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16 THERAPY REVIEW: Featuring MATRIX REIMPRINTING 22 INSIGHT: EFT in the therapeutic residential setting with children THE ATTACHMENT THERAPY PROGRAMME
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26 AN AAMET EVENT Hosted by AAMET Chair Helena Fone MEETING / MENTORING DAY
Articles
4 LET THE TAPPING TAKE YOU THERE... using THE IMAGINEERING TECHNIQUE 27 HOW TO RELEASE LIMITING IDENTITY BELIEFS AN IDENTITY RELIEF PROCESS 30 EFT BONUS - BORROWING BENEFITS
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6 EFT AROUND THE WORLD SERIES: Featuring SPAIN 12 HINTS & TIPS: Getting the most out of the CONTACT DETAILS SWAP LIST 15 INDUSTRY NEWS 20 TRAINING CORNER: The latest PRACTITIONER UPDATE
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INTRODUCING THE NEW AAMET
34 WHOS WHO THE AAMET TEAM 36 WEBSITE, FORUM & AAMET REPS 38 UPCOMING EVENTS 2011 GATHERING 39 COMPETITION WIN EFT TRAINING DVDS
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recently started to offer my first EFT session free to prospective clients (or in exchange for a cuppa and a biscuit) which Im finding allows me to introduce EFT to my existing therapy clients who are either sceptical or unsure or both, about investing time and money on what seems a relatively unknown technique that looks a bit odd and involves tapping on the face and upper body while saying even though.
The first free client had experienced a rather persistent and irritating cough since she had a stroke some years before. Shed undergone every medical investigation available with some of the best consultants around, but to little effect. So we met for a coffee and started to tap for the fun of it. We just tapped and began enjoying the feeling of increased energy, laughing when we went wrong and slowly I began leading her into using the techniques found in the Imagineering Technique developed by Gwyneth Moss. Suddenly we found ourselves having a real session that evolved out of something that came from an informal lets meet and see what happens for the fun of it approach. The client ended her session by putting the cough in a box (that only she had a key for) and sending it across the sea. As we finished our coffee there was a noticeable improvement!
We arranged another session that we agreed would again be fun-based, while simultaneously going for it. I used everything from the first session but enhanced every part of the process by: Adding a colour to the key to the box; Giving it a shape; Making it a private and secret key available only to her; Using the imagineering torch to ensure the cough was in the box and to check that it had left the throat. We tapped on: I am glad its in the box, thank you box & Thank you throat, for letting this cough go. I taught her to tap for herself every day on any cough related issues, until the time when she said;
feelings to describe the joy of painless legs. We continued tapping on: Even though I have had so much pain in my legs, for so long, I will decide one day to leave this pain in the past; I will decide that my new legs will be the best ones ever. After which GR said I dont know why but I just feel so much lighter. She called me a few days later to say that she was walking the dogs twice a day, felt so much better generally and that the inflammation had reduced beyond recognition. Her long term carer said I have never seen anything like it before! GRs leg condition had improved beyond expectation, and it felt timely to tackle her chronic long-term hip/pelvic pain, where she had a severed nerve and artery, that had resulted in constant chronic pain for many years. We started the session by confirming all the previous improvements and how they had altered life for the better. Then we tapped on: If only I could get-rid of this hip pain, life would really improve ; Even though I have this pain, if I could move more easily, get out of the chair, go to the shops, wash the car life would be so much better. The wording came from her and allowed us to get very specific. We tapped on every improvement we could imagine, and then I applied all the Imagineering Techniques I could think of, using colour, shape, controls, SUDs, we did all but kick the tyres. And we saw immediate overall improvements. Then we used the Imagineering Torch Technique where GR used the imagery of: my finger is a torch, a super-bright healing torch. She scanned the joint, and we asked if the torch would help us both to help her find the problem. This was when GR found a mass of tangled nerves and tendons wrapped around blood vessels. We thanked the torch for its help and tapped: Even though I have a mass of tangled nerves and tendons (SUDs 10/10); If I could unravel them the pain might go away; I will decide to unravel them myself, right now.
Followed by a variation of: These are my legs, this is my pain and I choose right now, today, to let it go, its my decision Im doing it right now. We used the torch again and again to look at the hip, and each time unravelled more tangles, pain and discomfort. We tapped round after round, checking on improvements, how she felt about each improvement, how she could release the tangled mess, thanking her body every time she felt better. We ended the session using the torch to shine a healing light over the joint, to remove any remaining inflammation. She laughed so much when I asked her to stand up and move around, and say how it felt. Its just not there, its all gone, I cant even make it painful if I try! Then we continued with some more tapping on: Is that a true statement? Followed by rounds of: Its true I really have no pain; It is true!; It really is true! And whats remarkable is that this happened after only one very fluid session of EFT. GRs years of pain and discomfort had completely gone. I recently saw her again for a massage treatment and she still had no pain at all.
It is my hope that this article will encourage you to give Gwyneth Mosss Imagineering technique a try too! I certainly recommend it.
Adrian Price
To contact Adrian please visit: www.adrianpriceholistictherapy.com To download your free e-book on the Imagineering Technique, please visit: www.emotional-health.co.uk
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arie Holliday lives and works in the beautiful country of Spain on a finca with her partner and two dogs. A life she describes as being... An absolute joy! . Having lived in Spain and the Canaries for about eighteen years she started her EFT journey many years ago after suffering a double brain heamorrage when she felt that she was lucky to attend Dr Alex Lees course whilst he was visiting from Canada. Her journey has since seen her progressing to become an AAMET Practitioner, Trainer and Trainer of Trainers in both English and Spanish. She is also a member of the lead Training Panel with AAMET.
