The Most Powerful Girl-Gettin Technique of All Time

by Allen Thompson Im browsing through a Pier 1 Imports store, checking out the many cool and unique items. Im feeling good !ery good, in fact. Its hot, the sun is shining, and theres some hip reggae on the sound system. "#othing like the combination of heat, sun, and reggae to bring out my not$so$deeply$hidden parrothead side.% Im bouncing through the store, a big smile on my face, practically dancing through the isles, and finding all kinds of interesting stuff for the &bachelor pad.& I look up, and what do I spy, but a ma'or cutie "a store employee% in the tightest, most form$ fittingest 'eans I!e e!er seen. (hes been watching me it appears, checking me out. As I catch her eye, she startles, and immediately looks the other way, getting back to her work putting things on shel!es and such. I smile to myself. Then I 'ust laugh. I knew this one was going to be easy. )y &work& was already done. (he hadnt 'ust noticed me, she had seen me *APP+. (he had witnessed me bouncing around with a big smile on my face, dancing through the isles, feeling great, almost like a kid in a candy store. I knew, assuming she wasnt married, the outcome of our imminent interaction was pretty much assured. I continued my browsing, and about , minutes later she comes o!er to see if I need any help. -on!ersation, flirting, and laughter ensued, numbers were e.changed, and we both went on our merry little ways... 'ust a little bit happier than we were before. It really doesnt get any easier. It really doesnt ha!e to be all that hard. At this site we talk about a lot of cool and unusual ways of attracting and intriguing women. And these are cool, interesting, and great to read, no doubt about it. /ut we often ignore and o!erlook some of the most basic &techniques.& And that, unfortunately, includes the most basic, most important, most powerful, and 0A(I0(T 1A+ to capture a womans heart, mind, and imagination and thats simply the power of happiness. *appiness attracts2

*appiness will get you women2 And nothing is easier or more powerful2 #3, not e!en the &confidence& that we so frequently discuss. A happy man with low confidence will ha!e little trouble with women, while an unhappy man with high confidence may find himself struggling. 3f course, that being said, happiness and confidence almost always go together. *appy guys are generally pretty confident guys, and confident guys are generally pretty happy guys. Theres not a perfect correlation, but theyre related enough that its reasonable to assume that if we can increase our le!el of happiness, then wed most likely also increase our le!el of confidence. And !ice !ersa. (o rather than focus so much on building confidence, which most guys seem to ha!e quite a problem achie!ing, maybe a better strategy might be to focus on building happiness. +ou ha!e to remember that most people in this world are not all that happy. )ost are 'ust getting by, often bored, frequently depressed, rarely e.cited. (o when they meet someone who is happy and who seems to be happy most of the time, theyre intrigued, fascinated, and drawn to that person. They want to try to get some of that happiness for themsel!es2 And this is especially true for women. 4emember, women are highly emotional critters. They dont think logically like you and me. They like, want, #005 to feel things. (o if you can capture a womans emotions, make her think that you bring, spread, and e.ude &happiness& where!er you go, shell do 'ust about anything to get you, and 'ust about anything to keep you. (o +36, my future 5ons, are going to be )r. *appiness, )r. Positi!ity, )r. Im 5oing 7reat2 +ou are going to be her happiness drug, her &fi..& And friends, when you are not around, shes going to ha!e 840A9I# 1IT*54A1A: PAI#(2 +ou are #3T going to be like e!eryone else... one of the many, lonely, pathetic indi!iduals looking for happiness, e.citement, and personal fulfillment in 3T*04(. +ou are not going to be that unhappy, bored, lethargic indi!idual desperately searching for your &soul mate& to make your life wonderful and complete... ...like ;<= of the people in this world22 +ou are going to be the one doing the attracting, not the one doing the chasing. Attracting because you ha!e, or seem to ha!e, what women, and e!eryone else, wants. +ou are going to be what they are looking for. +ou are going to be a 5on >uan. I can hear some of you? &I understand what youre saying, and youre right. /ut Im not really all that happy. Im lonely. )y life is dull. Im tired of watching tele!ision. Im tired of staying

