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Why is it that some people have everything and some people have nothing? Its not luck, and its not fateits the sum total of their actions and attitudes. Everything and anything is attainable. Others around you arent succeeding more because theyre better than youtheyre just doing the things that you arent. Knowledge For Men is about teaching you what you need to know to be better, happier, and more successful with women and life. For those of you who have been with me for a while, thanks for your enduring support. You make everything worthwhile. For those of you who are new to the community, welcome. Everythings about to change for the better. We believe in our four pillars of life: Health, Wealth, Relationships and Growth. Each of these pillars is equally important, and theyre inextricably linked. When you strengthen one pillar, you strengthen the whole structure. When your health improves, your relationships improve. When your wealth grows, your personal development can move more effectively. This approachtotal life alterationis what sets us apart from the rest of the so-called seduction community. We dont believe in teaching you how to gimmick your way into the occasional underwhelming onenight stand. Men who spend all of their energy just trying to get laid are inevitably bad at it, and theyll become obsessed with the idea of picking up to the exclusion of all else. Perhaps theyll get a few phone numbers, but theyll work twice as hard as they need to, and meanwhile the rest of their life will be in shambles. Focus on transforming yourself and your life, and all the perks of better living will come to you naturally - health, wealth, relationships and personal growth. Life is too short for anything less than extraordinary. There is no reason to not get what you want in life. In this guide, Primal Attraction, you will learn to tap into the natural instinctive processes that govern human attraction. Weve evolved and grown as a species, but our basic primal instincts are still well intact, and every man can harness that energy to attract women on a raw, primal level. At the heart of this is confidence. Unshakable, unstoppable, rock-solid confidence. The world responds to the cues you give it. When you loudly tell the world I deserve it all, thats what you get.
By the time youve worked through this book, youll find that youre no longer chasing women theyre chasing you and you wont have enough time to get them all because youre so busy
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living it up. People will see you as a winner, someone who is seizing opportunities, making things happen and they will be drawn to you because they want to be a part of your adventurous life. Youll fail at first, but that doesnt matter. Look around youthere are no adult crawlers. Every kid fails the first time he tries to walk, but sooner or later we figure it out, and before you know it were flying across our living room floors. No kid has ever gotten depressed, felt sorry for themselves, and decided to crawl for the rest of their lives. No, they kept at it until it became second nature. Becoming the man you want to be is like this. Dont resign yourself to a secondrate life. Take action today. Your process of growth begins now. Are you ready?
The road less traveled will be a challenging path, but once youve traveled it, your life will never the same.
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"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain My name is Andrew and Im the founder of Knowledge For Men. Ive decided I have no time for regrets. Mark Twain summed it up well, and the essence of his words is this: dont be afraid of failure. Get out there and make things happen! Making people understand that is my mission, and Im here to help you find yours. I am an avid reader, blogger, adventure enthusiast, and student of life. I am also an investor, personal development writer, speaker, and entrepreneur. In everything I do, I feel an intense drive to help others improve their lives. Squeezing the goodness out of every damn minute of life is something Ive trained myself to do. When I see people piddling their lives away, mired in doubt and dissatisfaction, I want to shake them and say, this is your life. Start living it! To that end, Ive spoken at numerous colleges and high schools in the San Diego area on college, careers, and turning dreams into reality. Primal Attraction focuses on one specific class of men: the guy who struggles with women and isnt getting what he wants out of life. Were raising a glass to the guy who feels like a second class citizen because hes crippled by his own lack of confidence. This is the guy who people walk on. The guy who cant stand up for himself in front of a crowd. The guy who sees a beautiful woman walk by and thinks, shes too good for me. This guide is for the man who knows all too well the experience of getting a phone number, calling it, and finding out its fake or watching it ring endlessly, the call never to be returned. If this is you, youre probably tired of seeing men half as good as you getting the things in life you want. Hopefully you know what you are, but you are just not getting the results you think you deserve. Ive been there. My life transformed dramatically as a result of changing my lifestyle and my attitudes. It took hard work and determination, but I did it. Thats how I know you can, too. Every morning, I wake up with a smile on my face, ready to take the world by storm and knock it out of the park. Thats how I want you to feel, too. Stay with me. Weve got work to do.
