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February 11, 2010

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bad romance?
a guide to getting over the dilemmas of valentines day, single or not

survival of the
the scientific theory of flirting

burning up
how to combat that case of cabin fever

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TABLE OF CONTENTS
* Cover photo by Adam Buhler

February 11th, 2010 // volume 7, issue 21

WESCOE WIT Thats what she said she said! KANSAS IN HEAT Sexercise: Feel the burn for pleasure

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GET SOME CULTURE Those (funny) people STAGE PRESENCE Vocals gone wild

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thursday, feb. 11th
THEOLOGY ON TAP Henrys on Eighth, 5:30 p.m., free, all ages THE JUNKYARD JAZZ BAND American Legion, 7 p.m., free, all ages CRAfTY GET TOGETHER Ingredient, 7 p.m., free, all ages KU HORN ENsEmBLE The Swarthout Recital Hall, 7:30 p.m., free, all ages TREvOR HALL/ TOmORROws BAD sEEDs The Bottleneck, 8 p.m., $9-$11, all ages KATLYN CONROY & THE wiLD AND wOOLY/ ALLEY fLOwERs/ KiRsTEN PALUDAN The Eighth St. Taproom, 10 p.m.,$3, 21+ BURGER KiNGDOm/ JABBERJOsH The Replay Lounge, 10 p.m., $2, 21+ RANDOm RAiN/ COLONY COLLAPsE The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $3, 21+

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friday, feb. 12th

fACULTY RECiTAL sERiEs: fORREsT PiERCE Swarthout Recital Hall, 7:30 p.m., free, all ages sUPERfLY sOUL PARTY PREsENTED BY vANCLUB Van Go Arts, 8 p.m., free$25, all ages 747 RECORDs fEATURiNG BABA KAHN/sUNNY BROwN/ LOmATiCC The Granada, 9 p.m., $30, all ages wAKA wiNTER CLAssiC The Bottleneck, 9 p.m., 18+ BRODY BUsTER BAND/ sONs Of GREAT DANE The Jackpot Music Hall, 10 p.m., $3-$5, 18+ fOURTH Of JULY/ ROOfTOP viGiLANTEs The Eighth St. Taproom, 10 p.m., $3, 21+ A LULL/ THE CAvEs/ THE PiNK THiNGs The Replay Lounge, 10 p.m., $2, 21+ TRUCKER The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $4, 21+

saturday, feb. 13th

OPENiNG: LET mE HAvE mORE THAN YOU wANT TO GivE AND i wiLL GivE BACK mORE THAN YOU wANT TO TAKE Wonder Fair, 6 p.m., free, all ages mENs BAsKETBALL: KANsAs vs. iOwA sTATE Allen Fieldhouse, 7 p.m., all ages OPENiNG: LOvERs, CHOCOLATEs & OTHER ADDiCTiONs 1109 Gallery, 7 p.m., free, all ages BONNiE AND CLYDE vs. DRACULA Lawrence Arts Center, 7 p.m., $5, all ages BELA fLECK Liberty Hall, 8 p.m., $35$56, all ages CROss CANADiAN RAGwEED The Granada, 9 p.m., $21$23, all ages KiTTY D/ sOmAsPHERE The Bottleneck, 9 p.m., 18+ mAJEsTiCs RHYTHm REvUE The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $4, 21+

sunday, feb. 14th

sONGs fOR swEETHEARTs, A DiNNER BENEfiT fOR THE LAwRENCE COmmUNiTY THEATER Lawrence Community Theater, 7 p.m., all ages OPENiNG fOR sENsiTivE DEPENDENCE BY JEROmY mORRis The Bourgeois Pig, 7 p.m., free, all ages smACKDOwN! The Bottleneck, 7:30 p.m., free-$5, 18+

monday, feb. 15th

BiLLY EBELiNG & His ONE mAN BAND The Jackpot Music Hall, 6 p.m., free, all ages DOLLAR BOwLiNG The Royal Crest Bowling Lanes, 9 p.m., $1, all ages KARAOKE The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $1, 21+ THE TwO mAN GENTLEmEN BAND/ THE KC BEAR fiGHTERs The Replay Lounge, 10 p.m., $2, 21+

tuesday, feb. 16th

BLUEs TUEsDAY wiTH BRYAN NEUBERRY Gaslight Tavern, 7 p.m., free, 18+ DREAms Of mY fATHER BOOK DisCUssiON Lawrence Public Library, 7 p.m., free, all ages HAOCHEN ZHANG The Lied Center, 7:30 p.m., $10-$24, all ages LEGisLATiON THAT CHANGED AmERiCA Dole Institute of Politics, 7:30 p.m., free, all ages TUEsDAY NiTE swiNG The Kansas Union, 8 p.m., free, all ages sCARY LARRY KANsAs BiKE POLO Veterans Park, 8 p.m., free, all ages PAPADOsiO/ Uv HiPPOs The Bottleneck, 9 p.m., 18+ wEATHERBOx/ fROm QUiET ARms/ sECOND sTAR OPERATOR The Jackpot Music Hall, 9 p.m., $5-$7, all ages

