SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

BEING SEXUAL

SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

BEING SEXUAL

Nathan Schneider

Women actually WANT to have sex! Not as a reward to a nice guy, but simply because WOMEN LOVE SEX! In fact women can be far more sexual than men. Further evidence of this can be found in any womans fantasy books, such as My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday. That will open your eyes. Women have elaborate intricate fantasies beyond anything men can imagine. For women, it is largely mental and emotional, and about being taken and ravaged in their imagination.

You are ready to initiate sexual relations with your woman. You are faced with two significant problems as a man. 1) The first problem is you are hesitant on how to approach sexual contact. You dont want to be clumsy. Yet you dont want to appear over eager. 2) The second problem is like the first. You are not sure how to please your woman sexually. You do not want to be clumsy. Yet you do not want to appear over eager. Success at this stage of your relations depends on your doing your part to prepare you woman emotionally. If you have not read course I, 2, and 3, now would be the right time. Anyone can learn mechanics that follow. We all know the physical sexual parts of a woman. First and foremost for a man are her breasts. After we play with them for awhile we move to her clitoris and finally we get to the big prize, her vagina. But with a woman her biggest sex organ is her brain. That is the one you have to get ready first. If you have not, you will not be very successful with the physical part. Getting her brain ready is what the first three courses help you do. It is new territory for us men. That is why the three previous courses are needed to cover the subject. Remember the old saying... The bank is eager to loan you money when you dont need it. Sex with women is the same idea. You cant seem like you need it. You must have a take it or leave it attitude. That way you set up the high value masculine leader image that she has to please. Later, after things are rolling, you can bang her brains out like its your last chance to have sex this lifetime (interestingly, if you set it up correctly, shell love it if you do, too).

There are certain everlasting truths that must be recognized. Women are feminine. Men are masculine. Women like being women and like the contrast. Men like being men and like the contrast. Part of being feminine, for most women, is to be sexually submissive. Part of being masculine, for most men, is to lead sexually. For the most part, women experience their sexuality in the context of the man leading.

There Are Four Things Women Must Have First, she needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that she is. She needs to feel special, unlike any other woman. And she needs to know that her man supports her in her endeavors. Second, she needs to feel that deep intimate emotional connection. She needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man. It's a connection she shares only with him. Third, she needs to feel like a woman. She needs to feel beautiful, sexy, and feminine. She needs to enjoy all those things that come with being a woman. Forth, she needs hot passionate sex. She needs to be seduced, enticed, teased, and satisfied, over and over again. She needs to experience new things, in new ways, including fantasies and roles. It makes her feel desired, affirmed, and alive. Her excitement in life comes from her man. A man gets his excitement from his world around him.

If Only She Could Have All That She Needs A woman imagines if she could meet a man who met all of her needs. A man who made her feel appreciated, a man who evokes a deep powerful emotional connection with her, a man who makes her feel feminine and womanly and sexy, a man who gives her hot passionate sex. It's the kind of thing women really, really dream about. Through her life experiences she begins to understand what she must have in a man. Some look for it in handsome men, some in popular men. She must have

