Being Master

By: Draven









TABLE OF CONTENTS

PREFACE

i. Quotes
ii. The Purpose of This Document
iii. Acknowledging Our Differences

COMMENCEMENT

1. Mastering Yourself
2. Know Your Environment
3. General Guidelines For Personal Conduct

SOJOURN

1. Finding The Slave
2. Collaring The Slave
3. Mastering The Slave
4. Releasing The Slave

ATTAINMENT

1. Axiom









Preface















QUOTES

One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself. ~Leonardo da Vinci

Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength and soul can be a true master. For this
reason mastery demands all of a person. ~ Albert Einstein

The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands. ~ Benjamin Franklin

Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. ~ Lao Tzu

One reason so few of us achieves what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never
concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in
particular. ~ Anthony Robbins

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly ~ Richard Bach

Personal mastery is the discipline of continually clarifying and deepening our personal vision, of
focusing our energies, of developing patience, and of seeing reality objectively. ~ Peter Senge

A man of self-control becomes the master ~ Sam Veda

No man is free who is not master of himself. ~ Epictetus

I have only one counsel for you; be master. ~ Napoleon Bonaparte
THE PURPOSE OF THIS DOCUMENT

I often hear people ask, Is there any training for men, on how to be a
master? The common response is, Either you are master or you are not, one who is not a
master cannot be taught to be one. And, while I suspect this is true, I also think, we may not be
able to be taught to be a master, but we certainly can learn to be a better master. My focus here is
to improve upon the thought process and techniques of those who are already skilled masters.

I will be the first to admit that I am not perfect, no, far from it. Even as I have prepared this
document through a precise outline of what I wish to discuss, I am plagued with the fact that
even its author will scarcely be able to live up to the ideals and efforts dictated below. An
important concept to employ when reading this, and certainly while living life, I believe, is to be
better than yourself. Though we will inevitably falter and succumb to our lesser traits, and toss
aside our lofty ideals and make grievous errors in this world, we must also be capable of
transcending our petty selves towards something better, something noble. Honor, Strength,
Fortitude; these are not just words to toss about as casually as a Tal. It is within ourselves that
we can see how to improve, for only we can know where we are true to ourselves and when we
are being petty or needlessly cruel.

It is not my intent to tell anyone how to live their lives, nor to point fingers or lay blame or even
to suggest that anothers method isnt absolutely the right way of doing things. My perceptions
are based on common topics of conversation and questions directed towards me personally. My
ideals come from truth, and when spoken plainly and without design, truth rings clear and
echoes within our hearts.

The real purpose of this document is to help you explore yourselves and find the truth within,
and listen to it. Without discovery there can be no growth. Without growth there can be no
understanding. Without understanding there can be no excellence. Without excellence there can
be no consistency. Without consistency there can be no peace. Without peace there can be no
happiness. Without happiness there can be no love.
ACKNOWLEDGING OUR DIFFERENCES

There is no ultimate formula to use when mastering a slave. As each
man is an individual, so is his slave. The master must be able to incorporate new skills and
techniques along with his regimented training style when dealing with a new girl. He cannot
expect to get the same results with a new slave as he had obtained with a previous slave using
the exact same methods. He must discover what style of teaching she can most easily learn. He
must not be afraid to adjust his technique to bring out the most his slave has to offer. It is true,
she is to change to suit him, but if the man cannot change enough, to allow her to be capable of
suiting him, then the road will be much longer and filled with more difficulties than is
necessary or healthy for the relationship.

A man who is to be master must know how to co-exist with his peers. If you are unable to live
in harmony with the other men around you then ultimately you are unable to live in harmony
with yourself. While we all have different opinions and ideas of how things ought to be, we
must understand that we may not know the best possible way to do absolutely everything; that
there may be another who has a method more suitable to obtaining the results desired. We must
be willing to listen to the thoughts and opinions of others without disparaging them out of
hand. Even if we cannot or will not agree to the philosophies of others is no reason to turn a
deaf ear to their words. It is in listening that we can know for certain if we are secure in our
ways, or perhaps if we might make adjustments based on wisdom imparted upon us.

A slave too will pick up on any perceived weakness and subconsciously it will dictate her
actions. Even while she obeys, it is possible she loathes. A large part of maintaining respect and
control is to exude absolute authority. A man who is weak in the eyes of his peers will more
than likely appear weak to the eyes of his slave. Such things lead to a downward spiral and are
very difficult to stem once the idea has taken seed. The best possible barrier against such
situations is to maintain peace with those around you. This is not to say that you should meekly
follow the will of others, certainly you must stand up for what you believe, but a man who
does not receive the respect of his peers may not be worthy of respect from anyone.












