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Raise Your Child Right!

7 Keys for Successful Parenting

By Christopher Stephenson
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Christopher Stephenson has been Owner/Operator of several successful businesses, online and brick & mortar. A popular author and speaker on positive attitude for success, he is retired from active business and committed to helping others. Raising children while working and building a business simultaneously Christopher & his bride learned all there is to know about parenting the hard way, its called experience. An avid reader and consumer of training seminars, personal coaching, private counseling and continuing education he has been led to help others by mentoring from experience. This report has been prepared as an expression of that goal. Christopher revels in time with friends and the ever deepening relationships with his wife of 43 years, amazing daughter, terrific son & daughter-in-law and wonderful grandsons. Internet Locations: RaiseYourChildRight.com SuccessToolshop.com StudentofWinning.com IdeasWIN.com (inactive) StressManagementNow.com (under construction) MakingLoveWork.com (under construction) StephensonGroup.org (our opinion site)

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Contents
Contents ................................................................................................ 4 Introduction .......................................................................................... 5 The Key to Starting Out Right: Positive Expectations ...................... 8 The Key to Heading Right: Roots and Wings .................................. 12 The Key to Staying Right: Boundaries and Structure..................... 18 The Key to Raising a Caring Child: Encouragement ...................... 22 The Key to Raising a Productive Child: Rules................................. 25 The Key to Raising a Healthy Child: Share the Joy of Life ............ 29 The Key to Raising an Adult: Respect and Responsibility.............. 33 Afterward............................................................................................ 41 Special Situations Early On ............................................................ 43 Special Situations Whats Next....................................................... 44 Really Special Situations .................................................................... 46

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Introduction

You are about to be exposed to seven Key concepts which will help you overcome any hesitations and fears you may have about the process of Raising Your Child Right. Even if you are in the midst of it and struggling, these simple tried and true methods will remove your stress regarding good parenting. No mysterious half baked theories here, just what has worked. Here is one question you need to answer for yourself immediately. What Key concepts are you basing your child rearing plan on right now? Write them down. Go ahead, do it now. Now ask yourself (and your spouse) is what we are doing actually working? Do you even have a plan, or is it just a loose idea? Lets fix that together, today.

When it comes to bringing up children, we all start out as rank amateurs. Perhaps you have had experience babysitting or had younger siblings that can give you warning of what to expect. In truth you are not raising a child you have a child that you are raising to an adult. Every parent will tell you that having the responsibility of helping your child grow into a caring, productive and happy adult is a scary task. It is frightening enough that many give up without trying and give the job over to society and the school system hence the It takes a village to raise a child mindset. Personally, I take exception to that thought, for a couple of reasons, primarily because the right and responsibility for a childs development solely belongs to the parents. But beyond that, the village is simply not up to the task.

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When my children were young the disintegration of the village was already starting to take hold. So let me take you back further, to my own youth and how things used to be. I was a strong willed child, and like most, somewhat manipulative. At about 9 years old I once wanted to go out bike riding with a friend after dark on a school night. Mom said, I dont think so. When I pestered her she said, Go ask your father. So I did, sort of. I told my dad that mom had said it was okay, if he agreed. Not exactly true. So I got to go. But when they talked..Well lets just say they were not in the business of blaming each other for my actions. The punishment fell on me. But in those times, my sister and I regularly spent all the daylight hours after homework was done, out in the world. How could that have been safe? You see, at that time the village existed. If a child was out and something happened, nearly every adult temporarily assumed the role of the non-present parent. If you got hurt, adults would rush to help (whether stranger or not) and send some one to find your folks. And if you did something wrong, mean, irresponsible, illegal, etc. the adult community would not hesitate to scold you, stop you and notify your parents. I was a mouthy youth in school, and it got me trouble in the form of a ruler across the knuckles (Catholic school) and/or detention (Public school) plus a note or call to my folks. When I got home my punishment was matched by unhappy parents. Does that happen today? The knuckle rap would be a lawsuit and discipline for the teacher while the rest would bring resentment and complaints of the perfect child being treated unfairly. Lets just say I was not perfect and the punishments were earned. Unfortunately the caring, involved village has been pre-empted by childrens rights, legal complaints, liberal judges, and fear. Fear is the biggest one though. In our times, and in many areas, adults dare not say anything to errant children for fear of the youths and their parents. Who do you think you are? Most interestingly, this frequently comes from a parent who obviously demands the right to raise the child their way but then refuses to accept any responsibility for the results.

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Thank God these things are not fully representative of our society. Yet the attitudes are common enough to ensure the failure of It takes a village. So, where can you go? Who can you listen to? There are dozens of experts, hundreds of books and thousands of differing opinions. And they DO differ, to the point of being at opposite ends of the spectrum. There is hope. There are just a few tried and true concepts that really work. Do they work every time? Mostly, if you start from the beginning, when your child is little. Is it too late if your child is already 5, or 10, or 15? No. But it is a lot more difficult for you and for them. What is the value of having a caring, productive and happy child? Is the effort worth it? Well, they are the future.. We all learn through failure: use these Keys and you will fail a little less and learn a little easier. Being a good parent is much more than providing clothing, a full belly and a roof over their heads. It means demonstrating values and training in the basic skills of life. Your child in an individual miracle placed in your care for a few brief years. Raising Your Child Right is probably the most challenging and most rewarding thing you will ever have the opportunity to do, so get it right.

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This report will supply you with all you need to get things going right with your child, regardless of your starting point. For the individual/family that desires more help or perhaps more detail in specific areas I will offer recommendations in each of the Key areas. These may be in the form of Video or Audio presentations, eBooks or Advanced Courses that you may avail yourself of. These recommendations will appear at the end of each Key Chapter.

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The Key to Starting Out Right: Positive Expectations

We create our world through mindset and how we expect the world to be. These internal beliefs matter much more than we realize. To a certain extent our life experience conforms to the way we expect it to be. In 1968 Jane Elliott, a teacher in Iowa conducted an exercise with her 4th Grade Class. This unorthodox test has been both hailed as brilliant and condemned as unscientific and unethical. As controversial as it is the exercise offers us some profound insights. This is what she did: Jane Elliott told her pupils scientists had discovered that eye color defined people: blue eyes showed people who were cleverer, quicker, and more likely to succeed. They were superior to people with brown eyes, which were described as untrustworthy, lazy and stupid. A few days later, Jane Elliott told her class that she had gotten the information backwards and that brown-eyed people were superior to blue-eyed. The original idea behind the experiment was to show the children first hand what prejudice was like. The experiment was a success. On days when students were part of the so-called inferior group, they had lower test scores, showed less enthusiasm, and displayed more hostility toward classroom activities. The superior group stopped associating with the other and began acting snobbish. But this actually went far beyond what anyone thought possible. What the students expected to be, became true for them. Lets observe the results.