wednesday, feb. 17h

BiLLY sPEARs & BEER BELLiEs Johnnys Tavern, 6 p.m., free, 21+ LivE ACTiON PUB TRiviA sHOw AT CONROY Conroys Pub, 7 p.m., $5, 21+ HOw TO wiN A COsmiC wAR BY REZA AsLAN Dole Institute of Politics, 7 p.m., free, 12+ THE AmERiCANA mUsiC ACADEmY JAm Signs of Life, 7:30 p.m., free, all ages DOLLAR BOwLiNG The Royal Crest Bowling Lanes, 9 p.m., $1, all ages PRiDE NiGHT Wildes Chateau 24, 9 p.m., $5, 18+ $1 DRiNK DANCE PARTY Fatsos, 10 p.m., 21+ sUNfLOwER COLONELs/ BRADEN YOUNG AND sPENCER GG Harbour Lights, 10 p.m., free, 21+

venues //
The Bottleneck 737 New Hampshire St. The Jackpot Music Hall 943 Massachusetts St. The Jazzhaus 926 1/2 Massachusetts St. The Replay Lounge 946 Massachusetts St. The Eighth St. Taproom 801 New Hampshire St. Lawrence Arts Center 940 New Hampshire St. The Granada 1020 Massachusetts St. The Pool Room 925 Iowa St. Wildes Chateau 24 2412 Iowa St. Duffys 2222 W. 6th St. Conroys Pub 3115 W. 6th St., Ste. D The Bottleneck 737 New Hampshire St.

editors note //

I have one successful Valentines Day on record. It was sixth grade and things were getting pretty serious between me and my boyfriend, Brandon. Wed known each other since kindergarten when he would come over to play Power Rangers with my twin brother, Kevin. Somewhere between soccer games at recess and hand-holding in the hallway, romance ensued. Valentines Day in elementary school is rarely a cause for disappointment. Everyone got a valentine from each of the 23 kids in Mrs. Ostranders class, and the room moms provided delicious heart-shaped cookies and white-frosted cupcakes to enjoy. Hardly the loneliness and cynicism experienced by some singles today. After all of the kids had properly sorted and placed Batman, Barbie and Scooby Doo greetings onto desks we sat down in nervous anticipation. I stared at my white tissue-papered shoebox decorated with cookie-cutter heart stickers and drawings. I began pulling out each card one by

one. Finally, I pulled out a folded New York Jets football player, addressed To: Kelci From: Brandon. Unlike all of the other kids who received this NFL Valentine, mine was different. It wasnt sealed with the matching football sticker, but with a cute green dinosaur, gleaming and clutching a pink heart that said, Lets be friends. It was true love at its finest. On the last day of elementary school, Brandon broke up with me to, in his terms, play the field in middle school. Recovering was a slow and painful process. New crushes came and went, but 10 years later Ive yet to have a significant other to celebrate that day with. Im afraid my youthful optimism has hardened and gone as stale as those colorful candy hearts stamped with sweet sayings. (Im not bitter. Do I sound bitter?) Whether youre single or taken, check out Lindsays story on page 8 and decide how to celebrate this sometimes-dreaded holiday. As for me, Ill be spending this Singles Awareness Day (also known as S.A.D. Ironic?) with my best friends drinking wine, eating sushi and fondly remembering a simpler time when love was exchanged through sports heroes and funny Valentines.

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GIRL 1 : GIRL 2 : GIRL 1 :
I think it would really suck to be thrown into a bottomless pit. Youd die falling. Youd die of starvation first. Unless someone threw food down after you. Oh my god! Youre right! Thats weird.

celebritweets // STEPHEN COLBERT

GIRL 1 : GIRL 2 :
Sometimes I think rocket ships look like penises. Thats because all rocket ships do look like penises. All of the time.

Satirist, host of The Colbert Report

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a rolling stone gathers no moss. thats the last time i hire keith richards to do my landscaping
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GUY :

Ive come to realize that the key to good sportsmanship is feeling good about losing. I dont do that. Im a winner, dammit!

obama canceled the moon exploration program! now well never know why it keeps disappearing every month
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GUY (on phone with girlfriend) :

Hey (girlfriends name), would you shut up? I love you. Bye.

when do I get the tiny records to play on my grammy?

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GIRL : GUY 1 (in a fake British accent) : GUY 2: GUY 1 (continuing accent) : GUY 2:
Hello, mate! What are you doing? And how are your stocks today, sir? Umm...

Thats what she said that she said!

i wonder if the paleo-man is on twitter, or if he only uses social websites that grow in the wild
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GIRL 1 : GIRL 2 :

Enjoy your McDonalds! Thanks! I hope you fart soon!