Commencement











MASTERING YOURSELF

Self control is total control. This is true in all areas of life, not only when
mastering a slave. In order to be a master you must consider whether or not you have control
over your own life, before attempting to control the life of another. A true master cannot be a
man who is still searching for himself; he must know who he is at his very core. He must be of
sound mind and be stable in his home life and have a clear sense of direction. You cannot be the
source of wisdom for another if you cannot make wise decisions for yourself. A man must
understand and have a grip on the most important areas of his life, to possibly include, his
health, financial status, job security, mental stability, emotional stability, family life, general
morality, or social standing. Any other subject which directly affects his life should be well
balanced as well, before undertaking active mastering of another.

One thing I think many men do not take into account, when they begin searching for a new
slave, is that they are seeking to directly influence a human life in every way possible. He will
ask her to surrender her heart and mind and body to his will. He will be manipulating her
actions and thoughts and feelings. This is inherently dangerous and potentially life changing to
the individuals involved. It should never be approached as a game or in ignorance or fear. It is
reckless and irresponsible to knowingly abuse your position as master to engage in some sort of
juvenile sport, in which you intentionally string along the heart of another only to dash their
hopes and dreams upon the cruel rocks of your sadistic pleasure.

* * *

Another aspect to mastering yourself is controlling your reactions and emotions. You must be
able to set aside your immediate thoughts and allow yourself to delve deep within yourself to
search out answers to the difficult questions or decisions in your life, especially when mastering
slaves. You must not allow inner conflicts to keep you from making rational choices and sound
judgments. You must be willing to be fair and not forbid a thing simply because it was not you
who initiated the thing. An example might be if you had to make an important decision
regarding your slaves future but she has recently disobeyed you on a minor matter. While not
neglecting to punish the slave for the infraction you must not allow yourself to impose an even
greater penalty by allowing the fact of the punishment to influence the important decision you
must make. You must be able to separate the situations and review each as an individual, not
on the whole. It is extremely easy to continue to compound transgressions together until it
shows such a picture as to suggest that you only encounter one huge problem after another,
without allowing yourself to clearly see that you enjoy far greater good than bad from your
slaves actions.

* * *

Another aspect of mastering yourself is the ability to maintain order within the master/slave
relationship. Do not allow chaos to run rampant. When your slave oversteps her boundaries, try
to limit the amount of time she is allowed to misbehave without repercussion. Do not argue,
negotiate, or take orders from your slave regarding how you will deal with her transgressions.
If you intend for things to be a certain way then it is your responsibility to ensure your slave
understands that, without thinking its possible to sway your mind through manipulation or
demands. This does not mean that you shouldnt listen to logic and make informed decisions.
Its perfectly reasonable to consider that your slave may have knowledge of a situation which
could possible change its outcome if you only give it time to sink in. But, it is imperative that
you are making the decisions, not your slave.

When it comes to mastering yourself, you are in a never ending task to continuously look
within yourself, examine your mind and motivations and intent, before engaging in important
discussions or making major decisions for either yourself or your slave, especially when your
decisions could potentially affect the mental stability of the slave. Remember you reap what you
sew and what you grow comes back to you. If you follow logic and make careful choices in the
training of your slave, you will be rewarded with a creature that is a well balanced individual
and trusts you implicitly. The alternative is to fight at every turn of the training because you
show yourself to be reckless with your actions and she is automatically fearful of every
potential decision you make.

And how do you know if you are master? When in doubt, there is no doubt.

KNOW YOUR ENVIRONMENT

Understanding your surroundings is critical to knowing
how you should exert your will. If you are in a Gorean setting, then know Gor. There is nothing
so exasperating within the realm of Gor than a master who does not know Gor. If you are to
seek a kajira to be your slave then you must be aware of the protocol and history behind the use
of such girls. You must be aware of the demands put upon such slaves and how they were
regularly called to task within the books. This way you ensure that your slave doesnt lead you
to false assumptions as to what she is capable of doing, when serving you. Perhaps you have
not read the books completely, I havent. That doesnt mean you just make things up as you go
along. Learning to be a better master includes knowing who to trust when seeking information.
There are a number of online sources to reference, for accurate text of the books of Gor. You
should never rely on quotes alone because more often than not you have not considered their
appropriate context. Always back up your source with at least two others and if possible get the
concurrence of one or more free person who is in a position to know. There is an old adage
which claims fake it til you make it; this is not appropriate for Gor. If you are unaware of the
proper procedures when dealing with kajira or other free, then it is your duty to research and
learn what is proper before attempting to implement any strategy. There is no real substitute for
reading the books yourself and gaining an exact contextual basis for how every situation is to be
handled. Contrary to popular misconception the books of Gor leave very little open to
interpretation.

