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THE
G-SPOT
Anterior wall erogenous zone or Freudian myth?
Rhalou Allerhand examines the mystery of the G-spot
Illustrations: Matt Reynolds

he female orgasm has always been
a matter of intense interest (especially
to the half of the world population who
possess a vagina), but the reality of what
women actually experience is often shroud-
ed in mystery (mostly to the other half of the
population, who don’t possess one).
Some women argue it’s essential for or-
gasms and others refute its existence, but
for many women, vaginal orgasms and the
mysterious G-spot are nothing but an unat-
tainable dream. Whatever your stance, the
G-spot has always been controversial and
the subject of considerable media hype.
Statistics vary greatly, but past surveys
suggest that the majority of women have
never experienced an internal G-spot or-
gasm, and some women even find it difficult
to achieve a clitoral one. According to the
2008 National Orgasm Survey, 72 per cent
of women have got a G-spot, although only
31 per cent claim to have experienced a
vaginal orgasm and 36 per cent of women
don’t orgasm at all during sex unless they
stimulate their clitoris themselves.
While some ‘experts’ dismiss the idea

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Some women will have
certain areas within the
vagina which will be
very sensitive
that G-spot and clitoral orgasms are distin-
guishable, and some argue that the G-spot
doesn’t exist at all, there are also lots of
women who would be happy to experience
an orgasm of any kind, and couldn’t care
less which way it comes.
The location and even existence of the G-
spot has long been hotly contested in medi-
cal circles. Despite professional and scien-
tific scepticism, as a concept the G-spot
has actually been widely accepted by the
public and many women who haven’t even
experienced one still believe that it’s achiev-
able. But some specialists argue that the
term has led to over-anxiety among women
who cannot reach satisfaction this way, and
can leave women and their partners feeling
inadequate.
Dr Petra Boynton, a sexual psychologist
at University College London, argues that
an entire industry has grown up around the
concept of the G-spot, and labeling women
who are unable to achieve vaginal orgasm as
‘dysfunctional’ has had a negative effect.
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She says, ‘We’re
all different. Some
women will have cer-
tain areas within the
vagina which will be
very sensitive, and
some won’t — but
they won’t neces-
sarily be in the area
called the G-spot.
‘If a woman
spends all her time
worrying about
whether she is nor-
mal, or has a G-spot
or not, she will focus
on just one area, and ignore everything else.
It’s telling people that there is a single, best
way to have sex, which isn’t the right thing
to do.’
As an avid reader of Just Seventeen
and More magazine, from my early teens I
studied the Position of the Fortnight intently
every week and, despite not being terribly
successful with my own, have always as-
sumed that the G-spot exists. After carrying
out some research, which basically involved
pestering all the ladies in my office, I was
interested (and mildly envious) to discover
that more than half of them claim to have
fully functioning G-spots which, with a bit of
special attention, can perform wonders for
orgasm intensity.
‘I definitely have one, and think I would
be a little bit lost without it,’ claimed Sandra
from IT. ‘I find that a G-spot orgasm is more
intense and lasts longer than a clitoral or-
gasm. I see the clitoral orgasm as a quick fix,
whereas a G-spot orgasm is when you’re in
for the long run and mean business.’
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 Deidre from ad sales agreed. ‘I’m quite
lucky; it’s been a regular occurrence for me
since I have been with my current boyfriend.
Definitely marriage material!
‘It takes me quite a bit longer; the longest
amount of time has probably been around
thirty minutes. It takes longer for me to
achieve a G-spot orgasm, but it’s well worth
the wait.’
Personally, despite my familiarity with the
apparent location, I’ve not had much truck
with my own, and manipulating the area gen-
erally makes me feel the need to pee, rather
than scream out in orgasmic bliss. But ever
the investigative journalist, I was determined
to search out the truth behind the elusive fe-
male pleasure zone.
For many women, it’s a highly sensitive
area that provides hours of pleasure when
massaged. For others, much like me, it’s a
spongy bit that, if pressed, creates an over-
whelming urge to urinate. And then some
women don’t feel any sensation at all.
There are a number of different theories
about what the G-spot, which technically
is more of a G-zone, actually is. Some ex-
perts say we should consider it more of an
‘anterior wall erogenous complex’, although
saying that is nearly as tricky as finding the
damn thing.
One view is that it’s an area of tissue simi-
lar to the male prostate. Further research has
shown that stimulation of the G-spot area
can increase the pain threshold, so this sen-
sitive and erogenous area is one of nature’s
natural childbirth painkillers. So as you can
see, the theories are divided and no one can
agree on what to do with the G-spot, much
less whether or not it even exists.