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Thanks for joining the movement thats swelling into a revolution. I envision a community of men that empowers each member to excel beyond his wildest dreams. Together, we can elevate ourselves about lifes little indignities and frustrations and achieve everything weve ever wanted. - Andrew
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Contents
Part I: Become a Better Man Being Yourself is Overrated........................................................8 Get to Work.................................................................................9 Confidence is Everything..........................................................10 Have Fun and Live it Up...........................................................11 Charisma Inspires Devotion......................................................12 Time is Your Ally or Enemy .....................................................14 You Can Never Be Too Healthy.................................................15 You Cant Be Anyone Else.........................................................16 Find Your Purpose in Life..........................................................17 Total Self Acceptance is Essential..............................................19 Live an Impeccable Lifestyle......................................................19 New Mantras for You..................................................................21 Game Killing Behaviors..............................................................22 Part II: Build Attraction with Women at a Primal Level Be a Challenge.............................................................................26 Emotions Lead to Relationships .................................................27 Kill Mr. Nice Guy........................................................................28 Never Give a Woman Exactly What She Wants..........................29 You Are the FUN.........................................................................29 Control the Conversation.............................................................30 She Wants to Chase You...............................................................31 Trying to Impress is Unimpressive...............................................32 Be Willing to Walk Away or Friend Zone Women.......................33 Never Chase a Woman..................................................................34 Woman Have a Clock; You Do Not..............................................34 Stop Trying to Be So Seductive....................................................35 Get Into State.................................................................................36 When its Time, Take the Shot.......................................................36 Freedom From Outcome................................................................37 She Feels What you Tell Her to Feel.............................................38 There is No Right Thing to Say.....................................................38 Conclusion.....................................................................................39
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Stop chasing women, being fake, and settling for temporary, surface-level attention from women. Start working towards becoming the best version of yourself. Every day, strive to be better than you were the day before in all aspects of life: health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth. Never neglect your four pillars. Youll not only find yourself surrounded with dating options, but youll simply be happier with the state of your life in general. The evolutionary playing field is a landscape of primal competition. For millions of years, men have competed for the attentions of women. The best and brightest have been the ones to survive, mate successfully, and raise up strong offspring. The sons of those first men endured the same competition, and again, and again. Somewhere down the line, you came into existence, and so its in your blood to succeed with women. Through war, famine, plagues, and catastrophes, your bloodline has continued to prosper. You are the crme of the crop for your bloodline. There is no reason why you cannot succeed. Use this as fuel as you strive to become the best version of you. The world needs more real men. The world needs you.
socially conditioned influence. Your physical nature, your individual experiences, and your unique way of thinking are what set you apart from the pack. Its a mistake to think this makes you an outsider. It makes you unique, and being unique is sexy. Its a strength, not a weakness. Where men trip themselves up is in acting out of character because they feel that the real man inside of them isnt going to get the job done. Dont strive to be like other unique men at the top of the food chain. They got there because they were true to themselves and worked hard and becoming the person they were meant to be. You need to identify what your truest, best self is, then become that. Be someone. Be a champion. You beat 40 million sperm to make it into this life, so get out there, light yourself on fire, and make it happen!
Be self-contained and self-controlled. Avoid being submissive. Take the lead, and start taking actions. Being assertive and decisiveand then sticking to your gunswill ensure that youre in charge of your own direction. As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you cant get for yourself. When you make your own sense of satisfaction dependent on the actions or opinions of others, youre putting your happiness in the hands of others instead of protecting it and nurturing it yourself. You will never be attractive. Women pick up on this. If you need their approval, you wont get it. If you dont need it, youll be showered with it. This isnt necessarily true for women, who require your approval and reassurance. Give her what she needs, and shell naturally default to giving you the things you deserve: respect, support, and love.
code of honor. His confidence has been established, and what others think is secondary. He doesnt need anyone elses stamp of approval. Confidence is gained through actions, and when you learn from the results, the confidence grows and builds. Ive set these two internal boundaries for myself, and I compromise them for nothing: I will never chase women. I will never compromise who I am for anything. I think of myself as the opportunity, the train leaving the station, the walking jackpotso others see me that way, too. This mentality has caused me to become very decisive, and my level of conviction is unreal. Yours can be too.
