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rights reserved. This le, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so inclined as long as it is not changed. Edited, compiled and written by Tyler & Tyler Posts & Publications, San Diego, CA PART ONE OF THREE >>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE I have prepared this polygynous screening questionnaire to be used to screen contacts or to use as a get acquainted tool before the rst date to be discussed and compared on the rst date. No one should date a complete stranger without using some well prepared screening device like this one. These aren't the good old days, and there is a long trail of broken and grieving Christian ladies who suffered the consequences in a world lled with predatory males. Yes there are predatory females, described in Proverbs 5-7, a screening tool like this will help guard the heart of a godly Christian gentleman. If you have any questions or comments about my screening questionnaire, please contact me at: L. Tyler, http://www.scribd.com/Elkanah21stCent; http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=6382095167; polygamous_friends_of_tyler-owner@googlegroups.com ; polygynousfriendsofTyler-owner@yahoogroups.com /; www.facebook.com/ ronnie.l.tyler; Marriage+Polygyny+Polygamy+Jesus http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=6382095167 Biblical Christian Polygamy/Polygyny http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2648256332; OrthodoxBiblicalMarriagePolygamy2-owner@yahoogroups.com; BiblicalChristianPolygamyPolygyny-owner@googlegroups.com; PolyPolygamyPolygynyNJesus-owner@yahoogroups.com; BlackPolygyny-owner@yahoogroups.com/; DEAR SINGLE FRIEND, There is no need to be alone! If you do not want to be alone and you believe God does not want you to be alone,
then you can do something about it besides sitting and waiting. If you have a phone, a pen, some spare coins and the desire to meet others, then all you have to do is be a Ruth and present yourself to the Boazes that are out there looking for you, or be an Issac and let these resources be your servants to bring you together with your Rebeckah. Jesus said the sparrows are provided for, but even the sparrows have to get out of their nests and get out into the world to nd the food God has provided for them. Even so, you too will probably have to get out of your nest or rut and get out into the world to nd, or be found by, the mate God has for you. The seekers are promised to nd, so if you want to nd you had better be seeking. Sexual harassment laws today make it almost impossible to initiate relationships at work, and even at some educational institutions. Sexual harrasment laws today almost require that the woman at least state her interest and openness to a date or relationship before the man initiates anything. The resources below are specically designed for professionals and adults who want to meet like minded people. The helps below are offered to help you get out of your nest and nd your provision from God. Please start at www.eharmony.com. Please get and read N. Clark Warren's books, " Finding the Love of Your Life", and "How to Know if Someone's Worth Pursuing in 2 Dates". Test/Examine/Scrutinize Everything! That includes the people you meet and become involved with. Hold Fast/Tightly That Which is Good! After you have found that the person has God and His goodness lling that person's life, HANG ON TO THAT PERSON! 1 Thess. 5:21He who nds a godly mate, nds a good thing! It is good to be zealous about good things.Whatever you nd to do, do with all your might as unto the Lord. Seek and you shall nd. SO DO IT! BUT DO IT BEFORE YOUR HEART IS HOOKED ON A FEELING! DO IT BEFORE YOU START SEEING EACH OTHER REGULARLY OR MAKING COMMITMENTS. AT LEAST MAKE SURE BOTH OF YOU HAVE DONE THE FOLLOWING COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONNAIRE PART ONE (ALONE BY YOURSELVES). HAVING COMPLETED THE PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES BY YOURSELVES, BY
E-MAIL (NOT BY PHONE) AGREE ON AN EXACT MINUTE WHEN YOU WILL BOTH E-MAIL YOUR COMPLETED PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES TO EACH OTHER. THIS PREVENTS THAT ONE WILL USE THE OTHER'S INFORMATION TO DETERMINE HOW TO COMPLETE HIS/HER PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRE. IF HE DOESN'T E-MAIL HIS COMPLETED PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRE WITHIN TWO MINUTES OF THE AGREED UPON TIME, DROP HIM FOR HE CAN'T BE TRUSTED. AFTER THE PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES HAVE BEEN COMPLETED AND EXCHANGED, BY E-MAIL, BEGIN TO DISCUSS BY E-MAIL (NOT BY PHONE) WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER. IF ALL GOES WELL AND ACCEPTABLY IN THE E-MAIL EXCHANGES, THE FIRST THREE DATES SHOULD BE THAT HE ATTEND HER CHURCH WITH HER, MEETING HER AT HER CHURCH, ARRIVING SEPARATELY IN THEIR OWN CARS. SHE SHOULD MAKE SURE SHE INTRODUCES HIM TO AS MANY OF HER CHURCH FRIENDS AS POSSIBLE. BEFORE EVERYONE LEAVES AND THE CHURCH CLOSES, THEY SHOULD LEAVE SEPARATELY IN THEIR OWN CARS, WITH HIM LEAVING FIRST, AND HER GOING ANY PUBLIC PLACE BUT HOME AFTER LEAVING THE CHURCH (SO HE CAN'T FOLLOW HER AND FIND OUT WHERE SHE LIVES). AFTER THE THIRD CHURCH DATE, I HOPE THEY WOULD GO SEPARATELY OUT TO A VERY PUBLIC RESTAURANT FOR LUNCH/ DINNER. I HOPE THEY WOULD LEAVE SEPARATELY IN THEIR OWN CARS, WITH HIM LEAVING FIRST, AND HER GOING ANY PUBLIC PLACE BUT HOME AFTER LEAVING THE RESTAURANT (SO HE CAN'T FOLLOW HER AND FIND OUT WHERE SHE LIVES). THE MATCHMAKER QUESTIONNAIRE PART ONE: SECTION A OF FOUR- The Spiritual Dimension and Priorities ****************************************************** #1. Jesus Christ is my Lord, Master, Shepherd, Director and King in and over all of my ways and doings. The proof that I am born again and know Him is my obedience to His Word, teachings and commandments.>3 (see footnotes) #1 Yes___ No___ #2. I trust the Lord with all my heart, not myself or my own understanding.>4 (See footnotes) #2 No__Yes__ #3. I agree, confess, admit and acknowledge that the things which Paul the Apostle