that feeling she dreams of. But through a process of trial and error, including disappointment and despair, she begins to understand what she doesn't want in a man. Like that guy who cheated on her, or next guy who was too weak emotionally. If she meets a man who is exciting, she finds that he is reckless. So she looks for a man who is considerate, but he becomes boring. So she goes with a man who is macho, but he ends up being uninteresting. So she seeks a man who is intelligent, but he is sexually bland. So she takes a man who is dominant, but he is in every way demanding. If she could only meet a man who had all the things that could make her feel what she needed to feel. A man who is exciting without being reckless, considerate without being boring, macho without being uninteresting, intelligent without being bland, and dominant without being demanding. That sounds like a contradiction. But it's not. A man does not have to be reckless to be exciting, and he does not have to be boring to be considerate. But most men don't understand that. Which is why women say.... A Good Man Is Hard To Find So, when you talk to women, she will light up when you talk about this. You can say to her, I have asked women what they look for in a man, and what they tell me is... On one hand, they find a man who is exciting, but he is reckless and inconsiderate. And on the other hand, they find a man who is considerate, but he is boring. If there could be just one man who has both who is exciting AND considerate. They love that. And it all gets linked to you! It is obvious why it is important that all four things be there. A woman is most fulfilled when she is with a man that she has everything with. But here is the extremely important aspect of all four things being there: When All Four Things Are There Each Thing Becomes Even More Powerful That is when she is with a man that she is wildly crazy about. That is when she can allow herself to become completely naked to him in every way. That is the pinnacle. That is when she is with a Confident Masculine Leader. The Dark Secret Of Women Women live a life of dichotomies. They need dichotomy in their lives. During the day, she is that proper educated professional woman with a career. But at night, in the bedroom, she wants to express her sexuality. During the day, she wants to be in control of her life and her destiny. But at night, in the bedroom, she wants to be submissive and told what she will do sexually.

A woman wants to be known by most of the people in her life as being innocent. But with her man, she wants to be primitively sexual. On Sunday mornings, she teaches Sunday school. On Saturday nights, she is primitively sexual. Certainly, every woman is different. Each woman has preferences, norms, and extremes unique to her. A woman is attracted to the dichotomy in her man. Her man must be sensitive, yet strong. Caring, yet dominant. Sweet, yet able to tell her what she will do sexually. A woman is attracted to a man who is serious and focused about his career during the day, but at night can be light-hearted and people oriented. A woman is attracted to a man who is confident but who also does not take himself too seriously. With the right man, a woman can allow herself to act primitively. In the living room, a woman expects her man to use proper anatomical terms, like penis and vagina. In the bedroom, she expects him to use slang terms, like cock and pussy. If he uses slang in the living room, she sees him as inappropriate. If he uses proper terms in the bedroom, she just laughs. When a woman feels secure, cared about, and special, then she can be turned on about being someone's sex toy. She can be turned on about sex doggy style. All of the above assumes a mentally healthy woman with a good sense of self worth. It is true that there are emotionally damaged women with a bad sense of self worth, and playing like above can really mess up her emotions more. It will not work for her, she will not feel a healthy expression of her sexuality. So watch out for emotional maturity in your social life. With poor emotional maturity what should be a normal experience gets twisted by her emotional limitations. This is not a recommended relationship (from first hand experience of the author)

Feel Like a Man Ultimately, all of us men want to feel like a king. We have various ways of experiencing that. For some of us we look for it in sexual conquests. For some of us it is conquests of power or money. But for most men, I have found that he really feels like a king when his woman believes in him completely and does all those primitive taboo things with him. Motivation guru Napoleon Hill wrote that, Man's greatest motivating force is to please woman. A woman is most fulfilled when she is wildly crazy about her man. She feels fulfilled hen she feels beautiful and feminine and sexy. It is when she feels naughty. She feels most fulfilled when she is aroused beyond description. She feels complete when she is drunk with desire and can't get enough of you. You appreciate the massive pent-up sexual potential in a woman, and you bring that out in her, until she surrenders herself completely to you, allowing herself to become totally naked to you in every way. A reminder for you, that a woman's pleasure is very cerebral. Her mind is the most important factor. You drive her wild with desire. Understand that women are highly sexual creatures that crave intimacy. Women are far more sexual than men. Women have elaborate intricate fantasies beyond anything you, a man, can imagine. For women, it is largely mental and emotional, and about being swept away. Women enjoy and crave ANTICIPATION. Anticipation leads to sexual arousal. Write that down... ...on your forehead. This subject was discussed in depth in lesson three. It is so important, I will discuss it again in detail.

