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Hi everyone Im happy to welcome back our Life Magazine, packed with a variety of empowering and inspirational articles and as an online magazine, you can access it wherever you are in the world. In this issue the spotlight is on our International Conference in Florence, Italy and the hard work and preparations are paying off as were now becoming very excited about the event. You can connect with people from New Zealand, South Africa, USA, Turkey, Norway, Australia, Mexico, Ireland, UK, Italy to name but a few with more signing up every day.
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AAMET International Chair You can sign up for a workshop on Matrix Re-imprinting, EFT Levels 1 & 2, Creating Wealth from the inside out, Tapping & Time Travel and The Healing Codes. There will also be products on sale and the chance to win some fantastic prizes including a Kindle. Sami Thorpe is offering free Qigong lessons and on the Saturday evening is our Gala Dinner with entertainment. You can also take part in a wine tour of Tuscany. So dont leave it too late support your Association and meet with friends old and new. Our new International status has helped us expand globally. We are recognised as the largest EFT Association worldwide, providing access to a vast array of knowledge and expertise, not only in relation to EFT but help and advice is available from our health care professionals and clinicians. Our new website will be launched end October/early November and we will have a range of products, downloads etc on offer as well as a section dedicated to EFT Research and healthcare professionals. We will also be reaching out to support groups and connecting with innovators in the field of energy psychology with a view to forming a working partnership. Were aware of members using EFT on celebrities, working as EFT volunteers in the community, appearing on TV and radio talking on EFT. We have a member who has been given a grant to use EFT in the community and another who is using it in the drugs community with great success. We want to convey this good news with other members and the public. This is your magazine and we want to provide fresh and innovative ideas so why not write for us? If you would like to write your story or if you would like to join as one of our regular contributors, please contact comms@aamet.org for more details. Well, Ive done enough talking so I will let you read in peace and enjoy! Love and energy
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14 INTERVIEW WITH A CELEBRITY: SOPRANO RACHEL COBB TELLS US HOW SHE USES EFT 34 EFT AT LONDON 2012 OLYMPICS: OLYMPIC ATHLETE BENEFITS FROM EFT
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30 SELF SABOTAGE: HOW TO BEFRIEND YOUR INNER SABOTEUR 40 THE MEETING OF PARTS: HEALING THE INTERNAL CONFLICT
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8 EFT AROUND THE WORLD SERIES: A RETREAT IN PORTUGAL
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18 THE VENUE THE 4 STAR HOTEL DELTA IN FLORENCE, ITALY 24 THE PRESENTERS: INTRODUCING OUR EXCITING LINE UP OF PRESENTERS 32 THE TICKETS: ALL THE DETAILS TO BOOK YOUR SEAT!
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by Tania A Prince EFT Master, NLP Trainer
hannon was in an impossible situation. She had a dream; she wanted to run her own therapy business. She was passionate about this idea. She knew it was the direction she wanted to go in her life. Unfortunately, like many others she was caught in the trap of needing to bring money in to live. She was in the endless spiral of working with little to no time for herself and her dream. She supported herself and did not have the luxury of having the financial backing of a partner. Her job involved working long hours, this left her very little time and energy to forge forward. She just felt stuck as firmly as if she was trapped in a cage!
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The next day, she was offered a new job, better hours and better pay. The new job freed up some time allowing her the space to develop her business. An inevitable set of circumstances had come into play and Shannon was following with it. It wasnt long before Shannon was running her own successful therapy business. At the time of writing this article, I gave Shannon a call to check where she is now as this is several years after that session. The last time we spoke she told me she, couldnt be happier, but that was a while ago. I wanted to check her progress now. Amazingly she said the same thing I couldnt be happier. Her business is going well. The point I want to make is that if you look at Shannons issue from a logical point of view, it was near impossible to solve. An amazing set of circumstances needed to fall into place. She literally needed to walk into another job straight out of her old one. The new job had to have certain criteria in it regarding the hours she would be working, wages etc. Then of course there is the set of things that needed to happen for her to end up with the therapy practice! To try and plan that out would have been difficult to achieve as there are so many variables. However from an energetic point of view we only have to do one thing, change the energy, the attraction point.
ficult to resolve) rather than expend tremendous energy trying to solve it with logic, you step back and tackle it energetically as your first choice approach. I would also add that when you think about what you want, (with Shannon, she wanted to run her own successful therapy practice), ask yourself, what will having that do for me? and if I had that right now, how would that feel? Now all you have to do is to get yourself out of the way as Gary Craig so aptly put it, so that you can have this feeling. Basically you are putting yourself into a place of allowing.
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If we want to create abundance in our lives we should deal with it from a purely energetic point of view. Avoid trying to logic our problems out by analysing and understanding them. Many people understand and have analyzed their issues and yet still have them.
