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HOW DOES SPIRITUALITY AFFECT

A MARRIAGE?
A HOUSE, a life or a marriage is only as good as the foundation on which it rests. In one of his
illustrations Jesus spoke of two men—a wise one who built his house on solid rock and a foolish
one who built on sandy soil. When a storm arose, and floodwaters and winds lashed the houses,
the one on solid rock stood, but the one on sand fell with a great crash.
Jesus was not teaching people how to build houses. He was emphasizing the need to build
their lives on a fine foundation.

This is certainly true of marriage. If we build our marriage on a rocklike foundation, it will stand
the stresses of life. But from where does this fine foundation come? From the Creator of
marriage, Jehovah God. He started marriage when he brought the first human pair together as
husband and wife. Then he gave them wise instructions for their own good. Whether they
followed these wise instructions would determine whether they had an everlasting glorious future
or no future at all.

What do you want out of marriage? What are your needs—physically, emotionally, spiritually?
What are your values, your goals and your methods of reaching them? 9 Do you want to get
married to satisfy physical needs—food, clothing, shelter? Those needs are basic to all of us, as
the Bible says: “Having sustenance and covering, we shall be content with these things.” And the
need for sex? That is also a normal desire. “It is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion.”
(1 Timothy 6:8; 1 Corinthians 7:9)

Jesus said: “Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need.” (Matthew 5:3) What is your
spiritual need? Does it relate to seeking a career? Riches? Material possessions? Well, do these
pursuits bring inner peace and contentment? Usually they do not. So we need to appreciate that
within all persons there is a hunger of the spirit that remains, even after all the physical needs are
satisfied. Our spirit hungers for identity—to know who we are, what we are, why we are here, and
where we are going. Are you conscious of these spiritual needs, and of the way to meet them?

THE need for Jehovah God to be in every undertaking of ours is stressed time and again in the
Scriptures. Thus we read at Psalm 127:1: “Unless Jehovah himself builds the house, it is to no
avail that its builders have worked hard on it. Unless Jehovah himself guards the city, it is to no
avail that the guard has kept awake.” The long history of the nation of Israel bears out the truth of
that principle. When Israel let God be in their affairs by giving him exclusive devotion, their efforts
to protect themselves from their enemies were successful. But when they abandoned his pure
worship to follow other gods, their guards watched over their cities in vain. The same principle
applies to our making a success of marriage.

Solomon wrote: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their hard
work. . . . And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two.” (Eccl. 4:9, 12) A marriage can be
likened to a cord tying a couple together and, when we let God be in it, it is truly a ‘threefold cord
not easily torn in two.’ What does it mean to let God be in your marriage. To let God be in your
marriage means to be spiritually concerned with measuring up to Jehovah’s requirements for
married couples. Stated in brief, they are: “Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as it is
becoming in the Lord. You husbands, keep on loving your wives and do not be bitterly angry with
them.”—Col. 3:18, 19.
Jehovah God describes a man’s wife as his “partner” in the marriage covenant. Christian
husbands cannot honor the marriage arrangement without honoring their marriage partner. Not
only by tender dealings will the Christian husband honor such feminine partner, but he will do so
especially in loyalty to the marital union they share. He should seek always to preserve it as a
sacred responsibility. If failing to show his wife due gentleness and empathy would hinder his
prayers, how much more so would his indulging in some degree of disloyalty to his mate, showing
undue interest in someone outside the union. (Prov. 5:15-21) Not showing proper honor to his
wife means dishonoring the marriage arrangement and its Maker.
So, also, with the Christian wife. She expresses subjection to her husbandly head in the same
way that the Christian congregation is “in subjection to the Christ.” She shows him, not merely
respect, but “deep respect.” (Eph. 5:22-24, 33) If such deep respect keeps her from speaking
disparagingly to him or about him, how much more so should it keep her from disloyally showing
undue interest in someone outside their union, engaging in a flirtation to any degree. She can
never honor God by dishonoring her husband or their marriage relationship. (Prov. 2:16, 17)
More than that, to let God be in our marriage means for both mates to have a warm personal
relationship with Jehovah God, never neglecting prayer together. Share with him your joys,
sorrows, disappointments, trials. Be concerned with giving him as a Person pleasure and
gladness of heart. At Psalm 147:11 we read: “Jehovah is finding pleasure in those fearing him.”
And God tells us at Proverbs 27:11 that by being wise we can make his heart glad. So we want to
be concerned, not just with his requirements for us, but also with how he feels about the way we
heed them. Letting God be in our marriage will immeasurably strengthen it and assure us of
success and happiness. Yes, then it is “a threefold cord [that] cannot quickly be torn in two.”—
Eccl. 4:12.

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