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THE ART OF FEMALE SEXUAL SEDUCTION

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Important Notes

The material in this book is for educational purposes and is intended to provide helpful guidance to
lovers about human sexuality. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, dependable, up-to-
date information. We believe what's presented here will be helpful and poses no risk to any healthy
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Neither the author nor the publisher is engaged in rendering medical, psychological, or any other
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Any use of the techniques used in this book is at your own risk.

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Real love is the love that sometimes arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other
kind inevitably goes stale, for it lies in mere fantasy. - Giacomo Casanova Master of Sexual Seduction






















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Content

Introduction
CHAPTER 1 - UNDERSTANDING WOMEN

Understanding Women
Women and men
What a girl wants
The Woman Of Your Dreams
Wants & Needs
Understanding women
In Conclusion
Part 2 - Understanding Men
Common Errors
Investing In Yourself
Your Body Language
Her Body Language
Taking Care Of Yourself
Part 3: Meeting Girls
The basic steps
Overcoming your fear of talking to women
Approaching her
What to say and how
Getting A Phone Number
Other venues
When a girl wants to be approached
Meeting Online
Chat rooms
From Date To Sex
Where to go on your date
Outdoor dates
Indoor dates
What to talk about
Sex and critical topics
How to read a women
How long does it take to lay her?
Getting women in the mood
The make-out
Her place or yours
What to have at home
Final words




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CHAPTER 2 - TIPS & TRICKS

The M3 Model?
Approach
Rejection and Approach Anxiety
Mission for Newbies
Curing Rejection
Enlightenment dawns
final words








































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Introduction

Welcome, future Casanova.
Thank you for investing the time to read my book, The Arts of Female Sexual Seduction.
In the following weeks, I will be your guide to seducing beautiful women; this book was composed for
you.

After all it is important that you have a good time reading and using the materials in it.
My mission is to help you change the way you treat, speak and communicate with women, both
intellectually and sexually, whether you are a novice or if a serious player, you will find that this book
can teach you a thing or two about sexual seduction.

This book was designed as a step by step guide, do not think twice when encountering difficulty or in
need of a refreshment course, to check back and consult this book.
It was designed that way. So lets begin

































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This book is only for people who are 21 or over!

Note: before you start reading we wish to clarify the following:

Women must be treated with respect, make sure you do not misuse this information to Sleep Around
and attempt to turn yourself into a Player as you might call it, hurting people for the sake of sexual
exploitation is wrong, and breaking a womans heart for the sake of your own sick pleasure will defiantly
bring you some bad karma, dont do to women what you dont want them to do to you, Players
eventually end up alone and miserable, despite the good times they had, so please take this under
consideration before reading.

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CHAPTER 1
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN










































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Part 1 - Understanding Women

Men, you know it: women are odd.
Do you remember school? Boys playing with boys, girls playing with girls?
Those were good times! No women except for mom and sisters (if any).
Then adolescence came and ruined it all.
Though women are extraordinarily motivating for us (and you do know why), sometimes it is so hard to
communicate with them... Well, that's resolved. This book is one of the best pieces of advice for single
men about women. It is about understanding women.

Before I could start writing this book, I had to talk with a lot of different women, married and single
women who were quite surprised (and also amused) of hearing a man was interested in finding out the
"differences between men and women" and providing "his buddies" with the "secrets of how women
think" as if they were "that complicated" (aren't they?).

Some of these serious and sexy women even laughed at some of my questions and replies to their
comments. However, after hearing a few dozen times that "every woman is different" and that none of
them could talk on behalf of the rest (as if I had never heard it before); at the end the topic was so
promising that they gladly accepted to stay and talk it over.

The first thing I need to mention that men and women have different genitalia. Yes, I know that is not
new for you, but did I mention the psychological consequences of our basic biological difference? No?

OK, the fact our genitalia work outwards and theirs inwards has a very deep consequence on the way
the fair sex thinks and sees the world. Read on.

Women's brains works inwards>outwards. Meaning: They are going to concentrate on themselves
before thinking about the rest of the world. This explains why those "eternal" terms of "five minutes"
are usually enough to watch half of a soccer match. During those "five minutes", they are exploring their
worlds, you see? They psychology commands them to behave like that.

This doesn't happen when a woman becomes a mother. When women talk about their children, they
usually move the woman to second place. Also take for granted they will turn into fierce merciless
lionesses if they need to defend their children. Is this one of the instincts that has allowed us to survive
as a species? Maybe, but this book is not an anthropological study, so let's go on. The point is that, for a
woman, her children are more important than her and will always be

Women once understood that they are physically weaker than men, and it has consequences even
seven or eight millenniums afterwards. Women (though they will never admit it) see the world as
"violent", contrary to men, who mainly find it "competitive". Now you understand why women, even
teenagers, look for company to walk with them in the streets, or look forward to living with a man by
their side when they grow up. This makes them feel safe: the most important requirement to develop
and fulfill their femininity. This doesn't mean that women depend on men to feel comfortable,
protected, or free (believing that would be a terrible mistake); but they do prefer to count on the
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When they find this security (observation: most women consider this thought a stereotype in the
beginning but they actually accept it some minutes later), the next step in a woman's world is to take
care of their immediate environment (including her man, if any). As women's brains works
inwards>outwards, not only do they have to be beautiful, taking care of themselves... their immediate
environment also needs to be beautiful. That is why women care so much about that "pretty little
ornament" or that other "crazy little thing" would look great beside the "remember that beautiful flower
pot we have got in the kitchen?" you bought the last time you two went out. This helps them to free
their intimacy, another major part of their femininity.

Should there be a last thing to mention about women and their worlds is that women need to
communicate often to feel connected. This means talking, looking, touching, going, returning... but
essentially talking. You may need to consider if you are a good listener these days. That can really help
you.

Just be careful not to make the same mistake every other man on earth makes. Ironic as it will sound,
women talk just to be heard, not for you to solve whatever problem she is discussing. I repeat. Women
do not want you to fix things; they want you to listen, be sympathetic and tell them about a time when
you felt the exact same way. When men listen to a problem, they immediately think on doing something
to solve it. Do not do that, just listen without offering advice or, if you feel you must do something, ask:
"Is this one of those times when you want me to listen and not give you advice, or can I say something?"
If you do it this way, she will see you really understand her and she is going to appreciate it (and you) a
lot.

Women and men

To understand women and their relationship with men, you need to understand something. Women's
bodies are inwards>outwards, women's psychology is inwards>outwards, women's worlds are
inwards>outwards but, sexually speaking, women have to let someone in. If you can understand the
impact this irony has in them, then you are half way into understanding women.

Of course, this does not mean women are the saints or the victims here. Women unconsciously think
about this sexual reality with deep intimacy and act accordingly. That's it. They will not just let anyone
in, they will be very picky about men and sex as they feel it is their intimacy at stake in the process. This
is the base operation in the equation. Another component is that women have got a complete cocktail
of hormones in their bodies due to something doctors call menstrual cycle. As a consequence of their
(bloody) periods, they are complicated to the point they won't even understand themselves
occasionally; even though, they are surer of what they want to feel fine.

What a girl wants

First and foremost, security. Security means three things for a woman: physical security, emotional
security (a. k. a. faithfulness) and temporal (and not temporary) security (a. k. a. stability). Among these,
the most important feature they want in a man is stability. Even if it is quite known that women usually
like more "Mr. Jerk" than "Mr. Nice" because he finds him manlier, at the end, single women usually
marry a "Mr. Nice" because she finds him more stable. And because...

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They are more chivalrous, intimate, and tender. One of the best ways in which a single woman can
ensure herself that the man who is giving her security now will not become her main aggressor later
(Believe it or not, their brains are really this weird) is to see how men behave in their daily life. Even
when women can easily live and survive without us (they can open the doors and also carry heavy things
without our help), a chivalrous offering will decidedly work in the man's favor... Just don't exaggerate
your chivalrousness because...

If you exaggerate it you will be dropped. Women like to trust in the fact their men will be able to provide
her some security from outer aggressions as well. That is to say, if he looks weak to her, he will probably
look weak for other men and, therefore, it is more convenient for her to look somewhere else. Women
will find attractive those men who behave manfully before the world but tenderly with them, even if
he's not the most stunning man in the world. His manliness will show her how protective he can be; his
tenderness, how supporting he can be if she needs him. A woman's brain is like that.

Can you conquer a woman based in this? Yes, but not so fast, dude... She's still got something to show
you... Before the final 'I do', women usually test men. They want to see if he is really manful, so, first and
above all, she will try to DOMINATE him. Yes! As you just read it! It is on purpose! Here is where many
men make the BIG MISTAKE of trying to please her all the time, giving her all what she asks for. Mistake?
Yes. She's actually expecting that you will not allow her to dominate you. Learn how to handle that
situation without being neither rude nor treating her unchivalrously, and as a last tip, do not think you
are living all the time under this test. There is no need to be defensive either.

Other tests women do? One of the women I interviewed confessed me she carried out three tests on
her man before actually getting married with him: She made him drink until he could drink no more, to
see if he got aggressive with her when he was intoxicated. She also spent a whole afternoon teasing,
pestering, annoying, bothering, and humiliating him as she wanted to find out if he was capable of
hitting or insulting her when he was really angry or whether he was resentful. The third one was going
to a dangerous neighborhood, to see if he was afraid of being held-up or assaulted, or to see if he would
abandon her in a dangerous situation.

Why? Because when a woman ultimately becomes a mother (something almost women want to become
sooner or later), she knows she will be in a very vulnerable situation. Some women will be always ready
to sacrifice her job, career, friends and other things just to be able to look after her children; she wants
to make sure her man will not leave her on her own when she most needs to be supported.

Instinct? Maybe, but it is the way they are... Help her feel safe in all these ways and she will be yours as
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The Woman of Your Dreams

It's true that women can sometimes be impossible to understand in relationships. However, it only takes
some patience, time and a little determination to decipher even the most confusing female behavior.
We all dream of the perfect woman, some people love blonds, smarts, humor and a small dose of
spontaneity, others love brunets, intelligent, well spoken, articulate and more business oriented.

If you want to attract the woman of your dreams, you need to become the man who might attract that
women, what do I mean?

If you decided you want to attract a wealthy women, intelligent, well spoken, and royal-like you might
not choose to look for her in a sleazy bar in the east village (I refer to New York in this book since I am
from the big city, but this is relevant to all states and natiions); in this case, you might want to hang
around at golf clubs, social events, charity events, etc.

If you decided that you wish to attract a model, career oriented, spontaneous and a bit wild, you may
want to look for her in a more suitable location, you need to behave differently, think and act like she
would.

These 5 easy steps will help you get started:

Step 1: Do some research. Spend some time with your female friends, sisters, aunts, grandmothers,
female cousins and pick their brains. Don't be afraid to ask some pressing questions. You'll be surprised
at how much you can learn about female behavior, habits, interests and desires just by spending time
with your female friends and relatives. An observant male will learn everything he's ever wanted to
know about the female species. This exercise will also help to eliminate some of the confusion that men
feel when faced with the sometimes unpredictable nature of women. As you go through all the
following steps, you will soon begin to realize that women only appear confusing and unpredictable
because they are actually insecure.

Step 2: Get out of your comfort zone. As a red-blooded male, you are most likely as emotionally
reserved as they come. You would never let someone see you cry, right? Well, if you want to understand
women in relationships, get ready to wear your heart on your sleeve. Most women are very emotional
and they expect their men to be more in touch with their emotions as well. Thus, you have to learn to
open up and not keep all your feelings bottled up inside as usual. Express yourself emotionally by letting
down your guard and confiding in her about any life-changing events or experiences, such as the death
of a loved one. As you continue to share your innermost emotions with her, you will notice the bond
between you growing immensely. More importantly, you will realize that, for women, sharing emotions
and stories are an extremely important part of a relationship.

Step 3: Listen to what she has to say. This requires staying silent on your part. You have probably
conditioned yourself to look as though you're listening when, in fact, your mind is somewhere else
completely. It's time to stop such disrespectful behavior and get used to giving the woman in your life
your undivided attention. A key to understanding women in relationships is realizing that they love to
talk about and share their deepest feelings, fears and desires with their significant others. All you have
to do is listen. Most of the time you don't even have to give any advice because all she wants is to know
that you care. Just listening intently is enough, and will be warmly appreciated.

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Step 4: Talk to her. Next time the two of you have a disagreement or argument; do not give her the
silent treatment. No matter how difficult it may be for you, you must let go of your pride and approach
her for a genuine conversation. Ignoring her will only make you appear infantile and immature.
Moreover, when she asks you if something's wrong, don't give a shrug and say "nothing." The most
important factor in any relationship is communication. So, make an effort to become an honest and
sensitive communicator. Women prioritize relationships, and they must feel confident that the
relationship is a priority in your life as well. If you refuse to open up, you will only make the woman in
your life feel more insecure and uncertain about the relationship, and this will only make her behavior
seem that much more confusing.

Step 5: Walk a mile in her shoes. It's not easy being a woman in a man's world. Women don't have the
same opportunities and privileges as a man. You will gain a much broader understanding of women in
relationships if you simply take the time and effort to acknowledge the struggles and disappointments
that women face. Basically, try to look at the world from a female viewpoint, but be aware that the view
may be quite overwhelming. As you become familiar with some of the hardships that women face (such
as being a single mom, earning less than a man, being stereotyped and underappreciated), you will gain
a much deeper understanding of a woman's mind and heart. Bottom line? Keep an open mind, be
sensitive to a woman's experiences, make her feel loved and special, confide in her to let her know you
trust her and listen to her. You will never be confused again

In Conclusions

Every woman is different, so there are not exact rules to understand them.
Women prefer a sort of "tender jerk" for man: someone romantic, chivalrous, sweet, affectionate,
comforting... but at the same time, someone who shows himself masculine, strong, powerful and
aggressive, especially before the rest of the world.
Some women will test you, some will not, so get ready for tests and not to give in your position of man
before any woman.
Show yourself manly and they will like you easier.
As society evolves, women become more independent, but intimately they have not changed much.
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Wants & Needs

I am now going to reveal to you what women want, have always wanted and will always be looking for
in any man with whom they become intimate. It is a "Trump" attribute, which means that its presence is
a more powerful influence than others and can tip the scales of emotional acceptance in your favor
immediately.

Be advised that I will be dealing with a monumental but accurate generalization which is not meant to
apply to every female who ever lived. I bow to the variability within and between the sexes.
Nonetheless, you will see that my assertion has the undeniable thud of the obvious.

If you feel the cold chill of disbelief or the fever of indignation rising in you at these words, please
consult with Woody Allen, a cunning expert at attracting beautiful talented women on the sheer force of
this "Trump" attribute which draws women like... migrating butterflies.

What women want from men is confidence. The Trump is Personal Confidence.

Confidence... not arrogance, not dominance, not one-upsmanship, not useless bravado, not macho
heroics. Women just love truly confident men.

Now as you know, confidence is an attitude thing. In particular, male confidence frequently manifests as
an "I-can-handle-it attitude". This does not mean that feelings are denied. It doesnt imply an absence of
doubt, fear, or vulnerability. A delusion of total self sufficiency is not required.

Confidence simply says: "Sure I can". The attitude of confidence doesnt even have to be constant, just
generally present in the face of most life challenges.

For hundreds of thousands of years of human development, a confident attitude was much easier for
men to gain and display than it is now because it was required for survival. There was hardly any choice.
Until recently, the demands of physical survival were the primary issue in pair-bonding and confidence-
building roles for both sexes directly related to survival was far more apparent. I am not talking about
survival in extraordinary circumstances, either. It could be as basic as steadfastness in getting the crops
in out of the rain.

In the smaller communities in which we used to live, everyone could see the skilled hunter, the
dedicated farmer and stockman, the courageous protector, the skilled artisan, the accomplished leader,
the sage teacher, the men who didnt give up in the face of threatening set-backs.

Why hell! There have been times and cultures where a women wouldnt even consider a man who
couldnt claim to be a good carpenter or a competent dirt mover. These roles, decreed by harsher
realities of life than most of us now experience, were obvious advertisements for male virtue, i.e., "I can
handle it".

Unfortunately, the signs indicative of genuine masculine confidence are confusing today and gender
roles are a chaotic mess. The external demonstrations of natural confidence have become confused with
the poor substitute of consumer status symbols. But... women instinctually look for clues to a mans
level of confidence... and test it to the limit... but not in the old-fashioned way.

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Now for the good news! Since confidence is primarily an attitude toward meeting life challenges of all
kinds - and theres no shortage of challenges in the world - the essential attitude can still be cultivated
and demonstrated. But it cannot be faked with money, looks, or possessions.

Willingness to face important struggles is still the ultimate key to a womans respect. In contemporary
times, a man may express this dynamic in many conventional ways. He can show his confidence integrity
through competence in his work, education, sports, hobbies, child rearing, or doing home
improvements. Actually, we can include here anything which involves mastering a new learning curve
and overcoming ego uncertainties.

Now, if a man really wants to do some crash confidence building these days, he can try still the old-
fashioned approach - and many do so.

He can expose himself to more risks and bigger risks: jump out of a few airplanes, compete at martial
arts, ski board off of snowy mountains, lift weights, climb sheer cliffs with only the strength of his
fingertips for security, take on dangerous political controversies, start an unusual new business with
more enthusiasm than capital, confront and influence provocative teenagers, or spend days in the
wilderness with only his tom-tom for company.

But we all know perfectly well that these are methods not character outcomes. It is not the specific
activity that matters, what matters is what goes on in the mans head that makes him feel some sense of
Mastery.

Or... a man can cut to the bottom line, avoid physically and financially dangerous experiences, and go for
The Really Big Risk... the ultimate emotional challenge. He can work directly at becoming more confident
with women themselves. Thats riskier than cliff climbing, anyway!

Although a woman likes to believe a man is willing to deal with a lot of things, what really counts is that
he is able to deal with her. A healthy, mature woman resists impassioned commitment to a man who is
afraid of her sexuality, her intelligence, or her emotions.

This means gaining confidence and empathy (unavoidably stuck together) in approaching and relating to
women on many levels, in the face of rejections real or imagined. And since this is the riskiest venture of
all, the pay-off is, appropriately, the biggest: the devotion of a loving woman who can make your life
extremely pleasant on a daily basis. Confidence with women in general - beautiful, plain, smart, nice,
mean, old, young - every kind of woman - is an unavoidable social skill which can and must be learned if
what you want is the greatest intimate relationship of your life

Just as men have many traits in common (we like nice tits, asses, cute faces and big cars or at least,
most of us do), its the same with women. Even if they seem so different at times, they have many
similarities in the way they think and especially in what theyre looking for in a man. I would like to give
you an exercise. I know, I know You hate those, but I promise youll enjoy this one.

Call up one of your friend girls, a girl youre not dating and would consider to be a friend. You might
have wanted to lay her before, or vice versa, but it doesnt matter now. Following is a list. Read it to her
as if youre describing her character. I guarantee that shell be surprised. If you did this to a random girl
you didnt even know, she would be like, Wow, how do you know all this about me? Are you psychic or
something?

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THE LIST:

1. Sometimes youre very emotional. At times like these, you dont follow your common sense; its your
feelings that guide you. Like when youre with a guy, you dont think with your mind; you dont think
rationally. Instead, you listen to your emotions and what your heart says about him.

2. On the other hand, you have a wild side as well. Sometimes youre into adventures, challenges, doing
wild things. You can even surprise yourself by doing something you never would have thought of.

3. In your relationships, you usually stay passive and expect the man to lead. You want a real man who
can do it. On a first date or in a longer relationship, you dont like to decide where to go. You like it when
the man chooses the theater, the film and arranges everything even when he tells you where to sit.

4. You like surprises. Most of your relationships become boring as time goes by. You get used to the
same routines, places and boring sex. You want variety and changes. You want your man to surprise you
sometimes and keep you on your toes, to feel the excitement of something new and unknown
happening. You want a man who is creative enough to surprise you.

5. Little details are important to you. You always take a look at a mans hands or shoes to see if theyre
clean. Sometimes romantic moments, like holding your boyfriends hand, hugging and kissing, or just
receiving a little, thoughtful something, are much more important than big, expensive gifts. Getting a
postcard or a phone call and knowing that your boyfriend, or someone you care for, is thinking about
you can make you really happy. Such small details can mean more to you than a big bank account or an
expensive car.

6. You are oftentimes mildly critical of yourself. You stand in front of the mirror, looking here and there
and noticing if something isnt right. Youre looking for minor flaws or imperfections on your body. You
hate to admit it, but sometimes you might even enjoy this. At times like this, you need a little validation.
A compliment about your looks or an inquiring glance from a man can increase your self-esteem.

7. You also have very difficult, self-critical periods. When this happens, its not easy to tolerate you, and
sometimes you wish that everybody would go away and leave you alone. You might be rude to people
and guys even when you dont intend to be.

(Note: Women have periods. While periods dont directly control men, womens menstruation cycles play an important role
in their lives. They sometimes get out of bed on the wrong side and are influenced too much by their emotions. A woman is
more likely to brush you off on a bad day or when shes having her period.)

8. Deep inside, you still believe in love at first sight. But it never really happened to you. You have a
picture of the ideal man in your head, your Prince Charming, who will sweep you off your feet, put you
on his white horse and rescue you from the castle. In each of your new relationships, you fantasize
about it being perfect, but it never is. Your boyfriends might measure up to 6070 percent of your ideal
guy, but something is always missing.

9. When dating a new guy, it usually takes four to five dates before you say youre going out with him.
You want the man to initiate the first kiss, and you usually test a man. You set up hoops and expect him
to jump through them. Sometimes you test men too much.


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10. About sex: You like it when it just happens. You dont like to plan anything in advance whether its
the first time or the 100th. You like to be swept away by the moment. In bed, you stay passive, but take
control when your wild side comes out. You like to experiment and try out new things.

So, what was the response? Was she stunned? How did you know all that about her? Dont tell her you
read about it in a book, OK? Remember what the list says? Excitement and surprises. Keep her on her
toes. Shell be speculating about where you got this info. Joke with her. Tell her you have a sixth sense
or whatever. Just dont tell the truth. If you want to strengthen the effect, you can even memorize the
list. Its not that hard. You might try acting like a prophet and read the list items in her cards, her palm
or something else.

The list is a general description of an average girl who is in her early 20s and likes going out to clubs.
Although its an amusing tool, it will help you get to know women better. Read that list many times, and
notice the keywords: a real man, staying passive, expecting him to lead, emotions, excitement, variety,
little details, being critical about herself and others, periods, love at first sight, Prince Charming. Im
going to talk about these in detail. For men, keywords would be something like: hot girls, good sex, cute
faces, big tits and sexy butts,
Rational thinking, racing and competition, challenge, sports and cars. Compare the two, and youll begin
to realize why it seems so hard to understand women at times. Ready for more fun? Read on.





























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Understanding women

To most men, women seem like irrational creatures that make no sense at all. Its naturally true if you
view it from our perspective. But, if you try to think with a womans head for a while, it will be like
turning on the lights in a dark room. To achieve this, youll need to consider three factors: the impact
that society has on women, how their brains are wired and how evolution affects their instincts.

A hundred years ago, women who had sex or children before or outside marriage were labeled whores.
Some girls still grow up with no sex before marriage drilled into their heads by their parents. A guy
who lays a new woman every day is considered a player. But even today, after the sexual revolution, a
girl who does the same thing is called a slut. From early childhood, girls are told by their mothers and
fathers to be careful about dating and men.

I once read a story about a 15-year-old girl. She gave a blow job to a classmate, with whom she was in
love. After the breakup, the guy went around telling the whole school about the blow job, and everyone
ridiculed the girl. In the end, she had to change schools.

Social restrictions remain with women throughout their lives due to the influence of friends, colleagues
and GUYS. Yes, you read it right: guys. We are also influenced by the world and social expectations
were used to women withholding sex. We EXPECT them to do so. If a girl gives herself to you on the first
date, you wont be able to escape the thought that she has done this many times already. After all, if
shes not afraid of being despised for such an act, she must be a slut, right?

Even when shes on her own, social influences are wired so deeply into a girls brain that she might not
be able to have sex with a guy she wants, but hardly knows. A girl I know was brought up in a strict
Christian manner. At the age of 19, she tried to have sex with a guy she loved. She ended up crying and
being unable to continue just before the act. She had to marry someone she didnt love, and then
divorce him in two years to get rid of the whole no sex before marriage dogma planted deep in her
brain by her mother over the years. It took her
Another year and an understanding partner to be able to enjoy sex.