- Then tap using either EFT or an approach such as Inner RePatterning to get yourself out of the way, into a place of allowing. - Take action when it intuitively feels right
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AAMET International Representative for Portugal, Janet Broughton gives us an insight into her EFT journey, and living and working in Portugal...
was first introduced to EFT in 2004 a year after I had broken my back in a horse riding accident. I had begun practising yoga in 1998, and as my yoga journey progressed it opened up many new possibilities in the field of Energy healing.
At the end of 2004, 14 months after my accident, I walked with a stoop and took pain killers like sweets, having been referred to the hospital specialist I was told that this was the best I could achieve. However I dont take no for an answer so I was keen to explore alternatives to the recognised medical profession. With a mind open to the possibilities I met an EFT Practitioner and in
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4hrs I was walking straight and pain free this was something I had to explore and as a teacher it is always my desire to share my knowledge. Therefore over the next 4 yrs I became an EFT Advance Practitioner and Trainer, an NLP Practitioner, a Life Coach, a Reiki Master Teacher, Colour Psychologist and came full circle and began to train as a DRU Yoga Teacher, giving up my full time job to practise full-time. Since beginning yoga I had attended a number of yoga retreats in a number of warmer European countries, and whilst I enjoyed them I knew I could enhance the offers, as my original training and career was in Hotel Management, so I was often heard to say One day Ill have my own yoga retreat but not whilst Ive got my Mum and my cat Im an only child, single and childless, my father having died 20 yrs previous
my Mum was my only close relative, so I chose to stay in the UK. My cat was of a nervous nature and I could not envisage how I would get him safely abroad. In 2009 my Mother was diagnosed and died of cancer in the space of 6 weeks, as I watched her fade away I knew what I had to do, live the dreams she had never had the courage to and decided I would find a way to transport my cat, all was underway when again very unexpectedly he too died, they had left me free emotionally, physically and financially. The idea of Portugal had been sewn a few years earlier by a friend who was thinking of moving there and then I saw a TV programme which featured Portugal and then every time Id meet someone who had been, they would say Youll like Portugal.
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It has to be green or Im not going!
I therefore came and explored and chose central Portugal as this is where the properties that met my criteria and my price range, were situated. I was a little sceptical as people often describe hot countries as beautiful whereas I often find them barren, so as I journied with a friend I said It has to be green or Im not going - When I tell people in Portugal they laugh as this is one of the greenest places on earth complimented by the reddest earth and the bluest sky a true paradise. I arrived at the end of May 2011 having sold up in the UK, my houses, car, and business and have become a Portuguese resident. I have established a business called Yoga Retreats in Portugal and I provide EFT as a therapy and training courses to local residents (expats and Portuguese) and to clients who come to stay at my retreat. As an energy practitioner I combine my skills to achieve the best outcome for my clients, so although the following case study was a client who came for Life Coaching; EFT, NLP, Colour Psychology, Reiki and Meditation all featured. EFT being the dominant therapy, as I find it so effective in removing the barriers to clients achieving their goals. In writing this article the question came up as to how clients in Portugal differed from those in the UK and I would say that they fall into two catagories; one being expats and the other being Portuguese nationals. For Portuguese nationals all this work is new and innovative, this is a country who experienced a revolution less than 40 yrs ago and half of the people still live life as it was before the revolution, working and living off the land, some unable to read or write and without running water. Yet for those born after the revolution and especially those living in Lisbon and its surroundings then they are highly educated living in very modern housing with all modern amenities and it is these young professionals who I have found to be my market.
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They are excited by all these new ideas and are eager to learn, and of course speak fluent English so I am able to practise in my native tongue. It also means I can spread the practise of EFT by training Practitioners so that a country and a people I have grown to love can benefit hence my role as AAMET Representative for Portugal. These young professionals have all the same issues as anywhere else in Europe, a more localised one being the bringing together of their world and that of previous generations, not unusual in the UK either but for all of them there is a definite start date. Amongst the expat community UK and Ireland, Dutch, American and South African to name a few, I find that my work is in layers. On the surface to make such a life changing decision - uprooting to live in another country, it would appear that these people are proactive and positive, confident and sorted! However scratch the surface and this is not always the case. When I made my decision, as an NLP Practitioner, I
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recognised that one of the decision making internal programmes I used many times was Towards/Away and it was always Away, so that whilst looking over my shoulder at what I wanted to get away from, I didnt look where I was going and many a time went from frying pan to fire. This time however I was very much going towards. I was leaving a beautiful home in a wonderful location, fantastic friends, and family and an established business. However I was motivated to follow my dream. Once I began to get to know people here I found that the reasons people came to live here were mostly to get away from a situation they could no longer tolerate but forgetting they were bringing themselves with them, the issue does not change because of location. Many were onto 2nd or 3rd marriages, seeking a fresh start and for others, one partner wants to make the move and the other doesnt but in order as one person told me to stay married they made a move not of their choosing. As well as bringing your problems with you create a few more!
