Asking For And Giving Permission

Asking for and giving permission:

When you ask for permission to use something that belongs to someone else you have to do your best to be polite. It is desirable to use the word "please." Asking for Permission:

Can I go out, please? May I open the window, please? Please, can I have a look at your photo album? Please, may I taste that hot spicy couscous dish? Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your mobile Phone?

Giving Permission:

Yes, please do. Sure, go ahead. Sure. No problem. Please feel free.

Refusing to give permission:

No, please dont. Im sorry, but thats not possible. I'm afraid, but you can't.

Dialogue:
Liza, eight years old, is asking her mother for permission to use the computer... Liza: Her mother: Liza: Her mother: Liza: Please mum, can I use the computer? No, dear you can't. It's time to go to bed. May I read a story before I sleep? Sure! But try to sleep early. Thanks a lot mummy.

Asking and giving agreement.

Alexis and all her classmates are going to Disneyland, Paris. Alexsis is chatting with her best friend, Justin. Alexis : its very exciting today. Justin : yes, it is. Im having so much fun. Alexis : which is the most exciting game for you here? Justin : well, I must say that roller coaster is the most exciting game. Do you agree with me? Alexis : yes, I agree with you. The roller coaster gave me an unforgettable experience. I think I want to ride it again. Justin : yes, me too.

In telephone Conversation.
Aiwa : hello. Veronica : hello. May I speak to Aiwa? Aiwa : this is Aiwa. Whos speaking? Veronica : this is Ver. I just want to tell you that I cant go to Tokyo with you next week. Aiwa : hold on, tell me whats wrong? Veronica : well, my brother is being treated in the hospital for a dengue fever. So I have to stay in Canada for a week. Aiwa : oh, Im sorry to hear that. I hope your brother get well soon. Hey, I know. I can change my ticket to Canada; we can go together, right? Veronica : yeah, Aiwa thats a good idea. Well see you in the air pot. Aiwa : see you.

In telephone conversation.
Dean : hello! Lucy? Lucy : hi, dean. How are you? Dean : fine, thanks. I heard you are in London now. Lucy : yes. How is in New york, Dean? Dean : its foggy here, its 32 Fahrenheit. How about London? Lucy : well, its very cold here. Its -1degrees Celsius. Dean : wow.. thats very cold. Lucy : ok then. I call you later. Dean : ok. Bye.

Conversation with a Stranger.

Melanie : nice day, isnt it? The girl : yeah. The sky is so clear. I love this weather Meanie : so do i. We can go everywhere. The girl : but I heard the rain will come soon this week. Melanie : really? Well. It is the season The girl : you are right. Um. The bus seems to be running late. Melanie : I think so. How long have you been waiting? The girl : about twenty minutes. Melanie : are you in hurry? The girl : yeah. Im in hurry. I must reach the hospital before evening. Melanie : ooh, here is my bus. Well, I have to go now. Nice meeting you. The girl : likewise.

Conversation with a stranger.

Clara : hello. Its hot day today, isnt it? Trisha : right. Thats what I like about Indonesia. Clara : do you? Trisha : yeah. I can sunbath anytime I want. Clara : by the way, is this your first time here? Trisha : no, it is my second visit. I like Indonesia. Clara : well, I bet you do. Trisha : Uhhmm sorry, I have to go now. Nice talking to you. Clara : nice talking to you. Good bye. Trisha : good bye.

Asking permission Can I close the windoe, please? Please let me have the car tonight. May I close the door, please? Do you mind if I smoke?

 Would you mind if I went with her? May I have your permission to marry your daughter?

B. Giving permission: Sure, go head. Its okay with me. No, I dont mind. Why not? You have my permission. I wont stop you. Certainly.

C. Denying permission: No, you may not. You cant. Yes, I do mind. I dont think so. I will not permit you to. I absolutely forbid you.

Example: 1. In the office: Paul Terry Paul : Terry, do you have a ruler? : Yes. : Can I borrow the ruler?