wrote in the Bible are the commandments and teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.>5 #3 Yes___ No___ #4. I agree, admit and confess that the Holy Spirit impregnated the virgin Mary so that her "esh and blood" Child, the Lord Jesus Christ-God in the esh, is in deed the very and only begotten Son of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Israel.>6 #4No__Yes__ #5. I believe that all Old and New Testament Scriptures are given by inspiration of God, holy men of God speaking and writing as moved/worked by the Holy Spirit of God so that the words and ideas are commandments.> 7 #5 Yes___ No___ #6. I believe that the Lord Jesus Christ, born in Bethlehem, Judea, and crucied/ killed on Golgotha/Calvary, will return to earth in His "esh and bone" body as He promised.>8 #6. No__Yes__ #7. I believe that Jesus Christ created everything in, on and around the earth, including Lucifer/Satan and angels.>17 #7 Yes___ No___ #8. I believe that before Jesus Christ was born in Bethlehem Judea, God had NO esh, blood and bone body, had no wife and had no sexual relations. I believe that when Jesus Christ was walking on the earth before He let them crucify Him, He never had a wife and had no sexual relations.>18 #8 No__Yes__ #9. I accepted/received Jesus Christ as my own personal Lord, Master and Savior in the following manner:
If you need more space, please use the back of this page or another sheet. #10. The "born again Christian" husband in polygyny should be sensitive and submissive to each of his mates humbly in the fearful reverence of our Holy God, by laying down his life/soul/being for each of them by nourishing and cherishing each of them compassionately, by dwelling with each of them wisely with godly understanding, by giving each of them honor and respect whether or not each one of them deserves it, and by serving each of them as a shepherd-teacher-exemplar in the Word of God.>19 #10 No__Yes__ #11. The "born again Christian" wife should let her own husband be the leader in the
marriage in everything as is t in the Lord (with hers being the choice whether or not to follow his lead according to 1 Thess 5:21 and with him having no right to make her obey him), giving him loving affection and respect (whether or not he deserves it).>20 #11Yes __No __ #12. The "born again Christian" wife should not teach her husband what to do and she shouldn't have or exercise authority over (bossing, commanding, intimidating, running, controlling, manipulating) him.>21 #12 No__Yes__ #13. I believe one should sexually lay [genital connection/interaction] only with one's own partner in polygyny.>22 #13 Yes___ No___ #14. In a godly marriage I believe the married couples' genitalia can be "instruments of righteousness" for the blessing, rejoicing, loving, satisfaction, enrapturing, and ecstasy of sexual marital intimacy. His genitalia are for the blessing, rejoicing, loving, satisfaction, enrapturing, and ecstasy of sexual marital intimacy of each of his polygynous mates. The genitalia and breasts of each of his polygynous mates are for his blessing, rejoicing, loving, satisfaction, enrapturing, and ecstasy of sexual marital intimacy. I believe that sexual/genital nakedness and pleasuring with a partner should take place only in marriage, with one's own partner in polygyny.>23 #14 No__Yes__ #15. I believe that the pressing, embracing & caressing of a woman's breasts/bosom/ nipples in intimate sexual pleasure belongs only in male+female marriage with one's own polygynous male partner.>24 #15 Yes_ No_ #16. I believe that if a single believer in Christ fails to consistently and regularly exercise self-control sexually (i.e. failing to abstain consistently from premarital and/ or extramarital breast &/or genital intimacy with another), that believer should marry a godly mate because it is better to marry than to be burning with sexual desire or failing to control one's own sexual desire.>25 #16 No__Yes__ #17. My belief is: (1) I am not sure I believe in God. (2) I believe that Jesus is Michael the Archangel of God. (3) I believe that Jesus is Lucifer's brother by one of God's wives. (4) I believe that Jesus is a reincarnation of Krishna or Shiva.
(5) I believe that Jesus is a spirit and never came to earth to die in a human body. (6) I believe that Jesus left his body in the grave and is with us and will be with us only in spirit to show us the way. (7) I believe in God but I am not sure about Christ being God. (8) I believe that Christ is God, the only begotten Son of God but I'm not sure that I have received Christ as my personal King and Savior. (9) I believe that Christ is God, the only begotten Son of God and I am sure that I have received Jesus as King and Savior into my own life/soul/ being and I know that His Holy Spirit lives and works in me. (10) In addition to #9, I am lled with the Spirit and His fruits and I am actively trying to expand Christ's kingdom by telling others the good news about Jesus. #18. I prefer that my date's belief be (1), (2), (3), (4), (5), (6), (7), (8), (9), (10) of the above. #19. I attend church: (1) Once a year (2) once a month (3) About twice a month (4) Weekly (5) More #20. I prefer that my ideal date attend church at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #21. The name of my church is__________________________________ and its address is ________________________________________________ #22. My pastor name and phone number is ________________________(WOMEN, CALL THIS NUMBER!!!) His wife's name is ________________________(WOMEN, CALL THIS WOMAN!!!!) #23. The names of two church ofcials you may contact as my references are__________________________________ Phone # __________________________________(CALL THIS PERSON!!)