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An interview with critically acclaimed soprano Rachel Cobb about how she uses EFT
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matic (The London Times) having presented one of the best impersonations I have seen (Opera Magazine) and possessing a pure soprano [with] charm and fragility (Classical Voice) and real vocal thrust (Opera News), American soprano Rachel Cobb has earned critical acclaim in the United States and Europe as a total performer with incredible dramatic intensity.
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Past engagements for Ms.Cobb include Miss Jessel in Glyndebournes production of The Turn of the Screw, as Mim for the Duluth Festival Opera, Opera on the James and in Opera Pacifics production of La Boheme, The Merry Widow with Opera on the James, Cio-Cio San in Panama, Donna Anna in Don Giovanni with Madison Opera and the Westfield Symphony, as Pallade Athena in Glucks Paride ed Elena with The Caramoor Festival, Fiordiligi in Cosi fan tutte, Beauty in Gianninis Beauty and the Beast with Baltimore Opera and Kitty Hart in the Opera Pacific production of Dead Man Walking. Other notable roles in her repertoire include Rosalinde in Die Fledermaus, Tatiana in Eugene Onegin, Nedda in Pagliacci, Marguerite in Faust, Micala in Carmen, and Countess in Le nozze di Figaro. Ms. Cobb has also achieved success on the concert stage in appearances with the Fairbanks Symphony in performances of the Verdi Requiem and in Washington D.C. with Strauss Four Last Songs. Ms. Cobb was a first prize winner of the Farwell Award in Chicago, a Licia Albanese-Puccini Foundation International Vocal Competition Grant Winner, and a two-time finalist in the highly esteemed Loren L. Zachary Competition.
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Marie Holliday an AAMET Trainer of Trainers from Spain interviewed the world famous soprano Rachel Cobb and how she has used EFT for many years
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MH Rachel, as a critically acclaimed soprano of USA and Europe famed worldwide, when did you start singing ? RC I started taking lessons when I was 14. I always knew I wanted to sing, but I didnt know I wanted to be an opera singer until I started learning about classical and opera music through voice lessons. I always wanted to be an actor and singer and opera fit in perfectly with what I enjoyed doing. MH What are the highlights of your career ? RC Singing at Glyndebourne Opera in a super cool new production of Turn of the Screw in 2006 was amazing as Glyndebourne in Surrey, UK is recognised globally as one of the great opera houses in the world. MH As lead soprano in many famous operas do you have a favourite and why ? RC I have so many favourites but singing Donna Anna in Don Giovanni is really the most fun for me because it fits so well into my voice. MH With a new baby and a busy mum, do you have to train vocally each day ? RC I do try, and I dont always succeed but I definitely keep my voice in shape. In fact, I feel like I am singing better than ever now. MH You have used Emotional Freedom Techniques in the past tell us how you discovered EFT ? RC It was so long ago, I cant remember who turned me onto it but I started probably back in 2002 or so. MH What do you use EFT for personally ? RC I have used it for soooo many things... for help with visualization, for recurring bad thoughts and thought patterns, for accepting myself for who I am (instead of what dress size I wear), for helping me learn new vocal techniques faster... Ive probably used it for 100 different things. I have also helped a LOT of students and friends with stage fright using EFT, and for various other things even broken hearts, and fear of flying!
MH Do you find EFT works for you ? RC It works! MH You have used EFT with some young vocals would you tell us a little about this ? RC I use it most often to help people get over stage fright with auditions. It works really really well for this. First I talk to them about what is going through their head during the audition that leads to the fright... often it is some variation of not being good enough, or as good as the other people... and we first talk it through - I always tell them it doesnt matter how good you are! You just have to be the best you can be. The best singer doesnt always get the part, in fact, rarely! You have absolutely no idea what they are looking for- could be a look, could be a height or matching look they are looking for, if the opposite leading part is already cast. It could be someone who has just the one rare quality that you have- so being the best doesnt even help you. Being you will either get you the job or it wont because they are looking for someone else, so no use sweating it! Then we talk through some other aspects and then do EFT until the 10 becomes a 1 (you know what I am talking about!). Usually happens pretty fast. MH Will you be using EFT with your baby ? RC I have used it for him for all kinds of problems and I find it works, though not as fast as I would like. I did see something today about how you need to do EFT on yourself first if you are going to do it for someone very close to you, so I will try that next time. MH Have you any opera events planned for the future ? RC Im just getting back into the opera world after staying home with my baby for a year. I have some concerts planned and some contracts that arent signed so I cant say yet! But, I am excited for the future of my singing! Stay tuned! Rachel, thank you so much for your time in what we know is a busy schedule for sharing with us how you use EFT in your everyday life and if anyone would like to look in on Rachels website for future dates and venues her details can be found here.
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There are many of us now doing fascinating and important work with EFT and opportunities like this to meet and share, learn and laugh together are vital. I am so looking forward to meeting old and new friends in Florence!