There is a term you need to know: chick logic. Its supposed to mean that women might act strange
from a mans rational viewpoint and seem totally illogical. Thats the definition; to understand it, we
have to consider the reasons described above. Chick logic is about looking for approval from you and her
friends. In other words, she needs to rationalize having sex. Heres an example of chick logic in action:

A woman will often go out to a club with her friends to have fun. She doesnt expect to find the One,
but she enjoys the attention and validation she gets from guys trying to pick her up. She will quickly get
drunk on all the free drinks she receives. And guess why her girlfriends are there? To protect her from
leaving with a guy. However, theyre not really protecting her from the guys, but rather from herself. If
she has sex with a guy, shell be labeled a slut by either her girlfriends or herself. Still, she secretly
wants to have sex! And
This is even more tricky: If she leaves with a guy and he fucks her, she can say that she lost control, or
it was all because of the alcohol or because her girlfriends didnt protect her well enough. This way
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And do you know why she needs the alcohol? She needs it to bypass her LOGICAL BRAIN. Theres great
tension inside her when shes about to have a one-night stand. Her body is getting aroused and telling
her to have sex, but her chick logic kicks in and says: What are you doing? You dont even know this
guy! Your friends will think youre a slut! He might even be a stalker! And what if you want something
more lasting? This guy is so
Cute. You dont want to seem like a slut to him!

Of course, when it happens, she wont be thinking so clearly. But she will feel a DEEP URGE in her guts to
stop. This results in her saying, No, were not having sex! while rubbing her pussy against your cock
and moaning. If you can arouse her enough, her sexual instincts will bypass her logical brain, and the
gates will open wide.

There is also a common misconception that women dont enjoy sex. They do. Put this into your head in
capital letters: WOMEN ENJOY SEX JUST AS MUCH AS MEN DO. Have you ever heard a woman
screaming during an orgasm? Believe me; they enjoy it a hundred times more than we do. Its just that
to get rid of her chick logic and other factors Im going to mention, she needs time. Dont you watch Sex
and the City? You should, because you can learn a lot from that series. Or just buy a Cosmopolitan
magazine, and read all the tips on
Making womens sex lives better and their orgasms stronger.

Apart from chick logic, theres another big difference imposed on men and women by society:

the way we are brought up. From their early years, girls long to be Cinderella saved by Prince Charming.
They dream of romance every day. Disney films have added to the fantasy. Guys, on the other hand,
play with Matchbox cars and dream of becoming football stars or astronauts. We are fascinated by
sports, competition and challenge. What do boys talk about? Whose Matchbox is bigger and better,
whos better at sports, whose favorite football star is cooler, etc. Later, this becomes whose car is faster
and bigger, whose girl is hotter and who earns more.

Such kinds of competition attract women less. They play with Barbie dolls and dress like little princesses
or brides. They talk about whose Barbie is cuter and role-play with their dolls. During their teens, they
fantasize about their favorite pop stars or dream of falling in love. Later, this turns into competition in
the form of looks, bickering about their relationships and each other, and chatting about the latest
trends in fashion. Instead of challenges, they are moved by relationships, fashion, romance and drama.
At least, most of them are. While
you would rather watch sports or read a magazine about cars, your girl watches soaps and reads
romance novels instead.

You will never be able to truly escape this conditioning. Most women will always want to hold your hand
and watch the moon rise with the stars even if youd rather be having sex or watching your favorite
sports. So take this into account, and dont blame them for it.

Compare the way women are built to our body structure. They are generally shorter, thinner and
weaker, in other words, more fragile. Their most important genitals are inside their bodies: the vagina,
the womb, etc. We could say that while men are donors (givers), women are acceptors (receivers).
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Just as nature has its cycles in the form of changing seasons, girls have theirs with their monthly periods.
Because of this and all of the above, they tend to focus more on the inside and listen to their emotions.
Women live somewhat in harmony with their emotions much more so than we do. Girls will often
make decisions based on their feelings and not on rational thinking. Thats why they seem so illogical at
times.

Social expectations also appear in the form of looks. Women are required to look like supermodels
thats what is planted into their minds by the media. Because of being more sensitive emotionally, they
need constant validation from parents, friends and boyfriends. If she looks into a mirror, she will
instantly think, Hasnt my butt gotten bigger? Dont I look fat in these pants? Is my cleavage tight
enough? Its no wonder women have more plastic surgery than men.

Its easy for a girl to get carried away on the ocean of her emotions. You forget to bring her a flower on
your anniversary, and she bursts into tears, thinking, He doesnt love me anymore. Is it another
woman? Have I gotten fat? Do I look bad? and so forth. Its like jumping on a roller coaster and we
dont know where its going to stop. Women can easily make a big deal out of the smallest things and
tend to attribute other problems they may have to their looks. You raise your voice, and she cries all
day, thinking you dont love her.

Furthermore, girls can be very indecisive at times. Which clothes to wear, where to go, which film to
see, whether to leave her previous boyfriend or not she can get lost among the emotional waves
quickly. As a result, she expects the Man (who is stronger and more resolute and confident) to free her
from this responsibility, to make the decisions himself and to lead her. You will read much more about
this in the next chapter.

Lets talk more about sex. Sex for women is a much bigger decision than it is for men. They are giving
themselves to you, not just physically, but emotionally as well. To enjoy sex, a girl needs to open up
emotionally and has to be there mentally as well. Certain thoughts will always surface in a womans
mind, and in order to be able to relax and enjoy sex, she has to bypass them. This is social conditioning:
the possibility of pregnancy, youre not loving her, your leaving her after intercourse or your possibly
being a stalker.

Most girls need to feel totally safe and comfortable in your company before they can free themselves
from such worries. But, once they do, they can experience bigger orgasms than most men. Although this
may make your life a bit harder, realize that it also means you can overcome social restrictions more
quickly. If a woman feels you truly match and she is comfortable in your company, she will never
withhold sex.

Although each and every woman is different, they have many traits in common, and their needs change
as they grow older. Young girls are less experienced, and they are usually looking for an older man. In
their early 20s, many women are moved by overwhelming emotions, excitement, adventure and the
feeling of danger. Its no wonder Indiana Jones type adventurers or bad boys, skaters and those living
dangerous lifestyles attract more chicks. Just as young people of both sexes do, they are seeking their
identity and happiness. Part of this involves getting short-term satisfaction from alcohol, drugs,
cigarettes and the adrenaline that a dangerous guy can inject into their lives.

As they grow older, their biological clocks start ticking, and they realize that if they want children, they
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they can create a family. Some girls get married in their mid- or late 20s, then quickly get bored with
marriage and the lack of exciting sex. Women develop their sexuality over time, and their sex drive
increases. Many of them are willing to cheat on their husbands if a powerful guy appears.

These are rough generalizations. Different kinds of girls respond to different kinds of male
characteristics and personality types. You dont have to become a bad boy or live a dangerous lifestyle
to attract women. First, there are common Manly traits to which most girls respond. Second, you will
decide the types of women that suit your personality the best and act in ways to attract them. If youre
an artist, you wont have success with artistic girls by changing your personality and becoming a bad
boy. But, by developing Manly traits
in yourself and getting experience, you will be able to attract the kinds of women you want. I
am going to talk more about this later in the book.

Im sure youve watched the Discovery Channel once or twice. In the animal kingdom, there is an
interesting concept. In a herd of elephants, for example, there are many females, but only one male,
who sexes all of them. This is the alpha male. If another male wants to have sex with the alpha males
females, he has to challenge him, which results in a fight. Either the challenging male wins and takes the
harem, or the alpha male remains in his position. Females are designed to give birth to one or a few
offspring at a time. A male can spread his semen among the females in his herd and have many progeny.
This process guarantees that the offspring inherit the most powerful genes and that there is a strong
alpha male to protect them.

How does this look when projected to us? During the Stone Age, women wanted a man who was
powerful enough to hunt down prey and protect the immediate family and the clan from danger. Since
then, values have changed. Women are looking for somebody to bring home money, take care of the
kids and provide for the whole family. Safety comes in the form of cash. Still, many girls are turned on by
strong men. Why is this?

Its because of basic instincts wired into us by evolution. Even though society changes, our instincts stay
with us. Basic social values, like attraction to money, come in the form of thoughts. A girl thinks, Im
getting older; I need a man to settle down with. She is even willing to make a compromise and marry a
less attractive male just to fulfill societal expectations. On the other hand, instincts come in the form of
emotions. When she is with a strong male and he puts his powerful arms around her, she feels a sudden
safety. She is not going to try to explain it to herself; its just good to be with him.

Can you imagine a girl whos about to get married going out with her girlfriends and ending up in bed
with a stranger, who fucks her without a condom? I dont want to disillusion you, but this has happened
many times. Ive seen players pull it off. And whats more, you cant even blame the poor girl for it. Its
in her guts. She is about to get married to a guy who will provide for her. Then a powerful Man comes
and triggers such deep emotions in her that she cant hold herself back. Her instincts take over her body.
She loses control. Its something she hasnt experienced in quite a while or maybe ever.

What can we learn from this? A girl meets two kinds of guys in her life: the providers and the real Men.
She will marry a provider and have sex with the real Man. The real Man creates such powerful emotions
in her with his presence that she is ready to overcome social restrictions with him. And thats what she is
secretly longing for: her Prince Charming appearing in the form of a Man. She waits for that moment to
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Regarding this, I have to tell you that WOMEN TEST MEN occasionally. They will consciously create
certain situations to see how you react. A woman will always test how far she can go with you and push
to the limit. These tests are used to sort out the males who are not powerful enough and to find a real
Man. If you fall for it, you lose your chance.

But, if you act like a real Man, she will be instantly attracted to you and wont care so much about your
looks as long as you are neat and well groomed.

There are many tests that women use mostly to see if you act consistently within your frame of a Man.
For instance, you approach a girl in a club, and she turns her back to you. If you gently but confidently
turn her toward you, she will see that youre not another average Joe and talk to you. Some women test
a lot; some dont test at all. It mostly depends on her personality, her experience and the number of
men she has dealt with. The key to passing these tests is to do what you want, and dont say what you
think she wants to hear. Show her that you have your own opinions, you have your own desires, and you
are not afraid to act on them. With experience, you will learn to recognize these tests and pass them by
reacting consistently.

In Conclusion

Women speak a different language. Their language is emotions and not just words. When talking to a
woman, use this knowledge to have a bigger effect. If you dont understand her at times, attribute it to
her swirling emotions, or just ask her, How do you feel? A womans keyword is Feelings.

Women come with powerful instincts packed inside. To help them overcome social restrictions, try to
bring out their instincts by acting like a real Man.























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Part 2 - Understanding Men

I know, you probably think why do I need to understand men? I am a man?
That may be true, but that does not mean you understand men from a womans standpoint

Perhaps if women were to start thinking like men, it would make this whole man and woman
relationship a whole lot easier. Women have a tendency to lament about problems because they want
their problems to be acknowledged, while men complain about problems because they are asking for
solutions. These are just a few concepts from the book 'Men are from Mars and Women are from
Venus.' Obviously there are differences between women and men's viewpoints and how they react
under stress.

From an early age men are taught to be disconnected from their internal feelings. Women are also
socialized to expect men to be strong and in control. According to the Australian Institute of Family
Studies survey of 650 divorced men and women ' Towards Understanding the Reasons for Divorce, ' 20
per cent said infidelity was the main cause for their marriage breakdowns but it came third on the list of
reasons given for divorce, after communication problems and incompatibility. At the same time, men
very rarely find the comfort they are seeking through affairs.

Those who try counseling say that extramarital sex only compounds their feelings of guilt, isolation and
despair, which often lead to depression. Those starved of intimacy at home occasionally develop sex
addictions, in the same way that bulimics binge harder, with zero relief. The cheater, like the bulimic, is
desperately trying to fill an emotional void. Women are fortunate in that they are able to find satisfying
emotional connections through networks of friends as well as a deep, physical and emotional intimacy
through their children, predominantly newborns and toddlers. But in our man-as-pillar society, sex is the
only way men can achieve emotional closeness. Having more sex can become a desperate search to fill
that gap.

In a fidelity poll of over 770 women conducted by WomanSavers.com, over 60% of women believed that
emotional affairs lead to physical affairs. In a similar Woman Savers infidelity poll of over 1,000 women,
56% felt that online affairs constituted infidelity. Therefore, even if a man doesn't take off his pants,
most women seemed to feel that emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating.

I talked a lot about being a Man in the previous chapter. But what do I mean by this? This is the most
difficult part to understand. Once you really get it down, you will have no problems with women.

If you ask them, 999 out of 1,000 women will say that they are waiting for the Man. Still, the concept
itself is very vague. A girl will feel when she is with a Man, but that doesnt help you too much, does
it? In order to understand it from our viewpoint, we will look at genetics again.

Women are acceptors, while men are donors. An acceptor can choose whether to accept what the
donor gives or not. Hot girls are spoiled by the numerous unconditional offers they get and usually reject
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They love to remind us that its they who choose. But this is not ALWAYS the case. A hot woman will
meet many average Joes every day. Of course, she could select any of them if she wanted. But what she
craves is a real Man. And heres the twist: That Man is not a real Man for her alone, but for all other
women as well. He has qualities to which all girls will respond. Its wired inside them. He is now the one
in the position of power. So, in the end, she will have to do the dirty work and seduce him. Women
dont spend hours in front of the mirror just to be sure that they look their best, but also to ensure that
when a real Man comes, he notices them.

And this is how an ideal seduction looks. The man CHOOSES first. He expresses his interest in the woman
through his attentions. If he is POWERFUL enough, the woman will like him. But she will also know that
he has CHOICES, so she will try to seduce the Man and tame him to stay with her. So what do I mean by
powerful? Looks, money, fame or influence? None of the above. These are just external qualities that
can trick a woman into feeling that you are powerful. True power comes from the inside. A real Man will
make her feel like a woman just by his presence. Even if he is naked and without his money, car and
clothes, his power radiates from within.

Back to evolution, the most important thing to show your woman is that she can feel safe with you. The
Man has to be POWERFUL enough to LEAD her. But, if you are in a restaurant and she is the one who
has to choose the table where you sit, then has to order the food while listening to you say, You are
soooo beautiful. I dont deserve such a beauty, what will she think? Is this man capable of protecting
her? Does she feel safe with him? No. So the No. 1 quality a Man has is the ability to lead. Here are the
other two as well:

1. A Man knows how to lead, and he is confident in his role.
2. A Man always has options, self-respect and is never needy.
3. A Man knows how to treat her.

Lets look at No. 1 again: A Man knows how to lead, and he is confident in his role. You know how hard it
is to be the captain of a ship? You are constantly forced to make decisions and take responsibilities. A
slight sign of uncertainty is enough for you to lose the faith of your whole crew and probably the ship as
well. How could 40 people follow their captain if he showed signs of hesitation and uncertainty? If you
were in the crew, would you risk your life for such a captain? Not likely. Would you do it for a confident
and resolute one who is
always certain, even if he makes mistakes at times? Yes.

Its almost the same with women. There are two people in a boat: you and she. You are the captain. She
expects you to lead. At the first sign of uncertainty, she will jump out of your boat and choose another
one. You will constantly have to be on your toes when making decisions. No one cares if its a good or
bad decision; its you who will take the responsibility in the end. Young guys cant take responsibilities.
To be a Man, you have to learn that first. Each and every decision you make will have a consequence.
You can postpone making it, but sooner or later, you will have to decide. And it might be too late by
then.

I havent talked enough about confidence yet. Hesitation is not a Manly trait. A Man knows what he
WANTS and ISNT AFRAID to TAKE IT. When you make decisions, BE SURE OF YOURSELF. Its a part of
LEADING and taking RESPONSIBILITIES. You choose the restaurant where you will go with your date. You
choose the table where you will sit. The food might be bad, and the people at the nearby table might be

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annoying, but who cares? If you are confident, my friend, you can get away with almost ANYTHING. Yes,
ANYTHING. Read that sentence again.

Psychologists did an interesting experiment: There was a photocopy machine in a school where many
students were always in line during breaks waiting their turn to make copies. A guy walked up to the
machine with a banana in his hand. He cut to the front of the line and said, I need to copy these papers
right now, so I can eat my banana before the end of the break. He did it casually and confidently, as if it
were a normal everyday thing to cut to the front of the queue. But what happened next? Nothing. He
stood in the front of the line, did what he wanted and then went to eat his banana. And no one
complained! There was no fight, no loud words. This incident is just one of the many that show you can
get away with ANY BULLSHIT as long as you are consistent with it and act confident enough in your role.

There is a difference between real and false confidence, however. A confident person is calm and cool,
like a sniper waiting for his turn in the bushes. When such a person walks into a room, everyone is
looking at him. And not because he walks so stiffly that they are laughing at him! That would be a falsely
confident person, someone who is either annoying or funny because of visibly overcompensating for his
insecurities. Typical signs are: trying to get attention by being loud, harassing somebody either verbally
or physically to prove something to onlookers or being stiffly formal and walking like a robot with a
serious expression instead of a smile.

But, if you dont have real confidence yet, how can you fake it and not appear to be faking it?
Isnt this a paradox? Not really. With experience, you will be able to LOOSEN UP in your ROLE and seem
very casual from the outside. A beginning stand-up comic is very nervous when he takes the stage for
the first time. He has butterflies in his stomach. An experienced comic will take the stage as if nothing
unusual is happening. No one notices that what he has is a kind of fake confidence. He still has
butterflies in his stomach, but he has learned to deal with it and hide those feelings.

And that, my friend, comes with EXPERIENCE. If you have never kissed a woman, dont expect to be
confidently kissing 10 women a day tomorrow. This book is not a magic bullet. You will have to practice.
You will have to experiment. You will have to put in the time yourself. I cant do that for you. But, when
you do, youll get the EXPERIENCE.

So back to our list, the second point is: A Man always has options, self-respect and is never needy. Yes.
What do I mean by having OPTIONS? Initially, the woman is in the position of power. She is the one who
chooses. And she knows this very well. When you approach her, she can reject you. When its time to
kiss her, she can say no. When you want to have sex, she can refuse it. Thats all true. But how do we
make sure that she doesnt have a choice? Ha! By being a Man. She will see that you are one of the few
select instantly and know this is her one and only chance to meet somebody like you. She knows you
can move on and get another woman whenever you want.

By the way, I tricked you. A Man who is capable of leading well wont leave her any time to think. He will
appear out of the blue and talk to her. He will kiss her when the right moment comes without asking
anything. She wont have a choice. At least she will feel as if she doesnt have a choice. And thats what
she has wanted all along. To be swept away by the moment, with no other choice or time to think about
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Lets talk a bit about SELF-RESPECT. People who think they are worth nothing or want to be treated like
shit WILL BE treated like shit. How do you expect anyone to respect you if you dont even respect
yourself? Be able to stand up for yourself whether youre dealing with women or men. How you see
yourself and what you think of yourself influence your behavior, and people will respond to you
accordingly. Being depressed and having negative thoughts will get you nowhere. Your thoughts form
your personality. Those who have negative thoughts and see everything as gray will attract such things
into their lives. People who learn to control their thoughts and strengthen themselves with positive
affirmations become successful.

I dont deserve this. Im such a loser. Im worth nothing. My life is a waste. Nothing works for me. Ill
never get any girls. Eliminate those destructive thoughts for good. Im a real Man. I know what I want,
and I know how to get it. I have goals in my life, and I am motivated to reach them. Im successful with
women and successful in everything else. I enjoy my smallest achievements and stay proudly on my path
whatever life brings. Im open to new experiences and ideas, learning from my faults and able to change
myself in a good direction. Thats what you should say to yourself every day.

As I mentioned, another tool in your arsenal is not being NEEDY. You dont need her. But why dont you
need her when shes so beautiful? And youve never had such a beautiful creature even talk to you
Stop now before your legs start shaking, will you?

Have your SELF-RESPECT, and dont cling to her like a baby. Never put her above you. There are so many
guys putting her up there that its not a challenge to her anymore. We will talk more about this in the
next chapter.

In ancient times, the most successful cavemen, the Men, always had OPTIONS. They could choose
literally any of the women they wanted. Did they put those women on a pedestal? No. They treated
them like normal people people who had desirable physical characteristics and might be capable of
giving birth to their powerful children. Think a bit. If you were Brad Pitt and you could have all the
women you wanted, would you put any of them above you? No way! And dont laugh: When a real Man
comes into her life, it will be like Brad
Pitt appearing.

Be careful though. Girls know whats up. Somebody with options will never show off or brag about it. He
wont say, Oh, I have three girls, Vanessa, Mary and Janice. Its so hard to choose between them. Its
not easy being a player these days. He will act like a Man instead, somebody who is willing to go his
own way without trying to meet anyones expectations. You dont need to have eight girlfriends to have
the attitude Im talking about. Even if you had to move to another planet without knowing anyone, your
Manliness should radiate from
your personality, confidence and behavior.

A hot girl always has many men on the go. There are at least 10 numbers she can call to have an army of
guys flocking to her door immediately, just like hot guys who keep many girlfriends at the same time.
Usually the girls even know about each other, but the guy is so cool that they dont care. Of course, you
dont have to keep a harem if its not to your taste. Initially, one girl will be more than enough to handle.
But you should still keep a few phone numbers in your pocket. Dont stop seeing other women because
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Even if youve kissed her or had sex with her, that doesnt mean youre already in a relationship and she
is deeply in love with you. If you feel like it, call up some of those numbers, go out and have some fun.
See? Its again about having OPTIONS.

The third thing on our list is: A Man knows how to treat her. A Man is a gentleman. He will be attentive,
opening doors and pulling out chairs for her, and know how to care for her. Of course, he does all this in
a confident way. Girls mostly encounter two types of guys: One of them is the average chump, whom
she is bored to death with, who will put her on a pedestal, fulfill each and every one of her wishes and
so on. The other is the typical jerk who acts Manly at times, but doesnt know how to treat her. Usually
she will stay with the jerk instead of the average fool, but wont be satisfied with either of them deep
inside.

But a real Man knows HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN. And thats not just about confidence.
Never forget that women are not objects or devices of experimentation. They are wonderful human
beings and everyday people, just like you. So treat them equally. They have bad days and good days.
They pee and shit. And they especially like thoughtful words and little surprises.

Sometimes being thoughtful or giving a little present will mean much more to a woman than a huge
bank account.

Hot girls are self-validation junkies. They crave attention and appreciation. If you give her too much, like
an average Joe would, she will get bored and leave you quickly. If you give her too little, she will end up
seeking it from other guys. The best strategy is to REWARD her with validation. Its a powerful tool. This
will be a crude comparison, but think dog training. When the dog does something bad, he is scolded.
But, when he does something to the liking of his owner, he is rewarded with a treat. Its the same with
women. Reward her when she does something that you like. You dont have to buy presents. Kind words
like, I was thinking about you, remembered your beautiful smile, and it made me happy! are usually
more than enough.

On the contrary, never give in to wacky wishes of girls. Its easy to go from one extreme to the other. If
she wants to go shopping while youre watching your favorite sports program, tell her to wait or go
alone. Then another time when she doesnt expect it, say that you decided to skip watching your
favorite sports today and you want to take her out instead. The key is in the attitude. In the first case,
shes being insistent. In the second, you are rewarding her for being a good girl. You are the Man, and
its your decision. You are CONSISTENT within your MANLY FRAME, while being KIND and CARING at the
same time.

By the way, why dont you get bored while playing sports? Because of competition and CHALLENGE. Its
the same with girls. Keep them on their toes. Be a CHALLENGE. Women love that. Its part of being a
Man and having OPTIONS. Show her that you are in control. Refuse what she wants today; give it to her
tomorrow when shes not expecting it. Push her away; then pull her back. This creates tension and
excitement. Compliment her when you feel like it, but never overdo it. If you wake up every morning
and tell her how beautiful she is, it will get boring quickly. But, if you tell her randomly, when she
doesnt expect it, it will make her happy.

So compliment women, and give them kind words. Show your girl that you care for her and think about
her. Surprise her sometimes, but NEVER OVERDO ANY OF THESE. They are wonderful tools as long as
they keep their value. If a product goes into mass production, it loses its luxury worth in the market and

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becomes commercial. If there were an Eiffel Tower in every city, would it be a curiosity? No. So treat the
above tools the same way. Think twice before using them, but make sure you use them AT TIMES.