Terry Paul Teryy Paul Terry Paul

: Certainly. But dont forget to return it to me. : and, uhm. Do you have a calculator, too? : yes. : do you mind if I borrow it for a moment? : I dont think so. Im using it at this moment. : never mind, then.

2. Butet asks Umang for a ride in his car. Butet Umang Butet Umang Butet Umang : Mang, are you going downtown? : yes, I am. : would you mind if I went with you? : why no? get in. where do you want to go? : wherever. Its okay with me. : all right.

3. Sita is walking home from the office. She meets Anton on the street. He is riding a motorcycle. Anton Sita Anton : hey, Sit. Are you going home now? : yes. : can I take you home, please? : sure, why not. Thats nice for you! : put on this helmet, please. : certainly.

Sita Anton Sita

Inviting, Accepting & Declining Invitation

Inviting:

Would you like to . Could you come to Id very much like Would you care to . Ill really happy if you come to. Im sure that you wont be disappointed to come to.

Accepting an Invitation

Thank you for inviting me. I would/will . That would be very nice. Id like to love to come. Thats fine. Sure. Why not?

Declining an Invitation

Im very sorry, I dont think I can. Id like to, but . Thank you for asking me, but . Unfortunately, I cant .

Dialog Examples: Dialog 1 Ludi Invites Maya to go to a Movie Ludi : Hi, Maya. There will be a great film tonight. Its about vampire. Would you like to go to the movie with me? Maya : Yes, Id like tonvery much. When will you pick me up? Ludi : Ill pick you at 7.00. Be ready, OK! Maya : Alright.

Dialog 2

Afif is very busy doing his homework. Sheila, his friend, asks him to come to her party. Sheila : Heloo, this is Sheila. May I speak to Afif? Afif : This is Afif speaking.

Sheila : Oh, hi Afif. I wonder if youd like to come to my house right now. Were having a great party. Afif : I dont think I can. Im doing my homework. My parents wont

let me out before I finish my homework. Sheila : Thats alright. Afif : I hope you enjoy your party. Bye.

Sheila : Bye.

Making, Accepting and Refusing Invitations

1. Making Invitations Sample phrases (from formal to informal) - I would like to invite you to dinner next Sunday at my home. - I was wondering if you'd like to come to dinner on Wednesday evening. - Would you like/care to have dinner with us on Saturday? - What/How about dinner tonight? - Let's go to our place for dinner. 2. Accepting Invitations Sample phrases (from formal to informal) - Thanks for your invitation. I'd be delighted to. - Thank you. I'd love to. - Yes, thanks. That would be great/wonderful. - Sounds great/like fun. - OK/All right.

3. Refusing Invitations Sample phrases (from formal to informal) - I'm awfully/terribly sorry. I have other plans for that night. - I'd really like to, but I have an appointment that day. - Thanks for asking, but I'm afraid I'm busy. - I can't. I've got a lot of work to do. - Sorry. I'm already tied up. 4. Hesitating Sample phrases (from formal to informal) - Thank you, but I'll have to check my calendar. Do you mind if I tell you on Monday? - I'm not sure what my plans are. Could I get back to you tomorrow? - I might be busy. I'll let you know later.

NDERSTANDING OR EXPRESSING REQUEST, ASKING, GIVING AND REFUSING PERMISSION

UNDERSTANDING OR EXPRESSING REQUEST, ASKING, GIVING AND REFUSING PERMISSION (Mengungkapkan permintaan, memberi dan memberikan ijin) Study the following dialogue. Jane : Is it a new car John? John : Yes, it is a brand new Peugeut 307. Is it all right if I park my car here? Jane : Im sorry thats not allowed. It is too close to the intersection. The car on the right side can not see it. John : Over there, I think. There, it will not disturb the traffic. Jane : Yes, thats fine. It is behind my house. What brings you here? John : I remember you bought a Nikon camera long time ago. Jane : Oh, my old camera. Yes, I did. Why? John : Do you mind if I borrow that camera for a few days? Jane : Sure, John, but are you kidding? You drive an expensive car but you dont have a camera. John : it is urgent. I dont know where mine is. My friend from British Co nsulate called me last week. I have to take pictures of Queen Elizabeth at the Buckingham palace next week. Her photos will be exhibited in Time magazine next month. Jane : Wow! Congratulations, John.