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The Presenters
Helena Fone Sophia Cayer Jaqui Crooks Russell Cunningham Dr Liz Boath
Alpha Repatterning
Creator of Alpha Repatterning Russell is a qualified NLP Master and Trainer, TimeLine Therapist, and Workplace Assessor & Trainer. He is Director of NLP for Life and the Australian Institute of Self Development. EFT and Alpha Repatterning - Release your past, Enjoy your Present and Attract the future of your dreams. EFTers know that EFT is most effective when it is specifically focused. The challenge is that most of our initial core issues occurred before the age of 7 and most of us have little or no conscious memory or these events. Alpha Repatterning enables us to not only resolve these issues but to align our unconscious mind with our dreams and goals.
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Dr Anthony Starkey
Sue Stone
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Dr Phil Mollon
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Healing Codes
Dr.Anthony Sharkey is a medical doctor of 30 years. He is an ordained Buddhist, and has personally taught 2 - 3000 people how to meditate. He helps his patients utilize spiritual practice for self healing. What if EFT or other Energy psychology techniques arent working despite your best efforts? The Healing Codes are a new (2001) Energy Medicine modality well worth adding to your toolbox. Like EFT it is easy to learn. It uses 4 (2 of which were previously undiscovered) healing centres on the body which are activated using your fingertips. It does not work directly on the meridian system or the chakras. At the end of the talk you will be well oriented to do the Healing Codes yourself and for your clients.
our Special Celebrity Speaker and star of hit UK TV show The Secret Millionaire
Sue was in a place of desperation, fear and facing many of the problems life can throw at you, but she made it her mission to work on herself and transform her life.with amazing results. Sue uses EFT and the Law of Attraction and will share her secrets with you. From just ten pounds left in her purse to becoming a star in Channel 4s The Secret Millionaire, Sue Stone has created a wonderfully happy life as a highly successful business lady and mother of 3. A life Sue never thought possible.
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At the conference, Armando Pintus will describe how his approach to his work as a psychologist has changed enormously since he began applying energy psychology methodologies; how the time and duration of treatments have changed, as have the treatment environments (from Business Coach to the improvement of sports performance to the treatment of psychological and psychosomatic problems with patients.) He will provide specific examples of applications and their results and will also discuss how he addresses situations where traditional EFT is unsuccessful (using a technique he calls EFT del profondo and EFT for evolution and personal development, which combines EFT, NLP, Logosynthesis and other energy psychology methods).
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The Workshops
Karl Dawson EFT Master, Creator of Matrix Reimprinting and Hay House Author
Matrix Reimprinting is a collection of new cutting-edge techniques created by EFT Master Karl Dawson. They combine EFT with understandings from the new biology, epigenetic and quantum science, to create RAPID personal change. Workshop dates: October 29/30/31&1st Nov- 4 day training costs full price 470.00 GBP /early bird 390.00 & 2 day training costs full price 310.00/early bird 270.00. Please visit www.aametconferences.com to register.
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EFT research
Given the methodological limitation of these RCTs, further good quality research on EFT is warranted. For a full copy of this review please go to:
http://www.staffs.ac.uk/faculties/health/research/cpsi/areas_of_focus.jsp
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Dr Liz Boath will be presenting at AAMET Internationals 2012 conference in Florence, visit www.aametconferences.com for more details.
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AAMET Certified EFT Trainer, Karin Davidson asked her AAMET Level 3 attendees what were the most useful things they learned...
pulling the bottom logs out first. And sometimes they can be more stubborn because of all the similar and reinforcing events on top of them. truly centered on the client, you can ask the client clarifying questions without leading them. There is no wrong, just feedback.
negative emotion is sometimes not enough. Many times, we need new resources. If procrastination is the problem and its solved, what do I do when Im overwhelmed or I dont like what Im supposed to do? If my back problem goes away, then my disability supplement goes away.
7. Confidence comes from trusting EFT and knowing your limits. If EFT is not working, then we havent gotten to the bottom of it yet. Theres something else there. Keep at it. Dont think you are doing something wrong. Theres nothing wrong with NOT being an expert on everything. Keep learning. Just dont go where you dont belong. 8. Trust what you do know, find out more when you dont. You wouldnt be tapping with someone if you didnt believe it could help them. Keep studying so you can learn more. Rely on the basics, they always work. Its OK to tap with people while youre learning as long as you are honest with them. No one will ever be perfect. See number 7. 9. Continuous tapping during the entire session can be extremely helpful. Making the OK sign with you finger and thumb like an O, and then moving your thumb on top of your index finger so its pressing on the index finger point is non-invasive. Tapping, pressing or rubbing that point while the client is talking - in between the actual EFT tapping rounds - is simple, easy and useful. 10. Community. Sometimes EFT is just too weird for friends and family. Spending time with other EFT enthusiasts is great. From an attendee: It was wonderful to participate in a workshop with others interested in and working in the energy field, learning with and from them.