A true master must also know how to balance his lifestyle choice within different types of non-
lifestyle environments. Your knowledge of how the master/slave dichotomy works can serve
you well in all walks of life, not strictly in online or lifestyle interactions. You can edit the
explicit tendencies that such a lifestyle invokes and use the basic principle of self control and
acknowledgement of differences with colleagues in the workplace, peers in a social setting, and
even relatives at family functions. If you maintain a calm, assertive, and commanding presence,
those around you will naturally heed your word. You will find you are commanding
conversations, and thus thought processes, with more ease than if you were presenting a
shakable, uncertain front. Being a master in the workplace is ensuring that you hold the political
high-ground. If you are in a position of little authority, then it is with your co-workers that you
must maintain order. Let it be you who they look towards to solve questionable situations. Do
not allow them to gather information on you, but rather you must ensure you are
knowledgeable about them. If you see a source of conflict between two of your co-workers be
sure that you have the ability to either exasperate it by pitting them against each other, or quell
it by intervening and establishing control once more. Refer to the team you are a part of as your
team, and be certain you are in the best position to present your teams efforts personally
whenever possible. If you are in a position of authority within your workplace, you must run
the environment with careful calculation. Ensure those directly below you, who may have to
supervise others, have the knowledge necessary to make decisions that increase productivity.
Be sure that all your employees know that you expect cooperation not only with yourself but
with each other. Listen to the ideas of those beneath you but ensure that your overall plan is
what they promote.

Within a family environment know that quiet confidence reigns supreme. Be strong with your
opinions without needing to raise your voice to have them heard. State the salient points in any
discussion and conclude it intelligently. Do not get dragged into pointless arguments which you
know you cannot convince your point in. Show them you are well adjusted and you will be well
loved. Understand that in matters of the family there is no recipe for perfection, save that which ends in a
smile.

When you are at home, you cannot allow your authority to be questioned. It must be known
without the need to say it. A mans home is his castle and as such you must be king. The
womans role in the home is to keep it orderly, and ensure the children mind their betters. The
mans role in the home is to keep the woman in order to ensure the house continues to run
smoothly.

The point to considering thoughts such as these when interacting in non-lifestyle situations is to
develop a sense of being that you carry with you wherever you go. If you are only a master
when it comes to pushing text across a screen, then you are no master at all. One must take the
confidence he feels online and force himself to feel that confidence everywhere else. There is no
room for fear in life, unless it is accompanied with courage. If you have the need to say your
peace, then say it with no regret. Speak in a strong voice, one filled with wisdom. Let it be
thought that you know exactly what you are saying and the reasons you are saying it. If you
have hesitation and a quiver in your tone then others will dismiss your words as unimportant,
and therefore you will be relegated to a similar title in their eyes. You must know your
environment completely in order to know how you are to master it.
GUIDELINES FOR PERSONAL CONDUCT

First and foremost is honesty. There are few measures of a man to
which second chances are not afforded. Honesty is one such measure. If there is nothing else
you take with you, let it be the virtue of the truth. Most importantly, the truth should be a
natural and consistent factor in any master/slave relationship. Though she may doubt from time
to time your statements, let your actions be her guide. Give neither her, nor anyone else for that
matter any reason whatsoever to suspect that your actions are counter to your words. They
should mirror one another and be seen as being consistent with one another. When you tell the
truth you never have to worry about repeating the same lie at a later date and possibly getting it
wrong. When you are honest in answering questions or making statements the truth shows
through and people instinctively know the right of it. When people become used to hearing the
truth from you and find it confirmed time and again they begin to accept your word much more
readily and without confrontation and you find that you gain the power of their respect and the
strength of their backing. You will find that your own life is improved incalculably by the
confidence gained through such honorable acts. You will gain the peace of mind and confidence
needed to maintain a significant presence in the community of your peers. It becomes a chain
reaction to which you are elevated ever higher in the esteemed opinion of those around you.

You must push through the inner roadblocks which prevent you from fulfilling your duty as
master. At times you will find you have a knot in the pit of your stomach. It may say to you that
she is such a priceless treasure, that which you have been seeking for years, impossible to
replace, and the idea that you might break such a fragile possession makes you hesitate. Such a
feeling inside you could possibly betray you if you are not careful. You must push past such
fears and use your courage to know the truth of her. She is not to be placed upon a pedestal and
worshiped, for it is her lot to serve. Even during her moments of resistance, she simply seeks an
assurance that you can do what is necessary to control her. In your fear that she might break, do
not hesitate to break her and command her obedience. It is far more important that she
understand without question that she cannot break you.

You cannot fight change within yourself. Through time we grow and mature and modify our
thought process to adapt to the ever changing world around us. Be sure that you do not remain
stagnant and un-evolved in the whole of life. Find within yourself the differences from your
past and employ those which have made improvement upon your present, in respects to how
you approach your future. Be aware that a slave may be required to mold herself to her master,
but a master must know the best techniques to use on that particular slave to ensure she is
capable of complete surrender. Each individual is different and must be handled differently, in
turn. Be aware that you may benefit from compromise. If faced with the choice of listening to a
proposed form of change and ignoring outright any such possibility, you should listen, and
perhaps discover an opportunity within yourself for improvement.

