Foreplay: Wait, Whats That?

Why is foreplay helpful for better sex? Extended arousal through foreplay enhances a womans natural vaginal lubrication, which can lead to more comfortable, pleasurable sex. The key is finding types of foreplay that work for you. Spending time in foreplay can also build arousal to the point where it becomes easier for women to maintain arousal and reach orgasm. How do I know if the kind of foreplay were trying is right? Does it feel good to you? To your partner? Some time when youre not having sex or about to have sex, let your partner know that youd like to talk about your sex life. Specifically, say youre curious about what types of foreplay your partner likes: Kissing? Massage? Oral sex? Toys? Additional clues can be found by paying close attention to how your partner responds during sexual play. Does he or she moan with pleasure more often when youre engaged in certain types of foreplay? Can foreplay make it easier for a woman to orgasm? Yes, yes and heck ya! Although not all women orgasm during intercourse, those that do often find that spending time in sexually exciting and arousing types of foreplay can make it easier for them to orgasm during intercourse. Some even find that spending more time in foreplay, building arousal, can make it easier for them to have multiple orgasms during sex. Although having an orgasm can be a lot of fun and quite satisfying, try to not focus too much on it as a goal. Rather, try to focus on pleasure and enjoyment as part of the sexual experience. Try This: Kiss with your clothes on for at least 10 or 20 minutes or until you both feel extremely turned on. Lie in bed and talk for 30 minutes to an hour, with your clothes on, and kiss each other every now and then on the forehead, lips, cheeks or neck. Dance together in the kitchen. Use a vibrator on low speed on the inner thighs and lower stomach Use a massage cream to massage each others back, legs or feet (note: if you are using latex condoms, avoid oil-based massage products; the residue on your hands could cause the condoms to break).

 Use a flavored product like Dust Me Pinkin five places on your body. Have your partner locate them with his/her tongue. Take turns reading a favorite passage from Tickle His Pickle or Tickle Your Fancy to each other.

Category(s): Uncategorized, health, orgasms, tricks of the trade

Let it Reek
What if I told you that your favorite perfumes and scented products might actually repel potential sex partners? All of the smell goody products that you load on every morning only wash away or cover up your natural odor that attracts the opposite sex. Pheromones are a chemical substance that is produced by all mammals. They have one purpose: to serve as a stimulus to other individuals of the same species. They are considered our natural attraction system to perpetuate the human race. When researchers talk about the menstrual synchrony of female friends, or perfume ads tout the animal essence injected into Musk perfumes to attract the opposite sex, pheromones are what theyre talking about. In human studies by the Athena Institute for Womens Wellness Research, it was found that when placebos were used against pheromones, there was a tendency for the pheromone users to experience an increase in petting, affection, kissing, and the number of informal dates pursued. According to Athena, male pheromones (androstenol/androstenone) from sweat have direct impact on female menstrual cycles and ovulation. And it also works the other way around. Female pheromones influence the male perception of females and may induce hormonal changes. Meaning, that the more pheromone that men are exposed to, the more likely they will be attracted to that specific female. To illustrate this point ABC News conducted its own informal test. They placed sets of identical twins (with as many variables controlled as possible) at a popular New York City bar. One member was given an unscented pheromone spray and the other plain witch hazel. The subjects were told, not to make the first move. The sister wearing the pheromones was approached by 30 men compared to the non-pheromone sister who was only approached by 11. Even the esteemed American Medical Associations Psychiatric Annals journal has confirmed the power of these sex attractants. Clinical Sexologist Dr. Patty Fawver says the issue is more complex, Attempting to cover up our natural scent is simply a reflection of our larger dissatisfaction with our bodies. Most women use these products in excess because subconsciously they feel uncomfortable with the way they smell. When women can develop an acceptance and even an appreciation of the realities of their natural body odor it can become an important part of accepting the whole self.

So the next time your dousing yourself in Chanel or suds-ing up with the latest Bath and Bodyworks scent, think about what you might really be covering up. Category(s): Uncategorized, health