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Maries personal experience about what a difference EFT makes which she believes, being a northern lass, to be Jaw Dropping! ; has given birth to a passion for EFT and a deep desire to spread the word. Thus, working solely with EFT and Meridian Tapping Techniques she has organised the sister organisation of the AAMET in Spain and teaches EFT in both English and Spanish. She has also been apponted by AAMET the Official Representative for AAMET in Spain, as such is working passionately to develop and further the quality and standards of AAMETs training. 6
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myself. The first day, Stuart held onto the bike and tried to push me along. I honestly couldnt do anything for laughing and had a constant fit of giggles because I had an image of small children being pushed along by their fathers and here I am at this age! At the end of thirty minutes I wasnt even able to set off or balance on the bike. We left it for the day but not to be discouraged, I waited until the following day when I was alone and started tapping. First, I tapped on No confidence whilst sitting on my bike, and after several short rounds I started riding it! No help, just on my own. I was like a little child again, what a wonderful feeling. Then I tapped on cant ride a bike and went a bit further albeit a bit wobbly. So I then tapped on a bit wobbly and amazingly I rode a lot better without wobbling. This was fun. Then I tapped, This morning I couldnt ride a bike ... I CAN now. So I tapped on the negative, couldnt ride a bike and on the positive, I CAN now. Then I alternated the two phrases finishing on the positive statement I can now. All this time my riding and balance were improving. I then tapped for several minutes starting on the Karate Chop point and using set up statements such as: Even though I couldnt ride a bike...I can now...not very well but I am riding a bike! I havent fallen off, I have stayed on this bike, and it was just a silly fear ... a fear of falling off.... I seemed to fly down the driveway on my new bike. I cannot explain how great that feeling was. I got to the bottom of the drive and I couldnt turn around on my bike, so I tapped on cant turn around corners. At that instant, an image shot into my mind like a flash back of what really happened that day on my brothers bike ... no wonder I was scared. I was actually pulled off on a corner near home which was covered by bushes. Two young lads were hiding there and jumped out, pulling me off the bike. I remember being really shocked and frightened as they started to thump and punch me in the chest and stomach. I managed to get away, ran home very winded, and out of breath from the punching, frightened and sobbing my heart out wanting my mum. My mum wasnt there at the time, so I had to try to console myself. I dont know why but I never did tell my mum. I remember being constantly worried that I may see these lads again and wondered what I had done to them. I really didnt know them or why had they done this to me. So this was the real reason I was so scared to ride a bike, I had buried this painful memory so deep that it had not appeared until I tapped on corners. I then tapped several minutes on this event until I was OK with it. I tested the memory the next day after using a Cinema technique we had learned on our course for high intensity trauma, as there seemed to be a lot of stuff around my mum not being there. I had only just used this technique with a client a few days ago with a high anxiety trauma and she really liked it. I felt the same with it very safe watching a movie of the traumatic event in an imaginary cinema and I combined this with Garys Movie Technique. The memory softened and I didnt have any remaining intensity. I had never placed this trauma in my own Personal Peace Procedure. So when working with clients, I always use my own bike example and ask the client to write down any disturbing event, issue, trauma to tap on and how it may affect them years later even though it may seem totally irrelevant. To finish this story, Stuart returned home and saw the bicycle parked up. To his amazement, I jumped on the bike and rode up and down the driveway. Whilst he knows how well EFT works he couldnt believe the difference from me not being able to ride a bike to hopping on and flying up and down the drive with confidence. I have not been out on the roads yet but I just know that I have conquered the fear and that I can only make progress now with this new found confidence. Whilst as an EFT Practitioner, I work so much with other people, how wonderfully inspiring to be able to conquer your own fear. falta de confianza mientras estaba encima de la bicicleta, y despus de varias rondas cortas comenc a hacerla rodar! Sin ayuda, yo solita. Era como una niita otra vez, Que sentimiento ms maravilloso! Despus me hice tapping con: no puedo montar la bicicleta y logre moverla un poco mas, aunque un poquito tambaleante. Entonces me hice tapping con un poquito tambaleante y asombrosamente maneje mucho mejor y sin tambalear. Esto era divertido. Luego me hice EFT diciendo: Esta maana no poda subirme a una bicicleta... y ahora PUEDO. Hice EFT en el aspecto negativo: no poda subirme a una bicicleta y con el aspecto positivo: ahora PUEDO. Luego empec a alternar las dos frases terminando en la declaracin de ahora puedo. Mientras tanto mi habilidad para montarme y equilibrarme en la bicicleta, estaba mejorando. Me hice EFT por varios minutos comenzando en el punto de karate y usando una frase preparatoria del estilo de: Aunque cuando no poda montar a una bicicleta...ahora puedo... no muy bien pero estoy montada en una bicicleta! No me he cado, me he quedado en la bicicleta y este era solo un miedo tonto... el miedo de caerme... Me pareca que volaba sobre el camino de la entrada en mi nueva bicicleta. No puedo explicar cuan grande era ese sentimiento. Cuando llegu al final del camino de entrada, no poda