job man tip #47: nobody checks your resume to see if you were really the pope
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you cant say the republicans havent created any jobs. what about michael steele damage controller?
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// ABBY OLCESE

i have my suspicions that a lot of high-ranking military men are gay. explains why their outfits are always bedazzled with ribbons and pins
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how we met // ALYCIA FUTRELLE AND MATT OVINGTON

all great relationships had to start somewhere.
Alycia Futrelle and Matt Ovington took pictures, hiked and treaded carefully onto the iced-over water of Clinton Lake. Futrelle, Overland Park senior, had finally worked up the courage to strike up a conversation with Ovington, Chicago senior, one day in their Spanish class, which resulted in the picnic on this 60-degree January day. Later that night, the couple met up again and hung out at Futrelles apartment until 4 a.m. Futurelle says she was supposed to go over to a bonfire Ovington was having with friends, but he ended up coming to her place. We smoked hookah and listened to music. I taught him how to blow smoke rings. I remember not feeling tired at all because the time felt like it had gone by so fast. Futrelle says she wanted to impress Ovington by making him a batch of cookies, but nerves got the best of her baking skills. After three batches that came out like hockey pucks, she decided to give him store-bought cookies. Futrelle says Ovington told her they were delicious, but she later found the cookies untouched on his desk weeks later. Im not the best baker in the world, but that was one of the first times I completely failed at baking. He still decided to date me, thankfully, Futrelle says. The couple likes outdoor activities and going to local shows in Lawrence, though Ovington says they can find fun in anything. Even if we are just grocery shopping we have a fun time doing that, he says.

catch of the week // QUYNH PHAM

our weekly peek at a fish in the KU sea.
Martin, professor of pyschology. Some guys phone went off during class and that was his response! Major turn off(s): When guys come on too strongly or act like I owe them something just because they bought me a drink or took me out to dinner. I mean, if I dont hang out with you again its because I wasnt impressed. Major turn on(s): I love forehead kisses, they just give me that warm, giggly feeling inside

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Attractive personality traits: Funny, intelligent, easy-going and a gentleman who opens my door Ideal date: Im really indecisive so if a guy has once in awhile. I want someone who isnt afraid a creative evening all planned out and just tells of the concept of a date and who prefers to call me what time I need to be ready by then Im instead of text. Id like to think chivalry has not died completely. game! Main hobbies: Eating, nights out with the Why I am a catch: Im goofy and laid back. I like to laugh a lot and my friends like hanging out girls and sleeping ... in that order. with me, so hopefully that stands for something. Favorite Lawrence hangout: Louises // KATY SAUNDERS Schooner Night! Are you a catch of the week? Or do you know Favorite quote: Turn it on vibrate and put any good catches? E-mail us at jayplay10@ it in your pocket it feels better. Craig gmail.com.

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kansas in heat (print edition) // KEGELS: SEXERCISE TO INCREASE YOUR PLEASURE

Relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time
What exactly are Kegels and do they actually women who leaked urine when they coughed, work? Some of my friends claim they get sneezed or laughed, but they can do so much too sore from doing them. Are they not for more. everyone? Tonya Kegels can actually increase pleasure from orgasm in both men and women. Research has Few people realize that your sexual organs are also shown that for men Kegels can help with just like any other part of your body: They need erectile dysfunction and even premature or involuntary ejaculation. to be exercised to perform at their fullest. Kegels, named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, are There is a bit of a catch, though. All of these a way to strengthen your pelvic floor muscle, benefits will only start to show themselves about otherwise known as you Pubococcygeus (PC) a month or two after doing this exercise. muscle. Your PC muscle plays an important role It is also very important not to do Kegels in bladder control and is the muscle you use to excessively, or soreness may result. Most sexual stop urinating or to squeeze out those last few experts agree that Kegels should be done in drops. moderation to begin with and then increase in You can do Kegels by flexing and then relaxing number gradually. your PC muscle. Pretend like you are trying to Men and women should begin by doing five stop yourself from urinating, and then relax. slow contractions and five quick ones three times You should practice both slow and fast Kegels. a day. Each week the number of contractions you Slow Kegels involve contracting your PC muscle do should only increase by five. Castleman says and holding it for a slow count of three and then the ultimate goal should be to do 50 slow and 50 relaxing. Fast Kegels involve contracting and fast contractions three times a day for a total of releasing your PC as rapidly as you can and then 300 contractions a day. relaxing. Just like any initial exercise program, you may Originally Kegels were developed to help feel a little soreness in the beginning. The beautiful thing about Kegels is that it is difficult for others to tell when you are actually doing them. You can practice your Kegels driving in your car, when you are eating dinner, or even when you are sitting in class. Just remember, it takes a month or two to notice the orgasm enhancement. But stick with it the payoff will be great. Promise.

// MIKE ANDERSON
Do you have a question for Kansas in Heat? Send it in to kansasinheat@yahoo.com and it may be answered in a future column.

Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn., graduate student, is the host of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Thursdays at 7 p.m. on KJHK, 90.7fm and at kjhk.org. *THE OPINIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSARILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY. KANSAS IN HEAT IS NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP.

five questions // MICHAEL GRUBBS

MICHAEL GRUBBS

two people. five questions. see how they stack up. // LESLIE KINSMAN

AND CASSIE RUPP

CASSIE RUPP
Cassie Rupp is a Dighton senior majoring in journalism. She was the cover model for the 2009 Women of KU swimsuit calendar.

Michael Grubbs plays Grubbs on the CWs One Tree Hill. He is also the lead singer of Wakey!Wakey!, a band from Brooklyn, New York. Wakey!Wakey! released a new album, Almost Everything I Wish Id Said The Last, which came out Feb. 2.

