Introduction

There are dozens, hundreds of occupations, professions and jobs: one is building a bridge, and the other is building housing, the third raises cattle and the fourth one deals with finance. However, there is the most difficult, the most honorable and the most noble work, one for all and at the same time original and unique in every family is a nurture of a baby. A distinctive feature of this work is that one finds in it incomparable happiness. Continuing the human race, the father, the mother in the child repeat themselves. Every moment of the work, which is called nurture - is the work of the future and look to the future. Nurture of children - is a complete devotion of ones life, a devotion that is very often left unappreciated by many. We create human love - love for the mother's father and mother to the father, the love of the father and mother to the people of deep faith in the dignity and beauty of a person. Well behaved and well-mannered children grow up in families where the mother and father are in love with each other and at the same time love and respect other people. By screaming baby informs the world of his birth. As soon as the baby arrives to this world his adventures begin. Baby gradually opens up the world to himself. He/she sees his/her mother, smiling at him/her and his first vague idea, if one can call it the thought - the feeling that the mother (and later on father) exist for his/her pleasure, for his/her happiness. The boy/girl rises to his/her feet, sees a flower and a butterfly flying above him/her, sees a bright toy - and mom and daddy happy when he/she, the son/daughter, is pleased ... If the behavior and actions continue to be dictated by the little boy/girl nothing good will come out of him/her. Baby eventually develops abnormal, increased demands from life. Results of good nurturing shine when baby stops thinking only about him/herself and instead of asking for more actually begins to contribute to the family and develops the sense of

payback, and responsibility. Human life begins at the moment when a child does not do what he/she wants and what he/she needs but rather does what is beneficial for the common good. Children, who start their lives completely helpless beings, gain so much from the parents that they naturally generate a sense of gratitude, love and a kind of pride of their father and mother. Parents, care, assistance, and participation play a significant role in childs nurture. Children orphaned early, or those who lost their mother or father, often later, as an adults, experience a touch of bitterness and sadness, depression from a lack of memory in their memories of parental affection, family joys and love. On the contrary, other children experience happiness because of the memories that they generated over the years. They can recall joyful memories of how they built their first bird houses with their fathers or how they cooked pancakes with their moms.

Nurturing the only kid in a family

There are two most common points of views when it comes to the families with a single child. First: the only child is more emotionally stable than other children because he does not know excitement associated with the rivalry of brothers. Second: the only child has to overcome more difficulties than usual in order to get mental balance, because he does not have a brother or sister. Despite of what psychologists say, the life of the only child is such that it confirms the second point of view. Difficulties, however, are not absolutely inevitable, and yet so common that it would be foolish to ignore them. Undoubtedly, parents who have an only child, usually pay too much attention to him/her. In short, they are too concerned about child because he/she is alone, whereas in fact it is just their first baby. Indeed, only few people are able to safely and carefully handle the firstborn child as they would take care of the subsequent children. The main reason here - inexperience. However,

there are other reasons, to discover who is wrong. Leaving aside some of the limitations like physical ability, some parents are scared of responsibility that having children imposes on them, others are in fear that the second child will affect their financial situation, and others just do not like children, and they are quite happy with one son or one daughter. Some interference on mental development of children has a definite name - greenhouse conditions, when a child groomed, pampered, and petted. Mental development of a baby inevitably slows down due to the excessive attention and care. As a result, child later on faces very serious difficulties and disappointments when he/she is outside of home. For instance, baby will expect that same amount of attention to which he/she got used to at home from other people. For those very same reasons child will start treating him/her-self very seriously. It is because of his/her own outlook that will be too small; many little things will seem to him/her too big and significant. As a result, interaction with other people will be much more difficult for him/her than for other children. He will begin to shy away from contact. Since the child never had to share parental love with siblings, not to mention the games, the room and clothes, it will be difficult to get along with other children and their place in the community. It can be argued that the nurturing of the only son or only daughter is far more difficult than raising several children. The only child will soon become the center of the family. Caring father and mother usually provide the only child in the family with higher than normal utilities. Illness or death of the only child is more difficult to overcome for a family members, and the fear of such a disaster is always in front of parents and depriving them of the calm. Very often, the only child gets used to its unique exclusivity and becomes a real tyrant in the family. For some parents, it is very difficult to slow down their love for him/her and their concerns, and in some cases they raise an egoist.

