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HAPPINESS MANAGEMENT

Ylmaz DNDAR

Ankara 2013

Happines Management Ylmaz Dndar

3rd Edition January 2013

ISBN: 978-605-87210-9-8

PREFACE Happiness is a situation that has to be managed. It could only be acquired and made sustainable by managing. Ability to decide is the first step in the route to someones happiness. When someone is strip of this ability, the route to his/her happiness is blockaded. While the trio to be managed for happiness is wisdom, decision, and idea, the trio that destroys happiness is assumption, doubt, and prejudice. The one who can manage the former trio can learn to love what exists as it is, an ability that is indispensable for happiness. Loving what exists as it is is an ability that could only be acquired through wisdom. Besides being necessary for personal freedom, it is also required for the establishment of universal love and peace. Assumption, doubt, and prejudice vicious circle forms a fanatic point of view as a habitual perspective for the one involved in it. As a result, discrimination and violence develop, and subsequently, unhappy life becomes an established routine for him/her.

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It is a universal responsibility for the human being to protect wisdom and brain, where it is located, to transmit wisdom or to ensure its transmission to next generations via high abilities of his/her present characteristics that are genes. One of the measures to be taken to ensure this transmission is wise nutrition, that is, to protect wisdom while getting nutrients, shortly alimentation for wisdom. In this booklet, the person who manages wisdom, decision, and idea trio is referred as the idea owner, while the one who leads a life in accordance with assumption, doubt, and prejudice is referred as the idea porter. Ylmaz DNDAR

Almost all people aim to be happy either consciously with a plan or unconsciously without any plan. However, upon asked, only a few of those who want to be happy will be able to express what happiness is or under which conditions they can be happy. This being the case, the following questions emerge: How can we reach something that we can not define clearly? And, How can we make a life plan for something that we do not know exactly? Without answering such questions satisfactorily, I do not think that our efforts bring us happiness we wish. There is another factor affecting negatively our seeking for happiness. For me, we usually confuse happiness with two other terms, namely comfort and pleasure. Indeed, we should be able to recognize the states in our life described by these terms and differentiate them

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from each other. In other words, we should not suppose and label a state of life that can truly be described by comfort or by pleasure as happiness. To make it clear, I would like to give an example. Lets suppose someone who thinks that he will be happier if he can buy a car. When he gets the car he wishes, for me in reality, he does not become any happier but just more comfortable. Similarly, someone thinking that he will be happier if he meets his uncle in the evening becomes just more pleased, not happier, when his wish is realized. For many, this view on the real meaning of happiness may actually seem to be an unnecessarily detailed one. For me, however, such a careful view is so important that our life will certainly be more difficult when it is ignored. Upon adopting above given view on the real meaning of happiness, one notices that happiness is closely related to the brain. Indeed, it is an output of the brain. Hence, the real happiness, not confused with comfort or pleasure, should be thought in close connection with the wisdom. Ones ability to use his

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wisdom and a caring environment for the outputs of his wisdom bring him potential happiness. Therefore, he should not hesitate to use his wisdom freely because the wisdom does not produce any false outcome when it is used sufficiently. In other words, falsity results from the insufficient use of the wisdom. The most significant output of ones wisdom is decision. In fact, decision is the sole output of the wisdom that makes one feel himself as human. It is the key for his happiness. If this key is bereaved, it is not possible for him to be happy. For example, if we examine closely the case of a couple with an unhappy marriage and problems in their relationship, we see that each complains about falling on deaf ears, not being considered important, or not being cared by the other. A careful look shows us that all such complaints are closely related to their state regarding decision. In fact, such complaints are the direct result of inability to take a decision, to express a decision, and to feel the importance of a decision. As a result, one with no way to take decision is certainly

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subject to unhappiness; even if he leads a very luxury life. The presence of the ability to take decision is a sine qua non condition for one to be happy, but it is not sufficient just itself. The manner of presenting an idea, which is the reflection of the decision in the reality, also determines the level of ones happiness. Therefore, besides above mentioned need for not confusing the state of happiness with comfort and pleasure, it is also necessary to be aware of the connection between happiness on the one hand and wisdom, decision, and idea on the other. The manner of presenting an idea is so closely connected with ones happiness that a right and correct decision may result in unhappiness for him if it is expressed by an inappropriate manner. Presentation of a truth by an inappropriate manner constantly may cause for the development of an antipathy on the target person against that truth, even make him an enemy to it. In the light of the explanations given above, I am of the opinion that Happiness

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Management should be a way of life, deserving a very high level of importance from all of us. To make the content of the term clear, in the following pages, I would like to use a comparison method, which is extensively used by the human brain for the purposes of learning, recognizing, and establishing correlations. I will try to compare basic characteristics of the people around us dividing them into two main groups. These groups of people lead two different ways of life, which are the most common ones in the society and can easily be observed. I have labeled these two stereotypes as the idea owner and the idea porter. While the idea owner represents those with the way of life that is suitable to manage and ready to experience happiness, the idea porter represents those with the way of life that will never be able to experience happiness. To make the comparison followed easily, the behaviors or attitudes of the former are coded by an A and those of the latter are coded by a B. The same number given with both letters shows the behavior or the attitude of the

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each group being compared with each other. By means of this comparison, it will be possible to obtain the tips for the Happiness Management. 1.A) The idea owner recognizes easily the truths that are in compliance with the Universal General Truths. Consequently, he notices his own wrongdoings without any difficulty and tries to correct them. Since the truths he knows enable him to notice his own wrongdoings, the idea owner does not feel any inconvenience from listening to the ideas with some truths and from being with the people who develop ideas. In other words, because the idea owner has a philosophy based on ideas, he prepares the ground for the development of ideas and encourages people to do so. 1.B) Contrary to the above explained behavior of the idea owner, the idea porter usually thinks that he is right. Indeed, in his mind, it is already decided that he is the right. Therefore, it is usually very difficult for such a person to notice his wrongdoings; sometimes, it is even impossible for him to do so. Due

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to this constant manner of behavior, the idea porter often feel inconvenience from the people who develop ideas, and even find such people as know all. 2.A) The idea owner has got the accepting human nature. However, we should be careful about the meaning of the term accepting used here since the benefits from its practice depends largely on the condition that it is wellunderstood previously. If an act of accepting results from such attitudes as lack of care or necessity, it is a more dangerous act than a none-accepting one. A person who is involved in a wrongful behavior will blame the other person who has previously accepted this behavior with an attitude of lack of care. On the contrary, when the act of accepting we are trying to explain here is noticed by the target person, he appreciates the person performing this act previously. This is one of the basic distinctive features to be considered in understanding its real meaning of accepting human nature. Accepting shortly means to love what exists as it is. For someone to

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have got this nature, there should not be any feeling of being obliged to accept something. The act of accepting with some degree of accepting the inevitable, coercion, or indifference is mainly an emotional and relative behavior, and thus, wrong. On the contrary, the attitude of loving what exists as it is is a universal approach. Those who love what exists as it is do not try to change, redesign, or make similar to themselves the people they are in contact with, knowing that such attempts are wrong. They also know that they are not capable of changing any person other than themselves. However, if you accept the universal attitude of loving a person you are in contact with as he is, this will provide the opportunity for that person to change himself. The best example for the act of accepting what exists as it is is the soil. The soil accepts and enjoys the seed planted into it as they are. This act of accepting provides them with the opportunity to change, displaying their hidden skills to grow into new entities. This is also valid for individuals. If you love your kids