Phone #___________________________________(CALL THIS PERSON!!) #24. I attend Bible discussion and/or prayer groups: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Monthly (5) Weekly #25. I prefer that my ideal date attend such groups at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #26. I have a private quiet time of prayer, Bible study and personal devotions: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often each week (5) Usually daily #27. I prefer that my ideal date have such a private quiet time at least: (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #28. I lead Bible studies and/or teach the Bible to others: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often each month (5) Weekly #29. I prefer that my Ideal date lead such studies or teach at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #30. With regard to making a vocation of Christian service, I would: (1) Not consider it (2) Not prefer it (3) Be open to it (4) Prefer it (5) Denitely plan on it #31. I prefer that my ideal date at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #32. Theologically I am: (1) Very liberal (2) Liberal (3) Conservative & Evangelical (4) Conservative, fundamental and evangelical #33. Theologically I prefer that my ideal date be (1), (2), (3), (4) of the above. #34. I witness about salvation in Jesus Christ: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often (5) Usually once a week or more #35. I prefer that my ideal date witness about Jesus (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #36. The church I attend is: (1) Baptist (2) Catholic (3) Christian, Church of Christ, Congregational (4) Episcopal (5) Lutheran (6) Methodist (7) Pentecostal, Assembly of God, Church of God, Foursquare (8) Presbyterian (9) Interdenominational, Bible Church, Evangelical Free (10) or_____________________
#37. My ideal date would attend _____________________________ of the above. I would consider dating someone who attended _______________________of the above. Part ONE: SECTION B OF FOUR- The Physical Aspects ****************************************************** #1. My nationality or ethnic heritage is _____________ #2. My age is _____________ #3. My ideal date's minimum age may be: _____ #4. My ideal date's maximum age may be _____ #5. I hope my date's age would be _____ #6. My height is _______________ #7. My ideal date's minimum height may be _____ #8. My ideal date's maximum height may be _____ #9. I hope my date's height would be ______ #10. My weight is ________________ #11. My ideal date's minimum weight may be ________ (very thin, slender, average or ______________) #12. My ideal date's maximum weight may be ________ (average, slightly overweight, stocky, very overweight, or _________________) #13. My race/nationality is ________________ #14. My ideal date's race may be _________________ but may not be ________________________________________________ #15. My ideal date's nationality may be ______________ but may not be
_______________________________________________ #16. My education level (highest grade) is ___________________ #17. My ideal date's education level may range from _______________ to _________________. #18. Most people think of my physical appearance as: (1) Unattractive (2) Below Average (3) Average (4) Above average (5) Very attractive #19. Personal grooming and dress are: (1) Not at all important (2) Slightly important (3) Fairly important (4) Very important (5) Extremely important #20. My date's physical appearance is: (1) Of little importance (2) Fairly important (3) Quite important (4) Very important (5) Extremely important Part one of three PART ONE: SECTION C OF FOUR THE SOCIAL FACTORS ******************************************************1 #1. My marital status is: (1) Single (2) Widow/Widower (3) Divorced #of times_ (4) Separated #2. Would you be willing to date a person who is described as follows: A. Lost a mate to death? (1) Yes (2) No B. Abandoned and/or divorced by a mate who didn't obediently believe in Jesus Christ at the time of the abandonment/ divorce? (1) Yes (2) No C. Has been abandoned and ordivorced by a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No D. Divorced &/or abandoned a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No E. Is separated but not divorced from a mate who doesn't obediently believe in Jesus Christ? (1) Yes (2) No F. Is separated but not divorced from a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No G. Is married if _____________________________? (1) Yes (2) No #3. I have one or more children dependent on or living with me. (1) Yes (2)No #4. My date may have one or _______ children. (1) Yes (2) No #5. I consider my childhood family cultured, sophisticated and rened: 1) Not at all
(2) Somewhat (3) Average (4) Above average (5) Very much so. Personally I am __________________ #6. My father-gure and I have/had a very good relationship. (1) Yes (2) No Why?
His phone # is:_________________________(CALL HIM!!!) #7. My mother-gure and I have/had a very good relationship. (1) Yes (2)No Why? Her phone # is:________________________(CALL HER!!!) #8. When my parents made signicant decisions: (1) My mother made all of them, (2) My mother made most of them, (3) They made them jointly in cooperation, (4) My father made most of them, (5) My father made all of them. Personally I believe _____________ should make ________ of the decisions . #9. When two people are dating regularly they should: (1) Have a good deal of personal freedom, (2) Frequently do things separately, (3) occasionally do things separately, (4) Do almost every social thing together, (5) Do every social thing together #10. In relations with people of the opposite sex, I prefer to be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3) Very cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5) Submissive rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer that my date be __________________ #11. With a person I have been dating frequently, I am: (1) Intimately affectionate, (2) Very warm and very affectionate but not intimate (just hugs and kisses and not sexual), (3) Usually affectionate (hugs and kisses and not sexual), (4) Moderately affectionate (safe hugs, closed lip kisses, not sexual), (5) Rarely affectionate (only holding hands and cheek kisses), (6) Not affectionate (no touching of skin). I PREFER THAT MY DATE BE _________________________________ #12. How emotionally involved without commitment do you wish to become with your dates? (1) Very involved, (2) Moderately involved, (3) Not involved at all
#13. I am dating because: (1) I want to be married, (2) I like to have a lot of friends, (3) I want to have a couple of close friends, (4) I want a close friend, (5) I am lonely and don't like to be alone. #14. Spending time with relatives is: (1) Not at all important, (2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4) Very important, (5) Extremely important #15. In family nancial affairs: (1) I tend to live beyond our income, (2) I tend to charge items on our accounts, (3) I live for the here and now and don't think about our future, (4) I save a little, (5) I save and invest for our future. #16. I give about _______% of my monthly pay to churches or charities like ________________________________________________ #17. I earn about $ ____________ net each month. I prefer that my date should earn at least $ ____________ net per month. #18. For the past ve years I have worked as 1. 2. 3. 4. #19. I currently work as a ____________________________________________________________ #20. I believe that children are a God-given solemn trust, gift and opportunity to serve by training, teaching, nurturing, "disciplining", disciplining and admonishing in the Way and Word of God.26 Please cross out that with which you disagree. #21. I believe that I must obediently love God more than I love my children so that I can be objective in helping them learn to do God's good instead of their own pleasure. >27 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. #22. I believe that God wants me to rebuke, teach, admonish, correct, discipline and warn my children when they do what God says, or I say, is wrong.>28 Please cross out that with which you disagree. #23. I understand that it is the will of God for my children to show respect to me, to talk respectfully to and about me, and that they are commanded by God to obey me
as long as I don't cause them to disobey God. I realize that this is one of God's basic rules for humanity and gravely serious consequences are ordained by God for children who don't obey Him in this matter.>29 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. #24. I believe that I am God's ordained authority in charge of my children so I am to be in charge of my children and they are to obey me for God's sake. If my children or I discount or ignore my authority, then I am discounting and ignoring God.>30 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. #25. I believe that, as the authority in charge of -- and to be obeyed by my children, I am not to be a tyrant or abusive dictator. As the servant of God I serve my children as their parent with patience, gentleness, kindness, longsuffering, unselshness, optimism, sincerity and without wrath so that even when I have to spank/discipline/ punish them for rebellion or evil I do it for their own good, not for their harm and not for my own personal pleasure/gratication.>30b Please cross out that with which you disagree. SECTION D OF FOUR: THE PERSONALITY FACTORS ****************************************************** #1. Ordinarily, I am: (1) Emotional, (2) Slightly more emotional than rational, (3) Slightly more rational than emotional, (4) Very rational. I prefer that my date be ___________________ #2. My personality is that of: (1) An extrovert, (2) A moderate extrovert, (3) A moderate introvert, (4) An introvert. I prefer that my date have a personality of _________________ #3. I am: (1) Always very neat and organized, (2) Usually neat and organized, (3) sometimes neat and organized, (4) Rarely neat and organized but hire a housecleaner, (5) Not neat and organized but I know where almost everything is. I prefer that my date be__________________________ #4. I prefer to be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3) Very cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5) Submissive rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer that my date be ____ #5. Ordinarily I am: (1) Talkative, (2) Moderately talkative, (3) Moderately quiet, (4) Quiet. I prefer that my date should be ____________________
#6. Real love is best expressed to me, or I prefer to be loved by: (1) Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, (2) Words and tone of voice, (3) Facial expressions, (4) Touch and feeling. #7. I express real love best by: (1) Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, (2) Words and tone of voice, (3) Facial expressions, (4) Touch and feeling, (5) Other _______________________. #8. My basic attitude toward life is that it is: (1) Boring, (2) Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4) Interesting, (5) Exciting. #9. My favorite kinds of music are ________________________________________________ #10. My favorite TV shows are ________________________________________________ #11. My favorite movies are ________________________________________________ #12. I like radio stations that ________________________________________________ #13. In my personal nancial affairs: (1) I tend to live beyond my income, (2) I tend to charge items, (3) I live for the here and now and don't think about the future, (4) I save a little, (5) I save and invest for the future. #14. When I go out for an evening, I would prefer to be: (1) Alone, (2) With one person, (3) Double dating, (4) In a small group, (5) In a large group. #15. Basically I consider myself: (1) A loner, (2) Retiring, (3) Quiet, (4) Gregariousfriendly-merry, (5) Very gregarious- friendly-merry. #16. Having a good sense of humor is to me: (1) Not at all important, (2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4) Very important (5) Extremely important #17. I would like to spend most of my life in a: (1) Ranch or farm community, (2) Small town, (3) Average size city, (4) Fairly large city, (5) Large metropolitan area, (6) In a suburb of a city.
