĂĐƚŽƌ

͞DLJďƌŝĚĞĂŶĚ/ƌĞŵĂƌƌLJŝŶĂĚŝīĞƌĞŶƚƐƚĂƚĞŽƌĐŽƵŶƚƌLJĞǀĞƌLJLJĞĂƌͶŶƵŵďĞƌϭϯŝŶ
ϮϬϭϬ͘͟
ǀĂŶDŽŶĞLJ͕ůŝĨĞĐŽĂĐŚ

͞^ĞĞŝŶŐĮůŵƐďLJŵLJƐĞůĨ͘/ŽŌĞŶĞƐĐĂƉĞŽŶĐĞƌƚĂŝŶĂŌĞƌŶŽŽŶƐŝŶƚŽƚŚĞĐŽĐŽŽŶŽĨ
ŵLJĨĂǀŽƌŝƚĞƚŚĞĂƚĞƌ͕ĂůŽŶĞŝŶŵLJƚŚŽƵŐŚƚƐ͕ƌĞĂĚLJƚŽďĞĂīĞĐƚĞĚďLJĂǁŽƌŬŽĨĂƌƚ͘
ŝƐƚƌĂĐƟŽŶƐŵƵƐƚďĞĞůŝŵŝŶĂƚĞĚ͘WůĂŶĨŽƌƚƌĂŶƐĐĞŶĚĞŶƚŵŽŵĞŶƚƐ͘/ĂůǁĂLJƐĚŽ͕
ĂŶĚ/͛ŵĐŽŶǀŝŶĐĞĚƚŚĂƚŝŶƐƉŝƌĂƟŽŶĐĂŶďĞĞŶŐŝŶĞĞƌĞĚ͘tĞŶĞĞĚŶ͛ƚďĞƉĂƐƐŝǀĞ͘͟
:ĂƐŽŶ^ŝůǀĂ͕ƚĞůĞǀŝƐŝŽŶŚŽƐƚ

͞DĂůĞŝŶŝƟĂƟŽŶƌŝƚĞƐŝŶEĞǁ'ƵŝŶĞĂ͘͟
^ĞďĂƐƟĂŶ:ƵŶŐĞƌ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌ

͞DĞĚŝƚĂƟŽŶ͘͟
<ŝƉDĂnjƵLJ͕ĐŽŵƉŽƐĞƌ

͞/ĂŵĂůǁĂLJƐƚƌĂŝŶŝŶŐĨŽƌŵLJĮŐŚƚƐ͕ƐŽŵLJŵŽƐƚĐŚĞƌŝƐŚĞĚƌŝƚƵĂůĂƐĂŐƵLJŝƐƐŝŵƉůLJ
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͞ĂĚ͟ŚĂĚĂǁƐŽŶ͕ĐƵƌƌĞŶƚ/K>ŝŐŚƚ,ĞĂǀLJǁĞŝŐŚƚŚĂŵƉŝŽŶŽĨƚŚĞtŽƌůĚ
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ƉŽƌƚƵŶŝƚLJƚŽƐĞĞƚŚĞƚĞĂŵƉůĂLJ͘ƵƚƚŚĞƐĞĚĂLJƐ/ůŝǀĞŝŶDĂŶŚĂƩĂŶĂŶĚĂůŵŽƐƚ
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ƚŚĂƚŵĞĂŶƐ/ĐĂŶŐŽǁŝƚŚĂƉĂů͕ƐŽŵĞƟŵĞƐĨŽƌΨϭϬĞĂĐŚ͊ŶĚǁĞĐĂŶƐŝƚŝŶƚŚĞ
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ǁŝŶƐ͕ǁĞ͛ƌĞŐƵĂƌĂŶƚĞĞĚƚŽůĞĂǀĞǁŝƚŚŶŽĚŝƐĂƉƉŽŝŶƚŵĞŶƚƐ͘tŚĞŶĚŝƐĐŽƵŶƚĞĚ
<ŶŝĐŬƐƟĐŬĞƚƐŐŽŽŶƐĂůĞ͕/ĂůǁĂLJƐďƵLJƚǁŽƉĞƌŐĂŵĞ͘EŽĚŽƵďƚ͕ƐŽŵĞŽŶĞǁŝůů
ŐŽǁŝƚŚŵĞ͘,ĞƌĞ͛ƐŚŽƉŝŶŐƚŚĞ<ŶŝĐŬƐĐŽŶƟŶƵĞƚŽƐƵĐŬ͘^ŽƌƌLJ͕EĞǁzŽƌŬ͘͟
:ĂƐŽŶ&ĞŝĨĞƌ͕ĞĚŝƚŽƌ