Last, here is another exercise. Some of the ideas described above might seem strange or unfounded. I
want you to discover their power on your own. Read this chapter again a few more times, and think
about it.

Keywords are confidence, leading, making her feel safe, taking responsibility, not being needy, having
self-respect, knowing how to be a gentleman and knowing how to treat women. When you feel that
you have these concepts down in your head, ask a girl you know how she would define a real Man. If
you can collect your thoughts and tell her about the topics behind the keywords I just mentioned, she
will be astonished.

Common Errors

Im sure youve had a date with a girl that didnt go the way you expected. It happens to everyone. Just
realize that its not a matter of some invisible cloud following you around. How women respond to you
depends on your personality and Manliness. There are common errors men tend to make when going
out with a woman. Small details count a lot in the big picture. A little bit of inconsistency within your
Manly frame, and you lose her. This is what Ill be talking about in this chapter.

The biggest mistake you can make is to treat a woman as if she is different by putting her on a pedestal
or looking down on her and treating her bad. Most guys, on seeing an attractive woman, are like, OMG,
she is soooo hot and beautiful. I dont really deserve such a girl Why? Why dont you deserve her?
Because she is hot? Is she above you in any way? No. Is she more than you? No. She is a human being,
just like you and me. Women expect you to be a bit above them. They like it when they can look up to a
man and not only because you are taller. Have qualities that she can admire in you, the most important
of which are your personality and ability to lead her in the right direction.

Flowers and presents. They are wonderful tools for keeping a relationship and showing a woman how
important she is to you but not for seducing her. Its a common misconception that you will lay her by
buying her flowers or gifts. A Man would reward her with that. But why should she be rewarded when
you dont even know her? When you go out with a girl, she is usually a complete stranger to you. Do you
buy flowers for strangers? No. Do you send gifts to strangers? No. Its OK to do so when youre in love
with her, and shes in love with you. But please, forget those tools for the first few weeks at least. Most
guys who try to date her will bring flowers or chocolate bonbons. She just laughs at such lame attempts.
Separate yourself from the crowd. Be different. A Man doesnt need to stand in line. He knows what he
wants, and he knows how to get it.

Complimenting. Its easy to go the wrong way with compliments. A compliment here and there is fine,
but avoid overdoing them. They get boring quickly. How you compliment her matters a lot: Oh, you
look soooo beautiful! This is lame. You are putting her on a pedestal. You praise her looks she has
heard this a thousand times already. Her looks are genetics. She cant influence that. Another bad one:
Nice ass! Macho-style compliment. This is again a stupid way to do it. Compliment your buddys girl
to your buddy like that, but not the girl youre seeing. If shes hot, she likes to be complimented because
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her she has a beautiful smile and that you like it when she smiles. Tell her she has nice earrings and that
you like her taste. Tell her that you like her perfume and that its one of your favorites.

Compliments should always be short, to the point and uncomplicated. Your eyes look like a hundred
shining stars in the moonlight. Leave this one for the poets. Just say: Your eyes are beautiful. I like
looking at them. The way you speak is very important. Be calm, relaxed and not overly excited when
complimenting her. Speak slowly, look into her eyes and smile. Charm her like a real Man. Deliver
compliments in a slow, soothing, seductive voice. Dont act like Romeo and overdo the seductive part,
because it will sound stupid. Be casually confident in your role.

Money. Money is a sign of power. If a guy earns a lot, he must be very successful in life. It also provides
safety in the form of financial stability. Then again, a real Man wont need much cash to seduce a girl.
She will feel safe with him, and there will be no need for the extra financial support. Never waste your
money on women or give useless presents. Its OK to invite her to the movies or pay on the first date.
But, if you do, expect her to pay on the second. If she doesnt offer, ask her to contribute. Dont force
her to pay the whole bill though; a Man is always a gentleman.

If you pay on the first date and she doesnt offer to pay at least her part on the second, thats a sign that
you might have found a gold-digger chick. Avoid those. Spend money on a woman when you want to
and not when she demands it. If she begs you to buy her some new clothes or something, firmly refuse.
But, if you are in a relationship, and you would like to see her in sexy lingerie, buy some as a present. Do
you see the difference between the two frames? The latter is your decision and not something she
ordered.

A note for rich guys: Its OK to spend money on a girl at your level. If you eat at the trendiest, most
expensive restaurant every day and you can afford it, dont take her to some cheap place. Take her into
your reality. If you drive a Ferrari, dont go on your date by bus. And dont boast about how cool you
are either. And finally, dont buy her off. If she becomes demanding and asks for too much in your
reality, refuse it.

The same holds true for guys who are not so wealthy. Spend money on the girl at your level.
If you cant afford to go to a trendy restaurant yourself, dont scrimp and save just to take a woman
there. Choose a cheap but romantic place instead where the food is good. Or go for no-cost dates like a
romantic walk in the park. Never try to hide your financial situation. If you have a cheap car, dont rent
an expensive one to take a woman on a date. She will find out about your financial situation sooner or
later. Dont forget: Women will love you because you are a Man and NOT BECAUSE OF YOUR MONEY.

Going physical. Not touching her or initiating kissing or sex is a big problem. It is the man who always has
to make the first move. The girl will give signs that she is ready; you have to read them and advance
accordingly. If you force going physical too early, she will freak out and run away. If you do it too late,
she will think that youre afraid. Its also necessary to build the foundation. She wont be comfortable
kissing you if youve never touched her before. Touch her occasionally on the arms, shoulders or hands
in a casual way. Its a normal, everyday thing to do. Theres no need to go to the other extreme and
become a touchy-feely guy though. And dont forget you always have to be the one initiating; she wont
do it for you. When you see that shes ready, go in for the kiss and so on.

Sense of humor. In most surveys of women about the ideal guy, humor comes up as one of the most
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laugh at each others jokes and, when the situation calls for something funny, tell her something funny.
Youre not expected to joke like a stand-up comic would; just be yourself. Everyone has a little sense of
humor, and thats more than enough. If shes attracted to you, she will laugh at even your lamest high
school jokes and think you are a funny guy. So dont hold back, and dont keep a straight face for the
whole time. Self-irony is also a good quality to have. Be able to laugh at yourself, not just at other
people. And finally, smile. You can never smile too much. Women love a Man who smiles a lot it
makes both you and your girl feel good.
Friends zone. Probably the thing you dread most in your interactions with women is hearing:
Lets just be friends, OK? You dont want them as friends. Im sure you have already heard that line
and have a few girl friends. You might have even used it on girls who didnt meet your standards. Well,
those words mean that you fucked something up. To put it bluntly, you were a pussy and not a Man.
Usually, you either get together with a woman or she brushes you off sooner or later. But, in this case,
you acted like a typical nice guy. You dont want that, right? So stop acting the way you did to get
there. Possible reasons follow.

Being a mamas boy. Girls sense it instantly and leave. If youre over 25 and still living
with your parents, maybe you should think about that just a bit. Looking to your mother for
decisions, running to her when something goes wrong, not being able to separate from
your parents or take responsibility, asking their advice on everything, having no goals of
your own, being unable to provide for yourself, lacking independence. Are these the
qualities of a Man? How could you provide for somebody else, when you cant even provide
for yourself? Look at yourself objectively and, if you recognize any of these traits in your
personality, change them for good.

Being macho instead of being a Man. Yep. Its a common misconception that women want
machos. No, they want a Man. A macho is loud, bold and aggressive instead of being
confident. Hes trying to hide his insecurities with such behavior. Never mix the two. A Man
is by no means aggressive. He is calm and cool. Machos are sometimes full of themselves. A
Man knows his limits and never boasts about himself. He knows that people around him will
look up to him, and he doesnt need to look for their approval. Even if machos get women, its
because of the jerk side of them.

You dont need that to get the hottest girls. Keep this in mind, and when you experiment with leading
and becoming a Man, avoid the macho trap. If you are shy, dont overcompensate by becoming arrogant
and aggressive. Advance slowly. Confidence and leading will come with practice.

Investing In Yourself

First impressions make a lasting impact on people, especially women. When women can spend a lot of
time and energy grooming themselves, just to seem attractive to the members of opposite sex, why not
men? Today, fashion and style interest men more than ever, as they realize that looking good is an asset
in every aspect of their lives, be it business, personal or social. A few simple things are all that need to
be kept in mind while grooming yourself. Take out some time to care for your face, nails and feet. All
those men who are willing to make the right impression should check out the following tips to know
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I hope I dont need to stress how important it is to be well groomed, neat and looking your best when
meeting girls. They spend hours in front of the mirror to look good; we can at least be hygienic. Shave
every day, wash your hair, use deodorant, wash your cock this is common knowledge. Cut the nails on
your hands and feet, and clean the dirt from under your nails. Use foot-antiperspirants if your feet smell
bad. Clean your shoes often, and always iron your clothes. Mind the color of your socks, and dont mix
them. Put on a clean shirt and underwear every day.

1. Indulge In Skin Care. Improve the look of your skin by using the right products, on a regular basis.
Protect your skin from ageing and sun damage by purchasing a moisturizer with sun protection. Get
some skin products with retinol that help minimize fine lines and prevent wrinkles to quite a degree.
Creams with vitamin E help in revitalizing your skin, thus should be kept handy.

2. Keep Acne At Bay. A lot of creams, soaps, cleansers, and medications have come up to treat acne
spots in men. However, rather than trying out any new product that comes in the market, it is better to
consult a dermatologist and get specialized treatment.

3. Get Rid Of Body Odor. Huge amounts of acrid body odor are just not acceptable and prove to be a big
turn off for women. Wash yourself and shower as often as possible. Use anti-perspirants and
deodorants to regulate odor and sweat.

4. Try New Hair Cut. Visit a good salon and learn about the latest fashion trends and products in the
market. Get a good haircut that brings out your best facial features. Also, get a shampoo that makes
your hair look good. If opting to change your hair color, get it professionally done. I suggest visiting the
best salon in your city. Dont spare money on your looks. Ask the stylist what hairstyle he/she thinks
would be the best for your face and character. Just by getting a stylish and cool haircut, you can change
your image a lot. If long hair goes well with your face, wear it that way (but keep it clean!). If shorter or
totally bald is better, go for that look. Dont be afraid to ask your hairstylist; hes there to help. If you
dont want to spend that much money, go to the best salon once, show your new haircut to your
favorite hairstylist and have him/her cut it that way afterwards.

5. Follow Trendy Hair Styles. Hair styles require products to keep them at their best. Products such as
waxes, gels, sprays, mousses and volumizers help in keeping the hairstyles stay put. In case you are
balding, keep your hair short, as it looks best that way.

6. Have Balanced Diet. Include fresh vegetables and fruits in your diet to keep you healthy and improve
your skin and hair. Take dietary food supplements and vitamins, if a proper and healthy diet is not
possible. Also, reduce your intake of fast foods.

7. Wear Smart Clothing. Wear clean, smart and trendy clothes. Keep your teeth clean and use a mouth
wash. Visit your dentist regularly. Keep your nails trimmed and clean and avoid biting them. Change
your socks and underwear on a daily basis; This is one of the most important things about your looks. Go
to the trendiest club in your city and take a look at how guys dress. If you think it might suit your image,
look at what models wear. Go to the nearest shopping center with one of your friend girls (or, if you
have to go alone, ask the shop clerk), and buy some stylish new clothes. Read fashion magazines or
mens magazines. Always dress fashionably. Find a style that suits your personality which is trendy at the
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8. Working out. Take up a sport. If youre fat, lose weight. I recommend diets that separate protein from
carbs (not to be confused with low-carb diets, which can be very unhealthy), but talk to your dietitian
before doing anything crazy. I also advocate becoming a vegetarian, because its good for your health
and helps you keep yourself in balance. But, before you do anything, always ask for advice from an
expert, or consult the proper books!; If you are slim, put on some muscle. Its a good idea to look buffed
up a little. You dont have to be another Schwarzenegger, but take good care of your body. If you dont
want to work out, take up martial arts or dancing. Both provide good instruction in how to be a Man.

9. Glasses. Unless you are a Brad Pitt or a Johnny Depp, Glasses usually wont look good on you.
Drop them, and wear contact lenses instead.
There are very few people who look good in glasses. If you have to wear them, try to find a
pair that suits the shape of your face. Sunglasses can make you look cool in the summer.
Just choose them wisely. You can ask a clerk at the shop to help you find a good pair.

10. Shaving. Shave your face, or trim your beard. If you have too much hair on your body,
trim it or depilate it to make yourself look smoother. It doesnt matter whether you keep
your pubic hair or shave it off, but if you keep it, make sure that its well trimmed and looks
neat. If you wear sleeveless T-shirts, shave your armpits.

11. Take care of yourself, both inside and out. Try some type of meditation or yoga to balance yourself
and become focused. Dont listen to the macho crap that tells you such things are for women only. If
you have a war going on inside, you wont look calm and confident on the outside. Be comfortable in
your own body, Meditation help you relax which gives you a better feeling, when you feel good, you will
most likely attract beautiful women, when you are all tight up and feel like crap, you will attract nothing
but trouble, thats the law of life!

Such small details are very important to women. When making your first impression, they will judge you
based on this. Even if you dont consider yourself good-looking, there are certain steps you can take to
LOOK YOUR BEST. You dont have to look as if you just stepped out of some fashion magazine, but a
Man knows how to dress and how to look fine. Just by doing that, he leaves a good impression on
people. If you look like a nerd, youre making your own life harder.

Your Body Language

My name is Bond. James Bond. Dont laugh: Even though theyre just fiction, you can learn a lot from
James Bond movies. He is a true Man. Lets play a little bit. Imagine that you got the role of James Bond
in an upcoming movie. How would you prepare yourself for it? You would probably watch most of the
James Bond films already out there and practice in front of a mirror to make your part fit the original
character perfectly.

Now I dont ask you to watch all the James Bond films. But I ask you to watch a few, and instead of
focusing on the spectacular action scenes, pay attention to the main character. Observe how he walks,
how he talks, the tone of his voice and how he interacts with women. What he says is not that
important, but how he says it you can learn a lot from that. He is always confident, calm and casual.
He knows how to lead, and he knows that women will always follow him, without doubt. So I suggest
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Here is a list describing confident, Manly body language. Use it to calibrate yours:

1. Arms. Folding your arms is a closed position. It means that you could be hiding something, youre not
comfortable, you dont want to talk, or you dont like what the other person is saying. A confident Man
is always comfortable and doesnt have to hide anything. He usually has his arms by his sides or partially
in his pockets.

2. Legs. Closing your legs, crossing them or keeping your feet together might show insecurity.
Stand with your feet wider apart. Of course, a 4.5-foot straddle would be ridiculous. Stand in a
comfortable, natural way.

3. Eyes. Most of the time, you should look the other person in the eyes. Dont stare at her awkwardly;
just catch a glance here and there and maintain eye contact when you can. Never stare at the ground
when talking to someone either. You are not a kid who got bad grades in school and is afraid to talk to
daddy. Look away to the side, but never down. Confidence should be radiating from your glance.

4. Posture. Stand erect, and dont bow your back. And, since I suspect no one pushed a post up your ass,
dont stand firmly in a stiff way. You can stand loose without arching your back, right? Right.

5. Smiling. Its always a good idea to smile. It disarms people. Its scientifically proven that smiling will
not only give good feelings to the smilee, but to the smiler as well. Yes, thats you. So dont be afraid to
do it. You shouldnt always have a big grin on your face, but when talking to women or approaching a
girl, make sure to smile a lot. It makes a good impression and even helps her loosen up while talking to
you. She wont be as afraid as she would be if you approached with a serious look on your face. So
remember what I say, and drop the macho thing, OK?

A confident person is usually in a relaxed and comfortable state. He avoids making fast moves. He
doesnt play with his fingers or shake his legs nervously. Every move you make and every muscle you
move should be the result of a conscious decision and not caused by anxiety. Walk slowly, but casually.
Dont walk like a robot, please. Be calm and relaxed. You are not in a hurry. You dont have to run. You
are not being chased. Move at your own pace. And dont be afraid to take up some space as you move.
Of course, you dont want to walk with your hands spread 6 feet apart, but show that you can fill the
space around you.

A selfish person will take all the space he can; a confident person takes as much as he needs, but doesnt
ask permission for it. Always be comfortable in your own skin. If you feel good in a certain position, it
will be visible to others as well. And remember, this is just for practicing. Dont be stupid, and dont
think that the more you exaggerate the above, the more Manly you will look.

One more thing I want to talk about is voice tone. Some guys might have problems with their voices. If
your voice is high like a girls, its not very Manly. A Man has a low, calm, soothing, seductive voice. It
should come from the chest/abdomen area and not from your throat. You can practice by yourself:
Repeat saying a compliment like, You have a beautiful smile. I like it. Keep doing it. Start normally;
then lower your voice a bit. Slow down a little. Practice till it sounds like James Bond saying: My name
is Bond. James Bond. If you have a microphone, its a good idea to record your attempts and listen to
them later. If you have the patience and the time, I suggest you experiment with your voice a few
minutes every day for a week or more. Then each day after a short practice, play it back to learn how
you still need to improve. On to the next step, Mr. Bond.

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Her Body Language

As men, we dont pay much attention to our body language on a day to day basis.
Big mistake, how would a woman decode your thoughts and know what it is you want from her, your
body language can be even more telling than spoken words. Men can be hard to read, so if you want to
hit on a woman before speaking to her, take a look at these examples:

Men are often confused because womens verbal and nonverbal messages seem to conflict, sending you
mixed signals. Here is the keyexperts predict that 7% of a womans attraction is shown through her
verbal communication; 38% from her tone and 50% from her body language. What does this mean?
Learning to read body language is the key to successful seduction!

So, what are the signs that she is interested?

1. If she points toward you or faces you, she is probably attracted to you. She may point with her
shoulder, her leg or her whole body. Beware if she seems to be pointing the opposite direction; it is time
to move on.

2. Watch her eyes. If her eyes are not straying around the room and seem to be focused intently on you,
she is most likely interested. Are her eyes dilated? This is kind an unfair indicator because she has no
control over it, but when a woman is attracted to you, her eyes will slightly dilate while interacting with
you.

3. Does she seem to be involved in your phone conversation? If she is attracted to you, nothing else is
going to occupy her attention while you are talking on the phone with a friend or another girl perhaps.

4. The more you see of her wrists, palms and the inside of her arms, the better. Look for signs of
nervousness. She may show this through fidgeting with an object or adjusting her hair or clothes. If she
is nervous, she probably likes you.

5. Smiles are great! If she smiles at you when your eyes collide you can assume that she is defiantly
interested.

6. Does she seem relaxed around you? A woman who is interested in you will face you directly, lean in
and relax her body. Folded arms, a stiff back and leaning away from you are signs that she wants out of
the situation.

7. The best and easiest predictor of her attraction is her physical contact with you. Does she frequently
touch your hand or keep it hidden in her pocket? Does she touch your arm or leg when she is making a
point? The more physical contact she has with you during your conversation, the better.

Warning! Beware of the shy or awkward flirter. The signs may be very confusing. She may be restless or quiet
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If you sense that a woman may be awkward or shy but interested, look for nervousness when you
approach her directly or look intently into her eyes. Watch her pupils to see if they change size. When
you are in the same room, frequently glance in her direction to see if she is watching you. If you catch
her stealing glimpses of you, go aheadshe is most likely interested.

Learning to read body language helps you weed those who are attracted to you from those who are
polite, but uninterested. Study her nonverbal cues; if they seem to indicate an attraction toward yougo
for it!

If she pushes her fingers through her hair, she is looking to get your attention. Clean and neat hair is as
important for a woman as acceptable height, wide shoulders and biceps for a man. The woman who
grooms her hair with high care expresses that she is full of energy and feels like doing certain family-
friendly activities. The way she touches her hair is also very important. It tells you information about her
temperament. If she does it slowly you have encountered a cunning expert of the art of love. Quick,
nervy movements disclose impatience or embarrassment.

If she touches the edge of the glass with her fingers, Freudian psychologists interpret it as a sexual
sign. This theory is supported by the women themselves, who claim that they deliberately pet the glass,
in order to call the chosen mans attention upon themselves. When you enter a bar and see a full-
bosomed blonde touching and caressing her martini glass so that itd scream, do not think that she is
expressing her musicality this way. Dont ask her whether she is playing the latest hit of Iglesias. This
question would not be appropriate. Instead of asking stupid questions, notice the way she is playing the
"musical instrument". Elegant, caressing movement is a sign of intrinsic calmness, self-control and
waiting, so sit by her. Her beating a rhythm on the glass with her nails is a sign of impatience ora broad
hint of SOS, which shes sending to her boyfriend, who is fighting for another Baileys at the bar.

Her hands and arms

If she leans on her hand with her chin and her eyes seem to be thinking, its not always the sign of her
being impressed by your appearance. Generally the woman tries to answer her own question this way:
"Does this guy deserve me" You know the answer, but the lady needs time. If you want to help her make
the only right decision, be politely determinate and determinately polite. Flash your sense of humor as
well.

If she sits back with her arms crossed together, this is the worst possible thing you can encounter when
out hunting. This gesture is evidence of the fact that youve made the worst impression of all on the
woman and she doesnt trust you at all. Nothing helps here, neither refined jokes, nor nice, muscular
body.

The way the woman herself thinks of her hands is also very important. If she stares at them for a very
long time, it may imply that something angers her (perhaps you?). if she beats the rhythm on the table
or the bar means a similar state of mind. You think shes a wild cat, but youre wrong. Shes thinking
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Her Lips

If a woman wets her lips quite frequently, its either out of habit or desire to get you to pay attention to
her lips and sooner or later kiss her.

When a woman is biting her lips, you may assume that shes nervous. Why? Perhaps you are staring at
her too quizzingly.

Attempting to look attractive, if you observe carefully, its really not hard to notice when a woman is
making an effort to appear attractive, she squeezes her lips, lean her head to the side, and her hands are
stroking her hair while she is either looking towards you, or above you (in your direction).

Taking Care Of Yourself

This is the most important of all. I have met many guys on Internet forums who are trying to learn how
to pick up women. They spend their time memorizing techniques, stories and routines to become better
at picking up the hotter girls. Ultimately, most of them end up burned out and still without a life. Look, if
you want to have success with women, you have to get your own life under control first. If you are a
nerd and dont have hobbies apart from sitting in front of the computer and watching porn, get a life
as crude as it sounds.

A Man is PASSIONATE. He has goals and dreams for his life, and he is DETERMINED to GET WHAT HE
WANTS. A woman loves listening to a man who talks passionately about his hobbies, job or whatever.
She wants to share his dreams and be a part of his wonderful world. If you dont have a life outside the
club where you picked her up, how can she be a part of something that doesnt exist? She cant.

There are hobbies that are particularly good for experiencing what it means to be a Man. Martial arts,
dancing or anything competitive fits into this category. Even extreme sports fit, but they can be
hazardous to your health. Youll have to decide this for yourself, but heres what I did: I took a salsa
dancing course. Since then, Ive become a fanatic. When you dance, you learn to let go of everyday
stress and feel totally free. Its also one of the best ways to learn indirect communication with females.
In salsa (and other dances that involve couples), you are forced to lead. The woman wont know whats
coming next; it will always be a surprise for her.

Imagine standing on the dance floor. You make eye contact with a girl, walk up to her confidently and
ask for a dance. Then you grab her hand without waiting for a reply, lead her to the dance floor and start
dancing with her. In such situations, you will FEEL what its like to be a Man. The sexy look in her eyes,
how she glances at you, expecting you to lead thats when you realize what being a Man means. You
learn to lead and make decisions. You learn to push and pull her gently. You learn about the subtle
power play going on between the male and the female on the parquet. Do you FEEL what Im talking
about?

Have you noticed that when you stress too much about something and keep waiting for it anxiously, it
just wont happen? Like when youre looking for your keys and turn the whole house upside down to
find them. Only after you stop caring so much and say, Damn it, I give up! will you find the keys
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wont get it. But when you can let go of your obsessive feelings and learn to care less about it, you will
achieve your goal.

