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Yo Meet!!! COPYRIGHT 1994, Ross Jeffries. All rights reserved. No p rt of this !oo" # $ !e reprod%&ed i' '$ for# or '$ #e 's (itho%t (ritte' per#issio' fro# the %thor. P%!lished i' the )*A. +or #ore i'for# tio' or free & t log, &o't &t, Ross Jeffries -.4/ 0ristol P r"( $, *%ite .1/ C%lver Cit$, CA 92.32. D"SC#A"MER Neither the %thor, 'or the p%!lisher of this !oo" t "e '$ respo'si!ilit$ for the %se or #is%se of the i'for# tio' it prese'ts. The re der is ( r'ed th t this # teri l prese'ts e4tre#el$ po(erf%l te&h'olog$, to !e %sed t the re ders o(' ris". This !oo" is prese'ted for i'for# tio' 'd e'tert i'#e't p%rposes o'l$. 0e ( r'ed, therefore, th t this !oo" 'either sserts the leg lit$ of '$ of the #ethods it des&ri!es, 'd the %thor %'e5%ivo& ll$ dis&l i#s '$ respo'si!ilit$ for d # ges res%lti'g fro# the %se of '$ of the te&h'i5%es or the &o'se5%e'&es of i#ple#e'ti'g '$ &o't i'ed here i'.. 6Give #e five #i'%tes to t l" ( $ #$ f &e, 'd I7ll !ed the 8%ee' of +r '&e.6 ... 9olt ire 6I &o#e to $o% (ith o'l$ (ords, :oo"s 'd #o'e$ I h ve 'o'e, 0%t sho%ld desire re5%ire it, ;$ (ords (ill !e r #e o%t<6 ... *peed *ed%&er7s Creed "NTRODUCT"ON WHY SPED SEDT"ON$ O'e of the to%ghest re lities (e h ve to f &e s #e' is, th t for the #ost of %s, getti'g l id is for# of g #!li'g, 'd the g #e is %tron&'y rigged g i'st %s. Thi'" ! &" to the l st ti#e $o% h d d te. C7#o' ... it ( s'7t th t lo'g go, ( s it= >id'7t $o% fi'd $o%rself, either !efore or d%ri'g the eve'i'g, (o'deri'g thi'gs li"e, 6?he' sho%ld I # "e #$ #ove= A# I goi'g to get so#e to'ight= ?ill I get ' c(y=6. A'd th t7s the !otto# li'e ... for too # '$ of %s, de li'g (ith (o#e' is # tter of l%&", #e 'i'g it is so#ethi'g (hi&h is o%t of o%r &o'trol. 0%t hold o' se&o'd. ?h t if $o% &o%ld )e%i&n $o%r o(' 6g #e of &h '&e6 (here YO) get to set the r%les= ?h t if $o% &o%ld pl $ po"er g #e (here $o% get to pi&" the & rds $o%7re de lt, $o% get to see her h 'd *e+ore $o% !et, 'd $o% get to !orro( #o'e$ fro# her to !et g i'st her= Yo%7d pl $ th t g #e ,- .o r% /er )a$, th t7s (h t. A'd t.at is (h t *peed *ed%&tio' does, it / t% yo *ac( in0contro' !$ te &hi'g $o% ho( to &re te, o' repe t !le, predi&t !le ! sis, the "i'd of res%lts $o% ( 't (ith the "i'd of (o#e' $o% ( 't, w.ere an) w.en yo want it0 >oes this so%'d li"e ' o%tr geo%s &l i#= I &ert i'l$ hope so@ it goes g i'st the !eliefs of o r entire c 't re@ &%lt%re th t te &hes $o% th t 6 ttr &tio'6 & '7t !e &re ted, th t it A%st h s to !e # tter of 6&he#istr$6, th t is either there or it is'7t. 0$ the ti#e $o%7re do'e (ith this !oo", or the ho#e st%d$ &o%rse of (hi&h it is p rt, $o%7ll !e thoro%ghl$ &o'vi'&ed th t o%r e'tire &%lt%re i% tota''y + '' o+ %.it. Bve' #ore i#port 't $o%7ll !e !le to %se this "'o(ledge to give $o% ' i'&redi!le edge over 99C of the pop%l tio', 'ot o'l$ (he' it &o#es to getti'g l id, !%t i' ever$ re of $o%r life. SPEC"A# NOTE: T.i% *oo( i% )e%i&ne) a% a WORKBOOK, to *e %e) a% /art o+ 1y entire S/ee) Se) ction Ho1e St )y Co r%e0 T.i% 1ean% two t.in&%: 1

1. "t2% not )e%i&ne) to *e /a%%i3e'y rea)0 Yo .a3e to acti3e'y /artici/ate0 ,0 "+ yo )i)n2t ac4 ire it a% /art o+ t.e entire co r%e, w.ic. inc' )e% a*o t 5, .o r% o+ a )io ta/e%, a1on& ot.er t.in&%, yo %.o ') %erio %'y con%i)er )oin& it0 O'e thi'g #ore. This !oo" is divided i' t(o se&tio's, theor$ 'd pr &ti& l ppli& tio'. If $o% ( 't to A%#p he d to the pr &ti& l ppli& tio' se&tio', go he d, feel free. J%st # "e s%re th t l ter $o% go ! &" 'd get the theor$ st%ff do('@ $o% sho%ld %'derst 'd (h t $o%7re doi'g if $o% re ll$ ( 't to get e4&elle't t this st%ff. Ross Jeffries :os A'geles, C lifor'i J%'e, 1994. CHAPTER 5: THERE2S NO SUCH TH"N6, THERE2S NO SUCH TH"N6, THERE2S NO SUCH TH"N6!!!!! O". Here is the first "e$ se&ret to %'derst 'di'g, 'ot o'l$ *peed *ed%&tio', !%t '$ for# of i'fl%e'&e or pers% sio', i' '$ re of life, There7s 'o s%&h 7t.in&7 s love. There7s 'o s%&h 7t.in&7 s p ssio'. There7s 'o s%&h 7t.in&7 s ttr &tio', or &he#istr$, or l%st. I "'o(, I "'o(, $o%7re s $i'g. Th t7s the pro!le# ... for #ost of $o%, #ost of the ti#e, there7s 'o s%&h thi'g. There7s A%st !oredo#, fr%str tio', 'd pl $i'g (ith ;r. ?i'"$. 0%t th t7s 'ot (h t I7# t l"i'g !o%t, so p $ &lose tte'tio'. I7# 'ot s $i'g th t people do'7t e4perie'&e %tate% of 6 ttr &tio'6 or 6&he#istr$6 or 6l%st6. ?h t I # s $i'g is th t these %tate% are /roce%%e% t.at ta(e /'ace in%i)e t.e . 1an 1in) an) *o) $. ?hi&h #e 's th t the$ re st tes th t ... CAN BE SUMMONED FORTH AND D"RECTED AT W"##!!! Here7s A' B4 #ple, 6+ lli'g i' :ove6 B4posed<<<< O". *i'&e I7# !ei'g prett$ ge'er l 'd theoreti& l here let7s get !it #ore spe&ifi& 'd t l" !o%t (h t ever$ (o# ' dre #s !o%t, f lli'g i' love. No(, ! sed o' (h t I7ve s id so f r, do $o% thi'" I !elieve 6love6 is ! sed o' so#e #$sterio%s 6&he#istr$6 th t flo(s !et(ee' t(o people= ; $!e it7s & %sed !$ !%ttD' "ed little 'gel ' #ed C%pid (ho shoots ' rro( i'to $o%r ss= No, Here7s ho( people f ll i' love, +irst, %'derst 'd $o% do NOT f ll i' love (ith so#eo'e (he' $o% re i' their prese'&e. No. Yo% f ll i' love (he' $o%7re off !$ $o%rself, t.in(in& a*o t t.e1 a+terwar)% . This is (h$ it is so h$p'oti& ll$ po(erf%l, !e& %se yo are )oin& it to yo r%e' f, 'd people re l( $s their !est h$p'otists. Here7s ho( it h ppe's, $o% go o%t (ith so#eo'e, # $!e eve' o'e d te. A'd the' $o% go ho#e, 'd $o%7re l$i'g there, thi'"i'g !o%t the#. A'd, $o% +or1 an i1a&e of the# i' $o%r #i'd. A'd s.$o% do th t, $o% st rt to 'i%t to yo r%e'+ a'' t.e 4 a'itie% !o%t the# th t $o% li"e, 6*he7s so , she7s so , she7s re ll$ .6 ; $!e the' $o% /ict re yo an) t.e1 .a3in& 'ot% o+ + n in a'' %ort% o+ %it ations. The' $o% &et t.at war1, + nny +ee'in& right i' $o%r sol r ple4%s, 'd the', the ' il i' $o%r &offi', $o% %ay .er na1e to yo r%e'+ , or 8 ti1es. If $o%7re re ll$ gee", # $!e $o% eve' d '&e ro%'d the ho%se si'gi'g it<< Or $o% possi!l$ go !o%t *rin& / .er na1e in e3ery con3er%ation0 *o%'d f #ili r= No(, s $o% re& ll the ti#es i' $o%r p st (he' $o% did this, (ere $o% the' !le to st $ &ool, i' &o'trol of $o%rself AN> the rel tio'ship= Or (ere $o% & lli'g her ever$ d $, l( $s ( 'ti'g to see her, 'd ea&er to "iss her ss, to the poi't (here she, of &o%rse, dropped $o%= Here7s the poi't, 6love6 i% a /roce%% /eo/'e )o to t.e1%e'3e%! It7s 'ot 7t.in&7 $o% trip over or 7.o'e7 $o% f ll i'to. A'd I "'o(, eve' tho%gh I7# 'ot there ( t&hi'g $o%, th t s I des&ri!e it here o' p per, $o% re& lled 'd (e't thro%gh th t pro&ess $o%rself, 'd re& lled the feeli'gs sso&i ted (ith it. A'd if I & ' do it to $o%, o' p per, (he' I7# 'ot eve' there, the' $o% & ', if $o% "'o( ho(, s"illf%ll$ des&ri!e this Eor '$ otherF pro&ess to (o# ' i' $o%r prese'&e, li'" it to $o%rself, 'd i' # tter of #i'%tes, & %se her ...

UNDER6O THAT PROCESS AND FA## "N #O9E W"TH YOU ON THE SPOT, DUMMY!!!! Thi'" !o%t this for se&o'd. The d%#! pro&ess $o% did to $o%rself & ' 'o( !e %sed to # "e .er f (' ll over yo%, repe t !l$ 'd predi&t !l$< Of &o%rse, the s #e thi'g pplies to '$ other pro&ess $o% ( 't her to r%', or st te $o% ( 't her to e4perie'&e, (hether it7s forgetti'g $o%r &o#petitor, E?e7ll sho( $o% ho( to do this l ter (ith #$ i'f #o%s 60o$frie'd >estro$er P tter'6F or '$thi'g else $o% & re to ' #e. "+ %.e2% )one it or e:/erience) it once *e+ore, yo can &et .er to )o it or e:/erience it wit. yo a&ain!!0How T.e S/ee) Se) cer T.in(% T.in&% Di++erent'y I' light of th t %'derst 'di'g, &o'sider this for A%st se&o'd. :et7s s $ there7s so#e A%i&$, s%perDhot, i'&redi!le ! !e $o%7ve l%sted fter for lo'g ti#e. A'd, to f%rther s(eete' the s&e' rio, let7s s $ thro%gh pr $er, good " r# , 'd the i'ter&essio' of the Pope, $o%7ve # ' ged to get d te (ith her. *ho%ld $o% !e s"i'g $o%rself 5%estio's li"e, 6?here sho%ld I t "e her= Ho( sho%ld I dress=6. If $o% o'l$ s" $o%rself these tota''y ni1/ortant 4 e%tion%, the' $o% re a c. 1p. No. +ro# 'o( o', $o%7ll s" $o%rself the 5%estio' I l( $s get the #e' i' #$ se#i' rs to s", If I &o%ld &re te any %tate% o+ 1in) " want in t.i% wo1a', this eve'i'g, (h t st tes (o%ld I ( 't her to e4perie'&e (ith #e= O"= Ho( !o%t st tes of, ;#UST; ;WANTON DES"RE; ;UTTER FASC"NAT"ON; ;FEROC"OUS HORN"NESS; ;HOPE#ESS#Y "N #O9E; ;S#A9"SH OBED"ENCE; ;ORA# F"<AT"ON; Not ! d for st rters, h%h= If $o% & ' get (o# ' to e4perie'&e t.e%e "i'd of st tes i' $o%r prese'&e E 'd to thi'" !o%t $o% this ( $ o!sessivel$ eve' (he' $o%r 'ot ro%'dF do $o% thi'" $o% re goi'g to (i'd %p (ith A%st polite pe&" o' the &hee", h 'dsh "e good'ight, 'd 6let7s A%st !e frie'ds6, t the e'd of the eve'i'g= Or is she goi'g to !e ll over $o% li"e flies o' #orti&i '= Yo% see, r ther th ' thi'"i'g of ho( to get her to do ll the *e.a3ior% $o% ( 't fro# her, i.e., h%#pi'g, s%&"i'g, et&., +ir%t thi'" of (h t %tate% o+ 1in) $o% ( 't her to !e i'@ %tate% (here it (o%ld !e nat ra' for her to do ll those ' st$ thi'gs to 'd (ith $o%. This !ri'gs %s to se&o'd "e$ poi't th t sep r tes *peed *ed%&er fro# the Aver ge +r%str ted Ch%#p. Yo% see, the A+C t l"s A%st to !e fl ppi'g his lips, tr$i'g to !e e'tert i'i'g, or # $!e, g%lp, tr$i'g to get the girl to %'derst 'd hi#. The.*peed *ed%&er E 'd '$ good ; ster of Pers% sio'F "'o(s th t he #%st ....A#WAYS COMMUN"CATE W"TH A D"RECT"ON AND OUTCOME "N M"ND!!!! Yo% see, so#e of (h t I7# goi'g to sho( $o% i' l ter &h pters # $ & %se $o% to thi'", 6?ill the girl %'derst 'd (h t I7# s $i'g to her=6. A'd #$ respo'se is, THE PURPOSE OF YOUR COMMUN"CAT"ON "S NOT TO 6"9E HER AN UNDERSTAND"N60 THE PURPOSE OF YOUR COMMUN"CAT"ON "S TO 6ET YOU A RESU#T!!!! Th t 6res%lt6 is to p%t her i' st te of l%st, hor'i'ess, f s&i' tio', et&. th t $o% ( 't her i', !e& %se o'&e she7s i' these st tes, it7s nat ra' for her to want to )o ll those ' st$ thi'gs to $o%r !od$ an) to want yo to )o t.e1 to .er%. A :ittle ;et phor To +%rther Yo%r )'derst 'di'g O'&e, I s"ed ; ster of Pers% sio' if he &o%ld give #e !etter %'derst 'di'g of ho( to i'fl%e'&e (o#e'. He told #e the follo(i'g stor$, 6?he' I set o%t to i'fl%e'&e (o# ', I li"e to thi'" of #$self s fisher# '. Bver$thi'g I do, ever$ &tio' I t "e is or&ani=e) aro n) 'an)in& t.at +i%.0 No(, I7ll )an&'e the ! it i' the ( ter, 'd the' I7ll ( t&h to see (h t the fish does. A'd the fish (ill &o#e %p 'd s#ell the ! it, 'd p%t it7s .

#o%th ro%'d the ! it. A'd I7# watc.in& to see (h t p rt of the ! it the fish li"es. No(, right here is (here #ost people # "e their #ist "e. Yo% see, s soo' s the fish !ites do(' the$ st rt reeli'g i' th t li'e li"e &r G$. 0%t I 'ever do th t, !e& %se I &o'sider th t I o'l$ h ve a 5> /o n) +i%.in& 'ine to & t&h 5?> /o n) +i%h. *o if the fish feels #e p%lli'g o' the li'e, it7s goi'g to p%ll ! &" 'd th t li'e (ill S@N@A@P 'd 'o fish for #e. *o (h t I do is st $ right i' fro't of th t fish, 'd (h t I do is " %tart ree'in& 1y%e'+ to t.e +i% h. *o s I ( l" %p o' th t fish the fish does'7t feel '$ t%g or p%ll o' the li'e so it does'7t resist #e. A'd it A%st see#s ' t%r l to it s I get &loser 'd &loser to it. A'd the &loser I get to it, the stro'ger #$ li'e is 'd the s# ller the fish gets. Till !$ the ti#e I7# right %p to th t fish (ith #$ 'et, I7ve got a ?>> /o n) 'ine for 12 po%'d fish. A'd the fish feels so ' t%r l th t it.A%st eli#i' tes it7s o(' resist '&e 'd thi'"s, 6He$ this is right. This is ' t%r l. It7s ' t%r l to A%#p i' the !o t, get s"i''ed, g%tted, fried %p 'd e te'<6 No(, ( s'7t th t 'i&e stor$= I ( 't $o% to t.in( we'' on it, !e& %se I do'7t ( 't $o% to go # "i'g the s #e d%#! #ist "es I # de (he' I ( s first le r'i'g *peed *ed%&tio'. :et #e e4pl i' !it. Yo% see, (he' I first st rted o%t, I ( s so e4&ited !$ the f &t th t I &o%ld get ver$ hotDloo"i'g (o#e' se4% ll$ e4&ited 'd t%r'ed o' i' A%st fe( #i'%tes ti#e, th t I (e't right for the A%g%l r ever$ ti#e o%t. *o, ( s I s%&&essf%l i' getti'g these (o#e' hot 'd !othered= Yo% !et. 0%t did I get l id doi'g it= USUA##Y NOT!!! 0e& %se I & #e o' stro'g, (itho%t softe'i'g the# %p first th t ... " ON#Y SUCCEEDED "N SCAR"N6 THEM OFF!!!! Th t7s right. Yes, if $o% +ir%t do the se4% l p tter's I7ll te &h $o%, (o# ' (ill ver$ li"el$ get 'i&el$ hot 'd !othered. 0%t %'less she is lre d$ a .i&.'y %e: a' /er%on (ho (ill f%&" t the drop of h t, or she "'o(s $o% 5%ite (ell lre d$, getti'g her ro%sed 'd t%r'ed o' to $o% right off the ! t is A%st goi'g to s& re her. *he7s A%st goi'g to thi'" ... 6God, I7# re ll$ getti'g hot, !%t I sho%ld'7t !e feeli'g this ( $. I do'7t eve' "'o( this g%$<6. I' other (ords, $o%7re go'' t%g the li'e so h rd, it7s goi'g to S@N@A@ P 'd $o%r fish is goi'g to s(i# ( $. Re#e#!er, s $o% %se the p tter's I7# goi'g to sho( $o%, there re &o'sider tio's $o% h ve to "eep i' #i'd, li"e ho( (ell $o% lre d$ "'o( the (o# ' 'd (h t "i'd of !o'd $o%7ve lre d$ !%ilt (ith her@ to (h t degree she lre d$ is highl$ se4% l perso'@ 'd fi' ll$ if she h s '$ # Aor tr%stH&o'trol iss%es. Therefore, it7s %s% ll$ e4tre#el$ i#port 't to +ir%t %se the te&h'i5%es I7ll sho( $o% th t &re te st tes of i'te'se e#otio' l &o''e&tio', s if she7s "'o(' $o% her (hole life, *e+ore #ovi'g o' to the se4% l ro%s l st%ff. ?he' $o% &re te th t "i'd of &o''e&tio' E$o% & ' do it i' !o%t 1 #i'%tes %si'g (h t I7ll sho( $o%F, yo o+ten )on2t e3en .a3e to )o t.e %e: a' %t + f, si'&e for #ost (o#e' th t "i'd of &o''e&tio' is (h t se4 is ll !o%t '$( $. EG%$s re differe't ... so#eti#es I thi'" (e A%st.( 't to d%#p lo ds=F. Patty Ca(e, Patty Ca(e, Ba(er2% Man: Anot.er Meta/.or To He'/ Yo Un)er%tan) O'e %sef%l ( $ to thi'" !o%t *peed *ed%&tio' is to &o'sider the pro&ess of ! "i'g & "e. +irst, !efore $o% eve' get o%t the re&ipe, $o% h ve to ?ANT to ! "e the & "e. Yo% h ve to 0B:IB9B $o% & ' ! "e the & "e. The', #ost i#port 'tl$, $o% h ve to get off $o%r re r 'd ... 6ET BAK"N6, BUDDY!!! The v rio%s p tter's I7# goi'g to !e sh ri'g (ith $o% thro%gho%t this &o%rse & ' !e &o'sidered to !e re&ipes. I' order to %se re&ipe &orre&tl$ $o% 'ot o'l$ h ve to # "e s%re $o% h ve the right i'gredie'ts, !%t $o% lso h ve to # "e s%re ... YOU USE THEM "N THE R"6HT ORDER OR SEAUENCE!! As ' e4 #ple, $o% do'7t (hip %p the & "e #i4, sti&" it i' the ove' t 4/2 degrees for thirt$ #i'%tes, 'd the', (he' $o%7re do'e, !e t i' the egg<< The s #e holds tr%e for the v rio%s p tter's I7# goi'g to sho( $o%. Yo% h ve to )o t.e1 in t.e ri&.t %e4 ence. The follo(i'g se5%e'&e is the for#%l to get virt% ll$ '$ (o# ' $o% ( 't to !e # dl$, p ssio' tel$ i' love (ith $o%. It7s (h t r%'s l#ost ever$ p tter' I7ll te &h $o%. 50 6et .er attention ,0 E%ta*'i%. %tate% o+ .er +ee'in& an incre)i*'e *on) an) connection to yo

80 Create %tate% o+ .ornine%%, aro %a', attraction -0 A1/'i+y t.o%e %tate%, an) 'in( t.e1 to yo No(, do'7t (i'&e t ll this. *o#e of these p tter's re o'l$ three or fo%r se'te'&es lo'g, 'd do'7t t "e #ore th ' / #i'%tes to do<< The re so' I7# t "i'g s%&h p i's to e4pl i' is I ( 't $o% to %'derst 'd .ow (h t $o%7re doi'g (or"s, so $o% & ' i#prove %po' it 'd &o#e %p (ith st%ff eve' !etter<< Yo% see, the ver ge *peed *ed%&er (ill A%st !li'dl$ #e#oriGe the (ords of sed%&tio' p tter', (itho%t %'derst 'di'g (h t he7s doi'g. A'd, i' # '$ & ses this (ill (or". He7ll still !e t o%t his %'tr i'ed &o#petitio' 9 ti#es o%t of 12.. 0%t the s# rt g%$, the tr%e, !l%e, deep i' the g%ts *peed *ed%&er, (ill ( 't to %'derst 'd (h t he7s doi'g. A'd he7ll get so good t it th t .. 000 THE 6"R#S HE2S BAN6"N6 W"## BR"N6 THE"R FEMA#E FR"ENDS AROUND BUST TO SHOW THEM WHAT THEY29E 6OT, AND HE2## W"ND UP NA"#"N6 THEM TOO!! A Wor) a*o t So+tener% O'e of the thi'gs th t & ' !e %sef%l to $o% s $o% fi'd $o%rself %si'g these p tter's i' ver$ po(erf%l ( $, is to 1a(e % re yo %o+ten w.at yo )o, !$ thro(i'g i' so#e fl%ff phr ses. +or e4 #ple, I7ll ofte' s $ thi'gs li"e, 6Yo% "'o(, I hope $o% do'7t #i'd #$ s"i'g this, !%t o'e of the thi'gs I li"e to do is to fi'd o%t !o%t the perso' I7# getti'g to "'o(, 'd I do th t !$ s"i'g 5%estio's !o%t (h t7s i#port 't to the#. *o s $o% loo" t #e' 'd thi'" !o%t (h t (e7re t l"i'g !o%t, I7d A%st li"e to s" $o%,6 A'd the' I get o' to the p tter' I7# goi'g to %se (ith her. No(, $o%7ll fi'd th t !$ doi'g this $o% & ' get ( $ (ith st%ff th t she7d 'or# ll$ #ight & ll $o% o'. Other softe'ers #ight !e, 1. I "'o( this #ight see# little (ild, !%t A%st for the s "e of this pl $f%l dis&%ssio' (e7re h vi'g ... .. I A%st ( 't to s $, 'd I hope $o% do'7t fi'd this too i'tr%sive ... 3. ?o%ld $o% #i'd if I A%st s"ed $o%, A%st for the s "e of helpi'g #e to %'derst 'd !etter ... All of these (or" !e& %se the$ p &e '$ possi!le o!Ae&tio' she #ight h ve to goi'g lo'g (ith $o%..R%les 'd Attit%des Of Jeffries *peed *ed%&tio' 1. Al( $s &o##%'i& te (ith dire&tio' or o%t&o#e i' #i'd. ?he' $o% t l" to (o# ', 'ever do it A%st to !e fl ppi'g $o%r lips<< Thi'" of the st tes $o% ( 't her i' 'd the' %se $o%r s"ills to dire&t her there<< .. +irst &re te st tes of f s&i' tio', &o''e&tio', feeli'g ' i'te'se !o'd, !efore $o% #ove for the se4% l st%ff< ;ost (o#e' (ill 'ot feel &o#fort !le if $o% get the# ro%sed first 'd *DNDADP goes th t fish li'e< 3. The p%rpose of $o%r &o##%'i& tio' is 'ot to give her 'd %'derst 'di'g@ the p%rpose is to get $o% res%lt<< *peed *ed%&tio' (or"s !$ # 'ip%l ti'g 'd dire&ti'g %'&o's&io%s pro&esses, NOT !$ getti'g her &o's&io%s gree#e't. :e ve rg%i'g 'd e4pl i'i'g to $o%r &o#petitors. 4. *peed *ed%&i'g is f%'<< If $o% re'7t !ei'g dire&ted !$ pl $f%l ttit%de, the' $o% re'7t doi'g *peed *ed%&tio'. /. Ieep $o%r s"ills se&ret< A'$ te&h'i5%e (or"s !est if it is hidde' 'd %'e4pe&ted, so do'7t tell the# th t $o% "'o( this st%ff<< -. 0e st i'less steel fist i' velvet glove<< Al( $s !e s lo( "e$ 'd %'derst ted s possi!le i' the ppli& tio' of $o%r s"ills. Not, 6h h , I7# doi'g this to $o%6, !%t 6gee, is'7t it i'teresti'g ho( the #i'd (or"s=6 1. Al( $s go fro# le st i'tr%sive to #ost i'tr%sive< *o#e of the te&h'i5%es I7ll sho( i'volve getti'g people to pi&t%re thi'gs i'side their he ds i' &ert i' ( $. This is so#ethi'g $o% l( $s ( 't to do :A*T, (he' the$ re lre d$ hot 'd hor'$ 'd %tterl$ f s&i' ted !$ $o%, NB9BR +IR*T<<< J. Never resist (h t (o# ' offers DD t%r' it ro%'d 'd %se it s lever ge< A'$ respo'se (o# ' # "es to $o%r #oves & ' !e t%r'ed o' her 'd %sed to get (h t $o% ( 't, if $o% rel 4 'd >ON7T ARG)B or A*I +OR BKP:ANATION*. ?e7ll sho( $o% l ter ho( to %tterl$ destro$ (o# '7s o!Ae&tio's 'd !%llshit, %si'g this pri'&iple. 3