dar la vuelta, as que me hice EFT con: no puedo dar vuelta en las esquinas. En ese instante una imagen irrumpi en mi mente como un recuerdo del pasado de lo que realmente haba sucedido cuando estaba subida en la bicicleta de mi hermano... con razn tenia tanto miedo. Lo que pas fue que me jalaron en una esquina, cerca de la casa, que estaba cubierta con muchos arbustos. Dos muchachillos estaban escondidos all y saltaron hacindome caer de la bicicleta. Recuerdo haberme sentido en shock y aterrorizada cuando ellos comenzaron a golpearme y darme puetazos en el pecho y el estomago. Escape como pude y corr a casa, sin aliento y sin aire por los puetazos, atemorizada y sollozando, queriendo solo refugiarme en mi mam. Como mi mam no se encontraba, trat de consolarme a misma. No s por qu nunca se lo dije a mi mam. Recuerdo haber estado constantemente preocupada de volver a encontrarme con esos chiquillos y me preguntaba que es lo que yo les haba hecho. En realidad yo no los conoca y no saba por qu me haban hecho esto. Haba encontrado ahora la verdadera razn al miedo que tena a subirme en una bicicleta. Haba enterrado esa memoria dolorosa tan profundamente que no haba surgido hasta que me hice EFT sobre el aspecto de las esquinas. Despus de este descubrimiento me hice EFT por varios minutos por ese evento con los chiquillos en la esquina hasta que sent que estaba bien. Me puse a probar mi memoria al siguiente da usando la tcnica del Cinema que aprend en un curso para traumas de mucha intensidad, pues pareca que haba muchas cosas relacionadas al hecho de que mi mam no hubiera estado all. Haba usado esta tcnica haca unos das con una paciente que tenia un trauma de muchsima ansiedad y a ella realmente le gusto mucho. A mi me gust mucho tambin... Es muy seguro el estar viendo una pelcula de ese evento traumtico en un cine imaginario. Use esa tcnica combinada con la Tcnica de Pelcula de Gary. La memoria se haba suavizado y ya no tena residuos de intensidad. Nunca haba puesto este miedo a montar bicicleta en mi propio Procedimiento de Paz Personal. As que cuando estoy trabajando con clientes, siempre uso mi propia experiencia de la bicicleta y les pido que escriban cualquier evento, situacin, o trauma perturbador, para hacerse EFT, pues estos pueden estarlos afectando aos mas tarde aunque parezcan totalmente irrelevantes. Para terminar la historia, Stuart lleg a casa y vio la bicicleta estacionada. Para su asombro, me sub en la bicicleta y la maneje por todo el camino de entrada. Aunque l saba lo bien que funciona EFT, no poda creer la diferencia entre yo antes no pudiendo subirme a una bicicleta y yo ahora montndome en una y volando para arriba y para abajo sobre el camino de entrada con total confianza. Todava no he salido a manejar a las calles pero solo s que he conquistado el miedo y que ahora solo me queda progresar con esta nueva confianza. Aunque yo soy una terapista de EFT, y trabajo bastante con muchas otras personas, me resulta maravillosamente inspirador el haber podido conquistar mi propio miedo.
So a big thank you to Gwyneth and my fellow EFTers on the course and yourself Gary, for the best Christmas gift ever. EFT and conquering my fear of riding a bike! Warm hugs and wishes to everyone.
As que muchsimas gracias para Gwyneth y todos mis compaeros de EFT en el curso y a t Gary, por el mejor regalo de Navidad que haya tenido, EFT y la conquista del miedo de subirme a una bicicleta! Calurosos abrazos y mis mejores deseos para todos.
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ccording to Marie Holliday, they do. In fact she believes that they do to such an extent that she not only uses photographs to access those hidden memories, she has developed a technique which uses EFT to easily release or even change the memory once it is accessed. She developed her Energy Exchange Photo Techniques after the huge success shes had with accessing the deeply embedded and often traumatic memories of her clients using photographs.
Spain/Espana Memories are only memories to the conscious mind and current events to the unconscious mind
The introduction...
Tap on a photograph/magazine cutting of a future aspiration or dream Occasionally used with Movie Technique where a photograph has held an intense trauma and then tapped in normal way or a client tapped on a wedding photograph just calling it The fight. Personal Peace Procedure where clients or Practitioners are encouraged to make a journal and put photographs in to tap on. Tapping with a Palace of Possibilities Affirmation and a photo or magazine cutting that represents the persons aspiration Tapping by phone and using a photo
The benefits...
Using Photographs in sessions makes a session definitely more focused and belongs to the client, it is very much client-led.
You can also introduce the use of Xrays, images, photos for example of someone s house for financial issues, magazine cuttings. It is a really creative technique where visual images can be used that mean something to the client. The studies...
Tapping on the photograph itself Interchanging with tapping on self in the normal way & tapping on the photograph Tapping on self and looking at the photograph of self or other people. Introducing a few photographs to tap with e.g. family photo graphs
The issues...
Interestingly, a Heartmath Institute Study ( www.heartmath.org ) using human DNA in files showed that Thinking the worse event ever in your life, damages DNA. Thinking the best event ever in your life, heals the damage. DNA is non static and can bring destruction or healing to your cells, depending on your thoughts and beliefs. Changing the picture you look at changes the frequency of the cells.
EFT is used to change pain & trauma pictures into healing or healed pictures because tapping changes the internal picture. Perhaps if the vibrational frequency of a picture ( photograph in this instance ) is changed with tapping then a healthier positive frequency offers a different view, shift or belief with the self same photo.