Cheese. I live for cheese. I dont know why, but I just need it. I went to Paris where its totally okay to eat cheese for breakfast and I almost never left. Cheese on pizza, nachos, by itself, on a sandwich or just really good brie on a cracker with some spicy jelly ... Oh god, I just got so hungry. It would be Cindy Morgan in 1980. She plays Lacey Underall in the movie Caddyshack. The scene where Chevy Chase gives her the massage and does the fake shot. I was too young to see it when it came out, but I remember the first time I saw that scene a few years ago, thinking to myself, I want to live in this scene. I heard they totally improvised it. Chevy Chase was a charming devil in his day! Im not one of those guys thats super into Caddyshack. Ive never even played golf. But the one time I saw it, I was all about that scene. Fifth grade and it was a doozie. Her name was Gwen. I bought her a ring and asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes. It lasted a few hours. Its painful and I dont want to go into it, but we really had something (haha). Its a good thing it was a good kiss, because I was a super nerd and didnt get kissed again until high school. I would really like to wear ripped-up T-shirts more, but Im really pale. Like, glow in the dark pale. Its hard to sleep at night with all of the glowing light emanating from my baby-fine Irish skin. I love zombies so much. 28 Days Later remains in my top five movies of all time. I want to be the guy running from them, though. Maybe surviving quietly off canned food with a great haircut and some killer boots. I also need a really hot, special lady to sport those killer boots for, reproduce the human race with and eventually sacrifice myself for in a heart-wrenching scene where I stay behind to slow down the zombies.

WHAT FOOD OR DRINK ITEM CAN YOU NOT GO A DAY WITHOUT?

Crystal Light because it helps me stay hydrated and goes great with vodka. Id choose Justin Timberlake because its Justin Timberlake. I dont really think that answer needs any explanation.

IF YOU COULD PICK ANY CELEBRITY TO GET TOGETHER WITH, DEAD OR ALIVE, WHO WOULD IT BE ?

TELL US ABOUT YOUR FIRST KISS. DISH!

It was with my first real boyfriend, Brad. I was in high school and we were at a party in the middle of a country road because thats what you do in super small towns. So romantic. Old school Britney Spears. I cant pull it off because Im not as awesome as her and it really would not be cool in 2010. Id be an ass-kicking heroine so we could get everything back together and normal again.

WHAT STYLE OR CLOTHING ITEM DO YOU WISH YOU COULD PULL OFF?

WHAT ROLE WOULD YOU PLAY IN A POSTAPOCALYPTIC ZOMBIE WORLD?

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ttraction is difficult to figure out. Why do we find ourselves bored and uninterested with the sweet and sensitive person but go chasing after the one who ignores us and treats us like crap? Proving that those little birds on the Galapagos Islands didnt tolerate Darwin in vain, attraction can be explained with evolutionary theory, says Madeleine Fugre, associate professor at Eastern Connecticut State University. In preparation for her book, The Social Psychology of Dating and Mating, Fugre researched attraction and its scientific implications. Evolutionary theory proposes that the unconscious goal of humans is to pass along genes. Men and women act on this unconscious goal differently, Fugre says. Evolutionary theory states that a mans reproductive success is improved with a higher number of sexual partners. Women, on the other hand, look for a partner who would be able to take care of and support potential offspring. This explains why there are so many mixed signals between the two genders. Men have sexual motivation when they flirt, Fugre says. Women have more of a focus on a relationship or having fun when theyre flirting. After a year of flirtation, Amanda Enneking, Lawrence senior, was able to snag her current boyfriend of more than a month. Usually, the guy is expected to be aggressive, Enneking says, and most dont like the girl to pursue them. Enneking solved this problem by

Use Darwin as your wingman: Evolutionary theory unlocks the secrets to attraction // ADAM VOSSEN

ATTRACTION
using a system of subtle aggression, which she believes many girls use. By arranging coincidental meetings and making sure they were both hanging out at the same place, Enneking patiently but intently waited for her boyfriend to get the hint. I was more aggressive because I got the sense that he wasnt as aggressive, she says. A study entitled Social-Sexual Interactions? Meta-Analyses of Sex Differences in Perceptions of Flirtatiousness, Seductiveness, and Promiscuousness published in September of 2009 proposed that if a first date is initiated by a woman, men tend to interpret this cue sexually. According to the study, this misunderstanding is common. In flirtation, men can be more likely to perceive the interaction using a social-sexual relational schema. This means men will usually think flirtation from a girl is a sign of sexual interest.The goal for most guys is to take the girl home, says Blake Ward, Inman junior. To initiate flirtation, Ward says men will try to increase their attractiveness to a girl. Men will try to portray themselves as the leader of their group to do this. Because women are looking for someone who will be able to support a family, a man who comes off as powerful or confident is more likely to fall into the family-man category. It all comes back to hormones and biology, Fugre says. Fluctuation of hormone levels affects attraction for both men and women. There is some evidence that women dress differently, especially in more revealing ways, when theyre ovulating, Fugre says. And mens levels of testosterone affect their aggressiveness, which can translate to being more sexually aggressive. During these times of high hormones, men and women are more likely to be attracted to others. Pheromones also play a role in attraction. Though many people think of pheromones as a noticeable smell, its actually an unconscious reaction to a persons genetic code. Evolutionary theory suggests that people are more strongly attracted to someone whose genetic code is different; if an offspring is created from two very different genetic codes, the child will carry immunities to more things and have a better chance at survival. Conversely, people with similar ethnic, religious and political backgrounds are found to be more attractive. You know how they say birds of a feather flock together? That tends to be true, Fugre says. So, is a chemistry set necessary when trying to find your next relationship, or even just for your next make out? Both Ward and Enneking say they think a first impression can guide your judgment. Ability to communicate well and physical appearance top their lists as ways to judge attraction.This holds true even in science, Fugre says. People who are perceived as physically attractive may actually have better genes, Fugre says. Facial symmetry is one of the most important perceptions of beauty, because our genes have programmed us to believe that a symmetrical face is the sign of healthy genes. So forget the cologne or perfume and the pickup line or push-up bra. Attraction is all science. Jp