#18. My basic attitude about people is that they are usually: (1) Boring, (2) Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4) Interesting, (5) Exciting #19. It is important that my home be kept dusted, neat and clean: (1) All of the time, (2) Most of the time, (3) Some of the time (once a week), (4)Occasionally (once a month or for company) #20. I smoke ________________________________________________ I prefer that my date smoke _______________________________________________ #21. I drink alcoholic beverages ________________________________________________ I prefer that my date drink ________________________________________________ #22. I use legal prescription drugs like ______________________________________________ #23. In my opinion, illegal drugs like marijuana, cocaine, Heroin, etc. are ________________________________________________ #24. Politically, I am: (1) Very conservative and and feel I don't have to obey laws I disagree with, (2) Very conservative and very law abiding, (3) Conservative and usually law abiding, (4) Moderate and can compromise, (4) Liberal and want some laws changed and disobey others, (5) Very liberal and I feel I don't have to obey laws I disagree with. Politically my date may be __________________________________________ #25. My highest level of academic attainment is: (1) Attending high school, (2) High School diploma, (3) Attended (attending) vocational trade school, (4) Attended (attending) college, (5) College bachelor degree, (6) Master's degree or above. I prefer that my date's minimum level of academic attainment should be______________ #26. I would estimate my IQ to be: (1) Lower than average but okay, (2) Average, (3) Above average, (4) Well above average, (5) Genius or gifted. I prefer that my date's IQ should be at least #______ or High_______Moderate________Average_______Low______ #27. Please rate the following items 1 through 5 as follows: (1) Not at all interested, (2) Slightly interested, (3) Fairly interested, (4) Very interested, (5) Extremely
interested. The items are as follows: Art ____, Attend athletic events ____, Ballets and operas ___, Bible studies and prayer meetings ___, Bowling ____, Bridge ____, Camping ____, Card games ____, Chess ____, Church services ____, Church specials ____, Popular dancing ____, Fishing ____, Golf ____, Happy hours ____, Hunting with camera ____, Hunting with weapons _, Movie theaters ____, Music (singing/playing) ____, Parties ____, Photography ____, Picnics ____, Ping pong ____, Plays or musicals ____, Political activity ____, Sailing ____, Scuba diving ____, Skating _____, Snow skiing ____, Sports cars ____, Square/folk dancing ____, Sunbathing _____, Support groups _____, Swimming _____, Tennis _____, Racquet ball ____, Badminton _____, Travel-foreign _____, Travel-USA ____, Visiting friends ____, Volleyball ____, Watching TV ____, Watching videos ____, Water skiing ____, The following: ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ #28. We haven't touched on this yet but what I tell you in the following is very important to me and I hope it is important to you too. Please tell me how you feel about it. If you need more space, please use the back of this page or attach another sheet #29. To me unselsh and compassionate love is very important and this is the kind of love I want to give and receive. True____ False____ #30. I am basically and usually joyful person with a smile on my face and heart. True____ False____ #31. I am basically and usually a peaceful person and I enjoy peaceful places and people. True____ False____ #32. I am basically and usually patient and forbearing with people and I want to be with people who are patient and forbearing with people. True__False__ #33. Kindness and kindliness with people is very important to me that is how I want to be and how I want to be treated. True ___ False____ #34. I am basically and usually a generous and benevolent person, willing and ready to share with those I love or those who are in need. True___ False___ #35. I am bascially and usually worthy trust, dependable and I keep my word. I want this in my friends. True___ False___
#36. I don't have the big head or think I am hot stuff or better than other people and humility is important to me. True___ False___ #37. My ability to control myself well is important to me so I am careful not to abuse or misuse drugs or alcohol that might hinder me from controlling myself well. I want my partner to be the same. True___ False___ #38 I don't like to be around people who abuse their bodies sexually or who like to be sexually intimate without being married to their partner. T__F__ #39. I don't like to be around people who act indecently, practice sorcery or witchcraft, quarrel often, like to ght, like to argue, are so ambitious they are too competitive, envious, gossips, jealous, like to get drunk/stoned, behave indecently, and like to go to parties where people do all of these things. True___ False___
>>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2 WHEN YOU HAVE HAD Several DATES, ARRIVING SEPARATELY AND LEAVING SEPARATELY (with the woman going any public place but home, so he can't follow her and get her address) and ARE THINKING OR TALKING ABOUT GETTING SERIOUS, MAKING COMMITMENTS, dating to see if marriage might be for the two of you, BECOMING ENGAGED, OR PREPARING TO COMMIT FOR MARRIAGE, DO PART TWO SEPARATELY. Agree to email PART TWO to each other at the same time (if he doesn't mail it within a few minutes of the agreed upon minute, drop him). EXCHANGE AND COMPARE THEM SEPARATELY. By email discuss the problems and potentials you see in each other responses. THEN make a date to DISCUSS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER at a very public restaurant. SECTION E : THE INITMATE AND VITAL FACTORS ****************************************************** #1. I believe marital/sexual intimacy with your own marital partner is honorable, undeled, good, wonderful, delightful, pleasant, desirable and God ordained.>footnote 31 Yes ______ No ______ #2. I believe that a married male+female couple should be sexually/ genitally intimate and active with each other in order to avoid sexual immorality.>footnote 32 No ______ Yes _____
#3. I believe that a male and female married to each other should be sexually/genitally affectionate with each other whenever one wants or needs it.>footnote 33 Yes ______ No ______ #4. I believe that the wife has sexual authority over her husband's body and that the husband has sexual authority over her body and such authority is to be submitted to just as to any other Romans 13 authority set up by God. This sexual authority is to be exercised humbly, meekly and gently in unselsh, compassionately cherishing service to the other.>footnote 34 No _______Yes _______ #5. I believe that a married male+female couple should sexually deprive/deny each other only for fasting and prayer if they both agree to it and then only for a mutually acceptable time.>footnote35 Yes _____ No _______ #6. I believe that it is God's best for a born again Christian wife to not dessert/divorce/ leave her born again Christian husband, but if she sins and does, she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband since she is bound by God to him as wife as long as he lives.>footnote 36 Yes ____ No _____ #7. I believe a born again Christian husband is not to divorce/send away/ask to leave his born again Christian wife because she is bound by God to him as wife as long as he lives.>footnote 37 No ____ Yes ______ #8. I believe a born again Christian mate should not associate/keep company with his/ her "born again" Christian" mate if that mate claims to be a "born again Christian" and lives in sexual immorality, covetousness, idolatry, verbal abuse of others, drunkenness, drug addiction, extortion, open disobedience to clear and explicit commands/teachings of the Word of God. >footnote 38 Yes ___ No __ #9. I believe a married believer should not leave/divorce/send away his/her "unsaved" spouse as long as that unsaved spouse actually lives or wants to continue living/ dwelling with him/her.>footnote 39 Yes ___ No ___ #10. I believe that if the "unsaved" spouse does not want to live/dwell with the believer and leaves (departs, divorces, separates, etc.) the believer, that believer is not morally bound (under bondage, subject, held by necessity) in such cases and is free to seek a "born again Christian" mate>footnote 40 No ___ Yes __ #11. ONLY FOR THE MAN. For the past ve years I have worked as a _________________________ at (company's name & location)