Tapping on a photograph of self for not feeling loved Tapping with inner child work & a photo of self when young Tapping with Law of attraction/Abundance/Relationships Tap on photo of self imagining a difficult dialogue/conversation or interview, low self esteem Sending healing, love, forgiveness, gratitude Ex pat community where many have left problems behind in another country Divorce, splits in a family/friends, leaving home. Arguments, disagreements Grieving & bereavement Health Comparison/contrast photographs for tapping with ill health now and previous photograph in good health Children love trawling through photograph albums where tapping can be introduced Photographs of pets with tapping Photographs concerning weight issues, smoking, self image
Useful for a situation where person cannot talk to another person or doesnt want to, they are too annoyed, hurt, upset, grieving Cannot/doesnt want to see someone physically e.g. living in another country, someone in hospital, cannot face seeing someone, guilt issues Takes the pressure off the individual by tapping on a photo of self Offers a different perspective May change a belief system, thoughts or a perception really quickly Visual for the non visual person Can raise intensity and get to core issue quickly Photo is easy to check results with SUDs rating , relief, aspects when reviewing it or looking at it another day Can be introduced if tapping doesnt seem to be getting anywhere Photos are so evocative of a time, place, situation, family gatherings, childhood, teens, births, etc They hold memories of sights, sounds, smells, scenes, good memories & bad . Surrogate and distance healing Animals & babies/children
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For Marie Holliday & The Energy Exchange Photo Techniques in England and Spain eftspain@yahoo.com and www.eftspain.com or www.aametspain.org
Are you living and working abroad and have been passionately working to spread the EFT word in your country? If so, please let us know as to how you achieving your successes at comms@aamet.com
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lthough its not unusual to agree to be placed on an email swap list between attendees on a course, many of us miss the rich opportunities it offers to safely share and develop our skills and allow us to work in co-operation with fellow practitioners.
Dave Wharton (EFT practitioner and trainer) came up with some suggestions of how to ensure that your follow-up does not fall flat after attending courses during which theres an exchange of details of those youve bonded with. To encourage more people to become active list users, Jane Unsworth, a fellow attendee on a course with Dave, test drives Daves suggestions and reports her findings...
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Dave Wharton: An EFT swap-list is a great way to practice your EFT skills: it has enabled me to get lots of EFT practice myself, to receive EFT from a variety of talented people and make several new friends too. Due to location, most of my swap-list work has been via telephone or Skype and this has proved both convenient and effective. Even though people are beginning to use the list a little more these days it seems to me that it is still a much under-used resource.
Daves suggestions conveyed in a Q & A format: Q. What is the best way to contact people on the list? A. I much prefer email to make initial contact (I think the telephone is a little too intrusive). Q. How any people should I mail and how do I pick them? A. I suggest picking at least ten email addresses from near the top of the list for your first try (the top of the list is where new people tend to be added). Expect about one in ten people to reply. You may be luckier than this, or you may get no replies at all, one in ten is just an average, not a guarantee! Q. What should I write? A. An example follows of the kind of short email that I have used in the past, you can then write something similar in your own words. Basically just tell people why you are contacting them and what you want
Email example: I am writing to you because you are on the EFT swap-list, as I am looking to practice my own EFT skills (I am trained to level ???).You do not have to give sessions in return, but if you would like to do so, then that is OK too. Perhaps we could do one session at first, with no further commitments, just to see how we go? I am interested in telephone/Skype work only. OR I am interested in both telephone/ Skype work and possibly face to face meeting, if practical. If you would like to discuss this further I would be pleased to hear from you. Jane Unsworth: When I approached the task, I took names mostly from the top of the list, as suggested, where there were some names I recognised from the course and some I didnt.
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JANE: As I didnt know if some of the names at the top of the list had come from my course I tailored each message individually, and the tone depended on the depth of exchange at the time. I then advised what I wanted from the arrangement which, for me, was a trial of one-each-way equal swaps to see how we worked together (as recommended here): DAVE: If so, agree one session only, to see how things go as you have already suggested JANE: Something not covered by Dave is the challenge of agreeing a mutual window when both parties can meet ... a challenge in its own right. I got 6-responses so according to Daves advice it seemed like a good start. However at this stage only two have developed into reliable arrangements, two are looking like strong possibilities and the other two less so. DAVE: In your email. Follow this session up by email a couple of days later, asking for feedback. If they respond favourably and you wish to continue with more sessions, suggest that you agree to do N more sessions. (Where N is a number you are happy to commit to). Here Dave is recommending the idea of feedback and I think thats a good idea although Ive not used it yet, its something Ill probably develop in the future. Then he recommends reviewing the situation again after the agreed number of sessions is completed. JANE: As yet my arrangements are ongoing and think the benefits of practising the techniques on others, combined with working on personal and genuine issues is developing organically anyway. And generally we check in with one another while on the call to make a follow-up. Then Dave goes on to answer any further concerns people may have: Q. A. Im worried that Im not good enough to do EFT with strangers? Make this worry the subject of your first swap session! If you are on the swap-list then you will have already learned more than enough EFT to be effective: re-read your course notes if you doubt this. Remember the basic principle of EFT that you use the clients own words. If all you simply do is act as a mirror to your client then you are doing them a very useful service. (In fact I think that acting as a perfectly clear flat mirror is often one of the best things that you can do). What is Skype? Skype is an internet application that allows you to talk from one PC to another anywhere in the world for free. The software is available for free download here:http://www.skype.com/intl/en-gb/ (You can also use Skype to dial landline telephones or mobiles but that is not free, though it may be cheaper than the phone). To use Skype you will need both a microphone and speakers, but a headset is recommended as it leaves your hands free (to tap on yourself or make notes) and improves sound quality.