Gettin Steamy Over The Phone

Phone sex can make us giggle, but its no laughing matter to many couples who, for job, school, military, and/or other reasons, cant be intimate in person. Gettin down on the telly can be a relationship-saver. Even for partners who frequently partake, phone sex is often difficult for even the most adventurous couples to initiate at first and often gets easier with practice. This makes sense since sex usually involves at least two people touching each other in some way: hugging, kissing, caressing, inserting, receiving, and so on. Then theres the eye contact, absent during phone sex unless youve got a web cam, in which case youre technically having web sex, not phone sex. I digress, most phone use is nonsexual so its no wonder you feel shy about -ahem -pushing the hot buttons. If you feeling embarrassed about bringing it up, just start by telling your S.O. how much you miss them, how much you wish they were with you. It might help to close your eyes and imagine that the other is right there next to you. Turn off the lights, put on some sexy music create an environment that sets the mood, which could even mean getting naked. And while youre both at it, you could also prep for the call by getting in touch with yourself. A little pre-call foreplay might make it feel more natural to start the sexual connection on the phone because it would really be a continuation of whats already begun. Now that youre in the mood, here are some words that might get him/her ready to go:

What are you wearing or not wearing? Your voice makes me __________. I love when you put your __________ on/in my __________. The next time I see you, Im going to __________.

If youre more a Telephone Type A than Type X-Rated, you can make a phone sex date so that both of you know the general plan, and might think ahead of time about what you can do when you answer or make the call(s). Category(s): tricks of the trade

Foods That Make Us Horny and Why

Our fatty diets are contributing to our not-so-great sex lives? Maybe so, says Eat This, Not That author David Zinczenko. Check out the following treats to see what will leave you begging for more and what will send you running for the door. Bananas Begging for More No, its not just the suggestive shape the healthy doses of potassium and B vitamins in bananas help boost the production of important sex hormones. Oysters-Running for the Door Its a myth! This sensual food has been credited for increasing mens libido due to high levels of iodine and zinc iodine can help boost respiration and body temperature, and zinc boosts testosterone. In fact, a team of American and Italian researchers recently found that mussels, clams, and oysters deliver two types of amino acids that spark a rush of sex hormones. But in order for it to work, a guy has to eat at least 50 oysters in one sitting, and nothing kills the mood like overeating shellfish. Chocolate Covered Strawberries Begging for More This sexy combo isnt just a Valentines Day gimmick. The phenyl ethylamine in chocolate releases the same hormone released during sex, and strawberries contain vitamin C, which helps libido. Plus, Italian researchers found that women who often eat chocolate have a higher sex drive than those who dont. Just make sure the chocolate youre using has at least 60 percent cacao for the maximum benefit. Chili Peppers Running for the Door You might think that a food that makes you so hot and bothered would get you ready to go, but theres no research out there to suggest that chilies do anything for your libido. Saffron Begging for More The luxuriant spice has been found to work as an antidepressant and a pain-blocker both these effects can help calm any desire-killing storms. Saffron also contains picrocrocin, a chemical that makes your body more sensitive to the touch. New addition to my grocery list! Pomegranate Begging for More

Pomegranate contains boatloads of antioxidants, which can help increase blood flow to all parts of the body, including the genitals. Asparagus Begging for More It may not seem like a sexy veggie (considering it makes your pee smell), but asparagus is one of the oldest aphrodisiacs out there. And for good reason asparagus is packed with vitamin E, which stimulates the production of sex hormones. Well, lets get it on then. Sirloin Steak Begging for More A 6-oz. sirloin is a fantastic source of protein, which boosts dopamine and norepinephrine, chemicals that heighten sensitivity. Its also packed with zinc, which boosts libido by reducing the production of mood-killing prolactin. Vanilla Ice Cream Begging for More! Not only has the scent of vanilla been found to put people in the mood, the calcium and phosphorus in the ice cream build muscles energy reserves, boost libido and make orgasms more powerful. Oh yeah! Tomatoes Running for the Door Theyre great for your heart, but tomatoes lycopene and phytofluene can decrease testosterone levels. The effect isnt dramatic, but you may be better off skipping the marinara sauce if you want to get saucy. Category(s): health, news

