WHAT is LOVE

If you love some one because you think that he or she

is really gorgeous ...then it's not love...it's "Infatuation"

Love & Friendship

If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him
because others think that you shouldn't ... then it's not love.. it's
"Compromise"

If you love some one because you have been kissed by him ... then
it's not love.. it's "Inferiority complex"

If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it
would hurt his feelings .. then it's not love .. it's "Charity"

If you love some one because you share every thing with him ... then
it's not love... it's "Friendship"

BUT...
If you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he
is stable and you cry for him ... that's "LOVE"

If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any
regrets... that's "LOVE"

If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to ...
that's "LOVE"
10 things you didn't know about sex
1. The typical lovemaking session lasts around 15 minutes: roughly
10 to 12 minutes of foreplay and around 3 to 5 minutes of intercourse.

2. Humans aren't the only horny members of the animal kingdom

doing it just for fun. Dolphins and a type of chimpanzee called the
bonobo have also been observed engaging in sexual activity when
they are not in their natural reproductive cycles.

3. While Viagra has made erectile dysfunction (affecting 10 to 12

percent of men) a household phrase, the opposite problem --
premature ejaculation -- is more common (affecting 24 to 27 percent
of men). The U.S. Food and Drug Administration is currently
reviewing a drug called dapoxetine as a cure for this problem.

4. Crank up that thermostat... orgasms may be more intense in

warmer conditions. The degree of vasocongestion, reddening or
darkening of the skin known as the "sex flush," is both more common
in warmer temperatures and an indication of how intense an orgasm
may be.

5. If a woman experiences orgasm during sex, she is more likely to

become pregnant, since orgasmic spasms in pelvic muscles help
move sperm up the vaginal canal to the uterus.

6. Homosexuality is not unique to humans. Many species have been

observed engaging in homosexual activity, and in fact male bats have
the highest rate of homosexuality of all mammals.

7. On any given day 400,000,000 people around the world -- 1 in 17

of us -- will have sexual intercourse. Broken down further, 4,000
people are having sex at any given time.

8. Sex cures headaches. Endorphins released into our bloodstream

when we have sex not only give us pleasure but also act as
painkillers. Useful information to whip out the next time your partner
uses a headache as a reason to say no.
9. Many elderly can and do have frequent sex. At age 70, 73% of
males are still potent, and 30% of women 80 or older have still have
sex.

10. 70% of women would rather eat chocolate than have sex.

15 Simple Ways to Keep Your Partner

Happy
So you're in a relationship and your partner starts nagging. She tells you
that you just don't understand her, and that she really wishes that you
would just do more "little things."
It's not the big things that make her happy; it's paying attention to the
little details and showing you care that is really meaningful. She doesn't
necessarily need lavish gifts -- she needs to know you're thinking about
her.
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these "little things" she
really wants:
1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet.
Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night. Don't ask her if she wants you to make
dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead
of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile
from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we
had last night was great."
5. Send an eCard in the middle of the day... something cute to remind
her how much you really care about her.
6. If she's going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick
her up to make her life that much easier.
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don't monopolize it for a
change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying
watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by
watching it with her.
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don't just sit there and
ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see
water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through
your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
11. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give
her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
12. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next
day. Offer it! Don't just say you'll give her a massage...do it!
13. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, "We're going out tonight
honey." You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It's
taking the initiative that's important.
14. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date
like when you first started dating.
15. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don't wait for her
to call you.
It can be simple to keep her satisfied. It's not necessarily about what you
give her financially or what gifts you give her. That's a cop out. It's the
little things. The guy who makes the biggest mistake is the one who
ignores their significant other then all of a sudden give them an
expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn't make up for it at all.

3 Keys to Meeting Women

Most men think there's a magic word they can say to get a woman to
talk to them. While there is no such "magic word," there are three keys to
communicating with a woman that work every single time.
This is not earth-shattering stuff. What I'm about to suggest to you is a
simple approach that has worked every single time I or one of my
students have used it.
Here are the three simple steps to communicating with a woman:
Step 1: Observe What She Is Doing. Take the example of a woman
standing behind you in line at the supermarket unloading her groceries.
What is she putting on the conveyor belt? If she's behind you in line at
Starbucks, what is she ordering? What is she eating?
”Most guys think of something to say that's so random it makes absolutely no
sense in a woman's mind.”
Notice everything she's doing. Let the environment give you something to
say.
Most guys think of something to say that's so random it makes
absolutely no sense in a woman's mind. Women actually make fun of
these guys and say, "You won't believe what he actually came over and
said to me."
Step 2: Act on the Observation. In order to properly act upon the
observation, you need to open her up and evoke a feeling. For instance, if
a woman is ordering a double espresso, the thing to talk about is usually
the first thing that comes to your mind.
”Women are emotional creatures. They want to bond with you emotionally. “