The reverse was also true: if the quotes were switched so that the funny men became the serious men, they were rated as less desirable.
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Nothing in life is that serious. When you can be funny about everything, you tell others that you float above the daily drudgery. Youre better than all of that. A real man knows that he cant be dependent on anyone to make his life fun, so he makes it fun for himself. He creates a bubble of happiness, fun, and good spirits around himself, and when he encounters a new person hes confident that he will be interesting to them, because they want to spend more time in that bubble. People are social creatures, and we cant underestimate the drive others have to feel like they belong. When were humorous, and when we invite others to share in our humor, were telling them: you are wanted here. I want you to feel good, and when youre with me, youre going to feel good.
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The attractive qualities in a person with charisma inspire devotion. Devotion is selfless dedication and affection. This goes beyond merely liking someone in a surface way. The charismatic man inspires others to rally to his cause and to want to be close to him. Much research exists on leadership, and two terms come up again and again: the referent and expert aspects of personality. The referent qualities a person has refer to their ability to influence people positively through natural charm, sociability, and generally making those around you feel good. Expert qualities refer to the ways we inspire admiration in others by being good at what we do. By being a source of positive energy and excelling in all aspects of our personal lives, we transform ourselves into magnetic people. Of course, lead by example. In simpler terms: handle your life like the badass youre meant to be, and women will want you to handle them. Charisma is that part of you that people want to be around. The ingredients are being inspirational, confident, happy, and humorous. That mixture draws people to you. Since charisma is a combination of leadership qualities, strengthening those qualities increases your charisma. Whats more, charisma is energy. Motion is energy, so the more you move and animate yourself, the more emotion you inspire in others. Energize those around you, and theyll feel good, and since they want to feel good, theyll continue to want to be around you. Its a cycle to raises your social value infinitely. People communicate charisma through social cues, and they carefully control the way they come across. At first, this may take practice, but as it becomes ingrained into a persons being, it soon becomes automatic. Charismatic people hold eye contact and listen intently, keeping nervous movements and unnatural inflections in check. Theyre cool, calm, and collected. The way they speak, too, is naturally pleasing to others. They measure their tone and volume, choose their words carefully, and exhibit impeccable timing. Their posture reflects their confidence. When you see a truly charismatic person, you instinctively get the sense that youre meeting an apex predatora lion in a room full of cats. None of this is mysterious or magical; its all down to social psychology and the way we subconsciously process body language. We assume that these people have a high social value, and oftentimes they make us feel valuable, too. Charismatic people feel like theyre talking to you because theyre genuinely interested in you and want you there, rather than waiting for you to shut up so they can say what theyve been waiting to spit out.
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Another key component to this is to remove procrastination from your life. While you may rationalize any number of reasons not to do what you need to get done, there are rarely genuinely good reasons. Dr. Timothy Pychyl, who has made a lifes work of studying the phenomenon of procrastination, uncovered an interesting trend in his research: when people feel competent about the task ahead of them, they are much less likely to procrastinate. If they fear theyre likely to execute the task poorly, theyll put it off. This is relevant because its completely illogical. Failure makes us more competent. If we do a poor job at the task at hand, we can learn from our mistakes, and we can attack it again with a new ferocity. The short version: Hurry up and start screwing up. Get your mistakes out of the way in a hurry, reflect and learn, then crush it the second, third, or fourth time around. It doesnt matter how many tries, just keep going!
the time. You govern how your days are spentnobody else. Remember Lesson Seven. Take care of yourself and youll have the energy to work long, grueling hours, be social, and go out all night, all while having a great time. If your heath is not up to par, you will not be successful out in the field with women; youll be too wiped out after a long, hard days work. Ensure that you are sleeping 7 to 8 hours, eating correctly, and working out each day.