Do not be a slave to your emotions. When you are master, you are in a position of great power
and responsibility. You are required to make decisions frequently and those decisions need be
made regardless of your current state of mental wellness. If you allow yourself to be guided by
emotion then you are submitting yourself to the will of the person who has triggered said
emotion. If an individual has made you angry and you act out of anger you might as well be
dancing on the string of a marionette. One who is easily brought to outrage or fear, likewise
those who can be enamored without effort, are victims of those who induce such emotion
within others. When you must decide an important course of action, be certain to only do so
with clear skies within your head and calm waters within your heart. You will find that the end
result is far less backpedaling, and misunderstandings amongst those around you. Take the
time needed to understand the reasons behind your decisions; do not just issue blind orders.

Do not be ignorant of your own mistakes. Admit when you have erred, though never in a way
which suggests that you arent the wiser for it. Recognize the wisdom in others and learn to
adapt to a better way of living, if it also increases the richness of your own life. A person who
argues a point even knowing he is in the wrong is acting out of pride and stubbornness. He is
ignorant to the damage he does to himself in the eyes of his peers and those he commands. The
man who can admit thoughtful acknowledgement of his inaccurate suppositions is capable of
growing and maturing in thought as well as retaining the respect of those around him, both
peers and subordinates. Being a master means knowing when to agree and when to disagree.

Know yourself. Be aware of your limits and your habits. Understand what sets you off so you
can safeguard against such happenings. Be alert to your emotional and mental state so that you
may know when to avoid conflicts and when you might seek them out intentionally. Know
your inadequacies when approaching a debate and do not put yourself in a position to be
unable to refute information you cannot be sure is genuine. You must often reflect upon your
life. Study your past and imagine your future. Know that life is lived in the present, but only
where we have been will be an accurate guide for where we are going. Wonder about your
failures and discover the reasons for those failures and prevent such reasons from recurring. To
be master you must be intimately familiar with every aspect of yourself. Before you can know
another, you must first know yourself; else, you run the risk of blindly conforming.

For the love of all that is good, learn. Recognizing your errors is quite admirable, but he who
understands where he went wrong and continues to repeat the same mistakes is a fool. Only
someone who can do better the second time around is capable of achieving any greatness at all.
The definition of insanity is repeating the same action over and over again while expecting a
different result each time. Commit yourself to seeking out the materials vital to understanding
your surroundings and learn them. If you wish to build a structure you must first learn the
blueprints. If you are to be a master of Gor you must learn Gor. If you are to master a slave you
must learn her soul.

Be better than yourself. There are moments in our lives when we know damn well what we are
doing isnt right. Unless you are completely devoid of morality and conscience then you are
capable of determining when you are acting in contradiction to what you might normally
expect from others. Perhaps it is a moment where you take advantage of another mans slave. It
may be when you are being unnecessarily cruel to one of limited aptitude or dialect, simply for
the sake of hurting their feelings or, perhaps the revelation or concealment of information that
will embarrass or harm an individual. When we have power we also have a potential to abuse
that power. If the only thing you gain from the abuse of power is a momentary cheap thrill,
then you are sure to expect long-term damage to your credibility in the eyes of those around
you and an eventual self loathing from within. Ultimately you must answer yourself this
question; what kind of man do I pretend to be vs. what kind of man am I really? If you cant
give yourself an honest answer that you enjoy hearing, then you might consider re-evaluating
your priorities.













SOJOURN











FINDING A SLAVE

When searching for a slave you should understand your motivations. Are
you looking to engage in a short term sports activity in which you play the master and she plays
the slave? Are you not sure what you want but have heard that supposedly masters have
slaves? Are you looking to replace the slave you mishandled last time and quickly fill the void
so as to keep up appearances? Are you seeking your next victim? Do you want to one-up the
Ubar of another home? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you should take a
step back and re-evaluate your purpose within the lifestyle. What will you do once you acquire
a slave? The correct answer is that you are seeking to establish a rewarding relationship in
which you develop a willing slave into her greatest potential, establishing a level of complete
trust and exploring both the slave and yourself in all areas of life and the lifestyle. Setting and
expanding limits keeps you aware of every aspect of your body and brain as well as hers. How
prepared are you for the commitment of a slave, before you attempt to find one? You should
think long and hard about the ramifications of your actions, when exercising control over a life.

When seeking a slave, you should know what to look for. It is vital to determine compatibility
so as to maximize the rewards afforded the owner of a slave. She should be intelligent; when
the sex is over its nice to have something to talk about. However, you should gauge your own
intelligence as well. If your slave is far above your intellectual capacity you will end up being
manipulated and she will become bored and begin to hold contempt for you. You should
understand her experience level. It is not necessary for a slave to have less experience within the
lifestyle and may even be desirable that her experience is as much as or greater than the master
owning her, but only if his experience is significant to begin with. This way he can move her
along more smoothly and get to the more intricate levels of mastering sooner rather than later.
A man has to be very careful in any and all attempts at rushing training with a slave; regardless
of her experience there is a potential to damage her mentally and physically if you rush
needlessly. The slaves age is another factor when determining compatibility. Within a range of
5 or 7 years of your own age is ideal. If she is too much younger you will find she is too
concerned about things you no longer have an interest in. Her experience wont be as mature as
yours and she may lack wisdom you have culminated long ago. If she is too much older she
may feel as if she is your better, even if its subconscious, based on the same principle of mature
wisdom. Of course there are exceptions to this and no set qualification of age is ever required,
as long as the individuals involved can properly handle the realities of life. Similarly those who
make a distinction from only a few years difference in age are likely doing so out of ignorant
superciliousness.