John : Thank you, Jane. Answer these questions. 1. Who are involved in the dialogue above? 2. Who has a new car? 3. Why did he want to borrow Janes camera? 4. What is John? 5. I dont know . where mine is. What does the word mine refer to? 6. In the conversation above which sentences express:
A

request

Asking permission Giving permission Refusing permission

7. Now try to create a short dialogue using other expressions of request, asking, giving and refusing permission.

Notify me of follow-up comments via email. Notify me of site updates Can I ask you a question? May I have a piece of cake? Could I get you to turn off the lights Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Giving Permission Sure. Go ahead. No problem.

Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your lawn mower? Sorry, but I'd rather you didn't. I'm afraid not. I'd prefer you not do. Can I ask you a question?

May I have a piece of cake? Could I get you to turn off the lights Some other common phrases are Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your lawn mower? Giving Permission Sure. Go ahead. No problem.

Asking For And Giving Permission

Asking for and giving permission:

When you ask for permission to use something that belongs to someone else you have to do your best to be polite. It is desirable to use the word "please." Asking for Permission:

Can I go out, please? May I open the window, please? Please, can I have a look at your photo album? Please, may I taste that hot spicy couscous dish? Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your mobile Phone?

Giving Permission:

Yes, please do. Sure, go ahead. Sure. No problem. Please feel free.

Refusing to give permission:

No, please dont. Im sorry, but thats not possible. I'm afraid, but you can't.

Dialogue:
Liza, eight years old, is asking her mother for permission to use the computer... Please mum, can I use the computer? Liza: No, dear you can't. It's time to go to bed. Her mother: May I read a story before I sleep? Liza: Sure! But try to sleep early. Her mother: Thanks a lot mummy. Liza:

Asking For And Giving Permission

Asking for and giving permission:

When you ask for permission to use something that belongs to someone else you have to do your best to be polite. It is desirable to use the word "please." Asking for Permission:

Can I go out, please? May I open the window, please? Please, can I have a look at your photo album? Please, may I taste that hot spicy couscous dish? Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your mobile Phone?

Giving Permission:

Yes, please do. Sure, go ahead. Sure. No problem. Please feel free.

Refusing to give permission:

No, please dont. Im sorry, but thats not possible. I'm afraid, but you can't.

Dialogue:
Liza, eight years old, is asking her mother for permission to use the computer... Please mum, can I use the computer? Liza: No, dear you can't. It's time to go to bed. Her mother: May I read a story before I sleep? Liza: Sure! But try to sleep early. Her mother: Thanks a lot mummy. Liza: Hello, The following examples are all ways of asking for permission. What are the differences between them ? a.Do you mind if I smoke? b.May I smoke here? c.You don't mind if I smoke,do you? d.Is smoking prmitted here? e.Is it okay to smoke here? which example seems to be : 1.Something you can say about official regulation? 2.What people say when they think it is all right to smoke? 3.Very polite -the kind of thing you say when you don't know the other person very well. 4.Not very formal but still polite? 5.Very informal? Could anybody help me please ? Warm regards, Rosev Can I ask you a question? (Bolehkah saya bertanya?) May I have a piece of cake? (Bolehkah saya makan kue ini?) Could I get you to turn off the lights? (Bisa padamkan lampunya?) Beberapa frase yang umum lainnya adalah: (frase inti yang dicetak tebal, silakan dikembangkan).