9. Ch lle'ge is (here the f%' is<< ?h t is'7t $et (or"i'g is the door( $ to 'e( po(er 'd %'derst 'di'g<<<. 12. The less i'iti l ttr &tio' she h s for $o%, or the less se4% l perso' she is, the #ore $o%7ll h ve to rel$ o' A%i&i'g %p her !od$ feeli'gs to get her to f%&" $o%< Yo%7ll fi'd th t ever$ (o# ' v ries@ so#e A%st 'eed the i'te'se &o''e&tio' st tes to !e p%shed over the li'e@ others $o%7ll 'eed to dd i' s%!D#od lities 'd '&hori'g@ 'd still others (ill 'eed ' i'te'se st te des&riptio' !efore the$ po%'&e o' $o%<< ? t&h (h t respo'ses $o% re getti'g 'd respo'd &&ordi'gl$< 11. )se softe'ers li!er ll$. 0$ doi'g so, $o%7ll !e !le to i'trod%&e the (ildest topi&s, s the #ost i'tr%sive 5%estio's, 'd still see# li"e respe&tf%l, 'or# l g%$, i'ste d of se4D&r Ged #i'dDf%&"er. @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ -Chapter 1 One Review and Exercises: Cir&le the right 's(er, 1. A s# rt *peed *ed%&er 'ever pl 's the st tes he ( 'ts (o# ' to e4perie'&e. ETr%eF E+ lseF .. Get girl ver$ hot 'd !othered first, 'd the' &re te deep &o''e&tio' ETr%eF E+ lseF 3. :ove is, EAF All $o% 'eed, $e h, $e h, $e h. E0F A s(eet #$ster$ of life th t 'o o'e & ' e4pl i'. ECF A res%lt of i'ter' l #e't l pro&ess th t & ' !e re&re ted if properl$ des&ri!ed. E>F No'e of the !ove. 4. O' d te the #ost i#port 't thi'g to thi'" !o%t is, EAF ?here to t "e her. E0F Yo%rself. ECF If she s#ells re l ! d do(' there.. E>F No'e of the !ove. /. I' the sp &es !elo(, list so#e of the st tes $o%7d li"e ver$ hot (o# ' to e4perie'&e (ith $o%, EAF !sol%te E0F tot l ECF i'&redi!le E>F e4tre#e -. Ni&e g%$s %s% ll$ o'l$ get (o#e' to e4perie'&e st tes of, EAF drooli'g l%st E0F #ild &o#fort 'd e'Ao$#e't ECF %tter f s&i' tio' EBF No'e of the !ove 1. *peed *ed%&tio' (or"s !$, EAF The # gi& of !elievi'g 'd thi'"i'g !ig E0F Crossi'g $o%r fi'gers 'd hopi'g the Good + ir$ ?h t *its I' The *"$ (ill gr 't $o%r ever$ (ish ECF 0eggi'g 'd ple di'g for girl li"e $o% E>F >e&idi'g (h t st tes $o% ( 't her to e4perie'&e 'd the' s"illf%ll$ des&ri!i'g 'd li'"i'g those st tes to $o%. J. Ross Jeffries is, EAF The gre test ge'i%s the .2th Ce't%r$ h s ever see' E0F A verit !le God #o'g #e' 'd $o%r o'e, tr%e, g%r% ECF Goi'g to f%&" $o%r girlfrie'd if $o% give hi# h lf &h '&e. E>F All of the !ove 9. A good e4 #ple of softe'er (o%ld !e, EAF He$ sl%t, #i'd if I s" $o% so#ethi'g= E0F >o $o% #i'd if I s" $o% ho( #%&h $o% li"e to give he d= ECF ?he' I7# getti'g to "'o( so#eo'e, it7s i#port 't to #e th t I fi'd o%t (h t the$ re ll$ ( 't o%t of life. *o, if $o% do'7t #i'd #$ s"i'g, (h t7s re ll$ i#port 't to $o% !o%t ... E>F ?o%ld $o% #i'd if I t l"ed re ll$ dirt$ 'd s%ggestive to $o% for se&o'd=.6I 'ever hit (o# ' (ith her &lothes o'<6 ... *e ' > vid ;orto'

CHAPTER , DO YOU HA9E WHAT "T TAKES TO BE A SPEED SEDUCER$

If $o% & ' 's(er 6YB*6 to the follo(i'g 5%estio's, the' $o% & ' 5% lif$ to !e gre t *peed *ed%&er. O!vio%sl$ $o% h ve ' i'terest i' *peed *ed%&tio' or $o% (o%ld'7t !e re di'g this !oo". *o here &o#es the re l 5%estio's, 1. >o $o% si'&erel$ (ish to !e !le to sed%&e to's of gorgeo%s (o# ', 'd h ve the po(er to &re te st tes of over(hel#i'g l%st 'd ttr &tio' i' the hottest (o#e' ro%'d= .. >o $o% ( 't to st rt seei'g these res%lts i' # tter of . or 3 (ee"s, or re $o% A%st re di'g for &%riosit$= 3. Are $o% (illi'g to s%spe'd $o%r dis!elief 'd tr$ so#ethi'g 'e(, +IR*T, !efore $o% de&ide if it7s possi!le= 4. Are $o% (illi'g to give !o%t h lf ' ho%r d $, for the 'e4t .1 d $s, tr i'i'g i' *peed *ed%&tio', if it #e 's lifeti#e of po(er, &o'fide'&e 'd sto'ishi'g s%&&ess (ith the hottest (o#e' $o% & ' i# gi'e= If $o% 's(ered 6YB*6 to these fo%r 5%estio's, $o% re (ell o' $o%r ( $. Yo% see, the first re5%ire#e't for gre t'ess i' '$thi'g, i' '$ ( l" of life is ... THE R"6HT ATT"TUDE!!! ?ith the right ttit%de $o% & ' t%r' ro%'d virt% ll$ '$ &h lle'gi'g re of $o%r life 'd tr 'sfor# it i'to TRI);PH<<< ?itho%t the right ttit%de, eve' the !est of tools re A%st %seless de d(eight. The se&o'd re5%ire#e't is KNOW"N6 WHAT TO DO!! I (ill s%ppl$ $o%. (ith th t. I7ll t "e $o% !$ the h 'd 'd le d $o% step !$ step %'til $o% get so good t this $o% & ' # "e %p $o%r o(' st%ff, test it i' the re l (orld, 'd the' se'd it to #e for f%t%re dditio's to this !oo"< 0%t 'o o'e ... 'd I #e ' NO ONB, & ' # "e $o% h ve th t ttit%de. Yo% A%st h ve to de&ide th t this is it< No #ore livi'g #edio&re life. No #ore A%st getti'g !$ (he' it &o#es to (o#e'< Yo% ( 't #ore th ' th t. Yo% deserve #ore th ' th t. A'd, #ost i#port 't ... YOU W"## DO WHAT "T TAKES AND PAY THE PR"CE TO 6ET MORE THAN THAT!!! No( liste', *peed *ed%&tio' is desig'ed to (or". 0%t, the first fe( ti#es $o% tr$ it, $o% #ight st%#!le !it. Th t7s 'or# l. Th t7s ho( (e le r' to do '$thi'g. EA'd do'7t feel ! d !e& %se I st%#!led for !o%t $e r i' order to develop this i'to s&ie'&e so $o% (o'7t h ve to st%#!le #%&h t ll<F A'd f%rther thi'g to &o'sider, eve' (he' $o% get ver$ good t these s"ills, so#eti#es, for (h tever re so', $o% #ight r%' i'to stri'g of girls th t $o% A%st get 'o(here (ith. It is'7t $o%r f %lt. It7s 'ot th t $o%7re doi'g '$thi'g t ll (ro'g. It7s A%st th t ... SOME 6"R#S ARE WA#K"N6 AROUND DEAD "NS"DE! Yo% see, $o% & '7t get !lood fro# sto'e, #o'e$ fro# !ro"e perso', 'd $o% & '7t get p ssio' fro# frigid, &old, t%r'edDoff p%ss$. I' order to get her to re#e#!er st tes she7s e4perie'&ed !efore, 'd li'" the# %p (ith $o%, she h s to h ve e4perie'&ed the# !efore t %o1e ti#e i' her life. Other girls re A%st so f%&"ed %p i' the he d, the$ re'7t (orth pl $i'g (ith< 0%t th t7s re ll$ 'ot i#port 't. ?h t7s i#port 't is this, Are $o% (illi'g to go thro%gh the first fe( ti#es of 'ot 5%ite getti'g it, or r%''i'g i'to so#e i&eD5%ee's, i' order to MASTER THESE SK"##S an) enCoy a 'i+eti1e o+ + n wit. incre)i*'e wo1en$ Yo% see, i' se'se, I7d li"e $o% to *eco1e 'i(e a /it * '' (he' it &o#es to # steri'g the s"ills of *peed *ed%&tio'. ?h t does pit !%ll do, o'&e it gr !s hold of so#ethi'g= It does'7t let go. No sir. It7ll h 'g o' eve' (he' th t so#ethi'g Eor so#eo'eF (eights 12 ti#es s #%&h<< Yo% & ' sh "e it, 'd sl # it, 'd tr$ to pr$ it off, !%t o'&e it gets its A (s ro%'d $o% ... "T A"N2T #ETT"N6 6O!!! +%''$ e'o%gh, !%t o'&e $o% get this 6pit !%ll6 ttit%de, $o% & ' &t% ll$ st rt to rel 4, loose' %p, 'd e'Ao$ the e4perie'&e !e& %se $o% "'o( th t 'o # tter (h t h ppe's, yo 2'' 'earnin& %o1et.in& yo can %e t.e ne:t ti1e o t!! P r do4i& ll$, th t7s (he' $o% st rt to (i'<< ENote, l( $s loo" for p r do4es i' life@ there is tre#e'do%s po(er i' p r do4<F *o, to help $o% get this 6pit !%ll6 ttit%de, I7d li"e to p%t this !oo" do(' 'd thi'" fe( #i'%tes !o%t (h t # steri'g *peed *ed%&tio' (ill do for $o%. Thi'" of the "i'd of life it (ill let $o% 4

e'Ao$ (ith the "i'd of people $o%7d li"e to !e (ith, 'd (h t it (ill #e ' s f r s the ( $ $o% feel !o%t $o%rself, d $ fter d $, ever$ d $, (he' $o%7ve # stered it. The other ttit%de $o% 'eed to # ster, to get RBA::Y good t *peed *ed%&tio' is th t ... BE"N6 W"TH YOU "S THE BEST POSS"B#E CHO"CE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE!!! *ee, if $o% &o#e t the (orld (ith se'se of 'eedi'ess, &h '&es re the (orld is goi'g to sl p $o%r h 'd. 0%t if, ho(ever hor'$ $o% #ight !e, $o% re ll$ !elieve th t $o% & ' ple se th t (o# ' li"e 'o o'e else E 'd tr%st #e, o'&e $o% "'o( ho( to &re te those e#otio' l highs for her %si'g *peed *ed%&tio', $o%7ll see ho( tr%e th t is<F, the', the', the' #$ frie'd she is goi'g to se'se it 'd is goi'g to ... BE6 TO HA9E WHAT YOU29E 6OT!!! +i' ll$, s gre t *peed *ed%&er, $o% h ve to !e (illi'g to !e little o%tr geo%s, to step o%tside $o%r 'or# l !o%'ds, to go o%t 'd CREATE YOUR OPPORTUN"T"ES!!! If for e4 #ple, $o% see (o# ' $o%7d li"e to #eet, !%t she7s ( l"i'g i' the opposite dire&tio', do $o% thi'", 6Oh (ell. ;$ ti#i'g7s lo%s$= If o'l$ she (ere goi'g #$ ( $<6..No. Not if $o%7re *peed *ed%&er. A *peed *ed%&er t "es o'e loo", de&ides to go for it, 'd the' he t%r's ro%'d 'd ... HE2S AFTER THAT WOMAN #"KE ST"NK ON SH"T!!!!! Ah, the po(er of creati3e o tra&eo %ne%%! No(, (ill ll (o#e' ppre&i te $o%r se'se of dve't%re= Pro! !l$ 'ot. 0%t loo", do'7t (orr$ !o%t s& ri'g off the #ee" o'e. J%st fo&%s o' ... ATTRACT"N6 THE ONES W"TH A DEST FOR #"FE!!!!! :et7s tr$ differe't #et phor. The Aver ge +r%str ted Ch%#p is se'si!le e&o'o#$ sed '. The *peed *ed%&er i' his ppro &h to (o#e' 'd life i' ge'er l is ... A N"TRO@BURN"N6 FUNNY CAR!!!! 7N%ff * id. A WORD ABOUT 7M"STAKES7 Bver$ e4perie'&e is si#pl$ ' opport%'it$ to le r', e4p 'd 'd gro(. There are 'o f il%res@ o'l$ feed! &". EI "'o( so#eti#es 6feed! &"6 & ' +ee' li"e 6f il%re6.F It7s o'l$ f il%re if $o% l $ do(' 'd 5%it<<< O'l$ yo & ' deter#i'e ho( #%&h po(er $o%7re goi'g to give (o# ' to stop $o%<< Chapter Two Review and Exercises: 50 I' the sp &e !elo(, list ll the !e'efits $o%7ll get fro# # steri'g *peed *ed%&tio', .. I' the sp &e !elo(, des&ri!e (h t d%ll, rep%lsive, horrid, fr%str tio' filled f il%re $o%r life (ill !e if $o% do'7t # ster *peed *ed%&tio',.

CHAPTER 8: BAS"C TOO#S OF SPEED SEDUCT"ON: EMBEDDED COMMANDS O'e of the thi'gs $o% ( 't to do (he' $o% %se *peed *ed%&tio', is to &et a wo1an2% 1in) 1o3in& in a certain )irection (itho%t letti'g her "'o( th t th t is (h t $o%7re doi'g. Other(ise, $o%7re goi'g to e'&o%'ter lot of resist '&e, 'd *DNDADP goes the fishi'g li'e. Yo% see, ver$ fe( people ever ( 't to +ee' li"e the$ re !ei'g # 'ip%l ted. Th t7s 'ot to s $ th t the$ can2t !e # 'ip%l ted or do'7t want to !e ... the$ A%st do'7t ( 't to +ee' th t7s (h t7s h ppe'i'g. No(, o'e of the ! si& tools to get '$o'e #ovi'g i' the dire&tio' $o% ( 't re co11an)s. Co'sider &o## 'ds to !e the footDsoldier i' $o%r r#$ of sed%&tio'. Noti&e, I7# not t l"i'g !o%t )irect'y co11an)in& (o# ' to do so#ethi'g. ?e "'o( th t (o%ld A%st get her to resist %s. As ' e4 #ple, if $o% ( 'ted (o# ' to feel ' ttr &tio' to $o%, $o% &o%ld, if $o% (ere !r i' de d, tr$ the dire&t ppro &h !$ s $i'g so#ethi'g li"e, 6>e!!ie, s I t l" to $o%, I &o## 'd $o% to +ee' 3ery attracte) to 1e<6. :i"e s 'ot, >e!!ie (o%ld either ( l" ( $ or sl p $o% 'd the' ( l" ( $. No. ?h t $o% ( 't to do is e#!ed the &o## 'd in%i)e of se'te'&e, so th t it h s the effe&t $o% ( 't, (itho%t her resisti'g.

I' the !ove e4 #ple, $o% &o%ld e#!ed the &o## 'd 7FEE# 9ERY ATTRACTED 6, !$ s $i'g so#ethi'g li"e, 6Yo% "'o(, so#e people fi'd, s the$ liste' to so#eo'e (ho7s ver$ f s&i' ti'g, th t the$ & ' FEE# 9ERY ATTRACTED, De**ie07 I' this & se, it see#s li"e $o%7re A%st t l"i'g a*o t /eo/'e in &enera', !%t her %'&o's&io%s #i'd pi&"s it %p an) a//'ie% it to .er. TH"S "S THE START OF YOUR MO9"N6 HER "N ANY D"RECT"ON YOU WANT HER TO 6O!!!0THE "MPORTANCE OF TONA#"TY It7s i#port 't to %'derst 'd th t &o## 'd is'7t A%st # tter of (ordi'g, !%t the to'e of voi&e $o% %se. I' the B'glish l 'g% ge, (e h ve ! si& ll$ three "i'ds of se'te'&es, 1. *t te#e'ts .. 8%estio's 3. Co## 'ds A st te#e't is %ttered (ith ' e3en to' lit$. 6Joh' ( l"ed &ross the roo#.6 A 5%estio' e'ds (ith ' / t rn i' to' lit$. 6?ho ( l"ed &ross the roo#=6 A 5%estio' e'ds (ith )own t rn i' to' lit$. 6Joh' ... ( l" &ross the roo#<6 ; "e s%re (he' $o% give $o%r &o## 'ds th t $o% p %se 'd the' drop $o%r to' lit$ do('( rd. Wea%e' P.ra%e%: Yo r Co11an) De'i3ery 9e.ic'e O". There re # '$ ( $s to e#!ed &o## 'ds i' $o%r l 'g% ge so (o# '7s %'&o's&io%s #i'd .ear% an) o*eys, !%t she does'7t & t&h o' &o's&io%sl$ to (h t $o%7re doi'g. ;$ f vorite setD%ps re (h t I & ll Wea%e' P.ra%es. Here re the #ost i#port 't 'd %sef%l ?e sel Phr ses th t (ill h ve $o% getti'g the hottest ! !es e ger for $o%r rod i' #i'%tes<< ?e7ll %se e &h o'e to e#!ed the &o## 'd, 6feel i'&redi!l$ t%r'ed o'6. 1. W.en yo ... 6?he' $o%6 pres%pposes th t the (o# ' is goi'g to do the thi'g or e4perie'&e the st te $o% des&ri!e, so it7s 'o lo'ger ope' to de! te or do%!t. 7W.en yo feel incredibly turned on do $o% fi'd $o%rself &o#pelled to &t o' it= .. W.at wo ') it *e 'i(e i+ ... This (e sel phr se is i' effe&t, &o## 'd for the perso' to i# gi'e the &o'ditio' or o&&%rre'&e ' #ed or des&ri!ed fter it0 7W.at wo ') it *e 'i(e i+ $o% (ere to feel incredibly turned on ?". 3. A /er%on can ... 0$ t l"i'g !o%t 6perso'6 it defle&ts '$ resist '&e o' the p rt of the (o# ', si'&e $o% re ll$ re'7t t l"i'g !o%t her. 7A /er%on can fell incredibly turned o', t l"i'g (ith so#eo'e the$ re ll$, re ll$ li"e<6 4. "+ yo were to ... This is o'e of #$ f vorite ?e sel Phr ses<< 0$ s $i'g, 6if6 it defle&ts resist '&e (hile dire&ti'g the (o# ' to i# gi'e the e4perie'&e, &o'ditio', feeli'g or sit% tio' $o% re des&ri!i'g. 7"+ yo were to feel incredibly turned o', do $o% thi'" $o% #ight feel &o#pelled to &t o' it=6 EThere7s se&o'd &o## 'd hidde' i' th t l st se'te'&e. C ' $o% spot (h t it is=F /. A% yo ... This phr se ss%#es the (o# ' (ill do the !eh vior or %'dergo the &o'ditio' $o% des&ri!e. 7A% yo feel incredibly turned o', & ' $o% feel ho( e4&ited $o%7re getti'g=6 -. "t2% not nece%%ary to ... A' e4 #ple of o'e of #$ s%perD(e sel p tter's, 'eg tio', (hi&h (e7ll get i'to l ter. 0$ s $i'g it is'7t 'e&ess r$, it eli#i' tes '$ resist '&e, si'&e $o%7re s $i'g the$ do'7t re ll$ h ve to do it Eeve' tho%gh the$ (ill<F. 7"t2% not nece%%ary to feel incredibly turned on s $o% liste' & ref%ll$ to (h t I s $<6 1. Yo rea''y %.o ')n2t ... A'other 'eg tio' p tter'. *i'&e $o%7re s $i'g the$ 6sho%ld'7t6, its 'ot li"e $o%7re tr$i'g to get the# to do '$thi'g, re'7t $o%= 7Yo rea''y %.o ')n2t feel incredibly turned on!!". J. Yo 1i&.t +in) ... )sef%l s the st rt of ' i'te'sif$i'g &h i' of phr ses. It i#plies th t the$ re goi'g to e4perie'&e (h t $o% des&ri!e s so#ethi'g th t A%st h ppe's, so it7s 'ot li"e $o%7re &o## 'di'g the# to do it<< 7Yo 1i&.t +in) s $o% feel incredibly turned on" it &o%ld le d to $o%r &ti'g o' it< 9. To t.e /oint w.ere ... This phr se &o''e&ts o'e thi'g $o%r vi&ti# is e4perie'&i'g (ith the 'e4t thi'g $o% ( 't the# to e4perie'&e, so it7s %sef%l !oth s &o''e&tor 'd ' #plifier. 6Yo% #ight fi'd those pi&t%res st rt to get !igger 'd !righter to t.e /oint w.ere $o% feel incredibly turned on!". /

1". "n3ite yo to notice ... This h s the s #e effe&t s 6$o% #ight fi'd6 !e& %se it i#plies th t (h t $o% des&ri!e is.goi'g to h ppe'. Pl%s, 6i'vite6 s ple s 't &o''ot tio's of it !ei'g vol%'t r$ 'd polite< H < *%perD# 'ip%l tio', good !%dd$< 6A'd I in3ite yo to notice, ho( the ( r#th of #$ voi&e, & ' llo( $o% to feel incredibly turned on!" 11. How % r/ri%e) wo ') yo *e to ... This i#plies th t the eve't $o% des&ri!e is &ert i'l$ goi'g to h ppe', 'd the o'l$ 5%estio' is ho( s%rprised she7ll !e !$ it< O'e of #$ !sol%te f vorite (e sel phr ses, ' e4 #ple i%: 7How % r/ri%e) wi'' yo *e to fi'd th t $o% & ' feel incredibly turned on? ?o(< Are'7t those A%st gre t= Are $o% st rti'g to feel i'&redi!l$ t%r'ed o' $et= ?hether $o% re or $o% re'7t, re#e#!er th t %si'g these ! si& !%ildi'g !lo&"s, $o%7ll !e !le to &re te virt% ll$ '$ 'd ll st tes $o% ( 't to, ver$ r pidl$, i' the (o#e' $o% re ll$ desire. No(, let7s A%#p %p level i' po(er. ?he' $o% &o#!i'e the ?e sel Phr se (ith &o## 'd ver!, li"e 6get6, 6!e&o#e6, 6e4perie'&e6, 6re#e#!er6, et&., 'd the' t &" o' the st te, pro&ess or e4perie'&e $o% ( 't her to h ve, the' ... presto< Yo%7ve got $o%r e#!edded &o## 'd. I' f &t, the for#%l is, Wea%e' P.ra%e% E Co11an) 9er*% E State%, Proce%%e% or E:/erience% F E1*e))e) Co11an)% EB4 #ple, W.at2% it 'i(e w.en yo beco#e incredibly turned on?$ *ee= A&t% ll$ it7s 5%ite si#ple. Pr &ti&e !it 'd $o%7ll soo' get the h 'g of it<< Chapter Three Review and Exercises: 1. I' the B'glish l 'g% ge, &o## 'd e'ds (ith , EAF )p t%r' i' to' lit$ E0F >o(' t%r' i' to' lit$ ECF Bve' to' lit$. .. The p%rpose of %si'g e#!edded &o## 'ds is, EAF Get (o# ' irrit ted 'd pissed off E0F I'&re si'g her resist '&e to $o% ECF ;ove her #i'd i' the dire&tio' $o% ( 't it to go, (itho%t see#i'g to !e i'tr%di'g or orderi'g i' '$ ( $ 3. ?e sel phr ses re %sed, EAF To let (o# ' "'o( $o% re # 'ip%l ti'g her E0F To set %p ' e#!edded &o## 'd ECF To sho( (o# ' ho( &lever $o% re 4. +ro# the &h rt !elo( #i4 'd # t&h ?e sel Phr ses, Co## 'd 9er!s, 'd *t tes, Pro&esses or B4perie'&es E*PB7sF to for# $o%r o(' e#!edded &o## 'ds, Wea%e' P.ra%e% Co11an) 9er*% S0P0E0 ?he' $o% ... !e&o#e ver$ hor'$ If $o% (ere to ... thi'" !o%t f 't sti& se4 Ho( does it feel (he' ... get i' love ?h t7s it li"e (he' $o% ... re#e#!er h vi'g gre t se4 A perso' & ' ... e4perie'&e f s&i' tio' As $o% ... h ve !sol%te l%st It7s 'ot 'e&ess r$ to ... forget i'&redi!l$ t%r'ed o' Yo% re ll$ sho%ld'7t ... f ll ll !o%t hi# Yo% do'7t h ve to ... "'o( so#eo'e7s ttr &tive. CHAPTER -: THE POWER OF 7HA9E YOU E9ER7 O". : st &h pter (e h d loo" t (e sel phr ses. I' this &h pter, (e7re goi'g to loo" t the po(er of the s%perD(e sel phr se 7HA9E YOU E9ER6. Yo%7re goi'g to !e seei'g this phr se pop %p ti#e 'd g i' i' the p tter's I7ll sho( $o%, so s $o% & ' see it7s 5%ite i#port 't. No( re#e#!er, (he' $o% set o%t to i'fl%e'&e, &o'trol 'd dire&t (o# '7s thi'"i'g, $o% do'7t ( 't to # "e it see# li"e th t7s (h t $o% re doi'g, or else *DNDADP goes th t fishi'g li'e. This is (h$ (e seldo#, if ever, give dire&t &o## 'd, !e& %se she #ight resist it. Here7s (here the s%perD(e sel phr se 6HA9B YO) B9BR6 &o#es i'to pl $. :et7s s $ I ( 'ted (o# ' to e4perie'&e st te of tot l f s&i' tio' (ith #e E+ s&i' tio' is good pl &e to st rt (ith ... it7s 'ot 5%ite s i'te'se s tot l se4% l ro%s l, !%t sets (o# ' %p for th t 'd '$thi'g else $o% ( 'tF. I &o%ld ( l" right %p to her, i'trod%&e #$self 'd the' tr$ to dire&tl$ &o## 'd her to feel f s&i' ted !$ s $i'g so#ethi'g li"e, 6I

&o## 'd $o% to go i'side $o%rself, re#e#!er ti#e (he' $o% felt tot ll$ f s&i' ted !$ # ', 'd the' feel th t ( $ !o%t #e<6. It7s 'ot too li"el$ th t th t (o%ld (or". Ho(ever, s $i'g so#ethi'g li"e this & ', h s 'd l#ost &ert i'l$ (ill (or" E'oti&e the e#!edded &o## 'ds, (hi&h I7ve & pit liGed 'd p%t i' !oldf &e<F 6:et #e s" $o% 5%estio'. Ha3e yo e3er !ee' tot ll$ f s&i' ted (ith so#eo'e= :i"e # $!e s $o% (ere there, loo"i'g t hi#, 'd $o% st rted to #"STEN CAREFU##Y, it ( s li"e his voi&e A%st see#ed to (r p itself ro%'d $o%, 'd the rest of $o%r e'viro'#e't A%st dis ppe red, 'd $o%r e'tire (orld, ever$thi'g $o% s (, !e& #e (h t ( s right i' fro't of $o%= A'd '$thi'g he des&ri!ed, $o% fo%'d th t $o% &o%ld A%st P"CTURE "T C#EAR#Y$ *o $o% "'o(, if he (ere to t l" !o%t ro# 'ti& ( l", o' #oo'light !e &h, (ith $o%r perfe&t p rt'er, $o% &o%ld SEE YOURSE#F there (ith hi#, A%st e'Ao$i'g (h t th t (o%ld !e li"e=6. No(, o'&e $o%7ve got her f s&i' ted, $o%7ll ( 't to #ove o' fro# there to other st tes, !%t the poi't is th t t.e +a%cination i% now t.ere to %et .er / +or 3irt a''y anyt.in g. *he (o'7t !e !le to loo" ( $ fro# $o% or see or 'oti&e '$o'e else i' the roo#. I do'7t & re if the !est loo"i'g # ' i' North A#eri& ( l"ed i' !oo"$D!%tt ' "ed ... $o%7re t.e on'y one she7s goi'g to see. A'd si'&e $o% dropped i' s%ggestio' th t she &le rl$ pi&t%re '$thi'g $o% s%ggest, $o%7ve set her %p to !e ' e4&elle't tr '&e s%!Ae&t, eve' if she 'or# ll$ (o%ld'7t !e<< H << This ll (or"s !e& %se the phr se 7HA9E YOU E9ER6 o'l$ %ee1% li"e 5%estio'. A&t% ll$, it i% a COMMAND!! It7s COMMAND to go i'side $o%r #e#or$, 'd fi'd ti#e (he' $o% e4perie'&ed the thi'g th t the perso' (ho is t l"i'g to $o% is des&ri!i'g. 0%t people do'7t &o's&io%sl$ per&eive it s &o## 'd, so the$ do'7t resist. This sets the# %p for anyt.in&!! O"= >oes th t # "e se'se= Here7s the ge'er l for#%l for %si'g 7HA9E YOU E9ER6 'd the' I7ll go o' to de#o'str te so#e spe&ifi& ppli& tio's, 1. Thi'" of the st te $o%7d li"e her to e4perie'&e. .. *t rt o%t !$ s"i'g, 6HA9B YO) B9BR6 'd the' ' #e the st te $o% ( 't her to e4perie'&e. 3. 0egi' to des&ri!e (h t it (o%ld !e li"e to e4perie'&e th t st te, 'd %se this s ' opport%'it$ to drop i' so#e e#!edded &o## 'ds th t (o%ld help her to e4perie'&e th t st te. 4. Re ll$ get her i'to feeli'g of (h t th t7s li"e. /. :i'" it to $o%rself. O"= *o 'o(, let7s sho( $o% 'other spe&ifi&, getti'g her to feel st te of i'st 't 'eo%s, i'&redi!le &o''e&tio' to $o%<<<. W.y Creatin& A Sen%e o+ "ncre)i*'e Connection i% "1/ortant I re liGe I7# repe ti'g #$self here, !%t this is CRITICA:, so liste' %p, for #ost (o#e', &re ti'g se'se of i'&redi!le &o''e&tio' 'd !o'di'g is a re4 ire) %te/ !efore $o% get o' to the se4% l ro%s l st%ff, 'd i' f &t, & ' !e the i'trod%&tio' to good se4% l ro%s l p tter'. Yo% #ight fi'd th t this se'se of &o''e&tio' is so i#port 't to (o#e' th t si#pl$ ge'er ti'g it, (itho%t doi'g '$ of the #ore se4% l st%ff, is s%ffi&ie't !$ itself to get her to go tot ll$ g g over $o%. Yo% see, for #ost of %s g%$s, se4 is # tter of d%#pi'g o%r lo ds. ?e7d do it (ith ro&"s, trees, #%d, '$thi'g. +or #ost (o#e' E t le st #ost %'i'fe&ted, 'o'Ddise sed (o#e'F se4 is ver$ l rgel$ an e:/re%%ion o+ an e1otiona' connectio'. *o, here re so#e gre t p tter's to get $o% st rted. Here7s o'e I li"e to %se right ( $, (he' I first #eet (o# ', s $ t p rt$ or ! r. After # "i'g her l %gh 'd i'trod%&i'g #$self, 'd # $!e #i'%te or t(o of fl%ff t l", I l %'&h i'to the follo(i'g, Yo%, H ve $o% ever +e't an "NSTANTANEOUS connection (ith so#eo'e= EPoi't to $o%rselfF :i"e # $!e s $o% (ere there, loo"i'g t the#, 'd $o% st rted to #"STEN "NTENT#Y, it ( s li"e there ( s &ord of #"6HT Egest%re fro# $o%r sol r ple4%s to hersF goi'g fro# $o% to the#= A'd s th t &ord !eg ' to 6#OW, W"TH THE WARMTH of th t &o''e&tio', # $!e $o% (ere eve' !le to "MA6"NE A T"ME "N YOUR FUTURE Egest%re either to $o%r left or to $o%r right ... t this poi't it re ll$ does'7t # tterF, s $ si4 #o'ths fro# 'o(, still FEE#"N6 THAT SENSE OF "NCRED"B#E CONNECT"O N, -