Top Reasons for a Low Libido (and a few tips to pick it up)
If your erotic life has gone from a sex fest to a snooze fest, you are not alone. While chronic aversion to sex is a serious issue, an occasional drop in your sex drive is perfectly normal. According to a 1994 University of Chicago National Health and Social Life Survey, lack of interest in sex was the number one complaint of sexually active women of all ages. The reasons for a lowered sex drive can vary from person to person, but the following are the most common reasons: Stress Stressful situations suck the sexual energy right out of you. Solution try a massage as foreplay, it will help loosen you up and turn on the sexual feeling youve been pushing back. Illness Snot and kleenex arent too sexy so just wait this one out. Your libido will come back when your fever goes down. But more serious illnesses such as hypothyroidism, diabetes, cancer, heart and lung disorders, and STIs may also be responsible for the drop in your sex drive. If you suspect something more serious, make an appointment with your medical professional. Medication Many prescription and over-the-counter drugs can decrease your sexual appetite. Antidepressants, medication for hypertension, psychotropic drugs, sedatives, opiates and even birth control pills can lessen your interest in sex or make reaching orgasm difficult. Solution try increasing the amount of foreplay in your routine or using an arousal cream to increase blood flow to the clitoris (available at www.katiethepureromancelady.com of course) Lifestyle Lifestyle changes are yet another form of stress, and even if they are positive ones, they can sometimes adversely affect your sex life. Moving, changing jobs, make ups, break ups, babies and more can zap your lovin meter. Solution try a foreplay game reconnect and focus on your sex life for an hour or so. Aging While some studies have revealed that sexual responsiveness may get better with age, hormonal imbalances in perimenopausal and menopausal women lead to a diminished sex drive. Some women may experience an aversion to touch, and intercourse may be painful due to vaginal dryness caused by a drop in estrogen. Solution using a water based lubricant and a vaginal moisturizer can greatly increase the pleasurable feeling of sexual activity. Relationship Blues Temporary disinterest in your partner is normal. But if youre finding sexual desire is grounded for an extended period of time, it could be tied to

relationship issues. If theres tension or unhappiness in your relationship, it will eventually show up in your sex life. Solution you have got to get to the root issue before I can fix you with toys. If boredom is problem, however, well Ive got a few things for you Body ImageLearning to love your body is probably one of the greatest hurdles to developing a strong sense of sexuality. If you feel uncomfortable with your physical self, you may hide your body from your partner, which can lead to a slow down in sexual activity. Solution figure out what it is about yourself that your partner loves. If he climbing the walls just seeing you touch yourself, make that the focus of your arousal. Depression If you are depressed, sex will not be at the top of your agenda. Everyone experiences a bad day or two, but if those weeks turn into months, your depressed state will put your sexual interest on hold. Seek advice from your medical professional if your depression last more than a week or two. Drugs and Alcohol Excessive consumption of drugs and/or alcohol may increase the quantity of your sexual encounters, but in the long run it can take its toll on your sex drive. Be aware if your drop in libido seems to correlate to an increase in alcohol or drug consumption. The solution is pretty simple on this one, slow it down cowgirl/boy. Bonus youll remember the boots your knockin In addition,a healthy diet, the right amount of exercise and a daily dose of fresh air can help whet your sexual appetite. Allowing yourself to explore a new erotic desire or fantasy can spark new found interest in sex. Sexual disinterest that stems from a physical problem, such as a hormone imbalance, or depression, may need to be treated with medication. Contact your healthcare provider for an exam and consultation. For a personal consultation or girls night, give me a shout Im happy to help get your sex life back on the right page. Category(s): health

The Lube Study

This spring, Pure Romance was thrilled to see Indiana University (IU) researchers Dr. Debby Herbenick and Dr. Michael Reece launch a much-anticipated research study the first-ever large scale study of personal lubricants. When Pure Romance asked Dr. Herbenick and Dr. Reece to design a big study, they took the challenge to heart! More than 2,500 women were enrolled, making it by far the largest and most comprehensive study ever conducted on womens use of personal lubricants. Women who joined the study were asked to use one of six different lubricants during the study. Three of these lubricants were Pure Romance products (Just Like Me, Sweet Seduction, and Pure Pleasure) and the other three lubricants were mainstream brands that are widely available to women in local stores. The study was considered double blind meaning that neither the women participants nor the research team knew which woman was getting which lubricant. That way, no ones bias would enter into the picture and the research team would get the most valid study results. During the 30-day study period, women were asked to use the study lubricant whenever they had sexual activity (masturbation,partner play, vaginal sex, or anal sex)and to complete online surveys about their sexual experiences and use of the lubricant. At the end o f the study, tens of thousands of surveys had been completed by these women. What We Learned Lubricants and Pleasure The biggest take-home message from this study is that lubricants tended to make sex feel more pleasurable and satisfying for women in the study (duh). Lubricants are not just meant for women who experience vaginal dryness or other sexual difficulties. Lubricants can add to a womans sexual pleasure, and that of her partner, no matter a womans age or health status. This was also true for a wide range of sexual activities including masturbation, toy play, vaginal sex, and anal sex. Lubricants and SafetyAnother important finding is that lubricants were generally highly safe for women to use. Reports of vaginal pain, burning, itching, irritation, or tearing as a result of using lubricants were very