Named after the German gynecolo-
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gist, Ernst Gräfenberg, the existence of the
humble G-spot was first officially confirmed
in 1944, although fans of Tantric sex have
been heralding the ‘sacred spot’ for thou-
sands of years (indicating that perhaps yogic
flying hippy sex isn’t so daft after all). How-
ever, the purported location of the G-spot
has changed over time, and many experts
continue to quibble over its location and ex-
istence. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes
referred to as vaginal, because it results from
stimulation inside the vagina, including dur-
ing intercourse.
The concept of purely vaginal orgasm
was actually first hypothesised In 1905 by
the original sexpert Sigmund Freud. Freud
boldly argued that clitoral orgasm was an
adolescent phenomenon, and upon reach-
ing puberty the proper response of a ma-
ture women would be to change to vaginal
orgasms. While most women would prob-
ably be very pleased if this theory were true,
Freud provided no evidence for his wild as-
sumption, and the consequences of the
theory were greatly elaborated, partly be-
cause many women felt inadequate when
they could not achieve ‘mature’ orgasm via
vaginal intercourse wihch involved little or no
clitoral stimulation.
Using ultrasound, Italian scientists claim
to have found the first compelling evidence
that the G-spot exists, but say not all women
appear to have one and the location varies.
If you’re one of the lucky ladies, it’s alleged
to be approximately a few centimetres up,
on the front inner wall of the vagina and usu-
ally no bigger than a pea; but once you’re
sexually aroused and in the mood for some
action, its size can increase significantly.
Doctors at the University of L’Aquila in Italy,
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 where the pioneering
The scans identified an
ultrasound study was
conducted, say the
scans revealed clear
anatomical differences
between women who area of thicker tissue
said they experienced
vaginal orgasms and
women who did not.
where the G-spot is
The scans identified
an area of thicker tis-
sue where the G-spot
allegedly located
is allegedly located,
which was not visible
in the women who had never managed to
achieve a vaginal orgasm.
The latest research, carried out by Dr Em-
manuele Jannini at the University of L’Aquila,
was published in the Journal Of Sexual Med-
icine. ‘For the first time, it is possible to de-
termine by a simple, rapid and inexpensive
method if a woman has a G-spot or not,’ Dr
Jannini told New Scientist magazine. The
team used ultrasound to scan twenty wom-
en and discovered that an identifiable G-spot
is only present in women who could experi-
ence vaginal orgasm, and for these women,
the tissue between the vagina and the ure-
thra was found to be considerably thicker
than in the other women.
The ultrasound was used to measure the
size and shape of the tissue inside the front
wall of the vagina, often suggested as the
location of the G-spot. In the nine women
who reported being able to achieve vaginal
orgasm, the tissues between the vagina and
the urethra were on average thicker than in
the 11 women who could not reach orgasm
this way.
‘Women without any visible evidence of
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a G-spot cannot have a vaginal orgasm,’
explained Jannini, ‘but they can still have a
normal orgasm through stimulation of the
clitoris.’
So if you’re on a quest to plunder your
undiscovered G-spot, it’s worth remember-
ing that you just might not have one, and
ferreting around down there for hours might
be a futile task. However, it’s also entirely
possible that you do have one, but much like
my jelly tummy, your inner muscular area just
needs a bit of attention.
As fans of Sex And The City will know, the
pelvic floor muscle or Kegel exercise is sup-
posedly key when it comes to achieving or-
gasmic ecstasy. Arnold Kegel, of the epony-
mous exercise routine, published a study in
1952 highlighting this link and demonstrated
that ‘sexually dysfunctional’ women taught a
resistive exercise programme could achieve
orgasm for the first time.
So, based on his findings, it’s worth re-
membering to do your Kegels, as it can do
wonders for your pleasure quota and hope-
fully assist with locating your elusive G-spot
and achieving the much sought-after vaginal
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It’s normal to feel
the need to pee when
your G-spot is being
stimulated
orgasm. And, as luck would have it, you can
do them discreetly on the bus and no one
will ever know.
Publishers of the 2008 Orgasm Survey
claim that the link between a healthy and
strong pelvic floor and better sex will improve
the general health and sexual wellbeing of
millions of women, improve and restore mil-
lions of relationships, and reduce the inci-
dence of stress incontinence which afflicts
many women. They suggest purchasing
a Pelvic Toner, available from www.iwabo.
co.uk, which is a progressive resistance vag-
inal exerciser, designed to help women meet
the fundamentals of Kegel exercise.