For the psychological development, every child needs mental space in which he/she could feel comfortable. He/she needs inner and outer freedom, an interaction with the world, independence from parents that walk him by the hand all the time. Finally, the child wont be a child if he/she doesnt have torn pants, bloody ankles or elbows and a face that is covered in the mud. The only child in a family is often left with no space. Consciously or not, parents impose a role model of a perfect child on their kids. He/she should be especially polite, reading poetry; he/she should be a perfect child and stand out from the other children. Often parents built ambitious plans for their infants future. As a result child experiences a lack of good advice throughout the childhood. Such an attitude and nurturing is a danger for one because infant will become a spoiled child, dependent, insecure, overestimate or underestimate him/her-self. Described above issues could be avoided if parents follow a simple rule. Every family should treat their growing child as if he or she were not exclusive. By doing so, parents would be able to raise emotionally healthy and not ego centric children.

The specifics of nurturing infants in a large family with two or more kids
Nurturing potential in a family with two or more kids has its advantages and disadvantages. On one hand, kids learn how to be rational, share with each other and socialize. Since none of the kids have privileged position in the family, they become fewer egos centric and kinder to others. Kids grow up together, mature and learn how to deal with one another. They also successfully form and or develop such moral qualities as sensitivity, humanity, responsibility, respect for others, and the quality of the social order - the ability to communicate, adapt, and tolerate. Children in such families are better prepared for marriages. It is easier for

them to overcome role conflicts associated with excessive demands of one spouse to the other because they learnt how to deal with it in early childhood. However, the process of nurturing in a large family no less complex and contradictory as it may seem. First of all, in these families, adults often lose their sense of justice for children, and often show them unequal affection and attention. As a result, the offended child often feels a deficit of warmth and attention. A childs feeling must be taken seriously (Ginott 19), if the parent wants his/her children to be emotionally stable. In some cases infant develops a mental state of anxiety, a sense of inferiority and self-doubt, in others - increased aggressiveness, and an inadequate response to life situations. Quite often in families with two or more kids older children develop following characteristics: critique, the desire for leadership, management, and they execute them even in cases where there is no need for this. All this complicates the process of socialization of children with one another. The second, in large families physical and psychological burden on the parents is doubled, especially on the mother. Mother has less free time and opportunities for the development of children and for communication with each one of them. She also cant devote a lot of attention to their interests. In large families parents have less opportunity to meet the needs and interests of children, who are already paid considerably less time than in families with one child, and that has an impact on their kids development. In addition families with two or more kids struggle financially more than those with the only child due to the doubled, tripled or quadrupled expenses.

Nurturing a kid in a single parent family

Child always suffers deeply, if family is crumbling. Current estimates are that half of all children living today will spend at least some portion of their childhood in a single-parent home (Waldfogel 23). Family separation or divorce causes mental breakdown and strong emotional distress on children. Of course, parent can help a child to cope with the challenges of growing up in a separated family, however, it will require a lot of effort from the parent with whom the child will stay. If the separation of the family occurs when a child is between the ages of three and twelve years, the effects on child are particularly harsh. Family separation or divorce of the spouses is often preceded by many months of disputes and family quarrels, which are difficult to hide from the child and that gets him worried greatly. This transition is one of the toughest moments in kids life. During the transition kid becomes emotionally unstable and self-contained. The child feels the absence of his father, even if he does not openly show his feelings. In addition, child takes fathers absence as a rejection of him. The child can keep these feelings for years. Very often after separation or divorce, the mother of the family gets to keep children. Not to mention that back: In 2002 She might also need to work more in order to take care of the financial expenses. As a result, she doesnt have enough time to spend with her infant as she used to before the separation of the family. This causes the infant to feel rejected by his mother which in reality is not true. The father of the family regularly visits the child for some time after the separation or divorce. Nevertheless, it is still very deeply concerns the baby. Fathers presence in kids live is highly required, especially in the case of young boys because: Masculinity cannot be acquired

