12 Lies People Love to Tell You

inShare 131Email Lies run sprints, but the truth runs marathons. ?Michael Jackson Over the years you ve developed a set of beliefs based on what others have told yo u. The problem is, many of these people weren t telling the truth. They were mer ely repeating the little, seemingly innocent lies someone else once told them. Now, the false beliefs they ve ingrained in your mind are impeding your potential and holding you back from the life you re capable of living. Here are twelve lies you ve likely heard and the truth that will set you free: 1. What you need in life is comfort and safety. If you want to make an impact, big or small, get comfortable with being uncomfor table. All growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. Maybe the thing you re scared of is exactly what you should do. Sometimes life is about risking it al l for a dream no one can see but you. 2. You have way too much to lose. In the end, you will not regret the things you have done nearly as much as the t hings you have left undone. It s always better to be left with a few oh wells, than a bunch of what ifs. It s better to have a lifetime full of experiences and mistak es you learned from, rather than a heart full of regrets and empty dreams. Some day you will want to look back at your life and say, I can t believe I did that! ins tead of, Gosh, I wish I would have (Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the Go als and Success chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differ ently.) 3. Your dream is impossible. When a dream matters enough to a person, that person will find a way to achieve what at first seemed impossible. Let that person be YOU. It s kind of fun to do the impossible. Go after your dream, no matter how unattainable others tell you it is. What s impossible to them may not be impossible for you. 4. Being self-centered is always wrong. You must choose yourself and live your life from beginning to end; no one else c an do it for you. Claiming full control over your health, dreams, and well-bein g are some of the areas in your life where you get to be a little selfish and no t feel bad about it. If you want to reach your goals, you have to be the center of this part of your journey. You have to make it work for you and you alone. It s not selfishness, it s self-care and self-improvement. Anything less is a setu p for failure. 5. You need the approval of others. People are sometimes too quick to judge, but slow to correct themselves. Don t be one of them. Focus on your own growth, goals, and self-worth. Leave people to their opinions and judgments. Let them respect you for who you are, and not fo r who they want you to be Or let them walk away if they choose. Either way, the y can t harm you; it s their understanding that is faulty, not yours. 6. The strongest, happiest people have fewer problems. Strength doesn t come from what you can do; it comes from overcoming the things yo

u once thought you couldn t do. When you are at your lowest point, you are open t o the greatest positive change. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but t he strength to deal with them. The strongest people are the ones who feel pain, accept it, learn from it, and fight through it. They turn their wounds into wi sdom. (Read The Road Less Traveled.) 7. Situations are either positive or negative. The Chinese symbol for the word crisis is written using two strokes of a pen. One stroke stands for danger, and the other for opportunity. In other words, in a crisis, beware of the danger, but also recognize the opportunity. Life always b alances itself out. Everything that happens is neither positive nor negative; i t just depends on your perspective. 8. Perfect relationships exist. The love of your life isn t perfect, you aren t either, and the two of you will neve r be perfect. But if you can make each other laugh once in awhile, cause each o ther to think twice about the sweetness of life, and both admit to being human a nd making mistakes, your relationship is something special. No, you two may not always choose the most poetic words, and there will likely be inconsiderate sli p-ups on occasion, but that s what makes your bond real. Smile when they make you happy, speak up when they make you mad, and miss them when they re gone. Love ha rd when there is love to be had. Perfect love doesn t exist, but true love does, and it s worth the effort. 9. Love is an obligation. Love between two people comes because both people want to share their love, not because YOU want it from the other person. Your family, friends, co-workers, pa rtner they all love you because they choose to, not because you want them to. L ove is meant to be felt, enjoyed and lived, not to be forced on anyone. 10. You can t be kind to everyone. Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It s about knowing resentment is not on the path to happiness. Having confidence an d class is the ability to walk away from a bad situation with a smile on your fa ce and forgiveness in your heart. 11. You need more to be happy. There are two ways of being rich: One is to have all you want, the other is to b e satisfied with what you have. Accept and appreciate things now, and you ll find more happiness in every moment you live. Happiness comes when you stop complai ning about the troubles you have and offer thanks for all the troubles you don t h ave. And remember, you have to fight through some bad days to earn the best day s of your life. (Read The How of Happiness.) 12. It s too late. Anyone can run away; it s super easy. Facing issues and working through them make s you strong. Focus on your dreams, not your problems. It s not too late. A hun dred disappointments in the past can t equal the power of one positive action righ t now. Talk is cheap; action is priceless. Go for it! Give yourself another c hance.