A typical guy might say, "Do you like coffee?" which leads to a yes or no
answer. A man who is 100 percent present will look at her and say,
"Rough night last night?" or "Busy day ahead?" What you're trying to do
is stay inside her head and remain in her current thought process.
It's much easier to have a conversation based upon things she's already
experiencing. A woman will share something that's already going on in
her head.
Another example: you're standing at a bar and see a woman ferociously
texting someone while standing there by herself. You can walk over and
make an assumption like "Is your friend late?" This will in turn open up
a conversation based upon feelings and emotions.
Women are emotional creatures. They want to bond with you
emotionally. They don't want to bond with you randomly. This leads us
to Step 3.
Step 3: Listen to What She Has to Say. In order to have good
conversation and bond with a woman, you need to listen to what she
says. If you listen to her, you will know what to say next. It's called a
conversation for a reason.
A lot of men always think about what to say next, or they have a script in
their head about what to say next. That's not a conversation -- that's a
bad screenplay.
”That's not a conversation. That is a guy changing the subject to talk about
himself. He doesn't care about her right off the bat.”
For example, I was standing with a couple of clients on a corner in
Williamsburg, Brooklyn. There was a woman standing there by herself
with a suitcase, obviously waiting for someone to pick her up for a
weekend getaway. So what did these two guys do? They observed and
they asked her:
Guys: "So where are you going?"
Girl: "New Jersey."
Immediately one of them says, "New Jersey? I'm from Tampa."
That's not a conversation. That is a guy changing the subject to talk
about himself. He doesn't care about her right off the bat. The correct
thing to say in this situation is this:
Guy: "Where in Jersey are you going?"
Girl: "The shore for the weekend."
Now, in turn, the two guys can keep her present in her head about the
weekend and ask her about her trip.
Guys: "Which beach?" or "Wow, how long are you staying there?"
If they listen and stop thinking about how to amuse her by telling her
they're from Tampa, they'll actually connect with her and have a
conversation about the shore, vacations -- and who knows where the
conversation might go.
Men complicate things for no reason. There are no magic lines that you
can say, but in reality if men just talked to women like they talk to their
closest friends, they would have amazing conversations. Men just need to
relax and listen to what women are saying.
Do this and you're going to have great conversations. It's that simple! Get
out of the house, observe, react and listen!

10 Tips for Approaching Women

What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you
run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the
Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to
say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking
too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will
work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they
deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what
you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the
confidence you display when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe
in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For
example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is
good here.
Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly
natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting
to comment on.
“Make your comment immediate to the situation.”
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine
smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating
openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that
you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her,
walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule).
Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your
head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which
makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with
shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her
internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make
her feel at ease with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you
approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good
about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more
drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do
not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays
attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out
random words, she will lose interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows
you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable,
she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of
your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of
movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful
tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways
to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of
something like "
I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her
know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your
friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact
same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often
makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her
slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and
are comfortable with yourself.
”I hope you saved some turkey for me.”
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice!
Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all
together, you will be surprised at their power.

