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This House
INSIDE THIS ISSUE:
This House where I stay is really nice, A place where they help and give advice, For women to be free from all the misery,
A lot to deal with everyday and hope everything good will come my way, To God I pray every night hoping all will be right. - S.M.
(KIH Shelter Resident)
The Me I Am Project
A Special Thanks!
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The Molly is a fun golf tournament. for women, organized by women, to benefit women .
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- continued collaboration and partnership with other community agencies to ensure comprehensive support systems are maintained. Kingston Interval House and our expert staff are dedicated to supporting women and children as they flee violence. It has been
Me I Am...
A group members scrapbook
The Me I Am project, delivers client-centered and holistic support groups to children and youth, using various creative mediums (such as journaling, photography, scrap booking and quilting). This facilitates healing among the children and
youth who have or are experiencing violence. Through one on one support and within the group environment, children and youth will share and reclaim their stories allowing a depth of healing and understanding of the multifaceted impacts of violence in their lives. Each participant will produce or showcase their product/ art at the end of the six weeks. They will develop peer supports and friendships through their group experi-
ence and become more resilient as they feel empowered and will develop a foundation of healthy boundaries. One cycle of the support group was implemented in the winter of 2012 and two future groups are planned for the early summer and autumn. This project is generously supported by the Sunnyside Childrens Foundation Endowment Fund through the Community Foundation for Kingston & Area.
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My Story...
My story is not unusual. The facts are different; names, places, type of violence experienced but in essence it is the same story that hundreds of women and children share with shelter workers everyday. I came to KIH after spending a night in hospital. I was physically injured. Initially I did not remember what had happened to me. All I knew was that my body ached, I felt exhausted and I could not sleep. For two weeks I fought a fight or flight instinct within me. I fought the voices in my head that insisted you will not survive; you are damaged, crazy. Those first few weeks were emotionally agonizing. I remembered and medical tests confirmed that I had been beaten and raped by multiple individuals. My partner initiated this after an argument we had. Eventually I learned how to hush that negative voice, recognizing that it was never my own. With counselling and support I found a new voice, one that encourages me and helps me re-define myself. I am awakening to the realization that I have the right to live free of violence, to access to affordable housing, and an opportunity to educate myself - to heal. For months I struggled through court appearances, doctors appointments, and counselling. I sought support from other women at the shelter who had similar stories of abuse. We all needed this safe place to heal. We all needed a second chance. We needed a moment to breathe and an opportunity to realize that there was a different life we could have for ourselves. With time, I was able to secure affordable housing and enrol in college. It was not easy. It is still not easy, but it is easier. Every day I fight for myself; to live the life I want, not the one I had experienced. I live with the memory of what happened to me and I know that I can overcome anything. I am a survivor.
A vendor and one of the over 700 attendees at the She Creates...One of a Kind Show
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Her Story...
wrong decision, worried that she may be found and re-assaulted. She grieved her losses. She was starting over. She said she never would have believed that she would be here at this point in her life. She always dismissed her ex-partners controlling behaviors, threats, name calling and occasional hits as normal. Her father behaved this way with her mother. Violence was caused by stress she tried to convince herself, caused by the drink. Staff provided her with material and information about the cycle of violence. She started to see the differences between healthy relationships and unhealthy ones. She started to attend programming offered in the shelter and seeing a counselor on-on-one. We supported and encouraged her as she healed; became healthier and stronger emotionally and physically. Staff accompanied her to court. Each time she spoke of the assault, she felt re-victimized; she relived the humiliation, and relived the feelings of helplessness. It took days to recover emotionally through each appearance. She would shake uncontrollably as anxiety and panic ran through her body. She would weep silently as she tried to keep it together; comprehending this was the impact of the violence she experienced. As the weeks passed L started to transform. She said she felt like herself yet different improved... wisersupported. She secured housing, started attending school, started to socialize with new friends and accessed her support networks. She was moving forward into a new life. With the help of our agency partners and community donors, L accessed household basics such as dishes, pots & pans, bed sheets and towels, for her new apartment. She moved into her new home, starting a new chapter in her life. She has decided she will work with other woman like herself. She found her voice. She will help other women find theirs. She found her voice. She will help other women find theirs
L came to the shelter visibly bruised and in crisis. She struggled to maintain her focus as children ran past her in the hallway. Staff helped her settle into this new safe communal living environment. She was anxious, scared, and unsure of her next steps. She kept feeling a sense of urgency, an urgency to flee or fight. She had never been to a womens and childrens shelter. It took five days for her to start sleeping and eating regularly. Staff assisted her to identify her next steps. We witnessed her as she told her story, helped her identify her goals, and treated her with respect and encouraged her as she achieved daily successes no matter how small. Like so many women who come to our shelter she was worried about her future, worried that she may make a
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A Poem
Deep inside my heart I fight to control the pain I fight to control the hurt, the sadness, the loneliness You tried to bring me down, you tried to make me cry You tried to control me, you tried to humiliate me All I saw in your eyes was pure evil I will rise above and be strong I will rise confident above and be of myself For what you did I will find my purpose in life I will be the better person I will love harder, I will hurt no more I will be happy I will not be afraid for I have God on my side I will raise my hands and celebrate my life I will not let anyone have power over me I will survive - Heather (Shelter Resident)
I will rise above and love myself for who I am I will rise above and be proud
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Kingston Interval House, as a feminist organization, is committed to the promotion of equality and the end of violence in our world. To this end, Kingston Interval House, as one part of a network of services for women and their children who have been victimized by violence, will:
1. Provide safe, temporary shelter to women and their children within a respectful, welcoming environment. 2. Provide information, resources, referrals, advocacy and non-judgmental, supportive counselling from a feminist perspective. These confidential services are available to women and their children residing at, visiting, or telephoning the shelter. 3. Advocate on behalf of women and children. 4. Educate the public about violence against women and children.