Professional Documents
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SUMMER 2013
AN EMPOWERMENT
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The Special Recreation Network of Illinois (SRANI) provides information on the 28 cooperative agencies throughout
Illinois called Special Recreation Associations (SRAs). These SRAs deliver a variety of community-based recreation
services to children, teens and adults with disabilities through a cooperative agreement with their member park dis-
tricts and recreation agencies. For a statewide listing of SRANI agencies, see our display ad in the Resource Direc-
tory or visit www.specialrecreation.org.
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Adaptive Sports
Aquatics
Cultural Arts
Field Trips
Inclusion
Paralympic Sports
Social Clubs
Special Events
Special Olympics
Summer Camps
Unifed Sports
Vacation Trips
Weekly Programs
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FEATURES
21 Protecting tomorrow means planning today
Help available to advise parents on future options so take advantage of it
27 Please dont feel
sorry for us
Chicago parents on a mission to let
others fall in love with their little girl, too
31 Battling bullying
Help your child be more resilient
34 The good things
Moms find happiness in raising their
children with special needs
INSPIRATIONS 56
Shannon Kelly wont let a wheelchair
stop her
IN OUR SHOES 7
9 My life: No more IEPs
Mom is left asking: Who am I?
11 My life: Where we
are now
When dreams for your child
become reality
13 My life: Finding
acceptance
Sometimes a soothing hand is
just what you need
15 A day of play
Create a fun day with math
17 News you can use
RESOURCES 36
Chicago Voice Program one of
a kind
Housing for the disabled hard
to find
Adapted swingsets for your
backyard
ON THE COVER
Cover kid: Tommy Van Eekeren,
4, of Flossmoor
Photographer: Katie Driscoll
of 5 boys + 1 girl = 6
Photography, Palos Park
Design: Claire Innes
Tommys
favorite things
Favorite thing to do: Tommy
loves to play with his older broth-
ers and sisters. He lights up when
they walk in the room and if it
includes a ball, he is in heaven.
Favorite toy: Fisher Price Little
People. He loves playing with
all the cars and school bus and
names them all after his family.
Favorite food: Granola bars, but
they have to be Quaker granola
bars. He is very brand conscious!
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Weighted & Compression Items
Bed, Bath & Feeding Gear
Organic Baby Toys, Gifts & Layette
Pre & Postnatal Parent Necessities
Parent Support Groups & Classes
Online Store & Gift Registry
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N
ot every
baby arrives
without a
care in the world.
Sometimes their
unique challenges
are suspected imme-
diately; sometimes
those challenges
show up months
later.
Regardless, every
new parent of a child
with special needs
embarks upon a simi-
lar process that includes asking why, search-
ing everywhere for answers, experiencing
moments of grief and ultimately accepting
how things are going to be.
Dealing with insurance companies to
pay for treatments, navigating the many
therapies as well as figuring out if the hot
new alternative treatments are the right path
to try and even negotiating IEPs simply can
become maddening.
Add in other children and jobs, and
parents can be pulled
in so many directions
their marriages are
torn apart or they lose
sight of who they used
to be.
Things that are rou-
tine for other families
in the neighborhood
cant be taken for
granted. Shopping is
something more than
running out on a whim
to buy bread or clothes.
Evergreen Park mom
Michele Kovack knows that only too well.
I know its easy to give up. There are
plenty of times I left a store crying.
Giving up isnt ever an option, though. As
hard as those moments were at times, the
Kovack family never gave up trying to give
their daughter, Cortney, every opportunity
they could find. We know you feel the same
about your child.
So, its no wonder planning for the future
gets put off until tomorrow, again and again.
But at some point down the road, waiting
until tomorrow becomes a crisis.
Too many parents tell us how they waited
to make decisions until it was too late. They
encountered huge waiting lists for hous-
ing and jobs, the care of their child with
special needs fell to siblings or other relatives
because there wasnt another plan, and deci-
sions were forced simply because of time, not
because they were the right choices.
Just as important is remembering to
take time to feel the joy of being a parent.
Without it, the greatest and hardest job
around just becomes the hardest, with seem-
ingly no hope or relief in sight.
Nothing will weigh you down more
quickly than no hope.
We hope this issue of Chicago Special
Parent is that little reminder you need to
plan, to have hope and yes, to laugh.