There is a method for getting anything you want. First, know what it is, and decide if you really want it.
Second, be determined, resolute and ready to do anything to get it. Third, take the steps necessary to
achieve your goal. Remember, you cant win the lottery if you dont play no matter how resolute you
are. And the fourth step is: After youve done everything you can, let it go. Yes, let it go. Forget about
the whole thing, and stop caring so much. Thats the hardest part. But only then will you arrive at the
fifth step, which is reaching your goal.

Its exactly the same with women. After youve done what you can to accomplish your goal, let go of
your obsession. Go out occasionally, socialize, make friends and live a busy life. As soon as you forget
what you wanted so much, youll have girls flocking around you. Time and patience are necessary to
achieve success with women. The busier you are, the less time you have to feel sorry for yourself
because of not getting women or not getting the ones you want, and the more likely that youll be
successful.

Ive mentioned meditation before. It gives you power. You learn to release unnecessary feelings, to
focus on important things intensely, to clear your mind and to keep yourself discipline. All of these will
contribute to your becoming a Man. Inner balance brings outer balance that is visible to women. Learn
to control yourself. The only person you can control in this world is YOU. If you just understand that, you
will be way ahead of the crowd and find yourself leading others. A strong leader always has very strong
self-control.

He doesnt want to control anyone, just himself and his reality, and the people follow him. With
women, focus your mind on the inside. Believe in what you do, and believe that you will make women
follow you. We make our own reality by the way we see it. Your perception of the world is like a
boomerang. Its a subjective thing, which you can change, but it also comes back and influences you at
the same time. You can see the world as an aggressive, hostile place and behave defensively, or you can
build a friendly environment around yourself by acting accordingly. There is nothing you cant reach.
Again, this requires a lot of practice. This is what life is about.
















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Part 3: Meeting Girls

Your Goals

Your first step is to decide what kinds of women you want. Even the best seducers have a certain group
of girls that they are better with. For example, if you are in your 20s, you might be into picking up party
chicks and having a new girl in your bed every night. If you are in your 40s, however, and looking for a
wife, disco girls might not be your cup of tea. So know what youre looking for, and form your strategies
accordingly. There are young girls and older women. There are highly educated and less educated ones.
You will find some of them in clubs and others at exhibitions, the theater or your own social circle.

Generally, older women are much easier to find and seduce. They are either singles with a strong sex
drive and a massive amount of frustration or married women who are bored with their husbands and
their lives as housewives. As women grow older, they start to have fewer and fewer options. As you get
older, you will have more and more. So be patient. Younger girls will always have more choices. They
will be able to select from a wild variety of males, especially if they look good.

Whatever you want, you will have to figure out the best way to get it. Let me give you a few examples: If
you want to become a player, youll probably go clubbing at least two or three nights a week. If youre
an artist or a Bohemian type, youll be found at art exhibitions or modern theaters talking to women
with similar interests. If you like cooking, youll go to a cooking class to meet such women. If you are a
New Age guy, youll visit programs that attract New Age girls. If youre into fundamentalist Christian
women, youll develop a routine of going to the church and eying them, then come up with a way to talk
to them.

Brainstorm. If you like girls who are into sports, get a pair of skates and hang at the local skating park.
When a hot girl comes by, approach her and talk to her. After some experimentation and a few crash-
and-burns, youll find certain repeating schemes in your conversations. With a skater girl, you wont talk
about modern art; while at the exhibition, the girl youre talking with might not be interested in your
rock-climbing adventures.
















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The basic steps are:

1. Think about what youre like, and decide what kind of woman you want and what qualities she
should have. Of course, you should take it one step at a time and be realistic. If youre a virgin, you
wont become a player next week and bed the hottest Playboy models. Youll have to put a lot of time
and energy into achieving your goals. Stay rational, and never aim at something you know you cant
have in the near future. Its better to have short-term goals and small successes than to have a big
disappointment.

Write down the type of women you want to attract, how will she look like?, hair color?, hobbies? What
are the Must Have qualities in her? (if you are a socialist, and she is a born capitalist, it will never
work), write down a list of parameters which your dream woman must have:

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Dont move to the next step before you complete the last section, if you are reading this book simply for
the sake of reading it, quit right now and give it to someone who will take advantage of it, do the
materials if you plan to ever get results from this book, you have nothing better to do right now anyway,
youre reading!

So come on, do the exercises, and you will be amazed at the results.

2. Think about where your type of woman can be found in your city.

Write down a list of possible location in which you can locate youre pray, if an alligator wishes to
feast on dear or buffalo, he would not go towards the trees or the deeps on the water, but will hide in
the water near the shore; you should do the same thing, write down the places in which you may find
your dream women.

If the woman of your dream is a business woman, you will be wise to join networking groups for
business man and business women, if your dream girl is a wild soul, try a dirt bike club, wealthy? try
the golf course, a model? try hanging around agencies, smart and nerdy? Try the book club, library,
park bench, you get the point. No websites for now, you need experience - If you want a more detailed
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Location 1: ___________________________________________________
Location 2: ___________________________________________________
Location 3: ___________________________________________________
Location 4: ___________________________________________________
Location 5: ___________________________________________________
Location 6: ___________________________________________________
Location 7: ___________________________________________________
Location 8: ___________________________________________________
Location 9: ___________________________________________________
Location 10: ___________________________________________________


3. Frequent these events or places. If you dont find what youre looking for, go back to Step 1 or 2.

Right down a list of at least one place in which you intend to visit today, not tomorrow, not in three days
from now, once you done reading this chapter (which is not very long), you will drop the book leave
your house, and go to that place for one propose, and one propose only! to come back home with a
new phone number in your phone, there are no shortcuts, if you feel that you are not good enough, you
need a reality check I meet plenty of rich and beautiful women who date the most ugly looking, nerdy
people, why? Because its not your looks, its your confidence and personality that counts.
So get over yourself, and write down 1 place to which you will visit today, and another place to which
you will visit for every other day throughout the week, including the weekend.

Sunday: ____________________________________________________.
Monday: ____________________________________________________.
Tuesday: ____________________________________________________.
Wednesday: ____________________________________________________.
Thursday: ____________________________________________________.
Friday: ____________________________________________________.
Saturday: ____________________________________________________.

4. Talk to the women that you meet. Get to know what theyre into and what theyre like; find
common interests with them.

Write down a list of topics that will interest your dream lady, starting from animals, food, family, etc.

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5. After meeting women of the type youre interested in, youll form a picture in your mind of their
general traits. From this point on, youll be able to tailor your conversations accordingly and to develop
a certain routine. Such things might include telling the skater girls your favorite bungee-jumping story or
taking them to the caf around the corner, which happens to be a romantic little place just below your
apartment. Of course, in the end, most of these skater chicks will end up in your apartment

Write down at least 5 new things you learned about your dream lady, now that you spoke to at least 5
different dream ladies, I am assuming that you have been doing these homeworks:

1. _________________________________________________________________________________
2. _________________________________________________________________________________
3. _________________________________________________________________________________
4. _________________________________________________________________________________
5. _________________________________________________________________________________


6. Keep your eyes open, and be prepared to meet women ANYWHERE. For example, dont limit
yourself to skater girls when you work in proximity to an all-girl boarding school.

Now that youve been flooded with information, heres a list of places to meet women
(which is not intended to be exhaustive):

1. The street
2. Shopping centers
3. Clubs and bars
4. Dance schools
5. High school and university campuses
6. Language schools and courses that interest you
7. The office
8. Festivals and programs
9. Museums, art exhibitions, galleries
10. Concerts and the theater
11. While youre on vacation
12. Your own social circle or house parties
13. The ice-skating rink
14. The beach
15. Your neighborhood
15. Playing sports (tennis, squash, billiards, etc.)
16. The park
17. While walking your dog
18. A caf
19. The library
20. Church
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And the list goes on possibilities are endless. You can hardly name a place where its
impossible to meet girls. Many couples meet by accident, and such accidents can
happen anywhere. Of course, no one says you cant help those little accidents happen at your
favorite skating park or anywhere else.

One thing I learned about setting goals, is that once you set it, you must do something towards it
immediately, otherwise you lose momentum, right now I want you to drop everything, place a sign in
the book so that youll know where you left, and get busy, right now!

Call a good friend (preferably a female friend) and tell her/him to go with you to pick up girls.

And again, to emphasis the point that looks mean nothing, Jerry Seinfeld told NBC that in one of his
Seinfeld episodes his character convinced a woman to go on a date with him, while riding the elevator,
the freaking elevator, later he told that this was based (like most Seinfelds episodes) on a real event, he
was riding in an elevator (long before he was famous) and got a date with a beautiful woman during the
25 second elevator ride, by using his sense of humor, that comes to show you use your strengths to
your advantage.

Before you begin, decide NOW what you are willing to invest in this. You know your skill (whether youre
a virgin or you have a few trophies behind you), and you probably have an idea of how much work you
will need to improve your odds. Judging from my own experience, I dont suggest devoting all your time
to learning to pick up girls going out five days a week can exhaust you, and its easy to lose motivation
quickly. Never forget that women should be a part of your life, not your reason for living.

On the other hand, if you sit home all week, you wont get good results either. The mentality to avoid is:
It feels so safe and warm at home. I wont go out today, maybe next time And this goes on for
months or years, while you gradually fall into a depression. Women wont fly to your house; you will
have to go out and get them.

So leave the safety of your home and socialize. Work on making friends and meeting new people. Its
the first step to success with women: learning to be a social person. Even if youve just moved to a city,
get out of the house and do something. Everybody has an interest or a hobby to share with other
people. I dont care what it takes to get you outside, just do it. Sign up to take dancing lessons or a
foreign language course; visit a sports club it doesnt matter. Go out once, twice or three times a
week, visit new places, meet new people, and feel good in your skin.

Finally, dont forget that success wont come in an hour or two; youll have to work at it.
They say that when youre learning something new (like martial arts), after six months, you will know
what its about. After one year, youll know a few things. In four years, youll consider yourself to be
fairly good. Another 10 years, and you become a master only to realize how many things you dont
know yet So keep this in mind when setting up your goals, and dont be disappointed if success
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Overcoming your fear of talking to women

Shyness is a debilitating condition for many men. It prevents them from functioning in social situations,
from voicing their real concerns, and most sadly, from approaching the woman of their dreams.
The truth is that many shy men are exactly the kind of guys women look for. But since they're too timid,
women get left with the swaggering jerks they always complain about but seem to date exclusively. If
shyness has kept you from getting that special lady, read on to see how you can overcome it.

Step 1 - Practice with a friend. One of the big factors in shyness is the fear of rejection. Eliminate this
factor by approaching and picking up a woman for your friend or your brother (but make sure your
friend knows!). Since your own ego isn't at stake, you'll be less inhibited in your approach. You'll see it's
no big deal and will want to pick up for yourself next time.

Step 2 - Focus on baby steps. Treat dating like a 12-step program. Start with a smile; show everyone
(not just the cute girls) you're friendly and approachable. On following days, move up to saying "hi." A
few days after that, engage in small talk. Keep going as you gradually open yourself up to people and see
it's not as hard as you thought. If you make a blunder, forget about it. Most people are more forgiving
than you think. If beautiful women intimidate you, take baby steps up the beauty scale. Start by
approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with. As you become at ease with them,
move on to prettier women, and so on.

Step 3 - Start by asking this special girl simple questions. You can show that you care by asking her
simple questions, I have a good friend who meet girls almost exclusively in the New York Subway, by
acting as if he have no idea which train to take, so he asks Excuse me, do you know if the C train goes
through here?, after the obvious Yes or I Dont know, he will replay its so hard understanding the
subway system, are you from here?, and there you go, this will break the ice

Step 4 - Don't take things personally. If you want to succeed in the game of seduction, you can't take
every comment, insinuation or joke that a woman might throw your way as a personal affront. People
sometimes say things they don't mean. You'll have nothing to be self-conscious about if nothing bothers
you

Step 5 - Learn to listen. Don't do all the talking. Let women talk about themselves for a while. Ask open-
ended questions and just sit back and listen. If the conversation lulls, have new conversation topics
ready. And to ease the burden of initiating something, have a few icebreakers handy to get the ball
rolling, if you are doing all the talking that will increase the nervousness If you are already shy and
nervous around woman, shut up let her talk by asking questions.

Step 6 - Talk to a lot of people. Don't be afraid to chat up everyone you meet, from the old lady doing
her groceries to the bank teller. Practice makes perfect

Step 7 Overcome the fear of rejection. Great boxers go in the ring knowing there's a chance they'll
lose. Similarly, you can't expect to succeed every time. Nothing is 100%, so view every encounter with a
woman as a positive learning experience. The trick here is to not be self-conscious. Shyness and
hesitation occur when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on the woman
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Step 8 - Get out and socialize. Join activities in which you're always interacting with people, such as the
gym, exercise classes, a college society, or a hobby club. In these environments, you must always
socialize, and after a while, you'll get comfortable with it. Furthermore, you're practically guaranteed to
meet interesting women.

Step 9 The buck starts with you. When you leave your shyness behind, which will take time and
persistence, you'll see how much your life will change, as you'll begin to go after what you want with
fewer fears. And here's a secret: should you enter a room and feel those familiar jitters, remember that
most people you meet are too busy worrying about what others think about them to really notice and
judge you.

Tips

Imagine that you are talking to a friend. That will loosen the tension and allow more
comfortable conversation.
Make eye contact. This lets her know you are legitimately interested. But don't stare!
Be yourself.
Be respectful to women. They are not objects - always keep that in mind.
Compliment the little things; the things that most men wouldn't notice. When you do that, you
let her know that the little things she does don't go unnoticed, and makes her feel special.
Never over-do anything. In fact, UNDER-do some things. If you drop that one little compliment,
and leave it at that, she will want to talk to you more to see what else you have to say.

Warnings!

NEVER Over-compliment. Drop one here or there, but if you over-compliment, that will
introduce a feeling of awkwardness and disparity. Women like their men to be strong, not
desperate.
NEVER Complain. Girls hate it when men complain about their trouble when they first meet,
thats a waste of potential for great conversation.

Anyone whos not used to approaching strangers will have a fear of approaching women. Thats normal.
Some people will find it easy; some will find it really hard to overcome this. Its like youre an actor going
on stage for the first time in front of a large audience. You will feel your heart pumping, butterflies in
your stomach and a lump in your throat Even the most seasoned actors will feel anxiety before going
on stage, but the difference is that they LEARN TO CONTROL IT. So thats what you will have to do as
well. Learn to control your fear and anxiety of approaching women you dont know. Women strangers
man, how scary does that sound? You never did that, right? You will, my friend, you will!

There are two schools of thought on dealing with the fear of approaching strangers. The first advocates
therapy, as ridiculous as that may sound. In my opinion, doing a few exercises in your imagination might
help somewhat, but wont bring noticeable results. What I subscribe to is shock therapy. Thats how I
got rid of my fear back when. If you want to quit smoking, you wont do it with a bunch of nicotine
patches. Youll have to make the decision to stop for good. From that point on, there is no more
smoking. Its the same with girls. Youre standing in a club surrounded by girls. Your heart is pounding.
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just one of them. Of course, your first approach wont be perfect. But as the saying goes, practice makes
perfect. And thats why I recommend mass approaches for your first time.

Look, I really dont care what you say. But say something, and say it to as many girls as possible. The best
environment for this would be a club. For the first few times, make sure you stay sober. Your only goal
should be to overcome your fear of approaching girls. Alcohol will help with your inhibitions, but the
next day, you will be the same person with the same fears and inner obstacles. Also, dont bring any
friends with you. Theyll just hold you back and contribute to your getting drunk. Go alone. If you can
make sober approaches in a club, you will be able to make approaches ANYWHERE. Keep that in mind:
ANYWHERE.

Naturally, this is just the first step. On online seduction forums, there are many so-called seduction
gurus, who advocate this style not just for overcoming your initial fears, but for getting girls EVERY
TIME. True, its good for newbies, but not for the guys wanting more. It takes focus for the most
important part: the conversation with the girl. So, once you get used to approaching random women,
its time to switch gears and focus on approaching the ones you want.

But for now, to overcome your initial fears, practice the following exercise:

1. Choose a club and go out alone. If you want to take someone with you, take one friend whos willing
to learn and wont hold you back. (maybe someone who is already taken) If he does, dont take him the
next time you go. If you have to go alone, go alone. I did it many times. Its no biggie. Without company,
youre forced to talk to people, and you will approach women. Even if you dont approach anyone the
first night, you will have enough remorse to do it the next time you go out.

Write it down right now:

This Saturday night what club are you going to? : _______________________________.
What kind of girls can you expect to meet there? : ________________________________.
What will you wear? : _______________________________________________________.
How many girls will you hit on?: _______________________________________________.
How many phone numbers will you come back with?: _____________________________.
If you think big, will you come back home with a girl?: _____________________________.

TIP: Your success depends on your goal, if your goal is to get 2 numbers, you will barely talk to
anyone!

2. Take a deep breath, try to loosen up as much as you can, and go up to a random girl. She doesnt
have to be the hottest one; your average girl will do for now. If shes with a group, approach her directly.
If shes with two or three girls, talk to all of them at the same time. But whomever you approach, DONT
HESITATE. This is the most important part. The more you hesitate, the less likely you are to approach a
girl. Dont leave yourself time to think. Count to five and go! Banish negative thoughts from your mind,
and forget What happens if? questions. Nothing happens. Treat the whole club as your playground.
No one will laugh at you; no one will hurt you. Its just some casual talking; no harm done to anyone, if
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3. After you have approached a girl or a group, talk to her/them. Even if youre hesitant, and your legs
are shaking and your heart is pounding, force yourself to smile and tell her something. The best method
is to memorize a line, an opener, and use that on every girl that night. This way, additional focus and
energy wont be required to think up something to say, and you can concentrate on controlling yourself
and your body language. For example, you could use: Hi! Let me ask you a question. How would you
describe your ideal guy? What character traits and inner values should he have? or Hi! Do you see that
girl over there? I like her, and I want to get to know her. What do you think I should tell her? You can
also make up your own lines.

4. Depending on how the conversation goes, either carry on or leave. Remember, your goal is not to
bed her tonight, but dont stop if thats about to happen. After executing the opener into the
conversation, youll understand how easy it is to talk to strangers, and youll realize you just took the
first steps toward overcoming your biggest fear. How does it feel?

5. Dont stop after talking to a girl or two. Carry on, and talk to as many girls as possible.
Eight or 10 are OK; 20 are even better. You dont have to run around trying your opening out on every
girl and yelling one! two! three! Just approach as many of them as you want, remembering that
your goal is to get used to the feel of the whole thing. The more you do it, the easier it will seem, and
you will eventually realize how normal it is to talk to women.

6. When you go home, congratulate yourself. You took your first steps in the land of pickup. It was a
small step for mankind, but a giant leap for you. Repeat this for a few nights until you feel comfortable
in your own skin talking to girls. But, when you get into the game and start to enjoy it, dont forget that
the preceding exercise was only for de-shying yourself; for showing you how easy it is to talk to a girl.
Its not the way to proceed from now on. Your next step is to find the girls that you really like and
approach only them. Up to this point, it would only have given you an excuse not to approach a woman.
But, from now on, it will help you focus on the more important aspect, the pickup itself.




OK! Stop reading! Continue reading on Sunday morning, after returning from the club, dont move to
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STOP READING PLEASE!

GOOD LUCK





Welcome back!
I hope you didnt continue to read, if you want results you must go through the book exactly as
described!

Now, write down:

After speaking to at least 3 girls at the club on Saturday night (Im assuming you did, if you didnt why
not!?, go back tonight to the fucking club and talk to at least 3 women, I challenge you! If youre not
going to do this, just give this book to someone who will use it!, try going back with a friend and tell
him/her what your planning, that will defiantly help, he/she will push you to talk to women).

Now, write down your opinion regarding each conversation, how would you rate it from 0 (being the
worst) to 10 (being the best), and explain what went wrong, and what went perfectly right, what you
can do to fix the negatives and strengthen the positives by next Saturday, if you dont practice and
revise, you have no chance, if you hit on a 1,000 girls you will have much more experience then
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Girl:

Grade: (__)
What did you do good? What worked perfectly?:
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What went wrong? What did you do badly?:
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What must you work on, to improve your skills for next week?
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How will you improve your chances?
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Girl:

Grade: (__)
What did you do good? What worked perfectly?:
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What went wrong? What did you do badly?:
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How will you improve your chances?
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Girl:

Grade: (__)
What did you do good? What worked perfectly?:
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What went wrong? What did you do badly?:
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What must you work on, to improve your skills for next week?
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How will you improve your chances?
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Important: you should not be relinquished when it comes to speaking with women, Even if someone
says something to you or behind your back, should it really concern you? beautiful women find less than
attractive man who attempt to make a move towards them as brave, and about 80% of them,
appreciates it, most men would be too scared to speak with a very beautiful women, thats why you see
many gorges women date ugly people, because they had the guts to ask them out.



But, before we move on, heres a story from my life that you can use as motivation: When I was
younger, I had a fear of approaching women. I was even too shy to go up to the girls in my high school

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who were one class below me. So I decided to de-shy myself. During the winter, I spent several days
every week at the local ice-skating rink approaching girls with the lamest pickup lines you can imagine.
Hi! Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I skate through in front you again? At that time, I
thought they would work. Guess what: They didnt.

But I still forced myself to approach strangers, which gave me a strong base to build my game on.







































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Now that you gained some experience and have scheduled the next 50 Saturday nights hitting different
places to hit on women, its time for you to put some new knowledge to use, lets see what NOT to say
to girls upon approaching them. There are two main pickup centers: clubs and everywhere else. Ive put
clubs in a separate category, because theyre so different from the rest. Its a whole art in itself. So we
will talk about clubs for now. If you learn to pick up girls there, other venues will be a piece of cake.

Lets examine pickup lines first. Have you ever tried using them? Im sure most guys have at least once
or twice. Or more. Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again? Sounds cheesy,
doesnt it? Pickup lines are L-A-M-E. She has heard them many times before. By using them, you become
just another loser. Even if she likes you initially, you can easily ruin your chances with a lame line. So
forget about pickup lines for good.

Girls in clubs expect to be hit on by guys. Thats the main reason they go: to boost their egos or to have
some fun with guys. When you approach a girl in a club, she will know what youre up to. From the
moment you open your mouth to speak, she will be sure that youre at least a little interested in her.
Otherwise, why would you talk to her in the first place? This puts her in a position of power. She is the
selector now; she can decide to turn her back on you at any time.

When she sees you approaching, her first thought will probably be: Heres another guy who wants
something from me. Her second thought will be either: He seems different; lets give him a chance.
or No, not another loser. Where are they coming from? No more losers for tonight. Now get away from
me! To increase your chances, you have to separate yourself from the crowd. You have to be different
from the rest, to give her a reason she should talk to you.

There are many schemes that most guys follow. She knows all of these. At least three guys will approach
her with: Hi! Im John. You come here often? while shes dancing. Theres something even better:
buying her a drink. Forget about it NOW. I dont know who came up with such a stupid idea, but he
must have been out of his mind. She gets five drinks a night and refuses another five. Hot girls spend
ZERO, yes, ZERO money on drinks at clubs. Its because theres always a loser who buys them for her.
She doesnt even have to move a finger and has two drinks in front of her.

Why would you invite her for a drink anyway? Do you know her? No. She is a total stranger to you. Do
you invite your best buddies for a drink? Yes. Do you invite strangers? No. So treat her like one. Buying a
drink is equivalent to approaching her with the following: I want to fuck you, and I think that by buying
you a few dollars worth of drinks, Ill have a better chance of succeeding! So can we leave now? Would
you fuck a guy like that if you were a girl? Not likely! So forget about it. Even if she asks you to buy her a
drink, firmly say, No. Its one of her tests to decide how Manly you are. If you comply, she will lose
interest in you immediately.

Ninety-nine percent of the rest of the guys that a girl in a club meets will be from two categories: the
ones who try to hide their intentions and the ones who are too direct and obvious about their
intentions. Even if she hooks up with one of these guys, its because she liked him initially, and she
would have smiled at him even if he had said, Unga-bunga.

