Professional Documents
Culture Documents
com
Complete your Power Tool in the space below and then email as an attachment to assessment@icoachacademy.com
RESISTANCE v Movement
Many people want to move from the place they find themselves to a new location/situation. They may well know where that location/situation is or they may just know that they want to move, but be unsure of the to where. However for a number of reasons they dont take that movement, they resist taking that movement. The resistance can take many forms and can have a variety of causes, if can have a mild impact on someones life or it can in extreme circumstances have a dramatic and dangerous affect. Movement is a process built on awareness and understanding. Awareness of where the client is now, awareness of the journey they need to make. Understanding of how they reached that here and now point and what steps they need to take in order to take action, experience movement and start their journey to a better place. This power tool will look in detail at what forms resistance can take, how it comes about and grows, the risks and dangers associated with resistance as well as the occasions where resistance is actually a useful position to hold. The tool will also look at movement, what we mean by movement, how we can define it, how we can work towards it and how we can manage it and ensure that once we have started in movement we can continue away from the resistance and towards our goal.
Some definitions
The dictionary definitions for Resistance and movement are: Resistance: The act or power of resisting, opposing, or withstanding. The opposition offered by one thing to another. Movement: A change of position or location. Actions or activities, as of a person or a body of persons
Brainstorming
After a brainstorming exercise I listed some feelings and emotions associated with Resistance and movement.
Copyright 2006 International Coach Academy Pty. Ltd. Use is governed by the Terms and Conditions at http://www.icoachacademy.com Last updated Feb 2006
Resistance: Static, irrational, fear, stopping, blocks, isolation, block, impeding Movement: Progress, success, achievement, rational, positive, optimistic, travel, mobility, action So we have negative emotions and thoughts linked in with resistance and positive emotions and thoughts linked in with movement.
Where to begin?
Our job as a coach is to move our client to a position where they take action, to do this we can deploy and use a number of tools. I will now look at some of these tools and see how they can address the resistance to movement that our clients can face. Create and hold the space: We need to create a space where our client feels comfortable and safe. A safe space will help them think about their beliefs, their desire to take action and give then a stable place from which they can talk about their fears and their resistance to movement. We need to hold that space for every session the client attends and we need to be focused on not letting this slip into a place of being too relaxed, because this will be seen by the client, who could then suffer some uncertainty.
Copyright 2006 International Coach Academy Pty. Ltd. Use is governed by the Terms and Conditions at http://www.icoachacademy.com Last updated Feb 2006
Giving space and time: We need to allow the client space in which to speak, think and question. We must ensure that we do not judge, react or jump to conclusions about anything they say. Their beliefs around why they cannot take action, why they are in resistance are all valid and they must have space to express them for us both to hear.
Active Listening and powerful questioning: Our listening needs to focus laser like onto our client, we need to hear not only what is actually said, but what is not said, what is implied and what is hinted at. If we are physically with our client then we need our body language to be open and responsive whilst monitoring our clients. There are many subtle clues offered in any conversation and we must use our active listening skills fully to make sure we miss none of them. Our questioning must be powerful and focused; we must avoid giving opinions and offering advice. Our job is not to offer advice, but to hold a space in which our client feels free to offer their own advice to themselves, evaluate that advice and decides if its advice they should follow. Our questioning needs to come from a powerful place. We need not feel threatened by the tyranny of powerful questions we need to be in a calm and relaxed place where we can focus wholly and without distractions. As coaches we need to allow our intuition to work freely with our clients and it is from the place of confidence (and not arrogance) and intuition that we can ask powerful questions. Additional tools There are many additional tools we can deploy when working with our clients who face resistance rather than movement, these can include: Projecting forward: We can ask our client to project forward a number of years to a time when they have reached their goal and gone past their resistance. We can ask them how it feels to reach their goal and how it felt to make that movement. We can deploy a number of techniques here, we can use visualisation or we can use some form of roll play. We can ask them what challenges they faced on that future journey and how they overcame those challenges. In essence we can help our clients project success, project themselves into a new situation and to start to feel that situation, to start to feel comfortable
Copyright 2006 International Coach Academy Pty. Ltd. Use is governed by the Terms and Conditions at http://www.icoachacademy.com Last updated Feb 2006
with that new place and to start to feel confident to identify the first step on that journey. What if questions: We can use the what if question, this can take courage and we have to have ensured we have created a safe space for our client. The what if question sounds like What would happen if you take this movement? or What would happen if you resist this movement? These can help the client compare and contrast two potential options, whilst this may not be the single question that allow the client to move it can certainly help move them along the path to taking action.
Remembering success: We can ask the client to recall a time when things have been tough and they have not felt like making movement and have resisted change and resisted taking action. If we can find a time when they have faced a fear, or have overcome resistance we can ask them how that felt, what happened and how they felt when they moved into movement. We can ask our client what steps they took in the past and how they felt, we can ask if these steps would work now. Sharing: Often we find ourselves bottling up feelings, fears and emotions. It is here that our fears can grow and expand, filling gaps in our minds. Asking our client if they have anyone to share with, a close friend, family member or spouse can give our client a chance to pause and take stock. We can then ask if they could imagine how that close friend would respond, what they would say and how our client would respond to that feeling.
can now hinder their attempts to take movement by offering resistance is the important issue for our client. An underlying belief can be the key factor in resistance. It can generate fear, even if there is no concrete proof that the fear is valid (This is talking from an external non-coaching perspective, from within the coaching relationship it is of course a valid fear). As coaches we need to approach an underlying belief with care, curiosity and concern for our client. An underlying belief is often strongly held and may not be changed, removed or even slightly altered in the course of a single coaching session. Often we need to work with our clients over a period of weeks to identify, acknowledge the existence of and hopefully start to work to change the belief. We should not expect a quick fix with an underlying belief. In fact we should not expect anything, expectation on the part of the coach can get in the way of the coaching process and it is important that as coaches we maintain a strong, curious, supportive and caring position from which we can create an environment where the client is able to develop self awareness and to take action.
Conclusion
The path to from resistance to movement can be a long one and is certainly one that could offer a challenge the client. As coaches we need to be aware of and be able to deploy a range of tools to help our clients develop awareness, overcome resistance and make movement. This can be a slow process, we can often be faced with underlying beliefs that the client has held for many years. We need to be confident in our abilities, be able to deploy our intuition and to hold the space that will support our client on their journey. Whilst doing this we must be willing to acknowledge that this moment may
Copyright 2006 International Coach Academy Pty. Ltd. Use is governed by the Terms and Conditions at http://www.icoachacademy.com Last updated Feb 2006
not be the right time for the client to overcome that resistance and to take movement. However in acknowledging that we can often support the client as they gain that understanding and that understanding is often the first step on the road to eventually taking movement.
Copyright 2006 International Coach Academy Pty. Ltd. Use is governed by the Terms and Conditions at http://www.icoachacademy.com Last updated Feb 2006