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Jane Elliott was amazed at the speedy transformation in her class. The superior blue-eyed children became arrogant, and were bossy and unpleasant to their brown-eyed classmates. The brown eyes quickly became cowed and timid, even those that had previously dominated the class. But what really astounded Jane was the difference academically. Blue-eyed children improved their grades, and managed mathematical and reading tasks that had proved beyond their grasp before. Brown-eyed high-flyers stumbled over simple questions. Then, Came The Switch.. Elliott recalls, "It was just horrifying how quickly they became what I told them they were." Within 30 minutes, a blue-eyed girl named Carol had regressed from a "brilliant, self-confident carefree, excited little girl to a frightened, timid, uncertain little almost-person." Brown-eyed children "became domineering and arrogant and judgmental and cool," she says. "And smart! Smart! All of a sudden, disabled readers were reading. I thought, This is not possible, this is my imagination. And I watched bright, blue-eyed kids become stupid and frightened and frustrated and angry and resentful and distrustful. It was absolutely the strangest thing Id ever experienced." Elliott had seven students with dyslexia in her class that year and four of them had brown eyes. On the day that the browns were "on top," those four brown-eyed boys with dyslexia read words that Elliott "knew they couldn't read" and spelled words that she "knew they couldn't spell." What does all this mean? Simply put: We become what we expect to become. Additionally: The expectations of other people strongly influence our own. So, when do you start raising your child right? Before they are born, if you wish by what you expect. Not things like I expect my son to be a doctor. This is subtler, along the lines of I am dreading the terrible twos or even please dont let her be one of those babies that cries all the time. You can set yourself and your child up for good or bad unconsciously. Create a childhood that breeds success and you will have a successful child. And the best thing is, it wont cost you thousands of dollars for private school fees or extracurricular activities. With a little time, some careful listening and thoughtful

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leading, you will create the feeling of positive expectation that can shape your childs life in wonderful ways. Simply said, our child is a success if they grow to be healthy, happy and able to be independent of us. However for most of us, while we say thats all we want for our children, its not all we expect from them. Be cautious with this. Our children are not given to us for our benefit; we are given to them for theirs. They fulfill us in many ways, unless that is what we are counting on. The most unexpected thing about parenting is that we teach our children even when we arent meaning to. The Key to our childrens success begins right at the start, in our expectations. Our children are not born as empty vessels, waiting to be filled. Each one already has innate talents, and a personality that will develop and grow without full regard to what we want and do. We can be their guide in life, but this is not follow the leader. Those who have more than one child are constantly amazed watching them grow up in the same environment but grow so differently, each responding to different things or in different ways. Children are like emotion sponges, absorbing both the good and bad that come their way. A childhood filled with positive experiences helps to create a positive person. Its our job to create the environment that will give them a strong foundation to build their future life on. After all, the most important and effective learning tool for children are the adults in their daily life. Parents have a huge impact on the overall attitude and success of their children. Your children need your expectations and ability to bring out their positive attributes, but they don't need you to select their future. Even at a young age they are surprisingly able to do that for themselves. Take the time & effort to teach them positive habits and they will see all of the beauty that life has to offer. Make them enthusiastic about life by sharing your own joys and happiness. Instill into their hearts and minds all the wonders and magnificence of being alive by living life to its fullest in a positive way. We live in an amazing world at an amazing time. Show them, tell them, and lead them.

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One of our main objectives in raising our children is that of having a Happy Child. Youve seen them, and heard them. The world abhors the loud baby when that means a crying, whining little one. Yet no one minds that giggling and cooing happy baby at all. As a matter of fact, nothing puts a smile on adults lips faster than a laughing baby. I am sure you will find this poem by Dorothy Law Neite inspirational. Children Learn What They Live If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child learns to feel shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence. If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world. Get additional help in developing that Happy Child by clicking on the image below. And be sure to listen to the free audio presentation that will give you the surprising three secrets to getting your child to listen EVERY TIME.

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The Key to Heading Right: Roots and Wings

Your primary role as a good parent is to prepare your child for the world. What they learn from you at home will stay with them forever. If they learn self worth and a sense of belonging (roots) it will empower them to soar in their life (wings) without regard to obstacles or disappointments. It all starts with family. By filling your child with a sense of personal value, confidence, and positive attitude you will allow less room for negative thinking. Youngsters who dont receive a sense of worth at home tend to seek it elsewhere. They become more susceptible to people who would prey on them, unsavory friends and even cults. We all have a strong need to belong, to feel accepted. During times of bad behavior make it clear that you love and accept them but not certain actions. According to Psychologist Abraham Maslows hierarchy of needs, one of humanitys basic requirements for happiness is to feel a sense of belonging to a group. This sense of belonging can be achieved in either small groups like a family and small circle of friends, or big groups like clubs, teams, associations, church, or even the workplace. Whenever this need is unfulfilled the subconscious will find a way to fill it, often without regard to common sense. Those who do not have the strong foundation of a supportive family rush headlong from relationship to empty relationship, seeking to fill the lack. To raise a truly happy, healthy adult, start by giving these emotional roots to your child.