_________________________(CALL AND VERIFY) THE WOMAN PROVIDES THIS INFORMATION ONLY AFTER SHE HAS VERIFIED HIS INFORMATION. #12. ONLY FOR THE MAN I currently work as a ______________________________________ at (company's name & location) __________________________(CALL AND VERIFY) for _____ years and ____ months, and my supervisor's name and title is __________________________ (CALL AND VERIFY) THE WOMAN PROVIDES THIS INFORMATION ONLY AFTER SHE HAS VERIFIED HIS INFORMATION. #13. ONLY FOR THE MAN. My resume and work references for the last six years are attached/enclosed. THE WOMAN PROVIDES THIS INFORMATION ONLY AFTER SHE HAS VERIFIED HIS INFORMATION. IF THE LORD LEADS YOU, PLEASE COMPLETE THE NEXT STEP, "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE", BEFORE YOU BECOME ENGAGED OR MAKE YOUR MARITAL COMMITMENT OR BECOME MARITALLY INTIMATE. IF YOU WANT THE NEXT STEP, PLEASE CONTACT R. TYLER AT PO. BOX 620763, SAN DIEGO, CA 92162-0763 PLEASE DON'T SEND/GIVE THE "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE" TO A POTENTIAL/ PROSPECTIVE DATE. THE QUESTIONNAIRE LETS YOU REALLY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER IN A VERY SHORT TIME AND ALLOWS YOU TO DO DEAL WITH POTENTIAL PROBLEMS/CONFLICTS VERY EARLY IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. REMEMBER YOU SHOULD BE PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON THE WAY HE/SHE IS WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE HOPE THAT A REASONABLE PERSON WOULD MAKE MINOR/ MODEST COMPROMISES. ANY PLAN ON YOUR OR HIS/HER PART TO MAKE OR EXPECT MAJOR CHANGES IN THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT REALISTIC AND PAVES THE WAY FOR HEARTBREAK LATER. REMEMBER THE ROMANS 14 DOUBT PRINCIPLE: WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T!!!!!! SAVE YOUR HEART! WHEN THE DOUBTS ARE COMPLETELY GONE AND YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND AND HEART ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, YOU'VE PRAYED ASKING AND TRUSTING HIM FOR HIS SHEPHERDING/ GUIDANCE, YOU MEET THE BIBLE'S REQUIREMENTS FOR ANSWERED PRAYER41 , AND YOU ARE AWARE OF NOTHING IN THE BIBLE THAT
SAYS YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT, DO IT!!! PART 2 OF 3 SECTION F : THE POLYGYNOUS FACTORS #1. Every family and society practicing polygyny must overcome the problem of how the co-wives get along, and the problem of how the half-siblings get along. Social Anthropolgist Paul Bohannan Ph.D declares that the "most successful instances are those in which the content of both sets of relationships is rmly structured and where only a minimum is left for the individuals playing the roles to work out on a personal basis. A satisfactory structural relationship to fall back on if the personal relationship fails seems to be vital." <SA p.110> [<SA> Social Anthropology, Paul Bohannan; Holt, Rinehart and Winston, Inc.; 1963] Do you agree? #1. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #2 In Paul Bohannan's Social Anthropology (1963), he indicates that there are three critical relationships that must be right for polygyny to work: 1.) the relationship of the co-wives; 2.) the relationships of the half-siblings; and 3.) the relationships of the half-siblings with the co-wives of the family [SA p.106]. Do you agree? #2. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #3. There is great importance for "women in polygynous societies" to each have their own kitchens, rooms and/or houses, as in the Indian aristocratic and African models. This is especially important if there are any conicts between the co-wives, giving each a safe conict-free zone to which she can retreat or in which she can feel safe and free of harassment. Each co-wife cooks separately, especially after she has children. The polygynous husband either eats a meal separately with each co-wife, or he eats the meal with all of them where they pot luck, with each wife preparing one or more of the parts of the gathered family's meal. <SA p. 107> Do you agree? #3. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________
#4. One of the most divisive forces to attack a polygynous marriage is when the
husband's children by one wife are in adolescent conict with the children of another of his wives. This conict can seriously alienate wives, and even drive some to leave the marriage and return to their parents' people. It is for this reason that when polygynous children become adolescents that they begin to nd work that supplements the family income enabling them and their mother to get a larger area at a greater distance from the adolescent children of the other wives. Harmony among the co-wives is far more important than harmony among the half-siblings. The more personalities in the mix the more difcult it is to maintain the families' harmony.<SA p.109ff> Do you agree? #4. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #5. Bohanan indicated that for a polygynous family to work well there had to be positive or at least constructive relationships between the co-wives. Expectations of wives, co-wives and husbands need to be clearly stated and understood well by all involved. There is a need for clearly understood boundaries, turf, duties and obligations to prevent misunderstandings and conicts. A wife is considered a good wife if she abides by and fullls "the "rules" of the family. [Bohannan p. 106] Do you agree? #5. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #6. When polygyny works, the women develop a set of wife rules that become the norm for the family. If a wife lives up to the wife rules, she is esteemed as a good wife, usually whether or not she is liked by the other wife/wives. The relationship between the poly wives of one husband are commonly characterized by hostility, or cooperation, friendliness or a combination of these.<SB p. 106> Do you agree? #6. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #7. Among the Tiv, during pregnancy's last months, the co-wife takes over all the pregnant wife's duties (farming, cooking etc.), assists the midwife in the birth, and assists of the new mother for weeks after the birth. Conict would deny all these benets from the co-wives, so it is avoided. However if the co-wife doesn't live up to the rules of the family, she becomes the object of verbal ghts and arguments because she is being a bad co-wife, not because she IS a co-wife.<SA p. 106> Do you agree? #7. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________
