Personality Development: An Insight

What is Personality?

Is made up of the characteristic patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behavior that make a person unique Arises from within the individual and remains fairly consistent throughout life Identity of the person - Sum total of what you stand for and all your shades From the inside: This is the person you think you are Defined by your hopes, dreams, aspirations, goals, and intentions From the outside This is your reputation The person others think you are

Personalitys Parts

Emotions = A persons emotional style Motives = A persons motives Memory = Auto-biographical memory

Manifestation of Personality

Personality not only influences how we react to our environment, it also causes us to behave in certain ways Our personalities are demonstrated through our behavior, thoughts, feelings, and interactions with others

The desired personality

Should conform to your model of self-esteem

Should give you the legitimacy through social recognition Should be enduring Should be seen as a valued entity by others

Scope of Personality Development

To reduce the gap between what you are and what you want to be This requires a continual communication with the others and with your own self

Enlarging the open quadrant

Self-disclosure: A give and take process between me and other people As you share something about yourself and if the other party is interested in getting to know you, they will reciprocate An interaction between two parties can be modeled dynamically as two active Johari windows

Motivation balance Individual motivations are made up of elements of each class

The balance can change depending on personal circumstances and external events However, people are not just motivated by personal factors but also by being part of a group and culture.

People go to work because they are motivated by the people that they work with.

Joharis Window (Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham)

I Know Others know

I know Others dont know Hidden I dont know Others dont know Unknown

Open I dont know Others know Blind

I know and others too know

This is the open side of my personality Let me get a feedback on how it is perceived

I know but others dont know

This is the hidden side of my personality Let me bring it out if I sincerely believe in its worthiness Let me work on it till it is no more an embarrassment to me The communication process itself helps me to bring these aspects out

I dont know but others know I am blind to this part of my personality It is most likely a weak spot which is either Exploited by others Tolerated by others despite its negativity Considered inconsequential Solicit communication about it both directly and indirectly As ones level of confidence and self esteem develops, one may actively invite others to comment on one's blind spots.

I dont know and others dont know too

This is the unknown part of my personality Will be revealed when situations develop (e.g.: Your character in adversity)

Wundts Vision for Personality

Personality

Sensation & Perception

Motives & Emotion

Emotion & Cognition

Sensation Perception

Memory

Emotion

Cognition

Consciousness

Personality traits Emotional Stability Calm/Anxious Secure/Insecure

Extraversion

Sociable/Retiring Fun Loving/Sober

Openness

Imaginative/Practical Independent/Conforming

Agreeableness

Soft-Hearted/Ruthless Trusting/Suspicious

Conscientiousness

Organized/Disorganized Careful/Careless

Freuds View of the Human Mind The Mental Iceberg

Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Humour Laugh away lifes little miseries Find joy and happiness by keeping yourself entertained Take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. Getting Rid Of Self Pity

Dont let self pity and feelings hold you back from progressing in the right direction Develop and nurture your natural state of happiness Relate to your challenges and think about what you could do to improve the situation
Gratitude

It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have Instead of fretting about what you do not have, appreciate what you do have No matter how big the tragedy is, try to be thankful for what you did not lose. In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you, try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not.

Reaching Out Reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves The process develops your spiritual quotient Leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too. Self-Belief No matter what the situation is, belief in yourself Focus on your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright Heal your negativity and self destructive behaviour Belief is, by far, the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with eliminate mistrust, malice, negativity, disbelief or cynicism. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements.