Joy and challenges
FROM THE EDITORS
TAMARA L.
OSHAUGHNESSY
Editor
LIZ DECARLO
Editor
p p y
MARIAN CASEY is
the executive director
of A.S.K- Answers for
Special Kids, a resource
and advocacy organiza-
tion that serves the
needs of parents of
children with special
needs throughout
northeastern Illinois. She
is an attorney, active on
a number of community
boards, and the mother
of a child with special
needs.
SHEEBA DANIEL-
CROTTY, Ph.D., is a
clinical psychologist
who focuses on child,
adolescent and fam-
ily psychotherapy and
evaluation. She special-
izes in the assessment
and treatment of neu-
robehavioral disorders,
learning disabilities
and social-emotional
problems.
CARA LONG, a reg-
istered nurse and a
mom of three, including
one born with Down
syndrome, is a state-cre-
dentialed parent liaison
at Easter Seals DuPage
and the Fox Valley
Region. She has worked
with families as a sup-
port parent and public
awareness speaker for
the National Association
for Down Syndrome.
ELLEN METRICK is a
consultant, researcher
and evaluator for toy
retailers and manu-
facturers regarding
toy design and the
impact of play on
childhood develop-
ment. She is director
of Industry Relations
& Partnerships at
the National Lekotek
Center, which focuses
on accessible play
for all.
LARRY REINER, Ed.D.
CPRP, with a doctoral
degree in counseling,
adult and higher educa-
tion, is highly regarded
for leadership in creat-
ing recreation opportu-
nities for kids and adults
with special needs.
DR. ALAN ROSENBLATT
is a specialist in
neurodevelopmental
pediatrics who has been
involved in medical care,
advocacy and education
efforts on behalf of chil-
dren with special needs
and their families at the
local, state and national
levels.
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M
ichele Doyle is a glass-half-
full kind of mom. Husband
Pete is a glass-half-empty
kind of dad.
But when it comes to their daugh-
ters Kiera, 9, and Caelan, 11, who
was diagnosed with autism when
she was 5, they have put their halves
together to fight autism.
Six years ago, at a time when
many peoples only frame of refer-
ence for autism still was Rain Man,
the Doyles threw a party for family
and friends to educate them about
autism and raise money for other
families trying to do the best they
can with a disease that now affects
1 in 50 kids. They knew only too
well about the looks parents with
children with autism get and the
struggle to pay for treatments.
By year three, that party, Rescue
Our Angels, became the largest non-
corporate fundraiser for Generation
Rescue, of which Evergreen Park
native and actress Jenny McCarthy is
the president. This year, the sold-out
party raised $200,000.
We were like the little engine
that could, Pete says. It was almost
like a pay-it-forward. Were going
through our journey and our journey
is going pretty good, but there are a
lot of people who are struggling, so
lets try to raise some money and help
people.
He credits Michele with the suc-
cess of the fundraiser and in their
personal autism fight. They consider
Caelan recovered.
Caelan was born three years
after they married. Everything was
fine. We were trying to be the best
parents we could be, Michele says.
Around 16 or 18 months, Caelan
stopped talking. Though she started
early intervention at 2, the family
didnt have a diagnosis. That came
years later.
Im a firm believer that every-
thing happens for a reason, Pete
says. I think for us as a family, it
certainly was devastating initially,
but I think through the process and
through the years, it has opened us
up. One is the compassion for any
type of child or any human being
who has any type of special needs.
Helping Caelan recover became
a full-time job, even though both
parents work full-time and are rais-
ing Kiera. They took away gluten
and casein and the family now eats
organic meats, fruits and vegetables.
They also did chelation after tests
showed Caelans body was full of
metals.
Its been long and challeng-
ing and rewarding all together. For
myself, it puts the world in a different
perspective, Michele says. You look
at life differently and you enjoy the
little moments.
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The
autism
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In their words
The one thing you would say
to other parents with children
with special needs
Michele: Its a long and hard
road, but dont ever give up.
Pete: Dont be ashamed of it.
Seek out help and talk to other
men going through this. Its
something that some men feel
sometimes ashamed of or Oh my
God, its horrific, how am I going
to deal with this? How are my guy
friends going to look at me? My
advice is to lean on other dads.
Best moment
Pete: It has opened my eyes to
have so much more compassion for
all families that have special needs.