#8. Of primary importance is the fact that polygynous co-wives usually are NOT jealous if they have a good, devoted, impartial, fair, and just husband, treating all his wives equably/equally in the matters "considered important by them." It is a wise polygynous husband who nds out what matters are "considered important by them", and acts accordingly. Secondly, the division of labor supports good and effective polygyny, because the wives are aware that their burdens are lightened when shared with others committed to the family. Thirdly, especially in Africa, it is believed that a woman should not have another child until her last is weaned, usually two years of age.<SB p.107> Do you agree? #8. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #9. Bohannan declares that he has known and known of tribal wives "who made the initial arrangements for a congenial girl and brought her home to be her husband's new wife because they wanted the companionship and help of a good co-wife." He declares that the wisest polygynist husbands let his wife/wives have a big say in the taking of a new wife, "for no matter how much a woman likes a man, she is not likely to stay with him if she does not like his other women." If she nds herself in the midst of a congenial group of co-wives, "she may put up with a lot from a husband" and stay in the marriage. <SA p.107> Do you agree? #9. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #10. A believing polygynous husband should do everything he can with his wives to avoid doing anything with, for or about them, out of favoritism, prejudice, bias. ***Deuteronomy 21:15 If a man has two wives, one loved, and the other hated, and he begets children with them, and the son of the hated wife is the rst-born,16when that man gives what he has to his sons as an inheritance, he is not to show favoritism to the son of the loved wife as his rstborn over the rstborn of the unloved wife. 17No, he must acknowledge as rstborn the son of the unloved wife by giving him a double portion of everything he owns, for he is the rstfruits of his manhood, and the right of the rstborn is his. ***James 2:1 My brothers, do not show favoritism as you hold to the faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ. . . 4then arent you creating distinctions among yourselves, and havent you made yourselves into judges with evil motives? ***1 Timothy 5:21I solemnly charge you before God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, not doing anything out of favoritism.
Do you agree? #10. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #11. The long standing Biblical principle that believing widows should marry and should marry believing brothers is seen in the Scriptures that follow below. Deut 25 was written for an Israelite brother to marry his Israelite brother's Israelite widow. Carrying the principle into New Testament standards, it would go something like this, {If believing brothers of the family of God live together, and one of them dies childless, his believing widow is not to marry someone who is not related to her by rebirth and salvation in Jesus. Her believing husbands [married or single] believing brother is to go to her and perform the duty of a brother-in-law by marrying her.} ***DEUT 25:5 5If brothers live together, and one of them dies childless, his widow is not to marry someone unrelated to him; her husbands [married or single] brother is to go to her and perform the duty of a brother-in-law by marrying her. 6And he shall call her rst begotten son by his name, that is, of the dead brother, (so) that his name be not done away from Israel. ***1 Tim 5:14 Therefore, I want younger [widows(5503)] to marry, have children, manage their households, so as to give the opposition no occasion for slandering us. #11. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #12. The NT norms in Christ are to share all things and have all things in common, especially in a Christian marriage, and that food, clothing and conjugal rights ideally should be given to them on an as needed basis-----------****Ac 2:44 * And all that believed were together, and shared all things common, ***Ac 4:32 * And the heart and soul of the multitude of those that had believed were one, and not one said that anything of what he possessed was his own, but all things were shared in common ***2Cor 8:12 For if the readiness be there, a man is accepted according to what he may have, not according to what he has not. 13 * For it is not in order that there may be ease for others, and for you distress, 14 but on the principle of equality; in the present time your abundance for their lack, that their abundance may be for your lack, so that there should be equality. 15 * According as it is written, He who gathered much had no excess, and he who gathered little was nothing short. -------------- ------------------------------------------------------ since the members
of a polygynous family might not have this Spirit lled mentality and fruit, it is sometimes necessary to fall back on the principles of Exodus 21:7-11. Do you agree? #12. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ #13. It is critically important to "retain the quality or content of the relationship" when the "number of similar relationships" is increased. The failure to do this is what internally doomed Mormon polygyny, according to Mormon women.<SA p.108> The African and Asian polygynist came much closer to the model given by Jesus/Jehovah to Israel in Ex 20 & 21: ***Ex 20:22 And Jehovah said to Moses, Thus shalt thou say to the children of Israel: Ye have seen that I have spoken with you from the heavens. . . . 21: 7 And if a man shall sell his daughter as a handmaid, she shall not go out as the bondmen go out. 8 If she is unacceptable in the eyes of her master, who had taken her [as wife] for himself, then shall he let her be ransomed [to her parents]: . . . 10 If he take himself another, her food, her clothing, and her conjugal rights he shall not diminish. 11 And if he do not these three things unto her, then shall she go out free without money. Do you agree? #13. Yes _____ No _________ Why? _________________ How will we handle this?___________________________________________ Retaining "the quality or content of the relationship", if Sam takes Beulah to be another wife in his family with Safronia, his rst wife, he won't diminish Safronia's food, clothing or conjugal rights/time. Hopefully Safronia feels congenial with Beulah, giving Sam credit for a little bit of wisdom. So if he had kept Safronia well fed, well clothed, and had and hour of intimate aloneness (free from the children etc) before sleep with him almost every evening, he would need to continue feeding Safronia well, clothing her well, and having their hour of intimate aloneness before sleep with him almost every weekend after Beulah has joined the family as his new wife. That would mean that Beulah and Sam would have to work around Safronia's preexisting schedule, unless Safronia was gracious enough to give up some of her time slots with Sam. If Sam has an 8 to 5 M thru F job, with a 30 minute commute both ways, and he goes to sleep at 10 pm to get up at 6 am, then he has to carefully manage his time. He has only four hours each evening, really three after guring in eating and preparing for bed. If Safronia has him from 9 to 10 almost every
