Professional Documents
Culture Documents
by Jon Peniel
ISBN# 0-9660015-7-5
2001 Windsor-Hill Inc.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
This book covers the various methods of tantric sex, from the new
to the ancient. It discusses the positives and negatives of each, and
gives detailed instruction in what we’ve found to be the best method
(and gives you the reasons why, so you can decide for yourself).
To our readers:
This book has two categories of readers. One is the person who just wants
to become a better lover, improve their sex life, sexual abilities, and perhaps give it
a deeper dimension. The other is those who are on a spiritual path, and either
want to use sex as one more tool for spiritual development, or find the best way to
integrate sex into a spiritually oriented lifestyle.
Since I’m having to write for both types of potential readers, let me
apologize in advance to each group, for the parts of my writing that aren’t specific
to your particular goals. But, you will find what you are looking for here –
regardless of whether it is the ultimate in spiritual sexuality, or just a method for the
best sex you’ve ever had.
There are many different types of tantric sex, from many different cultures
and religions. Some bring spiritual closeness, bliss, aid the process of spiritual
development/enlightenment, and returning to a spiritual state of being. However,
some forms of tantric sex are selfishly based, and actually destructive (because one
partner uses their mental powers to drain spiritual and life energies from the other,
rather than sharing the energies with their partner).
One is a “give and take method”, in which the couple shares their spiritual
and life energies during sex, and tap into the energies of the Earth, the
Universe/Spirit. In this way, the energies build and benefit both partners. That is
the basis of our primal power tantra tantric sex.
Another method, we could call a “take” method. Using this form of tantric
sex involves one partner using visualization to take advantage of the other,
“sucking”, and “draining” their energies, and “hogging” it all for themselves. This
may sound hard to believe, but it’s founded in real science.
And finally, there are “new age” versions that have no tradition behind
them, and are often just fabrications, or modifications from someone who has read
books about it, or learned it at a seminar from someone who also doesn’t really
know anything about it or lacks any traditional training. I know of one such “tantra
teacher” who has been around for over a decade, and is very popular – he even
has teacher training seminars. He makes big bucks while using it as an excuse to
cheat on his wife. He also practices black magic. In fact, he uses it, and the threat
of it, to coerce and control women he wants. Whether you believe in black magic,
or just think it’s all in the mind of the victim, the bottom line is the same to the
victim.
That final new age type of tantra can involve just about anything. Some
teachers are sincere, and want to help people enhance their sex life, or help those
who have sexual blocks, get past them. It can have validity for sexual/emotional
sensitivity training, sexual openness training, etc. But other times it can just be a
sham.
Besides other adverse effects, such “sham” teaching can give people an
“excuse” to have regular low-consciousness sex, while deluding themselves (or a
sexual partner), into thinking/feeling it is “spiritual”. It can also be a great “pick up
line” to impress or get sex from people who are spiritually oriented, or who
consider themselves spiritual.
It amazes me that anyone would take “tantra lessons” from someone who
has no real background in it, and doesn’t really even understand what genuine
tantra is (because they’ve never practiced it), or how to do it themselves. People
who wanted to be a mechanic wouldn’t learn it from someone who’s only
experience comes from reading a book or taking a seminar from someone else
who doesn’t have any real training or experience either. Yet they’d take
something as essential to life and existence as spiritual sexuality, and get
instructions from an “airy fairy” faker?
Maybe martial arts would make a better comparison. After all, tantra and
true martial arts are related disciplines. Wouldn’t it be foolish to take martial arts
lessons from someone who didn’t really train in some kind of proven, or real,
traditional martial arts? Even Bruce Lee trained his whole life in a traditional form,
then later in life, modified and improved on it, creating his own style based on the
old style, but incorporating aspects of other time proven methods, like boxing. But
he didn’t just “channel” it or make it up, or modify something he read about.
People are often even more discerning about Yoga, and look for a trained
teacher in a given style. Yet they will take “tantra” lessons from anyone who takes
out an ad saying that they teach it – with no qualifications other than having been
to a seminar given by someone else who’s made up their own thing (to make
money or get sex).
There is a reason traditions are traditions. And yes, sometimes they need to
grow and evolve – but any real growth and evolution comes from someone who
has first mastered the tradition, and then improved upon it – in which case, it will
still have its “roots” in the tradition. And as with “real” traditional martial arts,
training is not just given to anyone who has a buck to pay. It is part of an entire
way of life. Who would you want on your side in a fight, someone better than
Bruce Lee, or a guy who “picked up” some martial arts techniques in a seminar
from a former receptionist who got it through a seminar? If you were ever
attacked and needed to defend yourself, or an innocent person, what would you
want “under your belt” – the easy fun “training” of a weekend seminar, or some
weekly sessions, or years of discipline & training from a teacher who’s done the
same training, from a lineage of teachers that have survived thousands of years of
attacks?