Do you mind if I smoke? (Bolehkah saya merokok?) Would you mind if I asked you something? (Bolehkah saya bertnya sesuatu?) Is it okay if I sit here? (Tidak mengapa saya duduk di sini?) Would it be all right if I borrowd your lawn mower? (Apakah boleh saya meminjam mesin pemotong rumputmu?) Untuk memberikan izin/permisi digunakan frase semacam: Sure (tentu saja) Go ahead (silakan) No problem (tidak masalah) (material adapted from: eslgold)

INVITATION) Accepting and refusing politely may depend on what you are asked. For example

Would you like some cake?

Yes, please. Sure. Thanks Okay. Thank you No, thank you I'd better not. No, but thanks for offering.

Would you like to go see a movie?

Okay. Sounds good. Sure. I'd love to. Yeah. Good idea No, I'd rather not. I'm sorry, but I can't. No, but thanks for inviting me.

How about some more pie?

All right. Thanks Looks good. Thanks Don't mind if I do. No, thanks. I'm really full. Thanks anyway. Looks delicious, but I'll have to pass.

How about going skiing this weekend?

Great. What time? Sounds like fun. All right. When and where? Sorry. I'm busy this weekend. I don't think I can. How about some other time?

Expression of making accepting and declining invitation

Expression of making accepting and declining invitation Sometimes, we have a situation and have to also invite some of friends to come. There are many situations that probably happened in our daily life, such as meeting, birthday party, graduation party etc. of course, we have to make an invitation for our guests. There will be two answers for them who are invited by us, they may come or accept the invitation and they may not come or decline the invitation. The situation will be divided into formal and informal. There is differences expression that is use in the different context of situation. Expression to make, accept or decline in vitiation in formal situation. Making in vitiation Would you like to? I would very happy if? We would be delighted if you? Would you care to..? We would be pleased if you could? Would you care to? Accepting invitation Thats very kind of you Wed like very much to. What a delightful idea With the greatest pleasure Thank you very much for inviting me Its delightful to. Declining invitation Im very sorry, I dont Think I can. Id like to, but . Im afraid Ive Already promised. Thank you for asking me, but . Unfortunately , I cant. Expression to make, accept or decline in vitiation informal situation Making invitation Why dont you come to Like to come to

Come and Shall we come to You must come to Accepting invitation I would/will That would be very nice OK,I will be there ! Id like love to come. All right. Sure, I am coming Declining invitation Sort, I cant. Id love to, but I dont think I can. In wish I could, but Sorry, I am very busy Sorry, may be next time Thank you, but I cant Sorry, I dont think I Cant make it Im so sorry I can make it

How to Accept and Refuse an Invitation

It can sometimes be difficult to accept, refuse and extend an invitation. However, for someone who is new to the English as a second language, understanding the custom and finding the right vocabulary can sometimes be a challenge. Accepting and declining an invitation may vary depending on the occasion. One can extend an invitation formally ( by mail, email) or informally (by mail, email, phone, texting, or face to face, which is done verbally). There are a few forms/phrases one can use when accepting, declining or extending an invitation.

FORMAL : Extending an Invitation: "(Your Name) would like to invite (name of person being invited) to dinner on (date) at (time). R.S.V.P. (respondez s'il vous plait)." Declining an Invitation: "(Your name), regretfully decline (name of invitee) invitation to dinner on (date) at (time)." Accepting an Invitation: "(Your name) accepts (name of invitee) kind invitation to dinner on (date) at (time)."

INFORMAL: Invitation (telephone): "Would you like to come to ________?" Accepting (telephone): "Thank you for thinking of me, I would love to come!" OR "I would love to come! But let me check my calendar first and get back to you." Declining: "I need some time to think about it/check my calendar. I will have to call you back." OR "Thanks for thinking of me, but I have (made) other plans." MAIL/EMAIL/TEXT: Extending an Invitation (usually a note written in the first person): "I would like to invite you to (occasion) on (date) at (time). I would love to have you as my guest."

Response: "I would love to be there!/I would love to come! Thanks for the invite/for thinking of me. (Keep me posted if there are any changes)." Decline: "I have (made other) plans. Unfortunately, I won't be able to make it. Thanks for the invite/invitation."