The first mistake to avoid is hiding your intentions. Trying to approach her with an excuse or by talking
about the latest swimsuit fashions is just a waste of time. (Unless you are gay, of course, but then Im
sorry, youre reading the wrong book! ) She might be entertained by it and, since your presence is
nonthreatening to her, you might think that your pickup is going well. Then suddenly, you lose her. Its

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normal: Shes not stupid, and she knows what you wanted from the beginning. The average club girl is
approached 10 to 20 times a night by a large variety of guys, and she has much more experience in
handling them than you do in handling girls. Dont think you can fool her into believing youre there for
an hour just to have fun. A real Man will never hide what he wants and try to trick her it just lowers
your value in her eyes.

The other mistake you can make is being too direct and obvious. Wanna fuck? is not the best way to
impress a girl. Even if shes a more experienced woman, she still has some of her little princess fantasies.
If you start off by making your intentions to FUCK her clear, she will brush you off in a minute. We are
wired differently. Men will jump straight into sex, while women need a long, exciting foreplay to get
ready for action.

Take the whole game as a very, very long foreplay. Even if a woman likes you and is ready to go straight
into your bed, she still has to handle social restrictions programmed into her head from early childhood.
Its not just that she is weaker and you could easily be a stalker, but, if she left with you after your first
sentence, her girlfriends would think she was a SLUT. You can still find one girl in every 50 who will leave
with you after a direct and obvious opener, but you had better avoid those. You dont want to lay a girl
whos with a new guy every night at least if you want a girl and not a nympho.

What to say and how

After all these nos, lets talk about the yeses. We know the club girl is approached many times and
knows your intentions. This puts her in a position of power. Therefore, the solution is to show that you
are a Man and be casually direct. You shouldnt be overtly direct, and you shouldnt try to hide your
intentions. Its exactly what shes expecting. Tell her that you like her, but also show with your attitude
that you are a Man who can handle her and walk away whenever he wants. This disarms her and puts
YOU into the power position.

Showing Manliness during an approach has two elements: what you say and how you say it. She will
have formed an opinion about you in the first few seconds. Just as you can glance at a girl and decide
whether you like her body or not, she needs only a few seconds of talking with you to get a first
impression. And, in clubs, girls will judge you on first impressions.

Up to this point, Ive been talking a lot about the how part. You should go back to part 2, and reread it.
Having the attitude of a Man is very important. No matter how good your approach is, if you cant be
consistent with it, she will eventually sense that you are just faking it and lose interest in you
immediately. Reading about something wont give you abilities, but the more you read it, the more
familiar you will be with the concept. Then, when an actual situation arises, youll be able to remember
what youve read and use it. It takes practice, but reading it again and again will give you
encouragement and motivation.



Women loves talking, make sure you place your focus upon the questions you ask, and that they are a
good conversation openers:

1. Subway/Train Station

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Excuse me; do you know if the C line goes through here?
Yes
Thank You (Smile and look at her), are you from around here?
No/Yes, Im from __________
Aw, Cool, Im from _____________
(Watch her body language to see if she is interested in you)
Keep talking, asking her questions about herself now, and not the bus/subway line, make sure you tell
briefly about yourself as well.

2. Bar/Pub/Club

Look around and see if you notice a lady sitting at the bar alone or with a female friend.
Hello, may I buy you a drink?
Yes
When buying a drink, make sure to keep her attention at you, so that she will not get bored and you
wont lose your money and time
Dont try to be funny, but If you have the gift to make her laugh at that moment youve got her.
wont your boyfriend be gallous if Ill buy you another one?

2. Library

Having the ability to speak articulately regarding the book shes reading is a big plus, of you dont
know a thing about it, first, when taking a seat, ask do you mind if I sit here?, while you read or
pretend to read, check out her body language, if she remains apathetic, that means she dont care
much for you, and that you need to find the right time to squeeze a pick up line in, but if she gets
uncomfortable, if her toes suddenly point towards you, or if she begin playing with her hair, make sure
to wait a second before asking here hows her read

3. Dance School

Here, your job is a lot easier, every woman can appreciate a guy who can dance, a good friend of mine
pick up plenty of girls on the Salsa Dance Floor, after working out a good sweat in this sensual and
erotic dance, make sure you invite her for a drink, ask her Will your boyfriend be mad if Ill ask you
for a drink?
There is plenty of conversation topics if you just danced the most erotic dance in the dancing world.

4. Campus

Its very easy to meet women who are in the same class as yourself, but if shes not, you can always
make a move on the grass, in the schools library, gym or dining room.
If you are in a course that interest you, you already have a conversation topic.


5. The Office

These days, you must be careful because you might have a sexual harassment case on your hands
even if you never intended to offend anyone, take special interest in attractive coworkers, dont show

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them that you are interested in them at the office, but learn about their private life when the
opportunity presents itself, the great thing about the office is that you know that you will meet again
tomorrow, and if your desk is right next to hers thats even better, trying to help her work will get you
places.

When you have selected your target, start by going straight up to her, whether shes sitting at the bar,
dancing on a table, talking to her friends or just standing somewhere. Look at her while approaching,
whether she notices you and looks back or not. Dont try to hide and approach from the side or from the
rear. Take the shortest route possible, and go straight toward her. If there are people in the way, gently
push them aside. Dont let them distract you, and dont start apologizing for pushing them away,
because it can ruin your manly stance.

Even if she is with her friends and not alone, always go straight up to your target girl and ignore the rest
of the group. If they see that she likes you which she will they wont block you. Make sure to SMILE
upon approaching her and during the conversation. A smile is very disarming and makes her feel good.
When you are standing in front of her, look into her eyes and talk to her. You can even check out her
body in a visible way before delivering your line. Dont forget, a Man will never apologize for his desires.

When using one of the casually direct openers, be conscious of your body language and the tone of your
voice. Speak in a low, calm voice. Pay attention to your inner state, and dont deliver the line in a hurry.
If she sees that youre hesitating or being nervous, she will know that youre just faking your Manliness
and brush you off quickly. Act casually, as if talking to a girl is an everyday thing you do.

Your inner state affects people around you. When you are feeling good and happy, people you talk to
tend to adopt your happiness. This is the MOST important part: When you approach the girl, act as if
youve found a long-lost friend or youre meeting your true love whom you havent seen in a very long
time. Smile and show her how happy you are to meet her. Even if youre feeling down and low or you
have no reason to be happy, try to get yourself into that state. Think of a good memory, and KNOW that
something good is going to happen and is awaiting you. Even if your target girl is in a bad mood or acting
bitchy with other guys, your magnetic presence will disarm her instantly.

When you first begin talking to her, theres no need to stand at a distance as if youre afraid of her.
Gentle human touch can add to the equation. You can stand next to her and gently touch her shoulders,
her back or put your arms around her when delivering one of the lines. If the music is too loud, lean
even closer and whisper in her ear. When she turns her head toward you, make sure you have a big
smile on your face.

If your target is moving in the club or coming toward you, stop her. Start moving toward her; make eye
contact and say, Stop. Dont yell, because you will startle her. Say it in a gentle but confident way,
and smile while saying it. If she doesnt stop, you can put your hand out in front of you or gently grab
her arm or shoulder, lean closer and whisper your line in her ear. The above description of Manly
delivery holds true in this case as well.

If shes facing another direction when youre approaching her and even after the opener, she is testing
to see whether youre consistent within your frame of the Man. If you stand there like an average
chump, shell lose interest and ignore you. So gently grab her shoulders and turn her toward you. Smile
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After your opener, the girl will usually smile and be happy, express surprise or might not know how to
act. She might extend her hand to introduce herself. If that happens, shake her hand, and introduce
yourself as well. Some girls will be embarrassed and wont know how to act or what to say. Its like a
shock to them, and they dont believe their own eyes. A real Man for her is like the hottest girl in the
club coming up to you and offering to spend the night with you. You would probably be stunned and not
know how to react or what to say for a few minutes. So, if that happens, break the ice by asking her a
question or introducing yourself first.

You can also give her a compliment right after the opener or later. If you do, dont forget to compliment
her personality, taste or her achievements and never her genetics. You can approach a girl with: I like
you. You have really nice earrings; they show wonderful taste. You can also say: You have beautiful,
soft hair or something to that effect. These are Manly compliments, which show that you are a real
Man and that you can also care about her at the same time.

During the conversation, ask questions about her and be totally casual. She will be a pleasant partner
and answer your questions. You will notice that some of the hottest girls are empty and dont know
what to talk about.

Again, the most important thing to remember is to stay consistent with your approach and Manly frame
during the pickup and also on your dates. If she senses that youre faking it, she will leave you.

Often a girls female or male friends will become jealous and try to prevent you from talking to her. In
this case, you will have to isolate her. When you feel that the conversation is going well, grab her arm or
her hand and say: Lets go somewhere quieter! Then lead her to another side of the club. The best
option is a table or some other place where the music is not too loud and you can sit and talk without
being interrupted.

I am a businessman in heart, and one day while watching the show The Apprentice with Donald
Trump, his son Don Jr. said something that I never forgot, it seem simplistic, but this simple phrase
changed the way I think about women You never get what you dont ask for, it proved itself as being
very true.

If shes worried about losing track of her friends or afraid they might leave her, tell her that you will go
with her and find them later. If you cant stop her, grab her hand and lead her to find her friends. Its
important not to let her lead you; you should be the one searching while bringing her around. If you
dont know what her friends look like, tell her to alert you if she sees them.

Hot girls are very flaky, and since they are usually spoiled and given everything because of their looks,
they find it hard to take on responsibilities. The hotter they are, the truer this is. She might have to leave
you to go to the restroom or catch her friends. If this happens, no matter if she promises to come back
or you were in a wonderful conversation, she will probably stay with her friends. In this case, find her,
smile and continue talking where you left off; After the conversation, when the time is right, kiss her or
get her number. If the situation allows it, go as far as she lets you. You can read more about this in the
next chapter. Never hesitate if you feel that the moment has come to act. Too much hesitation is
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Some clubs consist of one big dance floor with really loud music and not too many places to talk. I
usually avoid these, but there might be times when there is no other place to go. You could learn a few
dance moves and try them on girls, but unless you are good-looking, it wont be effective.

Also, many of the girls on the dance floor take drugs, and trying to pick up such girls is usually pointless.
They are easy and may give you their number, but they will behave totally differently the next day. They
are just there to have fun, and while theyre high, they dont seriously consider anything that happens.
Also note: Laying drugged/drunken women is against the law in many countries, including the United
States.

So, to summarize, if youre in a loud club, learn to raise your voice, speak louder and approach the same
way as you normally would. You can also try to isolate girls from their group or surroundings quickly and
find a quieter place in the club to talk. After your opener, gently grab her hand and say: Lets go
somewhere quieter.

Note: The concept and openers above are based on the method developed by Ranko Magami.
You can visit his website at www.attractanddate.com.

Getting A Phone Number

What's the best way to get a woman's phone number? Here's the best way: "I'd like to take you out
sometime, can I have your phone number?" One great trick I learnt is to ask for her e-mail
address/Skype no. as well. This way, you imply that your hip 'because your connected to the net.

Don't try to pretend you have a photographic memory. This brain of ours has a habit of crashing at the
most importune moments.

I only wrote a separate section on this, because many guys tend to overrate this phase.
Getting her number is easy once she is ATTRACTED to you. Just say: I want to meet you later. Give me
your phone number. Have your mobile or a piece of paper and a pen at hand and have her write it for
you. After getting her number, kiss her goodbye and leave.

If she doesnt want to give you her number, but offers to take yours and call you, dont accept it. Never
give her your number without getting hers. Its a sign that shes not interested, and accepting it would
show that she disrespects you. Tell her: Look, I wont give my number to you without getting yours,
since I know you wont call. I want to meet you, but Im not into playing silly games. Either give me your
number now, or I will leave, and were never going to see each other again. If she still wont give you
her number, it means youve probably done something wrong. (Hint: You werent Man enough for her.)
At this point, theres not much left for you to do.





Other venues


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Apart from clubs, there are many other places to meet girls. These include shopping malls, university
campuses, the street and other venues I have already mentioned. The difference is that at most of these
places, women dont expect to be approached, and they are in a different mood. Usually, just by going
up to them, you will create a large amount of attraction. But always be careful not to come off as
threatening. Yelling Stop! at a girl on the street with a serious expression on your face might not be
the best way to approach her. I wouldnt recommend touching her either: Imagine being a woman, and
some stranger on the street suddenly puts his hands on your shoulders.

Just choose the girl you want to approach: on the street, in a shopping mall or anywhere else.
Try to make eye contact with her. Whether she looks back at you or not, smile, then go straight up to
her. Dont approach her from behind or from the side. Your goal is not to scare her to death, but to talk
to her. When youre in front of her, raise your hand gently and say, Stop, while still smiling and looking
in her eyes. If she is located elsewhere, like sitting on a bench, sit next to her. Your state should be the
same as when approaching a girl in a club. Be happy about meeting her and show it. You can use one of
the I like you lines: Hi! I like you. You have a beautiful smile.

After she recovers from her surprise and you talk a bit, you can offer to take her to a nearby caf if shes
not in a hurry. Shopping malls are ideal for this, because there are usually several restaurants and cafs
inside. If she has to leave, just say: I see youre in a hurry, but I want to meet you later and get to know
you better. Lets exchange numbers, and we can meet in a caf to talk later. Then take her number.

If both of you have some spare time, its not a bad idea to stay together and switch venues.
For example, if you meet at the shopping mall, sit and talk in a caf for an hour or two; then you can
take her for a walk at the nearby park and kiss her. The more time you spend with her and the more
places you visit together, the closer she will feel to you, as if shes known you for some time. Try it. And,
by the way, you can do the same thing when picking her up in a club: Just extract her from the club; then
visit a restaurant or another place as if you were already a couple.

Another way to meet girls is in your own social circle, that is, your friends and the people they introduce
you to. Visiting a house party organized by your buddies, or going out together is the easiest way to pick
up a girl in your circle of friends. Just make sure when you are new in a group that you dont fight for
attention or try to be the center by being loud. Lay back and watch the dynamics going on in the
conversation. There is no need to use any specific opener; just approach the girl you want when the
time is right, and talk to her.

A word of warning: If its more of a closed circle, think twice before trying to pick up a girl.
Dont shit where you eat; see if its worth it. Consider that you will probably lose your chances with
other girls in the same group. And, if shes the only girl that eight guys are trying to pick up, you will
have to choose a different technique. Just lay back and ignore her. Your ignoring her will start to bother
her after some time, and shell probably initiate a conversation with you. Note that this only works if she
has already acknowledged your presence.




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Whether you notice it or not, during your everyday life, girls send signals about their interest or
disinterest in you. Just as you see a hot female and feast your eyes on her body, girls measure you in the
same way. Of course, most of these girls might not fully meet your standards, but youll be sure to find
that some of them are fairly hot. Ill mention a few of the signs of interest below and will discuss them in
depth later.

When a girl walks in front of you and looks into your eyes or even smiles, thats a sign of interest. When
youre on a bus and you notice that a certain girl maintains her proximity even if you sit or stand
somewhere else, thats another sign. Maybe while youre reading a book, you notice with your
peripheral sight that shes looking at you occasionally. Or when you sit next to her on a bus, she fixes her
hair or tries to do something to get your attention. Some of these signs may be subconscious, but most
of them are done consciously.

Wherever you are on the street traveling on the subway or sitting in a caf if you see a girl that you
like showing signs of interest in you, you SHOULD approach her. If youre pressed for time or are in a
situation where one of you is in a hurry, there is a nice line I like to use. She is rarely approached with
such, and it displays a great deal of Manliness. Upon approaching, tell her: Hi. You look like somebody I
should get to know, but Im in a hurry right now. Still, I dont want to pass up such a wonderful
opportunity to meet someone like you. Id like to see you again at a place where we can talk and get to
know each other. While delivering it, make sure that you come off as nonthreatening. Keep a big smile
on your face at all times. You are not a stalker; your goal is to get to know her better. If she agrees (and
she no doubt will if she has already shown signs of interest in you), ask her to exchange numbers with
you. Then smile, and carry on with whatever you were doing.

This can be a lot more spectacular in a club where girls go to get guys. Even an average- looking guy gets
at least four or five invitations for an approach during a night in a crowded club (although most of them
dont notice it). Usually, you can approach her with one of the I like you openers. If youre leaving or
dont have time to talk, the line from the preceding

paragraph can be pulled off very nicely. Ive been in many situations when I was about to leave a club in
the morning and noticed a girl trying to catch my eye. When this happens, I go up to her and ask for her
number. Then she smiles, and thats it. I end up dating her.

If you have no experience at reading female signs, learning to recognize them will be harder at first. Pay
attention to how people behave in your everyday life, and watch the signs that women give you and
other guys using body language. Just by observing certain social situations at your office or in a crowded
club, you can learn a lot!

Generally, if a woman walks near you and looks into your eyes while smiling, or looks down childishly,
shes likely to be interested in you. Some women might not be comfortable looking into your eyes or
showing their interest overtly; thats why its important to feel the situation. These feelings will come
with experience. If she looks away or looks up, shes probably either neutral or disinterested. But even
then, you can approach her with what you have learned in previous chapters.

For more information regarding female sexuality body language and how to know if shes interested,
read our book Sexual Body Language, which can be found here: www.librarytales.com


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There are also ways to measure how interested she is in you. I have met girls who eyed a guy for a
whole night till he got the courage to approach them. Then again, some girls will only give you a slight
glance from which you have to decide. Either way, even if you are not sure about her initial interest,
approach her.

Listen, my friend, if you base your approaches JUST on signs of interest that women show you, youll see
that your success skyrockets quickly. BUT its also easy to fall into the TRAP of laziness or shyness and
use this as an excuse for not making cold approaches. Please, dont do that. These invitations usually
guarantee success, and being able to use this is a nice tool to have in your arsenal. The hottest women
will very rarely give you such signs, and you will have to cold-approach them. So be the Man, use what
youve learned, and be ready to approach a woman at any time without excuses, not just when youre
invited.

Meeting Online

To be honest, I have never met any model-quality girls on the Internet. Whether you will or not depends
on your geographical location. In some of the bigger cities, girls extensively use the Internet. In my area,
I have only encountered two types of sites: those with little schoolgirls around 14 years old and those
with women over 28. What Ive been missing are hot girls between 20 and 25. But, if you go out
regularly and still have time on your hands for surfing the Internet, you should try it out on your own.
Its good for practicing your Manly attitude.

Here are a few guidelines you can follow if you decide to try Internet dating:

Online personals:

1. I dont recommend using commercial services. Try a free one and, if it works for you, consider paying
for it. Otherwise, it would just be a waste of money.

2. If a girl is hot enough and has her photo up, shell get 50 e-mails a day from the creation of her
account. Even if she checks it often, she will become bored by the losers after a few days or weeks. So
be fast when a new girl shows up online, and write to her instantly.

3. Some guys set up fake accounts. They create profiles of hot girls for fun to see how many and what
kinds of e-mails other guys are sending. This is lame and messes up the whole Internet dating scene. So
take care when you see a girl who looks too hot to be true; it could be a picture of a porn star with a
funny guy behind the whole thing.

4. Another story: Theres an urban legend circulating in my city: A guy logged on to an Internet dating
site as a hot woman and started e-mailing a lot of guys at the same time. She agreed to make a date
with several of them. They set up a time, and each guy had to have a red rose in his hand so the girl
would recognize him. That day, according to newspapers, there was a big fight in the crowd at one of
the biggest shopping malls, when 15 guys arrived in front of the same cinema holding red roses in
their hands.
5. Make sure you have a lot of free time. Youll have to check the new profiles and your messages every
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6. Your profile is very important. Although girls get enough messages so they dont have to search for
guys profiles, when you send a message, they will take a look at yours. You should have something in
your profile to separate yourself from the crowd. First, be sure to have a picture of yourself. Many
women who get 50 new messages a day wont look at your profile if they see you have no pics
uploaded. I dont suggest the use of half-naked pictures and such. Young girls around 14 will love it, but
perhaps thats not what you want?!

The best would be something creative or extraordinary: you with your dog, you skiing or you hugging or
riding a dolphin during your last vacation.

Here is an example of some text for your profile:

What is a real man like?

Confident? Knows how to lead? You feel safe with him? He has a sense of humor? He is kind and caring?
A true gentleman?

E-mail me and well see.

7. Many personal services offer an option to notify you of newcomers. Take a look at the new photos
daily, and e-mail these girls as quickly as possible. I dont advise e-mailing those who dont have their
profile pics up. You dont know whom youre dealing with, and there are many girls with pics you can
choose from.

8. The number of responses you get depends on the number of girls you write to and the quality of your
profile/messages. Have a well-written template message ready that you can modify slightly and send to
all the girls. Dont expect every girl to respond. Some of them will have full mailboxes, some of them
wont have time to read your message, some of them wont be interested, and some of them will be
fake accounts. A good message can increase your success though. Following is an example:

Hi, Amy! If your picture is real, then I like you. You look like someone I should get to know.

Im not the type of guy who is into playing games. I know what I want, and Im not afraid to take it. If
you think you can handle a challenge and youre ready for an adventure, e-mail me to begin. Richard

9. Try to meet her in person as soon as possible, and dont waste too much time on any one girl. Have
multiple girls on the go. Most of them wont take it seriously anyway.

10. There are online communities that you can use for meeting women. One of them is friendster, for
example. Some of these services arent specifically designed for online dating, but I have a friend who
has a unique style and has a lot of success with friendster chicks.



Chat rooms:

1. Chat rooms are another way to meet girls. Its a little bit more personal, and it might be

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easier to seduce somebody this way, but itll also take a lot of time. Find some general-talk
chat rooms, which are more popular, and search for girls.

2. Go private as soon as you can, and always do simultaneous chats with multiple girls.

3. Try to get her photo as soon as possible. Unlike personal ads, if she doesnt have a photo
up, it doesnt necessarily mean shes ugly. Unfortunately, you can only find out how she
really looks on a date. Never listen to what she says about herself; she can easily be lying. The
only way to judge her looks might be from her self-esteem. If she is confident and seems to
have high self-esteem, she might not be that bad-looking. You can also ask how social she is,
whether she goes out or not, has a lots of friends, etc. These are just guidelines.

4. During the chat, its just as important to separate yourself from the other guys as anywhere
else. Dont show excessive interest in her. Dont hit on her. Lay back, and be the Man. If
things are going well, ask for her number. If she wont give it to you, try getting her e-mail
address first.

5. I have a friend who was a total newbie with girls and started chatting. He was too lazy to go
out. Still, he put a lot of time and effort into online chatting. Within a year, he was able to
have sex with two girls he had met on the Net plus a bunch of kisses and dates with others.
Thats not a very high success rate. And to meet a girl will require e-mailing back and
forth for weeks, having to beg for her picture and so on. Even if you have multiple girls on
the go, its just too much of a hassle. You can achieve the same results by going to a club on
an average Saturday night without having to spend lonely nights in front of your computer.
Its up to you.

From Date To Sex

Always call a girl on her mobile if she has one, so you can call her whenever you want. But
dont be too eager, and dont pick up the phone five minutes after you get her number.
Theres also no need to play games and wait two or three days before calling unless
youre too busy, of course.

When she answers the phone, just say: Hi, its Rick. I was just thinking about you and
thought Id give a call to hear your cute smile. You dont need to give her a compliment, but
it makes her feel good, so why not? Dont start explaining anything like: Hi, its Rick.
Remember, we met yesterday at the Club Habana blah blah. A real Man doesnt do that.
If she doesnt remember you by name and asks who you are, maintain an awkward silence for
a few seconds; then tell her.





On the phone, you should be short and to the point. No need to seduce her or talk for hours.
Ask whats up and how she is. Then tell her that you want to meet. Be confident, and keep
your strong frame: I want to meet you. Lets get together tomorrow at 3 p.m. in the park. If

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shes busy, ask her to list when shes free, and choose a date thats good for both of you.
Never modify your program for a girl, and even if you make a mistake and do so, never tell
her about it.

After hanging up, dont call her till the date. Its usually best to leave just a day or two
between the phone call and the meeting. If you couldnt set up a time to get together, call her
a few days later. If you want, you can send her short text messages between phone calls.

If she doesnt answer the phone, ring back a few minutes later. Never call more than two
times in a row. Give her some time, and dont force anything. If you get her answering
machine or voice-messaging service, just say: Hey, its me. I was thinking about you, so I
called. I can still see your cute smile. I want to meet you tomorrow, and I have a nice idea.
Bye! Dont tell her what the nice idea is. Keep her guessing and on her toes. Girls love the
feeling of anticipation. She will either call back, or you can call her the next day. Dont force
a meeting if shes not free. Agree on a different time.