You need to remember that women like the idea of WANTING and EXPECTING what's going to happen. So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less "resistance", then USE ANTICIPATION. Here is a technique you should try. You get close. You are doing what all women like, snuggling. Then stop and stretch or change the subject. This is a way to INCREASE a woman's sexual arousal and AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that's already present in the situation. Lets describe how it works again in this lesson: Let's say that you're talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand. After a few minutes, put her hand back and STOP. Relax, lean back. Continue talking. Wait a few minutes, reach over and take her hand again... and keep talking. Then, slowly lean over and kiss her After you've kissed her, STOP. Relax lean back, again. Continue talking. Wait a few minutes, reach over and kiss her again. But this time, kiss her for a little longer. Kiss her a little deeper. Now guess what is next? Right, stop. Relax lean back, look at her. Smile. When you use this technique, you will be absolutely STUNNED at the results. First of all, it completely changes the situation.

So the process is start then stop. Start then stop. Do something thats arousing, then cool it and do something else. Did someone say Anticipation? It is a big thing for a woman, anticipation. It works her mental, emotional, and sexual core all at the same time. It is powerful stuff for a woman, anticipation. Here is what is happening here. She is thinking to herself, Whats going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they dont do anything at all. This guy seems like hes so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. I like him! And the best part of this technique is that ITS WHAT WOMEN WANT YOU TO DO! The way to get her to want to have sex is to create this anticipation while at the same time stimulating her senses. Combine this with your casual attitude of Im enjoying this, but I dont NEED it and then, you are King of the Castle.! But you have to keep it up. It might take you an extra 20 or 30 minutes of this on and off teasing, but if youll just be patient, youll reap the great rewards. There are a few major seemingly instinctive signals that she is getting aroused: 1) She starts grinding her hips on you. 2) She starts taking your clothes off. 3) She starts taking her clothes off. 4) She says Im getting really turned on or Im really getting hot. 5) She grabs your crotch. If you keep it up for long enough, several of these will happen. Thats your cue that its time to take things to the next level. When you get the signals, its time for you to act like a man and do something (Dont you love being a man?). You might try this sequence: 1) 2) 3) Run your hands over her breasts (through her clothes). Run your hands over her ass (through her clothes). Pull her shirt up just enough to expose her stomach a tiny bit, and then star touching it very gently and slowly... also touch her back where its exposed. Remember what I said about slow, gentle touching.

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Stop once in awhile. Create anticipation. Next, take off her shirt. Dont immediately go for the breasts! Dont do it! Gently touch every part of her thats exposed (Im assuming that she still has her bra on). Kiss her shoulders... and her back. Add generous portions of light slow touching and mini-tasting. If the Im getting really hot signals keep coming from her, now touch and kiss her breasts gently through her bra. If this goes over well, then take it off and kiss some more. Remember, slow, gentle... and stop for anticipation breaks.

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7) Next come the pants. You may have to take shoes and/or socks off first. Slow and deliberate. Dont act like youve been in prison for the last ten years and this is your first time with a woman since your release, even if it is! 8) Once the pants are off, keep kissing, smelling, tasting, gentle slow touching...and add touching around the edges of her underwear. Women like to have the skin around the edges of clothing and underclothing touched (usually), this like knocking on the door to a woman. You are doing all of this Slowly and deliberately. Think rush hour on a Los Angeles freeway! Finally, reach down and touch her gently between her legs. She might resist this (or any of the previous advances). If she does, just stop and go back to building anticipation. If you do this a few more times, shell usually get turned on to the point where instinctive desire kicks in and she eager for you to continue.

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10) For the sake of all the penis brain men who might be reading this far. If she says STOP or pushes you away, then stop. Never force a woman to do anything. Its dumb, wrong, and illegal. Women relate to the world almost completely different from us men. While we are straight to the point, as you have been reading thus far, women have a lot more emotional, psychological and mental processes to work through to enjoy sex. Some have issues they have to let go of as you slowly bring their instinctive primitive level up to the surface. That is why you go slow and watch for signs of slow down or speed up. Those signs are instinctive and universal. So thats it for the foreplay. Now youre ready for the real sex.