rare. For example, of all the times that women used Just Like Me, Sweet Seduction,or Pure Pleasure, they reported vaginal itching less than 2% of the time. Discomfort or pain was reported about 6 to 7% of the time again, very low. Vaginal burning was also rare, and occurred only 3 to 4% of the time. This is great news for women who are curious about using a lubricant and who want to make sure that Pure Romance products are safe to use. The results of this study show that they are indeed safe for the vast majority of women to use without risk of irritation. Comfort, Pleasure, and The Big OAs a consultant, one of the most common benefits I hear from women is that using a lubricant can make sexual activity more comfortable. Knowing this among ourselves is one thing but many women ask whether there has ever been any research on these issues. Now, thanks to our study, there has! Pure Romance has found that nine out of 10 (90%) women who used a Pure Romance lubricant felt that the lubricant made sex feel more comfortable. Plus, about 84% of women said that using these lubricants made sex feel more pleasurable. Interestingly, about 60% reported an unexpected benefit that using a lubricant made it easier for them to have an orgasm. Overall, eight out of 10 (80%) women said that they would use Just Like Me, Sweet Seduction, or Pure Pleasure again, and would recommend it to a friend. Order Pure Romance Lubricants here Category(s): health, news, orgasms

Battery Operated Stats

Two recent Indiana University studies show that approximately 53 percent of women and 45 percent of men (yes, men) ages 18 to 60 use vibrators either alone or with a partner! Not only is vibrator use common, but the two studies also show that vibrator use is associated with more positive sexual function and being more proactive in caring for ones sexual health. The studies, led by researchers at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion in IUs School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation, are the first to publish data about vibrator use from nationally representative samples of the U.S. population. Weve come a long way baby. One study surveyed women. The other surveyed men. Both were published last week by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a leading peer-reviewed journal in the area of urology and sexual health. The study about womens vibrator use affirms what many doctors and therapists have known for decades that vibrator use is common, its linked to positive sexual function such as desire and ease of orgasm, and its rarely associated with any side effects, said Debby Herbenick, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion. The studies are the first to document insights into how and why people use vibrators, examine side effects and to explore associations with sexual health behaviors, sexual enjoyment and quality of life measures. Findings For women

More than half of the women (52.5 percent) had used a vibrator with nearly one in four having done so in the past month. (I think we are still dealing with some women that are not comfortable with their sexual selves, 50% come on, we can do better than that) Vibrator users were significantly more likely to have had a gynecological exam during the past year and to have performed genital self-examination during the previous month. Vibrator use was positively related to several aspects of sexual function (desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, pain and overall function) with recent vibrator users scoring themselves higher on most sexual function domains, suggesting more positive sexual function. Most women (71.5 percent) reported having never experienced any side effects associated with vibrator use. Those side effects that were reported were

typically rare and of a short duration. (Example: holding a powerful clitoral stimulator against your clitoris for prolonged period of time can cause temporary loss of sensation. Like when your foot falls asleep) Findings For men

The prevalence of men who had incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities during their lives was 44.8 percent, with no statistical differences between the rates of vibrator use between men who identified as heterosexual and those who identified as gay or bisexual. Heterosexual men most commonly reported having used vibrators during foreplay or intercourse with a female partner, with 91 percent of those who had used a vibrator reporting that they had done so during such activities with women. Of men who have used vibrators, 10 percent had done so in the past month, 14.2 percent in the past year and 20.5 percent more than one year ago. Men who reported having used vibrators, particularly those with more recent use, were more likely to report participation in sexual health promoting behaviors, such as testicular self-exam. Men who had used vibrators recently also scored themselves higher on four of the five domains of sexual function, as measured by the International Index of Erectile Function (erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire).

So, this study is about more than vibrators. Yes its great the the use of battery operated bedroom playthings is up. The more important part, however, is that more women (and men) are expressing themselves sexually, figuring out what works for them and going for it. Category(s): news