the science of

Photo illustration by Adam Buhler

It doesnt hurt to flirt: Men and women may have different strategies when it comes to making the first move, but dont let it prevent you from being forward. Biology helps break down those mixed signals, giving you the best insight to snagging a significant other.

A FIRST IMPRESSION CAN MAKE OR BREAK A FLIRTATION

A first impression happens within milliseconds, and in those milliseconds a lot can be inferred about a person. Research shows those inferences are usually accurate. The underlying processes of the first impression dont differ much between different sexual orientations, however homosexuals are slightly better at identifying other homosexuals, Fugre says. Physical traits shape a first impression greatly. This includes posture and facial expression as well as facial symmetry. A Facebook first impression will not serve the same purpose as an in-person interaction. Looking up someones profile before a meeting could actually affect the real first impression. When it comes to moving beyond first impressions and interpreting flirting, things can get complicated. The study published in Communication Monographs found that womens signals are misread more often than mens. According to the study, this confusion of signals is due to mens inability to decode womens cues of sexual interest or disinterest. 02

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BITTER
Dont let the hype ruin your holiday. Whether youre taken ...

eading up to Valentines Day, many couples scramble to plan a sociallyacceptable show of their affection and end up experiencing anxiety and disappointment due to their unrealistic expectations, says Toni Coleman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. A self-proclaimed gentleman, C.J. Harries, Wichita junior, has never been in a relationship on Valentines Day but says theres truth to Colemans statement. Relationships should be about mutual desire and respect, but men are expected to put on a performance, Harries says. Coleman says that holding this Hallmark holiday at such a high level of importance isnt healthy for any relationship. When you love someone, you love them all the time and not just extra special because its Valentines Day, Nicole Arnold,

Louisburg freshman. Arnold says she thinks its more important for couples to focus on having fun and enjoying each others company rather than trivial concerns such as how much money is spent. Though local jewelry stores usually see an increase in sales around Valentines Day, spending a lot of money isnt always the key to an enjoyable evening. Rich Yeakel, co-owner of Marks Jewelers, 817 Massachusetts St., suggests that couples on a budget go to the grocery store together, cook a nice meal and just hang out. The perfect evening can be as simple as picking up a new release from the video store (preferably not one resembling The Notebook) and snuggling up on the couch as your roommates gag at your cuteness. I think people get a bit too caught up in the spectacle, Harries says. Once you let yourself get concerned with fancy plans and big gifts, people forget its about showing your affection, not showing off your wallet. Jp

Gifts to avoid giving your Valentine

*Weight Watchers membership *Hes Just Not That Into You *Any stuffed animal that talks or sings when you press a plastic heart to its chest *A gift card to McDonalds *A poke on Facebook *A DVD set of Murder She Wrote *Leftover Halloween candy *A copy of Sex For Dummies *An STI

according to thefrisky.com

Bad romance: Dont let the Valentines Day hype ruin your relationship. Flowers and candy may seem like a good gift, but materialism on February 14 isnt the way to go. Do something unique for your sweetie, and show them how special they are all the time, not just one day out of the year.

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SWEET
... or single, you can still avoid the pitfalls of Valentines Day.

// WORDS BY LINDSAY CLEEK // PHOTOS ILLUSTRATIONS BY JERRY WANG

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Share the love: This Valentines Day, get a group of your fellow singles together and celebrate accordingly. Steering from the conventional romantic dinner and one-onone interaction can be liberating. Surround yourself with good friends and fun to have a stress free holiday.

irloin steak, Texas Holdem and the Terminator trilogy. These things make up the perfect Valentines Day for Tyler Cini, Round Rock, Texas, senior. Cini is single, but says he isnt worried about not having a significant other to share the holiday with. He says he plans on spending the day with his good friends instead. I dont think you have to be in a relationship to spend Valentines Day with people you care about, Cini says. According to a Rasmussen Reports poll, Cini is one of more than 95 million single Americans. Twenty-six percent of these people are dreading

Valentines Day. Many of these singles will be looking for ways to spend Valentines Day without focusing on the fact that theyre not involved in a romantic relationship. There are a variety of alternate ways to spend this holiday. According to Toni Coleman, licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of www.consum-mate.com, singles have a number of choices for how to get through the day. Coleman says one option is to make plans with another single friend to pamper yourselves with something like a pedicure or a massage. If youre feeling cynical, Coleman suggests you organize an Un-Valentines Day party with all of your single friends or use the day to clean your apartment and file your taxes.

