WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE.

Part 10 Waiting for the right man/woman THE RIGHT MAN/WOMAN IS GOD'S WILL FOR YOU. MOTUNRAYOS JOURNEY IN CHOOSING HER MARITAL PARTNER(Gods will) I want to share the true life story of a sister with you in her effort to know the will of God for her in marriage. I will also encourage you to look beyond the story in this series and observe the various ways through which ...you can hear from God. Motunrayos typical idea of a right man is a born again, a man with a purpose, vision and direction, a lively/cheerful man, a man who is fervent in Gods business, one who will love her deeply and worship God; preferably in her type of denomination. Its not out of place if the brother is tall, handsome or fair/dark e.t.c those are not much of a problem to her. Who is Motunrayo, that she desired all this in a man? Motunrayo is a born again daughter of God, she is a minstrel in her church and she ministers in outdoor programs too. She is a devoted minister of God and spiritually inclined. Shes of age but yet a virgin with a vow to remain so till her wedding night. Based on the compliments of friends and her neighbours she is what you will call an average virtuous woman though not without a flaw. Through a VISION, God told Motunrayo that Hes preparing her for a man with a high calling and that she will be an help meet in the fulfillment of the brothers calling. The news was a good one to her but she was still skeptical about marrying someone with a CALLING, what calling? She asked herself. There are many different callingtaking care of the widows, the orphans, preaching the word(missionary or a pastor), a gospel singer, gospel book writer, hospitality, reaching out to people(the sick e.t.c).? ? She was soon to find out. *Be what you want in a mate* *You need to have a relationship with God first* Good for Motunrayo, away from the species of men that she has ever met in her life who did quit the relationship because of her stand against FORNICATION, she happened to meet Jewel during her National Youth Service in Nigeria. Motunrayo was extremely happy meeting Jewel not because Jewel is tall, handsome, fair and a very generous brother, same tribe, same denomination and all those good qualities she desired, she was extremely happy because Jewel is a minister of Gods word with a vision to reach the nations for Christ. *It is a good thing if your God-given purpose compliments your partners*

They had wonderful time together during their Youth Service and the relationship APPEARED like wow! They were meant to be! This could be nothing but Gods will. They related so well and introduced each other to their friends and few relatives but still she didnt give the brother her word to marry him. Few Months later, Motunrayo suddenly felt like the relationship was going too fast so she told Jewel to give her some time off to pray and seek the face of God as she was ALWAYS AFRAID OF SAYING YES TO HIS MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. They both agreed to wait on God separately and pray. *Dont put the cart before the horse! Ask God for DIRECTION before starting the relationship* Motunrayo was happy and worried, full of thoughtis Jewel Gods will for me? Can I marry this man? What if I pray and God reveal to me that he is not the right man for me, will I be able to let go? I wont let him go! Uhmm I love him, she said to herself. *Why asking God for His opinion when your mind is already MADE UP to marry the fellow* She FASTED and PRAYED yet God didn't speak to her concerning the brother. She started crying Lord hearing your voice is my birth-right, speak to me please Though Motunrayo and Jewel were communicating while all the waiting was going on, the better part of their discussion on phone was full of argument; quarreling over every little thing an understanding couple should laugh over. She observed that they HAD NO MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING and her FEAR to marry this brother was just there like a mountain. What are the hidden things about this brother? The more Jewel pressed Motunrayo to speed up her prayers and give him a reply, the more she became afraidWhy am I afraid to marry him? uhm but I love him. She ended it with a smile. One portion of the SCRIPTURE hit her one day and it kept crossing her mind. * International Stardard Version. 1 John.4:18 There is no fear where love exists. Rather, perfect love banishes fear, for fear involves punishment, and the person who lives in fear has not been perfected in love. *Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path* Psalms 119:105 Consequently she started having DREAMS She dreamed and saw a very clear vision of her future family with Jewel, they were both fighting and he was all over herbeating her with a broomshe woke up tired and exhausted, when she remembered the dream she had she was sad...she almost bursted into tears. *God decides HOW to speak to you but you must probe further through prayers and the scripture for confirmation* (Continues)