To make sure you’re doing manual Kegel
exercises correctly, try to stop the flow of urine
while you’re going for a pee. If you succeed,
you’ve got the basic move. Or try inserting a
finger inside your vagina and squeezing the
surrounding muscles. You should be able to
feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor
move upward. Then relax your muscles and
feel your pelvic floor move down to the start-
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ing position. As your
muscles become
stronger this move-
ment will be more
pronounced and
hopefully soon you’ll
be bathing in orgas-
mic bliss. This may
or may not open the
hidden door to your
G-spot, but either
way you will benefit
sexually, as a strong-
er pelvic floor muscle
equals more powerful
orgasms either way.
As experts argue that we aren’t all bless-
ed with an interior wall pleasure zone, if you
do decide to embark on a G-spot discovery
expedition, the first step to enjoying vaginal
orgasmic heaven is establishing whether or
not you actually have one. Stroking is usu-
ally the most enjoyable form of stimulation,
although sex toys can play an important rôle.
Sexperts recommend inserting the forefinger
and making a ‘come hither’ motion towards
the front vaginal wall, but you’ll need to ex-
periment with pressure and length of stroke
to find out what makes you — or your good
lady wife — tick.
It’s incredibly normal for you to feel the
need to pee when your G-spot is being
stimulated, so make sure you’ve been to the
toilet first to avoid confusion. It also helps
if you’re already sexually aroused. The first
couple of times it might be a bit odd, so it’s
best to battle through the urge, as Kate from
the post room in my office agreed. ‘I didn’t
like it at first, as I just felt like I needed to
wee, and I didn’t want to do that on my boy-
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 friend’s hand, but after a bit of perseverance
the feeling passed and it became incredibly
pleasurable.’
Depending on the location of your G-
spot, you may or may not be able to feel
stimulation during intercourse, but you’re
most likely to feel something if you have your
pelvis raised, so experiment with conven-
iently placed pillows. Another popular posi-
tion to stimulate the relevant area is doggy
style, which should be quite pleasing for all
parties involved.
It would seem that the majority of us do
have faith in the existence of the elusive
pleasure button. If you are keen to experi-
ment solo, or your partner needs a helping
hand, you can now get all manner of sex aids
designed specifically for the area. Seasoned
sexpert and TV regular Tracey Cox has
launched her own supersex G-Spot Orgasm
Kit, designed specifically for stimulating the
area — featuring a single speed curved vi-
brator designed to stimulate the G-spot, wa-
ter-based lube and a G-spot orgasm guide.
‘Opinion divides on whether there is a
universal pleasure spot that’s the same on
all women, but there’s absolutely no doubt
that most women find stimulation of the front
vaginal wall extraordinarily exciting,’ says
Tracey. ‘The supersex G-Spot Orgasm Kit
helps you to explore this ultra-sensitive area
and up your orgasm quota.’
Research carried out by LoveHoney.
co.uk on behalf of Tracey Cox revealed that
the desire to discover the G-spot is remarka-
bly high, with 90 per cent of the 1500 people
they asked agreeing that they would happily
use a sex aid to help them achieve G-spot
orgasms, 50 per cent happy to ask their
partner to help them in their quest, 23 per
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cent having tried both alone or with a partner
and 17 per cent eager to set out on solo ex-
plorations, so don’t be afraid to explore your
elusive G-spot pleasure zone as apparently
everyone’s at it.
As any man convinced he’s been weed on
will tell you, some women can even ejaculate
when their G-spot is stimulated. Research
has shown that approximately 10 per cent
of women expel between 9 ml and 900 ml
of fluid from the urethra during arousal and
orgasm, but experts have yet to agree on
what this fluid actually is, so concentrate on
your personal sexual fulfillment rather than
worrying about squirting at your lover. And
if you do mysteriously produce gluey fluids
upon orgasm, Lord knows us women spend
enough time on the receiving end of it, so it’s
about time the boys got an eyeful of sticky
white stuff.
You may or may not have a sensitive G-
spot, and everyone is unique, so if that spe-
cific area does nothing for you, don’t feel
pressured into commencing a quest for the
Holy Grail just because everyone else seems
to be having vaginal orgasms in abundance.
The key to a healthy, happy sex life is be-
ing open and honest with your partner and
having lots of fun experimenting, so don’t
succumb to the pressure to perform won-
ders with your G-spot if it just isn’t playing
ball. But spending a few hours investigating
the area (or asking your man to assist) might
be half the fun, even if you don’t find your
apex of passion whilst you’re down there.
There are so many ways to enjoy your sexu-
ality, and the G-spot is just one of them. So
ignore Sigmund Freud: you are not sexually
dysfunctional if you can’t achieve a G-spot
orgasm; you’re just rather lucky if you can.
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