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The#, Oh $e h ... Yo%, *ee, I thi'" it7s so f%''$ ho( so#e people & ' BUST DO THAT 'd #ET "T HAPPEN "NSTANTANEOUS#Y Es' p $o%r fi'gersF !e& %se for #e it t "es lo'ger. 0%t I do fi'd th t d%ri'g the &o%rse of ' eve'i'g, s $o% REA##Y #"STEN to so#eo'e Epoi't to $o%rselfF, 'd $o% START0 TO RECO6N"DE those v l%es 'd 5% lities i' the# th t $o% hold so de rl$ for $o%rself ... %pause$ ... W"TH ME th t7s (he' $o% & ' MAKE THAT CONNECT"ON 'd re ll$ FEE# THAT 6ROW"N6 BOND0 Get the pi&t%re= *ee ho( (e %tart o t na1in& t.e %tate we want .er to e:/erience an) t.en .e'/ .er &oo) o') ncon%cio % 1in) a'on& *y )e%cri*in& .ow to )o it$ Of &o%rse, this ge'er l p tter' (or"s for the other gre t s%per (e sel phr se ... 7WHAT2S "T #"KE WHEN$7 EThis, lo'g (ith it7s &lose rel tives, 7W.at wo ') it *e 'i(e if6 'd 7W.at wo ') it +ee' 'i(e if6 ll (or" the s #e.F Here7s good, 6?h t7s it li"e (he'6 to %se s hor'$ #ess ge to le ve o' (o# '7s 's(eri'g # &hi'e. O'l$ do this AFTER $o%7ve go'e o%t t le st o'&e, or lre d$ got her hot 'd hor'$ o' $o%r first #eeti'g. 6?h t7s it li"e (he' yo 2re %o attracte) to the so%'d of # '7s voi&e, th t (he'ever $o% +in) yo r%e'+ rea''y 'i%tening, it7s li"e t.e war1t. o+ t.at 3oice C %t %tart% to wra/ it%e'+ aro n) yo %, 'd %/rea) a'' t.ro &. yo r *o)$, # $!e to the poi't (here $o% +in) yo r%e'+ t.in(in& a*o t *ein& wit. .i1 i' ... ####### ... spe&i l ( $, i' ( $ th t (o%ld # "e $o% !oth feel ... #######, $o% "'o(= *o #%&h so th t s t.o%e /ict re% in yo r 1in) &et *i&&er, an) *i&&er an) 1ore inten%e, 'd those +ee'in&% 000 111 000 inten%i+y $o% &o%ld A%st e:/erience an o3erw.e'1in& )e%ire, desire to !e (ith hi# ... to the poi't (here $o% A%st h d to /ic( / t.e /.one, an) in3ite .i1 o3er$7 >id $o% 'oti&e 'o( this p tter' tot ll$ )irect% her i'ter' l feeli'gs 'd pi&t%res !$ )e%cri*in& the# i' det il, 'd therefore )irectin& her to fo&%s i' o' ho( it (o%ld feel= A good %'derst 'di'g for $o% to h ve !o%t '$ for# of pers% sio' or i'fl%e'&e is, W.en S(i''+ ''y Done, T.ere "%n2t A Bit O+ Di++erence Between De%cri*in& an) Directin&!!!0 Chapter Four Review and Exercises 1. 6H ve $o% ever6 (or"s !e& %se, EAF It &ts s &o## 'd, (hile see#i'g to !e 5%estio' E0F It & %ses people to e'ter the st te or %'dergo the e4perie'&e $o% ' #e fter the phr se 6h ve $o% ever6 ECF It sets %p des&riptio' of the pro&ess or st te $o% ( 't people to e4perie'&e E>F All of the !ove .. If $o% ( 't (o# ' to get hot 'd hor'$, EAF Order her to feel th t ( $ E0F As" her, 6(h t7s it li"e (he' $o%7re i'&redi!l$ ttr &ted to so#e!od$=6 'd the' go o' to des&ri!e th t pro&ess 'd li'" it to $o%rself. ECF Tell her ll the re so's (h$ $o%r gre t g%$ 'd ho( l%&"$ she is to !e givi'g $o% so#e. E>F *ho( her pi&t%re of Ross Jeffries. 3. 0$ properl$ des&ri!i'g st te of e4perie'&e, $o% re i' f &t, EAF ? sti'g ti#e $o% &o%ld !e %si'g to press%re her i'to se4 E0F ? sti'g ti#e !e& %se $o% &o%ld !e orderi'g her fl t o%t to feel th t ( $ ECF >ire&ti'g her to %'dergo th t st te or e4perie'&e 4. If $o%7re goi'g to des&ri!e ' i'te'se feeli'g st te $o% sho%ld, EAF O'l$ t l" !o%t !od$ feeli'gs E0F )se pi&t%res 'd so%'ds, s le d i' to !od$ feeli'gs, (hi&h $o% the' go o' to des&ri!e 'd #plif$. ECF *t rt (ith !od$ feeli'gs 'd e'd (ith pi&t%res E>F )se lots of fo%l, dirt$ l 'g% ge to get her hot<.

CHAPTER ?: THE POWER OF NE6AT"ON It t "es ll t$pes to r%' this (orld, 'd this 'e4t s%perD(e sel p tter' (ill help $o% de l (ith t$pe of (o# ' (ho #ight other(ise drive $o% !o'"o< Yo% "'o( the t$pe, so#eo'e (ho h s to dis gree or rg%e (ith ever$thi'g $o% s $. The te&h'i& l ter# is 6#is# t&her6 or 6pol rit$ respo'der6, !%t the pr &ti& l ter# is, !it&h. A'$( $, 'eg tio' llo(s $o% to pl $ off her ' t%r l te'de'&$ to 'eg te or g i's $ ever$thi'g th t &o#es o%t of $o%r #o%th. It (or"s !$ p%tti'g the (ord 6'ot6 or 6do'7t6 i' fro't of the s%ggestio' $o% ( 't to e#!ed. E6*ho%ld'7t6 6do'7t6 'd 6& '7t6 lso & ' (or" A%st s (ell<F. This is perfe&t respo'se to (o# ' (ho is resisti'g $o% !$ s $i'g, 6?e re ll$ sho%ld'7t !e doi'g this<6. Yo% respo'se, %si'g 'eg tio' (o%ld !e so#ethi'g li"e, E& ' $o% pi&" o%t the e#!edded &o## 'ds= I' this e4 #ple, I7ve p%t the# i' it li&sF 6Yo%7re right. " %.o ')n2t !e p%lli'g %p $o%r top. " %.o ')n2t !e s%&"i'g o' $o%r i'&redi!le !re sts. A'd $o% )on2t h ve to feel the incredible pleasure $o% re'7t experiencin& ri&ht now!" As 0%gs 0%''$ (o%ld s $, i'7t I sti'"er= ?o%ld $o% li"e to see &o#!i' tio' of 5%otes 'd 'eg tio'= ?h t7s th t $o% s $= Yo% (o%ld= O". Tr$ this, ;$ frie'd ( s sho&"ed the other 'ight, (he' (o# ' ( l"ed right %p to hi#, loo"ed hi# i' the e$e 'd s id, 6it7s not i#port 't th t $o% i#a&ine #e &oin& down on you all ni&ht lon&!" C ' $o% see ho( these p tter's & ' (or" together to #%ltipl$ their po(er= Of &o%rse, s I s id to frie'd of #i'e 6$o% )on2t h ve to imagine yourself six months from now, already having mastered these patterns, and looking ack on today as having een the start of it!"#E*pe&i l Note, Ch pters -, 1 'd J ll de l (ith (h t I & ll &&eler tors, p tter's desig'ed to &re te st tes of i'te'se l%st 'd ro%s l< )se (ith & %tio', 'd on'y fter &re ti'g those (o'derf%l st tes of !sol%te &o#fort 'd tot l, ti#eless &o''e&tio'<<<F.

of i'te'se f s&i' tio', &o''e&tio', et&.,, $o%7d s $ so#ethi'g li"e this, Eoh, !$ the ( $ ... 'oti&e the e#!edded. &o## 'ds re i' *o')+aceH Yo%, *o#e g%$s re so &r%de. I #e ', I ( s r ised to !e t le st little respe&tf%l, !%t $o% (o%ld'7t !elieve (h t I s ( this d%de do the other 'ight< Her, ?h t= Yo%, He ( l"s right %p to this girl, loo"s her right i' the e$e 'd s $s, 6C ' $o% i1a&ine 1e &oin& )own on yo a'' ni&.t 'on g, 'd $o% &ettin& %o .ot an) t rne) on th t $o% (ere !eggi'g for it=6 Her, God< Yo%, I #e ', & ' $o% !elieve th t= >id he &t% ll$ e4pe&t her to /ict re t.at a'' ni&.t 'ong, 'd eve' *eco1e o*%e%%e) wit. t.o%e (in) o+ t.o &.t%$ No(, if $o% re ll$ ( 't to pl $ (ith her 'oggi'7 $o% &o%ld "eep goi'g fro# there. Yo% &o%ld re ll$ get her drippi'g i' her se t !$ s $i'g so#ethi'g else li"e, Yo%, No(, see, if I ( s girl, 'd so#eo'e tried so#ethi'g li"e th t o' #e ... I7d pl $ right ! &" (ith 7e#. I7d loo" 7e# i' the e$e 'd s $, 6Oh $e h= ?ell, $o% "'o( th t feeli'g $o% get A%st !efore $o% .a3e an or&a%1$ ?he' t.e /'ea% re i% C %t 'i(e * i')in& an) / '%in& an) /o n)in& t.ro &. yo r *o)$= If $o% &o%ld i1a&ine t.at +ee'ing, &o%ld $o% +ee' it ri&.t no(= Is'7t th t gre t= Re#e#!er, 5%otes, li"e the other &&eler tor p tter's I7ll sho( $o%, sho%ld ge'er ll$ !e %sed a+ter $o%7ve est !lished th t se'se of &o''e&tio', et&. Yo% & ' e#!ed virt% ll$ '$ (e sel p tter', phr se or series of &o## 'ds i'side 5%otes 'd "eep it tot ll$ s fe, si'&e it is'7t li"e yo 2re s $i'g it to .er. Yo%7re o'l$ 5%oti'g w.at %o1eone e'%e %ai)! Un)er%tan) a'%o t.at yo can co1*ine 4 ote% wit. 3irt a''y any ot.er /attern " teac., i+ +or %o1e rea%on yo )on2t +ee' co1+orta*'e *ein& )irect0 AUOTES DOES NOT HA9E TO BE #"M"TED TO THE 7SE<UA# AROUSA#7 PATTERNS!!!! *o here7s the ge'er l for#%l for %si'g 5%otes, 1. Thi'" of (h t it is $o%7d li"e to s $ to (o# ', !%t &o%ld'7t s $ to her dire&tl$. .. *t rt off !$ telli'g her so#ethi'g li"e, 6Yo% (o%ld'7t !elieve (h t I he rd this perso' s $ to so#eo'e< He ( l"ed right %p to her 'd, 3. *ti&" i' (h t it is $o%7d li"e to s $. 4. *ti&" i' &o## 'd to # "e her &o'ti'%e to thi'" !o%t it. *i#ple, $es= : ter, (e7ll sho( $o% ho( to i'tegr te the %se of 5%otes i'to other p tter's, !%t 'o( let7s go to 'other &&eler tor (hi&h is, TA#K"N6 ABOUT ANOTHER PERSON2S E<PER"ENCE No(, the differe'&e here !et(ee' this 'd 5%otes, is th t (ith 5%otes, $o%7re 5%oti'g (h t so#eo'e else s id. ?ith this p tter', $o%7re t l"i'g !o%t 'other perso'7s BKPBRIBNCB s ( $ of getti'g $o%r t rget hot 'd !othered. B4 #ple, W.at2% t.e +ee'in& o+ rea'i=in& yo 2re rea''y attracte) to %o1eone$ My +rien) Ki1 wa% te''in& 1e t.at .er roo11ate .a% t.i% *e%t +rien), Dawn0 An) w.en Dawn %tart% to notice t.at &rowin& attraction, it .a//en% in a certain way0 #i(e +ir%t, a% %.e 'oo(% at t.e & y, an) %tart% to REA##Y PAY ATTENT"ON, %.e C %t *eco1e% aware o+ certain t.in&% 000 'i(e t.e r.yt.1 o+ .er *reat.in&, an) t.e *eatin& o+ .er .eart, an) t.e o t'ine o+ .i% +ace 000 %o a% %.e *eco1e% aware o+ a'' t.e%e t.in&%, one /artic 'ar +eat re o+ .i% +ace C %t %tart% to ri3et .er attention, %o %.e *eco1e% tota''y a*%or*e) in t.e connection ta(in& /'ace 000 an) a% t.at2% a'' .a//enin&, it2% 'i(e t.e war1t. o+ .i% 3oice, t.e )ee/ ric. war1t. o+ it, C %t %tart% to /enetrate .er con%cio %ne%%, an) %/rea) a'' t.ro &. .er *o)y, an) a% .er .eart *eat% +a%ter an) .er *reat.in& increa%e%, t.at war1t. C %t .eat% / into a +ire, a +ire %/rea)in& t.ro &. .er c.e%t an) )own t.ro &. .er *e''y, a +ire /o n)in& an) / '%atin& a'' t.ro &. .er, )own to w.ere %.e rea''y 'on&% to .a3e it &o, nti' t.at )e%ire +or .i1 C %t BECOMES UTTER#Y O9ERWHE#M"N6, an) %.e C %t SURRENDERS to it co1/'ete'y00 No(, 'oti&e (e re'7t s"i'g or de# 'di'g or s%ggesti'g th t she dire&tl$ e4perie'&e ll this. 0%t !$ des&ri!i'g the e4perie'&e of 1

CHAPTER G: US"N6 THE POWER OF AUOTES AND OTHER STATE ACCE#ERATORS AND "NTENS"F"ERS O". :et7s s $ $o%7ve lre d$ # ' ged to & pt%re (o# '7s tte'tio' 'd dire&ted her i'to st te of f s&i' tio', i'te'se &o''e&tio', or so#ethi'g of th t sort. No( $o% ( 't to #ove thi'gs lo'g !$ getti'g her hot 'd hor'$ ... #ovi'g her i'to st te of i'te'se ro%s l. No(, there re sever l tools to do th t. O'e of #$ !sol%te f vorites is the p tter' & lled 5%otes. :iste', 5%otes is 'ot th t %'f #ili r to $o% lre d$. Re#e#!er (he' $o% (ere little "id, 'd s $i'g 6f%&"6 ( s !ig de l, !e& %se it %se to get $o% p%'ished !ig ti#e= Perso' ll$, I %sed to get #$ #o%th ( shed o%t (ith so p, so I h t&hed s&he#e. R ther th ' s $ 6f%&"6 dire&tl$, I7d tell #$ #o# (h t so#e other fo%lD#o%thed little "id do(' the !lo&" s id. Th t ( $, it ( s'7t li"e I ( s s $i'g it ... I ( s A%st repe ti'g so#ethi'g I7d he rd. *o I !oldl$ strode i'to the "it&he', ppro &hed de r old ;other, 'd s id, 6;o#< ;o#< To##$ do(' the street s id, 6f%&"6 'd 6&o&"s%&"er6 <6 EHe$, I fig%red, si'&e I ( s goi'g for it, I #ight s (ell go for it<F Of &o%rse ;o# A%st s id, 6Ni&e tr$, "id6 'd sl pped #e sill$, !%t th t7s 'ot the poi't. The poi't is, (ith little s%!tlet$, $o% & ' %se 5%otes s ' &&eler tor or #plifier for the st tes of ro%s l $o% ( 't (o# ' i'. :et7s s $ for e4 #ple $o%7d li"e for (o# ' to i# gi'e $o% goi'g do(' o' her 'd her feeli'g re ll$ hot 'd hor'$. Those re prett$ good pi&t%res for (o# ' to !e r%''i'g i' her #i'd, 'd feeli'gs to !e h vi'g (he' she7s (ith $o%, (o%ld'7t $o% gree= Of &o%rse $o% (o%ld< *o here7s ho( to do it< After ge'er l dis&%ssio' of ho( the #i'd (or"s, 'd %si'g th t to get her i' st tes

'other Eor eve' o%rselvesF she .a% to %'dergo the e4perie'&e for herself<<< A'd ple se !e r i' #i'd (e set her %p to &&ept ll this !$ F"RST &re ti'g st tes of i'te'se &o''e&tio'<<< *o 'o( $o% see ho( to %se either 5%otes, or des&ri!e 'other perso'7s e4perie'&e to get (o#e' i'to the A%i&iest st tes of drippi'g (et ro%s l. Go %se it o' so#eo'e TONIGHT<<< Chapter $ix Review and Exercises: 1. I' the sp &e !elo(, (rite $o%r o(' 5%otes p tter', %si'g the &o## 'ds, 7i1a&ine .a3in& a1a=in& %e: wit. 1e7 an) 7&et incre)i*'y .ot an) .orny7: .. Pi&" '$ 3 (e sel phr ses fro# Ch pter 3, 'd i' the sp &e !elo(, &o'str%&t 5%otes p tter' for e &h o'e of the#, 3. B4pl i' the differe'&e !et(ee' 5%otes 'd des&ri!i'g 'other perso'7s e4perie'&e,.

CHAPTER I: MORE ACCE#ERATORS: THE POWER OF SUB@MODA#"T"ES ?h t !etter ( $ to get (o# ' hot 'd !othered for $o% th ' to h ve her pi&t%ri'g #i'dD!lo(i'g se4 (ith $o%= ?e7ve see' ho( to %se e#!edded &o## 'ds to get her to do this ... 'o( i' this &h pter I7ll sho( $o% ho( to do it i' so#e spe&i l ( $s th t (ill tre1en)o %'y 1a&ni+y t.e /ower an) 3i3i)ne%% of those f 't sies so she !e&o#es %tterl$ o!sessed 'd &o#pelled to &t o' the#. 0e ( r'ed ... this is re ll$ d$' #ite<< Watc. W.ere Yo 2re Ste//in&: T.o &.t% Are Pre%ent I' #$ first !oo", 6Ho( To Get The ?o#e' Yo% >esire I'to 0ed6, I poi'ted o%t th t there7s ' i#port 't disti'&tio' i' ho( people # "e #e't l pi&t%res. Th t disti'&tio' ( s th t people & ' either see the#selves i' ' i# ge, or the$ & ' see (h t the$ &t% ll$ s ( t the ti#e the$ h d the e4perie'&e. ET$pi& ll$, $o% do'7t see $o%rself (he' $o% &t% ll$ e4perie'&e so#ethi'g %'less $o% ( l" ro%'d (ith #irror i' fro't of $o% ll d $ lo'g<F No( I7d li"e to te &h $o% an e3en 1ore i1/ortant )i%tinction (hi&h is this, /eo/'e % *Cecti3e'y arran&e t.eir 1enta' /ict re% in )i++erent 'ocation% in t.eir .ea)0 T.i% )i%tinction a'%o a//'ie% to w.ere /eo/'e %ee1 to .ear t.e interna' 3oice% in t.eir .ea)%0 A' I#port 't B4er&ise To Help Yo% )'derst 'd :et7s give ' e4 #ple of the po(er of (here $o% p%t $o%r pi&t%res i' $o%r #i'd, stop #i'%te 'd thi'" of so#eo'e $o% re ll$, re ll$ li"e. *o#eo'e $o%7re ver$ fo'd of. As $o% do this, 'd $o% see their i# ge i' $o%r #i'd, t "e $o%r fi'ger 'd poi't to (here $o% see# to see th t i# ge. If this is little h rd for $o%, A%st i# gi'e $o%r #i'd is li"e #e't l #ovie s&ree'. T "e 'ote of (here o' the s&ree' the i# ge is. )p= >o('= To the left= The right= ?here the f%&"i'g hell is th t i# ge, !!= A'd, !$ the ( $, ho( !ig is it= O" .. 'o( ... thi'" of so#eo'e $o% do'7t li"e t ll. *o#eo'e (ho, if $o% &o%ld, $o%7d se'te'&e to spe'd eter'it$ s Rose ''e. 0 rr7s !i&$&le se t. ?here do $o% see th t perso'7s i# ge= Ho( !ig is it= No( ... s $o% thi'" of !oth i# ges t the s #e ti#e $o%7ll re ll$ !egi' to 'oti&e th t the$ re i' differe't pl &es i' $o%r #i'd, s%!Ae&tivel$ spe "i'g. Noti&e (h t h ppe's 'o( s $o% tr$ i' v i' to #ove the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do'7t li"e i'to the s #e lo& tio' s the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do. It does'7t ( 't to go, does it= It7s A%st li"e %o1et.in& is fighti'g it. No( (h$ #ight ll this !e %sef%l= W.y 1i&.t yo want to (now w.ere a wo1an / t% .er /ict re% o+ +a''in& in 'o3e$ ?h$ #ight $o% ( 't to "'o( (here (o# ' p%ts her pi&t%res of #e' (ho 'o lo'ger #e ' '$thi'g to her= H##= Co%ld it !e th t if $o% fo%'d o%t (here i' her #i'd (o# ' pi&t%res f lli'g i' love, th t $o% #ight ( 't to so#eho( %nea( a /ict re o+ yo an) .er to&et.er in t.at /'ace, )oin& na%ty t.in&%, an) t.en ri& it / %o t.at %.e %ee% t.o%e i1a&e% o*%e%%i3e'y$ Co%ld it # $!e lso possi!l$ !e the & se th t if she7s lre d$ d ti'g so#eo'e, $o%7d li"e to !e !le to / t .i% /ict re in t.e 'ocation o+ %o1eone %.e2% +or&otten a'' a*o t an) 'o%t a'' +ee'in& +or$ If I &o%ld re ll$ sho( $o% ho( to do ll th t, (o%ld $o% #i'd th t I e'ded th t l st se'te'&e (ith prepositio', so#ethi'g #$ seve'th gr de gr ## r te &her ;rs. Bdge (o%ld h ve sl pped #e for= E?hoops ... I did it g i'<F J

How To Fin) O t W.ere S.e P t% Her Pict re% An) W.at To Do Wit. T.at "n+or1ation Once Yo 23e 6ot "t!!! The !est ( $ to fi'd o%t (here (o# ' p%ts her #e't l pi&t%res, is, of &o%rse, to s". Yo% sho%ld do this s p rt of ' over ll dis&%ssio' of ho( i'teresti'g the #i'd is. Tr$ di log%e li"e this. Yo%, >id $o% "'o( $o%r #i'd p%ts pi&t%res i' differe't pl &es, &&ordi'g to ho( $o% feel !o%t the#= Her, ?h t do $o% #e '= Yo%, ?ell, loo", thi'" of so#eo'e (ho $o% re ll$, re ll$ li"e lot. O"= Her, O"..Yo%, A'd 'o(, if $o% (ere to A%st i# gi'e $o%r #i'd to !e li"e gi 't #ovie s&ree', 'd if $o% (ere to poi't to (here o' the s&ree' $o% see the pi&t%re of th t perso', poi't to (here $o% see it. Her, Epoi'ti'gF O". Yo%, Good. No(, if $o% thi'" !o%t so#eo'e (ho $o% do'7t li"e t ll, or so#eo'e (ho $o% A%st thi'" of s 'e%tr l, poi't to (here $o% see th t. Her, Epoi'ti'gF O". Yo%, Good. No(, ( t&h ... t "e the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do'7t li"e, 'd tr$ to #ove it i'to the s #e pl &e s the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do re ll$ li"e. It does'7t ( 't to go, does it= Alright. Get it= Th t7s ho( $o% get her st rted. Yo% & ' the' #ove o' to getti'g her to poi't to (here she f lls i' love, forgets people, et&.. A 9ery, 9ery "1/ortant Note: No( ... !e r so#ethi'g else i' #i'd. *o#e (o#e' A%st re'7t th t effe&ted !$ the pi&t%res the$ h ve i' their he ds. Bve' if $o% do get the# P"CTUR"N6 se4% l &ts, it %ti'' does'7t get the# ll th t t%r'ed o'. +or the#, so%'ds 'd feeli'gs re #ost po(erf%l. *o $o% & ' eve' h ve her he ri'g so%'ds i' ( $ th t gets her REA##Y HOT, %si'g s%!D#od lities. To do so, $o%7d s $ so#ethi'g li"e this, Yo%, O". Poi't to th t sp &e (here $o% f ll i' love. Gre t. No(, s $o% TH"NK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS " TA#K TO YOU ... s $o% A##OW MY 9O"CE TO COME FROM THAT SPAC B, I A%st i'vite $o% to NOT"CE HOW THE DEEP R"CH WARMTH of th t voi&e A%st st rts to pe'etr te $o%r tho%ghts, 'd st rt to spre d ll thro%gh $o%, 'd th t s%re feels gre t, does'7t it= No(, l ter i' this !oo" (e (ill sho( $o% so#e p tter's th t do A%st th t, 'd #ore, !%t for 'o(, here re so#e ver$ i#port 't poi'ts to "eep i' #i'd, 1. ;ovi'g people7s #e't l pi&t%res is ver$, ver$ po(erf%l !%t lso BKTRB;B:Y INTR)*I9B<<<< It sho%ld o'l$ !e do'e o'&e $o% h ve re ll$ 6s'%&" %p o' the fish6 'd the fish is. lre d$ i' st te of ( 'ti'g to A%#p i'to the !o t <<< .. ?he' $o% #ove (o# '7s #e't l pi&t%res it is l#ost 'ever dvis !le to dire&tl$ &o## 'd her to #ove the#. *o, do'7t s $ so#ethi'g li"e, 7Now, ta(e t.at /ict re o+ 1e, an) / t it ri&.t t.ere in t.at /'ace in yo r 1in) w.ere yo +a'' in 'o3e!!7 ERRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! WRON6!!!! This (o%ld !e #ore li"e it, 7Yo (now, %o1eti1e% " +in) t.at, w.en yo %/en) ti1e wit. %o1eone, an) yo rea''y %tart to e:/erience t.at incre)i*'e *on), an) +ee' tota''y co1+orta*'e, yo can C %t %tart to J/oint to w.ere %.e +a''% in 'o3eH /ict re *ein& to&et.er wit. t.e1 in a %/ecia' way, in t.at %/ecia' /'ace in yo r 1in)<6 0$ the ( $, & ' $o% fi'd the e#!edded &o## 'ds= EB4perie'&e th t i'&redi!le !o'd ... feel tot ll$ &o#fort !le ...F 3. ?he' $o% #ove (o# '7s #e't l pi&t%re7s it7s ofte' dvis !le to dd i' postDh$p'oti& s%ggestio' to "eep those pi&t%res fro# #ovi'g ! &"<< *o, for e4 #ple, let7s s $ $o%7ve do'e p tter' (e7ll sho( $o% i' l ter &h pter, th t gets her to p%t her &%rre't !o$frie'd7s pi&t%re i'to lo& tio' th t # "es hi# see# &o#pletel$ %'i#port 't. To preve't it fro# poppi'g ! &" $o%7d s $ so#ethi'g li"e, Now, yo 1ay *e % r/ri%e) to +in) .ow co11on e3ery)ay t.in&%, 'i(e +'i//in& t.e 'i&.t %witc., or wa'(in& in yo r +ront )oor, or %te//in& into t.e %.ower can re1in) yo to (ee/ t.o%e /ict re% )own t.ere! An) t.e 1ore t.ey %tr &&'e an) +i&.t to co1e *ac(, t.e %1a''er an) )ar(er t.ey &et 000 to t.e /oint w.ere yo C %t can2t e3en %ee t.e1 any1ore, e3er a&ain!