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3. The subconscious mind reacts according to specific rules it has learned, even if those rules are out of date. Even today, we are reacting to what we learned long ago. Working with where we learned those rules, those specific core events, works wonderfully and the Generalization Effect, or Gary Craigs forest, comes tumbling down. 4. Watching live demos and being able to ask questions is extremely helpful. One attendee gave the example of seeing/witnessing your work with the demo and the simple but profound (when it comes to trauma) technique of going to the end of the story and doing tapping work on that first...then going back to the event from the beginning and doing whatever EFT work after some healing took place to prepare and resource them was invaluable. 5. Many events are related-like a beavers log dam. You can work on the recent ones which are like the top of the dam. But getting to the logs at the bottom of the dam the earlier or even childhood events where the original learning occurred brings the issue dam down sooner, just like
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t is my belief that we are much more capable, creative and expressive than we allow ourselves to be. Helping people embrace their more expressed self is my passion. And it is always a journey. Whenever we step outside our comfort zone, our inner saboteur is ready for action. This is not because we want to trip ourselves up; rather it has to do with our hardwiring for safety and survival of the species. Anything that feels new or strange will subconsciously be experienced as a threat. If we can understand how our inner saboteur works we can learn to work with it. Here are some things I have learned about self-sabotage: Our subconscious mind processes 20 million environmental stimuli per second. Our conscious mind just 40. (Relax and grow Rich, by Michael Hutcheson and Claire Wadey .) We respond to stimuli, whether they are conscious or subconscious. This means that we often respond without either knowing it or without knowing why we respond in a certain way. Another way of putting it is: 5% of us is conscious and 95% of us is subconscious. Our inner saboteur springs from our subconscious. It is the job of the subconscious to protect us from harm. Our subconscious does not differentiate between a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual threat. The response will be the same: protect! Also the subconscious doesnt differentiate
All of us have a collection of experiences in which we have felt humiliated or not good enough, starting from our early childhood. Our subconscious is wired to protect us from further hurt, in this case by undermining our conscious goal of writing this article. We might be shamed again and the subconscious is doing everything it can to prevent that from happening. If you look at our evolution, we started with a reptilian or primitive brain which has all the hardware for our survival. It is hardwired for the survival of the species. Its from our primitive brain that our fight, flight or freeze response is triggered. Its from here that we know when were hungry or cold. As we evolved, so have different parts of our brain, creating different layers on top of the primitive brain. Even though we have come a very long way in learning how the brain functions, we still dont know which areas actually contain the conscious mind, other than the neocortex; the thin layer of brain tissue behind the forehead. You could picture a stimulus reaching the brain from the bottom up, first the primitive brain, then the other parts of the brain and finally the neo-cortex. Experiments have shown that the neo-cortex can be the last neural area to know when a decision is made: the other, more primitive areas of the brain, may have already dealt with the issue. Here is an example of how your subconscious can affect you, without any conscious awareness. Imagine youre walking along on a nice sunny day, feeling great and all of a sudden you dont feel so good, but you dont know why. Youve responded emotionally to a stimulus which was noticed by your subconscious but not your conscious awareness. Someone has just walked by wearing exactly the same t-shirt as your friend. As it happens you are having some conflict with your friend at the moment. This instantly triggered feelings of conflict and sadness, without conscious awareness. The language of the subconscious includes images, smells, sounds, associations and body sensations. For us to communicate with our subconscious more effectively we need to use the right language. Dr Bruce Lipton , a cell biologist, has written about his research and how it has completely changed his view of life. His book, The Biology of Belief is well worth a read.
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between the past and the present or future. The physiological responses are the same. An example: Your conscious (5%) choice is to write an article about your work. Logically, this seems to be a good idea because it will get you more visible in the professional arena, which may lead to more work. It will also sharpen your own thinking on this topic in the process. Three months later you havent done anything. Why? Your subconscious (95%) says: What!? Are you crazy?! People might not agree with what you say, they might think you dont know what youre talking about, or they might laugh at you. No way are you going to do that!