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Do you have a therapy practice tip which you use that could benefit other practitioners? To submit your hints & tips please email us at comms@aamet.com
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Mary Ward House, 5-7 Tavistock Place, London, WC1H 9SN. 340 Early Bird (380 Full)
2/3 October
The line-up just keeps getting better and better.We are absolutely certain that you will leave it not only with a richer and deeper appreciation of EFT but also stimulated by some of the leading thinkers about what 21st century consciousness really is. The latest addition to the programme isRobert Smithwhose faster EFT proved so popular in Manchester last year. He will be offering a breakout workshop on his latest work as well as taking part in the Addiction panel hosted by Sue. Also on the programme are: Rupert Sheldrake; David Hamilton; Sophia Cayer; Dawson Church
Current confirmed EFT Masters presentingare: Judy Byrne, Sue Beer, Jaqui Crooks,Inci Irkin, Mair Llewellyn, Tania Prince, Emma Roberts, Tam Lllewellyn, Gwyneth Moss, Ann Ross and Maya de Vries.
There will be four plenary sessions and a choice of four breakout sessions for the rest of the two days. On the schedule are Working with Addictions, with Sue Beer as leader, Tania Prince is heading up Marketing, and Andy Bryce Chakra Healing.
Financially challenged? Option of paying in installments & Low cost accomodation. Information: www.EFTMasterclass.com info@eftmasterclass.com We really hope you will join us for what is always an inspiring and fun weekend with the coming together of like minded thinkers to network and continue your particular EFT journey.
Emma Roberts, Sue Beer & Judy Byrne
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Having addressed her own curiosity and having found Matrix Reimprinting - MR for short, to be very impressive after attending the MR practitioner course with Karl Dawson (EFT Master and creator of Matrix Reimprinting) recently; Jane Unsworth, our very own deputy editor, approached Sasha Allenby, co-author of the recently published book titled Matrix Reimprinting using EFT, for further insight into the technique and its benefits
arl Dawson developed the system while working with an attendee on one of his trainings, some years ago. She said her younger self was clear enough to tap on during her participation as client and this catalysed the MR process. Karl encouraged her along this route and noticing the effect, he began developing the system while simultaneously checking out some scientific background to substantiate his ongoing client successes.
He discovered that many of the New Sciences and Quantum Physics were discovering the unified energy field that connects us all. And this combined with the information about the morphic fields (that surrounds the physical body) helps shape our form and behaviour. As the Cell Biologist Dr Bruce Liptons work has illustrated so beautifully its the environment that holds the key to our quality of interaction with the world. Of course the power behind this information lies in the infinite scope for change, especially when enhanced by such accessible and easily learned tools as those used in the energy techniques that most of the readers here are fairly familiar with.
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Research is now showing us that all trauma (small t and large) is stored in the magnetic field in the form of what Karl has termed an ECHO (Energy Consciousness Hologram). The term echo gives the client distinct roles to enact during the reimprinting process. The theory is that when we experience a trauma part of us splits off and becomes buried in the subconscious, continuing to react spontaneously to the triggers that place it there. And while this would have happened to protect us at the time (especially as a small child with few resources when faced with strong emotions), it may not only have outgrown its usefulness 20, 30, 40, even 50 years later, it could also be having a detrimental effect that we are not wired to fathom on a conscious level. Although these ECHO traces havent been identified as yet, Bruce Lipton highlighted on his DVD Fractal Evolution: The Biology of Consciousness how the cells of the self tune into The Field or Matrix to read the information. There is a suggestion that it may be one and the same as the subconscious. The MR technique is congruent with what is shown in these findings, and no doubt the story will unfold as research continues in what is a very exciting area both scientifically and historically.
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involves working with EFT tapping throughout most of the process, and EFT is used to clear any emotional disruption that occurs in order to surface relevant memories. The Matrix Reimprinting is then used to go back and rewrite those memories.
This means that once a trauma has been worked on, instead of the gap where conventional EFT would usually finish, MR enables the client to re-write their own history. This allows the original memory to fade as it is replaced by a new memory, freeing the client from the past programme. This can involve drawing from the help of others, parents, siblings, friends, famous icons, and spiritual figures to name but a few. It is the clients game (so to speak) their game and their rules, they get to decide :) It empowers the client to rewrite the unhelpful elements of their history.
the benefits...
In using these techniques clients can clear large and small traumas quickly and gently, while simultaneously becoming empowered to be different in their lives and feel completely shifted to open up to new solutions, ideas and adventures of their own making. EFT and MR combined allow for such specificity that it becomes an elegant match of techniques and intuition for both the client and the practitioner.
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By looking at the beliefs they learned and the decisions they formed about themselves and their life (at the time the trauma happened) helps clients understand much more about how they are in the present. And the more they get on board with the process the more clients learn to claim the life theyd prefer.