C.J. Harries, Wichita junior, fondly remembers the simpler times of Valentines Day. In fourth or fifth grade, I found these amazing Star Wars Valentines that blew everything else out of the water, Harries says. Unfortunately, the days are long gone when cards featuring C-3PO and Chewbacca were an acceptable expression of love. So, if heart-shaped boxes of chocolate and overpriced bouquets of roses arent your thing, you can take a cue from Harries and use this Valentines Day as an opportunity to let everyone you love know it. Harries says he plans to call all of his friends and family to find out how theyre doing and to let them know how much he cares about them. Jp

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its not all about fast food and beer pong.
Laughter is the best medicine. If youre feeling create three sets of three scenes based on wacky blue, check out Those People, a fast-thinking characters that each of the players create on the local improv troupe. Those People have their spot. The actors swap combinations of people first show at Barrel House, 729 New Hampshire in and out of the spotlight, all-the-while trying St., on Feb. 10 and have a monthly show at the to intertwine the three story arcs in a hilarious Granada, 1020 Massachusetts St. manner. Founded three years ago by KU students, The freedom to adapt a tested form to suit the group has quickly gained speed, performing their talent allows Those People to experiment regular shows all across Lawrence and in the with different openings, characters and Kansas City area. Last year Those People took themes to create an infinite number of unique second place in the Improv Thunderdome, a performances, so youll never see the same show Kansas City area competition hosted by the twice. Westport Coffee House in Kansas City. Theyre // BEN SULLIVAN back for more this year, gunning for first. Rather than the short sketch comedy, the troupe practices a form of improv called The Harold, or rather a bastardization of such, says Lott. The Harold was first performed in the late 1960s and allows each troupe to modify and put their own comedic spin on it. The show Contributed photo begins with a single audience Laugh track: Improv groups such as Those People bring their brand of suggestion, which is used to fast-paced live comedy to the Granada monthly.

essential life skills // POURING A BEER

in case of emergency, read quickly.
Theres more to pouring a beer than you may think. Pouring a beer improperly can pollute wonderful aromas, cause an improper release of CO2, and hinder the flavors of the beer. If you want your beer to fulfill its potential, consider this advice. Before you start pouring, think about the condition of the beer. Warmth and disturbance will make more foam come out of the container, says Danny DiMezza, bartender at Dempseys Irish Pub, 623 Vermont St. Focus on what style of beer you will be pouring. Geoff Deman, assistant head brewer at Free State Brewery, 636 Massachusetts St., says a beers carbonation determines what kind of glass it should be poured into. For example, if it is a highly carbonated beer it should be poured into a tulip style or tall, flute-shaped glass because it helps release CO2 when the beer is poured. If the beer is lower in carbonation, a standard pub glass should be fine. Deman says clean glassware is absolutely essential. Residual soap in a glass will harm the aroma and kill the head of the beer. Rinse your glassware in water before you pour your beer to ensure any contaminations are removed. You want to cock the glass a certain way depending on the style of beer. If the beer is highly carbonated, tilt the glass at a 45 degree angle and start pouring down the side. Wait until a third of the pour you want is in the glass, then tilt the glass upright and pour in the center. If the beer is lower in carbonation, start pouring downwards into the center of the glass earlier. A head the width of two fingers is a good rule of thumb for what you are looking for, Deman says. The head is a delivery mechanism for the aroma of the beer, explains Deman. It enhances the flavors of the beer as well. Once you have poured a pure beer with a beautiful head of foam, drink your deliciously calculated prize.

// TAYLOR BROWN

Photo illustration by Taylor Brown A pour with more: The key to pouring a beer for optimum enjoyment comes down to carbonation.

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BEATING THE WINTER BLUES

Simple ways to combat your cabin fever
// ANNA KATHAGNARATH
This past winter break was dismal for Jolieta Panchala. Panchala, Salina freshman, returned home and looked forward to a month of rest and relaxation. Instead, she encountered a case of cabin fever, which is identified as a condition of boredom or irritability that results from a lack of stimulation and a prolonged stay in a remote or confined area. Sometimes people describe it like theyre walking in quick sand and they cant seem to get themselves going, says Simon Rego, clinical psychologist and director of clinical training at the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy. He says symptoms include a low energy level, sluggish behavior, extensive sleeping hours, eating more and a loss of interest in activities. The winter blues can have you going temporarily insane from isolation, but there are a few simple ways to combat the symptoms. Rego says cabin fever sufferers need to consider two things: what theyre doing and what theyre thinking. People typically get a sense of pleasure and accomplishment from doing something. Without that adequate stimulation of activity a Photo illustration by Jerry Wang pattern of negative thinking arises. Bored beyond belief: Winter weather got you down? Taking simple steps such as making a to-do list, chatting online with friends, and even enjoying an afternoon in a Rego suggests finding an activity where you bright room can prevent you from falling victim to cabin fever and its symptoms. can set goals. Find an activity, however minute, Rego says cabin fever sufferers often make the and finish it to the end. Fulfilling a goal will give mistake of thinking they have to be motivated you a sense of accomplishment, and nothing feels Winter blues statistics (ages 18-29): first to do an activity. He says motivation and better than crossing off your to-do list. energy start to rise after we begin to engage in stay social an activity and not before. It gets harder to walk The environment constantly affects our mental away from it because youve already started the Whats your least favorite month of the year? state says Michael Young, associate professor of momentum of taking action, Rego says. psychology at the Illinois Institute of Technology. 56% 25% 6% 10% 3% He says cabin fever is a psychological effect due eliminate bad eating habits to isolation and lack of stimulation. Human Rego says cabin fever sufferers might eat more Jan feb June seP dec interaction is one way to get that stimulation. simply because its an activity associated with Were social animals, Young says. Its part of being indoors. Along with watching TV and being human. He says something as simple as lounging around, youre more inclined to crave are you happier in warmer weather? seeing your friends face can have a positive effect carbohydrates. He suggests that sufferers keep in on your mood. So join the Skype hype, which is mind that theyre going to be stuck indoors. So, software you can use for video chat. Or instead if youre going to venture outdoors only to get 69% 31% of texting, use those fingers for dialing and try groceries, select healthy foods for more energy. yes no calling your friends.