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At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of acceptance from a parent who touches and caresses them in a loving way. As they grow older, this sense of value and acceptance comes from other family members, friends, teachers, and peers. With growth comes maturity and the need is filled more with emotional or psychological touches and caresses by those around us. Usually it reaches full circle with fulfillment by our spouse and our own children. Every person needs to be accepted. It gives meaning to our existence. Begin at the earliest age to offer the feeling of acceptance. And remember, it must be offered unconditionally. The giver should not expect anything in return. There should be no strings attached or no commitments to fulfill. To expect something in return defeats the purpose. This is not about getting the child to do what you want or to follow rules, etc. Right now, you are building the foundation of self worth and family ties. In fact, adding conditions may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you are being manipulative and will create suspicion in any future area of the relationship that does involve setting up expectations. Perhaps the best start is to fill their world with laughter, love, and understanding. You cant go wrong doing this and you will create that feeling of emotional warmth that will then be associated with Home. A powerful way to convey acceptance is by actively listening to your child. Unless we stop them, all their thoughts and feelings pour unbidden from young lips. If we bottle them up by being too busy or by paying attention to ten other things when they talk we risk losing the opportunity for easy communication with our children forever. Focused listening communicates the message that their thoughts are valued and their input has significance. Learn to give your full attention to your child and you will never be in the dark as to their motivations and ideas. Paying close attention fulfills the very basic need to belong more than you mat realize and creates a sense of importance. This is the teaching by example of a skill that will play a major role in their future. Acceptance of other peoples thoughts, ideas, and concerns can yield favorable outcomes. Something we all strive for in life. It elicits cooperation which leads to working towards a common goal. Listening always yields positive and fruitful results. In giving another attention, you have raised the esteem,

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importance, and morale of the person by according them respect and acceptance. The child brought up in this type of environment will carry the benefits all through life, imparting it to their own circle of influence. Is there a better way of giving them wings? We can see the results of children reared without these roots all around us today. Sometimes you will hear it said, How could they do that? Dont they know they are hurting others? Dont they care? No, they do not. They hurt themselves, so they cant the pain they cause. Imagine growing up with total absence of acceptance. Envision the life of a child abandoned by the parents (either physically or emotionally). It doesnt take much to realize the effect this will have on the youths emotional well-being. It is very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and feeling unwanted. The effects of these feelings often result in resentment and, if not dealt with, can result to violent tendencies. That sense of resentment harbored over time can escalate to anger and hostility. When a person becomes hostile, violence erupts. Resentment is like a forest fire, it can turn wild especially when any new anger flares. Frequently, at this point the openly hostile attitude of the child actually causes them to become as unwanted as they feel, and a viscous circle is established. Now, merely accepting or rejecting the individual can make or break them, as the saying goes. Your childs understanding of unconditional love; that youll be there for them, no matter what - is the very basis of their roots. When they become able to translate that into how they deal with others is the basis of their wings. So all the things that we do when our children are very young, grow along with them into the life lessons which will help them attain whatever form of success they choose in life. By being willing to accept other peoples ideas, thoughts, and inputs they will harvest not only good results, but also the admiration and appreciation of others as well. The single most important and effective learning tool in a childs life is the parents. Parents and guardians have a huge impact on the overall future decisions of children. Can and do some children choose the wrong path anyway? Yes. Your child is as much an individual as you are. Ultimately, they will choose their
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future. But parents should work to take an active role in their childs education & play because no matter what, the experiences they have at home will have an impact upon who they are. Within the family unit our children first discover how love, anger, and sorrow are felt and exhibited. From these experiences they develop the ways they feel are the normal responses. The child raised in an angry environment will probably have an angry life in their own future home. As an adult they will mostly live as they learned how to live in the childhood home. It has been said that success in your chosen field is 90% people skills and 10% work. Its very important to give our children a wide range of opportunities to discover what they are good at early on so they can decide what they want to focus on. However, poor social skills can cripple them in whatever field they choose. They dont teach these in the school system. You teach them, by example. The sort of negative example of this falls within the statement: no child is born a racist. That has to be taught it is a learned behavior, one learned by watching & listening. Perhaps you believe it is best for your children to learn by self-discovery. To a certain extent, this can be positive since it fosters independence and self-reliance. However, this type of learning process tends to be very slow. In a sense, it is like a trial and error experience for children. They have to self-determine the good from the bad, the right from the wrong, what they like and what they dont. Without the knowledge provided by experience it is likely that they will pick the things that come easy or the ones that they enjoy the most. And the ones that they enjoy the most might not necessarily be the best for them. Without any guidance, things they decide on might actually be harmful them in the long run. Later in life, if they find out that they have chosen poorly, it may be too late to fix. Using self-discovery and caring adult guidance leaves room for them to develop independence & self-reliance without the same risks. This allows your child to learn and to grow at a much faster rate. This is the time to help them understand what is right and what is wrong. Explain to them why. The parent who dictates without explanation risks losing the childs ear totally. If possible, cite instances or examples based on true-to-life events to make them more convincing and

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realistic. The more honest they are, the more easily the children will relate to what they are being taught. Do not fear sharing personal failures. One of the best ways to broaden your childrens knowledge about life is by travelling. The world - its varied people, places, and cultures - has more than information to offer. We learn many things best through comparison. The average person lives and dies within fifty miles of where they were born how much possibility for knowledge by comparison exists there? The education of experience is more important than conventional learning in a classroom. Knowing without doing is as hopeless as doing without knowing. If you are financially able, travelling is one of the best educational experiences you can give your children. For those unable to go major distances, seek out other cultures, lifestyles and variations from your everyday norm that will offer the same kind of opportunity for comparative experience. Look for exhibits, fairs, festivals, tours, and get involved together. This offers a perfect chance to teach that free does not mean without value. Books are the next best thing. Reading is mental travelling. One of the most powerful tools for empowering youth is to create a hunger to learn. This can be done easily with regular planned visits to your local library. But the desire to read is fostered by example. The parent who reads books is much more likely to be raising a child who reads. Start them early by reading to them. Your baby/toddler loves the sound of your voice; use that to impart the most important habit they may ever develop. In any gathering you can usually tell who the readers are. People that read widely tend to think and speak well. There is simply no easier way to expand your reality and capabilities. Studies have found that TV & movies can actually dull the senses by blunting the imagination. The child sitting blank faced in front of the tube is hypnotized. Their mind is shut off, coasting in neutral. That is what the advertisers count on. When a child (or an adult) is reading their mind is racing! After all, you read with your mind and use your imagination to paint the setting of the book you are reading. You use you mind to imagine the joys and pains the character

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experiences as the story unfolds. You bring into play the different arguments and ideas brought up by the author in whatever book you are holding, novel or fact. Take the time to discover what your child is currently interested in and help them find books on that topic to investigate further. Many kids see books as boring until they find one about something they love. Reading develops intellectual curiosity by exposing our youth to a variety of materials. They learn to read better by reading books of increasing difficulty and variety. As in other forms of activity, you learn by actually doing. The visualization involved is mental doing. It is the type of stimulation that moves ideas forward into reality. After all, real change always comes from within. The creativity that is required to build a better future rests in the imagination of our precious children. The root of the word imagination is image to develop a mental image of something that does not yet exist. Help your childs mind soar to new heights by discovering the unlimited worlds available in their own mind from books!