Noti&e here (e7ve li'"ed (h t (e ( 't her #i'd to do to so#e &o##o', ever$d $ eve't. If (e li'"ed it to ever$ ti#e H le$7s &o#et p sses !$ or the ;ets (i' the ?orld *eries (e7d get 'o(here.. Chapter % Review and Exercises 1. +i'd frie'd E# le or fe# leF 'd eli&it fro# the# the lo& tio' i' their #i'd of so#eo'e the$ li"e 'd so#eo'e the$ do'7t. ETell the# it7s ll p rt of ps$&holog$ e4peri#e't $o% re d !o%t i' !oo"F Note the differe'&es i' (here the$ see these i# ges. The' tr$ 'd get the# to #ove the pi&t%re of the perso' the$ li"e to the s #e pl &e s the pi&t%re of the perso' the$ do'7t, 'ote the res%lts. .. No( ... s" the s #e perso' fro# e4er&ise o'e to thi'" of o'e of those t(o people !%t >ON7T tell $o% (hi&h o'e it is. Yo%r Ao! (ill !e to g%ess !$ ( t&hi'g (here his e$es go s he thi'"s. Al#ost l( $s his e$es (ill go i' the s #e pl &e he poi'ted origi' ll$. *o if he or she poi'ted %p 'd to the left (he' s the pl &e (here the$ p%t so#eo'e the$ li"e, &h '&es re th t7s (here the$ (ill loo" (he' the$ thi'" of th t perso' g i'..

CHAPTER K: MORE ACCE#ERATORSL D"RECT"9E AND CON9ERSAT"ONA# ANCHOR"N6 H ve $o% ever he rd the e4pressio', 6>o'7t reDi've't the (heel=6. ?ell the s #e ide pplies stro'gl$ i' *peed *ed%&tio'. Yo% see, !%ildi'g st tes of f s&i' tio', ro%s l, l%st, et&. & ' !e do'e ver$ 5%i&"l$@ 'o do%!t !o%t th t. 0%t o'&e $o%7ve !%ilt those st tes, (h$ 'ot # "e s%re $o% h ve ( $ to t%r' the# o' g i' '$ ti#e $o% ( 't to, (itho%t h vi'g to go thro( !%ildi'g the# ll over g i'= I' other (ords, if $o% i'iti l i'vest#e't of ti#e i' getti'g (o# ' i' ll these st tes is, s $, .2 to 32 #i'%tes, (o%ld'7t it !e gre t to !e !le to get her ! &" i'to those st tes (ith o'e (ord or to%&h, or eve' gl '&e, i' !o%t o'e se&o'd= No( th t (o%ld re ll$ !e *peed *ed%&tio', (o%ld'7t it= Yo%r ! si& tool for doi'g this is ANCHOR"N6, 'd the pri'&iple of '&hori'g is si#ple, i+ yo &et a /er%on in a certain %tate, an) t.en co1*ine t.at %tate wit. a to c. or a %o n), t.e /er%on2% *rain wi'' a%%ociate t.at %tate wit. t.at %o n) or to c., %o 'ater, i+ yo /ro) ce t.at %o n) or to c., t.e /er%on wi'' &o *ac( into t.at %tate. There re t(o ! si& t$pes of '&hori'g. Two Ty/e% O+ Anc.orin&: Directi3e De1on%tration an) Non@Directi3e, Con3er%ationa' *o#e of the ver$ !est 6*peed *ed%&tio'6 p tter's re &o'vers tio' l, (ith these, $o% do'7t ever tell her to do '$thi'g, she A%st does it %to# ti& ll$ !$ virt%e of liste'i'g to $o%. Other p tter's Ei' the #i'orit$, !%t still po(erf%l, to !e s%re<F do re5%ire th t $o% dire&t her to do thi'gs. 0%t eve' here it7s 'ot so #%&h orderi'g s it is s"i'g her to p rti&ip te so $o% & ' de#o'str te to her so#e i'teresti'g pri'&iple of the #i'd. Yo% & ' '&hor %si'g either o'e of these fr #es of doi'g thi'gs.. Con3er%ationa' Anc.orin&: O'e of the !est 'd si#plest 'd h rdest to dete&t ( $s to '&hor is to t l" to so#eo'e !o%t &ert i' st te of #i'd, s (e7ve sho(' $o% ho( to do %si'g $o%r f vorite (e sel p tter's, HA9B YO) B9BR or ?HAT7* IT :IIB ?HBN= The', o'&e $o%7ve fi'ished des&ri!i'g th t st te or e4perie'&e 'd the perso' is re ll$ e4perie'&i'g it, $o% A%st re &h over 'd to%&h the#, 'd s $o% do so, $o% s $, 6C ' $o% feel t.at Ep %se for se&o'dF (o%ld !e (o'derf%l e4perie'&e to h ve=6. No( ... let #e e4pl i' this for se&o'd. It7s %si'g so#ethi'g (e & ll #!ig%it$. Yo% see, (he' $o% s" the perso', 6& ' $o% feel th t6 s $o% to%&h the#, t first their #i'd thi'"s $o% #e ' 6& ' $o% feel this to%&h I7# givi'g $o%=6 'd of &o%rse the$ i'st 'tl$ thi'", 6$es6. 0%t the', (he' $o% go o', fter th t split se&o'd p %se, to dd i', 6(o%ld !e (o'derf%l e4perie'&e to h ve=6 the$ the' !e&o#e !it &o'f%sed, 'd go ! &" 'd sso&i te ll those (o'derf%l feeli'gs to th t to%&h $o% A%st g ve the#. The li'" h s i'st 'tl$ !ee' # de, %'&o's&io%sl$, so there7s 'othi'g the$ & ' do !%t feel those feeli'gs (he'ever $o% to%&h the#. 9

Directi3e, De1on%tration Anc.orin& *o#eti#es, the &o'te4t of the p tter' $o%7re r%''i'g llo(s $o% to !e little #ore dire&t. *o#eti#es, for e4 #ple, I7ll e4pl i' to (o# ' little !it !o%t (h t I do, 'd I7ll %se th t opport%'it$ to de#o'str te E 'd i'st ll, re#e#!er there7s 'o differe'&e !et(ee' des&riptio' 'd dire&ti'g, (he' it7s do'e &orre&tl$=F '&hori'g o' her. Ieep i' #i'd th t I7ve st rted o%t t l"i'g to her !o%t other thi'gs to pe " her &%riosit$ 'd th t I do'7t st rt !$ de#o'str ti'g '&hori'g ... th t7s too i'te'se 'd too i'tr%sive to st rt. ERe#e#!er the ide of & "e re&ipe ... ever$thi'g i' the right order=F Ieepi'g th t i' #i'd, $o%7d do so#ethi'g li"e this, YO), Can yo re1e1*er a ti1e w.en $o% (ere feeli'g ... #### ... !sol%te ple s%re i' $o%r !od$= E'ote here th t $o%r voi&e to'e h s to # t&h (h t $o% re des&ri!i'g<F HBR, Oh $e h. YO), Gre t ... (ell, here7s (h t I ( 't $o% to do. Re#e#!er th t ti#e g i', 'd see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd 'd feel ho( it felt. A'd (he' those feeli'gs.re &h their pe ", A%st (iggle this little fi'ger for #e< E(iggle o'e of her pi'"$ fi'gersF. E? t&h for the (iggle ... (he' she gives it, re &h over 'd to%&h her o' the (rist or r# 'd s $ 6PBR+BCT6F YO), Gre t ... 'o( do it g i' ... see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, 'd feel ho( it felt ... 'd (he' those feeli'gs re &h their pe ", (iggle th t fi'ger. E? t&h for (iggle, 'd the' repe t the to%&h 'd 6PBR+BCT6F YO) O'e #ore ti#e ... Ep%t her thro%gh it o'&e #ore<F. YO), Good. No(, the theor$ !ehi'd '&hori'g is, th t if $o% h ve so#eo'e i' ' i'te'se st te 'd $o% &o#!i'e th t st te (ith to%&h, ever$ ti#e $o% do the to%&h g i' the$7ll go ! &" i'to the st te. *o, if (ere to s $ to $o% E'oti&e the (e sel phr se=F, $o% "'o(, I thi'" (e7re h vi'g lots of f%' t l"i'g here. I' f &t, it7s so #%&h f%', it & ' A%st feel PBR+BCT Ere &h over 'd to%&h her i' the e4 &t s #e pl &e o' (rist or r#F, th t s%re (o%ld !e feel gre t, do'7t $o%= No(, s I7ve poi'ted o%t i' #$ origi' l !oo", 6Ho( To Get The ?o#e' Yo% >esire I'to 0ed<6, o'&e $o%7ve got the '&hor est !lished, $o% & ' fire it off '$ti#e $o% ( 't to, or A%st "eep holdi'g it to "eep her i' th t st te. Yo% & ' f%rther &&eler te the st te !$ %si'g 5%otes, des&ri!i'g other people7s e4perie'&es, or %si'g s%!D#od lities. Re#e#!er the', the "e$ phr sesHsteps to '&hor re, Con3er%ationa'MNon@Directe) Anc.orin& 1. )se 6h ve $o% ever6 or 6(h t7s it li"e (he'6 or 6(h t7s the feeli'g of6 to get her i'to the st te $o% ( 't to '&hor. .. >es&ri!e the st te to i'te'sif$ her e4perie'&e. 3. As $o% fi'ish $o%r des&riptio', 'd her st te pe "s, re &h over 'd to%&h her 'd s $o% do s $, 6C ' $o% feel th t ... Ep %seF is ' i'&redi!le e4perie'&e to h ve=.4. +ire off or hold '&hor s i' >ire&ted A'&hori'g. Directi3e De1on%tration Anc.orin&: 1. C ' $o% re#e#!er ti#e (he' $o% (ere feeli'g K= .. Close $o%r e$es. *ee (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, feel ho( it felt. 3. At pe " of her ple s%re, re &h o%t 'd to%&h. 4. Repe t . ti#es. /. +ire off '&hor !$ repe ti'g s #e to%&h. Hold it (hile t l"i'g to her, or let it go 'd refire it l ter. -. A&&eler te her st te eve' #ore %si'g 5%otes, s%!D#od lities or des&ri!i'g other people7s e4perie'&es. 0PRACT"CA# APP#"CAT"ONS: This 'e4t se&tio' of the !oo" de ls (ith pr &ti& l, re l (orld ppli& tio' of ll these p tter's to the v rio%s sit% tio's $o% re li"el$ to f &e. 0e r i' #i'd th t the ge'er l se5%e'&e th t '$ good p tter' follo(s, i'volves these steps, *tep 1, Create a %tate o+ inten%e connection, ti1e )i%tortion, 'o3e, +a%cination, (nowin& yo +ore3er etc0 Tools to %se for this, 7Ha3e yo e3er7, 7W.at2% it 'i(e w.en7 an) ot.er wea%e' /.ra%e%L /roce%% )e%cri/tion%, etc0 *tep ., Create %tate% o+ aro %a' an) ' %t *y &ettin& .er +oc %e) in on /'ea% ra*'e +ee'in&% in .er *o)y0

Tools to %se for this, anc.orin&, 4 ote%, % *@1o)a'itie%, )e%cri*in& anot.er /er%on2% e:/erience%0 *tep 3, P t on con)o10 Yo 2re a*o t to &et ra/e)!!!0 CHAPTER N: PATTERNS FOR POWERFU# CONNECT"ONS >id $o% ever i'st 'tl$ "'o( th t $o%7d !e tot ll$ f s&i' ted !$ so#ethi'g $o% (ere re di'g= I #e ', # $!e s $o% &o'ti'%ed to re d it, 'd 'oti&e the sh pe of the letters, the d r"'ess of the i'", 'd the (hite'ess of the p ge, it llo(ed $o% to GO IN*I>B, 'd re#e#!er ti#e (he' le r'i'g ( s e s$ 'd f%'= H h h . J%st pl $i'g (ith $o%. NO?, s I7ve s id !efore 'd pro! !l$ (ill &o'ti'%e to repe t, it7s e4tre#el$ i#port 't to first &re te those st tes of PO?BR+): &o''e&tio'. ?he' $o% do so, $o%7ll fi'd th t ofte'ti#es th t7s e'o%gh, th t $o% (o'7t eve' h ve to do the se4% l st%ff. J%st "eep i' #i'd th t ever$ girl is differe't. *o#e re i'here'tl$ #ore s%ggesti!le th ' others@ so#e re ' t%r ll$ hor'ier 'd looser se4% ll$, 'd (o%ld f%&" t the drop of h t Eor &o'do#F i' '$ & se<. H vi'g s id ll th t, let7s loo" t fe( re ll$ gre t p tter's for &re ti'g those &o''e&tio's, %si'g the i'&redi!l$ po(erf%l phe'o#e' of ti1e )i%tortio'. Yo%7ll see %s %se ti#e distortio' g i' i' the 0o$frie'd >estro$er, !%t right 'o(, let7s loo" t #$ f vorite, the, "n%tantaneo %MTi1e'e%% Connection Pattern 9ariation O5 ?he' to %se p tter', T.i% /attern +ar an) away wor(% t.e *e%t wit.in t.e +ir%t +ew 1in te% o+ 1eetin& .er0 "t2% /artic 'ar'y &oo) +or &ir'% w.o are rea''y into New A&e * ''%.it 'i(e a%tro'o&y, tarot car)%, ESP, UFO2% an) a'' t.at ot.er cra/0 Yo can %e it o3er t.e /.one, in writin&, or o+ co r%e, a% it wor(% *e%t, +ace to +ace! Ste/%MToo'% %e): ?e sel phr ses, e#!edded &o## 'ds 'd ti#e distortio'. Yo%, H ve $o% ever +e't an "NSTANTANEOUS connection (ith so#eo'e= EPoi't to $o%rselfF :i"e # $!e s $o% (ere there, loo"i'g t the#, 'd $o% st rted to #"STEN "NTENT#Y, it ( s li"e there ( s &ord of :IGHT.Egest%re fro# $o%r sol r ple4%sDto hersF goi'g fro# $o% to the#= A'd s th t &ord !eg ' to 6#OW, W"TH THE WARMTH of th t &o''e&tio', # $!e $o% (ere eve' !le to "MA6"NE A T"ME "N YOUR FUTURE Egest%re either to $o%r left or to $o%r right ... t this poi't it re ll$ does'7t # tterF, s $ si4 #o'ths fro# 'o(, still FEE#"N6 THAT SENSE OF "NCRED"B#E CONNECT"O N, 'd #OOK"N6 BACK ON TODAY Epoi't ! &" to $o%F s h vi'g !ee' the st rt of it= The#, Oh $e h... Yo%, *ee, I thi'" it7s so f%''$ ho( so#e people & ' BUST DO THAT 'd #ET "T HAPPEN "NSTANTANEOUS#Y Es' p $o%r fi'gersF !e& %se for #e it t "es lo'ger. 0%t I do fi'd th t d%ri'g the &o%rse of ' eve'i'g, s $o% REA##Y #"STEN to so#eo'e Epoi't to $o%rselfF, 'd $o% START TO RECO6N"DE those v l%es 'd 5% lities i' the# th t $o% hold so de rl$ for $o%rself ... p %se ... W"TH ME th t7s (he' $o% & ' MAKE THAT CONNECT"ON 'd re ll$ FEE# THAT 6ROW"N6 BOND0 O". :oo" f #ili r= It sho%ld, si'&e (e sho(ed $o% this e rl$ o'. 0%t here7s v ri tio' to %se, !e& %se so#eti#es (he' $o% s" if the$7ve felt ' i'st 't 'eo%s &o''e&tio', the$7ll s $ 6NO<6. *o tr$ this o'e i'ste d, it7s ver$ si#il r, 9ariation O, >id $o% ever in%tant'y (now yo were &oin& to 'i(e an) tr %t %o1eone +or a 'on&, 'on& ti1 e= EPoi't to $o%rselfF :i"e # $!e eve' tho%gh $o% o'l$ "'e( the# short (hile, it %ee1e) 'i(e yo .a) (nown t.e1 yo r w.o'e 'i+e, a% i+ t.ere were a ti1e'e%% connection *etween yo an) t.e#= Egest%re to her 'd the' to $o%<F I #e ', $o% (now t.at +ee'in& o+ incre)i*'e *on)in g, (he' a'' t.e *arrier% C %t )ro/, away an) 1e't 'd $o% A%st +ee' %o tota''y co1+orta*'e an) at ea%e (ith the#. A'd it7s li"e # $!e $o% (ere eve' !le to i1a&ine a ti1e in yo r + t re, %ay year% +ro1 now, %ti'' *ein& incre)i*'y connecte) to t.i% /er%on Epoi't to $o%rself g i'F 'd loo"i'g ! &" o' tod $ s h vi'g !ee' the st rt of it= I A%st thi'" th t7s the 'e test thi'g (he' perso' & ' 6O "NS"DE 'd "NSTANT#Y re&og'iGe ll those 5% lities 'd v l%es i' th t other 12

perso', th t #ETS THAT CONNECT"ON TAKE P#ACE W"TH SOMEONE ... Ep %seF MB, it %s% ll$ t "es !it lo'ger.. No(, I li"e this v ri tio' 5%ite 'i&el$. I lso thi'" it (o%ld # "e good repl$ to (o# '7s perso' l d, or eve' 'i&e o%tgoi'g voi&e # il #ess ge for those s$ste#s (here (o#e' & ll i' to liste' to $o%, 'd the' de&ide if the$ ( 't to # "e &o't &t. ?o%ld $o% li"e to see ho( I7d &h 'ge the (ordi'g to fit th t for# t= ?h t7s th t $o% s $ ... $o% (o%ld= O", here goes, (ith... 9ariation O8: >id $o% ever in%tant'y (now yo were &oin& to 'i(e an) tr %t %o1eone +or a 'on&, 'on& ti1 e= ; $!e $o% o'l$ "'e( the# for short (hile !%t it see#ed th t $o% h d "'o(' the# yo r w.o'e 'i+e, s if there (ere a ti1e'e%% connection !et(ee' $o% 'd the#= I7# (o'deri'g s $o% re d this, if $o% & ' re#e#!er the feeli'g of th t, 'd A%st ho( (o'derf%l it ( s, !e& %se so#eti#es life h s ( $ of # "i'g %s re#e#!er those thi'gs, right prior to dis&overi'g th t (e & ' e4perie'&e those feeli'gs g i' (ith so#eo'e. ;e ... (ell, I do'7t thi'" th t "i'd of thi'g & ' !e for&ed. No ess $ or (ords or video t pe & ' &re te it Ei'sert her ' #e hereF. ?ords 'd ppe r '&es re o'l$ e4pressio's, t.e 3e.ic'e% t.at contain t.e e%%ence t.at 1o3e% s. It & ' o'l$ h ppe' ' t%r ll$ s the e4pressio' of ' e'erg$ !et(ee' t(o people, !%t (he' it does ... $o% "'o( th t feeli'g of incre)i*'e *on)ing, (he' ll the ! rriers #elt 'd drop ( $, 'd t(o people &o#e together, f%sed i'to o'e spirit% l esse'&e, the #i'gli'g of e'ergies feedi'g o'e to the other, !%ildi'g 'd i'&re si'g 'd i'te'sif$i'g, #i'gli'g i'to ' e4pressio' of live'ess th t (ords & ' i'iti te !%t 'ever & pt%re f%ll$= It h s i'ste d to !e i'd%lged in%i)e yo r own i1a&ination ... d(elled o', 'd to$ed (ith, deep, deep i'side $o%. *pe "i'g to $o% s perso' (ho & ' e4perie'&e th t "i'd of &o''e&tio', A%st ho( #%&h & ' $o% 'oo( +orwar) to enCoyin& t.at (ith so#eo'e (ho #oves $o% i' th t ( $= As $o% re1e1*er w.at t.at wo ') *e 'i(e, 'd +in) t.o%e /o%%i*i'itie% o/enin& *e+ore yo%, i' s%&h ( $ th t '$thi'g else !l%rs i'to i'sig'ifi& '&e, ho( po(erf%ll$ (ill $o% +ee' t.at r&e to ca'' 'd fi'd o%t #ore !o%t this perso' (ho h s so #oved $o%, (ith A%st (ords o' p ge= As $o% fi'd $o%rself ( 'ti'g to #eet (ith #e, re liGe I & ' !e re &hed t EFLLLDLLLL.EMDDDD$o%r '%#!er goes there, d%#Dd%#<F. T.e "1/ortance o+ Ti1e Di%tortion ?h t these p tter's ll h ve i' &o##o' is, t.ey )i%tort a wo1an2% %en%e o+ ti1e, an) 1a(e it %ee1 'i(e %.e2% a'rea)y +a''en +or yo %, 'd h s, i' f &t, +e't t.at way +or %o1e ti1e a'rea) $. Yo% see, if so#eo'e is resisti'g $o%, r ther th ' tr$i'g to !re " t.ro &. th t resist '&e, the !etter thi'g is si#pl$ to go a+ter it, or *e+ore it. Ti#e distortio' is ' i'&redi!l$ po(erf%l (e po' i' $o%r get l id rse' l, 'd a+ter $o%7ve p%lled it off fe( ti#es, $o%7ll 'oo( *ac( o' le r'i'g it s h vi'g !ee' o'e of the !est thi'gs th t e3er .a//ene) to $o%, re liGi'g th t re di'g this wa% t.e %tart o+ it0 Wa%n2t it$ ?he(< T l" !o%t shifti'g $o%r ti#e se'ses ro%'d<<< Ot.er 6reat O/enin&% For "ncre)i*'e Connection O". This 'e4t p tter' does'7t %se ti#e distortio', !%t (or"s 5%ite po(erf%ll$ 'o'etheless. I li"e it !e& %se it7s ver$ &o'vers tio' l, i'volves little or 'o dire&ti'g her to do '$thi'g other th ' liste', 'd is !o%t topi&s th t (o#e' re re ll$ i'to 'd i'terested i' '$ & se< Attraction 9%0 #o3e ?he' to %se p tter', On t.e )ate, or wit.in t.e +ir%t 5> 1in te% o+ 1eetin& .er, a+ter 1a(in& &enera' +' ++ ta'(0 *tepsHTools %sed, Wea%e' /.ra%e%, e1*e))e) co11an)%0 Yo%, H ve $o% ever tho%ght !o%t the differe'&e !o%t !et(ee' ttr &tio' 'd !ei'g i' love= Her, ?h t do $o% #e '= Yo%, ?ell, &t% ll$ I thi'" the$ t "e pl &e i' differe't setti'gs. I #e ' ttr &tio' is (h t $o% e4perie'&e (he' $o%7re i' the prese'&e of th t perso', Epoi't to $o%rselfF 'd $o%7re loo"i'g t the#, 'd $o% # $!e $o% thi'" to $o%rself ... Ep %seF ####. A'd # $!e $o% st rt to h ve &ert i' ... Ep %seF tho%ghts, i# ges 'd $o% "'o( (h t th t feels li"e, right= Her, *%re. Yo%, 0%t f lli'g i' love, (ell I thi'" $o% do th t (he'.$o%7re 'ot eve' i' th t perso'7s prese'&e. I #e ', & ' $o% re#e#!er ti#e (he' $o% A%st tot ll$ fell for

so#eo'e= Her, Ye h. Yo%, A'd s $o% sit there loo"i'g t #e, thi'"i'g !o%t (h t I7# s $i'g, $o% & ' re#e#!er (h t it felt li"e, right= Her, *%re. Yo%, Ye h, !%t here7s ho( it h ppe'ed. Yo% spe't so#e ti#e (ith th t perso' Egest%re to $o%rselfF 'd the' $o% (e't ho#e, 'd $o% P"CTURE THAT PERSON "N YOUR M"ND E s $o% do this, dr ( fr #e ro%'d $o%r o(' f &e< H < This sti&"s $o% i' there<F right= Her, Yes. Yo%, A'd the', # $!e $o% "MA6"NE YOURSE#F i' ll sorts of sit% tio's (ith this perso' Epoi't to $o%rself g i'F h vi'g lots of f%', 'd e'Ao$i'g the "i'd of feeli'gs 'd thi'gs $o%7d li"e to e'Ao$ (ith the#= C ' $o% REMEMBER HOW THAT FEE#*= Her, Ye h Yo%, A'd the' # $!e $o% st rt to #"ST A## THE AUA#"T"ES !o%t hi# $o% re ll$ li"e, He7s so s# rt, he7s so f%''$, he7s so f%' to !e (ith, (h tever the$ (ere, (h tever the thi'gs re $o% re ll$ WANT AND ENBOY THAT i' so#eo'e Epoi't to $o%rself g i'F, right= Her, Ye h Yo%, A'd the' $o% get th t feeli'g, right i' the pit of $o%r sto# &h, right i' $o%r sol r ple4%s, th t A%st st rts to spre d o%t 'd let $o% "'o( $o% re ll$, REA##Y #O9E TH"S PERSO N= Epoi't to self g i'F I #e ', & ' $o% feel th t s I des&ri!e it to $o%= Her, Oh $e h. Yo%, A'd the', here7s the "i&"er ... $o% START SAY"N6 H"S NAME OUT #OU>. Yo% st rt BR"N6"N6 "T UP "N0CON9ERSAT"ONS W"TH YOUR FR"END*, 'd # $!e eve' $o% DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE, S"N6"N6 "T if $o%7re re l goof= Right= Her, Tot ll$. Yo%, *ee, I thi'" ever$thi'g, i'&l%di'g f lli'g i' love is pro&ess. A'd (he' $o% DO THAT PROCESS W"TH SOMEONB, Epoi't to $o%rselfF 'd re ll$ #ET "T HAPPEN, th t7s (he' the # gi& t "es over, the # gi& (e7re re ll$ ll loo"i'g for. Of &o%rse so#eti#es th t & ' t "e #o'ths, !%t the re l # gi& is (he' it h ppe's "NSTANT#Y 'd $o% "'o( it right ( $. Th t7s ' i'&redi!le feeli'g, is'7t it= No(, this p tter' is ' i'&redi!le #i'dDf%&"< ?h t $o%7re doi'g is des&ri!i'g the pro&ess, o!t i'i'g her gree#e't !$ s"i'g, 6Right=6, # "i'g s%re she7s feeli'g (h t it7s li"e, !$ s"i'g, 6C ' $o% re#e#!er ho( th t felt=6 or 6Yo% re#e#!er th t feeli'g, do'7t $o%=6,. 'd the' li'"i'g it to $o% !$ $o%r gest%res, p%tti'g the pi&t%re fr #e ro%'d $o%r f &e Ed #' th t7s &lever ... the$ NB9BR & t&h th t o'e<F, 'd lso A%st !$ virt%e of her loo"i'g t $o% s she reDe4perie'&es these feeli'gs. +i' ll$, $o%7re givi'g her &o## 'd t the e'd of the p tter' to e4perie'&e it i'st 'tl$ (ith $o%< The other lovel$ thi'g !o%t this p tter' is, 'ot o'l$ (ill she feel ll those gre t feeli'gs (ith $o% right ( $, !%t it progr #s her to thi'" !o%t $o% th t ( $ 'ater o'. *o eve' tho%gh (e7re 'ot te&h'i& ll$ %si'g ti#e distortio', this p tter' does h ve del $ed re &tio' effe&t s (ell s it7s i##edi te o'e..