Oral Sex For a woman, her whole body can get turned on. So dont forget to keep touching her and paying attention to the rest of her body. I recommend trying a few things when you first have oral sex with her to find what she likes. Heres the list: 1) Begin by KISSING your way down her stomach... and then her inner thighs and legs... anticipation. 2) Ask are you comfortable. Women usually like to feel clean and fresh... and she might feel self-conscious because she hasnt showered in several hours, etc. If this is the case, you might want to ask her if shed like to share a shower with you. If she seems uncomfortable, ask if shed like to join you in a shower. 3) Begin by kissing her gently. Kiss her and lick her slowly and deliberately. Make some Mmmmm noises and let her know that youre enjoying yourself. 4) You have a couple of major tools, and a couple of ways to use them. Use your tongue on her clit, and your fingers on the inside. 5) Start with kissing and licking, then a few minutes later insert one finger. If she likes this, ask if shed like two fingers. Go slow, as most women need to relax and get used to the stretching Mouth options: Licking up and down, side to side, in circles, directly on her clit, around it, sucking. Finger(s) inside options: Sliding in and out, staying still, rubbing top or bottom or sides, rubbing a spot inside, slow, fast. Try each of the mouth options until you find the one she likes best. Try each of the finger options until you find the one she likes best.

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10) Combine. Once you find the magic combination, keep doing it EXACTLY that way, at EXACTLY that speed and pressure. Men like faster and harder, women usually like the same way until orgasm. If you do a great job, shell usually want to reciprocate and use her mouth to make you feel great. Do yourself a favor: Tell her what you like and how you like it. But dont make it sound like youve done this a thousand times and youre an expert at describing it. Say Ohhh... I liked it when you did this... and It really feels good when

you... Women like to know that youre feeling good. So tell her as shes doing it. Tell her how youre feeling. Real Penetrating Sex its a good idea to always be paying attention to how shes responding to your touching, kissing, etc. Different women like things differently, and sex is where this makes itself more obvious. So.... if she liked it when you really sucked on her neck hard... and she was pulling on you with force, then theres a good chance that shes going to like to be more physical when it comes to sex. So pay attention. This is like conducting an orchestra..in reverse! At first, youll want to go very slowly. Only insert the very tip of your throbbing manhood, cowboy. Then pull it out. Then the tip. Then pull it out. Anticipation. Anticipation. Anticipation. Repeat I can wait 1,000 times. It definitely helps if youve made her have a great clitoral orgasm moments before... as shell be wetter. In any event, notice what makes her feel good, and do more of it during sex. Heres some other ideas for you: 1) Try variations, like 9 fast shallow thrusts then one slow deep one. This will make her gasp every time you go deep. 2) Look into her eyes while youre having sex. 3) Caress her body, kiss her and touch her, and remember the rest of her. 4) This is when its OK to switch into I havent had sex in 17 years and Im going to take it out on you mode. At this point its OK to be a wild man. 5) Find combinations of things that she likes. She might like to be kissed at the same time... or have her nipples pinched. Try things. Keep what works. 6) If you need to stop because youre going to blow like Mt. Vesuvius, just stop. Its OK to pause if you need to. It builds my favorite thing: Anticipation. You dont have to say Im going to ejaculate prematurely, therefore Im going to take a break. Just do it. Leave her thinking that youre just so in control that you like to pause to enjoy kissing her. Same goes for if you get anxiety or just turned off. Take a break and kiss her for awhile... then get back to it.

7) Another technique is to slow down (which women love) and imagine yourself somewhere else in order to prevent the premature ejaculation. Just imagine that youre swimming in the ocean. Hear the waves, feel the water on your body, and taste the salt. This will distract your mind enough to get control. The theme here is to do things that are creative, but at the same time wonderful to her. By paying attention, you can learn what she likes, and at the same time, by trying new things, surprise her.