Michele: You learn to appreciate
the small things in life. When you
see progress, enjoy the moment
when you reach a goal. ...We get
excited about a lot of small things.
Toughest moment
Pete: Hearing the diagnosis.
Michele: We try not to think
about those. As a mom, you
have this idea of how you are
going to raise your child and the
things you want them to excel at.
... Then that realization that your
dreams you had for her are gone,
but I dont say that anymore. I
still have dreams, maybe they
are adjusted, but they are not
adjusted too much.
LEARN
MORE
To learn more
or to donate,
visit rescue
ourangels.com
or Facebook
The Doyle Family
with Jenny
McCarthy
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M
y sons final IEP meeting
is over. Its very weird to
think about that. Since
he was in kindergarten, I have
struggled to make sure school
went well for him; hours of
conversations, hundreds of meet-
ings, reams of documents, over-
whelming frustration, etc. Even
a due process hearing!
And now its over?
I feel such a strange combina-
tion of loss and fear of being too
relieved. What am I losing? My
purpose? My baby? Both? If I
relax and feel too happy about it,
something bad will happen. Isnt
that always the way its gone?
Over the years, there has
been confusing, conflicting
information. Helpful profession-
als, hurtful not-so-professionals.
Compassionate teachers, dread-
ful teachers. Social rejection.
Fighting to tame the beast called
bipolar disorder.
The medication odys-
sey to find the right cocktail.
Hospitalization (no one brings
you casseroles). Meltdowns,
sleepless nights, tears. Fear and
isolation. Emotional exhaus-
tion. Longing for the chance
to take normalcy for granted.
Craving peace. Rage at ignorant
strangers: He looks normal;
must be bad parenting. Therapy
and more therapy. A life-saving
therapeutic day school place-
ment in sixth grade. Moments of
happiness and joy. The over-
whelming love when looking
at his sleeping face each night.
Opening my eyes each morn-
ing and my first thought ... Oh
crap, here we go again.
Never giving up.
For so many years protect-
ing my son has entirely defined
my purpose in life. I have had to
sacrifice myself in ways beyond
what typical parents do. The
deep and constant worry, hyper-
vigilance. Anger at his disease,
anger at him. Quitting my job.
Having to parent in ways that
didnt come naturally. Bracing
for the next crisis, never really
exhaling. Dreading that phone
call from the school. Never going
out in public without a back-up
plan.
It is terrifying to think about
letting him go out on his own.
He wont always do the right
thing. He will be impulsive and
socially inappropriate. He might
not take his medication regularly.
He will make poor choices and
bad decisions.
Sometimes he wont fit in,
his feelings will get hurt, and he
will be lonely. He might have an
accident, get in trouble or worse.
I wont be able to protect him,
pave the way or smooth things
over. I wont be there to interpret
the world for him or explain who
he is to others.
And yet, my son is amazing.
He is the strongest, most persis-
tent and brave person I know.
Life has not been easy for him.
He recognizes other peoples
pain, and his first impulse is
to help. He gets angry about
injustice. He is brave enough
to speak publicly and without
shame about his illness. He has
overcome most of his obstacles
through hard work and with the
support of others.
He is going to college. He
wants to get a degree in U.S.
Foreign Policy and International
Relations. I know he can do it.
If he remembers to be him-
self, people will like him and he
will find somebody to love who
loves him, too.
At the end of the day, I do
think we did everything we
could for him and more.
So who am I now?
My son has taught me to be
persistent, to pick myself up and
try again, and to have the cour-
age to face adversity.
And I will always have the
privilege of being his mother.
Cari Levin is a licensed clinical
social worker. Her son, Sam, just
graduated from high school.
No more IEPs
This mom is left asking: Who am I now?
MY LIFE
BY CARI LEVIN
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The best advice that was given to me, at a time for Kylie
when autism wasnt out there like it is now, was to try some-
thing new every day. Instead of it being the same old schedule
every day, pull something out and insert something new in. It
has done wonders for her. Dont be afraid to try the new,
even though they are not liking it at the time, and eventually
you might find they really like it.
(Kylie, 21, is an avid hiker and kayaker, something her mom
never thought shed do.)