Dialog:
Use the dialog below to practice the forms above. Michelle is throwing a Halloween party and has decided to invite her friends by telephone. Michelle is calling the first friend on the list; Jake, to invite him. Michelle: Hi Jake! How are you? Jake: Good! What's up? Michelle: Well, I have made the final arrangements for the Halloween party I'm throwing this year and I am now calling everyone on my list. Jake: That's good to hear. Michelle: I would like to invite you to my Halloween party on Halloween, of course. It's at 7pm (in the evening). Jake: I would love to come. Please hold on a minute while I check my calendar. Michelle: Sure! (Jake returns to the phone). Jake: I am available, however, I won't be there until 8:30 pm because I have an evening lecture. Thanks for thinking of me! Michelle: My pleasure! I will see you there. Call me if there are any changes. Jake: No problem. Michelle: Great! Bye for now. Jake: Bye.

Now your turn!

Think of an event or occasion and use the forms above to practice/role play with a friend. You: Hi (name of friend). I would like to _________________ (use the form above). Your friend: _____________________ (Use the form above to accept or decline).

Look at this conversation! David Terry David Terry David Terry David Terry : would you like to go with me to Dianas birthday party next Sunday? : sure. Id like to. : great. : what time is the party? : the party is at 07.00 so i will pick you up at 06.30. : okay. Do i need to bring a present with me? : no. Ill take care of it. : okay, then. See you next Sunday.

In the conversation above, you will find useful expression that is the expression for inviting someone. Below are some common expressions used when making invitations: Formal invitations: - Would you like to go to the mall Saturday night? - Will you see a movie with me? - I was wondering if we can see a concert tonight. - I would like to invite you for dinner tonight. Informal invitations: - Do you want to go to the zoo? - How about going to the mall together? - Lets have dinner on Sunday. - Lets play tennis together.

Create formal and informal invitations for the following purposes. See the example: Invitation to 1.. Birthday Party Formal Would you like to go to my Informal Do you want to go to my

party? 2. Graduation party

birthday party?

3. Baseball game

4. Maher Zain concert

5. School Play

6. Dinner

7. Soccer

If your friend invites you, you may accept or refuse his invitation. Here are some expressions used for accepting and refusing invitation: Accepting Invitations - Sure. What time? - Sounds like a good idea - Yes, i would - Id like to - Id love to - Okay. Refusing Invitations - Sounds good. But i cant. - No, thanks. - Id love to, but i cant - I would love to but i cant - No, but thanks for inviting me. - No, id better not. - sounds great but i dont think i can. - Im affraid i cant accept your invitation.

When you refuse an invitation, it is common to give an excuse. For example: - Id love to, but i cant. I have an exam tomorrow. - Sounds good, but i dont think i can. I have to work late. - No, id better not. My parents wont allow me to go. - Im afraid i cant. I have other plans.

Read the conversation below and answer the questions! Linda Anna Linda Anna Linda Anna Linda : Anna, are you doing anything tonight? : Not really. Why? : im going to a movie tonight. I wonder if you want to come with me. : What kind of movie is it? : its an action movie. : no, thanks. Im not really into action movie.

: What about having dinner?. My mother is going to go to Jakarta with my father tonight. I cannot cook.

Anna Linda Anna Linda Anna

: Oh, sure. Where? : I heard Roka restaurant is excellent. Do you want to go there? : sounds good. : Okay. Ill pick you up at your house at seven. : Okay. See you then. Permission Can I ask you a question? May I have a piece of cake? Could I get you to turn off the lights

Some other common phrases are Do you mind if I smoke? Would you mind if I asked you something? Is it okay if I sit here? Would it be all right if I borrowed your lawn mower?

Giving Permission Sure.

Go ahead. No problem.