You should fully understand the slaves limits. Now, its a popular misconception that kajira of
Gor supposedly have no limits, save that which is set for them by their owners. That may be the
case in a series of fictional writings, but for individuals of living, breathing, flesh and blood,
nothing is ever so simple. Several times in these pages there is reference to the responsibilities of
a master when dealing with the health and well-being of a slave and the reason is simple;
mismanagement of a slave can cause long-lasting mental instability and emotional trauma. Her
physical wellbeing is in the care of the owner as well, and should he treat her as a character in a
book he may find he has broken several really good laws. So have a care in being cavalier; some
things are better-off taken slow and with consideration. Be sure, however, that while exploring
the girls limits that she does not convince you she is weaker than she truly is. You must make
her understand that some limits are meant to be stretched, others broken. While this isnt the
rule, it certainly is a common exception. As a master/slave relationship grows so does her
understanding of what her true limits are. In exploring those things she must first be able to
establish absolute trust in her owner. This is why actually delving into this layer of the lifestyle
is best saved for long after youve collared the girl and know her through and through.

The master of a slave is her lifeguard. The term is so simple and yet it is as accurate a title as Ive
ever found when describing the level of responsibility a man undertakes when collaring a slave.
He is responsible for the level of danger she encounters under his watch. He is charged with
pulling her from turbulent waters if she happens to get in over her head. If she enjoys playing in
the deep end of the pool, he must ensure she does not drown. Her life is in his hands.

* * *

A crucial part of determining compatibility of a slave you have an interest in is determining her
overall commitment expectations. You must know if you are both willing to make the same
pledge of loyalty to each other and the lifestyle. If she is not interested or capable of seeking a
face to face relationship and you are determined to establish an off-line relationship, then you
are both potentially walking into a short term contract. As long as you both understand the
level of commitment which is expected then this shouldnt be a problem.
Assuming you have made an informed judgment and have found the slave to be acceptable,
then you will likely collar her. Be certain she understands your expectations completely. Be
certain you understand the responsibilities completely. It is proper for the slave to beg your
collar. Do not ask the slave if she will accept the collar. That sets up the opportunity for the
slave to dominate the decision. She is slave, she has no rights, if you understand the relationship
to be compatible then you will know the slaves desire by hearing her beg for your steel. If she
refuses to beg for the collar, then she has exercised the one and only right she retains as a
person of Earth, not of Gor. If thats the case then obviously you have made an error in
judgment.

A collar is only a token symbol of the ownership of your slave. A collared slave is not
necessarily owned simply because she has steel about her throat. She may be someones
possession, but in order to be truly owned she must be unquestioning in his judgment,
uncompromising in his will, unfailing in his desire. Her trust must be absolute. Certainly there
are levels of ownership and only when she has surrendered herself completely can you attain
true power over her. If you have that power then a collar represents far more than the outward
steel it appears to be. The stronger the relationship is the stronger the representation of the steel.










MASTERING THE SLAVE

You have collared the slave; now what? Assuming you qualified the
viability and worthiness of both yourself and the slave to co-exist in the manner you have
predetermined, then, you are ready to begin the journey together. Too often people only
concern themselves with the chase and dont really have a clue how to proceed afterwards.
They figure, I have managed to capture and collar this girl, what more need I do? Surely, that is
all it takes for me to be labeled a master, now and forever, right? Wrong. Youve only just begun
to realize how little you actually know. Even if you are a seasoned master and have owned a
number of slaves, there is always that initial period of starting all over, yet again. You must
reacquaint yourself with the basics, which you may have begun to take for granted in previous
relationships, assuming the girl knew well your manner and ways. Here it is all new again, and
though you have taken into account your knowledge and techniques, you must reassemble
them both to ensure she stays on the same page.

One of the first things you might want to do is come up with some specific Core Rules, which
she is to be held accountable for following. The rules are usually pretty standard, if youve done
this sort of thing before, but should be tailored around each individual girl as much as possible.
You should already have discovered what types of traits she possesses from the query sessions
you had before collaring her, so the rules may well address some of her most inconsistent or
troublesome traits, in an effort to help her grow to set aside fears or inhibitions. I had thought to
list an example of some Core Rules, but I discover that I cannot agree on a set to cover each and
every individual. A master and slave are too unique and individualized to be able to follow the
same set of rules as anyone else. I can however make a couple of very basic suggestions for your
consideration. Below are only a few examples:

1. Family comes first.

The need for this rule may vary from slave to slave, but in the context in which I write
the slaves are generally living their lifestyle online and maintaining an offline existence
with vanilla husbands and children and other family. It is my most earnest
recommendation that this rule be the number one priority in any master/slave
relationship. Likewise, anyone who would allow or insist that the slave neglect her home-
life and family matters, in my opinion, is not fit to be a master of slaves. In such cases I
would implore the girl to extract herself from the influence of such a man as soon as
possible.

