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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
ost people reading a book skip this page. Its too bad. Lives arent solo acts and stories dont happen in vacuums. There are always key people and entities surrounding a writer that not only enable his words to appear on a page, but help those words have richer meaning. I owe a ton of thanks to Steve and Barbara Uhlmann for their cabin in the mountains and to Steve and PollyAnna Stephens for their home on the range. They provided the keys and quiet that was needed to move this book from my head to your hands. Scottsdale Bible Church doesnt just give lip service to the transforming power of Gods grace; they want it to permeate their entire culture. They have been a key proving ground for the concepts of this book. I want to especially thank the great folks that met so often, prayed so passionately, and worked so hard to develop and rene the Family Ministry Map: Michael & Chris Tooker, Peter & Julie Bartolini, David & Julie Dickerson, Mark & Robin Snyder, Matt & Janna Everroad, and Trevor & Haley Strawhecker. And I want to give a special shout out to John Trent who was also part of that group. JT is one of the best examples of consistent encouragement Ive ever known. Kory Schuknecht played a huge role in the development of the grace-based philosophy of families. But even more, hes now lighting the way for thousands of families who want to make Gods grace the DNA of their relationships.
Then theres Darcythe great synthesizer of some of the most profound features of Gods love. If you had this book tested for ngerprints, hers would be all over it. Ive thoroughly enjoyed doing our personal family ministry together with this amazing lady. Theres a reason why Gods grace cant be embraced in the abstract; its because it was delivered in person, on a cross, by the Son of God. And its to Him that I offer the ultimate acknowledgement and glory.
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DEDICATION
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HAYES DAVIS KIMMEL
TABLE OF CONTENTS
1 CHURCH FAMILY MINISTRY: SUB-CONTRACTED PARENTHOOD . . . . . . . . . 1
2 HOMEGROWN FAITH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 3 A PLAN THAT WORKS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 4 THE PLACE OF GRACE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 5 PAPER NAPKIN FAMILY MINISTRY . . . . . . . . . . . 49 6 GRACE-BASED FAMILIES; GRACE-BASED
FAMILY MINISTRIES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
7 A GRACE FOR ALL SEASONS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 8 A FAMILY MINISTRIES MANDATE . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 9 THE HAPPIEST MOST GRACIOUS PLACE
ON EARTH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
CHAPTER 1
Obviously some people appear to be ying solo when they show up for church. We like to call them singles but thats really an illusion. No one is truly single. Everyone is part of a family,
regardless of how healthy it is (or was). Most of us that show up for church walk from the parking lot with the people we live with throughout the week. We represent the families that make up the shared body of our churches. This book is about how a family leverages its collective assets to raise the spiritual stock value of its local church . . . and how a local church leverages its collective assets to raise the spiritual stock value of its familiesand both of these done with the combined goal of enhancing Gods power and presence within our culture. Theres a reason why it would be nice if both families and churches got on the same page. We need each other. More important, God always expected us to. In fact, we were designed to operate in rhythm like dancers. Families and churches are the only two cradle-to-grave organisms in a Christian worldview. But busy churches and hurried families have gotten their respective bodies operating more like break dancers than as dance partners. For most families, church is a line item on their schedules. Thats fair, I guess. There are a lot of food, clothing, shelter, health, education, and welfare priorities that ll most of the other lines. And for most churches, families, though highly valued, equally show up as a line item on its agenda. Thats understandable, I guess. There are lots of evangelism, discipleship, marrying, burying, and caring for the hurting priorities that ll most of its other lines. These other priorities cause these two to intersect occasionally with each other. Before you nish this book, I hope to show you how a deliberate partnership between families and churches will do more to enhance and fulll these other priorities (line items) than any other efforts either of them can make individually. I dont see the church as an entity having absolute authority
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