It sometimes happens that a girl doesnt make your date or cancels it a few hours, or even
minutes, before. Theres no universal solution for this. It probably means that you went wrong
somewhere and werent Man enough for her. She may have problems in her life, or she could
just be having a bad day. If the attraction isnt big enough, it can happen. Women will usually
come up with some bullshit on why they cant meet you. Some of this is true, but most of it is
stupid excuses. You can either move on or be persistent till she meets you. Dont be her little
puppy, and dont cling to her. Live your life, have more girls on the go, and have
OPTIONS, remember? No need to force anything, but you can be persistent if you want. She
will give in sooner or later, or you will decide to move on.

Where to go on your date

After doing your job on the phone, its time for the first date with the girl. Remember, its always the
man who arranges everything, whether you sit in a caf or go to the mountains. You dont have to tell
her what youre going to do; women love surprises. A little warning though: If you know she will
probably come in her high heels, either dont take her rock climbing, or tell her to bring climbing shoes
beforehand. She will love you for that later. Its a sign that youre not a total jerk and that you care for
her.

Always have a plan, especially when going out with a girl for the first time. The most important things
are knowing where to take her, knowing what to talk about and knowing how and when to advance
physically. Its all about L-E-A-D-I-N-G. In this chapter, Ill mostly be discussing where to take her; the
rest will come later.

I personally dont prefer going to the movies or the theater on the first date. Your goal for now is to talk
and get to know each other better. Nor do I recommend restaurants. And never, ever take her to a club
on a first date. Clubs are for singles or couples who are already dating; guys hitting on your girl in a
distracting environment could ruin your relationship before it even begins.
Apart from the above, you have many options. If its cold outside, just sit in a comfortable caf or
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live in a warm climate or if its summer, the best thing to do is to take her somewhere outdoors and
have an enjoyable activity together.

I need to stress the importance of knowing your city. So KNOW YOUR CITY. Know the monuments,
romantic places, parks, amusement parks and the types of activities you can do with a girl. There is
probably some city-guide paper that you can get your hands on to find out where the most romantic
places are. Or ask one of your friend girls to show you around. Your date will love it when you take her
to a place where shes never been or didnt even know about. Here are a few ideas to consider:

Take a drive down to the beach and walk and talk. It cost virtually nothing and is a wonderful way to get
to know the other person. Besides that, if you can catch the setting sun, it makes a pretty romantic
setting for the date.

Go to mini golf. The beauty of mini golf is there will be a lot of other couples around as well and
families, so it makes for a comfortable setting. Golfing is a leisurely sport so there's plenty of time for
interaction between the two of you.

Take your date to a play if she has a flare for arts. If you've been friends person for a while, you'll know
what he or she likes and you can choose the type of play she'd enjoy.

If she's a music lover, surprise her by taking her to a concert by her favourite artiste. It's an excellent
way to bond and see her enjoying herself.

Pack a picnic basket and take your date for a picnic by the water or in a park. Bring some finger food
and a blanket for you to sit on. Make sure there are plenty of rest rooms and shelter around just in case.

Go go-karting. This is a great way to find out if your date is adventurous!


Take a limo ride around the city. To get the best deals, use the Internet to find local companies with
websites. Go to a roof top or a revolving restaurant. Eating outdoors always makes things more
memorable, just remember to make a reservation first.

Go to a day spa together and get a massage. Go on the Internet to find the best deals.

Go hot air ballooning. Probably not the ideal first date as its a little expensive and hot air ballooning has
to be done very early in the morning.

Go on a lunch date. Perfect idea if you work together, just make sure your date knows it's a date and
not a friendly outing.

Go to the local museum. The most popular types of museums are the interactive types, with displays,
not things like art galleries.

If your date is the sporting type, take her to a local sporting event. You could even go to a college
game. If you know how to ride a motorbike, take your date for a ride somewhere scenic or at night time
in the city.


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Frisbee golf is another date idea that will certainly tell you what type of person you are dating. If you
are not sure what frisbee golf is, go to Google and look it up, it's a lot of fun.

Go to your local jazz club and relax. Everyone loves jazz.

Go to the zoo. Most zoos's have night time exhibits or exhibits out of the norm for people to see.

Go to the local fair. Every year we have a local fair where I live that has show bags, rides etc. Getting up
early and going to the flea markets is a very cheap and fun date. If you are not big on sitting down and
talking, this is the date for you.

Take your date for dinner on the boardwalk. Very romantic!

Outdoor dates:

1. Parks where you can have a walk and chill together. Sit on benches where couples are
kissing nearby, look at the flowers, walk under the trees, play games or have a picnic.
Possibilities are endless.

2. Castles, ancient ruins or monuments. Anything you can climb that is somewhat of an
adventure. If there is a long-abandoned ruin or castle in your city, take her there. Its going to
be a lot of fun for her. Make sure that if she is frightened, you are nearby to comfort and hug
her.

3. Lookout towers or places with a good view. Put your arms around her while looking
down on the city. If its located at some distance from the parking lot, take your time getting
there, and enjoy a leisurely, romantic walk together.

4. Go to an amusement park, a zoo or a dolphinarium/aquarium.

5. Caves. If you have caves in the city or nearby, take her there on an arranged tour.

6. Rock or wall climbing. Its a good, exciting date if you know how to do it, even if youre
just a little more experienced than she is.

7. Go skating or visit the ice-skating rink during winter.

8. Swimming pool. Go to the swimming pool or the local beach together. Swim and
sunbathe; then have a cold drink at a nearby caf.

9. Go on an outing to a nearby forest, state or national park, or some other interesting place.
Visit a fountain, a lookout tower or a local monument.

10. Go-cart racing or bobsledding.

11. An excursion on a boat or Jet Skiing on the local river/lake.


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Indoor dates:

1. Bowling. Give her a soaking at the bowling alley. You can keep teasing her if its her first
time bowling.
2. Snooker or billiards. Only if you know how to play though.
3. Shopping. Take her to the nearest shopping mall. Sit in a caf; then walk around together.
Go to a few stores, and shop for clothes for yourself. Ask her how the clothes look on you. Go
to the bookstore, and have fun while looking at the sex or love advice books with her.
4. Play squash or tennis; then have a drink together.
5. Museums and art galleries.
6. Exhibitions or statue parks (sculpture gardens).

Heres an example of a unique place in my own city. Im sure you can find something cool
in yours as well just open your eyes and look around. We have a short tunnel here that
leads through a small hill to a bridge that crosses the river. The bridge is illuminated at night,
and there is a calm, hidden place at the top of the tunnel, from which the view of the bridge
and the whole city is beautiful, especially at night. I might take her to a nearby caf, then have
a walk together and arrive at the top of the tunnel as a surprise. Its an ideal place for a first
kiss and to complete a wonderful date.

Use your imagination, and come up with new ideas to suit your needs. Do whatever you can
in YOUR city. Although not all the places mentioned in the lists above are good for a first
date, they contain many good suggestions that can keep you and your girl entertained for a
while. The best dates are cheap, low-cost dates. I never take a girl somewhere expensive for
the first date. You can do that later as a reward or gift to enhance your relationship. And
remember what Ive said about money: Be careful with gold diggers!

As I mentioned previously, knowing where to take her is necessary, but not enough on its
own. You should also know where you are going conversationally and physically. In the next
two chapters, Ill give you some examples of topics to talk about on your dates. When I talk
about the physical aspects of a date, I mean that whenever youre on a first date, you should
have a goal in mind. That goal is to kiss her by the end of the date. Youre soon going to
learn some techniques and ideas for achieving this as well. Carry on!










What to talk about

Talking to women is a little bit different from talking to your buddies. To get good at it, youll have to
work on your skills by practicing, just as you did when you learned to ride your bike.

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With girls, there are times when you just click, and communication is flawless between the
two of you. You dont have to think about what to say next, and youre caught up in a nice
conversation. On the other hand, there are times when you encounter awful silences and
dont know what to say. When this happens, its not bad to have some prepared topics in
your arsenal to spice up the conversation a little.

Whats the purpose of communication between the two of you after all? The main purpose is
to get to know each other better. To get a rough impression of each others personality and
view of the world. To see if you click and get on well. Apart from this, women will always
ask themselves about their feelings or the way they feel about you after talking to you. Thus,
for you, communication will also be a tool to evoke certain emotions in her.

Lets talk about these. Before anything can happen, she has to like you. If you are a Man,
she will see it in the first few seconds and be attracted to you. When that happens, she will be
interested in talking to you or going on a date. After the initial attraction, there are certain
phases that each male-female interaction goes through. You can speed up the process, but
you cant skip any phases. Here is a way to categorize it, which I call the phases of initial
conversation (you could categorize it in many other ways, of course):

1. The first step is to loosen up a little in each others company. You can talk about totally
superficial topics; it doesnt really matter. People need time to let themselves relax a little bit,
to get accustomed to the environment and the other person, especially on a date.

2. When youre loosened up, the next step is to achieve rapport with each other. Finding
commonalities, common interests and a point where the two of you can connect is necessary.

3. When you have found common interests, you can work on establishing comfort and trust.
A woman needs to know that she can trust you before giving her body to you. She needs to
know that you wont harm her physically or leave her after having sex. For ages, women who
lost their virginity before marriage were labeled sluts and driven to the edges of society.
Today, its a lot better, but girls still have to consider how their friends will react. Society still
puts a lot of pressure on them. Thats why this phase is so important.

4. And the fourth step is her arousal. The first three phases will somewhat guarantee that
during the process of arousal, social conditioning wont kick in. Before you kiss her or have
sex with her, you need to go through these steps in order.

Each point given above is in a cause-and-effect relationship with the next one. In order to have sex with
her, you need to arouse her. You can easily arouse her, but to prevent social conditioning from kicking
in, she will need to trust you. But trust comes only after rapport, and rapport comes after loosening up.
See? Its like building a house. If you skip the foundation or just one step, your house will soon collapse.
Going through all four phases is necessary.
Before I give you some examples regarding the list above, let me tell you what to avoid
talking about. I generally dont talk about religion, politics or work/school when getting to
know a woman for the first time. Religion and politics are taboo, and some people have such
strong views that it might fuck up an otherwise good date. Save that for the relationship;
youll have time to debate your views later. Even if youre sure that your views match, its not

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a good idea to talk about such serious topics on the first date. The topics of work and school
are simply boring. Your first date together shouldnt seem like a job interview. A typical
example:

1. Where do you work?
2. Oh, and what was your previous job?
3. Which school do/did you go to?
4. Where do you live?
5. Do you have any sisters?
6. How old is your little brother?
7. You have a dog?

Sound familiar? AVOID using these and similar questions as the center of your conversation
with the girl. When she comes home from work and goes on a date, she might want to let
her hair down a little. You dont want to bore each other with such topics. Many guys have
already asked her these questions anyway, and you should try to be different from the rest.

Now that you know what you shouldnt talk about, lets examine each step of the phases of
initial conversation in more detail:
























1. To loosen up, theres no need to ask serious questions. A little chitchat will do the job.
Examples: (Note: These are only examples. It isnt necessary to follow this list from point
to point in your conversations; theyre just to give you ideas if you dont know what to talk
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News and gossip involving celebrities, drama, trends, fashion. Talking about the latest
breakup of Britney Spears, the fashion style of stars, etc. Ask her what she thinks about the
world of celebrities, whether she is attracted or repulsed by it.

2. Her favorite films and why she likes them. Has she seen your favorite film or not? Is she
into the kinds of films you like or not?

3. Her favorite actor, actress/pop star/film star. Has she ever fantasized about becoming a
celebrity? Does that shining, glamorous world attract her? Would she date a famous person,
or would she rather be with a better, but lesser-known guy.

4. Music. What music does she like? Has her musical taste changed since her teenage years?
Does she prefer classical music or rock/electronic genres? Does she go to concerts? How far
would she go to see her favorite band? Does she like clubs and, if so, what type?

5. Her hobbies: Does she like reading or going to the theater or exhibitions. Does she
prefer playing sports or another activity? Does she dance? If so, what types of dancing does
she do? Has she participated in competitive sports? What sports does she like?

6. Animals: What is her favorite animal? Does she prefer dogs or cats? What does she think
of vegetarianism and animal rights? Has she ever tried horseback riding or seen a real
dolphin?

7. Ask her where she would go if she could visit any place in the world.

8. What is the strangest thing that she has ever done or the strangest thing that has
happened to her?















2. You can also tell some entertaining stories from your life. The direction of the conversation
will depend on the type of woman you are dealing with. Popping up different topics will show
you her general interests and give you a picture of the kind of person she is.

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her personality:

Relatives and friends. Is she an only child, or does she have sisters or brothers? If she
could choose, would she choose differently? Did she have a lot of friends in high school?
How many friends does she have these days? Is friendship important to her, and is she
good at keeping in touch with friends and relatives?

Goals and aspirations. What did she want to be when she was a little girl? Has she
achieved what she wanted, does she still want to, or has she changed her goals? What are her
current short-term goals; what does she think shell be doing in five to 20 years, and what
does she want to do? Ask if she is satisfied with her job/school or if she wants more.

Passion and satisfaction. Does she have an activity or hobby that she pursues with great
passion and enjoyment? Is there a special place where she relaxes or where she enjoys
being? What does she do to loosen up and free herself from stress and worries? Whats the
most challenging and satisfying thing in her job/area in which she studies?

Traveling and vacations. Talk about places and countries where you and she have been;
share your memories of what you both enjoyed the most. If youve been to the same place,
compare notes. Ask her about the best vacation of her life and why she liked it so much.

Whats the first memory that pops into her mind from that vacation? Is there a country, city
or culture that fascinates her? Has she ever considered moving to another city, country or
part of the world? If she had to live in another part of the world, where would it be and why?

Male-female relationships. Who lies and cheats more: women or men? Does she think
men understand what women really want? Are males and females switching roles in
todays society? Tell her your view on this topic, and tell her what being a Man means to
you.

Ask her about herself: How does she know when a man is interested in her? Whats the
thing that men usually find the most attractive about her? Is she satisfied with herself, both
her personality and looks, or is there something she would change?









3. Going even deeper and sharing memories that evoke feelings of comfort and safety can establish a
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Her youth and childhood. What was her favorite toy? Did she play with dolls, or was she the girl
who played with the boys? Was she a good or a bad kid? Did she have good grades? When did
she have her first drink, and was there anything outrageous that she did at school?

Ask her about her best memory from when she was a little girl, maybe a place where she really
liked to be, something that gave her comfort and shelter, where she felt safe far from the noise
of the world. Let her describe what it was like and how she felt in those moments. Ask her if
there is something now that makes her feel the same way.

Talk about her friends. How would her friends describe her behind her back? Has she ever been
very disappointed because of a friend betraying her? Does she believe in true friendship, and
are there many people whom she would consider to be real friends?

If she could go back in time and change something in her life, what would she do differently? If
she could change only one thing, what it would be?

Talk about love and whether she has ever been in love; if so, how many times? Whats the most
surprising thing that she did or would do for love? Does she believe in love at first sight, and
does she think that true love exists? Is she lonely sometimes? Wouldnt she love to have
somebody to hug at these times?

At this point, she should be ready for the fourth step arousal which Ill discuss in the
next chapter.

Sex and critical topics

After she is loosened up in your company and you have a comfortable amount of rapport, trust
and comfort with her, you can shift the conversation toward a more sexual orientation so she
will be ready for the first kiss. The topic of sex is something you can never be direct about.
You cant ask a girl: Do you want to have sex with me? even if you think she does. What
you can do is to arouse her with words by talking about sexual experiences and themes to
evoke such feelings in her; then slowly advance physically till she is ready and wanting sex
herself.

There is a game that I really like. Its sort of an icebreaker for the first date. It gives a frame
for both of you to ask questions that you wouldnt normally ask on a first date and brings up
the topic of sex. Its called the questions game. Use it when youre deep into the
conversation, and both of you are enjoying each others company. Dont take it seriously; it
only works if you do it in a funny and entertaining way. This is not a game to play when
things are awkward. Only bring it up if both of you are LOOSENED UP and FEELING
GOOD.



Tell her you know a funny and entertaining game you want to show her. Tell her it has these
rules: You ask questions of each other, one at a time, taking turns. You have to ask questions
that let the cat out of the bag. How old are you? is not allowed. How many boyfriends

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have you had? is OK. The same question cant be asked twice. And the last rule: She goes
first. Of course, she wont be able to ask anything and will pass the ball to your court. Here
are a few questions you can ask. Notice how they lead her in a sexual direction:

1. Questions about previous relationships good for a start:

1. How many boyfriends have you had?
2. When did you have your first boyfriend?
3. When did you break up with your last boyfriend?
4. What did you like the most, and what did you hate the most in him?
5. What was missing in your relationship with your last boyfriend?
6. What was missing in your relationships with your boyfriends up to now?
7. Do you prefer passion, adventure and excitement, or are you more of a romantic person?
8. Have you ever been in love?
9. Which one of your boyfriends did you love the most?
10. What was the most wonderful place where you spent time with him?
11. With your future boyfriend, what would be the most wonderful place to spend time?
12. Whats the craziest thing youve done in a relationship or for love?

2. Questions about kissing will make her think about the topic:

13. When did you last kiss a guy?
14. When did you have your very first kiss?
15. When did you have the first kiss that you really enjoyed? Describe what it was like.
16. Have you ever kissed a guy on a first date? How did it happen?
17. Describe your perfect kiss what its like!
18. What was the most exciting thing you did when playing truth or dare?
19. If you had to choose between sex and friendship in a relationship with a guy, which one
would you choose?














3. Questions about sex ideal for arousing her and making her think about the
topic; ask them only if she seems comfortable with it:

20. Have you ever had a one-night stand?

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21. Have you ever had sex on the first date?
22. How often do you have sex when you are in a relationship?
23. Wheres the most bizarre place you ever had sex?
24. Have you ever had sex in public?
25. Whats your favorite position?
26. When did you have sex for the first time?
27. Have you ever had a threesome with another girl or guy?
28. Would you try it?
29. Whats the most extreme thing youve done while having sex?
30. What was missing in your sex life up to now?
31. Do you masturbate? How often?
32. Describe what perfect sex is like for you.

I cant stress enough to gauge her reactions and calibrate. If shes not comfortable with the
more sexual topics, dont force it. It will vary from girl to girl. If shes a virgin, she might
blush when you ask some of the preceding questions. If she seems uncomfortable, change the
topic. Ask something thats less piquant, or forget the whole game.

The game is also wonderful for gauging what kind of a girl she is. After playing it, you
will be able to decide whether she is a more romantic or down-to-earth person, whether she
takes sex as an everyday thing or she is more of a conservative type, etc. With this
information, you can tailor your style to her personality. If she is a sexual girl, she will be
more open to advancing physically and maybe having sex on the first date. If she is the
romantic type, you can take your time and let her become more comfortable in your company
by waiting for a few more dates.

If things are going well during the game, pay attention to the signals she is sending via her
body language. She might be ready to be kissed after some of the more sexual questions or
even just the topic of kissing. Watch for the peak point in your conversation, when her
pupils dilate and her breathing quickens. Thats the point to go in for the kiss. See the
following chapters for more info on these signs and how to kiss her.

How to read a women

Normally, there is a special dynamic operating in male-female relationships. While females
tend to adopt a passive, receptive demeanor, males are more active and initiative. A
typical example at a club is: Girls expect to be approached, while guys are expected to
approach girls. A girl can do two things to improve her success: She can look her best, dress
in high heels, push-up bras, etc., and she can also give inviting signs for a guy to approach
her. A guy will be more likely to approach a girl who looks good in his eyes, but he will also
go for a less hot one if she shows signs of interest and he sees the green light.


Thus, in a typical male-female interaction, the female will signal with her body language
and behavior that she is ready to proceed, while the male will respond to her signs, calibrate
and advance accordingly. He will have to go through the steps and initiate, as she expects him
to. Once again, this is about leading. No matter how good a conversationalist you are and no

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matter how attracted to you she is, you will always have to be the one initiating. Some
aggressive and horny women will do it for you, but thats the exception and not the rule.

There are two kinds of female signals: conscious and subconscious ones. A girl will give
conscious signals when she wants you to make your move. Subconscious signals are subtler
and will be an automatic response to her feeling good in your company. It is very important to
learn these signs. Im sure youve laughed just as many times as I have at the typical scene in
Hollywood movies: The girl is attracted to a guy; the guy is attracted to the girl, but the guy
doesnt recognize the signs of interest shes sending him, which leads to a great deal of farce.
Just by learning to recognize the signs women are sending, you will improve your success
exponentially. In a club or in typical everyday situations, there will always be a few girls
around you showing signs of interest and inviting you to approach them using body
language. If you recognize these girls and make your move, you will be likely to succeed.

You will see that sometimes certain signs can be misleading, and its necessary to develop
your intuition for such situations. For example, a waitress has to smile at everyone to get
tips, and by accident, she could mislead you into thinking that shes attracted to you. To avoid
this, you will need to fine-tune your intuition with experience and learn to feel whether she
is really attracted to you or not. A professional table tennis player doesnt see the ball. He
feels it. His hands move automatically while he is in a trance. A lot of practice will make you
better at feeling the signs that women are giving, just as the table tennis player does with
the ball.

So lets look at the most general conscious and subconscious signs that show she is
attracted to you:

1. Shes relaxed while sitting or standing and talking with you. Her arms are open and not
closed; her legs are either wide apart or crossed with her feet pointing toward you.

2. Shes comfortable in your company. When you lean closer to her, she stays in the same
position and doesnt pull away.

3. She leans closer while talking with you or sits closer when youre sitting next to each other.

4. She smiles a lot, even laughing at your lamest jokes, or she compliments you on something
unremarkable.

5. She touches you sometimes on your arms or shoulder when talking with you.

6. She fixes her clothes, applies more makeup in the restroom or exposes parts of her body,
revealing skin and showing erotic body parts.

7. She rubs her wrists up and down, and she rubs, touches or strokes her cheek.


8. She plays with her hair, pushing her fingers through it or twirling a few curls in a slow,
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9. She looks deep into your eyes while smiling, her pupils dilated. She blinks faster than usual
or keeps looking into your eyes in a longing way, like your dog when youre about to feed
him.

10. When you touch her or put your arms around her, shes comfortable with it; she might
even snuggle closer to you.

11. When you extend your hand to her, she takes it and keeps holding it as if you are already a
couple.

12. She bites her lips and licks them, showing her tongue, or she moistens her lips with
lipstick. She puts a finger or nail into her mouth or over it in a sexual way these are signs of
sexual thoughts, and they are usually signs of arousal.

13. She rubs her legs together and presses them to the legs of the table or to your legs under
the table another sign of sexual arousal.

14. She plays with her wine glass, her jewelry or another object with a rubbing, stroking,
sensual motion.

15. The way she sits or stands reflects your body language; she is mirroring you.

Of course, she cant be doing everything at the same time. But, if you encounter more than
two or three of them (especially the more serious ones), she is likely to be heavily attracted to
you and wanting you. A word of warning: Just as there are shy guys, there are also shy girls.
They might have a harder time showing signs of interest and flirting with you. They might
also try to hide these signs. You will recognize them from their girlish confusion.

And now lets see some negative body language, showing disinterest and less attraction to
you:

1. She breaks eye contact and looks away when you try to look into her eyes.
2. She grimaces, showing that she is simply bored. She never smiles.
3. When you ask a question, she responds after a pause: What did you say? and its obvious
that she is thinking about something else or is somewhere else mentally.
4. There are long, awkward silences in your conversation, and she doesnt show any interest
in breaking the silence or bringing up any new topics.
5. Her legs and arms are crossed; she is sitting at a distance, or she turns away from you. She
leans back, and when you lean closer, she moves away or just acts as if shes uncomfortable.
6. She doesnt react to your jokes and doesnt laugh with you; she may express polite surprise.




And the list goes on. Although persistence is a good trait to have and sometimes by being
persistent, you can recover from the most hopeless situations, the negative signs described
above show that youve done something wrong, and it might be time to move on and
search for another girl. Never be disappointed; success will come with determination and

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time.

How long does it take to lay her?