2. Masters word is final. The slave may have the final word, if it is yes, Master.

This seems self explanatory, but is also very important. Excluding conversations in
which you are attempting to gain information that the slave is in a position to provide,
and focusing on discussions which are instructional in nature and meant to impart
commands or knowledge upon the slave, the master must ensure that he has the final say
in how things will be and what he expects. A man who allows his slave to dominate a
discussion or lecture will soon find he is being topped from the bottom.

3. Master will decide when and how the slaves training will progress.

The time for a slave to impart her concerns about limits and past experiences and other
concerns was before the collar was put in place. The master has a strict responsibility to
ensure that he does not push his slave further than she is able to go either physically or
mentally, keeping her safety a number one priority at all times. Having said that, if we
are to believe that the master has the mental wellbeing and physical safety of the slave in
mind, then it is up to him to set the pace and enforce the training regimen. If it is left to
the slave to decide when and how to proceed, you will find that progress to be limited
indeed, while her behavior suffers as a direct result.

4. The slave will complete her scheduled or timed tasks as instructed and with
minimal question.

You should set the slave to regular and varied tasks, such as essaying her slave thoughts,
maintaining a project online or around the house, performing certain chores in a certain
manner. Basically its busy work, but its also a constant reminder of who and what she
is, as well it gets her accustomed to a bit of regularity in her life, and often times allows
you to observe unfettered thoughts and feelings she may not know how to express in just
any situation. The more you learn about your slave the better able you are to train her to
please you.

Other rules might revolve around her behavior in the home and about in public, her manner of
speech, her dress code, the ritual of being in her masters presence. Still more detailed and
personally created rules may regard her eating habits, her toilet privileges, her recreational
abilities including self gratification, and any number of things meant to keep the slave focused
on your pleasure and reminding her of her lot in life.

* * *

I will counsel you, as a master, to take your time. If you are confident in all that has lead up to
the point of owning a slave, then you must believe that you will own her for quite a long time.
So, take that time, and be sure things happen when its right for them to happen, not because
you forced it to be so. A girls submission should be a natural occurrence, not an ultimatum.

As a master you must know everything there is to know about your slave. You must be able to
manipulate her body and mind at will. While keeping her personal safety as a primary goal, it is
essential that she feels what you allow her to feel. You should explore her past to put together
the pieces of the puzzle that is a slave. It will help you to discover why she behaves as she does,
or perhaps the reasons behind some of her fears. And you need to remember what you learn. If
weeks later a situation occurs that has direct bearing to a traumatic past then it is your duty to
help her avoid it, or at the least, traverse it safely. A girls slavery is not one dimensional; it is a
complex weave of need, experience, and desire. Understanding her slavery is the only way to
properly master her.

It is essential that you avoid being manipulated by the slave. An intelligent slave is adept at
double meaning, innuendo, begging, and passive aggressive behavior. If you let her, she will
dominate your will and manipulate your feelings, thoughts, and actions in order to get what
she wants, or to direct events in her favor. While it is perfectly acceptable to give your slave
allowances, for good behavior, you must guard against constant begging for superfluous favors.

* * *

A slaves life needs structure. Setting a routine will bring a bit of stability to the relationship. A
routine can consist of things which are required of her, daily or weekly, such as essays,
meetings, tasks for a project, or other similar events. Routine also promotes attention to detail.
Routine is necessary to embed within the slave a sense of purpose and usefulness. By providing
several varied and significant tasks she is given many opportunities to please her master. This
will go a long way toward creating a slave that is both obedient and helpful in the masters
daily life.

* * *

At some point in a master/slave relationship the slave may show signs of resistance to training.
Obvious instances are when she lacks the motivation to put forth the effort required. She may
be approaching new territory and feel insecure and unsure as to how to proceed. Perhaps she is
just throwing a tantrum and childishly refusing to cooperate. It could be as well that you are
only recently passed a limit and she gets cold feet about approaching it again. In these
instances, where the slaves safety isnt in question, you must necessitate compliance. You must
take what is yours and require her surrender, even if she is reluctant to give it. In the end, she is
your slave and she must learn to obey.

* * *

It is essential that in most instances you balance your punishment with compassion and
nurturing. The slave must know that after the punishment is over she is still desirable as a slave
and ever regarded your prized property. Nearly always a slave will feel the need to be closer to
her master after punishment, not farther away. Take advantage of this to continue building the
ever growing bond between you and instill in her a sense that, not only are you the giver of
pain but also the healer of wounds. To properly do this you must condition the slave to
understand her punishments and accept them.