10 First Date Tips for Men

Men often complain that women are mysterious, complicated
creatures who are difficult to please. In truth, most women are quite
easily pleased from a date one once you know how to make them feel
desired, safe, and inspired. These 10 tips will ensure you put your best
foot where it belongs... forward!
#1: A first date should be light, fun and romantic. A real first date is
when you've both decided that you'd like to get together for more than a
quick beverage. The female definition of a first date is this: You pick her
up and make reservations. Any deviance from this time-tested formula is
usually a red flag, and not what most females consider a proper first
date.
Romantic Rule: Starbucks doesn't count!
#2: A long lead time.
”Considerate and smart men make plans well in advance.”
Considerate and smart men make plans well in advance. They know
that women like to be treated like they're too in demand to have huge
holes in their social calendars, (even if you have intel that would suggest
otherwise!) You'll create romantic tension by giving her several days to
look forward to seeing you. Besides, this creates the secret ingredient of
seductive success... anticipation.
Romantic Rule: Create romance by planning in advance for it.
#3: Actions speak louder than words. Women know that men invest in
the things that they value with whatever resources they have at their
disposal, be it cash, creativity, energy, or enthusiasm. If you make plans
that are insultingly casual, it's a clear sign that you're withholding your
approval from her. Women will take this lackluster performance
seriously, and often shoo you away without further ado. You don't have
to spend big bucks, but if you like her, why not come up with something
that will delight her?
Romantic Rule: The plans you make for her, tell her the plans that you
have for her!
#4: A confirming call. Being vague about your plans will only cause
most women needlessly anxiety. If you men had any idea about the pre-
date regime that women go through to get ready for a high priority date,
you'd all be much more on top of this one. When you call to confirm your
first date late, she'll be irritated and stressed-out even if she doesn't
show it.
Romantic Rule: Having good manners will make her feel like you're a
great bet, and not a deranged stranger.
#5: A lovebird lands on her doorstop at the appointed time. It's bad
form for a man to keep a woman waiting in general, but especially so on
a first date. This often puts women into a state of "dressing disorder."
When men are late, most women will just keep changing outfits until the
doorbell rings and then be forced to greet you mid-outfit. She'll then
blame this on you, the tardy man, who should've arrived on time to avert
this crisis!
Romantic Rule: If you'll be delayed longer than 10 minutes, inform her
of your new ETA as soon as you can. Most women l appreciate extra time
to fluff-up before you ring their bell.
#6: Signal your attraction and approval immediately.
“Men earn a woman's affection by consistent care and positive
attention.”
Men earn a woman's affection by consistent care and positive attention.
On a first date, and every date, women will look for little clues that signal
your desire. No matter how hot or how homely, she'll want to know that
you find her fetching if she's agreed to spend quality time with you. To do
this, quickly toss her a compliment. Try the old standby "You look great"
or the new metro sexual classic, "Love your shoes" immediately upon
your arrival. You'll have set a warm and positive tone and scored an easy
point.
Romantic Rule: Quickly inspire romance and put her at ease by paying
her a compliment.
#7: Woman are suckers for a man with a plan. Women love men who
have the ability to care for them and about them. It's always a good sign
when a man has made reservations because it's proof that you're not
winging it. When you take control, it's a signal that she can relax and
enjoy herself. The typical woman will also be wary of the man who asks
in a whiny voice what she'd like to do.
Romantic Rule: Women assume that men who don't make reservations
for them, have reservations about them!
#8: Pick up the check. If you're wondering who should pick up the first
check. Please consider that women spend wads of money on first dates:
there's the bikini waxing (painful), manicures, blow drys (time-
consuming), lingerie (expensive), and Pilates (ridiculously over-priced).
It's an investment for women to just show up.
Romantic Rule: The very least you can do is to pick her up and feed her.
She's exhausted!
#9: Be a class act. If the date was a dud, don't weenie out and say "I'll
call you." Just cut her loose by giving her a quick peck on the cheek and
say, "Thanks for coming out tonight. It was great meeting you." That'll
signal it's a wrap.
#10: Seal the deal. But if she knocked your socks off, walk her to her
door, look her in the eyes, say "I had an amazing time tonight" and move
in for the perfect nightcap... a goodnight kiss. If she turns her cheek,
don't despair! She may not be ready for a lip lock just yet. Tell her you
want to see her again and set up your next date right then and there.
8 First Date Tips for Single Women