Start thinking of your health in terms of those three ingredients: eating, sleeping, and working out. Most people focus on one or two to the exclusion of the rest, and theyre not as effective as a result. When one of your three pillars gets out of sync, the whole pyramid loses strength.
bars, and they actually believe this will make them attractive. The game isnt about learning tips and tricksits about becoming a better person. Its about identifying the traits youve already got that are working for you, then putting them to work in new ways. Its about rooting out your personal traits that are holding you back, then removing those weaknesses. Its about breaking yourself down, then reconstructing a new, better you. Its about overcoming your fears. Ah fear.. the illusion that prevents man from succeeding. You need to fight fear, wrestle with it, bite its head off and spit it out! Successful men at the top of their game know that those who arent growing are dying. They learn something new every day, set attainable goals, and focus their drive and ambition towards crushing those goals one by one. When you focus on cheap moves and pick-up techniques, youre distracting yourself from the work at hand. Youre watering down your genuine personality (your most powerful weapon), and youll come across as childish and desperate as a result. Look at the charismatic, successful men you know who seem to effortlessly date beautiful womenthey didnt take a class to get to that level. They didnt just talk it out on a messageboard or read book after book. Youre never going to learn anything by simply reading and studying. You must put in the work. Theres no simple answer for every guyyou have to pave your own way and discover where your strengths lie by advancing yourself. So, dont fake being a guy people want to associate with. Become him.
The answer you seek is not found in women but in yourself. Having that drivethat purpose makes you a compelling person, someone whos exciting to be around. Again, the woman is coming along on your journey. Dont chase her or ever alter the course of your ship to satisfy her whims. She should support and motivate you. When youve found the right woman, you will know and your purposes will be aligned, and shell enhance and empower your journey, making reaching those dreams all the more satisfying. In turn, youll also invigorate her and energize her life. Getting a girl out of her skirt pales in comparison to having a kickass partner with whom you are an unstoppable team. The latter makes for a lifetime of the good stuff: laughs, adventures, good sex, and a long, healthy fulfilling life. Understand that women are a secondary goal, never a primary goal. Women and sex are an important part of the evolutionary drive, but when you make them the sole focus of your energy, youre going to be left unfulfilled. And worse yet, youre going to come across as desperate and shallow. Just think of how hurt you would be if the relationship went sour and you lost everything you lived for. Women are the natural side benefit of a life that is fully lived and confidently navigated. Life is short. Youve heard that enough times and it has become clich and meaningless. Life is short, thoughit really is, damnit! Not only do we not have much time on this planet, but we have even less time in the prime of our lives. The slower you are in getting started on the mission that you were put here to complete, the less youll get done before youre too old or too dead to do anything about it. Are you listening? I want to make sure I have your attention, because that was so damn important. You need to grab life by the balls and go get what is rightfully yours! CRUSH LIFE!
Decide, right now, that youre a guy worth being with. You are! It might take some time to fully believe that, but keep telling yourself that. Accept who you are right now. Stop knocking yourself down by fretting about what you dont have. Your height, your skin color, your eyes, your hair, and your body are yours for the rest of your life, so do what you can and be happy with what you have. Children are always looking to the future, thinking about what theyll have down the line, wondering when the good things are going to come their way. Realize that there is only now. There is only today. There is only this moment in time. This is your life. This, right now. Today, how are you going to improve it? What specific actions will you take? Do the work. Put in the effort. Be your own compass, and trust in your own internal frame of reference. In all matters pertaining to your life, you are the final authority. You will not wait to follow the instructions of friends, family, society, or culture. You wont do things in order to gain approval. You will do what is right for you according to your own principles. Be the master and commander of your own ship and guide it into the adventure of life. You wont look back, and youll be happier for it.
