MANAGING FEMALE MISBEHAVIOR.

When women are caught up in the midst of a misbehavior event, we are not always at our emotional best, and our use of reason often disappears. Wouldnt it be nice if there were a specific, practical strategy right at your fingertips? Here is a plan that will help you determine the most effective way of managing misbehavior. What is the misbehavior pattern? Most (female) acts of misconduct occur as part of a pattern. Women develop these behavior patterns in order to get what they want or to express an emotion. There are four typical patterns of misbehavior. Annoying misbehavior - such as whining, teasing, nagging, pouting. . Disobedient misbehaviors - such as not following rules, not doing chores. . Defiant misbehavior - such as refusing to listen or arguing. Aggressive misbehavior - which can be verbal such as name calling, put downs, or physical, such as hitting or fighting. What is the purpose of the misbehavior? Identifying the pattern point to the purpose or function of the misbehavior. Although you can never be certain of the motive or purpose, we know that most misbehavior does have a purpose. When misbehavior is annoying, she may be trying to get her way. She may be trying to get you to give in or change your mind. When she is disobedient, it may be that she is not internally or externally motivated to do what you want her to do. She may be very motivated to do something else, like ignore you. This can lead to defiance. She who is defiant is typically after control or power. She either does not want to do what you ask or she wants to do what you do not permit. She, who exhibits aggressive behavior is often expressing anger, frustration, or revenge. She may be hurt because she did not get their way or because she believes that you have done something against her. Take action. Ignore annoying behaviors. This does not mean to ignore the problem. The correct action is to ignore the whining or teasing. Do not give in to demands. Tantrums need an audience. It is fine to say, I am ignoring you. It is also helpful to use redirection. My ears do not listen to whining, you need to ask in a polite voice. The most important issue to this type misbehavior, is that men are accused of ignoring women all the time. If you do not tell her that you are purposely ignoring her, or you are choosing not to respond to this type of behavior, she will know that you hear her and dont approve of that behavior. This also enables you to stay above the nagging and whining, keeping your frustration at bay. When she is disobedient, give a firm warning to stop.Think about what you are doing. If you continue, you will be spanked. You decide! In other words, give a firm warning, point out that this behavior is not a good idea and explain that she needs to make a better decision or punishment will occur. Explain that a poor choice will result in a negative consequence or outcome and make it tangible by

using treats like you want a sore bottom?, or, shall I get the brush? . Explain that a good choice will result in a positive consequence or outcome." It is okay if you do not want to do it -but you will still have to do it, or else! Do not try to stop the behavior by only making an appeal to reason, in most cases feminine misbehavior stem from emotions, therefore overtly reasoning with her alone wont prevent unwanted behavior. Women who express defiance behavior are usually seeking control. Remain calm. If you get upset, she wins. Be consistent. Be prepared to follow through the first time. I f you find yourself getting dragged into an argument, remember to control yourself first. Say. I need to calm down before this goes any further. I am going to deal with me, and then Ill come back and deal with you. Minimizing the effects of verbal aggression by not overreacting. This is difficult. It helps to talk with your spouse during a calm moment and explain the consequences of put-downs and how words can hurt others feelings. Intervene quickly to stop (verbal) aggression. You may need to apply a series of swats to her backside to make her regain control over herself. If she is only a little bit out of control a few stinging spanks to her clothed bottom should do the trick, but do not hesitate to bare her buttocks for the swats if she really is putting up a fuss. You need to be a good example by maintaining your own emotional self-control. Once your wife is calm and willing to talk, explain the consequences of her misbehavior, then carry them out. Do not over-explain why her behavior was wrong, it is enough for her to understand that she had misbehaved and punishment follows. When you have given her a serious spanking she will remember how painful and humiliating it was, how sore her bottom was. These painful memories will prevent her to repeat the offence better than the possible but uncertain rational acknowledgement that her behavior was wrong. Postponing punishment These tips works wonders for the times you are right there. But what if you come home tired, and she has deliberately disobeyed to do something she should have done at earlier? .At that point, tell her she will be punished, but you are too tired at this moment. This lets her know that you have noticed the misbehavior, but you are not ready to do it at this moment. If there is time, you could always have her stand in the corner to think about her behavior, or write you an essay. If you tell her that she will be spanked, make sure you tell her when, if you are not able to do it at the moment. Let her know when it would be convenient for you, and then make sure you carry it out. If you threaten a spanking, but do not carry it out, it is the same as telling her she is not worthy of your attention. The misbehavior will certainly return, sometimes stronger than before. Results of effective misbehavior management of women You will be relieving your wifes stress by demonstrating you are there for her. By taking control, she knows she can depend on you and will not worry so much about other factors in which she cannot change. When you are consistent, you will also not have as much stress. The household will become calmer. Since she feels she will not have to go to such extremes to get your attention, you will not have to react to the stress as much. You will find you have more time to do more pleasurable things, and you will not be spending as much time arguing and hassling with her.

Home will be more and more of a place you will like to return to after work. Both of you will be busy enough with your own jobs and responsibilities, you can lessen the tension and stress about the things which are your wifes duties. You will occupy your mind with things you, as a HoH should worry about. In addition, you have given your wife her own list of things in which she will busy herself worrying about, thus giving up on other worries she can do little or nothing about. Of course, in the end, you are responsible for her behavior, but by taking firm action when she digresses she will act more responsible to her duties. Even when she does not completely understands or agrees to the reasons behind rules and orders, she will understand that when she misbehaves a tearful spanking will follow. A sore bottom which makes sitting painful is a reason enough for a woman to behave. Having a well-behaved wife wont solve all the problems in the world, but it will transform your home in a place of temporary retreat, a place where you can gather your thoughts and rest a little better instead a place of nagging, misbehavior and disharmony.