Everything Is Fair, In Love And War; Agree or Disagree

I disagree to the statement that Everything Is Fair, In Love And War. This statement implies that using unfair means in love or war is not unethical. Well, people cheat each other for the want of money, love, woman, friendship, power etc. But they never give a thought that things achieved or secured using foul play never gives true feeling of belonging, at least according to me. Any relationship made on the foundation of lies, cheating, temptation and power misuse, can never be trusted. Thousands of examples support this argument. Such kind of thinking, behaviour and status is always a binding factor for long relationship. People think that all is fair in love and war. If we consider this proverb it simply indicate that even use of unfair means to achieve your goals is justified under the circumstances similar to those under love and war conditions In love, unfair means may include cheating, betrayal, use of muscle or money power, knavery, spreading hatred towards a particular person. Similarly, under war like situation, unfair means may include cheating, non-observance of common applicable rules, fraud, rumour mongering etc. Under situations of conflict, or love and war, people do not want to apply the rules of fair play. People take all the freedom in using proverb to justify cheating. Scope of the proverb has been conveniently broadened by opportunists to include politics, business, games, and to attain success in any field in addition to love and war for which proverb was originally used. Torture, murder, kidnapping, theft, money extortion, stalking are never the acts of fairness. Nothing makes these acts fair. Hence this adage fall out of usage and used by mean minded persons to justify unfair acts.

If we Just think about a situation that, if a boy is in love, than he can do anything for his lover, and the girl also can do anything for him, but if this is one-sided love than, it will be a big problem. Similarly in war like situations, first of all we have to avoid all these unfair means and if it is necessary than we don't have to do so much of destruction of our enemy, we can do all these things in a limited way.

Now I can defend my disagreement with the statement Everything Is Fair, In Love And War with ethical theories also. According to the theory Egoism, we will be considered right if we promote self interest for long term. Now, when we follow unfair means in love and war, it has been arguably proved that, we get benefited for short term period but not for long term. Suppose, a person lies to his/her lover in order to maintain his/her relationship. Though it will help him/her for the short term but ultimately when the other person finds out about the lie the relationship will not stand. So, the unfair mean is not helping to maintain a long term relationship. Even in the case of a war, a country may win a war by adopting unfair means but ultimately other countries will know about this fact and they will be unwilling to help them or make any kind of trade with them or may become reluctant make any kind of agreement with them, in future, because of lack of trust.

Even in the case of relativism it is said that right from wrong depends on social touching and society will never defend the unfair means. According to religion also, unfair means is never supported.According to the model deontology, some of the rules are; dont cheat, dont cause pain, keep promise, obey law, do duty etc. These rules are clearly against the statement Everything Is Fair In Love And War

So, from a general viewpoint or ethical theories or ethical viewpoint, I clearly disagree to the statement Everything Is Fair, In Love And War.