Teasing and Banter Line Cheat Sheets

By Bobby Rio

14 years ago

Im telling youI never forget a face. I know you from somewhere Gabe was saying. She seemed to hate him. I mean really hate him. And could you blame her She ke!t trying to talk but he would "ust raise his voice and talk over her. #iss #arch $%%& he blurted out. 'he vein in her forehead began !rotruding. 'hese eyes dont lie not these babies. I see something once and its locked in there forever he went on in a slightly over animated way. (hat She said without the slightest hint of a grin. )ea* I can see the whole layout in my head you like +a,, your favorite movie was Gone with the (ind )ou wanted to hel! under!rivileged kids am I right or am I right -e finally sto!!ed talking for a second. -e began looking her u! and down. )ou are even more beautiful* now* in this bar in front of me com!letely dressed )ou better shut u! she glared at him. I love it when you beg he said right back at her* com!letely unaffected by the reaction she was giving him.

I am not #iss #arch or #iss +anuary or whoever you think I am she said as she gave him a !layful back.handed sla! across his chest. (ould you kindly !lease refrain from any !hysical act that is not of erotic nature. -e barked at her. /lease* !lease* !lease go she said* but now with a hint of fondness. -e starts walking backwards. Im going to go now. 'here I go -es now about $0 feet from her. 'here I go this is me going -e is now waving his hand. Goodbye. Gabe and I walk over to the other side of the bar and take a seat at one of the booths. (as that girl really in /layboy I ask. 1ah* I think shes in my math class he said. 'hat whole 2/layboy thing was "ust something I saw 3ruce (illis do once (ay to make friends man that girl hates you. I said. 1o she doesnt he said. 3esides I was "ust establishing myself as a flirt. )ouve got to 4uickly establish yourself as a flirt. 5nce a girl knows youre a flirt you can get away with A1)'-I1G.

The Best Advice I Never Took

$6 years ago I was given some of the all.time best advice about how to get girls but I was too young and na7ve to reali,e it. 1ow* years later* I want to !ass that advice along to you.

You ve got to !uick"y esta#"ish yourse"$ as a $"irt

)ou see that first year of college8 Gabe had a much easier time with women than I did. (hile I dont think he ever banged #iss #arch I know he did get in with her circle of friends and Im certain he banged 4uite a few of them. And this is because Gabe instinctively knew about

The Theory o$ %&'ectations

9et me ask you something -ave you ever been around a girl who thought you were shy 5r boring 5r a dork :id you find yourself unconsciously acting out her e;!ectations I know it ha!!ened to me all of the time. I can be sort of 4uiet when I first meet someone. And if I sense that !erson has !igeon. holed me as the shy guy I find it much harder to break out other as!ects of my !ersonality. Its like I let their 2image of me sha!e how I act. And soon enough I become the shy guy. 'his is the theory of e;!ectations. To put this in simpler terms: 'he initial im!ression we make on someone* dictates the rest of our interactions with them. ...So if the other !ersons first im!ression of you is that youre 24uiet or 2shy youre going to find yourself acting reserved or inhibited to dis!lay your !ersonality. If their first im!ression of you is that youre 2friendly or 2nice youre going to find yourself acting out the role of 2nice guy. And if their first im!ression of you is that youre 2a flirt youre going to find yourself acting fun and flirtatious.

A Se"$ (u"$i""ing )ro'hecy

Definition: Positive or negative expectations about people that may affect a person's behavior toward them in a manner that he or she (unknowingly) creates situations in which those expectations are fulfilled. 3asically if a !erson thinks we are clever or stu!id or whatever* they will treat us that way. If we are treated as if we are clever* stu!id or whatever* we will act* and even become* this way. 'he !erson has thus had their !ro!hecy about us fulfilled< 9ets go back to my friend Gabe who established himself as a flirt with the girl in his math class. 'his girls e;!ectation of Gabe is that he is flirtatious* unaffected* and self.amused. So the ne;t time she talks to Gabe shes going to treat him like he is this sort of guy which will make it even easier for him to continue with the flirtatious* fun behavior. -ave you had a conversation with someone who finds you really funny -alf the time you dont even have to say anything and theyre already laughing because they have an e;!ectation of what youre going to say or how youre going to react. It creates a sense of momentum that has a snow ball effect.