3. )se 6&o'vers tio' l '&hori'g6 to & pt%re st te. 4. As optio' l step, %se des&ri!i'g 'other perso'7s e4perie'&e to re ll$ &&eler te the st te<< Yo%, H ve ever $o% h%'g o%t (ith so#eo'e (ho $o% (ere'7t re ll$ ttr &ted to !%t the', for (h tever #$sterio%s re so', $o% A%st s%dde'l$ fo%'d th t $o% st rted to TH"NK TH"N6S D"FFERENT#Y 'd SEE THEM "N A WHO#E NEW WAY= Epoi't to $o%rselfF I #e ', I thi'" so#eti#es people re ll$ do'7t "'o( (h t the$ ( 't, t le st &o's&io%sl$ ... !%t the' it7s li"e YOUR CONSC"OUS M"ND D"9ES DOWN Egest%re (ith !oth h 'ds to i'di& te divi'g do('F i'to $o%r %'&o's&io%s, 'd A%st Egest%re (ith !oth to i'di& te &o#i'g ! &" %pF BR"N6S BACK UP A## THOSE DES"RES AND "MA6ES AND FEE#"N6S "NTO YOUR M"N>.. I #e ' li"e #$ 'eigh!or loo"s t #e o'e d $, 'd right o%t of the !l%e she t "es #e !$ the h 'ds Et "e her !$ the h 'dsF 'd s $s, 6C ' $o% "MA6"NE "F WE WERE MAK"N6 OU T, A'd I ( s "issi'g e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"e to !e "issed, to%&hi'g $o% e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"ed to !e to%&hed, 'd $o% (ere st rti'g to FEE# "NCRED"B#Y TURNED ON, so t%r'ed o' $o% h d to h ve #e.=6 C ' $o% !elieve she s id th t= No(, see, if I h d ( 'ted to pl $ ! &" (ith her= I (o%ld s id so#ethi'g li"e, 6Oh $e h= ?ell $o% "'o( th t feeli'g $o% get A%st !efore $o% h ve ' org s#. ?he' the ple s%re is A%st !%ildi'g 'd p%lsi'g 'd thro!!i'g ll thro%gh $o%r !od$= If $o% &o%ld "MA6"NE THAT FEE#"NG, &o%ld $o% FEE# THAT R"6HT NO?= Es5%eeGe her h 'ds s $o% s $ this ... $o%7ve 'o( set %p ' i'&redi!l$ po(erf%l st &"ed %p '&hor<F Optio' l, If $o% (ish to f%rther &&eler te the st te, t l" !o%t 'other perso'7s e4perie'&e, %si'g the spiel fro# Ch pter 9, #i(e +ir%t, a% %.e 'oo(% at t.e & y, an) %tart% to REA##Y PAY ATTENT"ON, %.e C %t *eco1e% aware o+ certain t.in&% 000 'i(e t.e r.yt.1 o+ .er *reat.in&, an) t.e *eatin& o+ .er .eart, an) t.e o t 'ine o+ .i% +ace 000 %o a% %.e *eco1e% aware o+ a'' t.e%e t.in&%, one /artic 'ar +eat re o+ .i% +ace C %t %tart% to ri3et .er attention, %o %.e *eco1e% tota''y a*%or*e) in t.e connection ta(in& /'ace 000 an) a% t.at2% a'' .a//enin&, it2% 'i(e t.e war1t. o+ .i% 3oice, t.e )ee/ ric. war1t. o+ it, C %t %tart% to /enetrate .er con%cio %ne%%, an) %/rea) a'' t.ro &. .er *o)y, an) a% .er .eart *eat% +a%ter an) .er *reat.in& increa%e%, t.at war1t. C %t .eat% / into a +ire, %/rea)in& t.ro &. .er c.e%t an) )own t.ro &. .er *e''y, a% t.e /'ea% re o+ it C %t %tart% to /o n) an) / '%ate a'' t.ro &. .er, )own to w.ere %.e rea''y 'on&% to .a3e it &o, nti' t.at )e%ire +or .i1 C %t BECOMES UTTER#Y O9ERWHE#M"N6, an) %.e C %t SURRENDERS to it co1/'ete'y0 Se: a' Aro %a' Frien)% "nto #o3er% 9ariation O, O". Here7s 'other optio' to tr$. It le ds i'to the s #e st te, !%t st rts fro# differe't pl &e. A'd, if it see#s to o%tr geo%s to $o%, re#e#!er ho( $o% & ' l( $s p%t '$ of these p tter's i'to 5%otes, 'd t l" !o%t ho( $o%r frie'd ( s telli'g $o% this< ENoti&e the (e sel phr se th t st rts it off<F ."F YOU WERE TO wa(e / one 1ornin&, an) % ))en'y rea'i=e t.at yo were )ee/'y an) /ro+o n)'y in 'o3e wit. %o1eone, .ow )o yo t.in( yo r *o)y wo ') +ee' )i++erent, w.en yo were near t.e1$ How )o yo t.in( yo 2) enCoy t.e war1t. o+ t.eir 3oice a% t.ey ta'( to yo , t.e %o+tne%% o+ t.eir to c. a&ain%t yo r c.ee(, t.e 'oo( in t.eir eye% a% yo 'oo(e) at t.e1, a% t.at 'on&in& in yo * i')%, t.e 'on&in& to *e to c.e), e:act'y t.e way yo 'i(e to *e to c.e), (i%%e) e:act'y t.e way yo 'i(e to *e (i%%e), nti' t.at /a%%ion * i't %o %tron& in%i)e yo , an) yo were &ettin& %o t rne) on, t.at yo were *e&&in& to *e +i''e) wit. .i1, in t.at way a wo1an can 'on& to *e +i''e)$ JNote: "+ yo %ee t.e nee), t.row in t.e %/ie' +ro1 e:a1/'e O5H Fa''in& "n #o3e PatternMFrien)% "nto #o3er% O5: DO YOU TH"NK "2M CHARACTER$ This 'e4t p tter's is (h t I (o%ld h ve to & ll, for l &" of !etter ter#, a *'in)er /atter'. ?h t $o%7re doi'g is getti'g her to sso&i te # ssivel$ ple s%r !le feeli'gs to $o% li"e d#ir tio' 'd e#p th$, li'"i'g those to !ei'g i' love, 'd the' tot ll$ !li'di'g her to '$ f %lts of &h r &ter or ppe r '&e $o% #ight h ve. ENoti&e th t this is (h t h ppe's (he' perso' re ll$ f lls for 11

CHAPTER 5>: FR"ENDS "NTO #O9ERS PATTERNS ?e7ve ll h d those sit% tio's (here girls A%st ( 't to !e, g%lp. 6frie'ds6. The 'e4t fo%r p tter's I7ll sho( $o% re desig'ed to &h 'ge th t sit% tio', 'd f st. The first t(o (or" !$ getti'g her ver$ se4% ll$ ro%sed@ the l st t(o (or" !$ getti'g her to thi'" !o%t $o% i' ver$ lovi'g ( $s. All of the# (or" so (ell, it7s s& r$, 'd 'o'e of the# re dete&t !le, so if o'e t$pe Ese4% lF does'7t (or", s(it&h to 'other. Se: a' Aro %a' Frien)% "nto #o3er%0 O5 ?he' to %se p tter', T.e%e /attern can *e %e) on a wo1an w.o .a% *een a 'on& ti1e +rien) * t %.own no %e: a' intere%t, or on a wo1an wit. w.o1 yo .a) a +ew )ate% way *ac( w.en * t ne3er &ot anyw.ere0 "t wor(% *e%t in a ca% a' %ettin&, 'i(e o3er co++ee0 *tepsHtools %sed i' p tter', 1. )se 6h ve $o% ever6 (e sel phr se to set %p st te .. )se 65%otes6 to &&eler te st te.

so#eo'e '$( $@ the$ s $ love is !li'd, 'd (e7re A%st i'd%&i'g th t !li'd'ess !$ des&ri!i'g it< Re#e#!er= T.ere2% no )i++erence *etween )e%cri*in& %(i''+ ''y an) )irecting=F This is sl #DdooG$ of p tter' 'd I7# ver$ pro%d of #$self. ; "e s%re $o% %se it o' girl (ho7s "'o(' $o% for fe( #o'ths t le st. Yo : Do yo t.in( "21 a c.aracter$ yo (now, " t.in( "21 a c.aracter too, * t " )on2t t.in( "21 a 1ean c.aracter, " t.in( "21 a c.aracter wit. .eart0 A 'ot o+ /eo/'e w.o are c.aracter% or w.o t.in( o+ t.e1%e'3e% a% c.aracter% C %t )o it a% an e:c %e to *e r )e or 1ean0 B t "2'' te'' yo %o1et.in&, e3en t.o &. "23e *een t.ro &. a 'ot o+ . 1i'iation in 1y 'i+e, it2% ne3er 1a)e 1e 1ean0 an) " t.in( . 1i'iation can 1a(e /eo/'e 1ean0 " 1ean, )on2t &et 1e wron&, " can *e 1ean i+ " .a3e to /rotect 1y%e'+, * t e3en w.en " wa% a %1a'' c.i'), " a'way% .a) t.at /art in 1e t.at wo ') t.in(, w.at can " )o to 1a(e t.i% /er%on treat 1e *etter, an) i+ " can2t )o t.at, w.at can " )o in 1y%e'+ %o it0)oe%n2t . rt %o *a)0 An) t.e t.in& i%, " t.in( t.at2% %o1et.in& a /er%on can REA##Y #O9E THAT ABOUT ME, * t %o1eti1e% it ta(e% a 'on& ti1e +or a wo1an to SEE THAT "N ME, an) REA##Y CONNECT TO "T ca %e " (now " )on2t .a3e a 'ot o+ t.e t.in&% t.at ot.er & y% )o0 " )on2t .a3e a &reat *o)y an) "21 not rea''y .an)%o1e, * t w.en t.ey )o SEE "T, an) REA##Y CONNECT TO "T, t.en a'' t.e%e ot.er t.in&% " )on2t .a3e C %t +a)e into in%i&ni+icance, a% t.ey C %t CONNECT "N TO TH"S0 " C %t wi%. it )i)n2t ta(e %o 'on&, t.at a %/ecia' &ir' co ') SEE "T R"6HT AWAY0 Fa''in& in #o3eMFrien)% "nto #o3er% O,: " THOU6HT " WAS "N #O9E This p tter' is ! sed o' the old 6'eg tive t "e ( $6 so fre5%e'tl$ %sed !$ & r s les# '. ?h t h ppe's is, s the &o'tr &t is !o%t to !e sig'ed, the s les# ' (ill loo" t the &%sto#er, t "e the &o'tr &t i' his t(o h 'ds, 'd s $ so#ethi'g li"e, 6Yo% "'o(, # $!e this is'7t the & r. +or $o%. :et7s A%st forget this de l.6 A'd the' he st rts to te r the &or'er of the &o'tr &t. Of &o%rse, this triggers the opposite respo'se i' the &%sto#er, (ho the' does his !est to &o'vi'&e the s les# ' th t, $es, he, the &%sto#er, re ll$ does ( 't to !%$ the & r<<< Th%s, !$ t "i'g over the &%sto#er7s resist '&e, 'd pl $i'g it o%t first, the s les# ' gets the &%sto#er to t "e o' the s les# '7s7 role< Her< This p tter', therefore, ! si& ll$ (or"s !$ telli'g the girl th t $o% ;I*TAIBN:Y tho%ght $o% (ere i' love (ith her, !%t 'o( re liGe it ( s sill$ ide . Yo% & ' %se it s !ooster to the 6>o Yo% Thi'" I7# A Ch r &ter P tter'<6. J%st do the 6Ch r &ter6 p tter' first, 'd this o'e ' ho%r or so l ter< Here goes, Yo : Can " 1a(e a con+e%%ion$ T.ere wa% a ti1e w.en " t.o &.t " wa% in 'o3e wit. yo 0 " 1ean, " rea'i=e now, 'oo(in& *ac( on it, t.at " wa%n2t0 "t wa% C %t at t.at ti1e " co ') "MA6"NE US HA9"N6 SO MUCH FUN, "N SO MANY D"FFERENT S"TUAT"ONS, an) C %t 6ROW"N6 C#OSER "N OUR MUTUA# RESPECT AND SUPPORT"N6 AND HE#P"N6 EACH OTHER DOWN THROU6H THE YEARS0 " & e%% " wa% %t /i) to e3er0 TH"NK THAT TH"N6S COU#D BE #"KE THAT00

Yo%, ?ell, loo", I re ll$ e'Ao$ed this, 'd I7d li"e to t l" to $o% g i' so#eti#e= C ' I & ll $o%= Her, *orr$ ... I h ve !o$frie'd. Yo%, Yo% h ve !o$frie'd= ?ell, I h ve to d#it I7# dis ppoi'ted, I h ve to respe&t th t $o%7re i' rel tio'ship. 0%t let #e s" $o% 5%estio'. Ho( s%rprised (o%ld $o% !e to F"ND YOURSE#F ACTUA##Y #OOK"N6 FORWARD TO SPEND"N6 A #"TT#E T"ME W"TH MB = I #e ' # $!e to the poi't (here $o% &o%ld "MA6"NE US O9ER COFFEE, #AU6H"N6 AND HA9"N6 THE BEST T"M B, 'd $o% st rti'g to FEE# REA##Y COMFORTAB#E W"TH " T= As $o% TH"NK ABOUT "T #"KE THAT, does'7t see# ' t%r l to #eet li"e ;o'd $ or T%esd $ for &offee= T.e Boy+rien) De%troyer: Part "" Note, Origi' ll$, I t %ght this p tter' to !e %sed if she !ro%ght %p the !o$frie'd o!Ae&tio' (he' $o% first s"ed her o%t. ?ith ll the other p tter's I7ve sho(' $o%, I7d o'l$ %se it 'o( if she !ro%ght %p the !o$frie'd s p rt of ' o!Ae&tio' to.getti'g ph$si& l or fter $o%7d !ee' s&re(i'g for fe( (ee"s. Her, I7# sorr$ ... I & '7t "eep seei'g $o%. I sho%ld h ve told $o% !efore, !%t I h ve !o$frie'd. Eor, s $o% re # "i'g o%t li"e &r G$F Her, ?e re ll$ sho%ld'7t !e doi'g this. I h ve !o$frie'd Yo%, 0%t I7ll tell $o% (h t re ll$ f s&i' tes #e. It7s li"e, (h t7s this g%$7s ' #e $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith= Her, 0ill Yo%, Right, so $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith this g%$, 0ill EPoi't to $o%r right p l#F OI. A'd $o% thi'" he7s re l &ool, 'd $o%7re e'Ao$i'g it 'd ll th t ... 'd the' let7s s $ for (h tever re so' $o% !re " %p. Yo% ever BREAK UP W"TH SOMEONE Epoi't to p l#F 'd $o% go thro%gh th t period of #%lli'g it over, 'd # $!e $o% NOT"CE THE PATTERNS "N H"M THAT RU"NED YOUR #AST RE#AT"ONSH"P ... or # $!e $o% st rt to #OOK AT H"M "N A WAY THAT REA##Y MAKES H"M A #OT #ESS ATTRACT"9E "N YOUR M"N>= Ho(ever $o% (o%ld J)*T >O THAT< I #e ' it7s so (eird ho( the #i'd does ll this st%ff, !%t (h t I7# &%rio%s !o%t is, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e for perso' if th t e'tire pro&ess th t %s% ll$ t "es #o'ths, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e if th t e'tire pro&ess (ere to TAKE P#ACE "NSTANTANEOUS#Y Es' p $o%r fi'gers i' her f &eF i' so#eo'e7s #i'd= It7d !e li"e E( ve $o%r h 'd i' her f &eF YOU COU#DN2T SEE H"S P"CTURE ANY MORE "N YOUR M"N>. Bver$ ti#e $o% tried it7d !e li"e so#ethi'g ( s A%st (ipi'g it right o%t. A'd th t7s ho( $o%7d "'o( th t $o%7d lre d$ st rted to FOR6ET A## ABOUT H"M, TO MAKE H"M #ESS "MPORTAN T. Or $o% "'o(, li"e, is there so#eo'e $o% %sed to d te, !%t 'o( there ( $ o%t of $o%r #i'd ... $o% h ve'7t eve' tho%ght !o%t the# i' lo'g ti#e= Ye h= ?ell 'oti&e s $o% t "e $o%r fi'ger 'd poi't, (here do $o% see there pi&t%re= Right over there= Is'7t th t i'teresti'g= *o if $o% (ere to, FOR6ET ABOUT TH"S 6UY Ehold %p $o%r p l#, p%sh it to (here she poi'tedF, it7d !e li"e he gets st%&" i' the s #e pl &e. A'd of &o%rse $o% #ight thi'".to $o%rself, 6!%t I ( 't to p%t hi# ! &"6. Yo% #ight thi'" $o% #ight thi'" th t ... %'til $o% REA##Y NOT"CE th t fro# over there, fro# this perspe&tive, $o% re ll$ & ' SEE A## THE TH"N6S i' hi# 'd !o%t hi# $o% do'7t li"e ... so#ethi'g th t over ti#e, (o%ld re ll$ & %se $o% to d%#p hi#. A'd (he' th t h ppe's it7s little s d, !%t it7s lso 'i&e thi'g, !e& %se it llo(s $o% to CREATE AN OPEN"N6 FOR SOMEONE NE?. Epoi't to $o%rselfF I "'o( th t7s ho( it & ' 6O DOWN W"TH ME Epoi't to $o%r di&"ee<F.

CHAPTER 55: THE BOYFR"END DESTROYER, PART "" W.en to %e t.i% /attern: This p tter' is for %se (he' $o% s" (o# ' o%t 'd she hits $o% (ith th t f #o%s li'e, 6I h ve !o$frie'd6. It7s p%rpose is to get her to #eet $o% for &offee '$( $, t (hi&h ti#e $o% & ' pl $ (ith her #i'd %si'g '$ of the other p tter's (e7ll give $o%. It7s lso 'other e4 #ple of o'e of #$ f vorite t$pes of p tter's, ti#e distortio'<<< Ste/%Mtoo'% %e): 1. Tr '&e phr sesHti#e distortio' to get p st her resist '&e. .. Tr '&e phr ses to get her i# gi'i'g lre d$ h vi'g !ee' (ith $o% 'd re ll$ e'Ao$ed it. 3. Get her to repe t th t tr i' of tho%ght. 4. Pit&h for &offee d te. 1.

CHAPTER 5,: TOTA# FU#F"##MENT "N A RE#AT"ONSH"P T.e U'ti1ate F '+i''1ent "n A Re'ation%.i/ Pattern Note, This p tter' sho%ld !e %sed o'l$ fter $o%7ve !ee' sleepi'g (ith her for fe( (ee"s 'd re ll$ feel li"e $o% ( 't to p%rs%e so#ethi'g lo'g ter# (ith her. The p tter' (or"s !$ eli&iti'g fro# her highest v l%es i' rel tio'ship 'd the' fi'di'g o%t (h t is she 'eeds to e4perie'&e i' order to "'o( those v l%es re !ei'g #et. This t "es o%t ll the g%ess (or" 'd gives $o% #e 's to either # "e her feel tot ll$ f%lfilled, or !sol%tel$ viol ted, (hi&hever serves $o%r i#s !est. Noti&e ho( $o% %se e4pressed gree#e't s

softe'er. Also 'oti&e th t $o% do'7t ( 't her to ' #e t.e 4 a'itie% she7s loo"i'g for i' # ', !%t r ther t.e 3a' e% %.e2) &et +ro1 t.e re'ation%.ip@ i' other (ords (h t # ' h vi'g those 5% lities a''ow% .er to e:/erience. ?e7ll !re " this p tter' i'to three ph ses, P.a%e One: E'icitin& Her Re'ation%.i/ 9a' e% Yo%, ?h t7s i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Oh, I do'7t "'o( ... I g%ess #%t% l d#ir tio'. Yo%, Gee ... th t is ' i#port 't o'e. Ho( do $o% "'o( (he' $o% h ve #%t% l d#ir tio'. Her, ?ell ... I g%ess (he' I see thi'gs i' hi# I re ll$ d#ire, th t # "e #e loo" %p to hi#. A'd he e4presses to #e th t there re thi'gs !o%t #e he re ll$ d#ires. Yo%, I gree ... th t7s po(erf%l o'e. ?ell, (h t else i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Oh ... se'se of h%#or. ENote here she7s go'e off tr &" !$ ' #i'g 5% lit$ she ( 'ts i' the # '. Here7s ho( $o% steer her ! &" to v l%es i' the rel tio'ship (he' this o&&%rs,F Yo%, ?ell, I "'o( th t7s ' i#port 't 5% lit$ for perso' to h ve, !%t (h t does perso'7s h vi'g se'se of.h%#or llo( $o% to e4perie'&e th t $o% (o%ld'7t other (ise e4perie'&e= Her, Oh, th t7s e s$, f%' 'd e'Ao$#e't ... re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$. Yo%, Of &o%rse ... (h$ !e i'volved (ith so#eo'e if the$ re'7t f%' to !e ro%'d= Her, Right. Yo%, A'd (h t h s to h ppe' for $o% to "'o( $o%7ve got #%t% l e'Ao$#e't (ith so#eo'e= Her, ?ell, it7s A%st of ll the people $o% &o%ld &hoose to !e (ith, $o% &hoose to !e (ith the#, 'd 'o # tter (h t it is $o% do, eve' if th t p rti&%l r thi'g does'7t t%r' o%t s pl ''ed, li"e $o% go to &r%##$ pl $, or the (e ther7s lo%s$ or (h tever, $o% still (i'd %p h vi'g re ll$ gre t ti#e. Yo%, ?o( ... th t (o%ld !e gre t to !e (ith so#eo'e li"e th t. ?ell, (h t else is i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Tr%st. Yo%, ?o( ... 'o( th t is ' i#port 't o'e. Ho( do $o% "'o( (he' $o% h ve tr%st (ith so#eo'e= Her, ?ell ... the$ tell #e the good st%ff s (ell s the ! d st%ff ... the$7ll let #e "'o( (he' the$ re'7t h pp$ (ith so#ethi'g I7ve s id or do'e ... 'd lso the$ do (h t the$ s $ the$7re goi'g to do (he' the$ s $ the$ re goi'g to do it. P.a%e Two: Ran(in& T.e 9a' e% Fro1 Mo%t To #ea%t "1/ortant Yo%, Of those three v l%es, #%t% l d#ir tio', re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$, 'd tr%st, (hi&h is the #ost i#port 't= ?hi&h (o%ld $o% !sol%tel$ h ve to h ve= Her, ?ell ... I7d re ll$ ( 't to h ve the# ll ... !%t ... I7d h ve to s $ re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$..Yo%, ?ell ... I &o%ld see th t. Of #%t% l d#ir tio' 'd tr%st, (hi&h is #ost i#port 't= Her, ;%t% l d#ir tio'. P.a%e T.ree: Creatin& An "nten%e P'ea% re State By Na1in& A'' T.ree 9a' e% "n Or)er O+ "1/ortance Note, This & ' !e do'e fter $o%7ve dropped the topi& ... fro# ' ho%r l ter to (ee"s l ter. * $ so#ethi'g li"e, Yo%, Yo% "'o( ... I7ve !ee' thi'"i'g th t # $!e (e7ve re ll$ got the st rt of so#ethi'g here. A'd I thi'" # $!e it7s so#ethi'g ! sed o' re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$, #%t% l d#ir tio', 'd tr%st. EYo%7ll see her go i'to profo%'d ple s%re st te ... s this is pe "i'g re &h over 'd to%&h her 'd s $o% do so $o% s $,F C ' $o% FEE# THAT (o%ld !e re ll$ (o'derf%l thi'g to e4perie'&e= Note, No( $o% h ve ' e4tre#el$ po(erf%l '&hor for her to e4perie'&e %lti# te s tisf &tio' (ith $o%<<< Also, si'&e $o% "'o( her r%les for &re ti'g the se'se th t she h s these v l%es (ith $o%, $o% 'o( "'o( e4 &tl$ ho( to !eh ve to re ll$ # "e her e4perie'&e it (ith $o%. I' the & se !ove, if $o%7re 'ot h pp$ (ith so#ethi'g she7s do'e, $o%7ll ( 't to sh re it (ith her so she & ' e4perie'&e TR)*T, o'e of her highest v l%es. A'd $o%7ll "'o(, if $o% go to ' eve't th t is'7t too e4&iti'g, it (ill still !e o" if $o% # ' ge to h ve f%' '$( $. *ee (h t I #e '=.

CHAPTER 58: ROSS2S ABSO#UTE FA9OR"TE PATTERN: THE B#AMMO Note: This p tter' & ' !e do'e t '$ ti#e ... either o' d te or t first #eeti'g. The ! si& steps to the p tter' re s follo(s, *tep 1, )se fl%ff t l" 'd h%#or to # "e her feel &o#fort !le, liste' to her ! !!le for little !it. *tep ., )se the I'st 't 'eo%s Co''e&tio' P tter's fro# Ch pter 12 to get her to feel !oth ' i'&redi!le &o''e&tio' 'd distort her ti#e se'se so it see#s li"e she7s !ee' deepl$ &o''e&ted to $o% for #o'ths. This is ' HD0o#! &o#!i' tio'< EThe HD0o#! %ses f%sio' (hi&h & ' o'l$ !e ig'ited fro# the he t ge'er ted !$ to#i& fissio'. Th t7s (h$ the$ h ve to %se ' AD0o#! to set off ' HD0o#!. Is'7t s&ie'&e (o'derf%l=F *tep 3, *et her %p for '&hori'g ' i'te'se ple s%re st te !$ first getti'g her to 'oti&e ho( ever$thi'g h ppe's (ith p tter' or str%&t%re. *tep 4, Bli&it 'd '&hor i'te'se ple s%re *tep /, +ire off th t '&hor *tep -, +i'd o%t her s%! #od lit$ lo& tio' for pi&t%ri'g f lli'g i' love. *tep 1, A&&eler te her ple s%re st te !$ des&ri!i'g the ( r#th of $o%r voi&e &o#i'g fro# th t pl &e 'd spre di'g ll thro%gh her !od$. *tep J, *%perD &&eler te her ple s%re st te !$ i'te'sif$i'g $o%r des&riptio' of th t st te 'd %si'g 5%otes. *tep 9, Po%'&e or step ! &" 'd let her po%'&e<<< Got th t= *o here it is, pi&"i'g %p (ith step 3, Yo%, *ee= Bver$thi'g h s str%&t%re to it. +or e4 #ple, thi'" !o%t so#eo'e $o% re ll$ li"e for se&o'd= O"=.Got th t= No(, poi't to (here $o% see# to see th t pi&t%re. E:et her poi'tF Yo%, Right there= O". No( thi'" of so#eo'e (ho $o% re ll$ do'7t li"e t ll. O"= Poi't to (here $o% see th t. E:et her poi't ... 'd !$ the ( $ if she7s o'e of those people (ho does'7t disli"e '$o'e, the' h ve her thi'" of so#eo'e she &o%ld t "e or le ve ... (ho she7s 'e%tr l !o%t<F Yo%, No( ( t&h ... t "e th t pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do'7t li"e ... 'd tr$ s h rd s $o% & ' to #ove it over i'to the pl &e (here $o% see the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do li"e. E*he7ll dis&over th t she & '7t do itF Yo%, *ee th t= It does'7t ( 't to go does it= 0e& %se $o% 'eed ( $ to sort o%t (ho $o% re ll$ li"e Epoi't to $o%rself ... (h$ #iss ' opport%'it$F fro# (ho $o% do'7t. Is'7t th t 'eed= Her, Ye h< Cool< ?o(< EOr '$ other si#il r st%pid fe# le e4post%l tio'<F Yo%, No( see, there7s 'other differe'&e i' the ( $ $o% # "e pi&t%res i' $o%r he d. +or e4 #ple, $o% ever !ee' o' roller &o ster= Her, Ye h< Yo%, O", ( t&h. I ( 't $o% to re#e#!er ti#e $o% (ere o' roller &o ster, 'd I ( 't $o% to see $o%rself sitti'g i' the roller &o ster & r, ridi'g %p 'd do(' o' the roller &o ster. J%st do th t for fe( se&o'ds. E:et her do this for !itF Yo%, O" ... 'o( (e7re go'' do it g i', !%t this ti#e, i'ste d of seei'g $o%rself, see (h t $o%7d &t% ll$ see thro%gh $o%r o(' e$es if $o% (ere there, goi'g o' th t roller &o ster ride..E:et her do th tF Yo%, No(, of those t(o, (hi&h o'e felt #ore re l, &t% ll$ g ve $o% the feeli'gs of !ei'g there= Her, The se&o'd o'e<< Yo%, Of &o%rse ... !e& %se $o% & ' see $o%rself i' #e#or$, or see (h t $o% &t% ll$ s (. ?he' $o% see (h t $o% &t% ll$ s ( it re ll$ helps $o% to get the feeli'gs of ho( it &t% ll$ felt< Her, ?o(< This is f s&i' ti'g<<< Yo%, Is'7t it= No( loo" ... here7s the 'e4t pie&e of this 'd it7s & lled '&hori'g. *o, here, tr$ this ... &lose $o%r e$es ... $o% re#e#!er ti#e (he' $o% (ere feeli'g e45%isite ple s%re i' $o%r !od$=== Her, #### ... $es. Yo%, O". I ( 't $o% to see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, 'd feel ho( it felt. A'd (he' those feeli'gs of e45%isite ple s%re re ll$ re &h their pe ", A%st (iggle $o%r little fi'ger for #e.