͞,ĂŶŐŝŶŐŽƵƚǁŝƚŚŵLJƐŽŶ͕LJůĂŶ͕ƉůĂLJŝŶŐƚŚĞtŝŝŽƌƚĞůůŝŶŐďŝŐƐƚŽƌŝĞƐďĞĨŽƌĞ
ďĞĚƟŵĞ͘͟
W'ĂƚĞƐ͕ĞŶƚƌĞƉƌĞŶĞƵƌ

͞/ůŽǀĞƚŽƚĂŬĞĨŽƵƌ͕ĐŽƵŶƚ͚ĞŵĨŽƵƌ͕ĂĐƚƵĂůŶĞǁƐƉĂƉĞƌƐŽƵƚƚŽŵLJƉŽƌĐŚŝŶƚŚĞ
ŵŽƌŶŝŶŐ͘;dŚĞEĞǁzŽƌŬdŝŵĞƐ͕dŚĞtĂůů^ƚƌĞĞƚ:ŽƵƌŶĂů͕EĞǁzŽƌŬWŽƐƚ͕ĂŶĚ
dŚĞ^ƚĂƌͲ>ĞĚŐĞƌ͘Ϳ>ĂƉƚŽƉƐƚĂLJƐĐůŽƐĞĚĨŽƌĂďŽƵƚĂŶŚŽƵƌďĞĐĂƵƐĞŽŶĐĞ/ĂŵŽŶ
ƚŚĞŐƌŝĚ͕ƚŚĞƉƌŝŶƚƌĞǀĞƌŝĞŝƐŽǀĞƌ͘͟
ĂǀŝĚĂƌƌ͕ĂƵƚŚŽƌĂŶĚũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ

͞/ŵĂLJũƵƐƚŚĂǀĞƉĞƌĨŽƌŵĞĚŽŶĞŽĨŵŝŶĞͶŐŽŝŶŐƚŽƚŚĞƌĞĐĞŶƚůLJƌĞďƵŝůƚƚƌĂĐŬ
ĂƚƚŚĞůŽĐĂůŚŝŐŚƐĐŚŽŽů;ǁŚĞƌĞĂůůƚŚƌĞĞŽĨŵLJŬŝĚƐǁĞŶƚͿ͘/͛ǀĞďĞĞŶŐŽŝŶŐƵƉ
ƚŚĞƌĞƐŝŶĐĞǁĞŵŽǀĞĚƚŽWŽƌƚtĂƐŚŝŶŐƚŽŶŝŶƚŚĞĨĂůůŽĨϭϵϲϴ͘͟
'ĞŽƌŐĞsĞƐĐĞLJ͕ũŽƵƌŶĂůŝƐƚ