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as they are, you provide them with the opportunity to display their skills, to use their unlimited internal power, and to change themselves. The act of accepting we are trying to explain here also prevents someone from criticizing, or even blaming, others around him unnecessarily. This gives him the opportunity to experience the benefits of self-critics. Lets take a couple, a kid and his parents, or two friends, who are not on speaking terms with each other. If we ask separately each partner in these groups the reason for his/her anger and sulks against the other, the replies will mostly include criticizing or blaming statements on the other. If we also ask him/her the condition to make peace, to cease sulks, and to maintain good relations with his/ her partner, he/she will usually demand that the other change himself/herself and take new steps. On the contrary, in case of adopting the act of accepting what exists as it is, asking himself/herself what he/she can do for maintaining his/her relations in peace, each partner will turn himself/ herself and make the list of acts to be

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done by him/her instead of blaming the other, or listing the terms to be fulfilled by the other party. If both parties to a relationship accept the other as he/she is and makes the list of acts to be done by him/her, problems in their relations disappear. 2.B) It is nearly impossible for the idea porter to have the act of accepting in his relations towards others. On the contrary, he tries to dictate himself to others. He is also so eager to be confirmed that he uses every opportunity to do so with any subjective evidences. Since he supposes himself as Mr. Right to be confirmed, he blames those who act contrary to this assumption for being thoughtless, sometimes for being silly, and shows a bad temper against them. 3.A) The idea owner gets excited from learning truths, which increases his astonishment. The acts of recognizing, discovering, learning the truths, and at the end being astounded by them create a complimentary process in which each of these acts triggers one another. The idea owner wants to learn truths not

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just for the purpose of knowing them but particularly for building a life style in accordance with them. Today, having knowledge on something is no longer an important qualification. Technological advances have made it so easy to reach any knowledge that keeping a great deal of knowledge on a certain subject in ones wisdom has become an unimportant qualification. Consequently, it is now more urgent to gain new skills for learning and using the means for reaching information together with abilities on universal languages commonly used for that purpose. Given these new facts, it has become a weakness and debility not to pace with universal truths and not build a way of life based on them. In other words, compliance with universal truths has become an appreciated qualification. 3.B) For the idea porter, it is sufficient to know the truths and tell them when asked. Making such truths as a part of his life is not much important for an idea porter. He tries to be excused by others using such false statements as, there is nothing to do for me, I am like this,

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what can I do?, or it is my habit that is not easy to change. In other words, what an idea porter tells regarding truths does not comply with his life practices. When we tell him this contrast, he may reply us repeating the common saying that obey to what the pope preaches, but do not act as how he acts. Let me describe you a very commonly observed act of idea porters. When you look at their speeches, conversations, statements, or articles, you see them as being very democratic, environmentalist, respective to human rights, and believer of social justice. However, when you look at their relations within the family or business environment, you see them being involved in oppressive, forbidding, and even fascist behaviors. When you make observations on their life objectives, consumption habits, plans for future etc., you can see them as being genuine capitalists. In short, you can get the impression about them as being democratic in terms of speech, fascist in terms of practice, and capitalist in terms

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of consumption habits. Isnt such a person a perfect idea porter? In order to make the understanding of the above explanation easier, I would like to make some quotations from two important thinkers. The first one is from William Hersey Dewis. Comparing the acts of two different individuals, he says, There is the first person who wants to develop a character. That character makes him either happy or unhappy. Character is those things that the angels will tell Allah about a person. There is the second person who wants to develop a reputation. That reputation makes a person either rich or poor. Reputation is those things that people will write down about a person on his gravestone. The second quotation is from Tolstoy who summarizes the subject very wisely with a well-designed formula: If we represent the value of the man by a fractional number, the dividend of that fraction symbolizes the real personality (character) of the man, while the denominator shows what he thinks who he is (his reputation). Of course, as in mathematics, when the

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denominator increases, the value of the fraction decreases. Consequently, we can conclude from this formula that increase in ones character will contribute greatly to the success of that person in happiness management, making it easier for him to be happy. 4.A) When we look at the ideas expressed by the idea owner, we see that they are about systems. It is the system that the idea owner always tries to understand and questions. Therefore, when he aims to find out the reasons behind an event, he starts with asking the question what is wrong rather than asking who is wrong. 4.B) On the contrary, we notice that the ideas of the idea porter are usually related to individuals. In other words, the idea porter develops his ideas by questioning people instead of the system. Therefore, he starts with asking the question who is wrong when he investigates the reasons behind a mistake. 5.A) The idea owner builds his decision on sound data, that is, the database for the decisions of the idea owner has

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got a scientific nature. When he is in an emotional mood, he avoids from taking decisions as much as possible. In addition, the idea owner does not take into account the decisions taken by others on emotional basis no matter these decisions are sympathetic or antipathetic to him. In other words, the idea owner does not develop his attitudes or behaviors towards other people depending on emotional data or decisions regardless of their content. In short, his acts derive from the ideas developed on the basis of his own scientific database. In the introductory paragraphs on the happiness management, we mentioned the particular importance of presenting a decision, which always reflects an idea, in the right manner. Now, it would be useful to make some further explanations on decision. First of all, we should know that a decision which is not good enough is better than any indecision. Yavuz Sultan Selim, the great Ottoman Sultan, underlines wisely this fact by saying,

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Courage brings victory, indecision brings danger, and cowardice brings death. On the other hand, every decision includes certain risks. Considering such risks and hesitating to incur them, some people fear to take decision, and thus, they experience the danger of indecision. However, we should know that risk is a manageable state and it is not a right act to hesitate or fear from manageable situations whose command is in our hands. While every decision includes a certain risk, indecision causes for uncertainty which is not a manageable state. Since their commands are not in our hands, we should hesitate or fear from uncertain situations. While we develop a sense of irresponsibility in the process of uncertainty, whether we notice or not, we undertake a responsibility in the process of risk management. This strengthens our sense of responsibility which can be defined as the state of giving an account of those we did and those we could not do. Being a superior personal characteristic, the sense of

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responsibility can be divided into two main types. The first type is the one which arises from the state of giving an account to an external authority or a person. The second type, on the other hand, is the one which arises from the state of giving an account to ourselves rather than to an external body. For us, it is the second type of responsibility that is the most perfect and desirable one given that it is not possible for a person to deceive himself. On the contrary, a person with the first type of the sense of responsibility, the one which derives from giving an account to an external authority or a person, may deceive that external authority or person. Therefore, for the idea owner, he himself is the sole body to be accountable. We can summarize the comparison between decision and indecision by the following formulation:
Decision + Risk Management + Responsibility = Success Indecision + Uncertainty + Irresponsibility = Absurdity

There are two additional conditions for decision: It should be taken on time and it should be right.

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Supply of the necessary information or data into the decision-making process is another strengthening resource for decision. In other words, it is very important to provide supporting information or data to all kinds of decisions in all situations. This is reflected in our daily life by the statement as I would like to make consultation on this or that subject. This means that consultation is an integral part of any decision taken by the idea owner. Put it differently, the idea owner is strongly bound to the practice of consultation when taking any kind of decision related to his administrative roles: whether he takes decision about himself and his family, or about his apartment, his district, his city, and his country etc. Sustainability of the decision is also important, which can be defined as the stable continuation of the taken decisions. Some people are reluctant to give up their previously taken decisions, thinking that such an act is closely related to honesty or bravery. A common statement by these people is as follows: Once I declared my decision, I can not turn back on it.

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If such insistence on the taken decision results simply from stubbornness, this is not the stability or the sustainability of the decision we are trying to explain here given that stubbornness is an emotional attitude which should not be made a basis for any decision. Those decisions that are taken on the basis of emotions can not be sustainable, and even they are mostly not right. On the other hand, only those decisions that are taken on the basis of scientific information or data and have got a philosophy can be sustainable. It is possible for us to equip our decisions with universal features. This universality will bring higher standards for our happiness management. The first step for universality is to learn the global views and experiences, resulting from the latest scientific and intellectual developments, on the subject about which we want to take decisions. It has become very easy to carry out this first step in todays world owing to the widespread use of the advanced telecommunication technologies in our daily life.