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE? Part 11 Waiting for Gods will MOTUNRAYOS JOURNEY IN THE CHOICE OF A MARITAL PARTNER (Continuesfrom yesterday) *It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter* Prov.25:2 They were all fetching water at the public tap when somebody walked up to Motunrayo and broke the news not minding if she would faint or die. ... Jewel is having his engagement ceremony today and the church wedding is happening tomorrow! said a woman Motunrayo was totally shocked. She broke into tears right there in the presence of everybody. She was pacing up and down didn't know exactly what to do. Her wrapper dropped on the floor and she didn't bother picking it up. She picked up her phone and called Jewel immediately. Tell me it is not true that you are getting married to someone else With hot tears and deep tension, Motunrayo asked Jewel on phone. Yes it is true, so what? At least you didn't agree to marry me Came the unremorseful reply from Jewel Motunrayo dropped the callrolling on the ground and crying bitterly. The only thing that crossed her mind was thatwhat a cruel man! Then she woke up out of her sleepThank God it was just a dream! Motunrayo heaved a sigh of relief and discarded it. Can he ever leave me for another woman? Oh no! Could it be that he is already seeing another lady or possibly having another relationship? Why this dream? May be it was exactly what was on my mind before I went to bed. She consoled herself. *It is actually possible to have a dream based on what you think/brood over during the day or before going to bed but search it out before discarding it* Few Months later, Motunrayo was sick so she went to visit her aunt with the hope of having a better treatment and sufficient free time to herself. She was waiting on God for her healing and quick recovery for she had earlier grew tired of praying about Jewel and the marriage proposal. *Keep your mind free of worry and anxieties while waiting to hear from God* One cool afternoon, Motunrayo was meditating on her Scripture and something wonderful happened to her. She heard THE STILL SMALL VOICE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT! Get engrossed in my service and when you least expect it, your husband will come She jumped out of her bed. Yes! Thats His voice. I know it! She became angry and afraid.

Why will I wait for another man? When will that be? What of Jewel, why did we meet if he is not the one for me? No! I will not let go neither am I ready to wait for another man. That was the end of her meditation. *Some people are fasting and praying to know the mind of God concerning someone who proposed marriage to themyet all they wanted from God is actually a YES.* Jewel was impatiently waiting for a response from the lady prophetess who is taking an eternity to hear from God. Why is it taking you so long to hear from God? He angrily retorted one day. What about you, how sure are you that I am right for you to marry? Motunrayo snapped back I have THE INNER PEACE OF MIND if you care to know Jewel confidently replied her After a while they both relaxed and express how deeply they love each other. *God gives us inner peace of mind as a signbut you can never pray too much so wait more* CAUTION: If you propose a marriage to a lady and getting a reply from her is like you demanding for her kidney (difficult) many things can be responsible 1. It could be that she has never developed her hearing ability meaning if she has not been depending on God/waiting to hear from God before your proposal, it will be mission impossible for her to hear Him as regards your proposal. 2. It could be that she has seen some negative signs and she just need more time to pray through 3. She has seen the red light but she wants to go ahead with you yet afraid/skeptical 4. She has received revelations against the relationship and made up her mind to stay clear but she is afraid to tell you to forget about her. Motunrayo decided to hear from her pastor. She felt a bit at rest that God would have spoken to her pastor concerning the brother(Of course she already told her pastor about the brother) She called her pastor but she wasn't too happy when her pastor told her to PRAY MORE. Sincerely all what Motunrayo wanted to hear from her pastor is whether God has spoken to him concerning her marriage. *Hear from God first before seeking help from people* I think its high time I meet a marriage counselorMotunrayo concluded. *Where no counsel is, the people fall. In the multitude of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14. Shalom