home all the time. /ut I know if I had that one special girl in my life, to do things with, then Id be happy. *eck, thats why I came to this site.& And youre right. +ou probably would be happier if you had a special girl in your life, especially one that really rocks your world. 7irls is good stuff to ha!e around, no doubt about it. And, by the way, thats one of the reasons for the &feast or famine& dating phenomenon that most e!ery guy is familiar with. It seems that when it comes to attracting and dating women, youre either surrounded by women who are all shamelessly throwing themsel!es at you... or youre surrounded by women who are all doing their best to completely ignore you "and doing a great 'ob at it%. There doesnt really seem to be much of a middle ground. +ou either ha!e more women than you can handle, or you ha!e no women that you can handle. 3f course one of the primary reasons for this is the &happiness& factor. 1hen youre seeing that special girl that really gets your griddle si@@lin, youre happy, much happier than your usual self... and other girls notice, other girls are intrigued, other girls want to find out more, and other girls want to try to get a little bit of that happiness for themsel!es. At this point, its easy. +ou dont e!en really ha!e to try. +oure on the !erge of 5on >uanism... at least temporarily. 3n the other hand, when youre lonely, depressed, bored, desperate... you &show it& with your body language, your facial e.pressions, the tone in your !oice, etc. and girls want nothing to do with you. They!e got enough unhappiness and misery of their own. They dont need to be worrying about you as well. (o yes I can understand you wanting to find someone special in order to be happy. That is what most guys "and girls% do. 6nfortunately, this is putting the 5on >uan -art /efore the *orse so to speak. If youre looking for someone else to make you happy, to gi!e your life meaning, to make you &complete&, then youre doing things, as the 8rench would say, bass ackwards. +es, youre doing things like ;<= of the people in the world, but its still wrong. (o wrong. >ust wrong. 5on >uans dont pursue women in a desperate, pathetic attempt at happiness, or to complete themsel!es, or any of the other hogwash that *ollywood likes to dish out. 5on >uans make themsel!es happy, deliriously happy, 8I4(T. And then &pick and choose& amongst all the incredible women who are now interested, attracted, and intrigued. This is the goal. This is the *oly 7rail of dating.

The goal is not simply to pursue so many women that e!entually you wind up catching one or two. 1ell, maybe at first, but not ultimately. The goal is to de!elop that &aura& that attracts, intrigues, fascinates... and gets them pursuing you. "#ote? +ou may still ha!e to make most of the &mo!es.& /ut the women will do their best to make it e.tremely easy for you.% 3kay, if we can accept the fact that happiness attracts women like nothing else, lets talk 'ust briefly about *31 T3 70T *APP+. In the future well talk more e.tensi!ely about ways to temporarily &fake& happiness, especially when youre not really feeling all that great. /ut let us here, first of all, talk about some ways to actually make oursel!es a little happier, really. Im not going to try to distill the wisdom of the ages into 'ust a few paragraphs. *eck, there are probably hundreds of books at your local bookstore dealing with this !ery sub'ect. /ut I would like to gi!e you an easy e.ercise that 'ust might get you 'ump$started in the right direction. 8irst, remember that happiness and unhappiness work a little something like this? 1e are happy when were thinking good things and unhappy when thinking bad things. In other words, our thoughts, or what we -*33(0 to think about, determine whether we are happy or not. "#othing really mind$boggling here, folks.% If were thinking about oursel!es in a negati!e way "what we lack, our particular faults, things we dont like about oursel!es% andAor comparing oursel!es to others who are seemingly more blessed than us "guys who are rich, famous, handsome, surrounded by women%, then were not going to be !ery happy... and others will notice. *owe!er, if were thinking about oursel!es in a positi!e way "what we ha!e, all our good points, about things that we really like about oursel!es% andAor comparing oursel!es to others who seem to be less fortunate than us, then were going to be much happier... and people will notice. In other words, happiness is not something that &happens& to youB its not something thats ob'ecti!ely determined and out of your control. *appiness is determined entirely by what you think, and what you think is up to you. +ou can be destitute, alone, li!ing in a cardboard bo., and still be deliriously happy if you choose to be. ")aybe focusing your mental energy on your good health and feeling bad for the fellow li!ing in the bo. ne.t to you who can hardly walk.% +ou can also be the richest, best$looking, most famous and well$liked guy in the world, and still be miserable, if you choose to focus on &bad& things. ")aybe the lo!e of your life di!orced you two years ago, your nephew died recently, you dont think you ha!e any &real& friends, or whate!er.% Again, this is not mind$boggling stuff here. I hope you all reali@e this already.