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The next step should be taking of certain decisions that match our needs using the available sources, instead of making up false excuses for indecision. This second step can shortly be described by the well-known clich as think global, but act local. The third step required to ensure the universality of the decision is that it should have the following important aspect, without which it is not possible to avoid from localization. This aspect, which must be an integral part of the decision, requires that universality should start with local values and elements, but should not be stuck in localization. By doing so, it will be possible to keep our decisions away from the false perspective expressed by the statement as thats enough; there is no need for further qualifications. Another point I would like to discuss here is the sanctity of the decision. For me, sanctity arises, in real terms, from the combination of knowledge and freedom. This view can be used for defining the sanctity of the decisions. Accordingly,

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any decision taken on the basis of free will and unprejudiced wisdom has got a sacred nature. In this connection, there are two main ways for someone to get rid of his prejudices. Firstly, he may give up his existing prejudices by replacing them with new ones. By this way, he thinks that he has become free from prejudices, which is, in reality, not the case. Secondly, he adopts knowledge instead of prejudices, which results in a real purification from his biases. If you give up your prejudices by knowledge, for knowledge, and in accordance with knowledge, you get purified from them in a sustainable manner. Actually, it is this kind of purification from prejudices that yields real freedom for someone. A life based on such sacred decisions becomes sacred itself. In other words, when knowledge and freedom become an integral part of someones life, there is no room for taboos and prejudices in it. Thus, his decisions and life become sacred. However, sustainability of such sacredness requires the availability of the democracy for the decisions, which can be ensured

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by the application of the following three principles. The first principle is that the target groups of a decision to be taken should be informed and made be aware of it in a right manner. This rule is valid for every target group whatever its size is, that is, whether it is the family, the smallest unit of the society, or the nation, the biggest one. In fact, if we aim to ensure the adoption of several attitudes and values as a way of life all over the country, we should first aim to ensure their adoption within the family. Particularly, the values of democracy, human rights, and protection of environment should initially be ensured as a way of life within the family or among the members of the family. The target group is the family which is the main unit for solution. Informing and awareness-raising are important issues of today that must be taken into account urgently. The presence of some units within the public authorities to inform and be involved in awarenessraising activities for the target groups of a decision to be taken will constitute

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a good example of the democratic practice. Informing and awarenessraising activities for the target group are not ordinary practices that are done reluctantly. They are rather necessary basis for the democracy of the decision. The second principle required to ensure the democracy of the decision is that the participation of the target groups into the decision-making process, particularly into the session during which the decision is to be taken, is guaranteed in accordance with the universally accepted democratic practices. It is obvious that the desired results from such participation can be achieved in close connection with the first principle mentioned above since there is a positive relation between informing and awareness-raising activities for the target groups and their participation to a decision. The third principle required to ensure the democracy of the decision is that the arising responsibilities from the decision is determined and shared by the related parties with granted matching authorities.

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Another point I would like to discuss regarding the decision is that correctness and strength of a decision depend on the number of the brains involved in making the decision. Two brains are always superior than one brain, so are three brains than two, producing superior outputs. However, for the success of such partnership, it is not sufficient for the participating brains just to come together. Rather, they must be complementary to each other, capable of developing common ideas, thinking together and inspiring from each other. The greatest power in this century in the near future will be the potential of the individuals who learn how to work together. When someone sees some new hightech devices which he has difficulty in understanding their working mechanism and in using them without taking explanatory courses, he is surprised at how one brain can think and design these devices. However, we should know that such complicated devices are the

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products of several brains integrated very well to each other. The unlimited powers of the integrated brains make people tend to team-work. However, it should not be ignored that team-work is a brain activity that must become a habit. In other words, teamwork can not be achieved by command or by giving orders. Therefore, the teamwork described here has no connection with a group of people coming together by the feeling of absolute loyalty to a leader. It is an important virtue for someone to include those who are superior to himself into his team, granting freedom to their brains. By asking a simple question, it is possible to understand whether or not a work or an output has resulted from a team-work: Can someone produce this alone?. If the answer to this question starts with No, this means that the given output, whatever it is, is a product of a team-work. Through a team-work, we can obtain a more advanced product than the one designed individually. In terms of originality, superiority, and distinctness,

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the product of a team-work resembles a good music played by an orchestra with different instruments directed by one chief. The brains that notice the significance of team-work get great pleasure from this work and its products, which constitutes an important drive for involving in it. In other words, when the brains recognize the potential power of their partnership with each other and get the pleasure of it, they become excited for being a partner to team-work and hurry up to do so. The reason behind the pleasure that the brains get from integrating and producing together is the fact that they have a universal basis that does not enjoy separatism. Therefore universal love and peace is the aspiration of the brains that are saved from prejudices and reach their universal basis which is against all kinds of separatism and discrimination. Therefore, it is a priority and an urgent need to put into effect an educational policy that will ensure the preparation of our kids and youths brains for team-work during their learning and training process. In addition, possible solutions for the chronic national

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problems should be revised in the light of the above given explanations. Since some drastic problems arise from various acts of many different people as though they constituted a team, solutions to such problems should also be found through the team-work. In fact, if the problem to be solved is a product of several brains, solution to this problem can not be produced by only one brain. The high level administrators responsible for critical decisions should differentiate decision-making from decision-taking very well. They do not confuse the authority of decision-taking with that of decision-making. The two phenomena, decision-making and decision-taking, should be considered as completely different from each other, each of which requires different skills and processes. Those who make decisions may lack the necessary skills for decisiontaking. While decision-making requires a team-work based on the flow of multi-disciplinary and inter-disciplinary scientific data, decision-taking requires

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entrepreneurship, courage to chance a high risk, and determined follow-up. It is a dangerous way of management, which is usually impossible to be prevented from, that those having the authority of decision-taking carry out this task with the psychology that they are always clever, right, and know everything. However, we should bear in mind that the rightness and strength of a decision increases when the decision-taker uses his authority and available resources to set up a team to make decisions within a free and democratic environment as well as ensuring the flow of necessary information in usable form into the decision-making process. The main task of decisionmakers, through the team-work, is to prepare alternative or multiple options for a decision to be taken by decisiontakers. The tasks of opting among the offered alternatives, implementing the chosen decision, making necessary follow up, and concluding it are closely related to the skills of decision-takers. 5.B) Contrary to the idea owner whose decisions depend on his universal data-

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base, it is a habit for the idea porter to act in accordance with his assumptions in his life. This means that his ideas and decisions derive mostly from his assumptions. Even if the idea porter has got a nature that gives importance to the science, he can not avoid from conditioning his acts on assumptions. He frequently uses the statement as sorry, I had thought so, if he has got the virtue of making excuse. Therefore, he takes decisions when he is in an emotional mood, for which he usually regrets later on. In other words, such states as romanticism, ambition, hate, grudge, compassion, cheer contribute greatly to the decisions and ideas developed by the idea porter. It is again the assumptions that are the causes behind these states which are not appropriate for human being. If the assumptions of someone increase his excitement, he can not avoid from acting with prejudices. In other words, assumptions, which do not certainly derive from knowledge, foster prejudices, even make them indispensable characters. Most of the hurt and umbrage that the idea porter frequently experience

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with the individuals around him derive from his assumptions. We should not forget that knowledge guides man to reach the truth, whereas assumptions take him to trouble. 6.A) The idea owner is a good listener. He is very careful about looking at the face of the person to whom he is listening or talking. He listens to others to understand them rather than seem to be kind enough to listen to them. It is quite important for the idea owner to establish sound contacts with others. The first step to do so is to understand the other person or make him notice your intention and efforts in this direction. If you wish to reach a consensus with others on something, you should first understand them. You can help others even by just listening to them: If you listen someone twice or three times, you help him discharge his feelings and get relaxed. 6.B) On the contrary, the idea porter always wants to be listened. He can not endure to listen to others. When he is enforced to do so, he has difficulty in looking at the face of the speaking