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE. Part 12 Waiting for Gods will. (Continuation) Motunrayos journey in the choice of a marital partner. Motunrayo visted the marriage counsellor as she has purposed to do. She couldnt think straight any longer... God cannot be boxed into a corner, He is a sovereign God and He doesnt work according to a set pattern: thats why He is called a marvellous and a mysterio...us God so unsearchable in all His ways. He can provide DIFFERENT SOLUTION for the SAME PROBLEM for different people. He deals with each person differently. God often guides us through PORTIONS OF THE SCRIPTURES (Thats the very reason why you need to be conversant with the word of God and keep it in your heart.) Psalms119:105 So my dear Motunrayo, do not close your eyes and POINT or CHOOSE A MATE AT RANDOM. God doesnt act haphazardly. My dear I encourage you to saturate yourself with the word of God so that the Lord can bring various portions to your mind as the need arises. Gods will is never CONTRARY to the SCRIPTURE. My sister, other vital points I will like to stress is that God uses INNER CONVICTION/PEACE/JOY within you to speak to you as a direction in any matter you are awaiting His guidance, dreams and vision, PROPHECY FROM A RELIABLE minister, EVENTS & OCCURRENCES too in knowing His will for you. Motunrayo, I PERCEIVED IN MY SPIRIT that in your case, seeing that you have been through some of those communication system, BE SENSITIVE TO THE EVENTS/ HAPPENINGS that will unfold between you and brother Jewel over time and be at alert in your spirit man, pray and God will guide you to decide. Please dont you ever think that God will talk to you in a deep masculine voice and say *My daughter this is your husband*. They both laughed. Thank you sir, I do appreciate your time and counsel. Motunrayo said God bless you my sister. The counsellor replied. In the middle of Motunrayos Youth Service she travelled to her State to visit her family. One day, her uncles wife who is a minister was just praying for her, the woman bluntly said

You are yet to meet your husband, yes! The man who will marry you has not proposed marriage to you yet Motunrayo gave her uncles wife a scornful look yet the woman continued The person you have now is not your husband Motunrayo has never been close nor had a good rapport with her uncles wife before thenso she hated her the more. What rubbish! She hissed under her breath and went into her room. Letting go of this perfect catch is the most difficult hurdle I have ever experienced! Why is everything against me? Why? Motunrayo was sobbing I dont have the inner peace/conviction, bad dreams, fear, rubbish prophecy and lack of mutual understanding and Jewels hot temper again; what more can I have in just a single year...I am confused... I feel like screaminnnnggg.I am tired and frustrated. Motunrayo cried bitterly and slept. She stopped communicating with Jewel because she felt he wasnt making the whole situation any better for her. Jewel did call her some times but it was just a casual greeting and then said his goodbye. Jewel has a friend whose name is John, he also happened to be an intimate friend to Motunrayo. Motunrayo has reported Jewel to his friend on many occasionscomplaining about his anger and attitude so the brother knew about the situation of things between the duo. Good day Motunrayo! Came the voice of brother John on the phone You! You remember me today! Motunrayo was laughing Brother John: Please I am calling you for something serious. Do you know that Jewel is getting married tomorrow? As I am speaking to you now; his engagement party is going on in Lagos, Nigeria. Hello o hello are you there? Motunrayo was just cryingshe told brother John that she was okay but she couldnt be. She ran out of her roomwent to a quiet corner and had a good cry. She picked up her phone and called Jewel(on his engagement day) Congratulation Jewel, may God bless your marriage. Motunrayo said Thank you, I appreciate your call. Jewel coolly replied Everything came back to her like a flashone of her bad dreams about Jewel just came to pass just like that! Through the help of her friends and counsellors, she got over it and moved on with her life. If you are waiting for God's will in marriage give the wheel to God and sit comfortably at the owner's seat; trusting Him for the best. They that wait upon the Lord...

Guess you want to know what later happened to Motunrayo? Ask the Holy Spirit. Love you brethren. WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE. PART 13 Waiting for God's will LOVE in GOD's WILL The second most important consideration after the voice of God is love. Is It possible not to LOVE God's will for one? NO! Well, different folks with different foes. I have read and heard people(even pastors) shared their experiences about their initial reluctance in accepting God's will for their lives. ... I remembered my parish pastor's story; he said he desired to marry a born again, short and dark lady. He desired a short lady on purpose; he is very short. He went to minister in a particular church and this sister (his wife of today) ministered in a song in a very powerful way, he was blessed...he said a word just dropped in his heart that "this is your wife" He said tough he loved the sister's ministration but she wasn't his type of woman(she is fair and tall) He prayed about it for a while...struggled with his spirit that he would not marry a lady who is taller than him and the last straw that broke the camel's back is her fair complexion. In short...he went through the normal protocol; met her church pastor to ask if the sister was in a relationship and behold she wasn't...case settled! they got married later. " My wife is more than a diamond to me, I just love her" In one of our single's summit, his wife also shared that her husband wasn't her dream husband in STATURE & PROFESSION...she dislike short men and she never thought of marrying a pastor. Those were the issues she has to struggle with when she was told, prayed and convinced about his intention. All this doesn't go to say that God will not give you the perfect one or your desire but there are some items in that LONG/TIGHT LIST you are keeping about your dream man/woman that you will have to compromise if you finally discover God's will for you. He/she could turn out to be EXACTLY what you desired OR slightly different. Some people will say that I think he/she is God's will but I don't love him/her YET. It is not advisable to marry who you do not love. "Believe me God will never give you a mate you will not love". EVERY GOOD AND PERFECT GIFT COMES FROM ABOVE, IT COMES FROM THE