Kathleen Zyall, Bourbonnais
Just trust in them. Watch what they are doing. Jacob
wanted to go into school alone one day and I wasnt prepared,
but I didnt stop him. I kind of let him go, I didnt want to hin-
der him, his self-exploration. Everybody gave me a thumbs-up;
it was OK, good. I went in the car and cried. As long as they
are not hurting themselves, I would let them try it. They are
going to be OK.
Marla Murasko, Plymouth, Ind., mom to Jacob, 7
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Do you have an 8-12 year old typically-developing child
or a child who is on the autism spectrum?
Do they like computers?
Do they like to participate in research?
Under the direction of Dr. Nicole Russo-Ponsaran, researchers at Rush NeuroBehavioral Center are
conducting a free study investigating the validity of a new computer-based and game-like social-
emotional learning assessment tool. Please see below for study details!
How do I get my child enrolled?
To learn more and to see if your child qualifies for this research study, please call or email
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Who is eligible?
Typically developing children and
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Verbal
Between the ages of 8-12 years old
Average or above average intelligence
How long does testing take?
3-4 hours (may be divided into 2
sessions)
What does it include?
Academic and diagnostic measures
Computer-automated task that
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Social reasoning interview
Likability questionnaire about our
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Parent and teacher completion of
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Does it cost anything?
Participation is free and participants will
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W
e just cel-
ebrated my
daughter
Rebeccas 29th birth-
day. I am amazed
when I think about
what a wonderful, full
life she has, and as a
result, what it has enabled me to enjoy as well.
There are memories of that dark time in the
life of our family when the diagnosis of a perva-
sive developmental delay seemed like the end of
anything feeling familiar. She was less than a year
old. How could this be happening?
None of us, not my husband, my son, nor I,
were prepared for the new territory we were
thrust into instantly. We felt helpless, as if our
world was collapsing. Everything we planned
came crashing in.
Our hopes and dreams for our baby girl were
dashed.
Or so we thought.
We set out on a path of discovery. We grieved.
We were angry and felt isolated. We were disbe-
lieving and refused to accept that she would be
defined by her limitations.
Through it all, though, we learned that
Rebecca is a teacher to all of us. She has an enor-
mous spirit and is a joyful person who will not be
denied. I sometimes joke that she must have been
royalty in some other life. She is engaging and
relentlessly insistent that she be
treated with respect. She gets ner-
vous and has learned to self-soothe.
She has a voice and a powerful,
clear sense of herself.
You know when you are headed
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all paid off.
Today, Rebecca lives inde-
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with three other young adults. They have staff
who assists them when needed. She attends an
art studio and has become quite an artist. She
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a week. She loves music and has
friends. She is safe and happy.
Life is not without challenges, but
Rebecca has a sense of purpose,
positive self-esteem and an identity
as someone whose life means
something.
This is what every parent wants
for their child, and it confirms that
the vision her father and I had for
her was possible beyond anything
we might have dreamed.
Diane Turner is a mom of two and author of Heart
Wisdom: A Concise Companion for Creating a Life of
Possibility. She lives in Glenview.
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BY CLAUDIA PARKER
M
y first year as a stay-at-home mom
was socially awkward. Finding the
right chemistry with other moms and
toddlers was as difficult as finding a street
without potholes on the south side.
My youngest daughter is developmentally
delayed. Getting her to cooperate during our
community programs is exhausting. At times
Ive left in tears. Raised eyebrows and stares
left me wanting to run for the hills and never
return. Once during our mom and tot class,
I actually announced, Please accept my
apology for any disruptions. My daughter is
experiencing some delays, but were work-
ing on it with therapy. As uncomfortable as
that was, it was easier than leaving people to
ponder their own suspicions.
My awesome therapy team suggested we
try the Birth to 3 Program offered through
Saint Xavier University.
Our first day was disastrous yet beautiful.
Things were fine at the beginning. The chil-
dren were playful and curious about us. The
parents were quick to interact and share infor-
mation. However, 20 minutes in, my daugh-
ter signed, All done! Staring into her baby
brown eyes, I said, Its not time to go. This
agitated her. More aggressively, she signed
Eat! I glanced at the clock. Snack time wasnt
for five minutes. Almost, I told her.
Frustrated, she rose on her tippy-toes and
roared with despair. Finally, five minutes dis-
solved and Id gotten her to a cooling point.
When snack time was announced, I led her
to sit at the adorable miniature round table.