Asking for and giving permission

January 23, 2013 So you want to use something that belongs to someone else. If you do it without their permission, you might land in trouble. While asking for permission you have to sound as polite as you can. Remember that if you use polite language, your chances of getting permission are high. The easiest way to make a request polite is by using the word please. Here are some example sentences.

Can I use your computer, please? Can I play games on your cell phone, please? Can I have a look at your drawings? May I come in, Sir? Can I go now? May I taste that spicy dish? Can I put the heating on? Can I borrow your car? Can I park here?

Giving Permission: To give permission, you can use one of the following phrases.

Yes, please do. Of course. No problem. Sure, go ahead. Please feel free.

If you want to deny permission, you can use one of the following phrases.

Im afraid not. Im sorry, but that is not possible. Im afraid, but you cant.

Dialogue: Situation Mary is asking her brother for permission to ride his bicycle.

Mary: Please John, can I ride your bicycle? John: No dear, you cant. You are too young to ride a bicycle without supporting wheels. Mary: But I can ride it with your help. Wont you help me, please? John: Sure. Mary: Thank you very much.

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How to Express Agreement & Disagreement in English

By Leyla Norman, eHow Contributor

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Learn to disagree respectfully in English.

Telling people how you feel about something they have just said in English requires a bit of finesse. You have to be able to say what you want to say without offending the other person. In English, this often means finding round about ways of saying what you want to say and using a

lot of polite expressions in your speech. Frankness is something that English speakers do not necessarily appreciate. Learn to express your agreement and disagreement by using various polite phrases. (See Reference 1.)

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Instructions 1. To Agree
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Nod your head "yes," and murmur "Mmmhmm." This is the simplest way to acknowledge what someone says and that you agree in English.
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Wait until is your turn to speak, and use expressions such as "I agree with. . .," "I think. . .is a good idea," and "I think you're right."
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Begin by agreeing with what another person has said, but add a qualifier if you do not completely agree. For example, say "I agree with you, but. . ."; "That makes sense; however. . ."; or "It's a good idea, but. . ." (See Reference 2.) If you agree with everything that the other person says, you can say, "I completely agree," or "You're totally correct/right."

2. To Disagree
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Remain calm. Keep any anger or disrespect in check. Calmly express your disagreement, all the while respecting the other person's opinions.
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Use phrases such as "I disagree because. . ."; "The problem with that is. . ."; "The way I see it. . ."; "I'm against it because. . ."; "Instead, I think that. . ."
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Say "I'm afraid. . ." before you finish your disagreement statement. For example, you could say "I'm afraid I don't agree with you," or "I'm afraid I can't agree." If you do not agree with anything the other person has said, you can say, "I am afraid I completely disagree with you." This are examples of how to remain polite in expressing your disagreement in English. (See Reference 3.)
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Notice that when you disagree with someone in English, you need to give a reason why you disagree. It is not enough to simply state that you think the other person is wrong and leave it at that. Explain your thoughts and opinions fully.
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Offer solutions when you disagree as well. You may not like the other person's way of looking at a situation, but, unless you can come up with a better idea, it may be better to not say anything at all. Use phrases such as "I think we should. . ."; "We could. . ."; "One solution may be. . ." (See Reference 2.) Notice that these phrases use words like "should" and "could" that indicate that there may be other solutions that are equally feasible and acceptable. This is another example of how English speakers generally try not to speak so forthrightly and assert that their opinion is the only one that is correct.
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Disagreeing I agree. I agree entirely / completely. I certainly agree with that. I couldnt agree more. Thats a good point. I share the same view. Thats exactly what I was thinking myself. Im afraid I dont agree. I disagree with you. Im sorry, but I disagree. Sorry to say it, but youre wrong. Yes, thats quite true, but I dont share this view. I dont share this view with you.

I quite agree with you Youre definitely / absolutely right. Youre quite right Thats just how I see it. I suppose so.

Im afraid youre wrong there. Im not sure I quite agree with you here. Perhaps, but dont you agree? I see what you mean, but I suppose not