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The Key to Staying Right: Boundaries and Structure

As babies our world has obvious limits. The child is wrapped in a blanket, hugged in loving arms, protected by the car seat, enclosed by the crib/carriage. These are things of protection from which spring the little ones sense of safety and security. When the child grows, the size of the enclosure does too. Hugs and kisses from extended family, carriages morph into strollers, cribs to playpens, etc. Later the boundaries enlarge to the room, then the house, the yard and then perhaps the block. All the things that can be perceived as walling them in are in truth creating a zone of safety and protection surrounding our children & family. Adults mostly understand this, but children do not. They only see an obstacle, not any benefit. After all, we all push at our boundaries, which implies a need for them. To start the foundations right, all children need an environment of good boundaries and routines. Without the structure they bring about, children can flounder. These words are often but rarely explained. Following is a basic rundown of how these ideas can work to create a happier home. Boundaries provide a frame of reference; they represent the laws governing your home. They are not rigid fences; rather they should be a slightly flexible and are constantly moving as your child matures. The first boundary has to be love, and it shows up & begins to grow right from birth. Your childs understanding of unconditional love; that youll be there for them no matter what, begins here. Do you love them even with a messy diaper?

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Of course! Will you still love them after they accidently spill the glass of milk? Yes indeed! Be sure you show that to them clearly. How is love a boundary? It is in the sense that it surrounds the child and is a buffer between them and the world when needed. Once this boundary is clearly established everything else is easier. You need to attend to a babys needs, as they occur, and learn to read their personality to adapt your parenting to suit. One child may need to be held for long periods of time, born touch hungry, while another one prefers to have time alone in their bed. Each child needs to be parented differently based on individual personality, yet all need to be loved. After love, must come an understanding of consequences. Actually, one stems from the other. Life has results, and your little one must learn this. By supplying the structure of cause & effect, action & consequence, you are training them for life. The parent who shirks this, trying to go easy on the child is creating future trouble for themselves and the world. Be very clear this is not about punishment or anger. It is about loving boundaries and logical structure. Focus on natural consequences, such as tidying up a mess theyve made themselves, paying for the window they broke, or apologizing face to face for a wrong theyve committed. Of course this must be age appropriate (young children may sometimes only clean up a portion of the mess, and you help with the rest) and it needs to be consistent. The worst thing you can possibly do is set the boundary then ignore when its crossed. The second worse thing is to move the line so often that it ceases to exist. Every one is allowed to have a rough day where you just sort it out yourself, but its good to maintain the boundaries youve created. The chief boundaries begin with three important precepts: Respect for self, Respect for others, and Respect for things. Creating realistic boundaries is important. As adults we sometimes make conscious decisions to enlarge our boundaries, or allow people to walk over us a little, or sometimes we do the same to them, particularly in business. But well established boundaries help in all areas of our life from personal relationships to business practices. They help us to avoid addiction, and build positive, strong and effective relationships with others - all of which add to our success.

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A personal challenge: Spend some time looking at your fences, the natural boundaries you have today. These are often our physical environment, our state of fitness, finances, and time, just to list a few of the obvious. Do you see how these all naturally curtail us and create fences? Of course as an adult we need to step outside these boundaries at some point, and walk almost by faith, but this works best if we first know where the boundaries lie, which ones are most important (those that are relationship based for example) and why they are. Again, this is something that your child will likely learn only from you. Another word often used for the structure in our lives is Routines. To some people the idea of routines puts a gleam in their eye, but for others cultivating routines causes panic attacks. Dont try to run your home with military precision. The most positive way to create routine is out of need, rather than a quest for perfection. Expecting or even attempting perfection will create unneeded stress and anxiety. Relax. You want a happy, warm and structured home for our children not a military barracks. A home with children in it shouldnt be immaculate all the time - children thrive best in a slightly unkempt and relaxed atmosphere. Sometimes that mess fosters creativity. Allow it, and expect them to learn to clean up afterward. If youve spent more time in the last week cleaning than playing and talking with your children, you need to rethink how you use your time. Never let the urgent (got to clean this mess) to overshadow the truly important (giving your child personal time) things in life. Routines are used to cater to a childs most basic needs: for food, sleep, shelter, health and sense of self. When looking at these, you can see why its important to add structure for mealtimes, bedtimes, and bath times plus time with you or time alone. These areas are much too important not to insure proper attention and balance. It doesnt need to be regimented to the minute, though it is probably a good idea for both you and your child if some things are done at a regular time or in a set way. For example, select several types of food for breakfast, and your child can choose from these basics every day, rather than have some new breakfast experiment every morning. Set a normal bed time, and stick to it.

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The terrific thing about routines is the results they bring in your family. You will see the benefit when you decide to trust your child to a non routine moment. A child thrills to the occasional late night far more if they know its secretly past their bedtime. Kids love getting pancakes on a Sunday just because its a different from the rest of the week when they have the normal meal. If everyday is unplanned they dont have anything to centre themselves on, and treats get all mixed into the chaos. While having the structure creates a sense of calm security for the every day, occasionally breaking the routine becomes a genuine treat that would not be appreciated unless it is the unusual. On the other hand, if every day is totally structured and no variance is ever allowed, you are fostering certain rebellion. A personal challenge: Set some routines in place structure that suits both you and your children. Sit down with them to explain the changes when you introduce them. If you are not used to giving your children this kind of structure, expect some resistance (it may seem like a lot!) and remember: be consistent and calm while making sure those new routines get established. Some children will adjust easier; others will take up to three weeks to adjust. If its a natural routine (such as a regular bedtime) you may be surprised at how quickly you see big returns for your efforts.