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The ECHOs found using MR, take the client back to other related ECHOs where a number of linked traumas can be dealt with as the root memories surface, especially pre-conscious ones that sometimes remain hidden with regular EFT. And reimprinting with positive memories creates fresh neural pathways, so the feeling around an issue completely shifts. Finding the electrical charge contained in the original memory becomes far more awkward if not impossible to connect with. MR Practitioner trainings consists of a 2-day course for qualified EFT Practitioners (Level 2 and above), followed by a 12-wk series of weekly tele-webinars with Sasha that cover various aspects of Matrix Reimprinting and its wide ranging applications. If you would like to apply to train in MR or would like further information, please go to www.matrixreimprinting.com or contact Karl Dawson & Shasha Allenby in Warwickshire on: 0044 (0)1527 857866 For over 5hrs of free introductory webinar materials please visit www.matrixreimprintingtelecoures.com The book - Matrix Reimprinting using EFT published by Hay House is now available at amazon.
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uture In Mind operates a group of small therapeutic childrens homes based in the Staffordshire area. It has been running for 10 years and offers one to one staffing alongside daily therapeutic input to some of the most damaged children and young people - all of whom have been abused and traumatised. All have some level of Attachment disorder. As such, the Attachment Therapy Programme was developed to help children and young people overcome their personal traumas. This programme is the first in this country that has been implemented into the residential setting. In November 2009 it was presented at The International Study of Trauma & Dissociation 26th Annual Conference in Washington DC where it was well received. On their admission we begin a three month therapeutic assessment and during this time we collate all historical and behavioural information. This always involves meeting with significant people in the childs life. Their level of Attachment disorder is measured in order to find the category the child falls and to identify the appropriate therapeutic activities and therapy from our senior therapist or myself. The Attachment therapy consists of a 7 phase programme dealing with all aspects of the childs developmental and neurological connections that
have either been damaged or the connections have not been made at all due to ongoing neglect, abuse and/ or trauma. At the same time as this work is being dealt with by our therapeutic support staff the therapists work to build up a trusting working relationship from where they can commence work desensitising the memories of their past abusive experiences, dealing with unwanted or unhealthy behaviours and/or addictions, building up self esteem and confidence and often dealing with memories that are held in the body rather than visual memories in brain. During this time of intense therapy, we have found that EFT has been very useful. Not only have we used it for the younger children in order to deal with nightmares, eating problems, fear and anxiety, but we have found that it is effective with teenagers.Very often in residential care these young people have found that there is a no touching policy (usually for fear of allegations being made about staff by young people in their care.) At Future In Mind we work on the basis that our relationships are such that the children want to work with us and we have a mutual respect for each other. We do hug the children and make appropriate physical contact. Some of the children and young people will do the tapping themselves but more
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often than not they enjoy the tactile contact of the therapist doing the tapping. This is not surprising if you imagine their previous experience of going through life without ever being touched. When you believe that you are untouchable, unloveable and not an OK person, this lack of safe and appropriate physical contact will merely compound the problem. Bedtime is sometimes a very difficult time for these youngsters and EFT emergency points will be used if needed. The use of EFT combined with other therapeutic techniques has been found to be very useful ie. Tapping a childs hand when relaxed at bedtime whilst reading a story of fairies that can tap whilst the child is asleep and help to heal the negative feelings; using EFT during a session of working with the childs fear or anger in the stomach is also very effective. So the child learns to control their feelings whilst at the same time accept the help that is being offered. Most of the staff have received the EFT Practitioner training and find this really useful as another tool to work with the children when the senior therapist is unavailable. It is also really helpful for the staff to use for themselves. This is not an easy job and any technique to deal with stress and personal issues; is a bonus.
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Liam is due to move to a foster care placement. He is now able to enjoy healthy positive attachments that can only be beneficial and valuable in ensuring that his new placement will work. Liam is now much better equipped to enjoy life and we at Future In Mind wish him well.
INFORMATION To find out more about Future In Mind & the work that Future In Mind director, Geraldine Taylor and her team does, go to www.future-in-mind.co.uk
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Ive been running these meetings/mentoring opportunities at least twice a year for over 3 years now. They started off when I organised a meeting for my students, then word spread and others who were interested in EFT turned up. Helena Fone At the last meeting, 25 attended and this year there were 32, includAAMET Chair ing two of our Communication Team members, Kay Gire and Jane Unsworth. The venue was new to accommodate the growing numbers and this year was at the Barn Spa in High Legh, Cheshire. Set in the lovely Cheshire countryside with ducks, horses, chickens and a peacock that peered at us through the window!
The morning started off with an update on whats new in AAMET and a Q&A session. After tea break Liz Farrow, the Regional Co-ordinator of the Complementary Therapists Association (CThA) arrived to talk about the benefits of belonging to the CThA and also gave some very useful information on how to introduce EFT into the medical profession. Liz later emailed to say how warmly welcomed she felt by everyone. After lunch we then moved onto mentoring/supervision. We talked about difficult cases then split into groups with an experienced Practitioner leading the group to give demonstrations. There was also an opportunity for others to split off if they wanted to and work on each other.
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hen we grow up we sort through masses of experience to come up with an understanding of the world and ourselves. Part of this understanding is of the aspects of our experience we label I, myself, me names for parts of the person we are.
As we grow up and have experiences we begin to give ourselves, or accept them from others, qualities and capabilities. I am a good boy, I am helpful, I cant do that, I am lazy and so on. These beliefs about ourselves, our identity beliefs, can be helpful or hindering. Helpful beliefs: I am confident, I am a good person, I can cope Unhelpful beliefs: I am lazy, I am bad, I am tired, I am scared Notice that saying I am tired is quite different from I feel tired, a feeling will pass and change into something else, an identity belief will stay with you through time and affect all your experience. Most people dont have any difficulty living with helpful identity beliefs they find them supportive and agreeable. The unhelpful identity beliefs are much less appealing. They feel uncomfortable and they limit our ability to act and change. Beliefs are compulsive, they guide our perceptions and actions to reinforce themselves. For example: if you have the belief I am tired it functions as a description of your state and organises your actions and perceptions to focus attention on developing and noticing the tiredness it describes. It is a description and a mantra rolled into one, acting as a small scale, self fulfilling prophecy.