FATHER OF LIGHT IN WHOM THERE IS NO VARIABLENESS. James 1:17. God doesn't force a mate on anyone. Don't enter into trouble all in the name of God's will. SOMETHING connected between Isaac when he saw Rebekah likewise Rebekah when she saw Isaac. Genesis.24:64&67 Love can be instant or gradual which means you can be in love with the person within a very little time you met OR it can grow as you know more about the person overtime but I don't believe in marrying someone YOU DON'T LOVE. It's not God's will...you must love each other BEFORE MARRIAGE. "If you marry somebody you cannot celebrate, you will spend the rest of your life tolerating". Pst Bisi Adewale If you are wise, you are wise for yourself and if you scorn you will bear it alone. (Proverb 9:12) Marry only the person you love. Love is the bedrock of a home that will not hit the rock. Do not do what you may live to regret for the rest of your life. Never marry anybody you do not love for any reason. A loveless marriage is worse than a life-long of single-hood. Remember you will live the rest of your life with this person. You will see him/her day and night. You will likely have a baby that will look exactly like him/her. A carbon copy of somebody you do not love will have to sit on your lap for years or even suck your breast. Do not pretend. Never allow a loveless relationship to lead to marriage. You may ask, What of if I feel God is leading me but I do not love him/her? I will like you to check your so-called Gods direction. You may be wrong. And if you are right, then open your mind to love the person. Destroy the image of your dream husband/wife that does not allow you to be in love with Gods choice for you. Destroy that idol and you will see the flood of love filling your heart. At times, the present financial status, stature, complexion,tribe,State of origin, church denomination, family background e.t.c. of the person may be the reason why you do not love him/her. Let me tell you this: His present position is not his future. He is in transition going to a glorious destination. Be very sure you are in love before you say Yes I do

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE. Part 14 Waiting for God's will *PRAYERS* THE MYSTERIES BEHIND SOME MARITAL DELAY Motunrayo have not been so happy as she was having several revelational dreams. She had been fighting the battle alone by FASTING AND PRAYING; any day she wakes up with any of such dreams she would fight back with the portion of the SCRIPTURES that address the dream and started praying in ...tongues until when she couldn't take it anymore, so she decided to visit her SPIRITUAL FATHER Sir, I have a knowing in my heart ; I perceived that my husband is not a stranger I am yet to meet but someone around me presently and another thing that gets me bother each day is that I have been having many dreams about my marital life. I have been seeing a barrier in between me and one brother. The brother would look at me at the other side and smile but the roadblock is just there so we couldn't near each other. I also had another dream in which this same brother came to me and immediately he looked at me, he took to his heels then I ran after him and asked him why he was running away from me but he denied yet he didn't proposed marriage. In another dream, I saw like a cloth was used to cover my face. There are so many of them sir, I am worried about all these dreams and now that I am 30years old all eyes are on me. Please sir I need deliverance because I feel this is the work of ANTIMARRIAGE FORCES Yes, you are right my dear sister. The pastor replied. There are some mysteries behind every marital delay. It could be that there is a battle to be won before your marriage can happen just like you have rightly said "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" Ephesians.6:12Niv In the Bible, Daniel had an experience of such a delay. Let me read from my NIV version for you: Daniel 10:12-13 "Then he continued, "Do not be afraid, Daniel. SINCE THE FIRST DAY THAT you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God,YOUR WORDS WERE HEARD, AND I HAVE COME IN RESPONSE TO THEM. "But THE PRINCE OF PERSIA kingdom resisted me TWENTY-ONE DAYS. Then Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me, because I was detained there with the king of Persia. My dear sister, I want to encourage you that God indeed has a plan for your life, He has known