set goals

say no to naPs
According to a recent study by Public Polling Policy, 23 percent of adults age 18 29 have sleep issues during the winter. Dirk Hansen, vice president of Global Clinical Quality and Outcomes for Workplace Options, says that maintaining a normal routine is key to combatting possible symptoms. We all like a certain amount of predictability, Hansen says. Winter sometimes changes that for us and we cant count on the weather. Although you cant predict the weather, you can predict your next move. Even if your bed is calling for you, try opting for an activity with your roommate to keep you alert.

get some sun

Your biological rhythms are affected by the length of the day and the lighting conditions, Young says. During the winter the days are shorter, which can affect sleeping habits and mood. He says the amount of light we get inside, even in a relatively bright room, is much less than we get outside on a cloudy day. If youre cooped inside, try opening the shades to allow natural sunlight in. Remembering one simple step can help you combat cabin fever. Panchala rediscovered her passion for reading and cooking to curb her cabin fever. Say goodbye to the winter blues and hello to a less stressful you. Jp

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random people. random answers.

What is your favorite thing to do in Lawrence?

Jace Robinson
Oberlin junior

Go to basketball games. Sports are really the only reason I came to KU. Mariana Nieto
Hutchinson senior

I love the Lied Center. The shows that come here are on a national level. People dont take advantage of it. Michael Turner
Overland Park freshman

Walking around and seeing all of the cool lawns. There are a lot of lawns that are decorated uniquely. Jenny Rollwagen
Minneapolis junior

Going out to the bars. I like the Hawk because of the college atmosphere. Forrest Brown
Minnetonka, Minn., sophomore

Going out to the bars. Thats where all my friends are and I like to meet new people. Alex May
Colorado Springs, Colo., freshman

I love going to basketball games. Theyre fun, loud and exciting. Plus, were number one! Ryan Filardi
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stage presence // KATLYN CONROY AND THE

local musicians. feel free to swoon.
They may adapt exotic animal personas, but these wild musicians true mascot ought to be the underdog. Just weeks after forming, Katlyn Conroy and the Wild and Wooly took to the stage at the 2009 KJHK Farmers Ball, and, despite stiff competition, won the title and coveted recording time by audience vote. We kind of felt like we were the underdogs because we were new, Conroy says. The finalists were so different from each other and were equally good that we honestly had no clue we were going to win. But dont mistake this young band to be amateur-sounding. From the viola to drums, this six-member band is comprised of talented musicians. Conroy describes the band as orchestrated, upbeat and melodic. The 22-year-olds vocals are delicate and powerful. The bands infusion of keyboards and sleigh bells add to the ambient arrangement. Conroy says her musical influences include Bright Eyes, Rufus Wainwright and Neutral Milk Hotel. Since winning Farmers Ball, Conroy, her partner, Joshua Landau, and the other band members have continued crafting their skills, playing shows and recording. They expect to

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have a single released in about three months. Weve been getting a lot of good press and its been very unexpected, Conroy says. Its very surreal. You can hear the bands melodic tunes at 10 p.m. tonight at the Eighth St. Taproom, 801 New Hampshire St.

// ANNA KATHAGNARATH

Contributed photo Wild and/or wooly: Band members Joshua Landau (fox), Brook Partain (bear), Katlyn Conroy (person), Corey Vitt (lion), Hannah Jensen (rabbit) and Christopher Brower (giraffe) will be playing tonight at the Eighth St. Taproom, 801 New Hampshire St.

