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own joy and so its easy for them to sacrifice their joy for others theres nothing really noble about it. Such people are quick to point out that its bad to align selfishly with ones joy because they feel guilty within of orienting with their own joy. To orient with ones own joy is a highly positive behavior and it always attract a reality of abundance and well-being towards such a person.
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at her to know that she felt truly joyful about what she was doing and there was no sense of sacrifice in her. Stop using her as an example to defend sacrificing your happiness for others because it would be a misplaced interpretation on your part. Do what brings joy to you, dont do something just to please others it can challenging to orient with your joy if youve been brought up in a mindset of sacrifice, but this is a negative mindset that you need to let go of to allow a deeper alignment with yourself.
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101 says: October 14, 2011 at 11:57 pm How do you really start? Reply Sen says: October 15, 2011 at 3:38 pm Its all about aligning with yourself. To do so you need to really get to know yourself in every aspect, by bringing in a deep awareness into your inner space, and allow an alignment with your mind/heart. Its a love affair with yourself, a deep unconditional alignment with the natural make-up and orientation of your human expression as this physical being. This process of alignment can be quite challenging because one needs to shed a lot judgments and limiting external conditioning to really line up with ones heart and also to line up with the movement of your life stream towards the manifestation of your desired realities which are congruent with your way of being. Peter says: February 21, 2012 at 9:48 pm Once more: Thanks!!!! I needed this. I was brought up with this wrong notion. My mother even mentions my grandfather that married a woman that he didnt love (never loved until his death), leaving his great love behind, because his parents didnt like her and her family. My mother mentions this as something heroic to strive for.really sad.
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Thank you for clearing my mind in such a powerful and yet simple way!!!! Reply Jane says: July 23, 2012 at 11:48 pm Hi, Sen, I led a painful life as a people pleaser for 40 years. Until last month I found out the word people pleaser and after doing some research realized that this is a disease. And I could not figure out what is wrong with my life and how I get this kind of mentality and behaviour. Sometimes my behaviors is very obsessive and compulsive. Have no way to escape out even with suicidal thoughts. Could you guide me how to get out of this night mare? How to align with myself? Thank you deeply. Jane Reply Sen says: July 31, 2012 at 3:09 pm Jane, a few posts you can start with to gain an understanding of the process of allowing (which is needed to release the mind momentum) are as below http://www.calmdownmind.com/reaching-a-place-of-total-allowing/ http://www.calmdownmind.com/allowing-the-release-of-suppressed-energy/ http://www.calmdownmind.com/healing-the-imbalance/ http://www.calmdownmind.com/overcoming-obsessive-thoughts/ You can read these posts plus others on this blog and thus gain an understanding of the mechanics of mind/emotional momentum which is the cause of fear-based behaviors like being a people pleaser. With the right understanding you will be in a position to start bringing the required inner balance.
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