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E? t&h to see she7s re ll$ i' st te ... her f &e (ill &h 'ge, !re thi'g 5%i&"e', et&. (he' she (iggles th t fi'ger, re &h over, to%&h her (rist 'd s $,,F Yo%, P%rrrfe&t. A'd A%st h 'g o' for #i'%te to ho( good it feels to FEE# PERFECT0 JKee/ .o')in& .er wri%t a% %.e2% e:/eriencin& t.i%!H Yo%, O". Ope' e$es. Close e# g i'. A'd go thro%gh it g i' ... see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, feel ho( it felt. A'd (he' those feeli'gs re &h their pe ", (iggle th t fi'ger. ERepe t the '&hor pro&essF Yo%, O", o'e #ore ti#e Er%' her thro%gh it o'e #ore ti#eF Yo%, O". Ope' $o%r e$es. No(, the theor$ !ehi'd '&hori'g is, th t if so#eo'e is i' &ert i' st te, 'd $o% &o#!i'e th t st te (ith to%&h or so%'d, (he' $o% repe t th t to%&h the$7ll go ! &" i'to th t st te. *o if I (ere to s $ to $o%, $o% "'o(, I fi'd th t (he' I.spe'd ti#e (ith so#eo'e, 'd I re ll$ st rt to FEE# THAT SENSE OF "NCRED"B#E CONNECT"ON, # $!e the' $o% & ' A%st FEE# PERFECT Efire off the '&hor !$ to%&hi'g her (ristF A'd th t feels gre t, does'7t it= Her, Oh, $e h< Yo%, Is'7t this i'teresti'g= Is'7t the #i'd re ll$ &ool= No( 'oti&e so#ethi'g else, $o% ever A%st f ll he d over he ls i' love (ith so#eo'e Epoi't to $o%rself ... 'ever #iss th t opport%'it$<F Her, Oh $e h< Yo%, ?ell, s $o%7re re#e#!eri'g th t ti#e, poi't to (here $o% see th t pi&t%re< Elet her poi't it o%tF Yo%, O" ... 'd $o%7re re ll$ feeli'g perfe&t right 'o(, re'7t $o%= Efire off th t '&hor g i'<F Her, Oh $e h< Yo%, *o ( t&h ... Epoi't to (here she f lls i' loveF As $o% TH"NK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS " TA#K TO YOU ... s $o% A##OW MY 9O"CE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE ... $o% #ight fi'd it7s li"e $o% ( 't to CREATE AN OPEN"N6 FOR MY 9O"CE ... 'd ope'i'g th t llo(s the deep, ri&h ( r#th of #$ voi&e to A%st pe'etr te $o%r tho%ghts, 'd SPREAD THAT WARMTH A## THROU6H YOUR BODY ... th t s%re feels gre t, does'7t it= Her, God, $es<< EAt this poi't $o% h ve t(o optio's for pre&edi'g. Bither (ill (or"F O/tion O5: A ote% Yo%, I' f &t, s THE WARMTH OF THAT 9O"CE BUST TURNS TO A F"RE, SPREAD"N6 thro%gh $o%r &hest 'd do(' thro%gh $o%r !od$ ... s YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER an) yo r BREATH"N6 "NCREASE *, 'd $o% re ll$ FEE# THAT TOTA# PERFECT"ON Efire '&hor g i'F ... I A%st ( 't to tell $o% I7# h vi'g gre t ti#e (ith $o% to'ight. It s%re is !etter th t !ei'g (ith ll those Aer"s o%t there..C %se I "'o( so#e g%$s & ' !e so &r%de. It7s li"e the other 'ight, I ( s i' ! r ... 'd this g%$ ( l"s right %p to girl 'd he s $s, 6C ' $o% "MA6"NE HOW 6REAT "T WOU#D FEE# if I (ere goi'g do(' o' $o%, e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"e it, ll 'ight lo'g, 'd $o% (ere SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE BE66"N6 TO HA9E ME "NS"DE YO)=6 I & '7t !elieve ho( &r%de so#e g%$s & ' !e<<< O/tion O ,: De%cri*in& Anot.er Per%on2% E:/erience Yo%, ;$ frie'd Ii# ( s telli'g #e th t her roo## te h s this !est frie'd, > ('. A'd (he' > (' st rts to 'oti&e th t gro(i'g ttr &tio', it h ppe's i' &ert i' ( $. :i"e first, s she loo"s t the g%$, 'd st rts to RBA::Y PAY ATTBNTION, she A%st !e&o#es ( re of &ert i' thi'gs ... li"e the rh$th# of her !re thi'g, 'd the !e ti'g of her he rt, 'd the o%t li'e of his f &e ... so s she !e&o#es ( re of ll these thi'gs, o'e p rti&%l r fe t%re of his f &e A%st st rts to rivet her tte'tio', so she !e&o#es tot ll$ !sor!ed i' the &o''e&tio' t "i'g pl &e ... 'd s th t7s ll h ppe'i'g, it7s li"e the ( r#th of his voi&e, the deep ri&h ( r#th of it, A%st st rts to pe'etr te her &o's&io%s'ess, 'd spre d ll thro%gh her !od$, 'd s her he rt !e ts f ster 'd her !re thi'g i'&re ses, th t ( r#th A%st he ts %p i'to fire, fire spre di'g thro%gh her &hest 'd do(' thro%gh her !ell$, fire po%'di'g 'd p%ls ti'g ll thro%gh her, do(' to (here she re ll$ 14

lo'gs to h ve it go, %'til th t desire for hi# A%st 0BCO;B* )TTBR:Y O9BR?HB:;ING, 'd she A%st *)RRBN>BR* to it &o#pletel$..

CHAPTER 5-: PATTERNS FOR SPEC"A# CHA##EN6ES AND PROB#EMS As po(erf%l s the pre&edi'g *peed *ed%&tio' P tter's re, o&& sio' ll$ $o%7re goi'g to r%' i'to so#e tro%!le. This &h pter is dedi& ted to p tter's desig'ed to po(erf%ll$ resolve the spe&i l &h lle'ges $o% #ight so#eti#es f &e. T.e S.oc( Pattern: W.en Not.in& E'%e "% Wor(in& *o#e ti#es $o%7ll fi'd th t $o%7ve do'e ll of the p tter's te&h'i& ll$ right, !%t $o% still do'7t get #%&h of respo'se fro# (o# '. I' these sit% tio's, $o% h ve to get !it #ore fle4i!le, ! &" %p 'd tr$ so#e differe't te&h'i5%es. Here for e4 #ple, is p tter' I %sed to fi' ll$ ' il ;el 'ie, girl I7d "'o(' for so#e ti#e. No(, the pro!le# (ith ;el 'ie ( s NOT th t she ( s se4% ll$ e4&ited !$ the st%ff I ( s doi'g. It7s A%st th t I did the se4% l st%ff *e+ore the &o''e&tio' st%ff, so I h d to ! &" %p, drop the se4% l st%ff, 'd &re te the &o''e&tio'. 0%t, !e& %se she ( s ' t%r ll$ sh rp '$( $, 'd f%rther ( s 'o( o' g% rd, it ( s diffi&%lt. The fi' l thi'g I "'e( !o%t her ( s she ( s !ig #is# t&her@ i' other (ords, eve' if she li"ed ' ide , if she tho%ght th t she ( s t ll h vi'g it for&ed o' her, she7d %to# ti& ll$ sh%t do(' to it, 'd resist it. *o, i' her & se, I de&ided to %se t(o thi'gs, 50 SHOCK ,0 NE6AT"ON No(, I7# 'ot 'e&ess ril$ s%ggesti'g to follo( ever$thi'g I s id to her, !e& %se the girl $o%7re h vi'g pro!le#s (ith # $ 'ot !e li"e her. 0e r i' #i'd th t I7d "'o(' her for so#e #o'ths, 'd (e (ere 'o( getti'g &loser e#otio' ll$. *o here7s (h t I s id, (hile (e (ere A%st sitti'g i' the p r", t l"i'g. ;e, Yo% "'o( (h t= I7# goi'g to tell $o% so#ethi'g, 'd $o%7re 'ot goi'g to li"e it. Yo%7re 'ot goi'g to li"e it t ll, !%t here it is, I thi'" it7s ti#e $o% 'd I. st rted +)CIING ... Ep %seF ro%'d, (ith the ide Ep %seF of $o%r for#i'g stro'g %'derst 'di'g, (hi&h is th t pers% sio' is'7t !o%t # "i'g so#eo'e feel so#ethi'g the$ do'7t re ll$ feel, it7s !o%t ( "e'i'g 'd re#i'di'g the# of so#e th t7s lre d$ there '$( $@ so I "'o( $o% &o%ld'7t I;AGINB HO? GRBAT IT ?O):> +BB: if (e (ere doi'g it e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"e it@ there7s lso 'o ( $ $o% &o%ld I;AGINB HO? GRBAT IT ?O):> IT ?O):> +BB: to h ve #e li&"i'g 'd s%&"i'g $o% A%st the ( $ $o% li"e it, !%t if $o% &o%ld@ $o% #ight the' RBA:INB th t +)CI IT EPOINT TO YO)R >ICIF IT J)*T +BB:* *O >A;N GOO>, it does'7t # tter (ho7s doi'g it@ the o'l$ thi'g $o% "'o( is, YO) ?ANT IT< EPOINT TO YO)R >ICI AGAIN<F O"@ $o%7ll 'oti&e th t I sho&"ed the shit o%t of her !$ ppe ri'g to !e !l t 't !o%t ( 'ti'g to f%&" her, !%t the', I &h 'ged the #e 'i'g of th t se'te'&e !$ t &"i'g o' the (ords 6 ro%'d (ith the ide 6 'd the' p %si'g g i', !efore telli'g her (h t the ide is. 0%t this is getti'g her re ll$ hot to liste' to the ide , !e& %se of her sho&" 'd &o'f%sio'. H d I A%st prese'ted the ide !o%t it 'ot # tteri'g (ho ( s # "i'g her feel (h t, it (o%ld 'ot h ve h d the i#p &t. The', I f%rther p &e the ( $ her #i'd (or"s !$ telli'g her th t I "'o( she 6&o%ld'7t6 i# gi'e ll these thi'gs. Th t ( $ she does'7t h ve to resist it !e& %se I79B A:RBA>Y RB*I*TB> IT +OR HBR<< Are'7t I ge'i%s= P tter's If A'd ?he' Yo% Get C %ght< I' the !egi''i'g of $o%r *peed *ed%&tio' efforts, so#e girls #ight & t&h o' to (h t $o% re doi'g. These p tter's sho%ld !e %sed if th t sho%ld o&&%r. The first o'e is re ll$ A%st &o'f%sio' p tter', 'd (or"s !$ # "i'g (h t $o%7re s $i'g so h rd to follo( th t she gets #'esi for her o!Ae&tio'<<< "+ Yo 6et Ca &.t Pattern O 5: Yo 2re F c(in& Wit. My Min)! Yo%, I "'o( it re ll$ & ' see# th t ( $, !%t I thi'" th t7s A%st !e& %se I t l" !o%t the ( $ people TH"NK ABOUT TH"N6S ANYWAY ON A REA##Y DEEP #E9E:, so !e& %se (h t I7# des&ri!i'g fits their i''er e4perie'&e so (ell, it # $ see# li"e I7# f%&"i'g (ith the#, !%t re ll$ I7#.A%st dis&%ssi'g (h t the$ "'o( '$( $. *ee, & %se there7s

(h t $o% "'o(, there7s (h t $o% "'o( $o% "'o(, 'd there7s $o% "'o(, !%t $o% do'7t "'o( $o% "'o(. *o (he' the thi'gs $o% "'o( !%t do'7t "'o( $o% "'o(, !e&o#e the thi'gs $o% "'o( $o% "'o(, $o% & ' A%st TH"NK TH"N6S D"FFERENT#Y, $o% "'o(= "+ Yo 6et Ca &.t Pattern O,: Yo 2re 6ettin& E3eryt.in& Yo Want! This p tter' does t(o thi'gs, +irst, it sho&"s her !$ d#itti'g th t $o% ARB # 'ip%l ti'g her, 'd the' it reDdire&ts her to vie( th t s good thi'g, !e& %se it #e 's she7s re ll$ goi'g to !e h pp$ (ith $o%< Yo%, Yo%7re right. I # # 'ip%l ti'g $o%, i' f &t it7s #$ Ao! to # 'ip%l te $o% to FA## MAD#Y "N #O9E W"TH MB. A'd $o%7re Ao! is to see to it th t I do it i' ( $ (here $o% FEE# 6REAT, !e& %se YOU2RE 6ETT"N6 E9ERYTH"N6 YOU29E A#WAYS WANTED, AND E9ERYTH"N6 YOU29E A#WAYS DREAMED O+. :i"e # $!e i' those ti#es s little girl (he' $o% dre #ed !o%t the "i'd of # ' $o% ( 'ted, re ll$ ( 'ted to !e (ith Epoi't to $o%rselfF 'd the "i'd of life $o% ( 'ted to sh re (ith hi#= A'd # $!e 'e4t ti#e $o% thi'" to $o%rself o' the i'side, E%se (hi'$ to' lit$F 6He7s f%&"i'g (ith #e ... he7s # 'ip%l ti'g #e6, # $!e it7s o'l$ sig' to 6O "NTO THE STATE (here $o% REA#"DE THAT WHAT2S "MPORTANT is'7t (ho7s doi'g (h t to (ho# ... (h t7s i#port 't is th t $o% re ll$ & ' FEE# THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEE# W"TH THE K"ND OF PERSON YOU29E A#WAYS WANTED TO FEE# "T W"T H. C ' $o% FEE# THAT Ere &h o%t 'd to%&h herF is &h 'ge $o% re ll$ ( 't to h ve= T.e A1/'i+ier!!!! *o#eti#es $o% fi'd th t, 'o # tter (h t p tter' $o% r%', (o# ' 'ever re ll$ gets th t 6doggie di''er !o(l loo"6 th t lets $o% "'o( she re ll$ is t%r'ed o'. *o#e of the# re A%st so dis sso&i ted fro# their feeli'gs, th t $o% A%st & '7t get those stro'g respo'ses. This p tter' sho%ld !e %sed if $o% fi'd th t, fter thro(i'g fe( p tter's her ( $, $o%7re still 'ot dete&ti'g '$ stro'g respo'se. It &ts li"e # g'if$i'g gl ss, #plif$i'g '$thi'g.else $o% s%ggest to her< Here it is@ Yo : Can yo REMEMBER THE F"RST T"ME A 6UY E9ER 6OT TO YOU$ " 1ean a% yo 'oo( at 1e an) an%wer t.e 4 e%tion, can yo REMEMBER THAT F"RST T"ME, WHEN YOU SAW A 6UY AND YOU THOU6HT MMM$ Do yo re1e1*er w.ere yo +e't t.at$ We'', 'oo(, " t.in( 1e1ory an) e:/erience are not t.e %a1e, *eca %e act a''y we can re1e1*er t.in&% in a way t.at 1a(e t.e1 e3en 1ore e:citin& t.an t.e act a''y e:/erience0 An) e3eryone .a% t.at a*i'ity0 For e:a1/'e, C %t e:/'ore +or a 1in te, a% yo re1e1*er a&ain t.at +ir%t ti1e a & y &ot to yo , w.at yo can )o wit. t.e 1e1ory to 1a(e t.at 1ore e:citin&0 #i(e notice w.at .a//en% a% t.e /ict re &et% *i&&er, or *ri&.ter, or 1o3e it c'o%er, yea. 000 C %t 'i(e t.at 000 an) yo (now t.at +ee'% e3en *etter )oe%n2t it$ YEAH$ See, now t.e a*i'ity to 1a(e 1e1orie% an) i1a&e% 1ore e:citin& an) 1ore /'ea%ant i% a neat one, * t .ere2% t.e t.in& to rea'i=e, a% yo re1e1*er .ow &oo) it +e't w.en t.at & y &ot to yo , yo can e3en ta(e on&oin& e:/erience an) 1a(e t.at 1ore e:citin&, %o a% yo re1e1*er .ow to )o at a% we contin e to ta'( toni&.t "21 C %t won)erin& .ow 1 c. yo can enCoy +ee'in& it .a//en$ T.e Ber( De%troyer It7s ' %'fort%' te re lit$ of e4iste'&e th t # '$ (o#e' re ttr &ted to (h t & ' o'l$ !e & lled ssholes, g%$s (ho re &losed, dist 't 'd selfD !sor!ed. This p tter' (or"s !$ t$i'g i' to the (o# '7s %lti# te f 't s$ of !ei'g (ith # ' (ho7s stro'g, !%t lso ope' e#otio' ll$. It tot ll$ !lo(s her f%ses 'd # "es '$ Aer" she7s (ith 'o( see# tot ll$ %'i#port 't. Yo% sho%ld %se it o'l$ fter $o% deter#i'e th t she7s i'deed the Aer"Dlovi'g t$pe. Yo%, Yo% "'o(, if $o% ever #eet g%$ (ho7s stro'g, (ho "'o(s ho( to h 'g o' to his o(' stre'gth, 'd "'o(s ho( to & ll $o% o' $o%r !%llshit, $et t the s #e ti#e ope' hi#self to $o% &o#pletel$, 'd tot ll$ give of hi#self, it7ll !e the #ost #i'dD!lo(i'g e4perie'&e of $o%r life. I thi'" it7ll !e li"e di #o'd !%llet .... di #o'd !%llet shot 1/

right i'to $o%r so%l, th t A%st spre ds thro%gh $o%r (hole so%l 'd RBDA:I9BN* 'd A?AIBN* $o% to ple s%res 'd feeli'gs $o% h ve'7t eve' d red to dre # !o%t. C ' $o% +BB: THAT ... (o%ld !e A%st #i'dD!lo(i'g e4perie'&e. A'd I7ll tell $o% so#ethi'g ... I do'7t "'o( (h t tho%ghts $o%7ve h d of #e or (h t tho%ghts $o%7ve d red to let $o%rself h ve of #e, !%t (he' I7# (ith (o# ' li"e th t, 'd the$ st rt to PBRCBI9B A:: THB*B THING* ARB PO**I0:B, it7s li"e (o( ... ?h t differe'&e i' the ( $ the$ thi'", $o% "'o(=.

CHAPTER 5?: WRAP@UP AND 6ENERA# AD9"CE ?ell, I hope (e h ve'7t thro(' too #%&h t $o% here. These p tter's, 'd the pri'&iples th t drive the#, re BKTRAOR>INARI:Y po(erf%l. A'd $o% fi'd, I thi'", th t $o% & ' ppl$ the#, (ith A%st so#e s# ll #odifi& tio's, to '$ re of life. If $o%7ll &o##it $o%rself to h vi'g f%' (hile $o% e4peri#e't, the' there7s 'o li#it to ho( f r $o% & ' go. If $o%7ve !o%ght this !oo" s p rt of #$ &o#plete *peed *ed%&tio' Ho#e *t%d$ Co%rse, the' $o% & ' refer ! &" to this !oo" s $o% liste' to the &&o#p '$i'g %dio t pes or ( t&h the video. If $o% h ve'7t $et ordered $o%r e'tire *peed *ed%&tio' Ho#e *t%d$ Co%rse, t the e'd of this !oo", $o%7ll fi'd ' order &o%po', offeri'g 12C dis&o%'t. I7d highl$ dvise $o% GO +OR IT<<<<< I7d lso li"e to i'vite $o% to sh re $o%r &h lle'ges 'd s%&&esses (ith #e s (ell s '$ 'e( p tter's $o% &o#e %p (ith. Yo% & ' re &h #e t E312F -12D-/41 or & ll >r. C 'ipe t E123F 191D -4.1. ; il (ill re &h #e t, Ross Jeffries, -.4/ 0ristol P r"( $, O.1/, C%lver Cit$, CA 92.32. Good l%&", 'd re#e#!er, he (ho hesit tes, # st%r! tes<. APPEND"< A &otes from 'ive $eminar A>9ANCB> TBCHNI8)B* O+ ;ANIP):ATION AN> *B>)CTION, ;IN>+)CIINGD121 PR"NC"P#ES AND BE#"EFS OF SUPER PERSUAS"ONMSEDUCT"ON The T o Of Getti'g : id, 6A *h oli' priest & ' ( l" thro%gh ( lls. :iste'ed for, he & ''ot !e he rd. :oo"ed for, he & ''ot !e see'. +elt for, he & ''ot !e to%&hed.6 ... I%'g +% 6Ye h, !%t & ' he get l id (he'ever he ( 'ts to=6 ... Ross Jeffries 6>o 'ot resist, do 'ot let go<6 ... T i Chi Cl ssi&s 6Never resist (h t (o# ' offers $o%. :iste' !et(ee' the li'es 'd llo( her to te &h $o% ho( she (ishes to !e defe ted6 ... Ross Jeffries 6To liste' o'e #%st !e soft 'd rel 4ed. If $o% re 6soft s pie&e of &loth6 (o# '7s resist '&e (ill h ve 'o poi't %po' (hi&h to e4ert for&e. Yo% (ill lso !e !le to 6he r6 her i'te'tio' !efore she is eve' ( re of it, th%s p%tti'g her &o#pletel$ t $o%r #er&$.6 ... Ross Jeffries WHY A## TH"S SH"T "S NECESSARY: 1. +e# le #!iv le'&e, the +I; E+e# le I'terr%pter Respo'seF f &tor@ re so's for her #!iv le'&e. .. ?h t $o% resist, persistsD &&ept, &&ept, &&ept, the' redire&t to $o%r dv 't ge. KEY PR"NC"P#ES "N PERSUAS"ON:0 A. Everything is process, ever$ h%# ' e4perie'&e, (hether it7s ttr &tio', f lli'g i' love, f lli'g o%t of love, et&., i'volves pro&ess. 0$ s"illf%ll$ des&ri!i'g pro&ess $o% & ' # "e perso' ppl$ th t pro&ess to (ho#ever $o%7d li"e the# to ppl$ it. 0. (eople)s mental images have a structur e. ;ove pi&t%res ro%'d the str%&t%re 'd the$ &h 'ge people7s feeli'gs. If $o% & ' #ove perso'7s i'ter' l pi&t%res, $o% & ' #ove the perso' Ei'to $o%r !edF, if th t7s (h t $o% (ish.

E:erci%e 50 S *1o)a'ities, Thi'" of so#eo'e (ho $o% %sed to !e i' love (ith, !%t 'o( the$7ve !ee' o%t of $o%r life for t le st fe( $e rs, so $o% 'o lo'ger feel '$thi'g for the#. EIt does'7t eve' h ve to !e so#eo'e (ho loved $o% ! &"@ &o%ld !e so#eo'e $o% A%st re ll$ ( 'ted !%t got 'o(here (ith.F Noti&e (here $o% see the pi&t%re of the#. No(, thi'" of so#eo'e (ho $o% &%rre'tl$ or re&e'tl$ re ll$ ( 't or re ttr &ted to. Noti&e ho( $o% see th t pi&t%re, 'd &o#p re it to the first o'e. No( t "e the pi&t%re of the &%rre't perso', 'd p%t it do(' i'to the lo& tio' of the other pi&t%re. No( st rt to 'oti&e, fro# th t perspe&tive, the st%ff $o% do'7t li"e !o%t the perso'. 8%estio', I'o(i'g this, if $o% ( 'ted to # "e &o#petitor less i#port 't i' (o# '7s #i'd, ho( #ight $o% do it= C. *ey (ersuasion principle, if $o% ( 't !eh vior fro# so#eo'e, first thi'" of (h t st te it (o%ld !e #ost ' t%r l for the# to give $o% th t !eh vior. Exercise +: :ist 3 st tes $o%7d li"e $o%. SUPER PATTERNS (attern ,: getting her to ecome attracted to you -uickly when you aren)t her type This first s%perDp tter' & ' !e %sed s (hole, or i' pie&es, depe'di'g o' (h t $o% ( 't. This p tter' is desig'ed to !e %sed (he' $o% re o' the pro(l t p rt$, ! r or &l%!, 'd $o% se'se.the (o# ' $o%7re t l"i'g to is A%st respo'di'g to $o% & s% ll$, !%t there is'7t '$ sp r". Noti&e ho( it (or"s !$ C.$/.''0 1E$CRI2I&3 . (R4CE$$ r ther th ' givi'g orders or &o## 'ds. Noti&e lso ho( the l st thi'g $o% do is #ove th t pi&t%re of $o% i'to the s%!#od lit$ of so#eo'e she7s i' love (ith. ;ovi'g s%!#od lities is powerful# ut intrusive. so you usually 5 ut not always6 want to try to do it after the person is already melting under your command, already in a drooling, reast7heaving, passionate state# .lso notice the power of asking "you ever"8 "0ou ever" or "can you remem er a time when you experienced" are the words that open up the gates of hell# .lso note that the commands are in old7face# Finally, note the use of gesturing to yourself to link the commands to you# Yo%, 0ou ever experience an attraction for someone (ho ( s'7t eve' $o%r t$pe= I #e ' $o% I7ve see' these (o#e' (ith hideo%s g%$s, 'd (o'dered, (h t is goi'g o', !%t $o% ever e4perie'&e th t= Her, Ye h ... I g%ess so ... Yo%, Yo% "'o(, I thi'", (he' th t h ppe's (ith so#eo'e, me, I thi'" (h t h ppe's, is, $o% go inside, 'd $o% think a out the inner -ualities th t you really want in a perso', $o% "'o(, $o% think a out the things on the inside th t re ll$ # "es so#eo'e !e&o#e #ore much more attractive i' $o%r #i'd, the 5% lities th t # "es $o% really want to e with the#, $o% "'o(, i' s%&h ( $ th t $o% A%st st rt to re ll$ look t the# in a different wa$. It7s li"e s $o%r t l"i'g (ith the#, # $!e $o% notice one particular feature of their face, th t re ll$ st rts to gr ! $o%r tte'tio', 'd s%dde'l$ $o% think to yourself, 6God ... $o% "'o( (he' I loo" t hi# this ( $, he7s &t% ll$ re ll$ h 'dso#e6. Or $o% thi'", 6Yo% "'o( ... I ( 't to "iss this g%$6. Or # $!e their voi&e really starts to get to yo%. It7s li"e their voi&e st rts to take on an actual physical warmt h, th t $o% & ' feel the warmth of that voice st rti'g to spre d thro%gh $o%r !od$, so their (ords, A%st st rt to re ll$ get to $o%. It7s li"e $o% create an opening for their (ords ... li"e $o% create an opening for the#= ; $!e $o% st rt to have images of fantastic sex with that perso '. A'd it7s li"e, $o% "'o(, $o% A%st long for them to touch yo%..OI. +ro# here, $o% sho%ld !e #i'%te ( $ fro# t le st so#e serio%sl$ he v$ petti'g, if 'ot f%&" the' 'd there. 0%t 'o(, let7s s $ $o% ( 't to e4te'd it, so th t she 'ot o'l$ is ttr &ted to $o%, !%t f lls i' love. Yo% A%st dd this p rt to (h t $o%7ve lre d$ do'e, Yo%, *o th t7s o'e thi'g, th t7s ttr &tio', 'd th t7s (h t $o% e4perie'&e (he' $o%r i' the prese'&e of the perso'. 0%t the' there7s (h t you do when you fall In 1(o# ' to e4perie'&e ro%'d