Conditioning the slave is a long and subtle process. You cannot program a girl like a machine,
with quick instruction and continued compliance. She must be shown the correct ways to do
any number of things and then be shown yet again, over and over, until it becomes second
nature. A wise master will instill conditioning in his slave without her ever truly being aware of
what he has done or how he did it. He will only have made small adjustments in her life that
were easy enough to follow individually, one at a time and never straying from his goal, until
she looks at herself one day seeing such a drastic change that she cannot fathom its origin. He
will bend her to his will as surely as the accumulation of rain bends the leaf. Examples of such
condition can be found in behavior modification, overall outlook on life and love, work ethics,
and health and fitness awareness. Make use of the effects of good conditioning, but be alert for
signs of bad conditioning as well. For, just as unaware the slave becomes of the changes within
her for the better, so may you be unaware of potentially bad conditioning taking place as an
unintentional result from other actions of yours.

Good conditioning is gained primarily through two methods of reinforcement: positive and
negative. Positive reinforcement consists of:

1. Praise

2. Physical touch

3. Sex

4. Treats/candy

5. Allowances

6. Lifting of restrictions

Negative reinforcement may be exampled by:

1. Denial of pleasure

2. Restricting speech

3. Limiting travel

4. Removal of allowances or privileges

5. Placing toilet restrictions

6. Limiting social/recreational time

All types of reinforcement can aid in the development of a slave. The overall effects are that the
slave will feel cared for; she will know you are not only taking the time to change her, but that
you know enough about her to be able to; this makes her feel treasured and valued as a slave. It
will create a continued desire to work towards other changes that might improve, as she sees
the positive result. As well, if the end result is rewarding enough, the slave may be eager to
duplicate whatever behavior she portrayed to earn a similar reward in the future.

Going hand in hand with positive and negative reinforcement is punishment. No lesson is
learned quite so well as that which is punctuated with discipline. An important factor in
deciding when and how to issue punishment is being able to gauge the appropriate level of
punishment necessary for any type of infraction. You must also ensure you stand firm on your
decisions for punishment without allowing yourself to be needlessly cruel in its delivery.

Some examples of punishments that fall under good conditioning are:

1. Corporal punishment

2. Additional tasks/assignments

3. Restriction of movement

4. Clamps, plugs, or other discomfort tools

5. Endurance or stress punishments

6. Humiliation

7. Sensory deprivation

* * *

The other side of the coin is bad conditioning. Through various acts a slave may become less
secure in the abilities of her master to keep her safe; she loses trust and becomes self reliant
upon maintaining her wellbeing, both physically and mentally. When this occurs, she will
inevitably retreat from any good progress your training might have produced. Left unchecked
this will result in the ruin of the master/slave relationship.

Bad conditioning can be found in manner forms. Over and above reasonable kinks, some of the
most dangerous manifests itself in the following ways:

1. Excessive physical abuse
a. Repeated beatings which lead to damage of the flesh.
b. Placing the slave in physically unsafe or life threatening situations.
c. Turning control of a slave over to one who is unskilled, inexperienced or out
of control.

2. Mental abuse/terror
a. Disparaging remarks about her appearance or physique.
b. Constant threat of physical violence, regardless of the level of follow through.
c. Constant uncontrolled hollering or cursing.

3. Emotional abuse
a. Constant threat of the removal of her collar.
b. Threat of a substitute or replacement slave.
c. Prolonged isolation.
d. Betrayal of confidences.

There is a seemingly innocent danger lurking within the unsuspecting minds of those who are
inexperienced in dealing with the realities of influencing a slaves life. Being online presents an
opportunity to explore areas you may never have attempted in a face to face environment. As
well, characters portrayed in books are put through all manner or trials and experiences which
do not portray the subtle damages caused by excessive violence or mistreatment. When you
undertake the mastering of a slave it is time to put aside the grand notions of fantasy role-play
and embrace the harsh realities of life. What you say makes an impact in the slaves life. Her
body is susceptible to damage. Her emotions are fragile. Her mind is capable of imbalance. You
hold the power and it is your responsibility; use it wisely or risk destroying a life.

* * *

A truth we seldom care to entertain is the necessity, at times, to release the slave. I will not
argue the debate as to whether or not you should place the care of the slave into the hands of
another, or simply remove her collar and send her on her way. That opinion will be as varied as
the number of people asked of it. You should however recognize the times releasing a slave is
appropriate, and for what reasons, as well as know that there are times a reason for release may
be given yet still be deemed inappropriate.

The first truth is, only a master should remove the steel. A slave has no rights. Those were
relinquished at the moment of collaring and remain in the control of the master until he releases
her. There are times when a slave may be forced to remove her own steel, but they are few and
far between, and may just indicate, should such a thing be necessary, either her masters
inability to control her further, or his lack of mastery to begin with. If removal of her own collar
isnt necessary, which is to say she takes it off in a fit of anger or out of purposeful deceit to her
owner, then she deserves what she gets should he not allow her to resume wearing it.