Instead of getting frustrated with ourselves when we selfsabotage, we can view it as a cue indicating that we are stepping outside our comfort zone, trying something new. For instance, in weight loss it is very common for people to have a certain weight that they just cant get below. As soon as they get to this weight they put more weight back on. Realising that this is a challenge because youre stepping outside your comfort zone is the first positive step to overcoming this problem. If you tap for this comfort zone problem, youll make it possible to create a new comfort zone, and you might uncover some subconscious experience related to this weight, which you can then clear as well. www.mayanschraders.co.nz mayan@mayanschraders.co.nz
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AAMET Trainer, Carey Mann uses EFT on London 2012 Olympic Athlete, Abi Oyepitan
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I had an Achilles injury and was finding it difficult to move forward I literally couldnt even run at all after the operation. My coach told me about Carey and I thought that I would give it a try, as I had nothing to lose. During the first session all the pain in my Achilles seemed to just release and Carey has since shown me how to use tapping technique for pain relief. I have seen a real benefit with the level of pain Ive felt in my Achilles during training. I think the negative feeling that I was associating with my Achilles definitely made the pain worse. I realised that the injury was definitely linked to emotional issues. Now I have dealt with the issues, I am pain-free Abi Oyepitan
Having mastered her own pain, Carey believes that everyone deserves to be pain-free, and is therefore devoting her life to helping others in the areas of chronic pain and injury. She runs a busy clinic at Londons Harley Street and Liverpool Street and has been featured on many media outlets such as The Sun, Daily Express, Sweet Magazine, Health & Fitness Magazine, a TV pilot called The Food Magicians, and a Channel 4 show entitled The Wager. Carey is the go-see person for many celebrities, sports professionals and world-class athletes. She is looking forward to the future and helping people to transform chronic pain and injury into physical freedom. For more details on Careys work or to contact her, please visit her blog, http://careymann.wordpress.com/ or her new website www.careymann.com
AAMET Life Magazine editor, Kay Gires London 2012 Olympic experience included meeting her Olympic hero, Mark Foster and the opportunity to hold an Olympic torch!
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After about half an hour, I checked in with Blues young rider for her perspective, and she reported that she was having no trouble keeping him on the rail. She also jumped him successfully as the class proceeded to practice their jumps. I then showed the riders two tapping points for the horses that often produce calm; different horses prefer different points. One point is on the horses forehead, roughly where the sworl of hair is, or what we think of the third eye spot; the second is on the horses upper lip, between the nostrils or about an inch lower (the exact spot depends on the horse, some horses will lip your fingers if youre too close to the mouth, but will respond well to tapping higher on the nostrils This was all the work I did with these riders in their clinic. Four days later, I attended the show to give a hand with the tapping for those who needed it. Two youth riders and two adult riders used EFT in real-time between rounds, to improve their performance. Each used it while mounted, either with me or with their trainer/instructor. The trainer and I watched the rounds, and worked with the riders on specific elements and the results from the show were as follows: Sarah, a youth rider, was nervous in her first class, and it affected her performance and her placing. She had been tapping on generally doing well, but after placing last in the first class, she and her trainer then focused the EFT technique. They narrowed it from working on generally doing well in the show to the elements she needed to improve. Sarah went on to win a first place
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in her more-difficult canter flat class, executing her skills solidly. Emma, a youth rider moving up to Maiden Riders Division, wasnt as relaxed and solid as she needed to be in her first rounds. Her horse refused a fence, and rushed a few others, due to Emmas nervousness on the more challenging course. Her trainer zeroed in on her two-point position, (the position a rider takes when going over a fence) and told Emma that she was not getting into two-point which was affecting her jumping. Before her last class, Emma and I tapped two rounds specifically on her two-point position; in her last class, her two-point position was solid and her jumps were clean. She won Reserve Champion for the division, and the judge specifically complimented her twopoint position in the last round. Helen, an adult beginning rider riding in her first show, placed last in her first class, struggling with an understandable case of nerves. To add to Helens challenges at her first show, she is from Russia and has only been in the US a short time. Her inexperience on horseback, language barriers, and show nerves gave her a lot to overcome. Between her first and second round she used her EFT skills, conquered her nerves, and finished 3d in the most challenging class of her division, the ridden pattern equitation class. The judges comment to the trainer/instructor on these riders: All of your students rides got better as they went along. This is significant because riders and/or horses often become tired as the show goes on. Either the rider or the horse, or both, are likely to become less organized and less focused toward the end of the day than they were at the beginning. To see a consistent pattern of improvement among a group of riders of different ages is rare, and a significant outcome. The trainer commented that EFT kept all her riders focused. Each of the EFT rounds used during the show was done in less than five minutes, while the riders were mounted. The riders had fun using their tapping skills!
There are several significant takeaways for amateur competition from this example: EFT was taught mechanically, and applied only to executing specific skills We did not work on any emotional issues, and we narrowly defined our desired outcomes: Keeping Blue on the rail, or Improving my two-point At the show, we kept the rounds short and we kept them fun Their trainer/instructor reinforced this tool, tapping with them or asking me to do so, and encouraging them to tap with each other. This helps give it credibility to the rider, who can then use it openly and with the assistance of teammates as part of her tool-kit Although the riders themselves knew they improved, the results and judges comments also provided an objective measure of how the EFT had helped An added bonus for riders is that horses look for coherence in humans; that is, when biological systems such as brainwaves and heart rhythms become regular and synchronized. This gives a focused and relaxed energy that the horse, a prey animal expert at picking up on energy states, responds to. The horse can then also relax and access its own skills, and the team of horse and rider reinforces one another positively. Thus, the use of EFT with easily-quantifiable goals and a focus on relaxation and skill-execution helps both horse and rider. These results can be generalized to any sport or hobby. For amateur competitors, the relaxing and focusing aspects of EFT may be all they need to allow them to access the skills they have practiced at home and accomplish their goals.
