Individual Assignment: Essay

Effective Public Communication (FCOM 0102) Assignment 1

Pua Kai Jing (0313

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According to numerous research studies, for your entire life you have spent about 75 percent of each day engaged in communication (Tubbs and Moses 1 !, pg !" #ommunication is probably one of the most important aspects in human life$

%e have to communicate &ith each other to gain information, to e'press ourselves and to help us &al( through life$ Among other things, communication has been lin(ed to physical &ell)being (Tubbs and Moses 1 !, pg 5"$ According to *te&art (1 +,"

socially isolated people are more li(ely to die prematurely- divorced men die at double the normal rate from cancer, heart disease, and stro(es, five times the normal rate from hypertension, five times the normal rate from suicide, seven times the normal rate from cirrhosis of the liver, and ten times the normal rate from tuberculosis$ The main point is that humans are beings that need to communicate- communication helps to find the definition of self$ %ithout communication, &e &on.t be able to find our identity and e'press ourselves$ /nterpersonal communication is a transactional process of e'changing messages and negotiating meaning to convey information and to establish and maintain relationship (%ilson, 0ant1, 0anna 1 5, pg !"$ /nterpersonal

communication means the e'change of information bet&een t&o people or more$ /t doesn.t mean that if you can.t tal( that you are not communicating &ith each other, even your non)verbal movements, li(e the e'pressions on your face or your body language, helps to let other people (no& ho& you feel$ /n a &ay, you &ill communicate &ith other people verbally and non)verbally$ According to %illiam *chut1, a psychologist &ho studied group interaction said that humans have social needs, &hich is need for

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affection, inclusion, and control (2earson, etc 3415, pg 15 "$ %ith all these said, the need for affection, inclusion and control are related to interpersonal communication$ 6irst &ould be the need for affection, it is the emotion of caring for others and being cared for (2earson, etc 3415, pg 15 "$ This means that humans have the need to love and feel loved by others$ This can be reflected by the relationships &e have &ith other people, li(e families, our soul mates, friends, especially our love ones$ 0ave you ever found that communicating &ith the person &e trust is much more easier the strangers &e 7ust met8 6or e'ample, if your crush as(ed you anything, you.ll most probably 7ust agree &ith him9her more than disagreeing$ This is because &e felt close to them from the information &e sent them- ma(ing us &ant to be closer to the people &e love$ *econd &ould be the need for inclusion, this is the need of being involved &ith each other, the need to feel li(e &e belong to a group (2earson, etc 3415, pg 15 "$ Most of us probably &ent to high school or university$ 0ave you ever reali1e boys &ould group &ith boys more &hile girls &ill group &ith girls more8 :r maybe you belong to a group of sporty 7oc(s &hile you see other people are less social and made a small group of their o&n$ This is because people &ith similar interest usually group &ith each other$ %hen &e go to unfamiliar places, &e may try to see( ne& relationships$ This is because &e have a need to find a group to fit in, thus you may abandon your old groups, if it is found unsatisfying$ #ommunicating clearly about ho& much contact or inclusion &e e'pect in a relationship can help us fulfill this need and allo& relationship to gro& (%ilson, 0ant1 , 0anna 1
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;astly &ould be the need for control$ This is the need &here &e need to believe that &e have the ability to influence our environment (2earson, etc 3415, pg 15 "$ 2eople have different degree of this need, first &ould be abdicrat &hich is someone &ith little need to control, this person abdicates all po&er and responsibilities to his partner in a relationship$ A democrat is a person that ta(es the middle ground and can either ta(e charge or allo& others to be in control$ An autocrat &ant to dominates others and feels the need for strong control in relationships (%ilson, 0ant1 , 0anna 1 5, pg ,+"$ /nclusion could be the start of interpersonal relationship, &here first you &ant to get to (no& each other by e'changing names, contact number, and interest$ /f you find both of you are compatible, you may start to go on dates and being introduced to each other.s friends and starting to engage in intimacy (2earson, etc 3415, pg 135"$ After that, the need for affection may start bet&een the couple, you &ill start &ith maybe a (iss on the forehead to start sho&ing that you love that person$ <ou may also start by giving each other presents as a sign of affection$ This sho&s that you love each other and provides them the reason that the relationship &ill last$ ;astly &ould be control, if any one of the couple don.t feel that they have control over the relationship, the relationship may star to deteriorate$ This is &hy by regaining their sense of control over the relationship, they &ould probably use &e instead of / &hen facing a problem$ This sho&s unity and persistence that one of them &ant to face to meet their bargain that the relationship &ill stay$

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As a conclusion, these social needs helps people to find ne& relationships, learn ne& things about themselves and help us to e'press ourselves$ %ithout the need for affection, inclusion and control, &e probably &on.t be bothered to feel the need to get to (no& others$

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=eference %ilson, >$;$, 0ant1, A$M$, and 0anna, M$*$ (1 5" /nterpersonal >ro&th Through

#ommunication, (!th ed$" /o&a? %illiam$ #$ @ro&n 2ublishers 2earson, #$2$, Aelson, B$ A$, *cott, T$, 0arter, 0$ (3415" 0uman #ommunication, (5th ed$" @oston? Mc>ra& 0ill Tubbs *$;$ C Moss$*$ (1 @oston? Mc>ra& 0il !" 0uman #ommunication? 2rinciples and #onte'ts, (7th ed$"

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