by a formal course of study. It may be learned in the course of daily life from a father who serves as a model (Ginott 169). In addition, if the parents are seeking revenge on one another, they will fill a child's mind with harmful nonsense, blaming each other and thus undermining the psychological support, which usually a child receives in a normal family. The described below information can be utilized in order to help a child in a broken family. A child can be saved from unnecessary worry. Explain to him what happened, and to make it simple with no blaming. To say that it happens with so many people and so it's better to be the way it is. If the visits of his or her parent becomes rare and rare with each time that eventually will cause the baby to feel rejected. Child certainly needs to be emotionally and psychologically prepared for the moment when his or her second parent leaves the house. The child needs help in growing up and becoming independent from a parent, otherwise he or she will develop an excessive and unhealthy dependence. One of the most common mistakes mothers do is an excessive care of their children. Due to the good intensions mother provides her child with more attention, surrounded by a large affection, tasty food, better clothe, etc. But by taking these efforts, often heroic, sacrificing themselves, their interests, desires, health, mothers provoke dependence in an infant. When the parents do not live together and they are separated, it is very painfully reflects on the child's upbringing. Children often become the subject of discord between parents who openly hate each other and do not hide it from the kids. All sorts of disagreement can be resolved more delicately. Parents can hide from the kids their dislike and hatred of their former spouse.

CONCLUSION
Family life and its values have been settled in a way where parenting is divided between father and mother. All parents want their children to be happy and secure. No parent wakes up in the morning and deliberately plans to make his childs life intense, fearful, and unhappy. (Ginott 11). The major concern for the care of children and the nurturing is on mothers shoulders. Mothers spend with the children more time than the father. In addition, by tradition and by their nature, mothers bring into nurturing more tenderness, gentleness, kindness and care. Mothers close involvement in the lives of children in their early childhood has a great influence on infants moral principles. Over the years, however, the importance of direct care loses its moral role. Children start to become more independent, more determined, but still need the help of parents and adults. Children eventually become fully formed individuals. There are some tastes and needs that one parent can take care of better than the other, and the vice versa. Nurturing - is not all about saying affectionate words to children or instructing and edifying them, but, first of all, living and being like role models for them. If one wants to be a great parent and leave positive memories, he or she then must start with educating him or her selves at first. Raising children requires a very special approach, the most simple and sincere. These six qualities should be the ultimate truth of parents life. The purpose of nurturing - to promote human development characterized by wisdom, independence, strength of spirit, kindness, caring and love. The following core points should be kept in mind when nurturing a child: 1) consistency in ideology and actions; 2) mental and physical conditioning; 3) teaching a self-control; 4) discipline; 5) affection and support; 6) recognition of the child's personality and his/her strengths and weaknesses

The whole secret of family nurturing is to give the child an opportunity to develop him/her-self, to do everything him/her-self. Children have a tendency to imitate what they hear and see; therefore, one should always be self-aware when he/she is looking after baby. Parents should also pay a lot of attention to their kids discipline. Discipline is a training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character [or] a control gained by enforcing obedience or order (Merriam-Websters Collegiate Dictionary 330). As a fact: By 3 years of age the childs moral self has begun to develop. At this age, children have internalized rules about what they can and cannot do, rules that have emerged from their everyday interactions with emotionally available caregivers (Klass 89). Parents should treat the child as a person the moment he/she is born, with full recognition of his/her identity and integrity.