She refused. This sent our cooling period
back to a boil. The director intervened. Its
OK. She can stand and eat. Whew, I thought.
She accepted the snack and chewed happily
until I attempted to get her to sit. She became
enraged and vomited down my leg, her shoe
and the floor. Before I even could react, a
mom swiftly wiped up the mess. The director
lifted my daughter from my arms to soothe
her and another mom stroked my back while
offering words of comfort.
I was in awe. There wasnt an awkward
distance between us. We were unified. We
were there for our children and we were
there for each other.
Now, when encountering a new mom, Im
eager to welcome her into the fold.
Claudia Parker is a writer and stay-at-home
mom of two living in Evergreen Park.
MY LIFE
Finding acceptance
Sometimes a soothing hand is just what you need
HOW WE DO IT
Reach out to find social groups. ... Its as good for us as it is for her. Its like
a little sitcom, really. Sometimes you can laugh. Everyone has their own prob-
lems. It really has helped us cope and find (help) for Cortney.
Brian and Michele Kovack, Evergreen Park
I had to learn to ask for help and to take help. The hardest part was to say I
couldnt do it all myself, I needed to let people help me. Thats the one thing I
tell every parent, find your resource and support network and ask. If someone
offers, give them a job.
Peg Chaidez, Downers Grove, whose son Owen has arthrogryposis
multiplex congenita
At left, one of our first Special Parent cover models. Cristian Richardson is one
of 18 featured in a Changing the Face of Beauty show highlighting the work of
Michael Canavan Photography.
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P
arents probably have heard about the
importance of developing early read-
ing literacy skills in young children.
What parents may not know is that math
literacy also needs to be developed early,
and toys and play are a great way to do it.
Sprinkle lessons in magnitude, numbers,
distance, shapes, weights, volume, patterns
and relationships into a day of fun. Children
of all abilities need to learn these concepts in
order to develop life skills. So if youre won-
dering what to do when it is rainy and gray,
fill the day with math play.
Breakfast of shapes
Little learners can have lessons in geo-
metric shapes first thing in the morning
with squares of toast or circles of pancakes.
Talking about shapes teaches matching,
recognition and language. When a pancake
is cut across it becomes a half; cut again
and it becomes a quarter and fractions come
alive with each bite-size portion. Kids can
get creative and cut their toast in triangles or
even tangrams.
Puzzle play
Susan Levine, a leading authority on
mathematic development in young children,
believes puzzles help advance math skills
using spatial skills, rotating and translating
shapes and recognizing patterns. One source
for puzzles that are appropriate for young
children is Melissa & Doug, with products
like the Hand Counting Peg Puzzle
and Jumbo Chunky Numbers
Puzzle. Many
of the puzzle pieces also have easy-to-grasp
knobs, making it simple for children with
limited fine motor skills to be successful.
Lunch with weight and
volume
Kids often are fascinated with scales, and
HABA provides just the tool with its Balance
Scale. Have children weigh their sandwiches
before and after taking a bite or guess if six
grapes are heavier than three orange wedges.
Kids also can drink their milk or juice from
a measuring cup and then gauge how much
one gulp lowers the volume. They even can
use measuring spoons as utensils to serve the
lesson.
Add a dimension
Afternoon is a good time to switch to
3D. For inspiring young
builders, Ravensburger
adds a dimension with
its 3D puzzles ranging
from subjects like the
Eiffel Tower to the
Pyramidsallowing
kids to take a tour
of spatial relation-
ships. For a fun 3D
brain teaser game,
try Tridio Twist by Fat
Brain Toy Company.
Visual learners will love
Educational Insights Numbers
Balance Scale, which makes
numbers colorful and fun and teaches how
they relate and work together. KeeKee the
Rocking Monkey by BlueOrange Games is
another game where children run their
own experiments with weight and balanc-
ing using a steady hand and producing lots
of laughs. Penguins on Ice by Educational
Insights also helps reinforce math, patterning
and sums.
Dinner is about counting
Researchers have shown that counting
real things is more memorable to children
than just reciting number sequences and din-
ner is a clever place to start. Count the car-
rots on the plate, then the pieces you cut the
chicken into. How many times do you chew
it, how many bites out of a piece of bread?
Add them up and do a tally.
