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Lesson 7 Understanding ourselves and others

Introduction

Today we call the world GLOBAL VILLAGE and the world has become NEIGHOURHOOD

But that does not mean that we have grown in relationships. Even though we communicate very faster ways, at that does not mean we have closer relationship.

People, families and countries have very serious relationship problems. In order to do the ministry effectively we need to understand people and do an Incarnational ministry. Only then we can touch people.

Conviction Needed

1. Each person / community is worth wile, because we are all created in the image of God. They are all God's Children. 2. Every person / community is unique. 3. Every person/ community has lot of potential. 4. Every Person and the Community has problems. 5. We are partners with God in the cosmic process of healing, transformation. Justice and integrity of creation.

Know this By quality of inter personal relationship the disciples were called Christians! Disciple - Love for one another - Love for neighbors We communicate with people by three ways; o Verbally - through spech o Physically - by touch o Symbolically - flowers

KGT Training We express ourself in 4 ways 1. Unconditional positive stokes 2. Conditional positive stokes 3. Conditional negative stokes 4. Unconditional negative stokes

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Share: An experience, where some one have loved you accepting as you are.

To do : Present condition of myself (mark an arrow) Very Rarely Unconditional positive strokes Conditional positive strokes Conditional Negative Strokes UnConditional Negative strokes Rarely Sometimes Often Very often

Know the Truth

Unconditional positive stroke is the basic for successful ministry. 20 percent of the patients, does not need any medicines, but they need some one to Listen to them. We need to become people who show unconditional love. If we do the first two, later if we do the 3rd, people will accept it (In Conditional negative correction is involved). Unconditional Negative hurts / breaks people. Illustration: Husband from office

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Ideal Person NEVER Unconditional positive strokes Conditional positive strokes Conditional Negative Strokes UnConditional Negative strokes Rarely Sometimes Often Very often

Principles of Strokes economy

1. Give Stokes which needs to give. Accept others as child of God as I am a child of God. Un conditionlay God accepted me. 2. Accept the Stokes given to you. Take it. Dont argue it. 3. Ask for Stokes that you need. 4. Reject when an unconditional negative stoke is shown. Illus: Lotus water / thick skin you need 5. Stroking self Accept yourself / I am good at this Appriciate Your good thing Accept your weaknesses. I am weak in some thing and repent / set right. If you have shown unconditional negative stokes, it is time you ask for forgiveness from the people you have hurt.

KGT Training Understanding others Purpose: Know more about your own personalities

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Know more about the personalities of others who are significant in your life Learn how to be more effective in interpersonal relationships Learn how to maximize the effectiveness of ministry by understanding the personality types of yourself and others

Things to Know

1. Everyone are created by God in a unique way. 2. Each stage of age and stage they have needs and challenges. 3. People are compared with the following animals based on their age. Upto 14 years 15-28 years 29-56 years 57 onwards - monkey - Horse - Donkey - Python

4. People have the following following four types of personality.

A. Comparing Extroverts And Introverts Extroverts Energy directed outward toward people, things and ideas Focus wants to change the world Attitude relaxed and confident, accessible and understandable Work environment varied and action-oriented, prefers to be around others quiet and concentrated, prefers to be alone reserved and questioning, subtle and impenetrable wants to understand the world directed inward toward concepts and ideas Introverts

KGT Training B. Comparing Sensing And Intuition

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Sensing Mode of perception five senses (experience) Focus details, practicality, reality, present enjoyment

Intuition sixth sense (possibilities)

patterns, innovation, expectation, and future achievement Orientation

live life as it is

change, rearrange life Work environment

prefers using learned skills, pays attention to details, and makes few factual errors

prefers adding new skills, looks at the big picture, and is patient with complexity

C. Comparing Thinkers And Feelers

Thinking Focus logic of a situation, things, truth and principles

Feeling

human values and needs, people, tact and harmony Work environment

brief and business-like, impersonal and treats others fairly

naturally friendly, personal, treats others as they need to be treated Contribution to society

intellectual, critical of exposure of wrongs and solutions to problems

loyal, supportive, shows care and concern for others, enthusiastic

KGT Training D. Comparing Judging And Perception Judgment Attitude decisive, playful, likes to be right, self-regimented and purposeful Work environment focus on completing tasks, making decisions quickly, and wants only the essentials of the job focus on starting a task, postpones decisions, and wants to find out all about the job curious, spontaneous, misses nothing, flexible, adaptable and tolerant perception

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Things to do : 1. Understand your personality.

2. Now find out your partners personality.

3. Begin to grow in the personality you are missing. we must develop the skills we dont have.

4. Acknowledge others personality.

Discuss: Share your last fight or disagreement you have experienced. Now let us find out how we can avoid this if we understand ourself and others?

Discuss: The personality of Jesus.

Commit: Let us commit to live like Jesus.