This is a question you might always have wondered about: How long does it take to lay a
woman? The answer is: It depends on both of you: whether youre willing to initiate
properly and whether shes ready for it or not. If you ask your friends or other guys, some of
them will say that it took months to lay their girlfriends; some will say that they laid her the
first night or on the first date. Generally, you have a fair amount of control over this, but
laying a girl who is a total virgin and has never even been kissed will require some work.

Most girls will have no problems having sex in a few dates or even on the first date if they
like you. Those who require more work fit into three categories: They are very young
and inexperienced, dealing with problems or playing you. Laying a young virgin will
require a lot of patience. She will want to feel special with you and to know that you care
about her, love her and wont leave her after having sex. Teenage virgins are usually very
idealistic and believe in true love. Taking such a girls virginity is a big responsibility. They
very quickly get emotionally attached to the guy who does it. If you dont really like her and
are thinking about moving on soon, you should leave her before the act, unless she is an older
virgin, in which case she falls into the second category.

These are girls with problems: those who have never had an orgasm, whose first sexual
experience was horrible, who were raped or who have serious inhibitions, maybe because of
their religious upbringing or previous sexual experiences. These girls may be in another
category, but still require you to be just as caring and responsible as with virgins. Their
inhibitions can be overcome with love and patience, and after that, they will open up
sexually. Such girls can give you a lot of love, and they are not girls you have sex with and
then move on to another woman.

The third category includes women who have rules for acting hard to get and playing
with guys. Some of these girls are very hot with big egos and attitudes. They want and enjoy
sex, but they also love it when men fight for them. Youll hear excuses from these women,
such as: Im not ready for sex yet or I dont feel special yet. If you think this is the case,
take it as a test. She needs to feel that you are Man enough, so give it to her. A little bit of jerk
attitude might help in these situations. Be more aggressive than usual. Dont rape her, of
course, but be more physical. These girls need to see how powerful you are. Show her that
you have options, and you are ready to move on anytime. She should know that you are
the selector, and she is not in a position to make the rules. You should be the one in charge
and in control. Tell her that you are not open to playing her little games, and she can either
give in or you will move on quickly.



Make sure you never set unreachable goals for yourself. If you want to lay every chick on
the first date, it just wont happen. With each girl youre dating, you should decide whether
you want a long-term relationship or youre just having fun with each other. If you like
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she has sexual inhibitions to overcome. If you try to force things and attack her aggressively,
you might scare an otherwise wonderful woman away. Of course, with experience, youll be
able to sense how far you can go with a certain girl.

On the other hand, always see through her game and, if you think shes playing you, move on.
Never wait months to lay a woman whos not worth your time. And, even if a girl requires a
lot of work, you dont have to commit yourself to her, and you can be seeing other women at
the same time. Never limit yourself or your opportunities.

When does a relationship start? Personally, I usually consider that a relationship has begun
after weve had sex. Kissing or hanging out together is nothing special for most girls, and you
should take it the same way. At least up to the point of having sex, I consider it open, and Im
seeing other girls. Its about having options. Why commit yourself to a girl who wont even
have sex with you?

Getting women in the mood

Before we can even talk about sex or kissing, you have to get her in the mood for it. A few
chapters ago, I talked about the four most important steps in the process: loosening up,
rapport, comfort/trust and AROUSAL. Any time you go through these phases, youre working
on getting her in the mood. Ive already mentioned some conversational aspects of this; now
Id like to talk about the physical part of the equation.

Lets say youve covered the basics. After a nice chat with each other, she is loosened up and
feeling comfortable in your company. You can use the questions game at this point to direct
the conversation toward more sexual topics and get her thinking about sex. Of course, you
can come up with your own way of doing things the questions game is just one tool of
many you can use.

Now we begin to lay the foundation on which we can start building the house. In saying this, I
mean that you will need to get the physical part down as well. One thing thats necessary is
human touch. How do you expect a girl to be comfortable with your kissing her if you
have never even touched her? I dont want you to become another touchy-feely guy, but
dont be afraid to touch her when the mood is right. Touch her arms, shoulders, back and her
hands occasionally.

Touch her in a casual way from the beginning of the conversation, as if nothing has happened
and its a normal part of human interactions. When shes more comfortable in your
company, stand or sit next to her. Try putting one of your hands on her back or waist area
and embracing her. If she moves away, it means that shes not ready to go more physical yet.
Dont force anything; take a few steps back and establish more trust with her. Talk a bit, have
fun together and let her loosen up more.

If youre new to the whole thing and not used to touching girls, it might seem strange
when you do it for the first time. You will need to practice it. The first step is to realize that
without touching, youre going nowhere. Youll have to do it sooner or later if you want to get
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you cant do it, you wont be able to INITIATE and LEAD. Thats one of the biggest
mistakes you can make.

So practice casual touching during your everyday conversations with people and
especially women. Dont overdo it, but when youre talking to a girl or your close friends,
touch them in nonsexual areas, including their hands, arms, shoulders and back. Pay attention
to how they react though; some of your friends might not be comfortable with a guy touching
them, and you should definitely NOT practice on your boss, unless you want her to sue you
for molesting her.

Back to your date: When touching her, always watch for signs that shes giving. Dont stare at
her, but pay attention to the subtle indicators that shes ready for the kiss.
Usually, if the girl is smiling, looking into your eyes and asking you questions; if she doesnt pull away
when you lean closer; if she lets you keep your hand on her back when youre sitting next to each other;
if youre having a pleasant conversation and talking about deeper topics or even about sex; or if she
starts licking her lips with her tongue she is ready for the kiss to happen. Now its time for you to
initiate. But how?

Theres a little test you can use to make sure you have the green light. Act as if you see a
hair on her shoulder or on her face, and gently stroke it off. Or, if you want to be more direct,
when youre sitting close to her, you can simply touch her hair and stroke it a bit with your
fingers. Or sweep it away from her ears. Letting you touch and play with her hair is almost as
intimate as letting you kiss her. If shes relaxed while youre doing this and doesnt pull away
or grimace, shes ready to be kissed.

There are many ways to kiss her. Here are three: a direct and two subtler ways. The direct
way takes balls, but its much easier. Tell her to close her eyes. If she asks why, tell her that
you have a surprise for her. If she wont close them, it means shes not comfortable enough
with you yet (if this happens, take a few steps back). When she closes her eyes, lean in and
give her a gentle kiss on the lips. She will either kiss back or be stunned. If the latter
happens, just smile and say: That was good, wasnt it? This is the cocky way of doing it, but
it works. To pull it off, you will have to be consistent with yourself. Never apologize for
being the Man. You are the leader, and you will take what you want. If she ever acts annoyed
or pissed, its just her test to see if youre really a Man or only pretending. So smile at her,
and act as if nothing has happened.

If you want a more subtle way to kiss her, there is a technique you can use. Her neck and
shoulders are very sensitive for a woman. By smelling her there, youll stir up her animal
instincts. Just think about how dogs sniff each other during their mating game. First sit next to
your girl. I also love to do this when slow-dancing. Wherever you do it, lean a little bit closer,
and slowly start smelling her shoulders. Do it in a casual and relaxed way both of you
should enjoy it. Tell her that she has a wonderful scent, and you cant stop yourself from
taking it in for a while. Breathe deeply and sigh while doing it she should feel your light
breathing on her skin slowly turning her on.
Take your time and spend a few minutes doing this, while advancing from her shoulders to
her neck. Move to the sides of her neck and the nape just below where her hair grows. You
can start gently kissing her neck after a few minutes of smelling. Move upward slowly with
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give her a gentle kiss on the lips.

The last way is the shy guys way. Just kidding but it still takes the least balls to do. When
you think shes ready, pop her the question: Would you like to kiss me? She will most
likely say: I dont know or Im not sure or Maybe or Yes! If that happens,
say Hmmm, lets see! and go in for the kiss. Sometimes you can get No as the answer. If
that happens, tell her that she really knows how to ruin a beautiful moment, and act offended
in a playful sort of way. Tell her that now she has to make it up to you; then let her figure out
a way to do it. When you feel that the moment has arisen again, kiss her. And if nothing
works, you can still use the smelling technique to initiate kissing.

Finally, if youre unsure whether youre a good kisser or not, practice. Kissing can be
both gentle and aggressive. When kissing a girl for the first time, start gently and become
more aggressive as both of you are getting turned on. Watch your partners reaction. Although
you can only become a good kisser by doing it in real life with real women, theres a little
technique you can experiment with: Practice gentle, soft kissing on the back of your hand.

Generally, during kissing, your lips should be relaxed and not too stiff. Do it as you would
kiss your love, and dont stress yourself, because your lips will become tense as well. When
you use your tongue, dont force it into her mouth. Put it gently in and see how she reacts.

You can play with her tongue or pull yours back and let her put hers in your mouth. Avoid
using too much saliva and slobbering into her mouth.

And, of course, make sure you have good breath before kissing. Have some chewing gum
or breath freshener with you, and dont eat onions before your date. Flossing and using
mouthwash or a tongue-scraper after brushing your teeth can do wonders to help you avoid
bad breath. Ask your dentist for more info on the topic.

I remember the first girl I kissed when I was a teenager. She looked good, but she had braces
on her teeth: It was a pretty intense experience. I hesitated for a long time before making my
move. I didnt think she wanted to kiss me. But still, I popped her the question: Do you want
to kiss me? She said, I dont know So I gathered all my courage and went in for the
kiss. We ended up kissing for the whole night of the party. Even when youre not sure whether
to make your move or not, doing something is always better than doing nothing. And, usually,
the barriers are only in your mind, and the girl would have been ready for the kiss much
earlier.







The make-out

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calm place where you wont be disturbed and the knowledge on how to do it well. The
knowledge is here; I will talk about possible places in the next chapter.

Lets say youve just kissed. It doesnt really matter whether youre on the first date or youve
already had a few. Take your time, do things slowly without rushing anything, and look
deep into her eyes whenever you can. Start by running your fingers through her hair.
Play with it, wrapping a few locks around your fingers. You can also grab a lock of hair and
pull it softly. Smell her hair, neck and shoulders a bit whether you have done it already or
not. Take deep, long breaths, as if youre inhaling fresh air. Let your nose and mouth touch
these areas when smelling them.

After a while, start softly kissing her neck and shoulders. Slowly advance up to her face,
till you arrive at her lips. Tease her by taking more time; kiss her forehead, cheeks, nose and
chin before going for her lips again. This makes the girl want your kisses even more. When
youve created enough anticipation, kiss her passionately for a while: Softly slide your
tongue into her mouth, and let it wander around. While kissing her, explore the nape of her
neck just below where her hair starts to grow. This is a very erotic area for women. They
love it when you stroke and caress it. You can push away her hair, and smell the nape as well.
This will drive her crazy.

Alternate between smelling, short kisses on her face and neck, then deep erotic ones on her
lips. Dont forget her ears. Caress them with your fingers; kiss the perimeter area, suck on
them, bite them lightly and, if she is comfortable with it, lick inside with your tongue. Not all
women like this type of activity around their ears though.

Biting her softly in places is a wonderful tool for arousal. Start with her neck and
shoulders first. Make those subtle, very soft bites you are not a cannibal after all. There is
an erotic area on her arms where the forearms and upper arms meet. You can bite and smell
her there she will love it! Erotic sucking and licking on her neck, arms, shoulders, tits and
thighs will arouse her as well; just dont slobber.

While doing some of the above, let your hands wander around her back and waist area.
Then touch her belly, stomach and the sides of her body; caress and massage them gently.
See how she reacts. If she is reluctant, take a few steps back; then advance slowly again.
Mix it up from time to time: like a bit of kissing, then biting, etc., while stroking her with
your hands.

When you think she is ready, slowly move on toward her more sexual areas. Touch the
sides of her breasts accidentally, or touch her butt a little while stroking her waist
area. If shes comfortable with this, escalate your touches: Start by lightly caressing her tits
and her ass. Massage them gently through her clothes. If the place allows it, you can start
undressing her or simply pull up her bra a little. Draw diminishing circles with your fingers
and tongue on her breasts from the outside to the inside such anticipation will drive her
crazy. Then, grab her tits more roughly and suck her nipples. You can use licking, sucking
and biting to discover other sensitive places on her body as well.
Dont ignore her ass, legs and thighs either. Massage them and let your hands explore these
areas. She might enjoy soft pinches on her buttocks. You can even try spanking her ass once
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girl to girl. Experiment while making out and see how she responds. If she likes it, keep
doing it. There are certain sexual areas that are the same for all girls, but each of them will
have a specific part of her body that is more sensitive than the rest. Youll have to figure
this out over time by watching her reactions to your touches.

When shes comfortable with your playing with her tits, inner thighs and butt, move your
hand toward her mons pubis (pubic area). Massage her pussy through her clothes. Slowly
slide your fingers inside her trousers and massage her clitoris. If she lets you do it, put your
fingers inside her panties and play with her bare pussy. You can also make subtle references
to what you want by putting her hand on your lower belly then slowly sliding it downward
toward your crotch. If she grabs your penis, she is very aroused.

During the make-out, she may say things like: We shouldnt be doing this. Its too fast for
me. This is the logical part of her brain (social conditioning) kicking in. Unless shes
upset, pulls away or tries to stop you, just ignore these comments. If you persist in giving her
the sensations and arousal that are necessary, her animal instincts will take control, and she
will be ready for sex.

If she physically stops you, stop immediately! Dont force anything, and DONT RAPE
HER! She might need some time and might be ready by the next time you meet. As I
mentioned previously, some girls will require more time than others.

Her place or yours

If kissing or making out happens on your date or at a club, its a good idea to change venues.
A crowded caf might not be the best place for having sex. Just tell her that you are tired of
sitting and say, Lets go for a walk! At this point, you have many options. If you think she
is not yet ready, do something else like taking a walk in the park. If she is ready, there are
usually three places to go: her place, your place and the car. OK, you can do it in the
bushes at the park, but that rarely happens. Lets look at each in detail:

1. Her place. This is only a possibility if she lives alone or you know that her parents are
not home for a while. After the date, you can offer to walk her home or take her by car. If you
go by car, park it close to her apartment in a place where you can leave it for a while. Start
kissing her goodbye, but also work on arousing her.



Meanwhile, she might mention having to leave or having to get up early in the morning
these are just her logical brains excuses, which show that she is getting way too aroused. If
this happens, gently but confidently pull her back and keep on arousing her even more.
Dont be aggressive, and dont rape her! Her body should be showing signs that she wants
you. If you need to repeat this process four times, do it four times. If youre already fingering
her pussy, but she still doesnt invite you in, youll have to initiate it. Ask her if she wants to
invite you for a cup of coffee or tea. Or simply tell her that you have to use her bathroom.

In the house, sit down and talk for a bit. Let her get comfortable with your presence at her

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place. Slowly reinitiate kissing and making out. Make sure you have a condom with you
in your wallet, so there will be no technical problems. At this point, sex is likely to happen.

if she doesnt want to give in, dont force it. Give her some time; you have already taken the
most important steps and are very close to laying her the next time.

Heres a real-life example. I took a girl who later became my girlfriend home on our third
date. This was the second time I had given her a ride. The first time she had invited me over
for a hot cup of green tea, but I had to get up early the next morning and knew that we would
have sex eventually anyway. It was inevitable. So the second time, were sitting in front of her
house and start making out in the car. She is damn horny, as I can tell from her moans and
erotic kisses. At one point, she says she has to go and reaches to the backseat for her purse. I
catch her arm, put her hand on my crotch and continue making out with her. I do the same the
second time she tries to go and tell her that we have plenty of time, no need to hurry. She does
this from time to time while Im fingering her pussy, so finally I decide to make my move and
ask: Do you still have some of that green tea? while smiling innocently. You should have
seen her face. Of course, we ended up having sex that night. With fewer clothes on and
halfway to her orgasm, she asks: Werent you going to have some green tea? My response:
No thanks, I dont like green tea. Only fruit tea.

2. Your place. If she lives with her parents, this is the only solution apart from having sex in
the car. I usually wait for a date or two before inviting her over. As a rule of thumb, always
kiss and make out a little before inviting a girl to go home with you or going to her
place! How soon you can invite her depends on the type of girl you are dealing with. If
you know that shes probably a virgin, its worthless to rush things. But if youre having fun
together, if she seems like a more sexual girl, and if you have already had that kiss, then go
for it.

The easiest way is to tell her that you have a fantastic recipe and you want to cook for her.
If you cant cook, offer to go shopping; then cook something with her help. Or tell her that
youll order pizza and have some fun together. If shes reluctant about coming over even
after some persuading from you then shes not yet ready for it. Wait for a few more dates,
and make your offer again at a later time.











Another way to do it is to go on a date, then invite her over. Sit at a caf that is close to
your place, or go to a nearby park for a walk. Have something at home that will serve as a
reason for her to come over. It can be your rare music CDs, DVD collection, photos you
took during your travels, a common interest that you share or anything else. Introduce the

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idea on your date, and offer to share it with her later: I just got my hands on that rare U2
album we talked about. I live around the corner. You can come over, and well listen to it
together. Dont be too eager about it, because shell sense your insecurity. Be casually
confident as usual.

Set the mood before she comes. Light a few candles, and chill some champagne or wine in
the fridge. You can also put on some soothing, calming, seductive background music. When
she arrives, kiss her at the door. Then lead her to the living room and talk a bit. She needs to
get accustomed to the environment and loosen up a little. You can leave some interesting
objects to talk about on your coffee table, such as a statue from your latest journey to
Africa or a book about sexual positions or multiple male orgasms. Girls are curious enough to
take up such a book and look inside. It can serve as a good conversation starter to direct the
talking to any topic you want.

The living room is the best place to start kissing and making out. You can arouse her with
foreplay on your couch, then lead her to the bedroom. Have your condoms close to the bed, so
you wont have to search the whole apartment for them. But make sure theyre not in a visible
place; she could easily freak out if she sees them before you have sex for the first time.

This time, as a precautionary tale, here is another example from my life. I was very young
and inexperienced. For once, my parents were away, and I invited a girl over to our house for
the first time. I decided to cook for her, and then wed watch a video together. I hadnt seen
the film before. The spaghetti was good. The video was damn boring. We had met in a club a
few days earlier, where we had kissed, and she had come over without any hesitation in
response to my first invitation. Instead of leading her straight to my bedroom, we spent two
hours watching that damn boring film. By the end of it, she was pissed and bored and left the
house quickly. I have never seen her again. Learn from my mistake: If its obvious that she
wants sex, give it to her. If she doesnt want to move that fast, give her some time. Romance
her a little. But, for Gods sake, dont make her watch a boring film when you could be having
so much fun together!

3. The car. I dont really recommend this place for having sex with a girl for the first
time. If you do choose to do it there, make sure you have some experience. If youve never
had sex in a car, its not the best idea to do it with a stranger. For one thing, its not
comfortable. I had a good friend who was in a car with the hottest girl hed ever met, and he
couldnt get it up from the stress. Such things happen So dont force it, unless you see that
she is a really adventurous and sexual girl, who might be turned on by the thought of having
sex in the car. If the girl seems less experienced or not yet ready for sex, avoid using the car.





What to have at home

You might choose to go to your place with your date. Ive already emphasized how important
it is for you to have your life together. Your home is a reflection of that. If your place is a

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mess with Playboy magazines scattered all over it and you havent washed the dishes in a
month, what do you expect her reaction to be? You live at your home, you go to work from
there, and you arrive there in the evening. If its a mess, thats what youll see each and every
day. It influences your overall mood. Your place should be something that you enjoy and
which reflects your personality. You are the one in charge. So dont spare money on it. Even
if you happen to live with your parents, you are still in control of your own room.

I dont want to stress the basics again. Clean your house every week, wash the dishes, and
keep everything in order. Make sure that your bathroom and the toilet are clean as well. Use
air fresheners. Your house shouldnt look like a museum, so bring some life to it. If you are
not sure about your taste, ask one of your friends or friend girls who has good taste in such
things. A little something here and there, like a plant, a special piece of furniture, a Lava
lamp or artwork can spice up the look of everything. There are many books and magazines
on the topic, so I wont go into detail here.

Lets assume you have your house together now. Everything is neat and clean, and its a place
where you like to live. Make sure that you let in some fresh air, and set the temperature and
humidity well before inviting a woman over.

Here are a few things to have when a girl is coming:

1. Candles and/or incense. You can even buy special scented candles. These are useful tools
for setting the mood. Girls are romantic creatures, and they would rather eat by candlelight
than by the light of a big, harsh lamp. Another good idea is a dimmer switch, which you can
use to control the intensity of your lighting.

2. Interesting books a book about sex, for example. You can have her sit in the dining
room, while you go to the bathroom for a few minutes. If you leave such a book on the table,
it will get her attention for sure and give you something to talk about.

3. Interesting or exotic objects such as stuff from your latest travels in Europe or even in a
nearby city. Since most girls are curious, she will ask about it, and you can tell your stories
and have something to talk about for a while.

4. A complete stereo and home video system. It doesnt have to be the best one out there, but
you might want to listen to a CD or watch a sexy DVD that you rent together.

5. A stack of audio CDs to set the mood. Putting on some music when she comes or while
you sit together on the couch can really help her to relax. I recommend chill-out/ambient or
light rock music, because most girls like that. Examples are:



Electronic:

Buddha Bar series by Ravin and David Visan
Caf del Mar series by Jose Padilla

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Deep Dish
Kruder & Dorfmeister
LTJ Bukem
Paul Oakenfold
Royskopp

Classic:

Barry White
Bruce Springsteen
Enigma
Enya
Frank Sinatra
Madonna
Sade
Sting
Vangelis

Of course, whatever you play, it should reflect YOUR OWN musical taste! Dont listen to
electronic music if youre into rock just because I suggested it. The preceding are just
examples of general music that should be good for setting the mood for your date.

6. Alcohol and ice cubes in the fridge. Champagne is probably the best, but even some
inexpensive wine or some long drink like Baileys is OK. No need to spend thousands of
dollars on champagne, but it should still be something decent. You can also find some nice
cocktail recipes on the Net and mix cocktails for both of you to enjoy, like an orgasm
cocktail, for example.

7. Chocolate, whipped cream and strawberries ideal for sex play.

8. Bath bombs and such stuff in the bathroom if you decide to shower or bathe together.

9. Condoms, of course. Dont put them in a visible place, but have them ready next to your
bed in the drawer. You can also buy elegant sleeves or cases for your condoms.

10. By the way, I suggest you get a large double bed with many big, soft, fluffy pillows.
Women love those.

In addition to the above, you can come up with your own ideas. I have a friend who has a
huge aquarium filled with spectacular fish at his house. He feeds them together with his
dates, and they love it. Its also a wonderful reason to say: Have you seen my aquarium yet?
You should come over to see it! Note that the aquarium itself is just an example. You can
develop your own routines and ideas for inviting girls over. Use your imagination.

Its also not bad to have some toys at home for sex play. By this, I dont mean a 12-inch
vibrator or your favorite penis pump, but rather something that can enhance foreplay or
intercourse. For example, you can buy a little massage machine to attach to your fingers and
use it on various parts of her body. Search the Net for some interesting tools. There are other

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possibilities, including silk scarves, soft brushes and feathers these are easier to get and
just as useful for some fun.

Final words

Quote: One day of experience is worth 100 years of theory.

First of all, thank you for reading my book. I hope you will find endless ways to use whats
written herein. In writing this book, my goal was not to give a universal recipe or step-by-step
instructions for seducing women. That would have been impossible. Each and every one of us
is different, with a different personality and mission in life. Instead, Ive tried to give you
reference points on which to base your own methods and ways of doing things. Ive presented
you with schemes that you can apply to your situation and formulate your own unique
approach. I wish you good luck on your journey and success with your experimentations. Use
this knowledge to further your development as a Man.

Finally, never forget that women are not complicated machines, but real-life human beings
made of flesh and blood, just like you and I. Treat them with respect, and relish the fulfillment
and joy that a real woman can bring into your life.

If you happen to have any questions, comments or suggestions, feel free to e-mail me at
giuseppen@seduction-and-dating.com.

Your feedback is invaluable to me. Please visit
www.seduction-and-dating.com/feedback.htm, where
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CHAPTER 2 :

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TIPS & TRICKS









































The M3 Model?


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The M3 Model is the breakdown and analysis of the COURTSHIP phase of any male-female interaction:
meaning, the period of time leading into any full-fledged sexual relationship.