Enhancing self-esteem

Finding Out about Self Self Awareness Self Discovery Self Knowledge Self Confrontation

Evaluation of Self Self Confidence Self Assurance SELF ESTEEM Self Respect Self Worth

Development of Self Self Development Personal Development Character Training Character Building Character Development Self Realization Self Actualization Self Discipline Self Help Self Expression

The Emotional Intelligence Framework

SelfAwareness
Emotional Self-Awareness Accurate Self-Assessment Self-Confidence

Social Awareness
Empathy Organizational Awareness Service Orientation

SelfManagement
Self-Control Trustworthiness Conscientiousness Adaptability Achievement Orientation Initiative

Social Skills
Developing Others Leadership Influence Communication Change Catalyst Conflict Management Building Bonds Teamwork & Collaboration

Five key principles

Grow your own job on Proactively seek out occasions for development Balance systematic planning with creative opportunism Find and use role models Make sure you continue to enjoy what you do

The value of personal development

Maximisation of opportunities Personal growth Role enlargement Lifelong learning Greater job satisfaction

Self-Talk A personal dialogue in which the athlete interprets feelings, perceptions and convictions and gives himself instructions and reinforcement.

Once mastered, can become an effective coping strategy to: Overcome anxiety Increase self-confidence Improve technique Task-specific statements Encouragement and effort Mood words

3 Categories of self-talk to increase confidence

Functions of self-talk

Building & developing self-efficacy Skill acquisition work harder to change bad habits, learn new good habits Creating & changing mood Controlling effort Focusing attention or concentration now

Self-Confidence True Self-Confidence is a realistic belief or expectation of achieving success. Self-Confidence is: not what you hope to do but what you realistically expect to do not what you tell others but your innermost thoughts about your realistic capabilities, not pride in past deeds but a realistic judgment about what you are able to do Optimal Self-Confidence Competence -- possess the knowledge, strategies, skills and abilities necessary for success, Preparation sufficiently prepared so you can successfully perform those skills and strategies in a particular competitive situation. Self-efficacy Self-efficacy is a realistic belief or expectation about achieving success on a specific task in a specific situation. Self-efficacy is least impacted by personality because it is highly specific, unstable and based on situational factors such as task difficulty, preparation, recent successes/failures and playing conditions.

Hierarchical Model of Self-esteem

Global Level

Self-Esteem

Domain Level

Physical

Mental

Social

Artistic

Context Level

Sport Competence

Attractive

Body

Physical Strength

Physical Condition

Enhancing Self Confidence

Performance Accomplishments Vicarious Experiences

Behaviors

SelfConfidence

Performance

Verbal Persuasion
Thoughts Physiological Arousal Control

See all lives as gifts calling us to gratitude and celebration Use our creativity for uplifting purposes

Creativi ty

Celebrat ion Helping

Lend a helping hand to others, and pass the torch

Be loyal even to those who are banged up a bit

Loyalty

Awareness of suffering and a desire to relieve it

Compas sion

Developing your The 10 personality Ways by of developing Gift-Love others

Forgiveness

Forgive and make apologies meaningful

Carefro ntation

Have courage to confront evil with love, not malice

Listen attentively so that others might feel significant

Attentive Listening

Humor Respect
Smile in humor and mirthful joy that frees from anxiety

Have respect and reverence so as not to manipulate others

Creativity and its impact on personality development Encouraging Highly creative people in any field are often driven by strong self-belief in their abilities in that field. Having a positive self-image as a creative person can be fundamental to developing creative performance

Identifying Creative achievement is often driven by a persons love of a particular instrument, for the feel of the material, for the excitement of a style of work that catches the imagination.

Fostering Creativity draws from many ordinary abilities and skills rather than one special gift or talent. The development of many common capacities and sensitivities can help to foster creativity.

Confidence Development Tips Develop a systematic goal setting program and log and graph progress, Create a personal Hall-of-Fame Design a systematic conditioning program and maximize preparation Use effective modeling strategies Replay past successes and imagine future triumphs Emphasize confidence-building thoughts

Developing & Maintaining Competitive Confidence Appraise situations as challenges rather than threats, Develop readiness, performance and recovery plans to deal with problems Emphasize problem-focused coping strategies to reduce threats Use emotion-focused coping techniques to feel less threatened Focus on more controllable process and performance goals

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success

unexpected in common hours.

-Thoreau

Thank You