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The Key to Raising a Caring Child: Encouragement


If we have a lot it feels natural to give a lot to our children. However the best gift we can impart is the gift of developing their resourcefulness. Its a little bit more of a long term thing, but its a really powerful gift to give. Allowing your child to explore their world is a very effective learning tool. It is important that children be permitted to freely explore their surroundings. Children should be allowed to discover their homes, outside surroundings, and other various things as safety & maturity permit. This will help them to become familiar with the world that they are a part of. Exploring helps to spark creativity and can serve to take the fear out of trying new things. A great learning tool for children is encouragement to pursue activities and lessons that they are interested in as individuals. Many children get bored with the standard school system and the expectations set forth there. The school system is often dull, and on one track. They expect students to learn in a uniform manner and attempt to put them in a little standardized box. Children are individuals, and should be allowed to express themselves as such. This simply is not permitted in many schools. If you cannot guide your child to fit into the education standards, do not. Tailor the educational standards to meet the child. This can be challenging in the public school system, but is worth whatever it takes to accomplish. The most important learning tool known today is the art of encouragement as motivation. Although not really new, many people seem to never have thought of the benefits gained through raising children this way. When training a dog positive reinforcement works ten times better than punishment. Children and dogs are as different as night & day. But what works

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best in the area of instruction for your pet will also work best with your child (and with you too). Many smart managers have discovered this and have used this knowledge to develop happy, productive employees. A child who feels good about themselves, and knows that their parents support them, will experience far greater levels of success than that of their peers. Praise them when they do a great job, and if they are not doing a great job, tell them that too, and give them the tools to do so. You can't let your failures define you - you have to let your failures teach you. You have to let them show you what to do differently the next time. Barack Obama, National Address to America's Schoolchildren, 9-8-09. Teach your child to feel the way Hank Aaron does. I have always felt that although someone may defeat me, and I strike out in a ball game, the pitcher on the particular day was the best player. But I know when I see him again, I'm going to be ready for his curve ball. Failure is a part of success. There is no such thing as a bed of roses all your life. But failure will never stand in the way of success if you learn from it. A Case Study: When Alison took her daughter to a birthday party recently, she was quite the centre of attention. Earlier on in the day, her daughter Michelle had fallen while on a bike ride and had grazed her knees rather badly. Michelle had put large sticking plasters on the knees. Both children and adults were fascinated at the sight of the bandages on her knees, commenting that while it was something all kids seemed to go through a generation or so ago, that it was rare to see kids with banged up knees or broken arms anymore. Alison was at first embarrassed and then realized she was lucky: she had a child who was exploring as she had as a child and experiencing a bit of independence other children werent enjoying. Dont make the mistake of becoming a helicopter parent.

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A helicopter parent is one who hovers around their child in case their child fails, or to ensure they are on their best behavior. They are the type of parent who brings in the most amazing science projects, done mainly by the adults in the house. Helicopter parents prevent their children from seeing what they can do themselves, learning to enjoy their own independence because they are doing everything for them instead. When you prevent failure and pain you are also limiting success and joy. Children are more likely to be successful if they are confident at initiating ideas, and happy in a wide range of situations. Children also learn with their bodies. They need plenty of opportunities to discover the natural boundaries of earth (gravity is a good one!) before coming to grips with lifes more subtle boundaries. They need to learn the limits and end results of their own risk taking. This is not a carte blanche suggestion to throw your child in a shopping cart and push him down a steep hill, but rather to let kids be kids. Let them climb trees, eat dirt, run, jump, and fall without feeling we have to protect them from the consequences all the time. Are your good intentions likely to only have the result you want? Are you saving them from a small risk or preventing an opportunity to learn & grow?

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The Key to Raising a Productive Child: Rules

All rules grow naturally out of the boundaries weve created. There doesnt need to be a lot of these, in fact it will go better if you keep them as simple and as consistent as possible. Only utilize the rules that both develop a good sense of respect for self, others and things, and helps teach responsibility. Most of us work better if we have some reward in front of us. It may be money, or time off, or the longer term payoff of a better relationship. These are the things that drive us. When it comes to rules for children: focus on the carrot and forget the stick. Rules are far more likely to be adhered to if children can see the benefit for doing so. Work out consequences for rules not being followed, and stick to them firmly right from the start. Often the most effective consequence is the removal of an expected reward. If your child is consistently bucking the system, look at the rules. Does your child perceive them as fair? If they do not, are they right? Are they confused because one day you make them stick to the rules and the next day you dont? Keep it simple, and be consistent. Sit down and work out the basic rules for your home. These can be quite broad, and should relate directly back to the boundaries already established. They may be as follows: Our house is a place where we talk to each other with respectful and pleasant voices.

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Our house is a place where ours and other peoples belongings are cared for and we put them away when they are not in use. Our home needs a lot of work to make it run, and its everyones job to help at their own level to help it get there. Let focus on rules be to keep them positive, broad, and simple, and your rules will spring from these ideas. The rules should reflect your own values. A personal challenge: What rules do you already have in your home? Are they being enforced? If not, why not? Is it because there are too many, or they are too confusing? Or perhaps you yourself dont see the reason for them? Write down the rules in your home. You do have rules, even if they are not official. Take a look at them. The worst rules are the ones that arent written and are rarely spoken because they may also be unknown to your child. Think: short memories for things that arent fun. Will your rules contribute to your childs future success? Tweak them until they are both constructive and are rules you are willing to enforce if necessary. Doing this will positively improve your childs chances for success. Parents often struggle to understand the reasons behind what their children do. There is another side of this many adults miss. Your child does not understand the reasons that adults/parents do the things they do either. Rules without explanation and genuine understanding are doomed to fail. As children grow, it is critical that you reason with them. They must learn the process of thinking actions through: to see behind the action all the way to the consequence. This skill has to be developed. It may take your child a while to learn to take lessons from their past mistakes. Even more important and more difficult is the ability to foresee tomorrows result from todays choices. Many adults still fail to do this. This is why it is so important to teach your child to think things through. This is another opportunity for you to give them an edge.

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We have all experienced the why stage that kids go through. This period can be overwhelming for a parent, but it is a crucial part of development. Never discourage curiosity; it is the natural method of learning. Allow your child to ask why as many times as it takes to understand things. They must understand the reasons things are as they are if they are ever going to learn. This is an important part of knowing what is acceptable, and what is not acceptable. When you reason with your child, it is important to do so at their level. This will ensure that they completely understand what you are saying and that they comprehend how it fits in their life. Children must learn reasons and apply them to their behavior. If they do not understand the reasons why they must do this or that, they will not change anything. When you are explaining cause and effect with your children, you should be very brief and to the point. Children lack the attention span that adults have; sitting through a long lecture and retaining it is virtually impossible for them. Just have a simple and clear discussion, and be done with it. It may take a few explanations, but they will grasp the concept easier in the end. Do everything in your power to keep it feeling like a conversation. We all shut down when it seems like we are being lectured. When you are offering reasons to your children, be honest. Children have a big imagination, but they can usually tell fact from fiction. Be clear, and remember that your goal is to help them learn. Last, but not least, when offering explanations to your children, you should ensure that you give reasons that apply to them and their world. This is extremely important. While they may be loving children, most children are unable to see past themselves. This is normal, and must be contended with. If you center the discussion with your children on them, and what they know, they will be more likely to apply the lessons to their life and learn more easily.