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person and deals with other things while waiting impatiently for the end of the talk. However, the idea porter can not endure not to be listened while he is speaking. In such a case, he sometimes acts combatively indicating that he perceive this an insulting attitude against him. If he has got an authority, a high position, or power, he displays this particular characteristic of idea porters more strongly. 7.A) The idea owner trust in other people. He builds his plans on this confidence. However, this confidence of the idea owner does not derive from naivet or stupidity. On the contrary, it derives from his nature of loving what exists as it is and accepting people as they are. It is this type of confidence that influences the decisions of the idea owner. In this connection, Pestalozzi states that in order to gain love and trust of others, you should first develop love and trust towards them. He puts it as follows: Love is not stimulated by anything except for love. Similarly, trust is not stimulated by anything except for trust. This means

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that if you wish to be loved, you should first love others and if you wish to be trusted in, you should first trust in others. 7.B) The idea porter usually does not trust in anybody, building his acts on doubts. However, doubting yields perception of threat, by which a rebellion is triggered and the system becomes unable to work. Assumption, doubt, and prejudice are interdependent states that stimulate and increase each other. Those who make their decisions on the basis of this trio can not avoid from having constant conflicts in their relations with others, including their family members, relatives, and close friends. 8.A) For the idea owner, everyone is a different world and a different library to benefit from. He considers others as individuals to consult with. He is well aware of the fact that it is possible to develop original ideas through inspiring from the ideas of others, so each man has got a great value of his own as a source of inspiration which should not be drained. 8.B) For the idea porter, individuals around him are those who should be

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disciplined. Because of this attitude towards people, the idea porter is chary of praise. For him, people are not source of ideas but that of problems. Therefore, he behaves people around him like a psychologist stating the sentences that start with your problem is 9.A) The idea owner knows how to consider an issue from other points of view. In other words, it is not difficult for him to make empathy. As a result, he can easily make consensus or compromise with others, which is one of the most important merits of the idea owner. Indeed, debating becomes a good act when it is possible to develop new living conditions at the end through compromising and meeting at least common denominators. 9.B) The idea porter wants and expects everyone to share his point of view regarding the issues on the agenda. He blames those who do not agree with him for lacking capability of grasping and understanding the matter. He thinks that others can find the truths only if they adopt his view since he believes that he is right and clever, so he knows

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best regarding almost every matter. This assumption of the idea porter makes an obstacle for him to share the views of others. If he is in power, there are a lot of distant friends around him, who always tell him yes, you are right to ensure their own interests. The idea porter loves such friends much more. 10.A) The idea owner neither feels sad nor has got fears in his life. Sadness is an emotion related to the past. In other words, the recurring sorrows arising from someones past experiences constitute the state of sadness for him. If this state of sadness becomes a way of life for an individual, it will negatively affect the new days to live, new decisions, and new ideas to be developed by him. However, instead of living constantly in the past thorough imagination, the idea owner knows how to throw the lessons of the past to the winds. For the idea owner, both the experiences of his own and those of others are important sources to benefit. What is important for him is to use and benefit this source properly. It is meaningless for him to use the word I wish, which

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will transform the past experiences into sadness. He is aware of the fact that he can not bring the past forward and intervene to the events occurred in it any more. On the other hand, fear is an emotion related to the future. The idea owner is always hopeful for the future. In other words, he has a constant hope for the future, which prevents him from fearing it. This unending hope of the idea owner arises from the fact that he always has got a goal in his life. He determines the priorities of his life and put goals to be pursued daily in conformity with these priorities. In this connection, one of the main characteristics of the idea owner is that he is busy with something at the present moment. He is certainly involved in an action in the light of his past experiences and his hopes for the future goals. He plans certain actions wishing to make his past experiences and future goals a part of his life. The experiences, goals, hopes, and priorities of the idea owner require him to manage his time properly.

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10.B) The idea porter lives anxiously, that is, uneasy feeling has become a habit for him. At the root of this anxious life led by the idea porter, there are the factors related to the past and the future. The prints of the past events make emotional acts dominant in the life of the idea porter. One of the most distinctive attitudes for the idea porter is that he bears grudge against the related people regarding the past events, which sometimes influences all his acts. He exposes his persistent grudge by saying no longer can you regain my confidence, I will never forgive you! On the other hand, feeling of sadness about the past produces for anxious acts for the future. Since the plans and the goals of the idea porter for the future usually can no avoid from the trio of assumptions doubts prejudices, he feels fear, anxiety, and new suspicions for the future. Because of all these, the idea porter can not be sure about the present moment he is in and he feels uneasy. He usually wastes his time by planning actions. The state of anxiety

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makes an obstacle for him to manage his time properly. 11.A) The idea owner has got the type of wisdom that is transparent to other people. In other words, transparency is a life principle for the idea owner. The people around him trust in his views without feeling any secrecy regarding them. This transparent ways of thinking and acting save others from assumptions, by which the vicious circle of assumptions doubts prejudices is broken. 11.B) Secrecy gives the idea porter ease. He supposes that he will be powerful if he thinks, plans, and implements something secretly. By the term secrecy here, I mean the hidden parts of a matter that the related people normally have the right to know under the valid social rules. When they fail to learn a matter through the normal communication channels in the daily life, they may fall into the trap of assumptions. It is not difficult to guess the manner and results of the relationship between a person who is stuck with the vicious circle of assumptions doubts prejudices and an idea porter who is

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fond of secrecy. When we notice the bad intentions of the idea porter and question him about them, he tries to evade the issue saying it is not a very convenient time now talk about it. 12.A) Idea owners are very sensitive and careful when they express their ideas. For them, relations with others are the issue that has to be given the highest importance. He knows that people develop their attitudes towards an idea, giving priority to the manner by which it is presented rather than to the content it has. The more positive is this attitude, the more pleasing are the relations. Experts say that the facts expressed calmly are more effective in changing the views of others than threats or use of force. In addition, regarding a task to be done, idea owners think how to do it rather than how to make it done. While the former attitude include a transparent team-work based on shared authorities and responsibilities as well as division of tasks among the members in accordance with their knowledge and skills, the latter attitude include all or some of the

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following elements: command, deception, threatening, and lack of appreciation for the services of others at the end. Furthermore, idea owners present their ideas in an explanatory manner. They are kind and patient enough to convince others if it is required so. In this connection, another attitude adopted by idea owners as a way of life is that they express whatever they wish to say in the best possible way and they perform whatever they wish to do in the most esthetic and softest possible way. The idea owner adopts this attitude in order not to get any appreciation or be praised by others but for his belief that a person should normally act so without expecting anything in return. Finally, achieving to edify themselves very well, idea owners never get angry with someone whatever the matter is and whoever the individual is. They never anger others deliberately, by planning, or through their acts. They give so much importance to the honors of others that they do not offend them. And finally, they are not offended by others since

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they have managed to love whatever exists as it is without any difficulty. It is possible to express shortly this perfect state reached by the idea owner by four words as follows: no angry, no angering, no offend, no offended. 12.B) Idea porters express their ideas in a dictating manner. Even their ordinary dialogues have got a dictating tone. The reason behind this is their assumption that they have a mission to teach the truth to others. Thats why they always try to change someone whom they disapprove. In other words, they are not aware of the fact that no one has got the power to reshape another individual. Only if you approve of an individual as he is, you equip him with the power to change himself. It is very important to create desire and power for the people to be changed since man can only change himself, not anyone else. The dictating manner adopted by the idea porter does not crate any positive impacts on people even if what they tell consists of truths and right suggestions. This behavior specific to the idea porter is one of the reasons

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behind the difficulty faced by parents in making their kids understood the truths. In addition, it is significant for idea porters to keep an eye on the behaviors of others and infer some meanings from them. Since they build their plans on assumptions, idea porters always watch people around them, or make others do so on behalf of them, to develop necessary assumptions on which they build their plans. They tend to use a third person to contact with others as they do not have the courage for a face-to-face discussion. Idea porters feel obliged to maintain the vicious circle of assumptions doubts prejudices. Idea porters suppose the silence of others on a given matter as a reflection of the success of their dictating manner. However, someone who takes others for fool that do not understand anything regarding the matter in hand is perhaps the biggest stupid on earth. The individual may usually be reacting silently as follows: What do you think who you are? I know how to do my task and can perform it much better than you can!