Real, traditional tantra training, regardless of whether it is the first or second
type, takes as much time and discipline to learn as traditional martial arts or Yoga
training (it’s just a lot more fun!).
Warning: Since during the training stages of tantric sex, males have not
developed total orgasmic control, it is possible for pregnancy to occur. In fact, the
traditional early stage training takes that into consideration, and allows for it. If
your beliefs include the use of birth control, you may still want to use it until tantric
sex is mastered. Later stages of primal power tantra development, bring the ability
to choose when and if there will be conception, even without birth control. It also
allows for having “spiritually conscious conception”. If you do choose to have
children, we believe that primal power tantra training, done properly along with
other spiritual training, will result in having higher consciousness, spiritually
oriented children.
In any case, we strongly recommend that the training only be practiced by
individuals in a totally devoted, committed relationship, who have the same spiritual
ideals. Thus, if they have children, they will all have the opportunity for a good
and lasting spiritual family life.
Do NOT rush yourself though. You must take it slow, and let the
visualizations and other aspects of your training, completely ingrain themselves into
your mind and programming. It needs to eventually become totally integrated,
automatic, subconscious, super-conscious, something that happens even if you
don’t think about it, or aren’t “practicing” primal power tantra tantric sex. But for
now, as you consciously and deliberately move the energy around with your mind,
it will slowly get faster of it’s own accord. In fact, you won’t be able to keep the
visualization from getting faster over time, all by itself, just by practicing it slowly.
But it must happen on its own, by itself, without you forcing it. Eventually, it gets
so fast, that it reaches a sort of “mental speed of light” and becomes the ONE
flow, ONE circuit, making you and your mate ONE on many energy levels. As
those levels build, you will both raise in energy and consciousness.
“Second verse, same as the first”. Second year training is virtually the same
as the first year, with the exception that the male starts having orgasms once a
week, instead of once a month. And of course, the discipline, emotional and
spiritual skills/sensitivities that were acquired during the first year of training, will be
in place by now, which make the entire experience different and easier.
COMMON PROBLEMS
THAT CAN BE ENCOUNTERED:
Common Reasons:
Men:
Lack of training
Performance Anxiety (fear about having an orgasm
too soon, or not lasting long enough for
female to have orgasm)
Lack of Self-Discipline
Deliberately giving-in to desire for orgasm
Women:
Not trusting mate
Mate insensitive
Not liking mate
Not wanting to surrender to mate, or spiritually
Female performance anxiety – afraid of not having orgasm
Solutions:
For Men:
Relaxing
Feeling unselfish love
Feeling (knowing) you’re not going to be judged if you “screw up” (no pun
intended).
Letting go of guilt and replacing it with truth and love.
Letting go of fear, replacing it with courage – even the courage to look bad, or
perform badly. You won’t need to care if you perform badly, as long as you are
not deliberately having orgasms. You are training. How would you perform if
you’d never hit a ball in your life, and started training with the Yankees and had to
get up to bat right away?
COMMUNICATION. Discussing everything with your mate, especially your
feelings. If you don’t have good communication and a non-judgmental partner,
you’d better start with that, because you aren’t going to develop a good spiritual
relationship and gain spiritual growth without such fundamental relationship
foundations in place and working. The same goes for how you deal with your
partner if she is having difficulties.
Patience, communication, unselfish love, acceptance, kindness – are all
fundamental. If your mate is self-absorbed and is more concerned with her
orgasms than your training and how you feel, then you need relationship
counseling, and if that doesn’t work, perhaps you need to find someone who cares
about you too. Relationships are not give and take – that doesn’t ever work. One
that is good, happy, harmonious, and works, is one that is give & give. If each of
you is on the taking end once in a while, without wanting or demanding it – that’s
the way a good relationship works.
For Women:
Be understanding and compassionate with yourself if you have difficulty having
orgasms. That is very common. There can be many reasons for that, and if what
we’re about to discuss here doesn't help, you might want to consider getting
professional help. Problems can come from childhood abuse, guilt programming,
a lack of sensitivity on your mate's part, a lack of trust, or an un-willingness to
surrender to either your mate, or God. You may have good reason to not trust
your mate, nor want to surrender to him.
But you don't have good reason to not surrender to the Universe/Spirit.