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The Key to Raising a Healthy Child: Share the Joy of Life

Children that grow up around happy people stand a much better chance of being happy themselves. Why would that be true? Whatever you experience in your childhood becomes to you, the norm. Your child has a right to know that happiness exists in everyday life. Adults know that to be true, but your young one needs to see it in your life to believe it. So what does this have to do with health? The clich is true, life is going to toss us some lemons, but learning to turn those lemons into lemonade is one of the most important keys to maintaining good health. It is equally important to discover the humor in difficult situations. Humor stimulates laughter. And we know that physiological stimulation through laughter leads to a number of health benefits. It appears to reduce stress; it tends to boost immunoglobulin A (an antibody that fights upper respiratory disease); and it tends to boost killer T-cells, which are antibodies that fight infection, states Clinical Psychologist S. M. Sultanoff PhD. Researchers at University of California discovered that actors could influence their immune systems by the emotions they portrayed. There have been studies upon studies done by Harvard, Duke University, University of Chicago, etc. demonstrating a clear relationship between improved health, extended life, an overall sense of well being and having a positive, happy attitude towards life. So often those we love most, see us at our worst. Have a bad day? Keep that game face on till you get home - then just let loose. Does it happen? Of course it does. Is it fair to the family? Not in the least. Let me suggest this; your child deserves and needs that game face more than the rest of the world.

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Now I am not suggesting that you hide lifes struggles from the kids. Trust me; they learn early on that life isnt always warm & fuzzy, or even fair. If you dont think so, spend some time observing how unkind children can be to each other. The point is, you will develop a child that does not trust you if you are fake with them. The most important lesson a parent can teach, is that through the challenges of life there can still be joy. Every cloud has a silver lining is more than an old saying it is the stuff that defines champions. It is the very expression of hope. Children are experts at fun. In the midst of hunger and suffering a child seems to be able to find things to laugh about. But as they grow older that feeling has a tendency to fade away as it gets covered by layers of the dust of day to day life. We all too easily become what society calls realists. And it is just a tiny step down from there to becoming like Winnie the Poohs woe is me donkey friend Eeyore. Expect the best or expect the worst, either way you will be right. The child who grows up around adults that know how to smile at adversity will learn to do the same. Our business in life is not to succeed, but to continue to fail in good spirits. - Robert Louis Stevenson Author Dennis Prager, in his book Happiness is a Serious Problem asserts Happiness is an obligation - to yourself and to others. Not only do we have the right to be happy, we have an obligation to be happy. Our happiness has an effect on the lives of everyone around us - it provides them with a positive environment in which to thrive and to be happy themselves. Raise your child in the spirit of what the French call joie de vivre that is, a hearty & carefree enjoyment of life. This is another one of those things that only you, the parent, can give to your child. No one else would even think of it, and yet it is truly a priceless gift. One of the largest problems in the world today is stems from a misunderstanding. Much of the population has the idea that Pleasure is the same as Happiness. It is one of the greatest errors of all time. Nearly all happiness brings pleasure with it, but the converse is not true at all. Many pleasure seekers never find happiness at all, because they settle for pleasure.

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In many places around the world, and at many times past & present, people live in tough circumstances. There is nothing more natural than the desire to make it easier for the next generation; to give them more than you had. The trouble is; its a slippery slope. With each generation giving more stuff to the next and making things easier for them, it doesnt take very long before we are bringing up an age of entitled youth. What happens when there is no need to strive in order to receive? The pleasure vs. happiness struggle stems from this. Luxury (too much stuff) is not a necessary part of a childs success in life. Growing up in luxurious surroundings with all their physical needs met, a child may never develop the hunger required to go out and make it on their own. They have no need to do anything; for all intents and purposes they already have it all. How many times have we seen the business built be a hardworking parent run into the ground by a careless child, or one who simply doesnt have a clue about being hardworking. Some very wealthy people choose to raise their children humbly and encourage them to create their own path to success. Others will bring the kids up through the business, starting from the lowest level, allowing them to learn and earn what later belong to them. If we provide our children with everything they need, and everything they want, they have no reason to solve the problem of how to get it themselves. If you are familiar with the story of Charlie and the Chocolate factory, all the children (other than Charlie) are clearly the products of parents who demonstrate their love through over indulgence. If we have a lot, it feels natural to give a lot to our children. However, the best gift we can impart is the ability to develop individual resourcefulness. It is another priceless gift that only the parents can ever give to a child.

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The Key to Raising an Adult: Respect and Responsibility


Dont dis me. Whether live or on video, this is perhaps the most common street comment heard these days. It is slang for: do not disrespect me. There is an entire generation out there with such low self images that they feel required to demand respect, while refusing to respect anyone that is in any way different from their idea of normal. The real world runs on respect and responsibility. Your child needs to understand respect for the Law or they will wind up in prison. Without a sense of self respect it is impossible to truly respect others, or their property. Like everything else this is a learned trait. Will you raise your child to be a bigot or a respecter of others? Its your actions and attitudes that are the key here. The youth who respects their parents will find it natural to listen to and respect their elders. That sense of esteem for another is the beginning of character. It's been said that character is defined by what you do when you think no one is watching. Allow me another definition; character is taking responsibility for your actions and what they cause. The wise man of the village held a cocoon in the palm of his hand. Whats that? The young boy asked. Why its a cocoon, replied the wise man. Inside is a caterpillar that spun this cocoon. Hes in the dark. But when hes ready, hell break out and turn into a wondrous and beautiful butterfly. Can I have it? asked the young boy. Of course, answered the wise man. But first, you must promise that you wont open the cocoon for the butterfly