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there in that situation back then. Give them time to process that information. If they have trouble answering this question suggest that they ask that younger self how they are feelingWhat is going on for that younger you? How are they feeling? Start tapping for that younger self on the screen using the following set-up statement three times.Even though s/ he is [feeling], I accept him/her and how he/she feelsEven though she is feeling scared, I accept her and how she feels Tap on the meridian points with the reminder phrase S/he is [feeling]She is scared Continue tapping until that feeling is greatly subsided. Repeat for any other unpleasant feelings to do with that situation until that other you is completely calm. Invite them to remember the bubble of compassion hanging just where they left it. Suggest that they send that bubble of compassion up into the screen so it completely surrounds that younger self. Have them watch what happens when the compassion surrounds that younger version of themselves. Give them enough time to process that experience. Ask them to nod their head when they have finished. Invite them to bring back that younger self from the screen into themselves. They may stretch out their hands to welcome that self back or use some other metaphorical way of bringing in that younger self into their body. When that younger self is inside ask them to invite it to grow up to their current age taking advantage of all their later experience and wisdom. Give them time to do this. Ask them to nod when they have finished. When they are completely settled. Ask them to say out loud the original belief statement (I am ) and notice what effect that has on them now. If there is still a charge on the belief ask them again How old is the I in that belief and repeat the process.
The advantage of asking the I in I am scared is that it takes you directly back to the core event. It requires much less detective work than might be needed if you were doing it indirectly. Once the original event has been found, the charge on it can be reduced by tapping for that other you, in EFT parlance its a variation on the Tearless Trauma Technique. Being able to see from the outside of our younger experience seems to give us the ability to notice feelings and interactions that are not available when tapping on the memory from the inside as in the Movie Technique. When the situation is quietened the application of compassion adds an extra dimension of comfort and soothing to that younger self. These unhelpful identity beliefs are often formed in situations where we are alone or being abused so there is no comfort available at that time. Adding compassion now seems to soften the experience and give a flavour of being cared for even after the length of time since the event. Inviting the younger you back in is simply to re-integrate what we put out there on the screen at the start of the process and to allow the I that ran the belief to update its knowledge and skills. We learned these beliefs at an early age when we had few resources and little experience to go on inviting that I to grow up to your current age allows the part of us that is running that response to take advantage of all the skills and understandings youve had since.
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Ask the person to remember a time when they felt compassionate. Any example of compassion to a living being will do - people, children, pets or animals. Invite them to connect again to that experience of compassion and feel it fully. Give them the time to sink into that memory and really feel it. Ask them to extend their dominant hand palm up. Ask them to imagine that feeling of compassion flowing down through their arm to form a bubble or globe of compassion resting on their out-stretched hand. Ask them what colour that bubble is. When they have a good sense of that bubble of compassion, suggest that they leave it hanging in space for later as they take their hand away.
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Have them recall one of their identity beliefs I am e.g. I am scared Ask them to be with that thought for a little while, then give it a score on a scale from 0 10 where 0 means the belief has no validity or intensity and 10 means that it is very intense or true. Then with gentle curiosity ask them How old is the I in I am ? Make your voice tone gentle and enquiring, allow them to guess if they need to and acknowledge whatever answer comes back it may be a surprise to themHow old is the I in I am scared? .Very young 4 years old I think. Ask them to imagine that younger self up on a movie screen in front of them. Point in front of them to help them imagine the screen.Imagine that 4 year old you, over there on a screen Ask them what is going on around them and what is going on inside them up 28
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... How much energetic benefit can you borrow with EFT? The answer is probably a whole lot more than you currently think.