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So now that you are aware that this theory of e;!ectation e;ists you have two choices=
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9et the theory of e;!ectation become an obstacle that kee!s you from chicks ?se the theory of e;!ectation to your advantage

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I dont know about you but I like to take every advantage I can get when Im out there talking to girls. So* as Gabe e;!lained to me all those years ago

You Need to I//ediate"y %sta#"ish Yourse"$ as a ("irt -ere is the thing the longer you wait to begin flirting with a woman* the more resistance you are going to face and the tougher it is going to be to make the transition from 2friendly conversation to 2flirtatious conversation. In fact* you may never even get a chance to start flirting because she might have already dismissed you as another boring chum!. )ou cant blame women for this they get hit on by so many guys that they have to make a decision !retty 4uickly whether or not they want to kee! talking to you If she views you as the boring sort of guy she is going to res!ond to you in a boring sort of way and give you 15'-I1G to work with in ho!es that you get the !oint and walk away. 'hus fulfilling her e;!ectations -owever If you 4uickly establish yourself as a fun* flirtatious kind of guyshe is going to res!ond to you in a fun* flirtatious sort of way and give you '51S to work with 'hus fulfilling her e;!ectations )our "ob is to 4uickly get her thinking 5h this is the ty!e of interaction this is going to be '-IS guy G@'S I'. #ost guys dont get it. So when you show her that you do things get A 95' easier. Are you still with me

0hat %&act"y Are You Trying to Sho+ *er

?ltimately it all comes down to dis!laying to her that you are the kind of guy who is comfortable and confident talking to hot girls. And that you can have fun doing it. 0hat does this guy "ook "ike1

'his guy is sure of himself 'his guy is unaffected by what she says 'his guy is self.amused 'his guy is slightly childish in an endearing sort of way 'his guy is animated 'his guy is com!letely comfortable with who he is 'he 4uicker she sees you as this sort of guy the easier the rest of the conversation is going to go. And more im!ortantly* the easier it will be to take a conversation from 2friendly to 2se;ual.

The 2ood Ne+s

5k. So here is the good news. 'he good news is that it is not nearly as hard as you think to establish yourself as a flirt. In fact* it is "ust a matter of a few well.timed* well.delivered flirtatious banter lines that will fli! the switch in her mind and have her thinking 5h -es '-A' kind of guy 5nce you !lant that thought her in mind the theory of e;!ectation takes over and everything else becomes so much easier. Its like you begin to swim with the tide instead of against it.

3y (avorite Tactic
'here is a method to the madness of what some !eo!le think of as 2flirting. 5nce you understand how a flirtation interaction is su!!osed to look* you will begin to see them as I do* and the mystery will begin to unravel itself. There is a code language that women instantly recognize as flirtation even though youre NOT complimenting her, hitting on her, or as ing her

!uestions a"out herself# There are loopholes that e$ist as well, and %ve identified them, and % now precisely when to ta e advantage# 'he techni4ue that I have discovered and the cheat sheets that I have assembled are going to crack this code that very few men take advantage of and allow you to ca!itali,e on the 'heory of @;!ectations. -aving this understanding will !ut the odds back in your favor* and give you the control so that you can consistently s!ark attraction in conversations. 3elow we are going to look at four different a!!roaches that will immediately hel! you stack your deck in your favor* and begin to crack the code of the 2flirting language.

An I/'ortant Note A#out Teasing and Bantering

Aor the remainder of this re!ort I am going to using the terms bantering and teasing interchangeably. It is im!ortant before you go through the e;am!les that you understand a bit more about what banter is. &hat is "anter' 3antering is basically e;changing remarks in a good humored* teasing way. 3ut more im!ortantly* a banter line "ust establishes a role for the two of you that you can then act out in a !layful way. In my !revious re!ort Small Talk Tactics I talked about how using a role or character makes bantering easier. I even gave several e;am!les of good characters and roles you can use to s!ark the flirtatious dialogue. So instead of going over the idea of creating characters again* this time I am going to sim!ly !rovide you with stocked banter lines and res!onses you can use for common situations.

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@arlier I told you the traits that you are trying to get across immediately to a woman. It is im!ortant to remember that while delivering all of the lines given below that at all times you should be conveying yourself as= 4e"ivery 3.ST Convey5 Sure of yourself ?naffected by what she says Self.amused Slightly childish in an endearing sort of way Animated Bomfortable with who you If you fail to dis!lay the above traits your lines will seem forced and wont have the same effect. Timing is also massively im!ortant when it comes to bantering. 'his is something that you will !ick u! the more you go out there and !ractice. So lets "um! in.

CHEAT SHEET #1
%A,LY LIN%S T- S%T T*% T-N% -( T*% INT%,ACTI-N

#ost guys wait until they have created ra!!ort to begin teasing a woman or bantering with her. 3ut like weve discussed throughout this re!ort* the trick is to begin bantering with a woman as 4uickly as !ossible. Ideally you want to get at least three or four banter lines in before you move on to more 2normal conversation. 'he lines given below are meant to be delivered within the first two minutes of talking to her. (hile timing and relevance are im!ortant to the delivery of these lines I have chosen these banter lines because they are the easiest to naturally weave into a conversation.

Your 6nee 7erk ,eaction to *er

'he best way to deliver the lines below is as if you suddenly reali,ed something about her after C0 seconds to a minute or so of talking to her or the grou! shes with. )ou and I arent gonna get along )ou guys arent tourists are you :ont say anything* youre cute. )oull mess it all u! )oure cool. )ou can hel! me !ick u! chicks. )ou usually hang out at the library dont you 5h* so youDre one of '-5S@ )ou dont have to be nervous* its cute.

