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prised you or what you discovered about your partner. Remember that
When Ian and I went together to see Ivy Young, she gave us a kink
compatibility checklist.We had already gone through my version of a sim-
ilar checklist at home (just going through the list and discussing what we
wanted to try turned him on like crazy, and we didn’t get through the list
on our first attempt). We’d done a lot of communication. Ian was sharing
more openly about his hidden desires. I got a clearer picture about where
we could play together and why kink was so important to him. Luckily
Ian and I discovered by going through my Kink Communication List and
doing the “Understanding Turn-ons” exercise that we were pretty much
compatible with each other. We had many matching want-tos.
Try it for yourself:
Playful Restraint
Erotic Wrestling WANT Willing No Way
Power Roles
Being Dominant/Submissive WANT Willing No Way
Sensory/Impact Play
Temperature Play
(Wax, Ice, etc.) WANT Willing No Way
Hard Pounding
During Intercourse WANT Willing No Way
Intercourse Combined
with Restraints WANT Willing No Way
Oral Combined
with Restraints WANT Willing No Way
Butt Plugs/Prostate
Stimulators WANT Willing No Way
Discipline (Rewards
and Punishment) WANT Willing No Way
Gender Play
(Cross-Dressing) WANT Willing No Way