Enys Evans heeded the call of a career in therapy leaving behind 20 successful years in the television industry. Her passion saw her train in a whole host of therapies from Aromatherapy, Indian Head Massage, Reflexology, The Bowen Technique Australian Bush Essences to Natural Nutrition, Dowsing, The Metamorphic Technique,Vibrational Medicine; Theta Healing, and Psychic Development including EFT. This has provided her with a toolbox which allows her creativity in applying them to continue to expand as she helps her clients, friends & family - she also works successfully with animals. She is currently completing a diploma in counselling to further develop and refine her skills to benefit those who work with her. She can be contacted at; enysevans1@btinternet.com
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very nervous and frightened about it, and so would she help me tap for that when my daughter came home from school. (Im not sure why I went about it this way it was just a feeling I had that because of her giving nature she would put her heart and soul into it if she thought she was helping another.) That morning, I had already primed my daughter that Joy would be coming over and that we were going to tap for her going away to live elsewhere. My daughter was in fact nervous about the transition to the new school. So they both thought they were helping each other. I asked my daughter how frightened she was of going to the new school and she said 6. I asked Joy on a scale of 1-10 how much she wanted to stay in the village and she shouted out TEN!! So all three of us tapped for ET (Even though) I really dont want to leave my little school its lovely, I know everyone, everyone is so friendly, and its small enough for me to find my way around IDCAMA (I deeply and completely accept myself anyway). ET Im sure Ill get lost in the great big new school, and Ill be so frightened because I wont know my way around IDCAMA ET I wont know anyone, and Im afraid no one will like me, and I wont make any new friends IDCAMA ET I really dislike leaving my friends and the places that I associate with them I know that they are always in my heart no matter where I go in the world. I choose to keep the memory of my friends alive in my heart where ever I am. I wonder if I could be happy in a new school .. I wonder if there are some nice people going to be there .. I wonder if I could find my way around easily .. I wonder if it will be a new start for me.. Im going to be open to the possibility of
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enjoying my new school. Im going to be open to the possibility of making new friends wouldnt that be great?! Im going to be open to the possibility of finding my way around easily maybe it will be even easier to find my way there than it is here. I choose to allow myself to look forward to the new school. I choose to allow myself to anticipate with excitement the new people Im going to meet. I choose to allow myself to find my way around easily and calmly. Im delighted how easily I can fit in anywhere Im thrilled that I find it so easy to make new friends I love the feeling of being in control when Im driving about. After we finished I asked Joy how she felt and she said: The thing is, its a bit boring around here isnt it? You know, there arent many people here are there? Nothing ever happens. The house Im going to is on a lovely street and theres a park behind my house for the dogs. And do you know, mama and papa are always with me wherever I am. My daughter then said that she was looking forward to the new school as the work was boring in her primary school and there was only one girl her age to play with! After Joy moved I rang her up to see how she was getting on and she told me that she has joined the church, joined the local choir and made friends with her neighbours.
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n elderly friend of mine named Joy, was having to leave her small village to move closer to her sister who lived in a big town 200 miles away. She had always lived in the countryside but was becoming more and more forgetful due to suffering a ministroke some years back. She didnt mix much and struggled to communicate. She really didnt want to leave the village. She had always lived within a couple of miles of it, she felt that she knew everyone, and also felt that she was leaving the house she had been happiest - which was when her parents were alive and were living with her. She was fearful of not being able to make new friends, of losing her way in a strange place, of leaving everything she was used to. One day, I asked Joy if she would come over to help me with a problem that I had. One of Joys delights in the world is to help other people she came over immediately. I explained to her that my 11 year old daughter was starting High School in September and that she was
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ounded in 1999, we are recognised as the largest professional Association worldwide supporting all Meridian Energy Therapies, including Emotional Freedom Techniques EFT.
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he EFT Gathering has been successfully held in Ilkley in the north of the UK for the last couple of years, and is going from strength to strength.
In January 2011 we will come together again to listen to fellow practitioners and trainers of EFT, and share the buzz of the atmosphere; being around so many great like-minded people! Take a look at last years presenters and the workshops that were available around the weekends gathering. www.eftevents.com/gathering2010.htm A huge thank you goes out to Gwyneth Moss EFT Master for starting this wonderful event! Why northern England? Once youve headed to the beautiful town of Ilkley youll see why! The Craiglands Hotel in Ilkley, West Yorkshire, was originally built for healing as a hydrotherapy centre in 1859. Its the most wonderful feeling hotel with all the facilities we need from a venue, set in the most peaceful and scenic surroundings of Ilkley Moor. Being where it is, makes for a beautiful refreshing break away with many affordable and idyllic places to stay. When is it? Within plenty of time for planning an event to suit everyone (see above). More details about workshops available on the Friday & Monday will be available a little closer to the time. So... save the date!!! Cost of Weekend? 99.00 plus a discounted EFT Room rate at Craiglands Got Something to Share? We would like to offer you the opportunity to share with fellow EFTers. So far we have about 13 presenters that have shown an interest and wed like to extend the fantastic opportunity to present at the gathering to more people. Do you have a passion for a specific aspect of EFT? Experience in a particular area that youd love to share? Its a great way of helping others to help others. If you are interested please email Andy Eckley andy@andyeckley.co.uk with an outline of what youd like to talk about. Has EFT Got Talent? We would also love to hear about what you would like for the Saturday night entertainment. Last year we had Soul Dance, which was thoroughly enjoyed by many people. This is an event for YOU, so drop us a line to let us know what you would like to happen! The EFT Gathering is a fundraiser and all profits from the weekend go to EFT Research UK and the AAMET - the organisers and presenters are all giving their time as volunteers. Ill leave you with just one of the wonderful pieces of feedback received from the last Gathering... "What an excellent weekend the EFT gathering was! The best EFT event I've attended, and, as you know, I've attended many. Not that they weren't good, but this weekend was really special, it had something for everyone.The quality of the presentations was excellent, with such diverse topics and inspirational personal growth stories and achievements. Not only were the speakers clearly experts in the area they were talking about, they were entertaining and inspiring. It's fantastic how Gary Craig's philosophy of "Try it on Everything" has inspired the progress we saw on the stage this weekend.Thank you so much for making it all happen so wonderfully" Pat Ballantyne I look forward to seeing you there, for what I know will be yet another fantastic weekend! Jay Kelly & Andy Eckley For more information contactandy@andyeckley.co.uk
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Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, recorded many of his live seminars onto DVD sets. These DVD sets were the foundation of EFT training. They offer an unparalleled opportunity to see the founder of EFT in action. The DVD sets also include one-on-one instruction in which Gary explains the fundamental concepts of EFT. As these DVD sets are no longer available for sale from Gary Craig and are only being offered to rent, which makes this prize much more valuable than its original price and truly A Prized Possession!.
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