I hate you 5k* note to self= dont date her Eemember* the only !ur!ose of these lines is to set the tone of the interaction. 'iming and relevance will !lay a big role in the above lines since youre really trying to s4uee,e them in without her giving you much. Second ti! is8 dont dwell on the banter line. If she tries to !ry to e;!lain more "ust let it roll off* give her a sly smile* and change the sub"ect.

CHEAT SHEET #2
Lines That Suggest She s Interested -r *itting -n You
5ne of the most fun ways to create a flirtatious conversation is to set the frame that she is trying to get into your !ants. If you do it in this !layful way* she will know you that you are teasing her and will have fun and !lay along. 'he lines below are meant to be delivered as it becomes clear that you are hitting on her. 3y reversing the roles* you can take an awkward situation and make it fun and comfortable.

The Cat s -ut o$ the Bag

'he best way to deliver the lines below is as if you know she wants you* but she is too nervous to admit why she is really talking to you. (hat did you come over here "ust to flirt with me (hat else do you like about me

)oure hitting on the wrong guy8 Im totally not boyfriend material. 'hat guy looks better for you F!oint to some dorky guy nearbyG Sto! undressing me with your eyes :id you !ut roofies in my drink )oure looking at me like a fat kid looks at a cheeseburger Eemember* these lines work best if youve already used one of the other banter lines above. Im going to stress this again. )ou 1@@: to banter immediately. If not* these lines can be taken out of conte;t later in the conversation.

CHEAT SHEET #3
She Says So/ething 4u/# or She is ,a/#"ing -n
(hen you learn to listen and you get a feel what bantering is you are going to reali,e that women give you all the material you can !ossibly need to tease them. -ere is the thing* once you establish yourself as a flirt the woman treats you that way and as I suggested earlier* she will unconsciously give you material to use.

0hat a/ I 2oing to 4o 0ith You1

'he best way to deliver the lines below is to e;aggerate how little sense she is making. 'his is a good time to be animated* and a slightly childish. 1ow are you "ust making shit u! as you go along

Its a good thing youre !retty* because once the looks go youll be in trouble 9etDs !lay a game. 9etDs see how long you can hold your breath )ouDre aware youDre still talking right H I donDt know what youre on but i am sure they offer rehab for it 3artender* I think you need to cut her off. 1ow youre starting to scare me )ou are a total blonde fluff ball Eemember* you dont want to come across mean or insulting with these lines. )oure "ust trying to be !layful and fun.

CHEAT SHEET #4
She is Acting Boring8 Tired8 Cranky8 or .' Tight
I think we can all agree that women !ut u! sort of a 3itch Shield when they first begin talking to guy they are uncertain about. 'hese women dont want to give off too much interest and encourage him to kee! talking* so often they will a!!ear bitchy* bored* tired* or u! tight. It is your "ob to use bantering to break through this 2shield.

I / 2oing to 3ake You S/i"e No 3atter *o+ *ard You ,esist

'he lines below should be delivered with the attitude that you know that underneath her tough e;terior she is like a cute little !u!!y dog. 5hh. (eve got Grum!y Smurf here 5ooh Shes very hostile when she hasnt taken her na! )ou know what your !roblem is youre "ust not s!ontaneous I love it when you talk mean to me I bet you have a real cute side somewhere. )ou "ust donDt show it Sto! !laying hard to get8 you know Im better at it 9ooks like someone !ut their cranky !ants on this morning 9ines like these are meant for a girl who is not giving you much to go with* or has somewhat of an attitude.

3ore Situations $or Banter

'he four Bheat Sheets above !rovide you with some ammunition for 4uickly establishing yourself as a flirt. Eemember though* your attitude as you say the line is "ust as im!ortant as the lines themselves. 3anter and teasing works for "ust about every situation and it is the 4uickest way to turn the tides on a woman who may be on the fence about you.

In fact* once you get really good you will notice that you can 4uickly change any girls initial o!inion of you and can turn any conversation !layful and fun. (anter can "e used to= 5vercome shit tests Ees!ond to the 2boyfriend ob"ection Ees!ond to any ob"ections she has about you Avoid interview mode Breate the 2you and me vibe 3ring u! se; in a fun way As a fun way to o!en her

*o+ to A''"y this to Te&t 3essaging

Getting a girl to te;t me back was becoming a huge !ain in the ass. And it was !retty discouraging. It almost made me think asking a girl for her number was !ointless if she was "ust going to ignore my messages I knew there had to be a way I could breakthrough and ca!ture her attention long enough to get her to res!ond and not "ust res!ond. have her literally 3@GGI1G to meet u! with me. I stumbled onto something really cool that I want to tell you about Its called= 'he Iey 9ock Se4uence. Its a series of three te;ts you can send a girl that shes almost /5(@E9@SS against. Its scarily effective J&atch the )ideo (elowK

If you want to know how to te;t a girl or what ty!e of message will turn her on and have her writing you messages Jeven sending naked !ictures of herselfK then I recommend you watch this video#