Article by Ange Dickson Finn, an AAMET-certified Level 2 EFT Practitioner. She is based in the Houston, Texas, USA, and works with clients over the phone and via Skype. Ange has helped clients with issues including physical pain, health and well-being, work-related stress, equestrian sports and relationships.
Visit her on the web at www.TapIntoYourself.com or www.RideWithoutFear.com. Contact her via email at ange@tapintoyourself.com.
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n my practice as a psychotherapist and EFT practitioner, I make extensive use of the Parts process, based on the NLP model of Six Step Reframe and significantly expanded and developed by Fran Burgess www.nlpand. co.uk in the approach she named Personality Alignment. Whilst helping a client to meet and communicate with their own Personality, Parts can be successfully done through talk therapy alone. I find that adding EFT to this approach significantly enhances and speeds up the process of alignment and internal peace-making. When trying to make changes in your life, you may have heard yourself say something like, One part of me really wants to be healthier and go to the gym, but another part just wants to sit in front of the TV eating crisps, or Its like I have an angel on one shoulder and a devil on another, or Ive been really good all week, but today Ive been really naughty, or simply I feel torn between... Metaphorically, you can think of your overall personality as a team of workers, all striving towards better health, wellbeing and success of the whole system, the organisation you! The problem arises when some of the team members do not communicate with others, or sometimes reject, oppress or even bully each other with the resultant inner conflict getting in the way of us achieving our goals. We can spot such internal battles in most cases of addictions, eating disorders, autoimmune illness, chronic worry, procrastination, but it is also present in less obvious everyday situations whenever it feels like we are putting obstacles in our own way. The first principle for pulling this dysfunctional team together and helping them communicate better, is for the therapist to develop good rapport with the Part associated to the addictive or another dysfunctional behaviour pattern which the client wants to work on. (By the way, you can also do this work on your own for self-help by asking yourself the questions which I recommend below for the therapist to use.)
Whilst there may be quite a number of players in the team, at the very least there will be two Parts who play the leading roles the Part that is responsible for the undesirable behaviour (the client is likely to perceive it as bad or naughty part) and the Part that is critical, punitive, often perfectionist - this is the so-called Critical Parent ego-state described in Transactional Analysis. The latter has high expectations and blames and chastises the naughty part when things go wrong this part often corresponds with Rebellious Child or sometimes Adapted Child ego-state in TA. With this internal struggle involving criticism and blame, the most likely result for someone recovering from addiction, an eating problem or a bad habit, is the socalled Abstinence Violation Effect (or, to put it simply, the Sod it! effect). When we lapse or make a small mistake on our road to change, the internal critic will rouse such feelings of shame and guilt that the obvious solution is to tranquilise the pain with the addictive substance, food or behaviour. For this reason, it is extremely important for the therapist to show empathy and understanding for both the misbehaving Part and the critical, perfectionist Part, and not to side with one against the other the latter approach will simply help to reinforce the ongoing internal warfare.
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Basic tips on how you may incorporate Parts Work into your EFT therapy
When I get a sense of an internal conflict (which is present in any case where you suspect a psychological reversal or elements of self-sabotage), or sometimes simply when I hear in clients language the words one part of me (...) and another part of me (...), I begin to ask a series of questions: So if the Part of you that is responsible for [drinking, smoking, procrastinating, worrying etc] was a person, what would it look like? I give the client some time to visualise the Part. Is it male or female? (the Part can be of the same or different gender to the client, or may be sexless) What is he/she wearing? (clothing and appearance can be important in symbolising significant aspects of the internal conflict and these often transform during tapping) How old does he/she look? (the Part can be younger, same age, older than the client, or sometimes ageless and the age may sometimes change during tapping) Doe he/she have a name? (the name may be different or the same as clients own name, sometimes there is no name, or just a descriptive nickname)
I invite the client to tap with me, acknowledging the existence of the Part, for example Even though there is a Part of me which is responsible for my drinking, it is male, wearing filthy rags and is called Roger, I accept myself anyway. It is important to note that the very fact of meeting and facing an undesirable, bad Part of themselves can emphasize the difficulty the client may have with self-acceptance, and the set-up phrase may have to be modified I accept some parts of me, I accept most of me, at least some parts of me are OK, or Id like to accept all parts of me are possible alternatives. Once we have done a round of tapping, I check with the client what the Part is looking like now much of the time nothing has changed yet, or the changes could be very subtle, which is fine. Then I ask If this Part was trying to do a job for you, if it was trying to help in some way, what might its purpose be? or, if it feels appropriate, I may speak to the Part directly and ask What job are you trying to do for [clients name]? I invite the client to say the first thing that comes to mind. The answer usually relates to some crucial function or important human values, for example, safety and protection, being useful, being strong, motivation, joy and