As a love coach, I've heard the following question more times than I can
remember:
"What happened? I'm so confused. At first, he seemed to really like me.
He made reservations, picked me up, and took me to a fabulous
restaurant. But for some reason, over the course of dinner, he became a
little cold and distant. By the time he dropped me off, he seemed
withdrawn and just sped off into the night. I haven't heard from him
since! And I really liked him. I'm so bummed! What do you think
happened?"
Does this sound familiar to you? If so, you may have broken some
cardinal first-date rules without knowing it. Here are eight tips to ensure
that a first date will turn into a second if you'd really like it to:
#1: Don't be negative about dating. Why should a man pursue someone
who isn't happy? It's ineffective manhandling to dump your dating
disappointments on bachelor No. 3.
“Talking to a man about how awful dating is just begs the question, "Are
you in therapy?"
Talking to a man about how awful dating is just begs the question, "Are
you in therapy?"
Romance Rule: Be a romantic challenge, not a mental health challenge.
#2: Don't get tipsy. Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your
date's character. Practice restraint, and don't have more than a drink or
two when you're out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you
possibly observe him and decide if he's remotely right for you?
Romantic Rule: Always stay sober enough to remember how naughty
you were the night before!
#3: Don't talk badly about your exes. I don't care if he cheated on you
with your sister, don't recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes.
This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded.
“Reveal your secrets when you're both on a beach in Hawaii or, better
yet, engaged!
Reveal your secrets when you're both on a beach in Hawaii or, better yet,
engaged!
Romantic Rule: We all have baggage. Keep it in the closet on first dates.
#4: Don't spook your suitor. Now is not the time to point out your
physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually
do something about them, and not to men who will now be forced to lie
to you if they possess good manners.
Romantic Rule: Confidence is sexy! Sometimes, thoughts are for the
inside.
#5: Don't talk about your personal pet peeves. Although your therapist
might get butterflies inside when you talk about how traumatized you
are by the staggering number of germs that thrive in public restrooms,
the typical male will be horrified. You'll have violated the sacred air space
of "romantic quality time" and these little monologues of strange pain will
be as off-putting as if you started sorting unwashed laundry in a
restaurant.
Romantic Rule: You already know all about you. Keep your problems to
yourself and get to know him.
#6: Don't chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase.
Besides, it's so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a
first tea date, but after that, it's up to a man to decide whether he wants
to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow
men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.
Romantic Rule: When men chase you, they're much less likely to fly
away.
#7: Don't keep squawking.
“Don't feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless
chatter.
Don't feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless
chatter. If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don't panic, just let
it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much
more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be
surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant
pause, "Come here and kiss me!"
Romantic Rule: Remember, sometimes less conversation really is more.
#8: Learn how to leave. Anyone can be pleasant when they're enjoying
themselves, but the true test of character is how one behaves when
terribly bored, or worse, treated shabbily. There's nothing to be gained by
suffering through a terrible date, so if you're having an awful time,
depart quickly and gracefully, without being rude. When you're itching to
leave, say: "Thank you so much for meeting me. I think it's time for me to
go on home, Jerome. (Smile) Take care." Extend your hand for a quick
shake, swiftly turn on your heel and depart.
Romantic Rule: If you're on date number one and aren't having fun,
release your date back into the wild immediately.

10 Secrets About Men

1. You don't want to be judged for your looks; we don't want to be
judged for our wallets. Unless we're ugly and have lots of money. Then
it's OK.
2. You're not the only person who likes to be called "sexy."
3. Saying "I love you" is a major step in a man's life. That's why we wait
for you to take that step first.
4. We are not being cheap when we make $35,000 a year and can't
afford to pay every single date. We are merely being practical.
5. A guy who spends too much time in the gym is making up for
something else that's lacking. Unfortunately, you can't figure out what it
is until it's too late.
6. Don't get mad at us because we don't remember what you were
wearing on our first date, or the angle of the light during our first kiss.
We were probably drunk.
7. You're good in bed if you make us feel like stallions.
8. Jealousy isn't a sign that you love us more, it's a sign that you trust
us less.
9. Hanging up on us is a surefire way to make sure we go to bed mad.
10. We're sorry. Whatever it is, we're sorry.

11 Things Women Don't Know About Men

1. Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at
yourself for not being able to fly. It's not just futile, it's physically
impossible.
2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we're even dumb
enough to admit it.
3. Don't ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is
even sort of pushing it.
4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with
it.
5. Ever notice how we don't fight with our male friends? That's why we
get so frustrated when we fight with you.
6. You care what you're wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if
you're naked when you open the front door, you won't hear an argument
from us.
7. You don't like to get hit on in public, you don't want to date online and
you don't want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger
pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we're all over
it.
8. There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said
that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.
“ There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that
can come back to haunt us.”
9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it
takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We
appreciate it.
10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front
of the guys!
11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn't mean
we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long,
anyway.
12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if
your new boyfriend's a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might
want to consider marrying that nice guy who's giving you advice about
the jerk.