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You dont have to work specifically at being attractive, because your best self is already attractive. You are the opportunity, and when every aspect of your life screams that from the mountaintops, more women will want you. Build yourself a lifestyle in which you thrive, and youll empower yourself to be that exciting, energetic person that draws women in like moths to a flame. You are the average of your surroundings. You are the average of the people you hang out with the most. This can be good or bad. If your friends play video games, then youre probably going to play video games. If theyre building businesses, then youre probably doing the same. Equally, if your friends are incompetent and awkward when it comes time to approaching women, youre also going to get sucked into that aura of failure. Youll be shot down by association, or you wont be pushed enough by your friends. Surround yourself with social guys who can help you get to where you want to be. Go out with a group that will create an atmosphere of fun and excitementyoull have a better time, and youll be energized, and others (especially women) will be naturally drawn to the group. You wont need to cold approach women as often.
The most important thing is a high level of self-worth. Im talking about your own vision of yourself and your lifestyle. Protecting your way of life is more important than any woman, and you should never allow a woman to waste your time. Either shes along for the ride, or shes not.
To find this group of guys, just go out more often. If you have to, go out solo and introduce yourself to people, so be it. How to make friends quickly? Try to help people in some way, forging a relationship through mutual benefit. Wheres your area of expertise? If youre a healthy guy, help a guy out with his diet and fitness. If you have business connections, help someone out with their career. When you help people, you add value to their lives, and when you enrich someones life, they want to be around you and enrich yours. In time youll have a core crew of guy friends with whom to pool resources and have a good time.
Those pretty girls sitting in a group by themselves, looking around the bar occasionally, pretending to have fun? Theyre tapping away on their cell phones for a reason: theyre bored. They want to be a part of your group, the fun group. Whatever youre doing, have women around. When you watch a movie, invite a few girls around to drink and watch it with you. When you go shopping, bring a few ladies, then invite them to smoke with you later. Theres no pressureits just socializing, and youre the guy they have fun withbut all the while, attractions building, and if you want it to, you can allow it to turn into something heavier. Consider your own social currency. It works the same way that business marketing doeswhen someone perceives something as valuable and acts accordingly, others do too. Diamonds are a
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good example. Theyre not actually very rare, and at the end of the day, theyre just rocks (albeit pretty ones.) But because theyre hard to get, people want them all the more. When women see that youre wanted and that others value your company, theyll want to get in on the action, too. Social Lifestyle: 1) Your social network, hand selected by you, consisting of your guy friends and all the women you meetwhether you want to sleep with them or friend-zone them. This circle is growing every time you go out. 2) Other social circles you mingle with. Youre like a special guest in the main cast, and if you enjoy the people you meet, you can invite them into your own main circle. 3) Thats connected to all of your favorite businesses and venues. When you do what you do in consistent surroundings, you meet other regulars, make friends with the staff, and can earn a little special treatment. 4) Resources: by knowing other men (especially other successful men), you can pool your resources and social connections to enhance everyones experiences. 5) Professional acquaintances. These people can also enrich your life by introducing you to life-enhancing opportunities, and they have the potential to join your main
If Im forced to stand up for myself, I can do it effortlessly. I know my own strengths and continually enhance them. I get stronger every day. I dont excuse my behavior or apologize. I am my own man, regardless of the situation. Others can take it or leave it. I dont treat the women Im involved with like children. I dont have time to babysit. I give her the freedom to run her own life, and I expect her to be able to handle herself. I dont waste time trying to entertain women who dont meet my expectationsits their job to keep me interested.