And after all, that's what this is ultimately about -- for both of you. But if you have
a bad relationship, you are going to need to resolve it, or find a good one. This is
an issue for women that men don’t have. Most men (without serious psychological
problems, or age issues) can have sex with anyone and have an orgasm. But
something that goes into the orgasm factor for most women is feeling trust, caring,
knowing they are cared about, in order to have feelings of openness and surrender
that go into the overall makeup of their orgasms, and orgasmic capabilities. That’s
not true with everyone of course, but it is a generality that applies to most –
especially those who have difficulty with orgasms.
Sure, there are “warm up” and length of time factors – how long a man
needs to last before you can have an orgasm, and other factors. But in general, in
a good relationship, foreplay is every interaction you have with your mate, all the
time. And the better your relationship, the more orgasmic, and more quick to
orgasm, you’ll be.
Anyway, assuming it is a good relationship, just “shift your mind” to a mode
of relaxing and enjoying yourself – not “try”. Either do, or do not. DON’T put
pressure on yourself, or “try” to have an orgasm. That usually backfires. If you let
go, relax, get into it, focus on and enjoy the feelings of love, intimacy, and
sensations of pleasure, you are more likely to have an orgasm than if you are
“trying” or “focusing on” having an orgasm.
If you need to feel animalistic, passion, lust, etc., in order to open up and
get flowing, go for it. You need that part of your body and the lower chakra
energies working before you can work with the higher. There’s nothing wrong
with that. Also, barring working out any programming or psychological problems
that may be having adverse effects on your ability to have orgasms, you may want
to help stimulate and intensify your pleasurable sensations yourself. Self-
stimulation, vibrators, etc., are all OK to use if you need them – heck, they can be
fun even if you don’t need them. If you have a problem with that too, then you
have other programming blocks that also need to be dealt with. As to your “other
half” - if you’re fine with using extra stimulation, but your mate doesn’t want you to
because he is jealous or threatened (insecure), you should discuss it with him
seriously, because this whole program is not going to work for him or you, if you
are not orgasmic – AND if he is going to be that selfish and closed minded. Plus,
such a threatened attitude also means you have other relationship problems that
tantra is not going to cure. Sure, he can still train to control his orgasms,
transcend his lust, and make spiritual progress in that way, and you can both
visualize the energy circuit, etc., but you won’t be infusing the same energies you
would be if you were having orgasms – and feeling unselfish love for each other.
And if you don’t feel like surrendering and becoming one with him, it’s also going
to hamper the whole point of spiritual sexuality.
Don’t forget what I said in the Men’s Solutions section. Much of that
applies to you too. Plus, if you are judgmental, or make him feel bad because
you’re not having an orgasm, or he’s not lasting long enough for you to have an
orgasm, it will create performance anxiety and worsen the problem for both of
you.
If the above suggestions don’t help, or either of you have serious sexual or
relationship problems, you should get relationship counseling. If it’s just a problem
with one or the other of you, and it can’t be resolved, you might want to consider
“moving on” and finding someone you can feel truly good about, and be really
intimate with on all levels.
Not so Typical Problems:
Women getting negative from having a great sexual experience.
CDs:
We have a full line of CDs that are great for sex/tantra. Some are “do it
while you listen” instructional/training CDs, and can also be used for a deeper
meditative experience, and others create “moods”/exotic erotic atmospheres so
you can do things like fantasize you’re having sex at the beach, in the woods, etc.
Our guided visualization CDs help you learn or enhance sex, tantra, or
primal power tantric sex practice, should you decide to take that route. One CD
has classical music in the background (including Ravel’s Bolero – famous for having
sex to, and once banned from universities because of it being used “seductively”).
The other CD has scientifically created “Vibrational Sounds” in the background, to
help induce a deeper subconscious meditative state.
Books:
The other booklets in the spiritual sexuality series are also available as e-
books. They are available for the "PalmReader" format also (we may have an
exclusive agreement with Palm in the future, so you’d have to check their website
for them).
If you are searching for answers that “make sense” regarding questions
about life, God, creation, the reason for our existence, what’s coming up, what we
can do to improve our lives and the lives of others, and much more, we
recommend you visit http://www.atlantis.to [not “.com”]).
The book “The Children of the Law of One & the Lost Teachings of
Atlantis” is available at most bookstores, but more money stays within our order if
you purchase direct from the website or via the toll free number (800-845-7991)
Anyone interested in that book, can read free chapters online. Free meditation
instruction is also offered online. If you are interested in any of that, Tibetan yoga
videos, seminars, “monk for a month” programs, the amazing vibrational sounds &
music therapy, or other tools for body-mind-spirit, please see the website.
Contact Info:
For the tantra, tantric sex website (tools, guided CDs, music for tantra, seminars,
workshops, teacher certification, links, etc.):
Website: http://www.at-tantra-tantric-sex.com. Email: info@at-tantra-tantric-
sex.com