͞KŬĂLJ͕ƚŚĞŚŽŶĞƐƚĂŶƐǁĞƌ͍/ƚ͛ƐůŽǀŝŶŐ͕ĐŽŶƐĐŝŽƵƐƐĞdžƵĂůŝƚLJ͘/ƚ͛ƐĞǀĞƌLJƚŚŝŶŐŝŶ
ŽŶĞ͗ĚĞĞƉůŽǀĞ͕ĚĞĞƉƉůĞĂƐƵƌĞ͕ĚĞĞƉĐŽŵŵƵŶŝĐĂƟŽŶ͕ĂŶĚƐƉŝƌŝƚƵĂůŝƚLJĂůůĂƚƚŚĞ
ƐĂŵĞƟŵĞ͘EŽƵƌŝƐŚŵĞŶƚĨŽƌƚŚĞƐŽƵůĂŶĚƚŚĞďŽĚLJ͕ƚŽŽ͘dŽŵĞŶŐƌŽǁŝŶŐŽůĚĞƌ
ůŝŬĞŵĞ͕/͛ĚĂĚĚ͕ĐŽŵĞŽŶŐƵLJƐ͕ŝƚ͛ƐƵƐĞŝƚŽƌůŽƐĞŝƚ͘ŽŶ͛ƚůĞƚŝƚƐůŝƉĂǁĂLJ͘͟
'ŽƌĚŽŶtŚĞĞůĞƌ͕ƉƌĞƐŝĚĞŶƚĂŶĚK͕ƐĂůĞŶ/ŶƐƟƚƵƚĞ

͞^Ğdž͘͟
ŚƌŝƐŶĚĞƌƐŽŶ͕ĐŽůůĞŐĞƐƚƵĚĞŶƚ

͞tĂƚĐŚŝŶŐƚŚĞĞƚƌŽŝƚdŝŐĞƌƐǁŚŝůĞĚƌŝŶŬŝŶŐĂŽŽƌƐŽƌŝŐŝŶĂů͘͟
ĞŶǀĂŶƐ͕ĞdžĞĐƵƟǀĞĞĚŝƚŽƌ͕&ŽŐŐĞĚůĂƌŝƚLJ

͞DŽƵŶƚĂŝŶďŝŬŝŶŐǁŝƚŚŵLJďƵĚĚŝĞƐŽŶ^ƵŶĚĂLJŵŽƌŶŝŶŐĂƚƚŚĞƚŽƉŽĨŽƌƌĂů
ĂŶLJŽŶ;ŶĞĂƌ>ŽƐŶŐĞůĞƐͿ͘/͛ǀĞďĞĞŶĚŽŝŶŐŝƚĨŽƌƚŚĞůĂƐƚĨŽƵƌƚĞĞŶLJĞĂƌƐ͘͟
:͘^ƚĞƉŚĞŶ,ŝĐŬƐ͕ƉŚŽƚŽŐƌĂƉŚĞƌ

͞ŶũŽLJŝŶŐƐŽŵĞĚŽǁŶƟŵĞĂƚŚŽŵĞŝŶtŝƐĐŽŶƐŝŶǁŚĞŶƚŚĞƌĂĐĞƐĞĂƐŽŶĂůůŽǁƐ͘
DLJďƵĚĚŝĞƐĂŶĚ/ǁŝůůĐĂƚĐŚƵƉŽǀĞƌĂƌŽǁŶZŽLJĂůĐŽĐŬƚĂŝůĂŶĚĚŝŶŶĞƌͶ/ƚŚŝŶŬ
ŝƚ͛ƐƌĞĂůůLJŝŵƉŽƌƚĂŶƚƚŽƌĞŵĞŵďĞƌLJŽƵƌƌŽŽƚƐ͘͟
DĂƩ<ĞŶƐĞƚŚ͕E^ZŚĂŵƉŝŽŶĂŶĚĂLJƚŽŶĂϱϬϬtŝŶŶĞƌ

͞DLJĨĂŬĞĂŶƐǁĞƌǁŽƵůĚďĞǁĂƚĐŚŝŶŐƐƉŽƌƚƐǁŝƚŚŵLJďƵĚƐ͘DLJŚŽŶĞƐƚĂŶƐǁĞƌ
ǁŽƵůĚďĞŵĂƐƚƵƌďĂƟŽŶ͘tŚŝĐŚŽŶĞĚŽLJŽƵǁĂŶƚ͍͟
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