The general consensus is that from the time of meeting a girl to the time of closing a girl (depending on
your definition--for adults it's typically sex, while for younger teens it's generally just making out/kissing.
For older teens it's generally somewhere in between depending on age & experience), to do all 9 steps it
should take anywhere from 7-11 hours of total face-time w/ the girl if you are running everything
correctly. This does NOT have to occur all at once. It can be a few minutes here, a few hours there, etc.

But the point is this: it should not take months & months of build-up. Rather, if it's going to happen at
all, typically it will happen within the first few handfuls of dates. More specific time breakdowns will be
added later for each phase.


M3 MODEL

ATTRACT -> COMFORT -> SEDUCTION ---> Relationship



The attraction phase is divided into:

A1 - Approach
A2 - Attracting the HB or Female-to-male Interest
A3 - Male-to-Female Interest

The comfort phase is divided into:
C1 - Building rapport
C2 - Building emotional connection and physical connection
C3 - Intimacy

The seduction phase is divided into:
S1 - Foreplay
S2 - LMR
S3 - Sex










Approach

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This is the first part of the courtship process. If you are seducing a woman, you must focus on creating
mutual attraction at first.

The 3 Seconds Rule

A guideline stating that a woman should be approached within three seconds of first seeing her. It is
intended to prevent the man from thinking about the approach too much and getting nervous, as well
as to keep him from creeping the woman out by staring at her for too long. Origin: Mystery.
If You want to be in a group within 3 seconds of entering the room, just walk straight up to the first
group of people that you see and open them. This is called the 3's rule. Remember, you are not only
working the set, but the entire place-

No one else knows whether you are already acquainted with these people. It certainly seems as if you
know them you entered the venue, walked right up to them, and now they are having a fun
conversation with you. You must be a social guy with lots of friends!

Then you move on to the next set, and the positive perception of you continues to grow. You are
becoming socially proofed in this venue. Notice the magical ease with which sets will open up to you
when you have this level of social proof For this reason, it is important not to be too selective in
choosing your sets. It's better to be in a set than to get picky and end up alone when you should be
working the room.

Another interpretation of the three-second rule states: Within three seconds of spotting a set that you
want to open, you must open that set.

This really adds a natural spontaneity to the approach. The difference in your state of mind is noticeable.
A woman can usually tell when a man is working up the courage to approach her, which can lower her
perception of his value. But if you follow the three second rule, she will have a feeling like you just
popped up out of nowhere. A very nice energy is added to the interaction when following this rule.

The point of the 3 second rule is to encourage you to approach women fast enough to keep your
internal voice from talking you out of it and and to avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see
you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates
an added sense of nervousness to your mental state and gives her time to size you up and possibly
decide not to talk to you - a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.

No Short Cut: Some will get close to a woman, while doing something else, perhaps, with the illusion
that she will say "hi" or that somehow, by being close to her, he will increase the chances of talking
together with her. Maybe so, however, most times this fails. Why does this fail? Doing that, also
deminishes your manhood. She realises you want to talk to her, yet you adapt a childish, jelly-back way
of getting close. She starts to think, "this guy is not a man, hes a jelly-back!" Even if you get to talk to
her, somehow, your chances of penetrating her is next to nill.

Just do it. Go! Act in 3 second seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will
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just say "Hi". If you act in 3 second seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from' or
where you came from' or even how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and
decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to
approach, you put yourself in a weaker state. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create
imaginary of bad outcomes and add undue insecurity to your approach.

Using this rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity to
present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a
favor by following the 3 second rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-
conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of a weak jelly-back, lacking confidence, quality, power,
or assertiveness. Being a weakling around women is a big turnoff to beautiful girls. Even if you start
sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3 second rule, you
weren't that way when you initiated contact! The first impression is what counts. Guys! If that first
impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be upbeat and
positive, which greatly minimizes the chance of you trembling while talking with her. It sets the pace and
helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep your confidence up.

The 3 second rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your
environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from
approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the
moment you have spotted her and is free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really
don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you
didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock
is always ticking. Keep it moving!

There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better
off approaching quickly and without hesitation. Successful people make quick decisions and change
them rarely. After seeing the chick, just do it! Dont rather wait around to think about the "perfect"
opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most guys just stand/sit around, drooling @ the chick they
want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the
voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They
cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they
are walking up to her as a nervous wreck. In the mean time the chick had time to size him up and to
consider him a wimp and a jelly-back to be discarded. The longer you wait, the more time gets created
for cockblock scenarios to present themselves.... Go get em tiger, and remember, get em in 3.











Meeting Her On The Street


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Have you ever been walking down the street, minding your own business, when all of a sudden, you see
a drop-dead gorgeous woman that you'd cut off your right hand to meet walking along as well?

At that moment, you're probably thinking to yourself: "I want to meet that girl! But how?"

Arguably, meeting a woman on the street, cold, is one of the hardest things to do! People are busy, they
feel exposed on the open sidewalk, and their defenses are UP.

You ever have a bum accost you while walking someplace and ask for money?

Well guess what: Trying to meet a woman on the street is about equal to that!

So what's a guy to do? Just give up and let that beautiful woman pass you by?

Of course not.

I have the DEFINITIVE SOLUTION for you boys:

Trying to stop a moving TARGET or group is POINTLESS. Even though they may only be walking to a club
to meet someone, and you are good enough to meet, their moving gives them what I like to call a "false
time constraint."

In other words, they are in a HURRY to get NOWHERE FAST!

Trust me when I say this...

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO STOP A MOVING TARGET.

Why? Well, I'll get to that in a bit.

See, you KNOW that girls aren't going to walk FAR. Most people you see on the street, if they're walking,
they're doing so because they're on their way to someplace CLOSE. Otherwise, they'd be in their car
driving. They go from the car to the location they are getting to or back.

This works to your advantage, because if you see a woman walking down the street, you can be sure of
one thing:

She's going someplace CLOSE.

So here's what you do: Don't give eye contact. Look BUSY talking with your friends or on your cell
phone. Don't give ANY attention to her. Don't get her to notice you.

Then ... follow her!

Now, I'm not suggesting you STALK her! That would be creepy, and I know you're not a creep. You're just
doing some recon work. Girls never walk far, you're just going to tag along for a little bit.
Example: let's say you're walking down the street and you see a really hot girl walking towards you with
a friend, and you think to yourself, "I want to get that girl!"

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So you play it cool and IGNORE them completely as they pass you by.

When you turn to see where they were going, you see them enter one of the nearby restaurants.

So you follow them into the restaurant and notice that they're seated at a booth.

Congratulations, you are now in the type of environment where you can approach them! Moving targets
SUCK. Stationary targets are like shooting Fish in a Barrel.

So from this point, you have a lot of options available to you. Usually, you want to allow the girls time to
settle in first and have their waiter serve them. Just chill out at the bar or somewhere inconspicuous and
wait for the opportune moment to strike.

When that moment comes, use the tactics you've learned from The Art Of Approaching and approach
these woman like NORMAL. I'm sure you'll be able to get your target's number in no time. And if you're
REALLY good, you may even be invited to join them for lunch! =)

So here are some general rules for approaching women on the street.

RULE: Don't stop a moving target!
RULE: Moving targets don't go far. Follow them.
RULE: Wait for the opportune time to approach.

A girl doesn't WANT to be stopped. Even if they are going NOWHERE, they still THINK they're going
somewhere.

So in conclusion: DONT STOP A MOVING TARGET! WAIT FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO APPROACH AND YOU
WILL WIN

















Rejection and Approach Anxiety


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Logically, rejection causes us no harm. But emotionally, rejection can be a punishing experience. To
understand this, we must look at the ancient environment for which we were designed.
In a tribal group, there will be some small number of available women of breeding age. When a man
approaches one, he risks rejection, and if that happens, all the other women will know, which will
diminish his value in their eyes - maybe to the point where none of the women will mate with him. This
is called preselection - women look for social validation of their choices. A suitor who is preselected will
be more attractive, whereas a man who has been rejected will be less so.

Another factor regarding approach anxiety is the possibility that she may already be taken, in which case
there is a component of real, physical danger to any male who approaches her.
For all these reasons and more, men are naturally selected to experience approach anxiety. Logically, of
course, modern society fixes these problems. If I am rejected, I can simply go to another part of the bar,
or leave the bar entirely. I will probably never see any of those people again. But my emotions don't
know that. My emotions are trying to do what's best for me.

So how can you avoid rejection?

The answer is: you can't. It isn't the solution to avoid being vulnerable. Rather, the solution is to
embrace your vulnerability, to embrace rejection, and let the Field show you what is good and what is
bad. Most approach anxiety is a result of imagined rejections, not real ones. Eventually, time in the Field
will desensitize you to the emotion of rejection. In a game where you might play five or ten sets every
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Mission for Newbies


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I undertand that internal challenge many newbies feel. I must deal with many emotions before during
and after I go out to meet girls. Before is loneliness. Sometimes I just want to stay in and mope. So I
must FORCE myself to SOLVE the emotion and not just lie there. During, I am in that AWARE state where
the girls make me feel so weird and I have to deal with that to act normal and in control. And then
afterwards, if I go home with nothing, I must have the strength to know that I am working with
probabilities and know that by looking only at this day I am blinding myself to the big picture.

Now is the time to stop Babe-watching. Get into a fun mood (which I know is hard for the very first girl
but you can fake it) and walk up to many girls (ugly or not) and say, "Hi." Remember to smile when you
approach. Then ... and here is the best part, say any non-stereotypical opening line (INTRO scripting) you
would like and then after what-ever banter you began with, say, 'Pleasure meeting you" and walk off
with a smile and a skip to your walk.

Example: girl is there. shes only a 7. walk up and say, "Hi. Did you know elvis prestley dyed his hair?
what was his original hair color? Guess? Nope, blond. Isnt that odd? Pleasure meeting you." Leave. Dont
be a goof and over animate yourself. Be natural and fun and in a good mood.

Now, do that to EVERY girl you can. Ugly or not. You will meet many girls, and get over your intro fear.
Well actually, you wont ever get OVER it, but you will learn to PRETEND you dont have it.

THAT is your mission. I would like you to do this and yes, this is going to be a different day than you've
done before. The past does not have to equal the future. If you keep doing the things you've done then
you'll keep getting the things you've gotten - and that is NO GIRLS. This is your mission.

Talk to 20 women in one day. Go ALONE. Do not antimidate girls by having friends with you. Not 1 or 2
girls either. 20.

That is a realistic #. If you feel it isnt, then Im telling you now you are completely wrong and your
emotions are fighting you. You will CONTROL these emotions head on.

As for the Go For It attitude, this will only come AFTER the first success in the day. You have to work
DESPITE not having this emotion for the first one. AND if the first one doesnt come off as if you are a fun
guy, then you still wont feel good. But if you FINALLY get a fun response, then your success with give
you the GO For It attitude to now go to the next 18 girls.

This is the only TRICK to getting the attitude you wish. Too bad you can't get it for the very first, but if
you could easily do it, then every other guy could too and that wouldnt be a good thing for you any
more. All the other guys would have gotten to the girls first. Remember, they always go up and act like
typical GUYS. How many walk up and smile and be fun and then just leave without hitting? Again, this is
your MISSION and I expect this to occur THIS week. Post your results in detail here.

No stop reading and get out there and meet 20 strangers for fun. You'll learn alot. tell us what you
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Curing Rejection


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Here follows an essay that describes how to overcome rejection. It's my personal journey, though I think
that it has some new ideas to offer people in terms of the stages of the process. I hope that you will all
gain from it.

The following may help some of those struggling kick off their game. Feedback much appreciated

Well to any of you RAFCs out there you've heard us say it before:

'There is no such thing as rejection'

But did you get it? Do you understand how that phrase can be real to you? Or are you still, as I believe
many of those just waiting to crack the psychological barrier are, trying to accept what we say while
harbouring a secret belief that you're trying to believe a lie.

Well what we are saying is true and I can prove it to you. Lets start with a simple question.

'What is Rejection?'

The answer to this question seems simple: social disapproval and shunning. You get excluded or lose
social status within your social group.

'Why do we fear/dislike rejection?'

In evolutionary terms people needed to function as a group to survive. Rejection is a tool of
conformation and a psychological force of control of action. It is likely that some genetic factors
influence our psychology to make it so pervasive as it is in adult life. However, despite the predisposition
to develop it being partially genetic it is ultimately a result of life experiences and social conditioning.

"Is rejection a force in the real world?"

It's controlling you right now isn't it? Perhaps the question we need to ask is more profound.

"Is rejection itself real?"

No. It's entirely in your head so-to-speak. Thats why we can all say 'there is no such thing as rejection'
and accept that and the reason you are not yet comfortable with it. Put simply that statement is a
statement about the SPEAKER'S reality which makes 100% sense to them. If you feel a conflict with your
beliefs about reality it's because you havn't learned how to believe that statment yet. Since it's all in
your mind believing there is no rejection is the same thing as there not being any such thing.

"How can I stop feeling rejection?"

Ok, now we're getting profound. There are several approaches. I'd do them all if I were you.


The most fundemental arrises from NLP: Change your beliefs. Create memories that support it. You'll
find a lot of hypnosis tracks useful in achieving this. Work on installing an internal locus of control. Not
looking to anyone else for approval and other LEADERSHIP qualities (that's right - leaders are people

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who get the evolutionary exception to the rejection problem -they MUST be willing to make decisions
from their own stand point).

Desensitisation - a psychological technique. Basically you're exposing yourself to the situation so often
that you learn to disassosiate the feeling of rejection from approaching women. So the answer here is
make the plunge. However there is more than one way to desensitise and we will talk about other
arrangements which will make it more effective.

Psychological desensitisation is also possible. Imagine situations first. Visualise them, go through with it
until you feel comfortable in your mind. You're training yourself slowly out of the problem.

The next stage up is to imagine doing things when you're in the situation you would normally do them
get yourself as close to doing them as you can and stay in that state. If you push yourself in that way
often enough it may help. However there will come a time when you must stop yourself doing this as
this technique can be used as an excuse for not actively desensitising yourself. Don't let this technique
be your secret reason for failure. Like all these things they are crutches to get you walking - nothing
more.

Detatch from the outcome. That's right. You have to absolutely not care how the situation turns out. It's
nothing to do with you. She doesn't even know you. If you care in anyway then you're linking YOUR
confidence and YOUR validation and YOUR sense of your social status to the interaction. Detatching is a
huge step in making rejection a thing that happens to other people. Make meeting woman your
experiment, your video game.

Here's the big one:

REFRAME (that's from NLP) rejection. Once you're detatched from rejection you'll be able to do some
miraculus things. For a start you can begin to see rejection as funny. Visualise being blown off
outrageously and find it really really funny. Keep doing this until it actually is funny.

Now that you've got that belief use it in your desensitisation. If you ever get (note the inverted commas)
'rejected' laugh. Do it right in front of the girl. That'll send her for a loop. Sometimes the fact that they
have no power to destroy your ego and blow you off actually shows them your higher value and they'll
become very into you. If not - beauty is common. She didn't know you. And hell do you want a biatch
like that in your life?

Achieving the maximum effect from desensitisation and reframes: Wingmen (or just your peer group).
Wingmen are better because they're in on the game and 'get it' so they'll find it just as funny and
RESPECT you for going up and asking in the first place. If your friends are worth having they'll laugh at it
with you. Make sure you put it accross as this really funny thing that psycho biatch from hell said that
was so funny. They'll see you don't care. They're the people you'll go back and laugh at it with and guess
what....They're your REAL social group.



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So if you can use the wingman crutch it's very powerful. Suddenly your social group enjoys when women
blow them off. It's funny. It really is now, because it's a fun thing you talk about with your mates. It's a
thing you laugh about thinking or reading about and even when it happens. You're reprogramming of
your brain is nearly complete. Suddenly approaching women is fun and funny and rejection isn't an
issue. You're gaining experience. You're desensitising yourself entirely.

There's one more thing left to handle. You're still using crutches.

Defeat wingman Dependance:
The thing is this way is the best way to help you get round feeling rejection. but you want to be alpha in
and of yourself. What you're really doing with the wingman crutch is transferring desire for approval
from the woman to your mates. Now you also should have been working on internal locus of control and
not needing approval. That will help you with being independant of even your wingman's approval.

Start gaming on your own. Come back and tell your wingmen about it. That means you still have the
crutch to a lesser degree. Eventually you'll start to get the satisfaction on your own.

Eventually you won't need them.

Now you have to begin mental rehersals of your wingmen dissing you (which no descent wingman will
ever do) and reframe that as funny. It doesn't mean don't take their advice.

A good wingman is a man's best friend.

It does mean that if ever you end up separated from them or falling out with them there's no danger of
a complete PUA meltdown.
It'll make you more alpha in your group.
When you've done this process read the statement again:
'There is no such thing as rejection'
Now you can believe it.
















Final words


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The newbie mission will make an APUA of you... that's Aspiring Pick-Up Artist. Some of you have a hard
time with the 3s rule & get approach anxiety. Ok so you're scared about approaching sets or even lone
girls. That's ok. AA is natural. To be worried about this would have at one time ensured your survival.
Mystery will tell you how we're still wired up for Tribal Society. Speak to the wrong girl, some important
man's lady & BAM, you get hit with a rock in the head & his cronies are stomping on your skull... all
because you chatted to his 'bird.'

Unless you're in Chapeltown, Brixton, or Redneckville things should be different now. No need to be SO
worried. Let's get around this AA.

JUST GET OUT & BE AROUND PEOPLE. Or go out & do something interesting that you've always wanted
to do. Something that many people would envy. Then when you get back, have a mental field report
ready to tell someone about. You went rock climbing on a dry wall indoors & you thought that the rope
guy had you safe when in fact he'd forgotten all about you & you'd just free-climbed 100ft. You had a
day off so you pointed the car in a random direction & drove somewhere just for the hell of it... "& guess
where I ended up!? Outside my old school, brought back so many memories..." (cut to story about when
you were a kid & did ______ whatever. Return to innocence. She'll join you. Childhood was carefree.
Talk about that.

Talk about the time you tried to bury the dog when you thought it was dead & he was just anesthetized
from the vets... or when you painted the cat blue because you thought grey was boring... "I was about
19 at the time!" then show you're just playing like I did with you. No I was never cruel to animals, love
your dog... just don't LUUUURVE you're dog, Capice?

Communicate. LIVE then tell someone about it. Get a girl's opinion on something it doesn't have to be
canned. Find what works for you. Who are you exactly? Do you even know? Go do the WHO
MEDITATION. Be aware of yourself. Sort your frame out. Know yourself. Do you react to everything or
do you create it? CREATION & REACTION are the same word if you 'C' things differently. C?

If you're not ready to approach get out somewhere you're unfamiliar with, ask a HB directions to some
place. Tell her how much you love being in unfamiliar territories but that you like the feeling of the
unknown. Ask her if she knows what that feels like. Boom, you just approached a girl & you slung an
opener in there. Do what I used to do to build up my confidence... Grab a gym bag... take your watch off
approach the most gorgeous girl you can find; "Excuse me, do you have the time?"

"2:20..."

"Damn, I'm late... do you know the way to the sports centre? I got a game starting in 10 minutes..."

She either knows or she doesn't... "It's just over there huh? Damn what a TREK... can I get a piggy back?"

I was on the way to Leeds Olympic Pool (Which had to be renamed Leeds international pool because the
builders fucked it up & made it one inch short of 50 meters) I was full of energy & enthusiasm & saw this
HOT girl. I was hornier than a field of Rhinoceroses because of my WANKTIONS (Wank Sanctions) &
approached her less than 500 yards from the pool on Wellington St. I asked her directions to the pool, &
she didn't know... I busted her on it & then directed HER to the pool. Zany, but she loved it. Before she
was stood like a tool at a bus stop & then some nutter come over & makes her laugh. She's happy I'm

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there. Better than being alone. I actually ended up having her IGNORE her bus & it drove past her so she
could suffer all that I gave her. "What? That was yours? You just missed your bus?"

"Yeah... I'm supposed to signal"

"Wow... not only do you not know where the world's greatest non-Olympic pool is, but you suck with
public transport..."

"Well I WAS kind of distracted..."

"Are you one of those chicks that stands on the street at night... waiting for taxis, or are you the sort
that books one in advance?"

"Oh you should have seen me at the weekend, every taxi in Leeds was trying to pick us up."

*Arm Kino* "Well maybe I should see you next weekend when I pick you up... you'll love my ride..."

"Oh really... what ride is that..."

"Oh it's a Number 921 Double Decker Arriva..." (The bus she'd just missed.) (She belly laughed)

*Kino* "Look I'm going to Headingley on Friday, checking out town with some friends Saturday... Sunday
I'm back at Hi-Fi for the bands... so which is best for you?"

"Busy boy aren't you..."

*Testiculate* (Like Gesticulate) "I work hard... party hard." (I think I adjusted my crotch as I said that... I
always subliminally associate my groin area with a PARTY...) I think it works. There's a party going on in
my pants & all HBs are invited to it.

*Major bodyrocking* "So I'm gonna be doing lengths in about ten minutes & you're going to stand here
waiting to miss another bus or..." (There's one length that she oughta do... girls want sex, have that in
your mind when you sarge.

"Well yeah I'll be out Saturday but..."

*KINO* "Forget the boyfriend, we'll keep it a secret... in fact, I could just kill him & wear his skin."

*Takes step back* "Omigod! You psycho."

*Kino* "Sorry, just watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre AGAIN... it's just that girl that runs all over she's
so... yeah."

"I was just going to say it's my friends 21st..."

"Ah well, hey, good talking to ya..." with a smile I turned my back on her & started walking slowly.

One... two... three... F-

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"Well aren't you going to ask me for my number?" I stop, turn around... Head tilted to the side & down
but looking directly at her... lift my head up high maintaining eye contact, then break & stare at the
clouds as if considering this.

*sighs* "Ahhhh, she's alive... (Walking back just two paces) I whup it out..." (My phone you perverts)
"Ok what is it?"

She gives me her number...

This is EZ. All you need is confidence & confidence is built with experience & knowing yourself & what
you're capable of.

Ask a chick what her favourite colour is. When she tells you, argue with her... tell her she's wrong, "Not
correct sorry. It's actually pea green."

"What? It's Purple."

"Nope... it's green... sucks to be you." Play with her. Afterwards say, "OK I'm being an asshole because
I'm sick of everyone LOVING me all the time. Just for a change I wanted someone to disagree with me....
would you like an argument?"

"No thanks..."

"Yes you would?"

"What is with you, I don't want an argument... why would I?"

"Because you love it... you're arguing with me right now..."

"No, YOU'RE arguing with ME..."

"You started it..."

"How?"

"Lying about your favourite colour..."

"Omigod!"

"Green! ... Hey, thanks, that was a GREAT argument... I needed that. Are you allowed to make friends?"

C / F playful. Like you played when you were a kid. Only now the first chance you get, the kino is on.
Make kino your nature. That doesn't mean go around GRABBING girls. Just accompany some of the
things you say with a sweet little touch of warmth. The arm, her knee if she's sitting down. Don't leer
over people. Join their eye level. If she's sitting, sit also & mirror her. If she's stood then get ON HER
LEVEL. Tilt your head when she speaks, show interest but don't complement her beauty unless she's a
Warpig, make her feel good about something if she has LSE. If she's a 10 & loves herself, bring her down.

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Don't do what every AFC does. Don't try to arouse her sexually. Do arouse her curiosity. Get some
NUMBER CLOSES. Get some kiss closes. Lower yourself to the Tic Tac routine if you must

You don't need to take any of these lines... live your own way & make things your own. READ some
more MM ebooks & get out in the field & just talk to people. Any people. Practice opening up
conversations with guys if you have to... get USED to approaching. Heck if your confidence is that bad,
approach ANIMALS, freaking pigeons if you have to. Practice what you would say. Daft isn't it... they're
just animals... so are girls... & you can have her gawping at you like an excited puppy when you get the
approach down. APPROACH SOMETHING. Come up with your own material & field test it one night a
week every week. Be INTERESTED in LIFE so you will BE INTERESTING then you wouldn't have to ask
these questions. You'd live life to the full that you could enchant her pants off just by telling her about
your visit to the dentists. Be like Mystery, stack routines & patterns... know so much about MM that you
can sail through the nine stages... be like Juggler:

Ultimately... BE YOURSELF... the best version of yourself that you can be.

HAVE FUN.

It's fun.

Enjoy it.