Take a number
to bed
You can count
on cuddles with the
plush characters from
NumbersAlive!, developed
by a mathematician with
a mission. The goal is for
children to make friends
with numbers, build a
relationship and begin to
understand their numeric
personalities. Many kids learn
to fear math, especially girls, and these
characters are a way to make friends early.
Children are then encouraged to point out
their favorite numbers throughout their day
and share stories about them as they begin to
realize that numbers really count in their life.
Ellen Metrick is director of Industry Relations
and Partnerships for the National Lekotek
Center and a member of Chicago Special
Parents advisory board. Lekotek is a leading
authority on toys and play for children with
disabilities.
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play with math
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C
an live theater be made
accessible for a blind
theatergoer?
The answer is yes. Theaters
like Victory Gardens and the
Raven Theatre now offer touch
tours before some performances
for those with vision impairments.
Patrons can walk around, touch-
ing the set and meeting the actors
to hear their voices and better
follow the performance. Others, like
Chicago Childrens Theatre, offer special
shows just for children with autism and
sensory issues.
The Chicago Childrens Museum is
among a growing number of area muse-
ums, including KidsWorks, Notebaert
Nature Museum, DuPage Childrens
Museum and Kohl Childrens Museum,
taking steps to include children with a
wide range of abilities.
We always have a staff member
who may be verbally describing the
exhibit. We have signs that include not
only words, but also pictures because
everyone learns differently. Everything
can be touched, says Lynn Johnson,
manager of guest access and inclusion
at the Chicago Childrens Museum.
Despite the efforts, Carrie Sandahl,
associate professor in the Department
of Disability and Human Development
at the University of Illinois at Chicago,
says the complications of universal
accessibility can start in a childs earliest
years.
All the way from kindergarten
through higher education, there are
teachers who dont really know how to
accommodate students with disabilities
in teaching the arts.
Lindsey Peterson
Special garden
planted in Chicago
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Courtesy of Access Living: Counter Balance
A dancer performing at Access Livings
Counter Balance.
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wenty young adults with
autism have turned an empty
lot in the Illinois Medical
District into an urban garden that
will teach lessons well beyond the
growing season.
The Illinois Medical District
Commission worked with the Julie
and Michael Tracy Family Foundation
to create the garden. The foundation
provided 48 earth boxes, seedlings,
seeds and garden equipment while the
commission provided the land, water
and labor.
The idea came up to promote com-
munity gardens for special populations.
Introducing the gardens would be
therapeutic and an opportunity to pro-
mote education and vocational skills,
says Warren Ribley, the executive
director of the Illinois Medical District
Commission.
Easter Seals of Metropolitan Chicago
and Have Dreams developed a curricu-
lum based around the garden.
The students are learning about
community, work ethic and communi-
cation, teacher Marcel Mares says. Its
an amazing experience.
The students visit the garden two
to three days a week to maintain the
plants. The food harvested will be used
to teach nutrition and lifestyle choices.
Lindsey Riley
New learning disabilities
guide available
Learning about your childs learning disabili-
ties can be a challenge, especially for parents
trying to gather enough facts to hold a conversa-
tion about the disability.
The National Center for Learning Disabilities
has launched a free new online tool, the LD
Navigator, that can help.
The up-to-date information is organized into
six main topics, ranging from identifying symp-
toms, stages at each age and laws pertaining to
special education.
For information, visit ld.org/ldnavigator.
THE ARTS TAKING ON INCLUSION
Chicago theaters, museums taking bigger
steps for those with special needs
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W
hen Angela Henricks
walked across the
stage at her high
school graduation, she started
a new chapter of her life:
Walking painfree.
She had spent high school
in chronic pain after landing
awkwardly while running the
hurdles during track practice
her freshman year.
Despite physical therapy,
acupuncture, multiple spinal
injections and chiropractic
care, the pain got worse.
Eventually she couldnt walk
without crutches.
I was getting so frustrated
from the pain, she says. I
would just go to school, come
home and put my leg up. I
had no life at all.
Out of options, Angelas
doctor recommended a spinal
cord stimulation device called
the Precision Spectra. The
device is implanted and uses
electrical signals to mask and
reduce pain.
Angela says she had lost
hope but was willing to try
anything. Immediately after
the device was implanted,
she could walk without
assistance.
It isnt a cure, but my leg
is so much better than it was
before, she says. It saved
my life.
Lindsey Riley
Teen battles
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