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Being boring: If youre bored then youre boring. Being boring shows a lack of personality. Your presence should be associated with good feelings and fun times. Remember, you are the party starter. You are the one who livens even the most boring days. Boring days are for boring people. Being pushy: When you rush, you tell her that you need something she has more than she needs youand you give up your power. Remember that women want sex as much as men do, but each woman has a different set of circumstances that need to be fulfilled before shell be comfortable getting busy. Trying to push your way into her bed will get you left out in the cold. Being passive and indecisive: Women want to be with a man. An inability to have an opinion on anything, make any calls, or act in general makes you look timid and weak. Be confident in your decisions, and act to ensure that youre getting what you want. Inability to listen: Listening shows that youre interested in her, not simply her body. Making the mental connection is a bigger turn on for her than anything else, and if she feels like what shes saying isnt important to you, she wont want to stick around. Nobody likes being used, and its on you to convince her through your actions that youre not using her. Appearing desperate for sex: When you come across as totally sex-driven, youre telling her that youre not getting it enough. If she thinks youre not getting any, shes going to wonder if theres a reason for that. Everyone wants sex. Dont worryeven the girl youre talking to wants it. What she needs to do is give herself permission to indulge in it, and you facilitate that by making her feel comfortable. Impatience: Patience is vitally important in any relationship, business, and life. Lack of patience shows you lack self-discipline. It also tells those around you that youre not willing to work for what you get, and that you feel a false sense of entitlement. A real man knows that the journey is as important as the end goal and enjoys the ride. Negativity: Constantly complaining about things creates an atmosphere in which its hard to have fun. Be the guy that can find the fun in any situation and always look on the bright side. Be untouchable. Small-time troubles dont touch you. Speaking too softly or loudly: Fear that you'll impose yourself on people and their personal space suggests weakness. Alpha males arent afraid to make their presence known by projecting their voice and living out loud. At the same time, talking too loudly can be seen as obnoxious and overcompensating.
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Talking too fast: Talking too fast makes you seem overly excited. It makes you look like youve never spoken to a girl before. Talk at your own pacetheyll feel lucky to be sharing your time, not the other way around. Insecure body language: Fidgety movements, tight shoulders, taking yourself too seriously, or trying too hard to project a businesslike persona suggest overt self-doubt. Its awkwardness and nervousness. When youre relaxed, people around you will relax, too. Know how you hold yourself, and do so confidently. Practice in a mirror if you need to.
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Emotion is often illogical. We all know this. The head says one thing and the heart says another its the oldest story in the book. And we cant fully control attraction. You already know this, too. Thats why unlikely matches occur, and its how people get themselves into trouble. Consider people who cheat on their spouses, for example. Many of them are well-meaning, and theyd never want to hurt the person theyre with, even if the attraction is gone. But theres something about that primal desire thats hard to deny, and it changes the way a person behaves. Sometimes, attraction takes over and supersedes everything weve ever told ourselves about how we function. Emotions play by their own rules. If everyone could control them easily, life would be a lot simpler. It would also be a lot more boring. Desire is something you cannot control. If you cant connect with a womans emotions, she cant feel attracted to you. No logic can create that instant gut feeling of attraction, that kick in the stomach of pure, animal desire. No simple technique can ignite that undeniable craving for another person, the one that takes you over, the one that makes you behave differently. In this section, youll learn how to trigger those primal emotions in women. Youll learn how to tap into those primal urges and harness that power. Once she feels attracted, she wont be able to help itits on. That primordial level of feeling takes over, and thats a more basic, instinctive mode than the collected, logical front we all put on. She wont be able to get you out of her head. Shell try to focus on other things, but her thoughts will draft back to you. And for every second she doesnt have you, the desire only intensifies. Youve got a lot to bring to the tablein Part One, you learned to recognize that and hone it. In Part Two, youll learn how to make women realize it, too. I wrote this book to get you over the idea that behaving like you owe a woman something is the way to get the girl. This section is.
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sex, dont change your behavior, though. You still need to maintain that confident, funny, and challenging personality you had beforenow the sex will just come more easily and more frequently, and it will be better as you get used to each other.