Furthermore, idea porters impose bans on others to support their dictating manner. They exploit such terms as forbidden, sin, and shame to a great extent. It is a common way for idea porters to use these terms to frighten people and make them accept their own ideas as the only way for a solution. Then, through some minor pleasing acts towards those previously frightened people, they try to prove that, in reality, they have a good intention. 13.A) The idea owner would prefer guidance to command in his relations with others. For the purpose of motivating people in the positive and right direction, he tends to use some incentives and awards. The following quotation from a writer, reflects the strong desire of the ruled people for such a method: We are seeking for a coordinator rather than a shepherd for us. And, we would rather live humanly than die heroically. Indeed, the desire of man is to be guided rather than be commanded and faced with acts and attitudes that disclose their hidden skills and abilities and improve them.

13.B) The idea porter wants to command people rather than guide them. He expects them to act in conformity with his own desires and views. When the people under his administration make some mistakes, the idea porter considers punishment as the only possible way to help them correct such mistakes and find the truth. The obedience of individuals to his orders under threat of punishment, without believing it by heart, gives the idea porter the impression that he is right in using such methods. He verbalizes this feeling to the people around him saying as You have finally understood how to act well! Use of force is the only efficient way to make you work! You see now who I am! In this connection, it is possible to divide the ways of ruling into two main groups. While the first one can be called as Suppress and Command, the second can be called as Develop and Guide. The idea porter prefers the first way of ruling, that is, Suppress and Command. Adopting this method as a life principle, the idea porter uses every opportunity to

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help him suppress the people around him. The second way of ruling, that is, Develop and Guide, is a nightmare for the idea porter. He is afraid of the individuals who try to develop themselves, so he secretly erects barriers for the factors to develop them. However, to give the impression that he supports the people around him, the idea porter sometimes paves the ways for those factor that will make a minor contribution to their development in real terms. When the idea porter faces the necessity to appreciate others for their achievements, he does this in a sarcastic manner. In addition, if he plays even a minor role in this achievement, the idea porter is very careful not to neglect to remind it to the related individuals and to make them confirm his own role in it. However, such manner and attitude of the idea porter towards the achievements of others make them run away him. 14.B) Another characteristics that distinguishes definitely the idea owner from the idea porter is their attitudes vis--vis power. While the idea owner considers

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the power as a mean to be shared with others and to protect them, the idea porter uses it to suppress, destroy, and impose silence on others. For the idea owner, each individual has got a power derived from his own distinctness from others. He should use this power by sharing it with others and to protect them when necessary. When he does so, he is uplift and becomes more powerful. It is a fact that a shared power with others increases by the number of the sharing individuals. However, idea owners are also aware of a very important fact in this connection that they should not seek for or expect to any price in return for sharing their power with others or using it to protect them. Knowing that happiness management is the outcome of the wisdom decision idea trio, the owner is very eager to use his power for the protection of the freedom of thought. It is obvious that the power used to protect the freedom of thought also becomes sacred given our previously developed definition of being sacred as the point where freedom and knowledge

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meets each other, A power to protect the freedom of thought exists inside every man as a value producing his distinctness. By using this power, individuals have the opportunity to make their distinctness sacred. However, these sanctities are not the values to be worshipped. On the contrary, they constitute the steps by which freedom will bring man the universal love and peace, that is, the universal truth. The idea owner is aware of the fact that the distinctness of someone from others and power derived from this distinctness bring a great responsibility for him. His fearing that he may not carry out this responsibility properly makes the idea owner feel himself powerless rather than powerful. Thats why being conscious of the fact that the distinctness and power in his hand actually belongs to those who need them, the idea owner do not claim any possession on this distinctness and power, directing them to their actual owners. I would like to give an example for how someone shares the power derived

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from his distinctness with the related individuals and uses it to protect them. Lets imagine that you have to walk across a very busy street during rush hour. As a healthy adult, it seems easy for you to do so. As a matter of fact; you never think about whether it is easy or difficult for you to walk across a busy street, playing down your distinctness that make it possible for you. Then, you see an old man with a white walking stick as a sign for his blindness. Obviously, unlike you, it is difficult for him to walk across the street. Thus, you notice your distinctness from the old, blind man, which enable you to walk across a busy street. You also feel keenly the power in your hand derived from this distinctness. However, as an idea owner, you never think to use this power to suppress the old, blind man. On the contrary, you approach immediately to help him walk across the street safely. If required so, you even hold his arm. Unconsciously and without expecting any price, you feel it obligatory to help for an unfamiliar man who can not see you as you are to appreciate. Even, you

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blame yourself for being careless if he experiences a difficulty in crossing the street by stepping down a hole on his course. Is it not surprising that you accuse yourself for such an event, though you are the powerful one? Actually, the answer is NOT! It is you, not the old man, that have got the ability to see. In this case, this ability makes you responsible, under which you also feel yourself as powerless. Despite your distinctness, the state of powerlessness you experience here, that is, the feeling that you are not the owner of any power in actual terms, brings your heart a great deal of peace which is difficult to be described, doesnt it? After you help him walk across the street, you look behind the old man to see him proceeding on his way safely. This puts you at ease and, then, you intend to return to your work. However, for a short while, you may have difficulty in recalling what to do since the peace you feel in your heart for helping the old man causes you to forget the work you were to do just before seeing him. Even if the old man does not thank you for your help, you do not care

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it. You also do not mind that he does not see you as his helper to appreciate. On the contrary, it is the secrecy of this sharing that brings you further peace. By this event, you notice your distinctness and share the power derived from it with a man in need of it and used this power for the protection of him. This kind of sharing and protection described here is the principle adopted by the idea owner in using his power. Use of all your distinctness and the powers derived from them as much in conformity with the given example as possible will bring you the kingdom over the boundless country of the humanity. 14.B) On the contrary, for the idea porter, power should be used to suppress the people around him. Hence, being afraid of that power, these people know the limits of their capacity. For the idea porter, power should also have an effect on the wisdoms of people around him so that they can not think freely. Since he believes in disciplining the ideas of people as the easiest way to control them, instead of free ideas, the idea

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porter enjoys the ideas similar to those of his own and the individuals who produce such ideas. He considers the individuals who think and express his thoughts freely as a potential cause for the violation of the order. Therefore, he supposes that he will prevent this violation if he uses the powers in his hand particularly to prohibit free speeches and thoughts. However, the silence of the suppressed people by this way resembles the silence of the galley slaves who wait for an opportunity to rebel. When this silence accumulates in the course of time, the presupposed power of the idea porter becomes unable to prevent it from erupting with a great noise. It is the presupposed power of the idea porter that will first yield to this new force and collapse. The idea porter can notice how great the energy arises from the freedom gained by the silent people can be only at the very last moment. Detecting the extent to which his power becomes unable to suppress people, the idea porter imposes bans to maintain his power and strengthen its suppressing affect. Dividing people

