10 Little Habits That Steal Your Happiness

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Marc & Angel | You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits arent helping
you, theyre hurting you. Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness
if you let them:
1. Focusing on everyones story except your own.
Dont be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them
that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have
everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change
happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating
more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It
means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.

If you want your life story to soar to new heights, youve got to clear a path, reduce the time-
sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep
your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them
every day. If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, theres almost
nothing you cant accomplish.
2. Waiting for the perfect moment.
Dont buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments arent perfect; theyre what you
make them. So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what theyre here to
do. The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc. Wake
up! These states of perfection are myths. They do not exist.

Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in
the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by
learning to see and use lifes imperfections perfectly.
3. Working for nothing more than a paycheck.
Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you arent super-passionate about your
work, youve got to at least be interested in it. When you design a lifestyle in which your
work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending
your entire life wishing you had someone elses. Think about it. This is your life; your work
will fill a large percentage of it. Its not all about the money; its about you. Ignore the
propaganda, especially from people who say, Dont let your work define you. Reverse this
message and mediate on it: I will do work that defines me. When the essence of who you
are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates
fulfillment.

Bottom line: Interest in your work puts quality in your output and happiness in your
mind. Dont settle for a paycheck. Shuffle around until you find work that interests you.
4. Harboring feelings of hate.
As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only
light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Truth be told, when we
harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. It takes control of us. We forget
why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate we simply hate for the sake of
hating. And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.

Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart. So
if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, dont hate. Instead,
disconnect yourself, move on, and dont look back.
5. Holding tight to worries and fears.
Someday when you look back over your life youll realize that nearly all of your worries and
anxious fears never came to fruition they were completely unfounded. So why not wake
up and realize this right now. When you look back over the last few years, how many
opportunities for joy did you destroy with needless worry and negativity? Although theres
nothing you can do about these lost joys, theres plenty you can do about the ones that are
still to come.

You will find that its necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that theyre
heavy on your heart and soul. Let go of them. Dont clamp shackles to your own
ankles. Its incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the
situation. Its just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that are weighing you
down.

Let go of your worries and fears, of your rage and jealousy, of your need to always be right
and control others. Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to have everything your
way. Underneath all these layers of nonsense there is a happy, productive person. When
you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be
wonderfully fulfilling.
6. Dwelling on difficulties.
A bad day is just a bad day. Choose not to make it anything more. Times of adversity will
inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work; yet you dont have to let it affect
who you are and where youre headed. Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but
dont expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.

Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities. There is always a way to take the next
step forward on the path youve chosen. Events may be terrible and inescapable at times,
but you always have choice if not when, then how, you may endure and proceed onward.
7. Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.
There are two variations of contentment in life fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is
derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the
gradual growth of your mind. At a glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the
other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious that the latter is far superior.

Enduring contentment sustains itself through lifes ups and downs, because through them
your mind remains confident and at peace. On the other hand, when lifes fleeting changes
have the ability to ruffle your mind into a frenzy, even the most elaborate physical comforts
wont make you any happier for very long.
8. Trying to make a big difference all at once.
If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you. Making a big
difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely
stressful. However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and
usually fairly easy. You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one
closest to you.

Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the ripples spread naturally. If you want to
change a persons mind or mood, sometimes you have to change the minds or moods of
the people around them first. For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile just
might make others smile too. In this subtle way, you can touch the masses with your
thoughtfulness without stressing yourself out.
9. Holding on to someone who hurts you.
Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you dont care, but because
they dont. When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they dont
care about you. Its a tough pill to swallow, but its necessary medicine. Do NOT strive to
impress them any further. Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something
to them. Nothing needs to be proven. Do not act with any thought of them ever again.
10. Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.
Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like
choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste. It makes no sense. Its innate,
invisible, unquantifiable characteristics that create lasting attraction.

Just as some people enjoy the smell of mint, while others prefer the scent of cinnamon,
there is an undeniable, magnetic draw that attracts you to the qualities of certain people,
places, and things. Sometimes its even the scars your soul shares with them that reels you
in and creates the very hinges that hold you together in the long run.


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