What youve heard is true: nice guys always finish last. Women will date a nice guy, yes. Their best friend is a nice guy. But theyre not going to sleep with the nice guy. The nice guy cant unlock their inner desire on that primal level. A plutonic nice guy friend is a dick in a glass caseshe knows she can have him whenever she decides she wants him, and maybe from time to time shell get drunk and make out with him. But then, a week later, shes going to tell him all about the mysterious stranger she met at a party, the one who she cant stop thinking about sleeping with. Its easy to lose respect for the nice guy. Shell take advantage of him. The nice guy buys flowers on the first date, lets her pick the venue, and picks up the tab. He spends too much of his energy trying to compliment her and please her. At the end of the night, hes lucky to get a kiss on the cheek. Then hell repeat that process over and over again. Soon, shell have lost interest, and hell find himself in the ever-dreaded friend-zone.
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Women form subconscious associations between you and the emotions they feel when theyre around you. If every time theyre around you they have fun (and thus feel good), especially in a situation where they dont expect it (because its a boring, mundane situation), they relate feeling good to your presence. When youre around, she has more fun than when youre not. This becomes more valuable as you control it. Get off the line at the height of any phone call, or stop giving her direct attention at the high point of a date. Disappear for a few minutes. Let her feel your absence. Become a beacon of fun, ambition, sexual energy, mystery, and constant surprises in her life. When youre there, life should take on a new color, like stepping into a dream. When youre gone, she should feel it. Things and people that are unpredictable keep our attention. If you act like every other predictable guy, then youre going to get he same things that they all get: rejection, no sex, and a one-way ticket to the friend zone.
Pausing, learn how to hesitate to give yourself a real presence. Unanswered questions and unfinished stories leave her hanging and wanting more. Sexually suggestive topics not including her. Refer to other people and situations. Conversations should NOT consist of: Compliments. (You might open with one when you first see her, though, if she put effort into looking good.) Too many compliments says your standards are low, though. Keep her working. Direct statements that attempt to gauge feelings. Nothing about how you like her or trying to get her to admit that shes into you. Act like you already know shes into you. How could she not be? Discussions of exes. Shell start associating you with failed relationships. Besides, your attention and focus should be on the present, not the past. Too many details about your life. Remember, each detail about you is valuable, and you shouldnt spend them all at once. Give her a little at a time, over time. Its fun getting to know people, and when it happens over a long period of time, we stay interested. Basically, you should always be flirting, teasing, and having fun. Dont take anything too seriously. Keep things lighthearted, and avoid heavy situations. Youll be able to tell how shes feeling by her actions. Is she smiling or laughing? Is she spending the whole time on her phone? Is she looking around the room because shes bored of looking at you? When you call or text, does she respond right away or does it take hours or days?
is a rare and exciting one. It gets her juices flowing and keeps the adrenaline pumping. Give her the opportunity to come after you, and shell do it. You defuse that raw energy when you do all of the work for her. Like everyone else, the girl youre interested in wants what she cant have. The anticipation of getting you only heightens the intensity when it happens. Think of it from your own point of view, remembering the times youve nervously called a girl and been unsure if shed pick up the phone or not. Remember the small high you got when she accepted the second date. Remember how you worked hard to get a kiss, and remember how supercharged it felt. That adrenaline rush comes with being the one who did the work. Let her do the work, anticipating how satisfying it will be, thinking of you beneath the sheets at night, waiting anxiously for your next text. The more time she invests in chasing you, the harder shell work to get you and keep you.
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For women, the quality of their social/sex life is highly unpredictable and based heavily on: - Their looks - Their pool of chasers - Their social circle Each of these diminishes with time. Every day that goes by, new fish are turning 18 or 21, and each day those looks fade. Those 18-21 year old girls will happily date older men, too. As we age, we can gain depth in our personality, and the older we get, the more experience we have. We learn and grow and become more financially set. You get better and better at being you. You also get better at sharpening and enriching your lifestyle. That makes you even more attractive to younger women, since theyre not as far along in life as you are, and you can introduce elements into their lives that they want but cant attain on their own. Consider a 30-year-old man and woman. The womans attractive, but those looks have faded. Sure, some guys might be game to get involved, but there arent many of them. The 30-year-old man, on the other hand, has an impeccable lifestyle and has retained his good looks. The 22 year old college grad that just walked into the bar would be more than happy to have his attention. Hes got a bigger pool of potential admirers to work from than his female counterpart. Hes got the choice, and the competition is between the 30-year-old woman and the 22-year-old. Too many men chase, and thats become the prevalent social dynamic. You are the opportunity. Dont forget it.