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into two main groups as those who obey his bans and those who do not, the idea porter awards the first group while punishing with severity the second one. In doing so, he aims to create the slaves of his order which is supposed to be maintained in peace through suppressing people and making them accept his power. Prohibitions and slaves are the supporting basis for the idea porters narrow world. 15.A) The idea owner has got a personality that enjoys serving others. Please be patient enough not to reply as this is not extraordinary! Almost everybody enjoys serving others. Serving here has got a very important specialty. That is, it is done not only without expecting to or seeking for any price in return but also without judging or criticizing the target group. In other words, serving by the idea owner arises from the sense of giving; there is no room for a desire of taking behind it. Particularly, this serving is not related to any expectation for a bigger return. For the idea owner, there is no difference

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between a service done for a greater and better return and gambling. The fact that the idea owner approaches the people, even the whole nature, by a feeling of what I can give and establishes contacts under this feeling constitutes a very important step for ensuring the universal love and peace. As mentioned previously, the distinctness of individuals from others means that they have got the power to share with them. It is this distinctness that makes up the core of the feeling of giving by the idea owner. All these make the idea owner give priority to the interests of the community. 15.B) On the contrary, the idea porter enjoys being served by others. He believes strongly that the individuals under his rule or his relatives have to serve him. Consequently, in his mind, he divides the people around him into two main groups as those who serve him and those who do not. The idea porter blames the latter group for being ungrateful. He determines not only his attitudes and acts towards this group but also the rights to be granted to them in accordance with this assessment.

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By this way, the idea porter thinks that he shows them their place. Due to the given personality, idea porters also establish all their contacts with people under a what can I get approach. They never forget the benevolence and goodness they did for others. When they meet someone for whom they have previously helped, idea porters first see their help, then the related individual. Idea porters also claim that they work for the community. Indeed, you can see them being involved in many social activities, even in organizing them. However, through such activities, idea porters actually seek for their own interests rather than that of the community. Similarly, when you pierce beneath the show of the acts of benevolence or goodness by idea porters, you notice that they are, in reality, actuated by low and selfish motives. They have got a voracious appetite for being appreciated for those acts that they consider as benevolence or goodness. Therefore, they tell repeatedly such acts to those who appreciate them to get additional appreciation.

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Family environment is of great significance regarding the subject in hand. As a matter of fact; it is necessary to consider family environment as the first forum where all problems are dealt to find appropriate solutions. It is not possible for a housefather to be successful in happiness management so long as he considers that his wife and kids have to serve him and determines his acts towards them in accordance with this view. Those who approach to the members of their society with a what can I get desire become the cruel masters of that society. On the contrary, those who join their society with a what can I give feeling become sublime leaders for that society. When the cruel masters die, they become tiny. However, when the sublime leaders die, they get greater and greater day by day. 16.A) Idea owners give more importance to the quality than the quantity in conformity with the old saying that not the envelope but the letter inside is important. In addition, they are in favor of pluralism, that is, they

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also give importance to the common understanding in the society. The passion for freedom, which is the primary characteristics of the idea owner, requires respect to the common understanding in the society. 16.B) Idea porters exposes attitudes that give importance to the quantity. They want to obtain prestige through their image. In addition, idea porters are in favor of augmentation rather than pluralism, that is, they are not interested in the common understanding in the society but the number of the people joined them. They get proud of the gathering of people around themselves, considering those people loyal to them to such an extent that they are ready to die for them. This proud provides idea porters with a great pleasure. 17.A) The essence of the ideas offered by the idea owner usually aims to repair or improve something. The term ideas used here should not be misunderstood as being unrelated to the daily life. It would be wrong to think that idea developing is an outcome of a specific intellectual

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effort. On the contrary, if one examines carefully his daily life and the events in it, he finds out that he develops quite many ideas and presents most of them to others in a day. The ideas developed by idea owners have got an inclusive nature, that is, they include even the ideas of those who think that they have got different opinions. This inclusiveness of the ideas developed by idea owners arises from the fact that idea owners always focus their wisdom on oneness and unity. In addition, it is remarkable that the ideas and thoughts of idea owners have got a relaxing and pleasing nature. The aim of these acts by the idea owner is to create a movement of understanding that will ensure universal love and peace. 17.B) On the contrary, the ideas offered by the idea porter usually aims to prove the justness of his complaining point of view or strengthen it. If they cause others to experience the assumptions doubts prejudices trio, idea porters regard themselves as successful. When you examine their ideas, it is possible for you

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to find them out in the form of criticizing, worrying, and terrifying. You can also regard these ideas as the difficulties injected into the life. If idea porters are in the position to have got some authority and power, they draw your attention as overwhelming individuals for the people around them. These individuals tend to label those who are involved in some acts and attitudes that they dislike as being careless, lazy, gormless, and clumsy. Obviously or secretly, dividing constitutes the core of the ideas developed by idea porters. The so-called Divide and Rule method of ruling adopted by idea porters puts them at ease, giving them the false impression that they are right. 18.A) Idea owners use goodness to overcome evil they face. In such a case, they never consider to be involved in some counteracts that are justified by a tit for tat understanding. Having a wisdom that is ready for forgetting both the badness done against him and the goodness he does for others, the idea owner takes care not to forget the goodness done for him. At the platforms for discussion,

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the inevitable victory of good ideas in compliance with the universal truths against bad ideas is, in reality, the victory of the trio of wisdom decision idea. On the other hand, it is the assumptions doubts prejudices trio that is defeated under the arbitration of genuine truth. Composed of idea owners, all soldiers of the victorious part are of equal rank without any hierarchy. However, the members of the defeated part, who are bound to the assumptions doubts prejudices trio, develop a hierarchy among themselves based on fear. 18.B) Considering the tit for tat approach as the only valid method to be adopted, the idea porter gets his first relaxation through the justification provided by this approach for his possible counteracts against someone. His ultimate relaxation takes place after performing the planned counteracts. However, such methods for relaxation are in strict conflict with happiness management. The fact that idea porters can not relax unless they take revenge creates a spiteful image of them among the people around.

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It is an important distinctive feature of the idea porters that they bear a grudge against others and develop a recurring trio of assumptions doubts prejudices. While the wisdom decision idea trio is important dynamics for happiness management, the assumptions doubts prejudices trio constitutes dynamites for it. Therefore, it is necessary to adopt the methods that strengthen these dynamics and make them sustainable on the one hand and eliminate the given dynamites on the other. 19.A) For the idea owner, the manner for the implementation of his decisions, i.e. for his actions, is also important. In addition to the previously mentioned necessity of the wisdom basis for decisions and the importance of the manner in the presentation of such decisions in the form of ideas, determination of the middle course in putting these ideas into practice constitutes necessary conditions for the sustainability of the happiness management. Accordingly, the idea owner seeks for the middle course in his actions. By doing so, he avoids from extreme

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actions. Determination of the middle course for his practices is, of course, different for each individual. One can not achieve it by imitating others. Therefore, it is more important for an individual to know himself well than others. One who knows himself well can easily determine the middle course for his actions fitted best with his own characteristics regarding every matter. Development of new middle courses on higher standards for the actions related to ones skills that he plans to improve brings him success. Idea owners know that the middle course in the relations with others means a consensus on the least common denominators. For them, the sustainability of such relations is an important condition for the happiness management. It is a big failure for idea owners to cut themselves loose from other people, leave them, or become unable to experience peaceful co-existence. It is the state of our relations with others that determines the visible and traceable degree of our success in the happiness management. Those who aim at universal peace can not exclude other

