Female Psychology 101

What Do Women Want?

to feel like a woman in the words of a female friend talking about her ideal man:
he could knock someone out but probably wont today or anything hes a little mischievous... knows some sort of secret that you dont even know you want to know yet he has already envisioned pulling your hair really hard, and figured out that youd like it regardless of what you think hes self-content doesnt need your approval to legitimize his day or night or anything but in that same moment gives the distinct impression that if he could have you well, its as if it would change the world.

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Decoding Female Logic

they want to feel comfortable and secure they want to feel excited and aroused they want to feel engaged and enchanted

lets look at all of this in the context of female sexual attraction

Engagement + Arousal + Comfort

engagement = active interest and participation in someone elses life

curiosity, potential future outcomes,chasing a shiny object,

arousal = emotional preparedness for mating

being desired, laughing and feeling good, physical stimulation, fear

comfort = emotional state of assuredness, free of worry

trust in reputation, similar value systems, empathy, vulnerability

One Word to Rule Them All: Confidence

safe, yet mysteriously arousing

Comfort

Interest & Enchantment

Attraction & Arousal

A feeling of self-assurance arising from ones self-appreciation of ones own abilities or qualities. confidence with women:

Boredom

Fear

Annoyance

Discomfort

self-appreciation of who you uniquely are self-appreciation of your own life and what you can add to others self-appreciation of your ability to make women feel good sharing these things with women in a way that adds value

The Value of Being a Nice Guy

it makes them feel comfort

But no strength in your masculinity

Comfort

it doesnt excite them

Boredom

Fear

all of his actions indicate the he doesnt feel that he naturally deserves her sexually
Annoyance Hostility

Discomfort

caveat: it can work with some insecure girls, or women who are looking to settle down

The Value of Being a Jerk

his aloofness and non-neediness are not genuine confidence, but may feel that way to a woman
Boredom

Excitement

Attraction & Arousal

Fear

if he is dominant, it is very exciting, potentially arousal-inducing

Annoyance Hostility Discomfort

you cannot be a jerk without being dominant

the DYD effect: cocky/funny and closed off

women arent attracted to the fact that hes a jerk, theyre attracted to the strong qualities he possesses

The Value of Looks, Cars, Money, etc.

indicators of value sometimes forms of stimulation some women have specific preferences
Boredom

SPECIFIC VALUE FILTER

Interest & Enchantment

Fear

identity: Ill only date rich guys in finance

Annoyance Discomfort

sometimes, but rarely, lead to sex and relationships

Hostility

the virgin male model the hapless but rich investment banker

The Value of Your Words

your words are an expression of your confidence and personality emotionally stimulating

used to trigger arousal used to create comfort used to engage her

learning what to say and do is important

not making social errors and lowering the value of the place

dont get hung up on perfection - mediocre words from a confident man always triumph over hilarity from a wimp

The Value of Sex

the extreme of arousal: they take immense pleasure from sex

the go mechanism: arousal or no arousal

except for rare instances, having sex means thinking ahead

the no mechanism: comfort or no comfort the less arousing you are, the more interesting you must be to them with respect to their specific preferences

sex is a big deal, but not a big deal with the right man

the right man = the man who quickly stimulates intrigue, arousal and comfort

Different Women Value Different Things

different places in lives, different goals and values

criteria: humor vs. dominance

different sensitivities to arousal and comfort different willingness to commit dont make the mistake of thinking that all women have to be taken through the same courtship process dont make the mistake of thinking that any woman can be stolen with good game

Tests for Confidence and High Value

can he stand up to the pressures of the world? different types of tests

originating out of respect and passion originating out of insecurity and fear of loss

examples of tests
token resistance to kisses why didnt you stand up to your boss at work? why dont you say you love me?

Female Psychology: A Summary

women look for confidence and high value to feel engagement, comfort, and arousal different women seek different types of men
become a naturally attractive, confident, social man remove the blocks that prevent you from connecting with women you will rarely win on being interesting and appealing to their preferences alone

they want a man who deserves them, and will test for it to know that their arousal and comfort is for real