Get Your Scalpel Away from My Lady Parts

Designa Vaginas are all the rage these days. With a 30 percent increase in vaginal reconstructive surgery over the past year, it seems as though everybodys girly bits are getting a face lift. Well, dont jump on the pretty kitty bandwagon just yet. Female genital cosmetic surgery is a term used for elective and medically unnecessary changes to a womans internal or external genitalia. The two major types are vaginoplasty and labiaplasty. Sure, some of the surgeries are for gender reassignment surgery and to fix vaginal birth defects or scarification from disease or injury, but many more are just to tighten up or to have a more pleasing appearance. UmIm pretty sure its a vagina and unless youve got an alien in your pants its probably good enough to get you laid. More disturbing than the sheer absurdity of it, is that the safety and effectiveness of vaginal and vulval cosmetic surgeries has yet to be supported by solid scientific studies. Due to the lack of safety and efficacy data, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) has warned vaginal rejuvenation procedures are unproven and potentially risky. In getting tightened, tucked, or otherwise altered, women put themselves at risk for infection, scarring, nerve damage, pain, and altered or loss of sensation. So you cant feel anything, but at least it looks nicer, right? Can you ever imagine a man putting himself through surgery and possible life altering side effects to make his member more aesthtically pleasing to the opposite sex? Still, hundreds of women are flocking to have their genitalia resculpted, with some cosmetic centers boasting waiting lists of up to 4-5 months. So what exactly are these women lining up for? Vaginoplasty Cosmetic vaginoplasty, or vaginal rejuvenation surgery, involves a variety of surgical procedures that alter the vagina. Some doctors have been promoting this type of vaginal plastic surgery as a way to tighten and tone a womans vaginal muscles post-childbirth, namely by making the opening narrower and stronger, which is supposed to improve the vaginas appearance and boost sexual pleasure. Hey know what else does the same thing? Kegels. 15 minutes a day is all it takes, no scalpels involved. Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation (LVR) LVR is a procedure that tightens the vaginal canal, typically when the wall between the bladder and vagina or rectum and vagina has weakened. LVR is now being promoted as the means to a pert, youthful vagina for better sensations during sex. Second verse, same as the first- Kegels, Kegels,

Kegels. No cost and non invasive. Unless, of course, a laser in your vagina sounds fun. Labiaplasty These procedures seek to change the external appearance namely shape and size of the vulva. With patients feeling self-conscious about their ugly vulva, and hence unable to enjoy sex because of this self-consciousness, labiaplasty are often done to improve the appearance of the vaginal lips. The women who pursue labiaplasty often believe that their inner lips are too large, e.g., protruding beyond the outer lips, or asymmetrical. This procedure is performed using a laser, scalpel or curved scissors, and involves a womans inner lips being cut and reshaped. Other forms of this procedure include removing body fat from another part of the body and transferring it to the outer labia. The result: a more attractive and youthful vulva. Ladies all over the world repeat after me My vagina is beautiful! I recently asked a male friend of mine if he has ever met a vajayjay he hasnt liked. His response (after the laughter subsided). No, I cant say that I have. Ok, Im sorry, but have you seen a penis laely? Not cute. Comparably, ladies. were doing ok. And if you have run across someone who has led you to believe that you need non-medical reconstructive surgery on your vagina please know that he has a very small penis. Category(s): health

Free Coochy!
Once you go Coochy you never go back! Coochy is one of Pure Romances top-selling products! This moisturizing all over body shave cream softens even the coarsest hair by relaxing the hair follicle. Gentle enough to use on all skin types, Coochy provides a rash-free shave for even the most sensitive skin. Women rave about this product and I am giving away a full size, 8oz. bottle completely free! Enter to win by doing any ONE of the following: 1. Visiting my blog and leave a comment with the word coochy in it. 2. Leaving a comment on my MySpace Page with the word coochy in it. 3. Posting on my Facebook Group Wall (guess what word it has to contain). 4. Sending me a Give me some Coochy! tweet @ktlee317 You only have 7 days until I draw a winner! Category(s): Uncategorized

Sensuality, Sexuality, Survival

People often ask me why I chose Pure Romance Here is one of the reasons: Sensuality, Sexuality, Survival Foundation The Challenge Approximately 200,000 women a year are diagnosed with breast cancer in the United States alone (ACS). Approximately 50% of women treated for breast cancer suffer from sexual dysfunction, sometimes up to five years after surgery or treatment (Fleming & Kleinbart, 2001). Many women find the degree of support and information they obtained from their health care providers regarding their sexuality following breast cancer treatments to be lacking (Wilmoth, 2001) The Mission To help women recapture their sensual and sexual selves through education, empowerment, and safe product offerings designed specifically for women following cancer diagnosis and treatment. The Pledge Offer safe products to enhance womens sexual experiences Raise public awareness on intimacy and sexual challenges faced by women with breast cancer Provide ongoing support through current literature and specially trained Pure Romance Consultants Provide an ongoing support network for women and their partners Develop and maintain programs to educate and support women living with breast cancer If you are interested in hosting a fundraising party for SSS or any other charity or foundation, please contact me.

Category(s): health