pleasure, connection and love the client is often surprised by this information. When we identified the purpose, or the positive intention, of the misbehaving Part, I invite the client to acknowledge it through tapping: Even though I thought this Part of me was putting obstacles in my way [sabotaging me, trying to undermine me etc] , I recognise its purpose of... [include the wording of the positive intention]. It is important to keep validating the negative emotions and beliefs that the client may still have about the naughty Part, e.g. Even though I still dont like what this part is doing, and it caused me a lot of pain and suffering... or Even though I still cant trust/accept this part of me fully... Occasionally, simply acknowledging the existence of the Part responsible for the undesirable behaviour and showing some understanding of its purpose may be enough to make a dramatic change in an addictive or compulsive pattern. Often the client will come up with alternative ideas and solutions for how to fulfil that crucial task that their misguid-
The clients feelings towards the Part can vary widely but are often negative this may range from mild irritation to extreme hostility, fear and disgust, and it is crucial that the therapist maintains neutrality and does not judge this part of clients personality, even if its behaviour appears very destructive and unhelpful (e.g. in self-harm or serious drug addictions). Occasionally I find that the Part may be so fearful or suppressed that it refuses to or is unable to show up but this is a subject for another article, and for the purposes of this piece we will assume that the client has been able to come up with some visual image of the Part.
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Again, I would ask the client questions about Part B, and then tap on the clients description of it, to acknowledge its presence as well as its purpose and the positive intention.
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have been on a mission to use EFT to help me with Asthma and in six months I have achieved my goal to stop taking medication. With the benefit of hindsight I believe I could have achieved this result much quicker but my running belief that asthma is an illness and its out of my control was holding me back. Its with this benefit of hindsight that I have put together the following protocol and I hope it may be of help to others.
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1. Medical Advice: Asthma is a serious condition and I took responsibility for my medication. At all stages of this work I monitored my symptoms and reliever usage. I only cut down medication when I had already seen symptoms reduce. Gary Craig always cautioned people to consult with the appropriate medical professional and I endorse this view. 2. EFT as a coping tool:
At the onset of an asthma attack EFT can be very effective when applied to the symptoms. EFT is so rapid this can provide relief equally as fast as a few puffs on a Ventolin reliever. Getting symptom relief in this way is a great way to build confidence about the art of the possible with EFT. I found the quicker I started tapping on the symptoms the better results I got. If I ignored the symptoms for some time I would need more rounds of tapping and sometimes need to resort to using the reliever inhaler. Tapping on a specific trigger that you know you react to is a valuable step. I for example had reacted to paint fumes from some decoration work at home. The next time I was exposed I used the tapping sequence below. I tuned into the feeling in my chest and start tapping with the set up phrase;- Even though I have this asthma feeling, I deeply and completely accept myself *3
3. Classic EFT:
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Even though I dont know what this asthma feeling is about, I deeply and completely accept myself I then move on to asking some questions, just keep tapping through the sequence as you do this, Id like to ask my unconscious to let me know I cant remember what these feelings are about but my unconscious remembers everything Id like it to remind me what those first asthma feelings were about If this doesnt illicit any pop up memories I would try guessing to see if anything clicks.
Using EFT for phobias often identifies that the phobia develops because of other traumatic events that happen in someones life around the same time as a scary situation happens. I started to see asthma as potentially a similar issue. The original trigger is lost and the unconscious reacts to the environmental trigger even when there is no emotional content. The body reaction escalates and the memory of previous attacks builds the belief that this situation isnt safe.
have of bad asthma attacks and tapping on these specifically you can start to remove some of the legs of the table as Gary Craig calls them. For me focussing on the first incident worked well and gave me good direction for the next steps.
4. The value of the Personal Peace Plan: By including all the memories you
in the process would be to check out the beliefs about asthma. I didnt have this realisation until after I had done most of this work. I believed in the power of EFT to stop an attack but I hadnt contemplated that my belief about its an illness might have been holding me back. It was this insight that led me to re-frame Asthma as a physical phobia an unconscious learned response that was a once a solution.
through came from having some help from a wonderful group at a level 3 training course run by Judy Byrne and Richard Mark. The feedback that Asthma is often a body metaphor something on your chest or not speaking out was interesting. Whilst initially this didnt make sense to me I later tapped speculatively on these themes and was able to tune into various relevant aspects. I hit on a memory of being told I talked too much and did some speculative tapping on what might have happened in my childhood. This worked really well and I cleared an issue of being told to shut up for talking back too much to my Dad.
If you would like help with Asthma please contact Jan Biggs at Jan@StepbyStepTherapy.co.uk or call 07785 523215
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