evening, then he needs to be with Beulah in "intimate aloneness" from 7:30 to 8:30 most evenings, with Safronia caring for the kids including Beulah's, except when they can have the 9 to 10 slot. The co-wife not with Sam would have "Kid Duty", including the kids of the co-wife who is alone with Sam. He would take turns sleeping with each one, decided by need, vote, casting/drawing lots or the ip of a coin to achieve a fair and equitable arrangement. Between Beulah and Safronia, the one with the most/youngest kids would stay home, be full time mom and home school as much as possible. The one with the fewest/oldest kids would join the work force and help support the family nancially. If he were young enough, strong enough and brave enough, Sam might take on another wife. Hopefully he would have enough sense to let Beulah and or Safronia pick the next one, or at least to make sure they could get along when together and have enough respect for each other. At this point, if he is a blue collar worker, or in the lower middle class, he would have to scale back his work to 50% or 75% time, so that he can have quality and intimate time with each. Lucretia's "intimate alone time" would be from 6 to 7 each evening, unless she was able to trade her time for Beulah's or Safronia's time. The co-wives not having "intimate alone time" with Sam would be watching the kids, including Lucretia's kids. This means that when Lucretia becomes a member of the family, the one with the youngest children stays home with the kids and home schools while the rest of the adults and children over 16 work for pay to help support the family. The children under 16 would help with the care of the children at home, and with the chores of the house. Sam, Lucretia, Beulah and Safronia would need to be agreed as to the "rules and structure" of the family, and how to resolve conicts. Lucretia, Beulah and Safronia would each need to have their own dwelling, for cooking, living and sleeping. If friction or conict occurs between the half-siblings, wives and/or co-wives, especially in the case of the male half-siblings, then geographical and social separation is either made or increased between the half-siblings, wives and/or co-wives involved in the friction or conict. The struggle for unity and harmony takes precedence over convenience or preference. Please see my le "Urban Middle Class Poly in a Poly Hostile Society" at the web sites listed below for more details on the economics and logistics of such urban Biblical polygyny. <SA> Social Anthropology, Paul Bohannan; Holt, Rinehart and Winston, Inc.; 1963 http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/OrthodoxBiblicalMarriagePolygamy
****************************************************** PART THREE OF THREE >>>SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES 1. God makes it very clear in His Word#1 (last page) that He, as our Heavenly Father, instructs us not to "go with", become engaged to, or marry anyone who is not a believer who is obeying the Word of God. Being the Loving Father our God is, and the all wise King that Jesus is, God instructs#2 us for our own well being that an obedient believer should not "go with", become engaged to, or marry any "believer" who is disobeying God's instructions, or any "believer" who believes or teaches things that contradict or are in conict with God's teachings in the Bible. Yes, that really narrows the way for nding a godly mate and drastically reduces the number of eligible people but those who have been down the road can tell you that it is better to marry right than wrong, and that it is better not to marry than to marry wrong. It just makes the miracle of God's provision even more miraculous, like Elijah pouring all that water over the sacrice to be burned before God sent the consuming re from Heaven. You have to have Faith in God to walk with God. You have to really trust Him before you can turn your hopes and dreams over to Him for His decision. 2. If you have no need of marital affectionate/sexual intimacy, a gift from God, you have the wonderful opportunity to serve God with fewer "distractions", to spend much more time with Him in the Word and prayer, and with others in ministry. David Hocking's book on singles beautifully explains 1 Corinthians 7:1,7,,20,25-35 and the great opportunity the single life presents to those who want more fully to seek and follow God with their whole heart. Singles groups for such people are fellowship opportunities, and provide the opportunity to bond with friends and minister to the Body of Christ. 3. If your calling and gift is to marry, how do you seek and nd that partner? First of all you have to have your priorities right because marriage can become an idol just like anything else on earth can. You have to make very sure that Matthew 6:33,34; Proverbs 3:1-8; Psalms 37:1-6; and 2 Timothy 2 are daily very real or else even our prayers
are in vain (1 John 3:22,23 and 1 John 5:14,15). Next we have to come to the place of Luke 22:42 and Romans 6:4,11, 12,13----the place of death to self and resurrection to Love which seeks not its own way/things---SO THAT WE ARE READY TO ACCEPT WHOEVER HE GIVES TO US, EVEN IF HIS CHOICE SEEMS TO FALL FAR SHORT OF OUR DREAMS AND FANTASIES. With our "seed" dead in the ground, He can raise us to a new life of marriage in His will. You literally have to die to your wants and tastes in physical appearance, personality, color hair or eyes, height, talents, income, status etc. and be ready to accept whoever He gives to you and you will have doubt-free peace of heart and mind if you are ready and accepting the one He gives to you. Your only concern should be that your prospective mate meets God's requirements in the Bible for a godly, Spirit-led and Spirit-lled man/woman. Jesus said, "Seek and you shall nd." Seeking one's mate can be as active a process as Ruth's and Queen Esther's or it can be as privately surprising as Adam's awakening to Eve for the rst time. You can count on God to lead you according to His word (Proverbs 3:5,6; Romans 8:14). You can trust Him to put His ideas/desires in your heart/mind and the opportunities to act on them (Philippians 2:13; Hebrews 13:20,21). Like Adam, you can wake up to her in your life in His time. Like Isaac, a parent gure can help you nd God's choice for you. You can just be going about your daily activities like Rebekah and, in a moment of compassionate assistance to a stranger, you can nd your mate. Like Ruth, you can commit yourself to God's service, make a Godly decision to step out of one situation and into another and in that new situation be led and advised to do what seems like an ordinary work day decision but which results in your meeting your mate quite unexpectedly. Following wise and Godly counsel of Godly counselors like Ruth, you might be led to offer yourself as wife to a Godly man who obviously cares for and admires you but for some reason feels unworthy to ask you to be his wife. Like David meeting Abigail, you could just be going about your daily walk in the Lord, meet a godly woman you admire and respect but who seems unavailable just to quite unexpectedly nd that she is both available and ready to marry you. Like Abigail, you could nd yourself in a trying and difcult situation with no relief in sight, but by living wisely and Godly in