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when he begins to break out. The butterfly must do it all by himself. The young boy agreed and took the cocoon home with him. The very next day, the cocoon began to tremble and the butterfly fought hard to escape. As you might expect, the young boy couldnt bear to watch the butterfly struggle; so he broke open the cocoon. The butterfly was exquisite and so graceful. She soared into the air and suddenly, and quite unexpectedly, plummeted to the ground and died. The boy returned to the village wise man crying and cradling the dead butterfly in his hand. You helped the butterfly escape from the cocoon, didnt you? the wise man asked. With tears in his eyes; the child admitted that he had opened the cocoon. What you didnt understand, the wise man said, was that the butterfly had to struggle. By struggling he was actually building strength in his wings. He was in the dark and so much wanted to get out of the cocoon. But to escape from the cocoon and to transform his life from a lowly caterpillar to a magnificent butterfly, he had to struggle; he had to build muscles in his wings in order to fly. By trying to make it easier for him, you actually made it harder for him; in this case, impossible to fly. You killed him with good intentions. Self Respect Respect for Others Respect for Property Respect for Law These represent the basic for civilized social interaction. It all boils down to Individual Responsibility. Again, that means each of us needs to take Personal Responsibility for our actions & their consequences. In the Western world many often raise their children to be little princes and princesses. We want them to be children, to play and have fun. Thats great, to a point. Kids really do need and have a right to be allowed to be kids. At the same time, there is a parental obligation to teach throughout the brief time of influence we have in a childs life. If we do take away the fun, its normally to replace it instead with extracurricular activities such as after school French, tennis or ballet.

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These have a place, and teach important skills, but must not take the place of the more important lesson - that of learning restraint and liability. When we get busy and find ourselves running from activity to activity, we also often move into the Ill do it, its easier mode. We get them dressed, we pack their bags, we make their breakfast, or we half do their homework. Sometimes its a good to carefully take note of how much you are doing for your child. Think opportunity cost here. Each thing that you do for them deny them the opportunity to learn by doing it themselves, inadvertently preventing them from growing into their own independence. Where does self respect come from? It finds its basis in the knowledge that what you do matters, and that your thoughts and feelings are valued. Encourage your child to do, and then let them. Follow that up with praise for the job accomplished; tips of how to improve the result and you have built self esteem, the root from which springs self respect. Many of us never have the chance to see how children are raised in developing countries. They are often expected to clean the house, cook the dinner, and walk long distances for water starting at a very young age. These are the simple necessities for the family to survive; all members take part in the efforts, not just in the benefits. While its not correct to view your child as a maid, it is good to make sure they have jobs and a role as a responsible member of the family. This is their training ground. Once used to it, theyll thrive on the feeling of importance that being accountable creates. A personal challenge: Identify what your child is currently responsible for. Ask yourself if it is age appropriate, and if it needs rethinking. Are they contributing to the running of the household? A three year old can fill the recycling bin, a five year old can clean up their toys, an eight year old can make a salad for dinner, a teen should be able to do the family laundry. Our children will want to succeed if they feel its all part of being on team. Build a sense of you all working together towards the common goal of a happy and healthy family. Children want to be involved - its a natural and healthy

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inclination. Make sure the division of labor is fair to them and to you. They will get it when they see the balance of effort within the household. We all participate and we all share the benefits! Parenting involves much more than providing things of monetary value like shelter, food, and clothing. It means instilling values and teaching important skills to your children. Many parents seem to sit on the sidelines and hope that children will learn these skills and lessons on their own. Parental responsibility starts at the point of conception, and doesnt ever end. The result of some people refusing to fulfill this obligation is visible all around us. As parents, we have the unacknowledged task of building tomorrows parents, teachers, leaders, etc. Raising Your Child Right entails training them in the areas that are important to overall well-being and success; areas such as responsibility, cooperation, and other values. The first step to pro - active parenting is to understand that this is your biggest job. The second step is developing a systemic way to accomplish teaching our children these important skills and values. That is the main purpose of the ideas and tips offered in this report. Active parenting really focuses on teaching not only life skills, but also the importance of our daily duties. The tips below are just some very basic ideas of what you can do to get started. Have children participate in cleaning up after themselves. Initially, a parent can assist with this task, but by age four, a child should do this on their own. It starts with picking up the toys and grows to clearing their table setting after meals and straightening up what they messed up. As they get older this should extend to making the bed that they slept in. Help your child learn to take responsibility for their actions. This should start with letting them know when something is unacceptable, and then instructing them in the acceptable way of doing things. Punishment should not begin with the first instance of a mistake. Rather, teach how to correct that mistake and avoid it in the future. A child must learn that, when they

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err in their ways, they should always accept the fact that it was their mistake, and learn ways to overcome those mistakes so that they do not repeat them. Every child should be taught basic hygiene skills. This is a very important part of being responsible. They should know and understand how to wash their hands, brush their teeth, brush their hair, dress themselves, and tie their shoes, bathe, and similar things. Explain the benefits when they are old enough to grasp them. Clean teeth equal few cavities, minimal dentist visits and good breath. Washed hands dont carry germs and spread colds, the flu, etc. As you can see, these are all simple things that each and every one of us need do. If you, the adult tasked with properly raising them, does not train them in these very important areas who will? Modern parenting has completely fallen down in the area of teaching our youth the value of a dollar. What parents teach children about money lays the foundation for their financial success or failure. The knowledge you give them is possibly the only actual training in the area of personal financial accountability they will ever receive. The importance of starting this at a young age cannot be overstated. The later you begin, the more difficult the job. There are no preconceived ideas when you start early. The first step that you can take to help your child understand the value of a dollar is to instill in them a sense of appreciation for the small things in life. It has been found that children not grateful for the little things often grow into adults that have financial issues. Many will later experience credit issues, budgeting problems, and even bankruptcy. If you are able to raise your child to realize the value small things, they will learn to value all things on a higher level. A baby demands immediate gratification, but the young adult that expects instant results and the best of everything is

