Being Present

Choose a quiet, comfortable place for the practices. Sit with your partner in a comfortable
position facing each other. You may sit on chairs but have them be straight-backed so you sit
up nice and straight and place yourselves as close as you can to on another. Preferably, sit on
cushions on the floor, facing each other cross-legged and as close to one another as possible.
ela! and breathe into your bellies.
"n our second lesson we#ll e!pand upon the basic breath learned in the first lesson. $e#ll learn
some techniques for staying very aware and present with our partner. You#ll also get a chance
to practice a nurturing position that is useful in restoring and harmoni%ing energies after a fight
or disagreement.
$ith your eyes open, look at your partner. &yes should be soft and inviting. You don#t have to
smile or look fascinated - 'ust rela!, breathe and allow the e!pansion to open you. Stay
together in this way for about ( minutes.
)ow each of you place your right hand on your partner#s heart and your left hand over your
partner*s left hand as it rests over your heart. Palms should be flat so that they are touching
your partner and yourself completely. +reathe and eye ga%e. ela! into the feeling of
surrendering. Stay present with your partner and focus your awareness to the both of you.
Continue in this manner for another ( minutes, then rela!.
Spooning is 'ust what you can imagine it is - spoons lying ne!t to each other. ,ie on your side
with your partner in a comfortable place with one of you in front of the other. -.y personal
preference is for the woman to lie with her back to the man./ "f you can, have the top arm of
the person in back come over the other person and hold that hand to their heart. ela! and
breathe together. You can try some slow, gentle undulating if you have already practiced this
from the first lesson. 0o this for at least ( minutes. 1his is an e!cellent way to clear negative
2energy2 that can arise from everyday fights and disagreements. "t#s a good tool for 2getting in
sync2 prior to any stressful situation. "t harmoni%es and it works3 1he great thing about this
position is that it aligns all of the chakras of both partners with each other.
4ne of the benefits of eye ga%ing at close range and breathing together is the pheromones that
are passed from one partner to another. Pheromones are the se!ual attractants that e!cite us
about the other. 1hey are passed through body secretions -underarms, sweat and breath3/ and
provide us with 2red light5green light2 signals from others. $hen we are actively engaged in
activities that promote pheromone release and transfer we develop stronger bonds.
INQUIRY:
6. $hen eye ga%ing do you look into one of your partner#s eyes and not the other7
8. "s it their dominant eye or not. -clue9 :re they right or left handed7/
;. <ow does eye ga%ing make you feel7 "s it comfortable or uncomfortable7 Can you
sustain it for ( to 6= minutes7
>. 1alk to your partner about this e!ercise. <ow did they feel7
ADVANCED PRACTICE9
:s you eye ga%e, try breathing alternately. :s you breathe in your partner breathes out. 1his
may be a little easier if you do the 2<and-on-<eart2, that you learned above, along with the
breathing. 1his will keep you more in-touch with your partner#s breath patterns. ,ook into each
other*s left eye. 1his is the receptive eye.
"n addition, eye ga%ing during the se!ual act is a very powerful e!perience. $e are very
vulnerable at that time. 1ry it. Soft lights will need to be on. "f that seems comfortable see if
you can look into your lover#s eyes while you orgasm3
1ry facing each other lying down for the eye ga%ing, also. 1his is a good prerequisite to making
love with your eyes open for the first time.