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find it hard to maintain the same level of respect for the straying
parents.
An even more tangled situation happens when the wife of one man
commits adultery with the husband of another wife. In that case, two
whole families get caught in the crossfire of bad consequences.
Sometimes the effects
of sin are so devastating the affected
individuals never recover in an entire lifetime!
Sins like these happen on a REPEATED, WIDESPREAD basis in My
church, even among so-called leadership. Life itself punishes these
people financially, emotionally, even spiritually, because thereafter
they are prevented from ever reaching the full potential of ministry I
originally planned for them. Why? Because their good name in the
Christian community has been ruined. They have lost their shining
testimony of faithfulness before a critical world which watches for
imperfections in the saints, which would give them an excuse not to
turn to Christ. This sin gives My enemies ammunition to blaspheme My
Holy Name (2 Sam.12:14). The testimony of such people has been
ruined before baby saints who once looked up to them for guidance in
how to live a holy life. Prayer and spiritual warfare which might have
gone into ministering to the difficulties of others must instead be
directed to ameliorating the awful damage done by their catastrophic
sins of the flesh. This is the case even when such transgressors fully
repent before Me and have their sins washed away by My blood!
Adulterous preachers dont get spanked by other people. Not even
when their sins affect Me or wound other believers. Adults who cuss
and swear dont get spanked. Adults who gamble away their familys
grocery money dont get spanked. Adults who lose their temper on the
phone dont get spanked. Adults who yell abuse at other drivers dont
get spanked (though they might get hit if theres a confrontation).
Even Christian drivers sometimes act inconsiderately on the road
without getting spanked. Yet these same self-righteous hypocrites
demand perfection of a tiny child barely out of its mothers womb!
Even if a Christian child who is otherwise obedient and blameless
accidentally spills his glass of milk, he is in danger of being beaten
with The Rod as part of his training. If a child is tired and sulky, or
even looks at his parent the wrong way, hes in danger of getting
worn out with a switch, paddle, or belt. Why the double standard?
Why must every imperfection, every misstep, be answered with such
cruel consequences? Dont these misguided parents fear Me, and how
I might treat THEM if they fail to live up to MY expectations?
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy (Matt.5:7). The
flip side of the coin is this: Unfortunate are the unmerciful, for they
shall NOT obtain mercy! The same mercy you show others is what you
get back from Me. I take grave offense whenever well-meaning but
deluded parents tell the child: JESUS told me to do this to help you
grow up to love Him. If anything, such a cruel approach to parental
discipline will DRIVE THE CHILD FAR FROM ME when he/she gets old
enough to make up their own mind about continuing in the faith.
Gentle admonition should be tried first. Jesus Himself commanded the
disciples to FIRST admonish an erring brother before taking stronger
measures to correct the problem (Matt.18:15-17). No mention of
spanking the offender (presumably an adult). If he repents at the
first, second, or even the third (and last resort) admonition, the
problem is solved and he is to be totally forgiven and restored to
fellowship. No mention of other church members waiting at the church
door with paddles to correct the repentant member! Why should a
tiny child be treated more harshly than an adult Christian who sins
against his brother?
The church at Thyatira had a woman who was teaching Christs
servants to do abominable things. Jesus gave her and her followers
space (time) to repent before casting her into a sickbed as punishment
(Rev.2:20-22). Christian parents dont follow Jesus example in this.
They dont give their children space to repent so they can avoid
punishment. Instead, they fly off the handle and start hitting before
they admonish their children in love and try to win them back to the
paths of righteousness. Often, Christian parents will even lose their
temper and start beating their child before they even get the full story
of what happened!
In many cases, that amounts to a sick power game to exert authority
over the smaller and the weaker members of the tribe, not unlike
savage treatment jungle apes give each other to establish the pecking
order. Other times, the parent is really mad at someone else, or just
embittered about how hard life is and so theyll take it out on someone
who cant defend themselves!
I promise in My Word that if you consider your ways (judge yourself)
that I wont judge you and chasten you for your bad behavior (I Cor.
11:31-32). Why wont Christian parents be just as merciful toward
their own little children, who are not yet mature and sometimes make
mistakes?
theyre old enough to land a low-paid job and live on their own. Some
desperate kids, twelve or barely older than that, might flee in the dead
of night and hop on a bus to go somewhere, anywhere, to get away
from the beatings and verbal abuse they suffered at home.
Some survivors of religious child abuse grow up to be agnostics who
arent quite sure about Me anymore. Others turn into hardened
skeptics and atheists because they want nothing more to do with the
faith (empty, legalistic religion) of their parents, or anything associated
with it. All those castaway kids know is they never were treated with
tenderness or understanding, just spanked and shouted at like a dog.
If these abused kids manage to survive these rough years, they will be
emotionally scarred for life. They will have trouble forming a family of
their own or even showing affection toward others, because
gentleness, an essential fruit of the Spirit (Gal.5:22), was not shown
toward them by misguided Christian parents whose only way to teach
their kids was with a strap. Only by a restorative miracle in their souls
can such injured children be made whole and free to love and know
the REAL Christ of the Bible, Who is meek and lowly in heart
(Matt.11:29).