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bound to be disappointed. This mentality can lead them into huge debt in the attempt to satisfy the expectation. Proper instruction will help them adapt to living below their level of income. For those not actually living in poverty, being broke is not about how much you make it is about how much you spend. People who are willing & able to live on less than they earn develop into debt free, financially stable individuals who do not have to rely on social assistance programs to survive. If you among those parents that give an allowance, this can help teach them the real meaning of money. Some say that you are teaching something for nothing by giving kids an allowance. But thats not so if they have taken on the obligation of household chores as an active member of the family. The concept of cause and effect will be reinforced if the money is withheld when/if acknowledged tasks go undone. Do not miss this chance to start implementing the concept of savings with your child. Discuss the importance of saving some portion of their allowance, and if they want to spend any of it, the portion to be saved always comes out first. In this manner your child will learn to make money, save it, and reward themselves by then being able to purchase things they want. Explain to them the magic of compound interest, and the benefit of being able to get a more expensive reward by saving toward a goal. I was raised with the mantra, give 10% to the future, tithe 10% to God, and spend the rest wisely. The daughter of a friend has a great top of the line Smartphone less than a year old. Recently the next model was released, and she had to have it, even while acknowledging there was no need. There was no real reason or reasoning involved. It is not my business, but all I see is opportunity cost. Spending on something not needed takes away the opportunity to spend it on something else. I was raised by depression era parents who never wasted anything; they bought quality and used what they bought until it quit doing the job. Save your child from becoming one of the must have the newest & best group; teach them that it is ok to go used (pre-owned) in some cases. Buying from thrift stores, yard sales, and flea markets are all great ways to save money. Many items thus

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obtained are as good as new, some never even used, and there is often plenty of choices. Teach your child that they can stretch a dollar if they shop at the right places, and at the right times. If all of this will be a major shift from what you have been doing, start out small. Even if you can afford it, dont buy them everything they want. Use special toys, DVDs and games as rewards for extra work, like helping out with other household jobs not on their chore list. Encourage them to work toward what they want by earning extra money with you or neighbors. Whether you are self employed or a wage earner you understand the saying time is money. The child who wants to do a lot of pricey activities or have a lot of stuff needs to understand the time it takes to earn the money for these things. Try giving them the option of more hours without you (while you earn the money) or having that time together. Children find it an interesting decision and it may surprise you to learn they value personal time with you over many other things. The earlier you can teach your child to make money away from a salary or hourly wage the better for them. Help your child be one of the few that knows trading time for dollars is not only or even the best way to make money. Talk with your children about passive incomes and help them discover ways to learn how they can generate it. While many children are not officially allowed to sign up for online income plans such as registering for Click Bank, or online selling, they can do it through you. This presents another way for you to bond and work hand in hand with your maturing child. Additionally you can help save them from making any serious mistakes. But remember; guide and suggest, dont boss. Also consider other methods of earning for your child. If they are creative, they may want to design jewelry or something similar. There have been children as young as thirteen who have patented cool inventions, or become the chief designer of their own fashion label. Thats a definite indication of the desire for success! Remember you are leading your child into the future and helping them to reach the destination of their choice. Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life. Confucius

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Just in case you went through this Report looking for the Key Chapter How To Raise A Happy Child no, you did not miss it. The Key to raising a happy child is the total of the concepts covered here. You see, there is not one thing, one key that makes the difference; it is the sum of all that you do & say. It is the gestalt of our life experience that makes us who we are. Raise Your Child Right and the end result will a caring, happy, and productive adult. There is nothing in life that can be more rewarding to a parent than achieving that result. And thanks to your help and guidance your child will have a head start on how to Raise Their Child Right too. Then you can enjoy the amazing blessing called grandchildren! Trust me, that is the icing on the cake.

I hope that some of you have availed yourself of the extra tools via the links at the end of each Key Chapter. Many of the offers include free products & services in addition to the paid programs. Remember me? I dont hesitate to spend in exchange for value, but I am big on Free. Above and beyond that, everything I recommend comes with a 100% moneyback guarantee, or I would never suggest it to you. All the areas covered in this Report are intended for most people, in most situations. But you and I know that there are hundreds of people caught in extreme situations. For those of you who fit into this category, I offer some additional resources in the following section to assist in some of those special circumstances.

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Thousands of new parents have, at one time or another suffered many sleepless nights when their babys frequent waking has robbed them all of peace. Watch the free video clip on the main page to see an actual demonstration of one of these proven methods in use. Suffer no more, click on the image below, and get your Baby to Sleep.

Potty training is a transition that can only happen when your child is physically ready. While we've all heard of the nine month old who was fully trained, many kids don't reach this milestone until 3 years old, or later. The fact is, there is no set age to begin potty training - no matter what your mother-in-law says. Sign up for the free newsletter and learn Painless Potty Training methods.

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An amazing number of children in todays world have challenges with Gluten. Well there is finally some GOOD NEWS for parents of children who suffer with Gluten Intolerance or Celiac Disease. Click on the image below to check out this eBook written by a Mom who has 11 Years experience raising kids glutenfree.

Ask yourself this question: How can I expect my kids to be peaceful if I am not? Yoga Parenting is an online course; you don't need to know the first thing about yoga to begin. It's yoga off the mat the universal principles of yoga applied to parenting. The co-creators of Yoga Parenting are Ria & Suzanne whom you may know from My Mommy Manual or from their guest appearances on CBS-KMOV4 or Viewpoint's Top 10 Mom Blogs for 2010, or the various online events they've hosted. Click on the link below to learn more.

YOGA PARENTING

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Does your child have a problem with anxiety?


Take a look at some common symptoms your child may be experiencing if theyre having a problem with their anxiety:

Unexplained physical symptoms such as headaches and stomachaches. Being nervous, jittery, and hypersensitive. Decreased school performance or a lack of concentration. Avoidance of social activities or not wanting to spend as much time with friends. Tics, nervous habits, or compulsive behavior such as nail biting or hair pulling. Dangerous behavior such as cutting or drug and alcohol abuse. Excessive moodiness or outbursts of anger. Persistent worry that seems unjustified for the situation. Sleep changes or activity level changes. School avoidance or refusal. Being unusually or overly self-critical. A high need for reassurance. Outbursts of anger or oppositional behavior, even though you know in your heart theyre a good kid, they just have all this anxious energy coming out all wrong.

Perhaps you need to take a good close look at this program:

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"Could Your Child Have Autism? In under 3 minutes I guarantee to reveal how to recognize 5 signs of Autism and which steps to take next." Discover how to recognize the signs of Autism as well as learn breakthrough strategies that can quickly & easily unleash the maximum potential of someone who has Autism. This is the Total Autism product, click on the image below to learn more.

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Who else needs help with Autism, Aspergers, or ASD? Would you like step-by-step guidance to make talking to your kids about different situations easier? The author has over 13 years experience with ASD/Aspergers/Autism, both as a mother, as a consultant to parents, as well as holding the academic qualification 'Post Grad Cert in Advanced Disabilities Studies'. Author Kerri Stocks states, "I developed 4 books to help my children keep their power and self dignity intact." Click on any of the book covers below to learn more.

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