love with someone. 9e I thi'" (h t h ppe's is, $o% go off !$ $o%rself, 'd $o% thi'" !o%t th t perso', $o% "'o(, 'd $o% see pi&t%re of the# i' $o%r #i'd. A'd the' $o% ' #e t(o or three thi'gs !o%t hi# th t $o% re ll$ li"e, 6He7s so s# rt, he7s so f%''$6, 'd the' $o% get th t feeli'g right i' here Epoi't to $o%r sol r ple4%sF 'd the' $o% s $ his ' #e to $o%rself t(o or three ti#es, 'd the' $o%7re i' love ... $o%7re hoo"ed. A'd the i'teresti'g thi'g, the re ll$ i'teresti'g thi'g, is (he' th t A%st happens with someone 5point to self6 it7s li"e $o% A%st h ve to "eep thi'"i'g !o%t th t perso'. Yo% & '7t get hi# o%t of $o%r #i'd. I #e ' ... $o% ever f ll he d over i' heels i' love= Ye h= ?ell, ( t&h ... (he' $o% thi'" !o%t th t ti#e $o% fell he d over heels, $o% see pi&t%re of it, do'7t $o%= Ye h $o% do. No( ( t&h so#ethi'g i'teresti'g. Poi't to (here $o% see th t pi&t%re. Right. No( 'oti&e, s $o% think a out that space s I t l" !o%t #e, it re ll$ llo(s $o% to create an opening for my word s, it7s li"e, #$ (ords !egi' to effe&t $o% i' ' %'%s% l ( $. *o if I (ere to s $ to $o%, 6( t&h (h t h ppe's s $o% t "e pi&t%re of #e, Epoi't to $o%r p l#F 'd put it right next to you in that space Ep%t the pi&t%re (ith $o%r h 'd %p thereF i' $o%r #i'd6, th t s%re (o%ld !e i'teresti'g, ( s'7t it= A'd I (o'der (h t it ( s !o%t #e th t $o% li"ed so #%&h th t it & %sed $o%r %'&o's&io%s to A%st put that picture right up there agai'. Is'7t th t i'teresti'g= O". Here7s (h t to do if she7s A%st !ro"e' %p (ith so#eo'e 'd is "i'd g%' sh$. *he7s s id, 6:oo", $o%7re gre t g%$, 'd I7d li"e to go o%t (ith $o%, !%t I A%st !ro"e %p (ith so#eo'e 'd I7# "i'd 'ot re d$6..Yo%, I %'derst 'd. Yo% (o%ld li"e to go o%t (ith #e. I thi'" $o%7ll fi'd th t s I t l" to $o%, that desire will increase powerfull$. 0%t loo", I "'o( there7s p rt of $o% th t does'7t ( 't to do this Epoi't to $o%r leftF. Yo% "'o(, I #e ', it7s li"e $o% !re " %p (ith so#eo'e ... 'd $o% go thro%gh th t period of #o%r'i'g, 'd $o% & ' !e re ll$ g%'Dsh$ for (hile. Yo% "'o(, $o% make all these pictures in your head of ll the ti#es this g%$ let $o% do(' or h%rt $o%, 'd $o% feel lous$,or $ousee all the good times, 'd feel so sad or # $!e $o% make pictures in your head of ll the g%$s (ho7ve h%rt $o% or $o% st rt to feel ll those feeli'gs of !ei'g h%rt, v%l'er !le, 'd !etr $ed, s d, ! d, # d 'd it A%st h%rts so #%&h, you want it to stop! O' the other h 'd Epoi't to the rightF I lso "'o( there7s p rt of $o% th t re ll$ likes to have fu', th t li"es to #eet 'e( people 'd go o%t 'd do 'e( thi'gs, $o% "'o( the p rt th t really wants that sense of eing connected to someone, Epoi't to $o%F 'd th t e4&ite#e't 'd f%' 'd p ssio'. O" ... fi' l pie&e ... if she7s d ti'g so#eo'e &%rre'tl$ 'd $o% ( 't her to d%#p hi# for $o%. Her, ?ell, I7d li"e to go o%t (ith $o% !%t I # seei'g so#eo'e right 'o(. Yo%, He$, I ppre&i te $o%7re !ei'g str ight (ith #e. Th '" $o%. A'd s #%&h s I (ish it (ere'7t the & se, I gott tell $o% I lso respe&t rel tio'ships. Her, Th '" $o% Yo%, 0%t $o% "'o(, it7s i'teresti'g, $o% & ' !e i' rel tio'ship o'e #i'%te, 'd the 'e4t #i'%te, $o% do'7t "'o( (h t7s h ppe'i'g. I7# s%re $o%7ve e4perie'&ed th t, h ve'7t $o%= Her, Oh, $e h. Too ofte' %'fort%' tel$. Yo%, It7s li"e $o%7re goi'g lo'g 'd $o% s%dde'l$ st rt to feel uncertain a out where the whole thing is going= Her, Oh $e h. +or s%re..Yo%, 0%t I7ll tell $o% (h t re ll$ f s&i' tes #e. It7s li"e, (h t7s this g%$7s ' #e $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith= Her, 0ill Yo%, Right, so $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith this g%$, 0ill EPoi't to $o%r right p l#F o". A'd $o% thi'" he7s re l &ool, 'd $o%7re e'Ao$i'g it 'd ll th t ... 'd the' let7s s $ for (h tever re so' $o% !re " %p. Yo% ever reak up with someone Epoi't to p l#F 'd $o% go thro%gh th t period of #%lli'g it over, 'd $o%, or # $!e $o% notice the patterns in him that ruined your last relationship ... or may e you start to look at him in a way that really makes him a lot less attractive in your mind= Ho(ever, $o% (o%ld :ust do that= I #e ' it7s so (eird ho( the #i'd does ll this st%ff, !%t (h t I7# &%rio%s !o%t is, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e for perso' if th t e'tire pro&ess th t %s% ll$ t "es #o'ths, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e if th t e'tire pro&ess (ere to T.*E ('.CE I&$T.&T.&E4/$'0 Es' p $o%r fi'gers i' her f &eF i' so#eo'e7s #i'd= It7d !e li"e E( ve $o%r h 'd i' her f &eF $o% &o%ld'7t see his pi&t%re '$ #ore i' $o%r #i'd. Bver$

ti#e $o% tried it7d !e li"e so#ethi'g ( s A%st wiping it right out. A'd th t7s ho( $o%7d "'o( th t $o%7d lre d$ st rted to forget all a out hi#,tomake him less important. Or $o% "'o(, li"e, is there so#eo'e $o% %sed to d te, !%t 'o( there ( $ o%t of $o%r #i'd ... $o% h ve'7t eve' tho%ght !o%t the# i' lo'g ti#e= Ye h= ?ell 'oti&e s $o% t "e $o%r fi'ger 'd poi't, (here do $o% see their pi&t%re= Right over there= Is'7t th t i'teresti'g= *o if $o% (ere to, forget a out this guy Ehold %p $o%r p l#, p%sh it to (here she poi'tedF, it7d !e li"e he gets stuck in the same plac e. A'd of &o%rse, $o% #ight thi'" to $o%rself, 6!%t I ( 't to p%t hi# ! &"6. Yo% #ight thi'" $o% #ight thi'" th t ... %'til $o% re ll$ 'oti&e th t fro# over there, fro# this perspe&tive, $o% really can see something in him you don)t like ... so#ethi'g th t over ti#e, (o%ld re ll$ & %se $o% to dump hi#..A'd (he' th t h ppe's it7s little s id, !%t it7s lso 'i&e thi'g, !e& %se it llo(s $o% to create an opening for someone new# 9e, I "'o( th t7s ho( it can go down on me Epoi't to $o%r di&"ee<F Pattern ,: Cance' )ate /attern: Her, *orr$, !%t ... !l h !l h !l h !l h 'd 'o &o%'ter offer E(ith &o%'ter ... A%st s $ 6sorr$ & '7t6 !%t # $!e so#e other ti#e6F Yo%, H####. :et #e s" $o% so#ethi'g. >o $o% l( $s t l" $o%rself o%t of so#ethi'g, "you really want to do=6 Her, )hhhh ... 'o ... Yo%, Good. The' let #e sho( $o% so#ethi'g. Is there so#ethi'g th t $o% re ll$ love to do, li"e $o% A%st & '7t ( it to do it= :i"e if $o%r frie'ds s id, 6He$, let7s go do this6, $o%7d !e o%t the door i' se&o'd= Her, Ye h. Yo%, Gre t. No( ( t&h this ... s $o% thi'" !o%t (h tever th t &tivit$ is i' $o%r #i'd right 'o(, if $o% (ere to t "e your finger and point to (here i' $o%r #i'd $o% see th t pi&t%re, (here is it= Her, )p 'd to the right. Yo%, )p 'd to the right. Is'7t th t i'teresti'g= A'd poi't g i' (ith 'o( 'd 'oti&e ho( &le rl$ $o% can see that picture agai'= Her, Ye h< Yo%, No( 'oti&e (h t h ppe's s $o% put a picture of $o% 'd #e together l %ghi'g 'd h vi'g lots of f%' right there i' th t sp &e, i' your mine. >oes'7t th t see# li"e so#ethi'g th t $o% A%st & '7t ( it to do= Her, Ye h, it does< Yo%, As th t pi&t%re gets igger and righter s $o% thi'" !o%t #e, 'd A%st # "es $o% feel compelled to go out with me, I hope $o% do'7t feel disappointed (he' I.tell $o% th t I7# prett$ !%s$ right 'o(, 'd $o% "'o( this d te (e # de ( s re ll$ the o'l$ ti#e i' the 'e4t fe( d $s (he' I &o%ld go o%t. *o, re $o% s%re $o% & '7t # "e it= Her, Yo% "'o(, I thi'" I & ' fter ll. or Her, Yo% "'o( I re ll$ & '7t, !%t I re ll$ (o%ld li"e to go o%t (ith $o%. Yo%, ?ell loo", s $o% wait for me to call # $!e $o% & ' h ve lots of f%' A%st looking that picture over and ove r. O"= A'd # $!e I7ll t l" to $o% so#eti#e. Alter' tive, Yo%, :et #e s" $o% so#ethi'g poi't !l '". Is goi'g o%t (ith #e so#ethi'g $o% &o%ld t "e or le ve or is it so#ethi'g you really want to do= Her, ?ell ... I do'7t "'o(. Yo%, ?ell loo". :et #e A%st tell $o% so#ethi'g str ight o%t. The o'l$ "i'd of people I ( 't ro%'d #e re people (ho & ' now feel totally motivated to !e (ith #e, ho(ever, $o%r #i'd A%st allows that to happe'. O". If $o% do'7t go o%t (ith #e, $o%7re goi'g to lose lot, & %se I7# re ll$ gre t g%$. *o if $o% find yourself changing your mind 'd re ll$ ( 't to do that, & ll #e, 'd (e7ll go o%t h ve gre t ti#e. A'd if $o% do'7t it7ll !e loss for %s !oth (hether you now reali;e that or 'ot. O"= 0$e. S *1o)a'itie% The i#port 't 5%estio's to eli&it s%!#od lit$ lo& tio's re, H ve $o% ever E4F 11

As $o% re#e#!er th t ti#e (he' $o% 4, if $o% (ere to poi't to (here $o% see# to see it, (here #ight $o% !e poi'ti'g=.Ge'er l s%perD # 'ip%l tio' p tter', 1. H ve $o% ever 4= .. Tell stor$ !o%t ho( so#eo'e else e4perie'&ed 4. 3. >es&ri!e the pro&ess of e4perie'&i'g 4, %si'g e#!edded &o## 'ds 4. As ' optio' l fo%rth step, shift the s%!#od lities B#AMMO PATTERN A'&hori'g eli&it tio' 5%estio's, 1. H ve $o% ever e4perie'&ed 4= .. ? t&h, see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, feel ho( it felt, 'd (he' those feeli'gs of 4 re &h their pe ", (iggle $o%r fi'ger for #e. 3. A'&hor (ith to%&h 'd (ord if $o%7d li"e. 4. +ire off '&hor S *1o)a'ity e'icitation: H ve $o% ever f lle' # dl$ i' love= As $o% re#e#!er th t ti#e (he' $o% fell # dl$ i' love, 'd $o% see pi&t%re of it, if $o% (ere to poi't to (here $o% see th t, (here #ight $o% !e poi'ti'g= ?ell ( t&h, s $o% A%st IBBP THINIING A0O)T THAT *PACB s I t l" to $o%, s $o% A::O? ;Y ?OR>* TO CO;B +RO; THAT *PACB, 'd thi'" $o%7ll re ll$ st rt to feel perfe&t Efire off '&horF. I' f &t, 'oti&e, it7s s if $o% ( 't to CRBATB AN OPBNING +OR ;Y ?OR>*. *o if I (ere to s $ to $o%, 6( t&h (h t h ppe's s $o% P)T A PICT)RB O+ YO) AN> ;B 0BING TOGBTHBR IN A 9BRY *PBCIA: ?AY, RIGHT THBRB IN THAT *PACB6, th t s%re (o%ld feel A%st perfe&t Efire off '&horF, does'7t it= I' f &t, (he' $o% THINI A0O)T ?HAT IT I* THAT RBA::Y T)RN* YO) ON Epoi't to th t pl &eF, it & ' llo( $o% to CO;B Efire off '&horF to the s #e &o'&l%sio' O9BR AN> O9BR AGAIN Efire off '&horF th t (h t $o% re ll$ ( 't to do is &re te ' OPBNING for >B*IRB Efire '&horF, &re te ' OPBNING +OR BC*TA*Y Efire. '&horF, 'd ope'i'g th t :ONG* *O ;)CH TO 0B +I::B>, do'7t $o%= Efire '&hor, slip o' &o'do#F.*)PP:B;BNTA: *B;INAR NOTB*, A>9ANCB> TBCHNI8)B* O+ ;ANIP):ATION AN> *B>)CTION I. B;0B>>B> CO;;AN>* The p%rpose of e#!eddi'g &o## 'd is to dire&t $o%r vi&ti#, her, h, s%!Ae&t to the !eh viors 'd st tes of &o's&io%s'ess th t $o% desire 'd re5%ire. To dire&tl$ give &o## 'd, (o%ld, i' #ost people eli&it resist '&e, %'less the$ re &%lt #e#!ers or i' the )'ited *t tes ;ilit r$. *o $o% ( 't to le r' to %se hidde', or e#!edded &o## 'ds. <easel (hrases = Command >er s = $tates, (rocesses or Experiences ? Em edded Commands Wea%e' P.ra%e% Co11an) 9er*% S0P0E0 ?he' $o% ... !e&o#e ver$ hor'$ If $o% (ere to ... thi'" !o%t f 't sti& se4 Ho( does it feel (he' ... get i' love ?h t7s it li"e (he' $o% ... re#e#!er h vi'g gre t se4 A perso' & ' ... e4perie'&e f s&i' tio' As $o% ... h ve !sol%te l%st It7s 'ot 'e&ess r$ to ... forget i'&redi!l$ t%r'ed o' Yo% re ll$ sho%ld'7t ... f ll ll !o%t hi# Yo% do'7t h ve to ... "'o( so#eo'e7s ttr &tive 0$ p%tti'g these 'd other e4 #ples together $o% & ' e#!edded Ei' !ed<F virt% ll$ '$ &o## 'd right p st her poi't$ little he d<<<<<.II. *%per ?e sel P tter', 8%otes 8%otes is gre t ( $ to slip 'or# ll$ %' &&ept !le &o##%'i& tio' right p st so#eo'e7s g% rd. Iids i'sti'&tivel$ %se it, re#e#!er (he' $o% ( 'ted to s(e r i' fro't of $o%r p re'ts, !%t $o% did'7t ( 't to get sl pped, so $o% s id so#ethi'g li"e, 6;o##$, #o##$ ... Joh''$ fro# do(' the street s id, 6Co&"s%&"er, #otherf%&"er<6 ... A' e4 #ple of %si'g 5%otes o' girl (o%ld !e, Yo%, I & '7t !elieve ho( r%de so#e g%$s re. I ( s ! r l st 'ight, 'd this g%$ ( l"ed %p to girl 'd got right i' her f &e 'd s id, 7Try not to t.in( a*o t 1e eatin& yo r / %%y a'' ni&.t 'on& toni&.t70

This of &o%rse le ds %s i'to, S /er Wea%e' Pattern "": NE6AT"ON Neg tio' A%st (or"s !$ p%tti'g the (ord 6'ot6 or 6do'7t6 i' fro't of the s%ggestio' $o% ( 't to e#!edded, s i' the !ove e4 #ple. E6*ho%ld'7t6 lso (or"s s (ellF. This is perfe&t respo'se to (o# ' (ho is resisti'g $o% !$ s $i'g, 6?e re ll$ sho%ld'7t !e doi'g this6 ... Yo% s $, 6Yo%7re right ... (e sho%ld'7t think a out fucking ecstatically all night long# 0ou don)t need to imagine how incredi le that will feel, and how hot and horny you don)t have to get. Yo% &o%ld'7t possi!l$ RE.''0 <.&T T@.T 2.1! As 0%gs 0%''$ (o%ld s $, 6Ai'7t I sti'"er=6 B4er&ises, Perso' A st tes (e sel phr se ... perso' 0 &o#pletes it (ith &o## 'd ver! 'd *.R.E. *(it&h sides, 'd repe t. No(, t "e &o## 'ds &re ted 'd %se the# i' 5%otes p tter'. )se the# g i' i' 'eg tio' p tter'. 6I &o#e to $o% (ith o'l$ (ords, :oo"s 'd #o'e$ I h ve 'ot. 0%t sho%ld desire re5%ire it ;$ (ords (ill !e r #e o%t<6 ... the *peed *ed%&er7s Credo 6To !e "i'd or &&o##od ti'g to (o# ' (ho & ''ot ppre&i te it.is (ro'g. *%&h p ssive ttit%de e'&o%r ges her to t "e dv 't ge 'ot o'l$ of $o%, !%t of other #e' (ho &o#e lo'g 'd # "e the s #e #ist "e. It is $o%r #or l d%t$ 'd o!lig tio' to p%t s%&h (o# ' i' her pl &e 'd te &h her th t s%&h !eh vior (ill 'ot !e re( rded6. SECRETS OF SPEED SEDUCT"ON SEM"NAR NOTES ?HAT >O YO) 0B:IB9B I* PO**I0:B +OR YO)R*B:+= AN> ... ?HAT ?I:: :BARNING *PBB> *B>)CTION >O +OR YO)= ?HAT ?I:: IT A::O? YO) TO HA9B ... ?HAT CHANGB* ?I:: YO) 0B A0:B TO ;AIB IN YO)R :I+B==== To e'Ao$ se4 (ith (hoever I ( 't, (he'ever I ( 't it ... To i's%re th t I & ' ttr &t ide l (o#e' to #e to e'Ao$ the po(er 'd selfD&o'trol of "'o(i'g ll the right #oves to r ise #$ selfD respe&t to stell r levels ... to e sil$ flo( i'to the right #ove#e't ... ATT"TUDES AND BE#"EFS OF SPEED SEDUCER: 1. YO) CAN RAPI>:Y CRBATB AN> ATTRACTION IN ANYONB YO) ?I*H, AT ANY :B9B: O+ INTBN*ITY ... IN +ACT ... IT7* A:RBA>Y THBRB ... YO)R JO0 I* TO B9OIB IT AN> 0RING IT O)T. .. RB*I*TANCB I* THB GATB?AY TO GBTTING ?HAT YO) ?ANT ...CHA::BNGB I* ?HBRB THB +)N I* ... 3. *BK ?ITH YO) I* THB ;O*T BKCITING +):+I::ING, ?ON>BR+): THING *HB CO):> PO**I0:Y I;AGINB ... I;AGBRY +OR ?O;AN YO)7RB CONTB;P:ATING 0BING ?ITH ... 4. *PBB> *B>)CTION I* +)N ... /. B9BRY >BCI*ION I* CON*TANT:Y 0BING RB;A>B -. CRBATB A +RA;B?ORI THAT A::O?* +OR ;AKI;); INTR)*ION, ?HI:B *BB;ING TO 0B A0*O:)TB:Y )NINTR)*I9B. 1. IT I*N7T A0O)T CONTRO::ING OR CO;;AN>ING, 0)T :BA>ING GBNT:Y TO ?HAT7* A:?AY* 0BBN 0B*T +OR THB; A:: A:ONG. J. NB9BR TRY TO RB*I*T RB*I*TANCB. INTBRR)PT IT, AN> )*B IT, OR GO ARO)N> AN> A+TBR IT.. 9. ANYONB CAN :BARN *PBB> *B>)CTION. *PBB> *B>)CBR* ARB 0ORN@ NOT ;A>B<<< 12. I+ I ?ANT TO ;A*TBR *PBB> *B>)CTION I ;)*T PRACTICB, CON*I*TBNT:Y. PRACTICB I* ;ORB I;PORTANT E+AR ;ORBF THAN NAT)RA: TA:BNT. E:erci%e, Ch 'gi'g !eliefs 'd f%t%re p &i'g $o%r s%&&ess "MPORTANT PR"NC"P#ES OF SPEED SEDUCT"ON: 1. B9BRYTHING I* PROCB**. THBRB I* NO *)CH 6THING6 A* :O9B, ATTRACTION, +A*CINATION. THB*B ARB *TATB* O+ 1J

;IN>, AN> A* *)CH CAN 0B *);;ONB> +ORTH AN> >IRBCTB> AT ?I::. .. A*I YO)R *B:+ IN A>9ANCB ?HAT *TATB* YO) ?ANT A ?O;AN TO BKPBRIBNCB IN YO)R PRB*BNCB. Exercise: 'ist states you(d want a wo#an to experience with you. 3. >ON7T RBIN9BNT THB ?HBB:. ONCB YO)79B CRBATB> THO*B *TATB* ?ITH HBR, ;AIB *)RB YO) ?IRB IT )P *O YO) CAN +IRB THB; O++ A)TO;ATICA::Y ?ITHO)T HA9ING TO GO 0ACI AN> RBDCRBATB THB;. THB +IR*T P)NCH TAIB* THB :ONGB*T. 4. A:?AY* GO +RO; :BA*T INTR)*I9B TO ;O*T INTR)*I9B. /. RB;B;0BR IN B9BRY ONB O+ THB*B PHA*B*, YO) ;)*T >O IT +RO; THB RIGHT PO*ITION<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Exercise: )t(ll be &reat for you baby visuali*ation! -. TONA:ITY I* CRITICA: THRO)GHO)T Exercise: +ower of tonality on yourself. , E ) O ATTACIING HBR )NCON*CIO)* PROGRA;;ING ... OTHBR PO?BR ?BAPON* ... :BARNING HBR R):B*, ?HAT7* I;PORTANT TO YO) IN, ?HAT B:*B,.HO? >O YO) INO?, Ge'er liGed Ie'ri&" *%perDp tter's 1. H ve $o% ever 4= .. Give e4 #ple 3. >es&ri!e pro&ess Eli'" to $o% if positive, to oppo'e't if 'eg tiveF 4. As optio' l &o%pDdegr &e, #ove their #e't l pi&t%res ro%'d Other "e$ ele#e'ts of Ie'ri&" *%per p tter's 1. ?h t the$ (ill e4perie'&e .. (ith (ho# 3. (he'. 6I' #otio', !e li"e ( ter At rest, li"e #irror Respo'd, li"e the e&ho 0e s%!tle, s tho%gh 'o'De4iste't6 ... T oist verse $eductionA3et 'aid (atterns: Note, the follo(i'g p tter's re Cop$right 1994, Ross Jeffries. No p rt of these p tter's # $ !e reprod%&ed (itho%t e4press (ritte' &o'se't of Ross Jeffries. All Rights re Reserved<<< &ote: Concerning 4peners .nd $et7/ps Re#e#!er s $o% (or", pl $, 'd pr &ti&e (ith these p tter's th t the$ re !est do'e i' the fr #e(or" of dis&%ssio' (ith the (o# ' !o%t 6ho( i'teresti'g the #i'd is6 or 6ho( thi'gs ll h ppe' i' p tter' ... the$ do'7t A%st h ppe' r 'do#l$6. It is l( $s !etter to ppe r to !e e4pl i'i'g th ' dire&ti'g, ltho%gh s $o%7ll le r' the li'e !et(ee' these & ' !e 5%ite s"illf%ll$ !l%rred. Also !e r i' #i'd $o% #%st ( t&h to see ho( (o# ' is respo'di'g to $o%. ?hile ll these p tter's re po(erf%l, 'd l#ost ever$ (o# ' (ill respo'd, so#e (o#e' respo'd #ore po(erf%ll$ to differe't spe&ts of p tter'. If (o# ' ppe rs to !e sho(i'g little e4&ite#e't t seei'g those pi&t%res i' her he d, drop th t ppro &h 'd fo&%s 'd the ( r#th of $o%r voi&e spre di'g ll thro%gh her !od$ 'd vi&e vers . $ome 4ther 3eneral Rules To 2ear In 9ind The #ost fre5%e'tl$ %sed (e sel p tter's re 6H ve Yo% Bver6 'd 6?h t7s It :i"e ?he'6. To s(it&h her to !od$ feeli'gs, $o% & ' fi'd it %sef%l if $o% %se 6?h t7s It +eel :i"e ?he'6, or 6?h t ?o%ld It +eel :i"e If6. The 3eneral (attern 4r $e-uence To Follow It7s ofte' %sef%l to thi'" of 6*peed *ed%&tio'6 li"e ! "i'g & "e. Yo%7ve got to h ve ll the i'gredie'ts, !%t the$ #%st lso !e dded i' the proper order 'd proportio'. Th%s, $o% do'7t #i4 %p the ! tter, sti&" the & "e i' the ove' for 42 #i'%tes t 3/2 degrees 'd the' &r &" i' the egg. ;$ preferred se5%e'&e is, 1. Get their tte'tio' thro%gh h%#or 'd i'trod%&e $o%rself. .. Cre te se'se of i'&redi!le &o''e&tio' 'd )*B TI;B >I*TORTION to # "e it see# li"e the$7ve lre d$ !ee' i' love (ith $o% for #o'ths. 3. A'&hor the# to i'te'se ple s%re st te i' their !od$ 4. )se s%!#od lities, e#!edded &o## 'ds, 5%otes 'd '$thi'g else I & ' to i'&redi!l$ i'te'sif$ th t st te so the$ re !eggi'g to f%&" #e

The (ower 4f "@ave 0ou Ever": Fascination (attern Note, This p tter' sho%ld !e %sed fter ge'er l ! 'ter 'd fl%ff t l". It & ' st 'd o' it7s o(' or !e i'tegr ted i'to p rt of l rger p tter'. 6:et #e s" $o% 5%estio'. H ve $o% ever !ee' tot ll$ f s&i' ted (ith so#eo'e= :i"e # $!e s $o% (ere there, :OOIING t hi#, 'd $o% st rted to :I*TBN CARB+)::Y, it ( s li"e his voi&e A%st see#ed to (r p itself ro%'d $o%, 'd the rest of $o%r e'viro'#e't A%st dis ppe red, 'd $o%r e'tire (orld, ever$thi'g $o% s (, !e& #e (h t ( s right i' fro't of $o%= A'd '$thi'g he des&ri!ed, $o% fo%'d th t $o% &o%ld A%st PICT)RB IT C:BAR:Y= *o $o% "'o(, if he (ere t l" !o%t ro# 'ti& ( l", o' #oo'lit !e &h, (ith $o%r perfe&t p rt'er, $o% &o%ld *BB YO)R*B:+ there (ith hi#, A%st e'Ao$i'g (h t th t (o%ld !e li"e= 6 The (ower 4f "@ave 0ou Ever" Instantaneous Connection (attern NOTB, Yo% & ' %se this p tter' five #i'%tes of #eeti'g her, or over &%p of &offee or eve' di''er. This p tter' & ' st 'd lo'e !$ itself or !e i'tegr ted i'to l rger p tter'. It7s !est to set it %p !$ t l"i'g !o%t ho( $o% ever 'oti&e th t so#e thi'gs see# to t "e lo'g ti#e, # $!e ho%rs, A%st see# to fl$ !$= I thi'" ti#e is f%''$ thi'g ... li"e for e4 #ple, Yo%, H ve $o% ever felt ' i'st 't 'eo%s &o''e&tio' (ith so#eo'e= EPoi't to $o%rselfF :i"e # $!e s $o% (ere there, :OOIING t hi#, 'd $o% st rted to :I*TBN INTBNT:Y, it ( s li"e there ( s &ord of :IGHT Egest%re fro# $o%r sol r ple4%s to hersF goi'g fro# $o% to the#= A'd s th t &ord !eg ' to G:O?, ?ITH THB ?AR;TH of th t &o''e&tio', # $!e $o% (ere eve' !le to I;AGINB A TI;B IN YO)R +)T)RB Egest%re either to $o%r left or to $o%r right ... t this poi't it re ll$.does'7t # tterF, s $ si4 #o'ths fro# 'o(, still +BB:ING THAT *BN*B O+ INCRB>I0:B CONNBCTION, 'd :OOIING 0ACI ON TO>AY Epoi't ! &" to $o%F s h vi'g !ee' the st rt of it= The#, Oh $e h ... Yo%, *ee, I thi'" it7s so f%''$ ho( so#e people & ' J)*T >O THAT 'd :BT IT HAPPBN !e& %se for #e it t "es lo'ger. 0%t I do fi'd th t d%ri'g the &o%rse of ' eve'i'g, s $o% RBA::Y :I*TBN to so#eo'e Epoi't to $o%rselfF, 'd $o% *TART TO RBCOGNINB those v l%es 'd 5% lities i' the# th t $o% hold so de rl$ for $o%rself ... p %se ... ?ITH ;B th t7s (he' $o% & ' ;AIB THAT CONNBCTION 'd re ll$ +BB: THAT GRO?ING 0ON>. I #e ' & ' $o% +BB: THAT Ere &h o%t 'd to%&hF is ' i'&redi!le e4perie'&e to h ve= Friends Into 'overs (attern Note, This p tter' & ' !e %sed o' (o# ' (ho h s !ee' lo'g ti#e frie'd !%t sho(' 'o se4% l i'terest, or o' (o# ' (ith (ho# $o% h d fe( d tes ( $ ! &" (he' !%t 'ever got '$(here. It (or"s !est i' & s% l setti'g li"e over &offee. Noti&e ho( this p tter' %tiliGes 6h ve $o% ever6 to set %p the %se of 5%otes. It lso %tiliGes '&hori'g. After ge'er l 6fl%ff6 t l" pro&eed s follo(s, Yo%, H ve ever $o% h%'g o%t (ith so#eo'e (ho $o% (ere'7t re ll$ ttr &ted to !%t the', for (h tever #$sterio%s re so', $o% A%st s%dde'l$ fo%'d th t $o% st rted to THINI THING* >I++BRBNT:Y 'd *BB THB; IN A ?HO:B NB? ?AY= Epoi't to $o%rselfF I #e ', I thi'" so#eti#es people re ll$ do'7t "'o( (h t the$ ( 't, t le st &o's&io%sl$ ... !%t the' it7s li"e YO)R CON*CIO)* ;IN> >I9B* >O?N Egest%re (ith !oth h 'ds to i'di& te divi'g do('F i'to $o%r %'&o's&io%s, 'd A%st Egest%re (ith !oth to i'di& te &o#i'g ! &" %pF 0RING* 0ACI )P A:: THO*B >B*IRB* AN> I;AGB* AN> +BB:ING* INTO YO)R ;IN>. I #e ' li"e #$ 'eigh!or loo"s t #e o'e d $, 'd right o%t of the !l%e she t "es #e !$ the h 'ds Et "e her !$ the h 'dsF 'd s $s, 6C ' $o% I;AGINB I+ ?BRB ;AIING O)T, A'd I ( s "issi'g e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"e to !e."issed, to%&hi'g $o% e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"ed to !e to%&hed, 'd $o% (ere st rti'g to +BB: INCRB>I0:Y T)RNB> ON, so t%r'ed o' $o%r h d to h ve #e.=6 C ' $o% !elieve she s id th t= No(, see, if I h d ( 'ted to pl $ ! &" (ith her= I (o%ld s id so#ethi'g li"e, 6Oh $e h= ?ell $o% "'o( th t feeli'g $o% get A%st !efore $o% h ve ' org s#. ?he' the ple s%re is A%st !%ildi'g 'd p%lsi'g 'd thro!!i'g ll thro%gh $o%r !od$= If $o% &o%ld I;AGINB THAT +BB:ING, &o%ld $o% +BB: THAT RIGHT NO? Es5%eeGe her h 'ds s $o% s $ this ... $o%7ve 'o( set %p ' 19