You get the same measure of mercy you mete out to others. No more,
no less (Matt.5:7;Luke 6:38). Treat these tiny precious ones with rigor
and cruelty and I must also withhold My grace and mercy and kindness
from you. I wont literally reach down from heaven with a giant paddle
and beat your backside, but I WILL allow painful trials and tribulations
to come into your life to correct you and wake you up to realize how
much it hurts to live without love, kindness and patience being shown
toward you. Why do you eagerly look for the tiny speck of dust in your
childs life and refuse to see the giant oak tree in your own (Luke 6:4142)?
And how do I feel about these so-called experts on the Christian
family who push the paddle as THE means of remedying all problems
in their childs life? These wolves in sheeps clothing sell the Christian
quackery that their readers (who are ALREADY doing it anyway)
exactly what they want to hear: that its perfectly fine to whip little
babies and toddlers who are barely aware that theyre alive in this
world, who only want to be cherished and loved. Children who are
trying to find their feet to stand, and only want someone to show them
the way.
When the girls father brings the bloodstained honeymoon sheet to the
elders, the elders are convinced the girl was intact on her wedding
night. So her husband gets punished for bringing disgrace on an
innocent Israelite girl in a society where premarital purity is
commanded by law. Its all in My Written Word! If you insist PART of
the Old Law is binding on New Testament believers, then its ALL
binding on you (Gal.3:10). And if you dont keep ALL the Law, youre
under its curse.
So if ALL the Law is binding, why dont you see more Christian men
taking whippings for questioning their wives premarital virginity? Why
arent the couples wedding night sheets saved by the girls father as
proof of a girls innocence (verse 20)? Youre all gung-ho about using
a paddle on your child, but where is your feces paddle to use for
personal sanitation when you go out (Deut.23:12-14)? Thats the
ONLY paddle mentioned in all the Bible, and only in the KJV! Why
isolate just ONE precept out of ONE lone book out of the Old Covenant
as perpetually binding, and discard all other Old Testament laws and
admonitions? You who insist that Christians MUST spank children and
discipline them no other way, you cherry-pick just ONE isolated verse
here and there out of ONE book of the Bible, Proverbs. You selectively
apply the scriptures that agree with you just so youll feel better about
venting your ungodly wrath on your own precious child who sometimes
makes your life a challenge!
Even the self-righteous Pharisees enjoyed watching other Jews fall
short in their lives, just so they could claim superiority over them and
rebuke them for being imperfect. And as for YOU being the one to
decide when to allow your believing child to pray for forgiveness, HES
ALREADY FORGIVEN! As your Christian child walks in the light as I am
in the light, he or she enjoys fellowship with Me and other believers,
and the precious blood of My Son washes ALL his or her sins away (I
John 1:7)! So why should a Christian dad want to hang onto their
childs faults long enough to carry out a paddling and do other things
to prove what a wonderful priest he is? Ego gratification has no place
in My church, or in the homes of its members!
Beware that you do not seek to supplant My position as High Priest in
the life of even your tiniest members, or youll be guilty of causing a
little one to stumble. Your trusting little child, who knows no better
than to believe every word you say, will see YOU as the god-figure in
his life, an angry bear whos always watching him like a hawk for slipups, poised to pounce on him with a paddle. For that youll fall under
My wrath (Matt.18:6). I will NOT tolerate any rivals in My position of
that ONE High Priest in heaven Who ever lives to make intercession for
My people (Heb.7:25).
I will NOT share My glory with anyone
(Isa.42:8). Least of all a pretend priest who cant wait to get to the
BOTTOM of the matter because his heart isnt right with God. King
Herod tried to steal some of my glory and he ended up as worm food
(Acts 12:22-23).
When someone says, I am Christ to you, or You can only reach
Jesus through me because Im your covering, that is the ANTICHRIST
(instead of Christ) spirit at work, not the Holy Spirit. The only mention
of any creature being a COVERING is a very negative one
(Ezek.28:14). The devil was once a covering spirit, as an anointed
cherub in heaven. Beware of casting off the garment of humility and
portraying yourself as a godlike figure to be feared and fled from by
your own loved ones.
Beware of forgetting that you are yet
unperfected and still in need of My grace and mercy. Do NOT fall for
this lie that your leadership role in the family exempts you from having
to receive My rebuke or correction. Beware of demonic deception
which comes in the form of deeper life teachings in books, DVDs,
seminars, and videos.
Spanking teachers resort to hidden mysticism interpretations of
various scripture passages where they appeal to the believers
obligation to grow by suffering like Christ did. And theyll tell you that
you must deny yourself by never objecting to anything authority
figures teach or tell you to do. Children arent supposed to even
question any order daddy gives them, contrary to I Thes.5:21 which
tells believers to PROVE ALL THINGS. Children are supposed to obey
their parents IN THE LORD, and you cant do something IN THE LORD
if My Word spells it out as a blatant sin. Obviously, if the childs
parents tell them to steal a candy bar, the child is free to consult Me
about it to see if I approve. In such a case, the child is free to disobey!
Christian dads who listen to spanking teachers do their utmost to force
their children, sometimes even their wives, to share in the sufferings
of Christ. Theyll impose over-regulated living semi-ascetic lifestyles
on their family, which causes weariness, fear, tedium and exhaustion.
The professed priesthood of abusive Christian men makes them feel
far less guilty about inflicting pain on their own loved ones! And they
claim to be leading their family in The Way of the Cross by having to
suffer with them!
You appropriate My forgiveness by faith. Forgiveness, like every other
benefit of the Cross of Calvary, was provided long ago. Colossians
fear him.
14 For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.