you since you were in your mother's womb so He has a man prepared for you but the only thing we need to do is to conduct serious prayer sessions to destroy every anti-marriage forces. There are some brothers who are bold and outspoken but there is a force which is beyond speaking grammar holding them back from proposing marriage to a sister they deeply love. I will give you a list of prayer points and I want you to take your portion by force. The pastor hand over a paper and a pen to Motunrayo. Pray for forgiveness of all your sins and pray seriously 1. Father empower me and teach my hands to war. Psalms 18:33-35 2. I declare destruction over the strong man/woman who is standing up against my marital connection. Mark 12:29 3. I destroy every foundational curse, oath, evil covenant, evil-works standing against my marriage. Galatians 3:13 4. I decree and declare against every satanic cover, mark of hatred, embargo, evil fragrance and everything the enemies have done that repels my God-ordained husband from coming to me. Isaiah 49:15-16,60:15,62:4 5. Holy Ghost fire destroy every obstacles between me and my God-ordained husband. Destroy by fire every adversaries before my open door to marital connection. Acts 14:27 6. I shower with the blood of Jesus from the crown of my head to the soul of my feet and I declare I come out of the hidden,I am shining and full of God's glory. Hebrews 12:24 7. Blood of Jesus speak for me, cover me with your beauty, advertise my life to your your son you have prepared for me to marry. Psalms 90:16-17 8. I command a divine pull between me and my husband in JESUS NAME. 9. My marriage will happen in the name of Jesus. 10. I will enjoy my marriage in the name of Jesus. 11. Praise God for answered prayers and live in faith. Psalms 20. Thank you sir, my spirit is lifted up. Motunrayo knelt down for the pastor. The pastor showered powerful prayers on her. Amen in Jesus name. Please sister Motunrayo tell your husband (because he will soon com) that he is buying me a car for keeping us waiting and praying. Haa daaaaddy. Motunrayo laughed and joyfully left for the fellowship.

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE. Part 15 Waiting for God's will "I feel all sisters should start praying that God should open the eyes of our brothers to see their wives who are seriously waiting" Sister Grace bursted out with laughter "Yes o o o " Motunrayo chorused 'Definitely it's not about going to clubs and parties o o my sister; it is about God to just ORDER

OUR STEPS TO CONNECT WITH OUR God-orda...ined partners" Sister Grace concluded. "Can you imagine! someone whom you have known for donkey years suddenly approached you for marriage, what kept him all those years? Motunrayo said "I wonder o o " Sister Grace laughed again. What amused them is the testimony below... HE PROPOSED MARRIAGE TO HER AND SHE GAVE HIM A STINGING SLAP! (At a table in a candle-lit restaurant, a man and woman having dinner) Man: Baby, I love you, would you please marry me? Woman: (stands up and lands a stinging slap on his face) I have waited more than 9 years, I have prayed, fasted, sowed seeds, bought books and listened to tapes, even went out of my way to be nice to every male specie of marriageable age! I took up new hobbies, watching football and play station. I went to Day star, from Day star, I went to House on the Rock, from House on the rock I went to Guiding Light Assembly, from there i went to this Present Winners looking every where for you l went from a size 14 to a size 10, so that when you see me youd love what you see. I left Lagos, went to Abuja, from Abuja I went to Port-Harcourt, then I went all the way to Ibadan/Kano. I joined hi-five, from hi-five to face book, then I went to twitter, I even had a blog on which I ranted, hoping you would show up! from where? I uploaded only my best pictures on Facebook, in fact I took photo sessions to look my best, all for you! I attended all the weddings, whether the invitation was direct or indirect! The next place I was hoping to check was the moon, before you crawled out, crawled out from the house directly next to mine! So it was YOU all this while? The NEIGHBOR I said hello to EVERY MORNING? Were you trying to destroy my faith? You almost rendered my prayer life useless? What were you waiting for? What sign where you looking for? Do you want to kill me before you reveal yourself?!!! Now be a gentleman, get down on your knees and put that ring on my finger! I decree and declare a removal of every scales in the eyes of your God-ordained partner in Jesus name, may the Lord advertise you to him/her and a divine pull connect you together this season in the name of Jesus. Help us SHARE this page. Shalom