There may be more than a few occasions when the slave, in the heat of the moment, might
decide to push the boundaries of her slavery and your power over her and beg release of your
steel. This shouldnt put you off your guard, even if it is unexpected. It is important to remain
objective and realistic when dealing with situations such as this. More than one master, Ill
wager, has ended up regretting a hasty decision to let an emotional slave talk him out of what
was rightfully his. In cases like this he has allowed her to manipulate him, often to the
detriment of both master and slave. At those times he should deny her request and silence any
further indication that she may continue to beg out of the steel she belongs in. One dangerous
habit to let your slave fall into is to repeatedly beg release of the collar as a reaction to any
number of things she doesnt like, or perhaps to gain the upper hand in an argument. If the
slave feels you wont release her out of fear of losing her then she may use that to her advantage
in gaining leverage over you. You should either call her bluff or find some other way to end the
constant threat, as you can never grow as master and slave if she is allowed such inappropriate
behavior.

On the other hand, there very well may be times when it is appropriate to accept a slaves
begging of release. This would mostly be appropriate for the owner of an establishment which
retains a number of slave girls for the service of its guests, such as a Castle, Manor, Inn, Tavern,
or other such establishment. In such situations, perhaps a girl has been kept until such time as
she can be found suitable for ownership by another master, in which case the release of the
slave would be an expected and perhaps even welcomed event.

There are other situations which would be less than common, but still considered appropriate
for a slave to be released. If the slave is able to honestly and logically explain the realities of her
life as to describe herself as being better off outside a master/slave relationship, then it may be
considered appropriate to acknowledge the truth of the situation and release the slave. Personal
inabilities and health concerns as well as mental stability are all important issues to listen to
your slave about. The situation may be that the slave does not wish to be released but you know
you must. Even through the begging and pleading you must be strong enough to stand up for
your convictions, if you are indeed being true to yourself. Its unfortunate, but we can never
guarantee that even through all our efforts, certain relationships are not meant to be.

Once in a while a master and slave enter into a relationship knowing it cannot be a permanent
arrangement. If his expectations are to eventually develop a life-long partnership and/or
marriage with the slave of his choice and the girl he has collared is involved with a marriage of
her own, then they have likely come to the understanding that at some point they will move
their separate ways. There can still be many fine benefits to such an arrangement, but the need
to release the slave is inevitable and should be prepared for carefully and with much
consideration. If the master is going to take on the commitment of a collar then he has an
obligation at the very least to fulfill some level of training or growth for the girl in question.
That and the pleasure she brings him while in this stage of their lives can ensure that the time is
not ill spent.

Regardless of the reasons for release, if it has come to that then let it be done properly. Do not
abandon a slave without formally releasing her. Besides showing you to be a coward, it can also
leave long lasting emotional scarring for a girl to be simply left with no purpose, but not having
been relieved of duty. Worse still is if the girl doesnt even know if her master has left her or
not. If one day he just disappears and doesnt return, how long is she to wait around, expecting
him to return? Its better to just face the fact like a man and get the job done. If youre going to
release a slave, then release her, dont run away from her.

You should also be able to provide an honest reason for releasing your slave. Your reasons are
your own and theres nothing to say that you cannot release the slave for whatever reason you
choose, but at least tell her what that reason is. Perhaps you just dont like her anymore;
perhaps you are pursuing other areas in your life and cannot take on the responsibility of the
slave any longer. Whatever the reason is tell her; give the slave closure so she can move on with
her life.

Move on with your own life. Many people forget the reasons they thought it was a good idea to
break off a master/slave relationship and soon after they are back in front of the person
bargaining for another chance or imagining they can make it work this time. The best solution is
to not look back. Be confident in your choices and keep looking forward.

That said, we can never account for the unexpected circumstances, and there are exceptions to every rule.
Its up to each individual to make the choices they feel is best for them.














ATTAINMENT













AXIOM

The axiom is an established principle or universal truth. While there are infinite variations of
the meaning of being master, logic stands to reason that some truths can hold on merit alone.

1. Master yourself.

2. Maintain order.

3. Step outside yourself and be objective.

4. Be fair.

5. Be honest.

6. Do not be a slave to your emotions.

7. Learn.

8. Strive to be better than you are.

9. Understand your motives for mastering a slave.

10. Know what to look for in a slave.

11. Master the slave.

12. Avoid being manipulated by the slave.

13. Bend the slave to your will.

14. Avoid bad conditioning techniques.

15. Release the slave for the right reasons.

The simple truth is, there is no simple truth. The best laid plans go right out the window as soon
as you start putting them into effect. You will have moments of doubt. You will have moments
of triumph. You will feel the frustration and anger of your humanity. You will feel the joys and
rewards of your efforts.

Being a master is an ever-evolving process. It is a journey of self exploration, deconstruction,
and revelation. You are taking upon yourself the goal of shaping, not only your own life, but
the lives of the slaves you take under your wing. It was what we were born into and it is a fate
we cannot escape.

Even now, after having completed this lecture I wonder if I am worthy of my own words. I
think anyone who doesnt question his own motives and worth has no understanding of
attainment. I am a better man simply for having dissected my thoughts and I hope to continue
to improve through the interaction with my peers and the ownership of my slave.

~ Draven