i'&redi!l$ po(erf%l st &"ed %p '&hor<F= Co%ld $o% eve' *BB A:: THO*B I;AGB*, !ig 'd !right, re ll$ t%r'i'g $o% o'= ESPEC"A# NOTE, )s% ll$, this is ll $o%7ll h ve to do ... $o%7ve got $o%r '&hor set %p ... si#ple t "e her !$ the h 'ds 'd s5%eeGe (he'ever $o% ( 't to fire it off 'd set th t feeli'g 'd (hole &h i' of thi'"i'g goi'g g i' ... !%t if $o% ( 't to &o'ti'%e !%ildi'g %p th t he d of ste # i' her p 'ties, here7s ho(. Co'ti'%e !$ s $i'g,F Yo%, Yo% see, eve' th t e4perie'&e, of so#eo'e st rti'g to +BB: )N0B:IB9A0:Y T)RNB> ON h s str%&t%re 'd se5%e'&e to it. :i"e for so#e people, first the$ RBA::Y +BB: THO*B +BB:ING* Efire off the '&horF 'd the' the$ st rt to *BB THO*B INCRB>I0:B I;AGB*. A'd other people *BB THO*B I;AGB* first, 'd the' the$ GBT THO*B +BB:ING*. I #e ', (he' I *BB THO*B I;AGB*, #i'e re #ovi'g. Are $o%r i# ges #ovi'g or still i# ges= E( it for her 's(er ... it re ll$ does'7t # tterF Yo%, A'd see (h t & ' h ppe' is, the$ feed i'to e &h other ... so s the I;AGB* GBT 0RIGHTBR AN> 0IGGBR the +BB:ING* & ' RBA::Y INTBN*I+Y, so the$7re A%st r di ti'g 'd p%lsi'g ll thro%gh $o%r !od$, 'd th t ;AIB* THB PICT)RB* 0IGGBR, (hi&h ;AIB* THB +BB:ING* ;ORB INTBN*B, till $o% & ' so#eti#es A%st :O*B CONTRO: CO;P:BTB:Y 'd GO ?I:> ?ITH >B*IRB< <. 2oyfriend 1estroyer: (art I Note, This p tter' is for %se (he' $o% s" (o# ' o%t 'd she hits $o% (ith th t f #o%s li'e, 6I h ve !o$frie'd6. It7s p%rpose is to get her to #eet $o% for &offee '$( $, t (hi&h ti#e $o% & ' pl $ (ith her #i'd %si'g '$ of the other p tter's (e7ll give $o%. It7s lso 'other e4 #ple of o'e of #$ f vorite t$pes of p tter's, ti#e distortio'<<< Yo%, ?ell, loo", I re ll$ e'Ao$ed this, 'd I7d li"e to t l" to $o% g i' so#eti#e= C ' I & ll $o%= Her, *orr$ ... I h ve !o$frie'd. Yo%, Yo% h ve !o$frie'd= ?ell, I h ve to d#it I7# dis ppoi'ted, I h ve to respe&t th t $o%7re i' rel tio'ship. 0%t let #e s" $o% 5%estio'. Ho( s%rprised (o%ld $o% !e to +IN> YO)R*B:+ ACT)A::Y :OOIING +OR?AR> TO *PBN>ING A :ITT:B TI;B ?ITH ;B= I #e ' # $!e to the poi't (here $o% &o%ld I;AGINB )* O9BR CO++BB, :A)GHING AN> HA9ING THB 0B*T TI;B, 'd $o% st rti'g to +BB: RBA::Y CO;+ORTA0:B ?ITH IT= As $o% THINI A0O)T IT :IIB THAT, does'7t see# ' t%r l to #eet li"e ;o'd $ or T%esd $ for &offee= @ot and @orny 4n The (hone Note, This p tter' is to !e %sed fter $o%7ve f%&"ed her or t le st # de o%t li"e &r G$. It7s #e 't to !e left o' her AN*?BRING ;ACHINB, 'd it7s good e4 #ple of %si'g o%r other f vorite (e sel phr se, 6?h t7s it li"e (he'=6. Yo%, E fter her # &hi'e pi&"s %pF. ?h t7s it li"e (he' YO)7RB *O ATTRACTB> to the so%'d of # '7s voi&e, th t (he'ever $o% +IN> YO)R*B:+ RBA::Y :I*TBNING, it7s li"e THB ?AR;TH O+ THAT 9OICB J)*T *TART* TO ?RAP IT*B:+ ARO)N> YO), 'd *PRBA> A:: THRO)GH YO)R 0O>Y, # $!e to the poi't (here $o% +IN> YO)R*B:+ THINIING A0O)T 0BING ?ITH HI; IN A ... ;;;;; ... *PBCIA: ?AY, i' ( $ th t (o%ld # "e $o% !oth feel ... ####, $o% "'o(= ... *o #%&h so th t those pi&t%res i' $o%r #i'd GBT 0IGGBR, AN> 0RIGHTBR AN> ;ORB INTBN*B, 'd those +BB:ING* ... ;;; ... INTBN*I+Y $o% &o%ld A%st BKPBRIBNCB AN O9BR?HB:;ING >B*IRB TO 0B ?ITH HI; ... to the poi't (here $o% A%st h d to PICI )P THB PHONB, 'd i'vite hi# over=6. The 2oyfriend 1estroyer: (art II Note, Origi' ll$, I t %ght this p tter' to !e %sed if she !ro%ght %p the !o$frie'd o!Ae&tio' (he' $o% first s"ed her o%t. ?ith ll the other p tter's I7ve sho(' $o%, I7d o'l$ %se it 'o( if she !ro%ght %p the !o$frie'd s p rt of ' o!Ae&tio' to getti'g ph$si& l or fter $o%7d !ee' s&re(i'g for fe( (ee"s. Her, I7# sorr$ ... I & '7t "eep seei'g $o%. I sho%ld h ve told $o% !efore, !%t I h ve !o$frie'd. Eor, s $o% re # "i'g o%t li"e &r G$F Her, ?e re ll$ sho%ld'7t !e doi'g this. I h ve !o$frie'd

Yo%, 0%t I7ll tell $o% (h t re ll$ f s&i' tes #e. It7s li"e, (h t7s this g%$7s ' #e $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith= Her, 0ill Yo%, Right, so $o%7re goi'g o%t (ith this g%$, 0ill EPoi't to $o%r right p l#F o". A'd $o% thi'" he7s re l &ool, 'd $o%7re e'Ao$i'g it 'd ll th t ... 'd the' let7s s $ for (h tever re so' $o% !re " %p. Yo% ever 0RBAI )P ?ITH *O;BONB Epoi't to p l#F 'd $o% go thro%gh th t period of #%lli'g it over, or # $!e $o% NOTICB THB PATTBRN* IN HI; THAT R)INB> YO)R :A*T RB:ATION*HIP ... or # $!e $o% st rt to :OOI AT HI; IN A ?AY THAT RBA::Y ;AIB* HI; A :OT :B** ATTRACTI9B IN YO)R ;IN>= Ho(ever $o% (o%ld A%st do th t= I #e ' it7s so (eird ho( the #i'd does ll this st%ff, !%t (h t I7# &%rio%s !o%t is, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e for perso' if th t e'tire pro&ess th t %s% ll$ t "es #o'ths, (h t (o%ld it !e li"e if th t e'tire pro&ess (ere to TAIB P:ACB IN*TANTANBO)*:Y Es' p $o%r fi'gers i' her f &eF i' so#eo'e7s #i'd= It7d !e li"e E( ve $o%r h 'd i' her f &eF YO) CO):>N7T *BB HI* PICT)RB ANY ;ORB IN YO)R ;IN>. Bver$ ti#e $o% tried it7d !e li"e so#ethi'g ( s A%st (ipi'g it right o%t. A'd th t7s ho( $o%7d "'o( th t $o%7d lre d$ st rted to +ORGBT A:: A0O)T HI;, TO ;AIB HI; :B** I;PORTANT. Or $o% "'o(, li"e, is there so#eo'e $o% %se to d te, !%t 'o( there ( $ o%t of $o%r #i'd ... $o% h ve'7t. eve' tho%ght !o%t the# i' lo'g ti#e= Ye h= ?e7ll 'oti&e s $o% t "e $o%r fi'ger 'd poi't, (here do $o% see there pi&t%re= Right over there= Is'7t th t i'teresti'g= *o if $o% (ere to, +ORGBT A0O)T THI* G)Y Ehold %p $o%r p l#, p%sh it to (here she poi'tedF, it7d !e li"e he gets st%&" i' the s #e pl &e. A'd of &o%rse $o% #ight thi'" to $o%rself, 6!%t I ( 't to p%t hi# ! &"6. Yo% #ight thi'" $o% #ight thi'" th t ... %'til $o% RBA::Y NOTICB th t fro# over there, fro# this perspe&tive, $o% re ll$ & ' *BB A:: THB THING* i' hi# 'd !o%t hi# $o% do'7t li"e ... so#ethi'g th t over ti#e, (o%ld re ll$ & %se $o% to d%#p hi#. A'd (he' th t h ppe's it7s little s d, !%t it7s lso 'i&e thi'g, !e& %se it llo(s $o% to CRBATB AN OPBNING +OR *O;BONB NB?. Epoi't to $o%rselfF I "'o( th t7s ho( it & ' GO >O?N ?ITH ;B Epoi't to $o%r di&"ee<F The "0ou)re Fucking <ith 9y 9ind" (attern Note, This p tter' sho%ld !e %sed if she & t&hes $o% tr$i'g to r%' N:P o' her or &o'fro'ts $o% !$ s $i'g so#ethi'g li"e the title of the p tter', 6Yo%7re f%&"i'g (ith #$ #i'd6< It re ll$ is A%st &o'f%sio' p tter', 'd (or"s !$ # "i'g (h t $o%7re s $i'g so h rd to follo( th t she gets #'esi for her o!Ae&tio'<<< Yo%, I "'o( it re ll$ & ' see# th t ( $, !%t I thi'" th t7s A%st !e& %se I t l" !o%t the ( $ people THINI A0O)T THING* ANY?AY ON A RBA::Y >BBP :B9B:, so !e& %se (h t I7# des&ri!i'g fits their i''er e4perie'&e so (ell, it # $ see# li"e I7# f%&"i'g (ith the#, !%t re ll$ I7# A%st dis&%ssi'g (h t the$ "'o( '$( $. *ee, & %se there7s (h t $o% "'o(, there7s (h t $o% "'o( $o% "'o(, 'd there7s $o% "'o(, !%t $o% do'7t "'o( $o% "'o(. *o (he' the thi'gs $o% "'o( !%t do'7t "'o(, !e&o#e the thi'gs $o% "'o( $o% "'o(, $o% & ' A%st THINI THING* >I++BRBNT:Y, $o% "'o(= Here7s 'other o'e if the$ s $ so#ethi'g li"e, 6Yo% # 'ip%l ti'g #e<6 .Yo%, Yo%7re right. I # # 'ip%l ti'g $o%, i' f &t it7s #$ Ao! to # 'ip%l te $o% to +A:: ;A>:Y IN :O9B ?ITH ;B. A'd $o%7re Ao! is to see to it th t I do it i' ( $ (here $o% +BB: GRBAT, !e& %se YO)7RB GBTTING B9BRYTHING YO)79B A:?AY* ?ANTB>, AN> B9BRYTHING YO)79B A:?AY* >RBA;B> O+. :i"e # $!e i' those ti#es s little girl (he' $o% dre #ed !o%t the "i'd of # ' $o% ( 'ted, re ll$ ( 'ted to !e (ith Epoi't to $o%rselfF 'd the "i'd of life $o% ( 'ted to sh re (ith hi#= A'd # $!e 'e4t ti#e $o% thi'" to $o%rself o' the i'side, E%se (hi'$ to' lit$F 6He7s f%&"i'g (ith #e ... he7s # 'ip%l ti'g #e6, # $!e it7s o'l$ sig' to GO INTO THB *TATB (here $o% RBA:INB THAT ?HAT7* I;PORTANT is'7t (ho7s doi'g (h t to (ho# ... (h t7s i#port 't is th t $o% re ll$ & ' +BB: THB ?AY YO) ?ANT TO +BB: ?ITH THB IIN> O+ PBR*ON YO)79B A:?AY* ?ANTB> TO +BB: IT ?ITH. C ' $o% +BB: THAT Ere &h o%t 'd to%&h herF is &h 'ge $o% .2

re ll$ ( 't to h ve= The /ltimate Fulfillment In . Relationship (attern Note, This p tter' sho%ld !e %sed o'l$ fter $o%7ve !ee' sleepi'g (ith her for fe( (ee"s 'd re ll$ feel li"e $o% ( 't to p%rs%e so#ethi'g lo'g ter# (ith her. The p tter' (or"s !$ eli&iti'g fro# her highest v l%es i' rel tio'ship 'd the' fi'di'g o%t (h t is she 'eeds to e4perie'&e i' order to "'o( those v l%es re !ei'g #et. This t "es o%t ll the g%ess (or" 'd gives $o% #e 's to either # "e her feel tot ll$ f%lfilled, or !sol%tel$ viol ted, (hi&hever serves $o%r i#s !est. Noti&e ho( $o% %se e4pressed gree#e't s softe'er. Also 'oti&e th t $o% do'7t ( 't her to ' #e the 5% lities she7s loo"i'g for i' # ', !%t r ther the v l%es she7d get fro# the rel tio'ship@ i' other (ords (h t # ' h vi'g those 5% lities llo(s her to e4perie'&e. ?ell !re " this p tter' i'to three ph ses, (hase 4ne: Eliciting @er Relationship >alues Yo%, ?h t7s i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Oh, I do'7t "'o( ... I g%ess #%t% l d#ir tio'. Yo%, Gee ... th t is ' i#port 't o'e. Ho( do $o% "'o( (he' $o% h ve #%t% l d#ir tio'. Her, ?ell ... I g%ess (he' I see thi'gs i' hi# I re ll$ d#ire, th t # "e #e loo" %p to hi#. A'd he e4presses.to #e th t there re thi'gs !o%t #e he re ll$ d#ires. Yo%, I gree ... th t7s po(erf%l o'e. ?ell, (h t else i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Oh ... se'se of h%#or. ENote here she7s go'e off tr &" !$ ' #i'g 5% lit$ she ( 'ts i' the # '. Here7s ho( $o% steer her ! &" to v l%es i' the rel tio'ship (he' this o&&%rs,F Yo%, ?ell, I "'o( th t7s ' i#port 't 5% lit$ for perso' to h ve, !%t (h t does perso'7s h vi'g se'se of h%#or llo( $o% to e4perie'&e th t $o% (o%ld'7t other (ise e4perie'&e. Her, Oh, th t7s e s$, f%' 'd e'Ao$#e't ... re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$. Yo%, Of &o%rse ... (h$ !e i'volved (ith so#eo'e if the$ re'7t f%' to !e Her, Right. Yo%, A'd (h t h s to h ppe' for $o% to "'o( $o%7ve got #%t% l e'Ao$#e't (ith so#eo'e= Her, ?ell, it7s A%st of ll the people $o% &o%ld &hoose to !e (ith, $o% &hoose to !e (ith the#, 'd 'o # tter (h t it is $o% do, eve' if th t p rti&%l r thi'g does'7t t%r' o%t s pl ''ed, li"e $o% go to &r%##$ pl $, or the (e ther7s lo%s$ or (h tever, $o% still (i'd %p h vi'g re ll$ gre t ti#e. Yo%, ?o( ... th t (o%ld !e gre t to !e (ith so#eo'e li"e th t. ?ell, (h t else is i#port 't to $o% i' rel tio'ship= Her, Tr%st. Yo%, ?o( ... 'o( th t is ' i#port 't o'e. Ho( do $o% "'o( (he' $o% h ve tr%st (ith so#eo'e= Her, ?ell ... the$ tell #e the good st%ff s (ell s the ! d st%ff ... the$7ll let #e "'o( (he' the$ re'7t h pp$ (ith so#ethi'g I7ve s id or do'e ... 'd lso. the$ do (h t the$ s $ the$7re goi'g to do (he' the$ s $ the$ re goi'g to do it. (hase Two: Ranking The >alues From 9ost To 'east Important Yo%, Of those three v l%es, #%t% l d#ir tio', re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$, 'd tr%st, (hi&h is the #ost i#port 't= ?hi&h (o%ld $o% !sol%tel$ h ve to h ve= Her, ?ell ... I7d re ll$ ( 't to h ve the# ll ... !%t ... I7d h ve to s $ re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$. Yo%, ?ell ... I &o%ld see th t. Of #%t% l d#ir tio' 'd tr%st, (hi&h is #ost i#port 't= Her, ;%t% l d#ir tio'. (hase Three: Creating .n Intense (leasure $tate 2y &aming .ll Three >alues In 4rder 4f Importance Note, This & ' !e do'e fter $o%7ve dropped the topi& ... fro# ' ho%r l ter to (ee"s l ter. * $ so#ethi'g li"e, Yo%, Yo% "'o( ... I7ve !ee' thi'"i'g th t # $!e (e7ve re ll$ got the st rt of so#ethi'g here. A'd I thi'" # $!e it7s so#ethi'g ! sed o' re ll$ e'Ao$i'g e &h other7s &o#p '$, #%t% l d#ir tio', 'd tr%st.

EYo%7ll see her go i'to profo%'d ple s%re st te ... s this is pe "i'g re &h over 'd to%&h her 'd s $o% do so $o% s $,F C ' $o% +BB: THAT (o%ld !e re ll$ (o'derf%l thi'g to e4perie'&e= Note, No( $o% h ve ' e4tre#el$ po(erf%l '&hor for her to e4perie'&e %lti# te s tisf &tio' (ith $o%<<< Also, si'&e $o% "'o( her r%les for &re ti'g the se'se th t she h s these v l%es (ith $o%, $o% 'o( "'o( e4 &tl$ ho( to !eh ve to re ll$ # "e her e4perie'&e it (ith $o%. I' the & se !ove, if $o%7re 'ot h pp$ (ith so#ethi'g she7s do'e, $o%7ll ( 't to sh re it (ith her so she & ' e4perie'&e TR)*T, o'e of her highest v l%es. A'd $o%7ll "'o(, if $o% go to ' eve't th t is'7t too e4&iti'g, it (ill still !e o" if $o% # ' ge to h ve f%' '$( $. *ee (h t I #e '=. Ross)s . solute Favorite (attern: The 2lammo Note, This p tter' & ' !e do'e t '$ ti#e ... either o' d te or t first #eeti'g. The ! si& steps to the p tter' re s follo(s, 1, )se fl%ff t l" 'd h%#or to # "e her feel &o#fort !le, liste' to her ! !!le for little !it. ., )se the I'st 't 'eo%s Co''e&tio' P tter' fro# !ove to get her to feel !oth ' i'&redi!le &o''e&tio' 'd distort her ti#e se'se so it see#s li"e she7s !ee' deepl$ &o''e&ted to $o% for #o'ths. This is ' HD 0o#! &o#!i' tio'< EThe HD0o#! %ses f%sio' (hi&h & ' o'l$ !e ig'ited fro# the he t ge'er ted !$ to#i& fissio'. Th t7s (h$ the$ h ve to %se ' AD0o#! to set off ' HD0o#!. Is'7t s&ie'&e (o'derf%l=F 3, *et her %p for '&hori'g ' i'te'se ple s%re st te !$ first getti'g her to 'oti&e ho( ever$thi'g h ppe's (ith p tter' or str%&t%re. 4, Bli&it 'd '&hor i'te'se ple s%re /, +ire off th t '&hor -, +i'd o%t her s%!#od lit$ lo& tio' for pi&t%ri'g f lli'g i' love. 1, A&&eler te hrr ple s%re st te !$ des&ri!i'g the ( r#th of $o%r voi&e &o#i'g fro# th t pl &e 'd spre di'g ll thro%gh her !od$. J, *%perD &&eler te her ple s%re st te !$ i'te'sif$i'g $o%r des&riptio' of th t st te 'd %si'g 5%otes. 9, Po%'&e or step ! &" 'd let her po%'&e<<< Got th t= *o here it is, pi&"i'g %p (ith step 3, Yo%, *ee= Bver$thi'g h s str%&t%re to it. +or e4 #ple, thi'" !o%t so#eo'e $o% re ll$ li"e for se&o'd= O"= Got th t= No(, poi't to (here $o% see# to see th t pi&t%re. E:et her poi'tF.Yo%, Right there= O". No( thi'" of so#eo'e (ho $o% re ll$ do'7t li"e t ll. O"= Poi't to (here $o% see th t. E:et her poi't ... 'd !$ the ( $ if she7s o'e of those people (ho does'7t disli"e '$o'e, the' h ve her thi'" of so#eo'e she &o%ld t "e or le ve ... (ho she7s 'e%tr l !o%t<F Yo%, No( ( t&h ... t "e th t pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do'7t li"e ... 'd tr$ s h rd s $o% & ' to #ove it over i'to the pl &e (here $o% see the pi&t%re of the perso' $o% do li"e. E*he7ll dis&over th t she & '7t do itF Yo%, *ee th t= It does'7t ( 't to go does it= 0e& %se $o% 'eed ( $ to sort o%t (ho $o% re ll$ li"e Epoi't to $o%rself ... (h$ #iss ' opport%'it$F fro# (ho $o% do'7t. Is'7t th t 'eed= Her, Ye h< Cool< ?o(< EOr '$ other si#il r st%pid fe# le e4post%l tio'<F Yo%, No( see, there7s 'other differe'&e i' the ( $ $o% # "e pi&t%res i' $o%r he d. +or e4 #ple, $o% ever !ee' o' roller &o ster= Her, Ye h< Yo%, O", ( t&h. I ( 't $o% to re#e#!er ti#e $o% (ere o' roller &o ster, 'd I ( 't $o% to see $o%rself sitti'g i' the roller &o ster & r, ridi'g %p 'd do(' o' the roller &o ster. J%st do th t for fe( se&o'ds. E:et her do this for !itF Yo%, O" ... 'o( (e7re go'' do it g i', !%t this ti#e, i'ste d of seei'g $o%rself, see (h t $o%7d &t% ll$ see thro%gh $o%r o(' e$es if $o% (ere there, goi'g o' th t roller &o ster ride. E:et her do th tF Yo%, No(, of those t(o, (hi&h o'e felt #ore re l, &t% ll$ g ve $o% the feeli'gs of !ei'g there=.Her, The se&o'd o'e<< Yo%, Of &o%rse ... !e& %se $o% & ' see $o%rself i' #e#or$, or see (h t $o% &t% ll$ s (. ?he' $o% see (h t $o% &t% ll$ s ( it re ll$ helps $o% to get the feeli'gs of ho( it &t% ll$ felt< Her, ?o(= This is f s&i' ti'g<<< .1

Yo%, Is'7t it= No( loo" ... here7s the 'e4t pie&e of this 'd it7s & lled '&hori'g. *o, here, tr$ this ... &lose $o%r e$es ... 'o( ... & ' $o% re#e#!er ti#e (he' $o% (ere feeli'g e45%isite ple s%re i' $o%r !od$=== Her, #### ... $es. Yo%, O". I ( 't $o% to see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, 'd feel ho( it felt. A'd (he' those feeli'gs of e45%isite ple s%re re ll$ re &h their pe ", A%st (iggle $o%r little fi'ger for #e. E? t&h to see she7s re ll$ i' st te ... her f &e (ill &h 'ge, !re thi'g 5%i&"e', et&. (he' she (iggles th t fi'ger, re &h over, to%&h her (rist 'd s $, Yo%, P%rrrfe&t. A'd A%st h 'g o' for #i'%te to ho( good it feels to +BB: PBR+BCT. EIeep holdi'g her (rist s she7s e4perie'&i'g this<F Yo%, O". Ope' e$es. Close e# g i'. A'd go thro%gh it g i' ... see (h t $o% s (, he r (h t $o% he rd, feel ho( it felt. A'd (he' those feeli'gs re &h their pe ", (iggle th t fi'ger. ERepe t the '&hor pro&essF Yo%, O", o'e #ore ti#e Er%' her thro%gh it o'e #ore ti#eF Yo%, O". Ope' $o%r e$es. No(, the theor$ !ehi'd '&hori'g is, th t if so#eo'e is i' &ert i' st te, 'd $o% &o#!i'e th t st te (ith to%&h or so%'d, (he' $o% repe t th t to%&h the$7ll go ! &" i'to th t st te. *o if I (ere to s $ to $o%, $o% "'o(, I fi'd th t (he' I spe'd ti#e (ith so#eo'e, 'd I re ll$ st rt to +BB: THAT *BN*B O+ INCRB>I0:B CONNBCTION, # $!e the' $o% & ' A%st +BB: PBR+BCT Efire off the '&hor !$ to%&hi'g her (ristF. A'd th t feels gre t, does'7t it=.Her, Oh, $e h< Yo%, Is'7t this i'teresti'g= Is'7t the #i'd re ll$ &ool= No( 'oti&e so#ethi'g else, $o% ever A%st f ll he d over heels i' love (ith so#eD o'e Epoi't to $o%rself ... 'ever #iss th t opport%'it$<F Her, Oh $e h< Yo%, ?ell, s $o%7re re#e#!eri'g th t ti#e, poi't to (here $o% see th t pi&t%re< Elet her poi't it o%tF Yo%, O" ... 'd $o%7re re ll$ feeli'g perfe&t right 'o(, re'7t $o%= Efire off th t '&hor g i'<F Her, Oh $e h< Yo%, *o ( t&h ... Epoi't to (here she f lls i' loveF As $o% THINI A0O)T THAT *PACB A* I TA:I TO YO) ... s $o% A::O? ;Y 9OICB TO CO;B +RO; THAT *PACB ... $o% #ight fi'd it7s li"e $o% ( 't to CRBATB AN OPBNING +OR ;Y 9OICB ... 'd ope'i'g th t llo(s the deep, ri&h ( r#th of #$ voi&e to A%st pe'etr te $o%r tho%ghts, 'd *PRBA> THAT ?AR;TH A:: THRO)GH YO)R 0O>Y ... 'd th t re ll$ feels perfe&t Efire '&horF does'7t it= Her, God, $es<< Yo%, I' f &t, s THB ?AR;TH O+ THAT 9OICB J)*T T)RN* TO A +IRB, *PRBA>ING thro%gh $o%r &hest 'd do(' thro%gh $o%r !od$ ... s YO)R HBART 0BAT* +A*TBR 'd $o%r 0RBATHING INCRBA*B*, 'd $o% re ll$ +BB: THAT TOTA: PBR+BCTION Efire '&hor g i'F ... I A%st ( 't to tell $o% I7# h vi'g gre t ti#e (ith $o% to'ight. It s%re is !etter th t !ei'g (ith ll those Aer"s o%t there. C %se I "'o( so#e g%$s & ' !e so &r%de. It7s li"e the other 'ight, I ( s i' ! r ... 'd this g%$ ( l"s right %p to girl 'd he s $s, 6C ' $o% I;AGINB HO? GRBAT IT ?O):> +BB: if I (ere goi'g do(' o' $o%, e4 &tl$ the ( $ $o% li"e it, ll 'ight lo'g, 'd $o% (ere *O HOT AN> *O ?BT YO) ?BRB 0BGGING TO HA9B ;B IN*I>B YO)=6 I & '7t !elieve ho( &r%de so#e g%$s & ' !e<<<.Her, Oh, God, oh God, ple se f%&" #e<<<<<. OTHER PATTERN2S TO #EARN: Ale47s 6The >oor P tter'6 Ale47s 6I'dis&retio' P tter'6 Ro!7s 6Cre tivit$ P tter'6 Reco11en)e) rea)in&: 1. 6Tr '&eD+or# tio's6 !$ Joh' Gri'der 'd Ri&h rd 0 'dler .. 6;o'sters 'd ; gi& l *ti&"s, There7s No *%&h Thi'g As H$p'osis6 !$ *teve Gillig ' 3. 6)'li#ited pers% sio'6 !$ >o' ld ;oi'e