Positive Parenting

 Developmental Stages

 Parenting Styles

 Tips and Techniques

Developmental Stages
Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages
care and attention neglected

Caring, uncaring,
Trust insecure
encourage to explore disapprove of exploration

independence self-doubt
encourage initiative discourage initiative

creator lack of self-worth

 Boys
 the nature of boy fantasy
 like to read super-powers, science fiction, conflict,
violence, captain underpants, Pokemon and the
Guinness Book of Records
 myth = boys don’t feel
 mother’s “still face” experiment

(Michael Thompson)
Parenting Styles
 Diana Bamrind

independence
Warmth, Supportive
maturity
self-reliance
self-control
curiosity
friendliness behavioral control
achievement -oriented
Parenting Style
 Brick wall
•Authoritarian
•high in control
•value respect for
authority obedience
•discourage discussion
 Jellyfish
•Permissive
•accepting and warm
•little control
•refuses to discipline
•allow children to set their own
rules and schedules and
activities
•let their children do whatever
they want
 Backbone
•Authoritative
•controlling but flexible
•firm, with kindness, warmth and
love
•establish clear rules and
expectations and discuss with the
child.
•encourage independence with lots
of support
•consistency, fairness, and respect
 Annie, aged 4, has
grabbed a ball from Luisa,
another child. You come back
Brickwall
right this minute
Parent
and give that ball

Jellyfish
do nothing
Parent
 You come back
Annie, aged 4, has right this minute
grabbed a ball from Luisa, and give that ball
another child. back to Luisa
Brickwall Parent

Jellyfish Parent

do nothing
 ?
What would their child be like?
 Children’s style
Easy children are calm, happy,
adaptable

Difficult children are often fussy,

easily upset, high strung, and
intense in their reactions.

Slow to warm up children tend to

withdraw to novelty, and gradually
become more positive with
experience.
What can we do?
 How we say it.

 tone of voice : calm, firm

 eye contact
 full attention
 have patience
 Structure

 Setting up routine
 Transition - explain before happening
 "In 5 minutes, play time will be over,"
 “We will leave the house in 10 minutes, please
finish your breakfast.
 How to change a behavior with the
use of reward

When How
new behavior What explain desired
behavior and reward
behavior we
want to change pick 1 reward the child
be patient
6 month
 How to change a behavior with the
use of reward
When
restore toys How
after play
“if you restore your
toys every time after
What you play, you can have
an extra bedtime
be patient story”

• be careful about giving rewards to behaviors that they know they should do anyway
• reward the “right” behavior
 Reward
 Reward your child with what they will be interested with

Some examples:

 Reward 1 for doing their best at schoolwork: An

educational trip.

 Reward 2 for doing their best at schoolwork: A special

cooked meal where you invite your child to cook with
you.

 Reward 3 for doing their best at schoolwork: A parent

child date.
Empower them

 provide options

 allow time for them

to make decision

 take action by
following what has
been decided
 Redirect

 For toddlers, redirect the to something similar.

 “That is Tom’s paper. Here is your paper.”
 “Peter needs that toy. Here is a toy for you.”
 Redirect

 State firmly what is not to be done

 demonstrate how we do it or a better way
 “We don’t hit. Pat my face gently.”
 “Puzzle pieces are not for throwing. Let’s put
them in their places together”
Redirect II
 Feeling
 Parents don’t usually realize when they denial
children’s feeling.
 this confuses and enrages the children
 also teaches them not to know what their feelings
are - not to trust them.
 as early as 2 years old, children can recognize
feelings when emotions are labeled by adult.
 conversation 1
 Child : Mommy, I am tired.
 Mother : You couldn’t be tired. You just napped.
 Child: (loud) But I’m tired.
 Mother: You’re not tired. You’re just a little sleepy.
Let’s get dressed.
 Child: No, I’m tired.
 conversation 2
 Child : That TV show was boring.
 Mother : No it wasn’t. It was very interesting.
 Child: It was stupid.
 Mother: It was educational.
 Child: It stunk.
 Mother: Don’t talk that way!
 Resources
Developmental stages

1.Yardsticks : Children in the classroom age 4-14 by Chip Wood

2.PBS parent
http://www.pbs.org/parents/childdevelopment/

3.Michael Thompson. All about boys

http://www.michaelthompson-phd.com/questions.htm
http://www.pbs.org/previews/raisingcain/

4.Raising Girls
http://www.pbs.org/parents/raisinggirls/

Parenting Styles
5.NYU Child study center
http://www.aboutourkids.org/articles/parenting_styleschildren039s_temperaments_match

6.Growing Miracles: What's Your Parenting Style?

http://www.healthlinkalberta.ca/Topic.asp?GUID={5BED023E-E418-4E83-8530-
D47B24503AE0}
 Tips and Techniques

6. How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber and
Elaine Mazlish

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7. Child Behavior: What Parents Can Do to Change Their Child's Behavior

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/children/parents/behavior/
201.html (American Academy of Family Physicians)

8. How To Reward Your Kids For Learning Effort

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/64485/
how _to_reward_your_kids_for_ learning.html?cat=4
 school website
 From Kindergarten Through Third Grade: Children's
Beginning School Experiences
https://nces.ed.gov/pubsearch/pubsinfo.asp?
pubid=2004007

 You've Got to be Kidding Problem Solving Activity

http://pbskids.org/arthur/games/yougottobekidding/

 elf-Concept Lesson Plans

http://www.educationworld.com/a_lesson/lesson/
lesson085.shtml
 Thai books
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