that situation impress and build a relationship with the one you will eventually marry. With today's laws about sexual harassment, any wise male will think long and hard before he compliments a female on her female beauty or appearance, long and hard before he will let her know he likes her and is interested in getting to know her personally, long and hard before he will ask or suggest that they go out on a date. Because of the sexual harassment laws the only way a woman might know a man is interested in her is by what his eyes show, and it is now virtually up to the woman to tell the man that if he is interested, she would like to get to know him better and get together to talk. This is very hard for a woman because of the chance of misreading his eyes and being rejected and embarrassed. That's why women more than ever need singles' and couples' agencies and the KEY described in the next paragraph. THE KEY IS IN GENESIS 24:27. Being in His way, doing His things, saying His Words He leads you to the where and the who of your future. It may even seem like blind faith but it has to be absolute trust in His working all things together according to the counsel of His own will (Ephes. 1:11; Phil. 4:6,7) free of worry, anxiety and fretting, with a soul at rest and in peace knowing that your Shepherd-King will take care of the need for you in His time with the person of His choice, not necessarily of your choice. YOU MUST TRUST HIM TO USE HIS WORD AND THE TRUTH OF ROMANS 14:22,23 WITH PHILIPPIANS 4:6,7 to guide you. He can bring scriptures to mind to guide and direct you. But the nal test is the Spirit's gift of doubt-free peace of heart and mind. Move and rest in that peace. Consider every doubt and uneasiness of spirit to be God's Romans 14 and Phil. 4 signal to you that you shouldn't do the thing in question because either it is the wrong thing and you don't realize it yet, or it is the right thing but you shouldn't do it yet. So you don't say it or do it until your consciousness is lled with His doubt-free peace and rest of spirit about it/him/her. 4. What does the Bible say about sexual morality? JESUS AND THE APOSTLES TOOK THE SAME OLD TESTAMENT HEBREW AND GREEK WORDS (SEPTUAGINT) FOR IMMORALITY/
FORNICATION AND USED THEM IN THE NEW TESTAMENT WITHOUT CHANGING THEIR MEANINGS. HE DID CHANGE THEIR PENALTIES/ PUNISHMENTS IN THIS LIFE ON EARTH. Matt. 5:17 _ Think not that I am come to make void the law or the prophets; I am not come to make void, but to fulll. 18 For verily I say unto you, Until the heaven and the earth pass away, one iota or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law till all come to pass. 19 Whosoever then shall do away with one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of the heavens; but whosoever shall practice and teach [them], *he* shall be called great in the kingdom of the heavens. Matt. 23: 1 _ Then Jesus spoke to the crowds and to his disciples, 2 saying, The scribes and the Pharisees have set themselves down in Moses' seat: 3 all things therefore, whatever they may tell you, do and keep. But do not after their works, for they say and do not, PREMARITAL SEX AND PREMARITAL PETTING IS FORNICATION. BREAST AND GENITAL INTIMACY ARE APPROPRIATE ONLY WITH YOUR OWN MATE IN YOUR OWN MARRIAGE. Ezekiel 23:2 Son of man, there were two women, daughters of one mother. 3 And they did sexual sin in Egypt; they did sexual sin in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, and there were handled the nipples of their virginity. 8 Neither left she her sexual sin [brought] from Egypt; for in her youth they had lain with her, and had handled the breasts of her virginity, and poured their fornication upon her. 21 And you did look back to the lewdness of your youth, in the handling of your nipples by the Egyptians, for the breasts of your youth. Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 [Let her be as] the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and be ravished [enraptured/intoxicated] always with her [erotic] love. 20 And why will you, my son, be ravished [enraptured/intoxicated] with some other woman, and embrace the bosom of an alien stranger? 21 For the ways of man [are] before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his goings. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself,
and he shall be held with the cords of his sins. SEXUAL INTIMACY OUTSIDE OF/WITHOUT MARRIAGE IS UNACCEPTABLE TO GOD AND ETERNAL LIFE. ***Exodus 22:16 And if a man seduce a virgin who is not covenanted-tomarry, and lie [sexually] with her, he shall certainly endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him [as wife], he shall weigh money according to the dowry of virgins. ***Deut. 22:25 But if a man nd a covenanted-to-marry young woman in the eld, and the man force her, and lie [sexually] with her; then the man only that lay [sexually] with her shall die: 26 But unto the young woman you shall do nothing; [there is] in the young woman no sin [worthy] of death; for as when a man rises against his neighbor, and slays him, even so [is] this matter: 27 For he found her in the eld, [and] the covenanted-to-marry young woman cried, and [there was] no one to save her. 28 If a man nd a young woman [who is] a virgin, who is not covenanted-to-marry, and lay hold on her, and lie [sexually] with her and they be found; 29 Then the man who lay [sexually] with her shall give unto the young woman's father fty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. PROVERBS 5, 6, &7 on premarital extramarital sex. ***Lev. 18:20 And you shall not lie sexually with your neighbour's wife, to become unclean with her. ***1 Corinthians 6:9 _ Do you not know that unrighteous [persons] shall not inherit [the] kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators [those who have sexual intimacy either outside of their own marriage or without being married], nor idolaters, nor adulterers [those who have sexual intimacy either with someone else's mate or without a godly marriage], ...shall inherit [the] kingdom of God. 1 Corinth. 6:13 ... the body [is] not for sexual sin, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then, taking the members of the Christ, make [them] members of a female who does sexual sin? Far be the thought. 16 Do you not know that he [that is] joined to the female who does sexual sin is one body? for the two, he says, shall be one
esh. 17 But he that [is] joined to the Lord is one Spirit. 18 Flee sexual sin. Every sin which a man may practice is without the body, but he that commits sexual sin, sins against his own body. .... 1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote to me, [it is] good for a man not to be touching a woman. 2.Nevertheless, [to avoid] sex sin every man is to be having his own woman and every woman is to be having her own man.....8.I say therefore, to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide [unmarried] even as I. But if they do not abstain [from touching/having one], they are [commanded] to marry. For it is better to marry than to burn [passionately]......36. But if anyone think that he behaves himself improperly toward his virgin, if she has become marriageable, and so it must be, he is [commanded] to do what he wishes; he does not sin; they are [commanded] to marry. 37. Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and so has determined in his heart that he will keep [as is] his virgin, does well. [See 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8.] 1 Timothy 5:11 But refuse [to enroll] younger widows; for when they have sensuous impulses contrary to Christ, they wish to marry.... 14. Therefore I desire that younger [widows] marry, bear children, manage the house, give no occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. [The difference between the old testament commands to marry (see above) and the New Testament commands to marry is that in the Old Testament God tells one who He commands one to marry, and in the New Testament He just commands one to marry and leaves it up to the one to nd out who to marry by Phil. 4:6 & Romans 8:14]