Successful Dating Secrets (7 ways to supercharge your

social life)
All of you must be acquainted with at least one woman who is a guy
magnet. She's the one who always seems to have a boyfriend (or two) and
usually attracts the most interest when your group of female friends is
out together. OK, she's attractive and fun, but the same can be said
about all of you.
So, what does she have that the rest of you don't? Hint: Think effective
body language, positive nonverbal and verbal communication, healthy
self-esteem, and an ability and willingness to assertively use these to
make the right connection.
Secrets of the successful dater
As a dating coach who has worked with many clients of both sexes, I
have been on the front lines with singles seeking many different kinds of
dating experiences. I have encountered bad boys, nice guys, strong
women, shy women, the marriage-minded, the commitment-phobes,
those who have little or no dating experience, and those with active and
satisfying dating histories.
What I have learned is that ultimate success comes to those who are
honest and open about what they are looking for, who are willing to take
initiative, and who actively participate in the "chase." That's right, ladies
-- this means you, too.
”You must be willing to break, or at least bend, the "rules"
You must be willing to break, or at least bend, the "rules" as you learn to
challenge the myths that say men must always be the hunters and
women the elusive prey.
Use the following tips to help you write your own set of rules:
1. Come up with two or three subtle moves that you can make
towards a guy whose online profile catches your eye. Try using your
imagination and thinking outside the box. Winking, sharing something
about yourself that helps you to stand out, or sending a brief, intriguing
email that comments on something he said are always the easiest to
start with. Keep it simple, honest, and sincere.
2. If a guy sends an email flirt, don't wait to respond. Look over his
profile and send an email ASAP. Many women report having waited too
long and then learning too late that he has met someone of interest in
the meantime.
3. Don't wait more than two weeks after your first contact for HIM to
suggest that first meeting. If you have been regularly communicating
back and forth, go for it. Make it easy for him by having a tentative plan
in mind already, and make sure that it is one that requires you to share
the effort jointly. If he hesitates or avoids giving a response, he is not the
guy for you.
4. Put a genuine effort into that first meeting. Try to look your best
and communicate real interest in him and what he has to say.
“Be open and honest in your conversation.”
Be open and honest in your conversation -- without over-sharing. Let
him know if you had a good time and that you'd love to get together
again.
5. Don't represent yourself as only looking for a good time or as not
interested in a serious relationship if this is not so. If it comes up, state
your relationship goals simply and honestly and move on to something
else. Don't elaborate on your ticking clock, desire for a large family, or
other imperatives for sealing the deal quickly.
6. If you really like the guy, communicate this through your eyes,
posture, smile, and other facial expressions. Tell him that you enjoy
talking with him, sharing time with him, and would like to know him
better.
7. Think about your men friends, satisfying relationships -- and ask
them how they feel about women making the first move. Don't be
surprised if at least one of them shares that his significant other was the
one who approached him first. Listen carefully when he tells you that
women who know what they want and go after it are a turn-on. Â In
other words, get a man's perspective, then go out there in cyberspace
and be open to making the first move.

Top 10 Ways to Get Lucky at Love

1. Know what you want. Your looks change and fade, character does
not. While a certain amount of "chemistry" is nice, don't rely solely on
lust. What qualities are you looking for in a mate?
2. Get clear about what you don't want. Knowing what you really can't
tolerate in a partner is important. Make a list of your "don't wants"
and then cut it down to the 10 most important. Any more than that
and you'll be too picky.
3. Live your life. Once you know clearly what you want (and don't want)
in a relationship, shift your focus to living your life. You'll find that
you start noticing those who might fit, and passing by those who
don't.
4. See the big picture. Don't try so hard that you miss the obvious. If
you are great at focusing, step back now and then and look at the big
picture. Work on having a playful, whimsical attitude towards life.
5. Get out of the house. Cultivate opportunities to expand your social
circle and meet new people. Vary your routine. Have you thought of
entertaining to enlarge your social circle?
”expand your social circle and meet new people.”
6. Open your eyes and your attitude. Lucky people notice, create and
maximize chance opportunities. Chat with other shoppers while you
are waiting in line. Be ready with a "calling card" -- a personal
business-type card with basic contact information. (Want to know
how to get calling cards for free? Email me for instructions).
7. Get curious. Don't content yourself with the obvious. Ask questions.
Wonder why. Find answers.
8. Try something new. The best way to have things stay the same is to
never do anything different. Vary your daily routine, just to keep
yourself awake. Shake yourself up and notice what happens. Keep
yourself open to chance opportunities, and then take advantage of
them.
9. Expect good luck. Monitor your self-talk for negative messages that
interfere with luck. Replace the negative thoughts with positives.
Surround yourself with examples of lucky people.
10. Learn from bad luck. Take steps to prevent more bad luck from what
you have learned, then let the "bad" go. Don't dwell on or rehash the
bad experience. Look for the positive elements.