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The fact that youre not out looking to be seductive makes you more seductive than anything else. It shows that you trust in yourself, youre a creator of good times, and youre not interested only in sex. You dont need to trick attention out of womentheyll come running. All of this is another way of saying whats been said before: seduction is not the goal in and of itself. Being your best, most excellent self will put you at the top of the social food chain, and the seduction will occur effortlessly, naturally.
Challenge them. Lead them. Take the initiative, and when you think its time to escalate things, do it. Go in for the kiss. Take them home. Set the pace. If she says no, it just means you have more work to do. Usually, no means not yet. Keep drawing them in, and those walls will crumble in no time. Make them feel more comfortable. Remember, women are sexual creatures as well. They want to have sex, but they need to do it under circumstances theyre comfortable with. They wont allow themselves to become vulnerable in that way unless those criteria are metand usually, the most important aspect of that is that the minute they decide youre not only in it for the sex, thats when they want to give it to you.
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Do plenty of approaches, and train yourself not to feel worried about the outcome. Dont restrict yourself to meeting girls at night, either. Beautiful women cross your path all the time, so start talking to them. Places like coffee shops, grocery stores, and the gym are deceptively great for picking up phone numbers, since the approach feels less likely to be all about hooking up. An added bonus is that girls like being able to tell their friends they met a guy somewhere other than a bar.
for the right thing to do or say, you communicate all the wrong things. When you realize that there is nothing right to say, its as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, and you establish an unwavering feeling of fulfillment and positivity in you that shell feel from across the room. Remember that the best you, the real man inside, is unlike any other man. Naturally, the things you say will be different from the things they say. When she never knows whats coming next, and she knows that you dont give a damn about saying challenging things, shell develop an intense interest in whatever you have to say. Youre unafraid, and you show it.
IN CONCLUSION
To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all. Oscar Wilde Attracting women is not about cheap tricks and so-called techniques. Perhaps that low-level fakery will get you into the pants of some gullible girl who wouldve gone home with anyone anyways, but its not going to fulfill you. What creating real, lasting attraction is about is becoming the best man you can be. You should be owning every day. You should wake up ready to take the world by storm, and when youre living with that level of intensity and positivity, the women will be drawn to you like moths to a flame. Both women and opportunities surround you you just need to recognize it, open your eyes, and take action. Youll feel better about your life. Thats what all this is about anyways, right? Your happiness will not be dictated by the fickle affections of any woman, but it will instead come from within. Nobody will be able to take it away from you, regardless of the outcome of any relationship. Paradoxically, as a result, youll have more success than you ever knew you could. The main point is to not chase women but to attract women. Do this by enhancing your life, transforming it from the ground up. Embrace the hard work that it takes to improve your life, and enjoy each successive accomplishment. Dont play around, and dont focus on trying to appear to be something that youre not. Its not all about your haircut, your ferocious sense of style, your musical taste, the shape of your body, or the car you drive. At the end of the day, what its really all about is the man you really are. Every other book out there will tell you that you can get by with surface-level changes, but those books are written by guys who are worse off than you because you now know that youre ready to create the life you desire. Women come along with
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you for the adventure that you create because you are living a life they want to live. A life well lived. I can tell you what you need to do, but now its your turn to take responsibility for the state of your life. The difference between an average guy and a great man lies in who is willing to take action. Dont waste any more time. Youre not getting any younger. Start improving yourself and your life right now, the moment you finish this guide. On our website, youll find like-minded men who will encourage you and keep you accountable. Be confident, work hard, and reap the rewards. Once you get started and start seeing changes in your life, youll never look back. Cheers, Andrew
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