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best of the worst // BOTTLED VERSUS TAP

better options for bad (health) situations.
Whether it comes from your sink or a plastic bottle, water is a necessary part of health. But whats the best way to get it? Culligan Premium bottled water, starts out as tap water but goes through several different processes to make it more pure and have a smoother taste for drinking, says Bobby Richworth, Culligans bottled water manager. A carbon filter, followed by a water softener, then reverse osmosis all remove different solids or chemicals such as chlorine and lead that cause taste or odor. Deionization removes the final impurities and leaves the water too pure to drink without causing an upset stomach. That is when Culligan adds magnesium, potassium and calcium for a smooth taste. The tap water that goes through the plant in Kansas City, Mo., tests for 272 different constituents every day, says Lorene Linzsay, laboratory manager for the water services department. Fluoride, which studies say contributes to dental health, is not added to Culligans drinking water. If youre drinking tap water and youre getting fluoride that is proven beneficial for dental health. However, youre also getting several other chemicals such as chlorine and other dissolved solids, Richworth says. The cost of tap water is more economical than paying for bottled water, Linzsay says. I think people get a very high-quality product for a very low price when they drink tap water, she says. Re-usable canteens are available to make tap water portable. There doesnt seem to be any noticeable health advantages to either choice, but because tap water is much less expensive, it is a better fit for the college student.

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music review //

LOS CAMPESINOS! ROMANCE KJHKs weekly guide to sonic consumption. IS BORINg (ARTS &
Reviewing an album is an interesting task, at least for me. Crammed between classes, work, and the daily grind, usually when I sit down to take a look at an album, I have to focus and make sure I hear all of the minimalist additions that are the difference between a good album and a spectacular one. It takes a fair amount of effort to really analyze it and offer a fair critique. However, with Los Campesinos!, I really never have a problem concentrating. Their last album, We Are Beautiful, We Are Doomed, allowed you to just go through the album and absorb it, and then when you wanted to listed to it another time through (which you would) you could pick up on a multitude of details that just simply seemed invisible before. Romance Is Boring doesnt change that a bit. Gareth Campesinos!s subtle lyrical additions are just as prevalent (More post-coital, less postrock) as before, and sonically, its absolutely as solid as previous albums. Their guitars have the tone set to 10, locked on the bridge pickup, the keyboards still have that bloopy quality, and its wonderful. They still have the self-deprecating lyrics, the teenage adrenaline, and the catchy hooks that made me get into them in the first place. Sure, it doesnt really branch out too much from We Are Beautiful, but you know what they say about things that arent broken ...

music review //

BEACH HOUSE TEEN DREAM

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From the first track to the last, the album skillfully embodies this pairing of hope and sorrow. Real Love is a soulful track, and the album closes with Take Care, a suitable farewell to the sentimentality and beauty that permeate Teen Dream. And after listening to this engaging, fulfilling album, the final note finds me wishing that every dream sounded this good.

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KJHKs weekly guide to sonic consumption.

The words teen dream, evoke images of high school, coming-of-age tales, and both the good and the bad of teenage existence. Similarly, the album Teen Dream captures that tumult and brings to mind the beautiful, bright reminiscing of young and carefree days as well as the longing that accompany those recollections. Teen Dream is Beach Houses third fulllength album since their inception in 2004, and true to adage, its a charm. Each song is beautiful, rich and listenable. The duo, made up of Victoria Legrand and Alex Scally, create dream-pop that boasts an absorbing, ambitious interaction between Legrands voice and the keyboard and guitar melodies that give the album its lovely but moody feel. This skilled interaction is evident immediately. The starter track, Zebra, directs the album down its dream-ridden track from the get-go, with music and instrumentation that are as meaningful and earnest as the exotic verses themselves. The duos talent also shines through on the albums first single, Used to Be, another nostalgic title that is fitting for the song that follows.

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movie review // THE MESSENgER

Hollywood hits, indie flicks and everything in between.
This years Academy Award nominations, as with years past, include a mix of mainstream Hollywood movies and independent fare. Sometimes it can be easy to overlook the smaller films in favor of more accessible, less demanding fare. But these independent features shouldnt be ignored. Theyve been nominated for a reason. The Messenger, up for awards in the best original screenplay and best supporting actor categories, is one of these. The Messenger is a war drama about soldiers assigned to deliver news of casualties to army families. Will Montgomery (Ben Foster) is a staff sergeant recently returned from Iraq, where he earned war hero status. Upon his arrival hes assigned to work with Tony Stone (Woody Harrelson) as a messenger bearing news of soldiers deaths. Tony warns Will to stay emotionless and detached from the families he speaks to, but its not easy. Things get complicated after Will forms an attraction to a young Army widow (Samantha Morton). Along the way, The Messenger also explores the complexities of Will and Tonys relationship, and Wills own difficulties adjusting to life back home. Its often tough for audiences to get genuinely invested in films about the Iraq war, and also difficult for these movies to avoid putting politics before story-telling. Director Oren Moverman, who also co-wrote the script, manages to mostly avoid political grandstanding. He does this by creating a story that focuses on human experience and relationships rather than debating the rightness or wrongness of the war in Iraq. It also doesnt hurt that he gets topnotch performances from his actors. Both Foster and Harrelson, who received an Oscar nod for his work, bring touching, multi-layered interpretations to their roles that make the audience see them as real people- likeable characters as familiar as a relative or high school classmate. The Messenger is a surprisingly gentle film that tackles a big subject with a realistic, respectful approach. It may not be a visual dazzler like Avatar or action-packed like Inglourious Basterds, but its the kind of movie that sticks with the viewer. Its the kind of movie that, though it may be small, cannot be ignored.

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