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people for any reason whatsoever since such an action impairs universality. Idea owners attach not less importance to the happiness of the society in which they live than that of their own. This requires respect to the least common denominators among the different members of the society. Attempts to increase the number of such least common denominators get these members closer to meet on the basis of the wisdom. They know that the assumptions doubts prejudices trio makes it difficult to reach a consensus among the people in the society on the least common denominators. Idea owners believe the necessity to ensure the state of security and peace among the people with different views. Besides this necessity, their acceptance on the sanctity of the decisions taken by free will and liberated mind from prejudices makes the governance with democracy indispensable for idea owners. For them, democracy is the threshold for an acceptable form of government. Any other proposed form of government under this threshold can not be put on

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the agenda by the idea owner, even as an alternative to be discussed. 19.B) On the other hand, idea porters tends to be fanatic in their opinions, decisions, ideas, and particularly in their practices. This fanatic point of view makes them discriminatory individuals. In other words, the idea porter adopts an approach of those on our side and those not towards people regarding several matters. If he can not find a suitable and encouraging environment to put this approach into practice, he certainly does so secretly in his mind. However, DISCRIMINATION is the key factor that causes individuals to fail in happiness management. It results from the practices and conducts performed fanatically. These practices and conducts cause individuals to be discriminatory by providing justification for such approach and making its adoption easy. However, the fanatic manner of behavior is not a product of the wisdom given that it requires meeting at least common denominators and adoption of the middle course. On the contrary, this manner is a

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product of the assumptions doubts prejudices trio. Despite the fact that fanatic behavior has got so many dangerous outputs, our society has yet to announce the encouraging factors for such behaviors as wrong. On the contrary, views that encourage fanatic conducts are still common in our society. Idea porters who potentially tend to be involved in fanatic practices and actions are not satisfied with a life based on the middle course understanding and least common denominators. Their readiness for bearing a grudge against others breaches all possible contracts on such values. The fanatic manner of behavior, which is a product of the assumptions doubts prejudices trio inevitably results in two events: DISCRIMINATION and VIOLENCE. The latter is the ultimate target for which the trio of assumptions doubts prejudices tries to obtain. On the contrary, happiness management requires to be separated and away from this target, that is VIOLENCE, as much as the separation and distance between East

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and West. Indeed, it is not possible for a happiness seeker to be side by side with violence. Encouraging the young to be idea owners is a pre-requisite for their success in the future. However, they should be very careful about the sources that inspire their ideas. If a source, e.g., an article, a film, or a seminar, from which the young try to develop their ideas reflects such an approach that those who do not think like us are not with us, this is a sound indicator of the definite falsity of that source. Even, if the source contains the truest or the most sacred ideas of the world, it losses its value due to the falsity of its approach. Any idea developed by a discriminatory approach, as reflected by the motto they are not with us, is neither true nor sacred. The reason behind this is the fact that all views deviating from the universal peace and love are defective. A discriminatory perspective results in violations of rights in practice. The discrimination between man and women is an example of such practices by idea porters. The degree of the respect

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to the rights of women in a society can be seen as an indicator of its level of civilization. From this perspective, the human rights of women, children, and handicapped individuals, who constitute the group at risk, have got a priority and urgency for our society. The concept of human rights includes respect to and protection for the honor of human being, ensuring of healthy and balanced living conditions that are sustainable, and governance based on democratic principles. Upon examining the human rights of women, we should compare the present status of our women with the universally accepted norms and standards reached at the 21th Century. According to a recent survey by the UN, two out of three (2/3) of the works in the world are being done by women, only one out of ten (1/10) of the total income are being earned by women, and one out of one thousand (1/1000) of total private ownership belongs to women and two out of three (2/3) of those who are illiterate are women. For me, the efforts that aim to grant equal rights for women

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with men can not be successful. Especially, long-term success requires the adoption of positive discrimination perspective for women. This perspective should not be understood as giving some extra rights to women. Such an understanding will make it difficult for us to cognize the real meaning of positive discrimination for women. On the contrary, positive discrimination is the perspective to ensure justice on this matter, which can be defined as granting someone with what he/she deserves. Therefore, even if it may seem that women are granted with some extra rights by this approach compared to men, it is possible to do so when the above given definition of justice is taken into account. In fact, it is possible to talk about equal status for men and women only after ensuring this perspective. In case the priority is given to ensuring equal rights for men and women instead of justice, it may not be possible to guarantee equal status for them. Therefore, a desired status for women should first be determined, and then, the areas where some measures of positive

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discrimination is required for women in accordance with the present conditions should be determined together with the time span necessary to put them into practice. The determined areas should be reviewed and readdressed in the course of time. The place of women in the community and the importance of their role in solving the present problems in the world have recently been better understood. It has also been understood that family environment is the primary context in solving the national problems related to the concepts of human rights, democracy, and environmental protection. Within the family, the role of the woman is of great importance in ensuring these universal values to become the way of life for our society. For a perfect performance of this role by women, it is first necessary to give importance to their rights and ensure them fully. To do so, adoption of positive discrimination perspective for women constitutes a precondition or a sine-qua-non criterion.

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The positive discrimination perspective in favor of women ensures justice and results in equality in the status of men and women. Consequently, attempts to ensure positive discrimination for women in compliance with the situations they are in and the activities they are involved in indicate a civilizational aspect. 20) Idea owner considers the universal truths and the ways to reach them as the means for happiness management. He also knows that getting the truth or attaining the right is only possible through the interaction of ideas at democratic platforms. For the idea owner, ensuring peace and development requires free thinking and free expression of thoughts by the individuals. On the other hand, idea porters make bodies, rather than ideas, collide with each other, using the existing differences among the ideas as an excuse for such fighting. For the idea porter, use of violence is inevitable on the way to the truth or the right. At this point, we can list the cornerstones for the occurrence of violence as follows: assumption, doubts,

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prejudice, fanatic manner of behavior, discriminatory perspective, and violence. Since the idea porter starts to act by his assumptions, use of violence becomes inevitable for him at the end. On the contrary, since the wisdom basis of the idea owner blockades his assumptions and makes them ineffective, the final destination for his journey is to reach the truth. The strong desire of the idea owner to reach the truth urges him to enjoy different ideas. As a result of this, a secure and peaceful order emerges depending on the principles of openness and rule of law. Conversely, the idea porter thinks that he will be secure only among those who share his ideas. Because of this fear from other ideas, the idea porter does not give opportunity for such ideas to survive. Idea porters accept democracy only so long as it fits with their ideas, ignoring its basic character of being an assurance for the freedom of opposite ideas. While idea owners support the freedom of expression for the preservation of peace and order in the society, idea porters

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believe in the necessity of banning people from speaking freely for the same purpose. The natural outcome of this attitude is violence. There are four primary attitudes that can remove violence from the minds of individuals as a possible way of action. Being interrelated to each other, these attitudes are as follows: 1. to have an idea, 2. to learn how to debate kindly, 3. to develop the ability to reach a compromise with others on common grounds, 4. to put the reached compromise into practice within the society. Having an idea is very important but not sufficient itself. It is also necessary to learn how to have his ideas race with those of others. This attitude is of great importance given that those who do not have the ability to have their ideas race either make their bodies collide with others or find a way to numb themselves. Worse still, they sometimes both let their bodies collide and numb themselves. In other words, someone who can not

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solve his problem with others by using his tongue (speaking) tends to solve it by using his hands. Consequently, availability of forums, means, and other opportunities for solving problems through discussion is a basic requirement for ensuring democracy. In a real democratic environment, violence and other kinds of repressive acts or attitudes are considered as embarrassing practices necessary to be kept away. While idea owners who feel that they have reached the truth through having their ideas race describe the outcome as the victory of the truth, idea porters who adopt the way of making their bodies collide with each other consider the result as the victory of their side. Those in the former group give priority to ransack their conscience, whereas those in the latter group have got a more materialistic attitude. It is inevitable for idea porters to tend to use others for their own sake. However, it is equally possible for them to be used by others. Idea owners have got the capacity to make the troubled environment around

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them perceived as if a rose garden. In other words, individuals around the idea owner feel relieved by the energy released from his happiness. On the contrary, idea porters are permanently in the fire, being used as a fire tongs by those who do not wish to hold the fire by their hands.