(o what we need to do in order to make oursel!es happier, and start attracting the chickies, is to train oursel!es in the *A/IT of happiness thinking. *appiness is a habit of thought its a learned, conditioned beha!ior. )ost people, unfortunately, ha!e de!eloped the habit of unhappiness thinking. Always obsessing o!er what they dont ha!e, what they hate about themsel!es, constantly comparing themsel!es to others who are better off, etc. In order to become 5on >uans, we need to retrain our minds. 1e need to train our minds to habitually think happy thoughts rather than unhappy ones. The following is !ery simple, !ery commonsensical, but will definitely work, if you gi!e it a try. Take out a piece of paper and begin writing down happiness thoughts things which when you read or think about them trigger states of happiness, or confidence, or pleasure in your mind. 8or e.ample, write down all the things you like about yourself, all the things you!e accomplished, all the things that make you a great human being to be around. Include things such as?

personality characteristics "your great sense of humor% physical characteristics "your killer hair% accomplishments "your )( in electrical engineering% specific memories that put a smile on your face and make you feel good possessions "maybe a great car that any woman would be lucky to e!en sit in% friends, family, associates etc.

Anything and e!erything you can think of. Anything that makes you reali@e that youre not a loser, that youre actually a heck of a guy, and any woman would be :6-9+ to ha!e a shot at you. 1rite down as many things as you can think of now you may need se!eral sheets of paper then put the paper on your dresser or on your kitchen table or someplace conspicuous and continually add to it o!er the ne.t couple weeks, e!ery time you think of something new. *eck, write down that smiling little girl that you saw on the news the other day, the one whos C years old and already has had 1D operations because of a birth defect. *ow could anyone watch or think about something like that and not feel e.tremely fortunate that they themsel!es were born healthy and normal. 3nce you ha!e all your lists, you need to start training your mind to focus more on the great things about you and your life, rather than focusing on the things you dont like.

To break the bad habit of negati!e, unhappiness thinking, we need to repeatedly, o!er a period of time, maybe a few weeks, force oursel!es to think about, remember, and focus on things that generate a positi!e, confident, and happy emotional state. 1ere not going to get rid of our negati!e thoughts by not thinking about our faults and failures. "In order to consciously not think about something, you ha!e to think about it.% 1ere going to get rid of our negati!e thoughts by replacing them with positi!e ones. 3nce we ha!e our sheets of paper, all we ha!e to do is schedule time to re!iew. (pend D or 1E minutes before going to sleep re!iewing your lists. (pend another D or 1E minutes in the morning doing the same. D minutes during lunch. Another D in the afternoon. 5ont make this hard. 5ont make it a chore. It should actually be fun and something that you look forward to. "1ho doesnt like to feel goodF% (pend a few weeks doing this, a few weeks re!iewing your lists and retraining your mind. It 1I:: work. +our thinking will change. +our manner will change. +our walk will change. +our body language will change. +our confidence will change. +ou will become happier. And women will notice2 Allen Thompson