WISE NUTRITION Today, wise nutrition has become vital and ever more important in ones daily life given that the most determining factor of ones supremacy at the present time is wisdom without any other alternative. In other words, wisdom and brain using capacity will be the main criteria in determining the prospective important people. Wise nutrition means alimentation for wisdom. An alimentation style pernicious to brain is one of the worst harms that someone can cause for himself. In addition, an understanding of nutrition that gives priority to the health of wisdom has got an important role in leading humanity to the universal amity and peace. Making freedom and science operative together leads the understanding of sacred. Being sacred in the literal sense does not grow out

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from the sentimental basis. Thereby, all scientific findings become sacred when they wear the dress of freedom. Wisdom is the only way to be followed by this holy. In some practices, actions of bona fide are confused with those based on wisdom. Definitely, actions based on wisdom are the actions of bona fide at the same time. However, actions of bona fide are not always based on wisdom necessarily. The wisdom basis is usually ignored for actions started only with good intentions, supposing the presence of the latter sufficient. However, the most surprising dangers and staggering mistakes happen due to such bona fide actions whose basis of wisdom is ignored. The byword to reap ingratitude connotes the negative events faced by the people who act in good faith but ignore the basis of wisdom for their actions. It is also probable for someone to become a disingenuous person because of his attitudes based on only good intentions but destitute of common sense. If such a person considered the issue by wisdom, he would see the difference between his thoughts and his

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acts in reality. When this person takes decisions related to his future and goals, this lack of wisdom will bring him some undesired surprises. There is only one-way to the truth: it is wisdom. For those who adopt truths and verities as a way of life easily, wisdom must be protected and effectuated. Outputs of wisdom purified from prejudices are equal to divine inspiration for human beings. As things stand, wisdom must be protected. Preserving the brain cells in which wisdom habituated is one of the urgent priorities to protect wisdom. Methods to improve the usage capacity of the brain, which could be considered as software program for it, should be investigated and put into practice by those who are interested in the subject. However, implementing these methods is not sufficient itself. In addition, the brain cells, which could be considered as hardware for brain, should be kept alive and provided with adequate blood, energy, and oxygen. In this case, the crown of wisdom in the country of unlimited human powers abrogates fake funs and

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joys that conceal truths. Metaphorically, a kind of dough whose flour is freedom, whose water is science, and whose yeast is idea masters the life. What emanates from this dough is respect to rights and democracy based on rule of law, and thus, universal amity and peace. Among the organs of human being, is the brain the counterpart of universal amity and peace. In other words, the most important task of the brain, which is a natural wonder, is to develop methods for universal amity and peace. Perhaps, this excellent organ exists in order to supply the want of the nature to universal amity and peace. It would be an injustice for the natural balance to waste the brain by using it for gossiping in the daily life and deceiving people. From this perspective, it is the universal responsibility of human being to protect wisdom and the brain where it resides and to ensure the transfer of its genius properties to posterity via genes. It is only possible to rescue the ideas from the darkness of the world of suspicion-doubt-prejudice trio by a struggle under the guidance of wisdom.

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The suspicion-doubt-prejudice trio acts as the Inquisition against wisdom and its outputs and impedes domination of wisdom on life. That is, it does not provide wisdom with what it deserves. Not providing wisdom with what it deserves means to tyrannize over wisdom. The one who tyrannizes over wisdom is a wisdom tyrant. Such argument as this is my wisdom, I can like it or tyrannize over it, and no one can interfere in my affair goes against to spirit of the democracy. Any attitude in compliance with the given argument can not be accepted as a democratic right. Wisdoms of all individuals and their outputs are nutrients of democracy, which is the administration based on wisdom. Wisdom of each individual is the joint owner of collective wisdom. As a result, it is one of the important requirements of democracy not to tyrannize over wisdom, provide wisdom with what it deserves, and contribute to collective wisdom. In this context, such acts as not taking nourishment in a protective manner for wisdom and not caring possible harms on

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wisdom would be a tyranny over wisdom. Not taking nourishment in a protective manner for wisdom strengthens the suspicion-doubt-prejudice trio. To confuse the products of the suspiciondoubt-prejudice trio with the outputs of wisdom results in a state that is hard to escape. This brings in an empire to the tyrant over wisdom. Ensuring the liveliness and permanence of democracy is possible by making the outputs of real wisdom master the life. Therefore, protection of wisdom means the protection of future. In fact, detrimental acts to wisdom are the storming attacks that undo hopes for the future and cut the vital point of these hopes. Detrimental acts to wisdom are even the main reasons that keep the world from being a habitable physical place. Human brain always produces abstract thought and introduces the products of this abstract thought to be used in practice. People depend automatically on the products of this abstract thought when forming their decision, presenting their ideas, and determining their goals. If

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the initial basis for the abstract thought produced by someones brain is suspicion, outputs of this will form doubts. Consequently, the decisions taken by this individual become the results of Suspicion Abstract thought in reality. However, if someones brain depends initially on wisdom when producing abstract thought, this individual will develop some early foresights that have a high probability of being verified when the methods of wisdom are used to asses them later. Doubtless to say, the advantage of developing such early foresights, with a high probability of being verified by wisdom later, for someones decisions and goals is great and significant. Such kind of foresight is a product of Wisdom - Abstract thought. Whereas Suspicion Abstract thought makes you reach prejudices via doubts, Wisdom - Abstract thought makes you develop scientific foresights. While the latter brings in happiness, the former results in suffering. The amount of the human brains Wisdom - Abstract thought outputs

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should be more than its Suspicion Abstract thought products and the equilibrium between the two groups should always be unbalanced in favor of the former. One of the precautions to be taken to ensure this is wise nutrition; protection of wisdom while taking nourishment, that is, alimentation for wisdom. The brain where wisdom resides and uses it as a factory of abstract thought should be protected, its capacity should be expanded, and the necessary blood, energy, and oxygen for its cells should always be supplied. Foods, drinks, and attitudes are harmful brain cells should be avoided. Closely related to the brain activities, the liver is also an organ to be paid special attention. Caring attitudes for the liver also result indirectly in preserving the brain cells. The proverb in Turkish a sound mind exists in a healthy body (mens sana in corpore sana, in Latin) explains partially what we mean here. The phrase a sound mind here means a head which has got a brain attaching importance to wisdom basis. As a whole, this proverb lays down the health of

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the body as a pre-condition for mental health. Our ancestors are surely right with this proverb. The way to a healthy body is basically wise nutrition and performing physical exercises. When gradually poisoned by means of food; people complain in their daily life about weakness, joints ache, intestinal disorders, feeling of fatigue upon getting up in the morning, difficulty in remembering the subjects and deficiency in memory, making false decisions that do not seem suitable to them later, sometimes experiencing reflex disorders, looses in the unity of their cells and early aging etc.. In addition, the influence of the pollution in food may emerge in the forms carcinogenic, teratogenic, metagenic and allergenic effects. Of course, pollution in food primarily affects children, the elderly and patients more rapidly and effectively. Furthermore, pollution in food is an issue that needs tactful handling for pregnant women and suckling mothers. Awaking people about the feeding styles is much more important than making related

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laws. Laws could show a backfiring gun effect unless the necessary consciousness is established in the society. In todays global world, the necessary precautions to ensure the priority of the following considerations over the ambition of gaining more money should be included in the agenda of the international platforms. Such priorities are to aim at the universal amity and peace; to contribute to the attainment of this goal; and to be aware of the locomotive role of wisdom in coping with this task.